SICK OF BEAUTY STANDARDS

Who sets the standard? I think we individually should be aware of what we follow, why, and if we should keep following it. This video explains some of the main things that drew me to a facial/body hair/makeup protest. May we always evaluate ourselves by the standard of God, and let nothing else seem higher than that. After a month of having done this, I understand better the standard of the world, yet it's still not enough for me to bow to it. This is not a video telling you to do the same thing, or that God frowns upon hair removal or makeup. It's that He doesn't ask for it. It's also that we often do these things for wrong reasons, without realizing it. If that is so, I hope you can understand where I'm coming from through this video, and that it inspires you to look at these/ other common things through the lens of God.
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[@VihanDamaris]

Plis read description too.

[@ethansyiemlieh3300]

You're beautiful 😊

[@vicki5472]

I don’t think we need to be compelled to conform to the world. However at 56 years old I cannot stand the hair on my chin or under my nose. It gets so long I could chew it. I was on prednisone for a season and ever since then I get course dark hair on my upper lips and my chin. I don’t like it 🤪

[@danielboelnielsen4605]

Proverbs 31:30: "Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised." Praise God for you Vihan. You are beautiful inside out-

[@aprilrose9291]

I was addicted to wearing wigs and weaves because I hated my natural hair. Its really tight curls and I wanted long wavy hair. Just last week God told me to throw it all out. Now I'm 35 learning how to style my own hair. I wonder how much time and money I wasted over the years.

[@VihanDamaris]

Woaaa amazing! So glad you obeyed Him. God bless. We straight hair people loooove curls!

[@markita.hardenhome]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾Welcome to the natural hair community

[@ondreatorrence4322]

Yes !! As a black women we have a whole other set of problems , but God can show us oir beauty and help us accept ourselves !

[@divineuwumugisha9864]

You won't believe how I loved braiding my hair, putting on wigs, I wasted so much money. But now, I don't even feel like it anymore. Some people will laugh, even your family members, but it's perfectly ok.

[@sarahroberts7374]

April your natural hair is a beautiful gift from God 😊🙏💖

[@hayleymaryfayers]

I am on a similar path to you :-)). The more you quiet yourself, stop listening to secular music and noise, and start reading your Bible more, you really start to hear God speaking to you. I also stopped wearing makeup and feel so happy and free and my eyebrows are growing back and I love them, I look like how i was supposed to look :-)) and you too! Keep up the good work! God Bless you x

[@LovelyAndTrue]

I cried tears of joy every time I threw beauty products out..it was about a 3-4 month process of being stripped away. Such freedom from such bondage!

[@Mp-hz1uq]

Hey dear..Thanks for being honest..I appreciate your effort to speak..😊 I remember in my school days boys use to tease me seeing my upper lips, and they used to say Oh she's having moustache.. That was the first time I was ashamed having such hair and I used to try every way to remove.. Then one fine day I did my upper lips and then when I went to school they were like did u shave ? And they started laughing.. I was hiding my mouth for some days.. Same way because I m having dusky skin, I always wanted to be fair and hence started using all beauty products but in the end it was waste of money and made me feel more vulnerable. We should not put our confidence on makeup, because then if we r not putting in other day we'll feel less confidence..So it should be a balance for our personal comfort and not to impress anyone So it happens usually because of pressure from society sometimes, we do certain things certain way.. But that shouldn't be the way.. Then God made me realise I m beautiful the way I way..My value is found in God not on my outward appearances. And I started loving the I way I am, even dusky skin..

[@VihanDamaris]

That's so beautiful ❤️ dusky is amazing!

[@gracechacko4937]

I have never done any threading or waxing. even on my wedding day i didnt do any makeup. Im glad to see ur video.

[@tamaragemperle4526]

wow!

[@christinageorge8484]

Me too.. Cos I felt it is not important..

[@ciarajohannessen204]

This happened to me as well. When I rededicated my life to God back in May one of the first things I stopped doing is putting on makeup. I realized when I was living without the Lord my self confidence was so horrible and I was putting on makeup every time I went outside and if I didnt I felt so self concious. Now my confidence is back and I love myself without all the makeup and extra things. Such a relief. Now when I put on makeup its more for special occasions or just for fun but not because I feel like I need to. Such a weight lifted! Thank you Lord! I am so glad you found the same thing and that you made this video.

[@williamhutchings4165]

I love your seeking intellect. Videos like these are irreplaceable in helping growing young girls like mine... It gives them another perspective to ponder other than the perspectives of a deceitful, wicked, self using, self abusing world. Thank You

[@VihanDamaris]

Thank you! May your girls grow in all the wisdom of God.

[@thehiddenhaven5486]

I agree wholeheartedly! I have never plucked or shaved my facial hair, or worn makeup, and never will! I have always worn long skirts and love it, so I don’t need to worry about my legs 😆. It’s seems to be hard to find someone who agrees with me on this topic, at least they are very few and far between. I’m happy to know of someone else that feels the same as me. Keep striving to be like Jesus.

[@sneha9317]

The Hidden Haven me to!! Please uphold me in Your prayers .

[@aurograce2983]

Sometimes I might pluck or wax my eyebrows but I almost never wear makeup and usually I’m wearing long jeans so I don’t have to worry about my legs. One of the things my boyfriend likes about me is that I don’t cover up with makeup or dye my hair (but he’d love me no matter what I decided to do) and I’m pretty causal.

[@NatanyaIdaSusana]

To be honest.. You look wayyyyy beautiful without makeup! ✨

[@vaiduria570]

I can relate to this a lot .I feel the same way.🙋🏻‍♀️

[@VihanDamaris]

Ohhh your company is greatly appreciated 😄

[@daniellabharath9788]

I had this same revelation. God told me to throw out my make up, tight clothing, etc. Then I found out about Marine Spirits...its from the dark kingdom, fashion & make up, & I was attacked by the witchcraft. I got delivered & I love my natural beauty more. Research the Marine Kingdom, but ask God to reveal where to look first...& you are naturally beautiful, we are multi national & cultural; so I can relate❤ God bless you from Trinidad & Tobago

[@tittut2391]

Me too I am mother of two kids God talked to me many time about make up i rejected his voice one day God spoke with me I avoided make up . I get oily skin so i look dull I asked God shall I put this powder to make me look good .i am careful when I get ready

[@jessepacheco7471]

You are beautiful Vihan, God bless you my sista God is good

[@lavonaruthpillineeariyarat9816]

I like your sense of humour! Keep sharing! God bless your ministry!

[@yaelbeulahk6313]

I'm an introvert too. Woohoo!!! No wonder I connected to you on the first day I saw yr video- 40 days fast. I don't like to go to the salons anymore. 3-4yrs now. The Lord actually showed me that the two people who touched my hair actually put a curse on me. I had to repent and renounce that curse.

[@icsx1797]

Wow, I’m glad you got that curse off you!! God bless❤️✝️

[@BonBonHassan]

I'm so happy I found this video. I've become hyper focused on my appearance and I feel so self centered 😭 I've been excusing myself by saying "i like to look pretty or i like fashion" but I don't even feel comfortable leaving my house if I don't look 'perfect' ugh.

[@lj6852]

Love the light in you! Your humor is a close second.

[@ryanmarck6811]

Your naturally beautiful!! Excuse me for the complement. God bless you for your great faith and love for God!

[@elisa3019]

I'm totally comfortable with my body hair..im 21 and I never ever hand done waxing in my life.......there is no point of impressive others when we have our Saviour.. I love Jesus.... My only intention is to impress him.

[@e.n.6079]

Hi, Elisa! Nice comment. GOD bless you and keep you close to Him always!

[@steffijacob299]

I think vihan doesn't reply for thses type of comment

[@prisillarachel2007]

Exactly!! Very true Elisa.

[@elisa3019]

@@e.n.6079 God bless you too ♡♡♡♡

[@elisa3019]

@@prisillarachel2007 God bless u sister ♥♥

[@yaelbeulahk6313]

I love your spirit. Keep doing what yre doing. You're speaking the ABSOLUTE TRUTH. Loving all yr videos. I praise God for delivering me from the devil's lies.

[@deborahrapsang]

Thanku for always being bold and speak truth.. such an inspiration to all the sisters to present the true face of Jesus to the world.. keep preaching sista!!👐👐❤❤

[@newcreation7485]

This was a confirmation to me I heard the first time by another KZbinr am on my way trying to get more closer to God and so am going natural.. God bless you for this upload

[@pratikshyachhetri6768]

Now a days I DNT like to wear makeup ..coz holy spirit is with me ..if holy spirit is with us no need to do makeup ...Their is beauty already

[@milkeysann5618]

Thank You very much for sharing your experience. I'm also in this questioning stage about my appearance and it got me insecure all over. Comparing myself to my classmates because they're beautiful and i think i'm not. But Now i know, i need to only look good in front of God. And thank you because now i came to know that this world is showing how i need to strive to BE beautiful when in reality, Each one of us has our own uniqueness and charm. And God created us in His image. God bless you always and i hope for more videos😊. And im so greatful for your life because you inspired me to become more like Jesus.

[@Eileen-123-]

Lolll totally the truth 🎯💯 I love you ♥🌹 and Jesus 🙏😇

[@danadanaaa2002]

I love you so much Vihan!

[@puchiebrown1565]

We will stand up for God and His Holiness. We are not ashamed. You are beautiful inside and out and must stay spotless from the world. Holiness is right. GOD made us and made us beautiful with His Spirit within. You go sis. Walk in the beauty and love of GOD. We are a peculiar treasure to the Lord.

[@gb3422]

Love this topic😊 I myself have struggled with confidence with the way I look, but becoming a Christian has changed all that. Now, I can step out of the house with no make up at all and I realized how comfortable, less time consuming it is, and I felt more free than ever. God bless you and all the girls here who have chosen not to give in to the world's standard.😊

[@lauraelizabethbrown]

Off topic, but I love that you just have a wall of bows and ribbons.

[@VihanDamaris]

Haha that's my sister's doing! 😄

[@prathimakottur8762]

whatever you said is so true nd ...i fed up with those so called being girly ...s no need bow to everything ...GOD BLESS youuu ...

[@nalanikant288]

Preach it girl😊

[@madgem1727]

I love your commitment to the Lord. Are you doing a fast now? I think i saw an update that said that. Help me I want to go on a fast.

[@rositamalar3745]

I like this....helps many young woman

[@tamaragemperle4526]

you're so amazing!

[@VihanDamaris]

Thank you, Praise God! God bless you!

[@vanessabangalore7093]

Bold and beautiful😊 God bless.

[@williamhutchings4165]

I always tell the girls who say... "I don't do it for anyone but myself". Or really? So, your telling me you would keep this stringent, repetitious routine even while living alone on a island? Even minus a Gilligan?

[@VihanDamaris]

Haha!

[@myda9733]

Be a woman, don’t bring other women down there’s no need to question their actions like that i’m sure they could name something you do to please others. Be kind to each other as Jesus said treat one as you’d like to be treated :)

[@Lorett.a]

😅😂😂

[@daniellewardd]

For years I’ve been wanting long healthy hair but I’ve hit a few stumbling blocks. I’ve become fed up and, recently, I’ve been wearing braids to hide the damage. Every time I take the braids out I’m reminded of the damage of my curls and I get depressed-sometimes cry. I was taking down my braids the other day and I got sad because I’m reminded of the damage but also happy seeing ME. I think it’s time I stop being depressed and figure out what’s wrong with my hair. Get it back to a healthy state.

[@MsSisi9898]

If you have curly/kinky hair, I suggest watching videos about the Curly Girl Method! It may help you a lot getting your hair’s health back!

[@bean7496]

You can do it!

[@candyfire7354]

I've also given up makeup and eyebrow correcting, and someone showed me it was a Ruth-like spirit in humbleness before God. It was so refreshing to be simple and humble before my Father, when before I had taken great care in my makeup and hair. Then God showed me the scripture in the New Testament about Head Covering for prayer and prophecy. I decided that since I was supposed to be praying nonstop and I had no idea when I would prophesy that I should be wearing something on my head whenever I was out and about, or when specifically seeking God while I'm at home. It's a hat, or a wrap, and sometimes just a scarf or a hood pulled over my head. What do you think Vihan?

[@icsx1797]

i do the same thing to 😅 I wear beanies wherever i go just in case i wanna pray

[@kyleemichellereads]

I love your videos so much

[@J10098]

it took me a second but when i realized you said "..i'm into fur" i laughed soo hard! lol

[@techh8837]

I am sooo blessed to not have thick eyebrows. I would have been picked on sooo bad by my classmates. So I just tint my eyebrows with henna and wear light makeup :)!

[@evajoemon8904]

Each one of us is the Lord's masterpiece. We are one of a kind. Beauty in a smile to a sad heart, a helping hand to someone struggling etc are what's beautiful before our Lord.

[@FearlessLeis]

Love it girl. 🥰

[@nishadiwakar635]

I think the train sound was like a good sound effect for the video, so was the lights behind on certain occasions to create the curiosity about what the next point could be

[@teenaidoo8569]

U are beautiful. I understand fully cos i was like u when i was younger. So now be yourself. Less is more. And God created us all beautiful in his image. So dont worry about what people thinks worry about what God thinks. As long as u happy that is all that matters. 💞🤗✝️

[@christdiedforoursins1467]

I'm with you my sister ,I'm a Christian and God has not lead me to shave and pluck I'm happy with being just as I am I also couldn't afford it ,but I dress modestly as not to attract too much attention. I am influenced from Judaism and my husband not likening me to do works on the sabbath.ie shaving plucking etc.I don't use make up I never realy have I used to do sport and realised the hair on my eyebrows kept sweat out of my eyes and moustache kept sweat out of my mouth.Gods wonderful design .i was worried about the trap of vanity and pride in my heart seeking men's attention more than Gods approval.I was first inspired by frida Carlo and a lovely Greek Orthodox nun I met in Jerusalem, who was such a beautiful person.

[@PointBaron]

Hi, you & i may not see eye to eye in regards to religion; i can't say that i agree with your norms or beliefs as a whole, but you really are a diamond in the rough. keep being you; i doubt there are many people out there that share your beliefs and moral compass

[@amrithad4182]

I can totally relate. i think it is important not to obsess over over the way we look. when i was newly wedded bride i was advised even by well meaning individuals at church that i should wear more jewelry and makeup.

[@laudantchristum1432]

Well spoken :)

[@VihanDamaris]

Thank you!

[@floresnjose57]

woman is pretty the way they are , sometimes our food contain so much hormones that get us hairy where we are not supposed to grow hair .or hormone feminines cause enlarged breast on men , or hormones masculines on a woman that grows hair on places that are not supposed to grow.

[@madhushekarrao3762]

Comedy is all around!

[@ushatalwar9928]

Thank you Jesus that He made you understand everything in a better way..... onething you have to remember that first Love yourself as you are (with make up or hair... without make up or hair)than only you would be able to love others as they are.... learning it from your own experience will help you & others tooooo to see Jesus through you.... in you... Praise the Lord! Thank you Jesus for Vihan... God bless you...

[@vjp2866]

Your wonderful in the eyes of the lord ! and your not bad in beauty too....Jesus is coming soon and you know that. so, prepare for that sister !

[@Three721]

Your brows are beautiful Btw. I’m finally free of brow pencils as mine are sparse💕

[@VihanDamaris]

Thank you. Congrats! 🙌 my sister has I think what may be called sparse eyebrows, and I find them absolutely gorgeous!

[@momof3blessings225]

The scriptures initially convicted me of doing my eyebrows! You know the part where it says "thou shalt not make any baldness between your eyes for the dead"Deuteronmy 4:1 which made me feel like doing such a thing had a PAGAN Origin to it. Then never felt comfortable after thats even ignoring the scriptures and trying to justify my self and saying " well I'm NOT doing it for the dead just for beauty's sake"....but continuing a relationship with God and drawing close...i bagan to feel ok with letting it go and I felt better with my furry eye brows than with plucking them out.

[@truefaceofmo8307]

Whatever it is... You are beautiful...

[@alittletadpole1310]

For me personally, I have insecurities like my monolids, my undereye circles, dark spots on my lips. When I don't put on double eyelid, I look very unfriendly, grumpy, not cheerful. Before makeup I also think that no one would think I'm cute or girly, but after makeup I feel that I look cute and girly. I'm sure though that God looks at the heart, not at the face. But I'm still holding onto makeup because I feel like it helps to give others good enough first impression..

[@naomidaum8277]

Amen.

[@mathildaflower2388]

Oh girl I am so so sick and tired 😢

[@VihanDamaris]

:( :(

[@bean7496]

Cheer up! God helps us!

[@vivienetiu7935]

but grooming is not sinful... it is if it's causing you to feel insecure ... but for others, it's just part of grooming and it can be lived without.. but for the person who cannot live without it, it's an idol so i don't think we need to demonize grooming or generalize it as vanity

[@okumarinator]

Ive seen wonen argue that its for themselves ,to feel good about them selves .Its not always the "MEN"

[@pushplatabanjare4438]

In starting days I use to see your vedioz bcoz u looks like my childhood best friend...chetnaa !

[@mikehubbard5493]

I think your right.

[@stuart3178]

Ahahahahahahahah! I don't mean it unkind I mean it with LOVE. LOVE PURE LOVE JOY PEACE. PURE HEARTED ROSE

[@vivienetiu7935]

YOU ARE NATURALLY SO FUNNY SISTER I WANT TO BE YOUR FRIEND HAHAHA

[@stuart3178]

You're perfect as you are

[@exclusivegogreen4281]

Liked your honesty dealing with the demon of fashion. As a male the Christian church deflects fashion corruption within their sex. The male is now going to shave all their body hair. There is a spirit behind that is rebelling against the law of God of separating the sexes. Apostle Paul made that clear. Urging women to have Kong hair. Remember shaving came from the Egyptian culture. Joseph was shaven before he came to Pharaoh. We are to be separate from the world. We should stand out as being separate both physically and spiritually. Example the Mennonites. Otherwise you will be sucked into the Jezebel spirit. Hair under the arm pits? Very important if God put it their. It's a major lymph node secretion point and needs to be protected. Trust God. He knows best. God bless.

[@faith2756]

By the way, Africans etc tend not to have long flowing locks, so as long as you're taking care of it in it's natural form, it's fine.

[@infernal..]

10:07 I was just going to comment this! hahaha

[@ushatalwar9928]

Keep up God's work

[@mamatica7]

You are beautifull, you need no make-up, or other alteration. You are perfect just as you are. I would like to do the same, but i'm just full of acne, so i need foundation to look normal. :(

[@simpsonbecca]

This topic shouldn't be so taboo, yes... I will say that it extends to not having as much hair at times too, when I was in school years ago, thick eyebrows were not seen as "nice" for a woman to have, and now, thicker eyebrows are what are considered beautiful. I believe it comes down to accepting how we were made by our loving Creator. There are many struggles people can have with appearance not only with hair. But some of us naturally have more or less hair than others, I am not Indian but in the same boat where my dark hair would grow back within the next day. When I was a young girl, even 11 or 12 years old... I felt a lot of pressure at school for some reason for having thicker than average eyebrows. Something which affected my life for years after, was the result of that, as a child, I plucked my eyebrows super thin, and years later they never grew back to the way they were before, the way God created them, which is still the case today (in my 20s). When I became a believer at the age of 18, then and thereafter (I wasn't raised in a Christian home) what upset me was how I sought to edit how I was made by the Creator of Heaven and Earth in a way that caused a long term issue... as it was somewhat damaging in the playing out of time. It might seem like such a small thing but it's sad especially for young girls adapting to the standards of those around them. I didn't know when I was 12 that removing hair from my eyebrows would mean it wouldn't grow back fully (which doesn't happen for a lot of girls, thankfully theirs has or does grow back) - I didn't think about it, I did it because other girls were doing it. And that's what a lot of it is, not thinking of what we value or what God values and made, but what others value in us. As for hair in general that seems to be perceived as "gross"... it's definitely shocking to some if a woman does not shave her legs or underarms, etc, and while it's not outright wrong to remove or cut our hair, my mind thinks, if it's not supposed to be there, why did God design us this way? I think He knows what's best and He knows what is beautiful. We may have personal preferences when it comes to looking after our bodies, but truth is we as human beings are beautiful naturally. Thank you for speaking on this topic Vihan :) Shalom and blessings.

[@tittut2391]

I was fond of some make up like kajal and lip stick . God spoke with me many times . But I rejected I don't like it I told myself I want to look beautiful and please myself .He spoke with me servant of God and He told that God is not happy with this outer beauty and he looks inner beauty our hearts . I felt bad and Holyspirit remind me a prayer that I prayed when I was youth Lord I want to live a pleasing life to you I want to do which makes you happy . I cried He told me I don't happy on this . I started to obey i apply kajal and lipstick 💄 I stopped and applied when we have function . I apply compact And Cc cream asked shall i apply this because I have heavy oily skin so normal talcum powder get absorbed by easily . Final note we have to live pleasing life life for God and not self or attract others.

[@elberto2598]

and this holywood white teeth where from? kind a inconsistency.....

[@J10098]

"I can see you in matte finish because of how much body hair you have" 😢😂😂

[@kgortiz]

Honestly , I have no proof of this. This is just my opinión but the only humans I know with little to no body hair are children. I personally don’t think this is a coincidence . Without getting graphic I believe the idea behind body hair removal is to make grown adult women to appear as children . This is sickening but such as things that I believe originate with satan. Again not condemning anyone that practices hair removal as I am trying to rid myself of this practice. Just like to share my thoughts and am open to others opinions . All said in peace. Let’s all strive to be like Christ. Love you all.

[@VihanDamaris]

That's... Really weird, and quite possibly one of the reasons. It is pretty sick.

[@stanfatou2002]

Oh my word.

[@Prasanjithshetty]

I feel shame of myself after watching ur videos .. being young i have to fast and pray... 40 days. Like u.. but i coudnt do it more than 2 days

[@bean7496]

The Lord is our strength

[@emilysr441]

Don't feel ashamed ,God has a different plan for everyone

[@onlypeace340]

🐝🐝

[@kakumanuarogya9469]

What are u doing during the lockdown period...yahh

[@tittut2391]

Recently God spoke with me another video about tweezing eyebrow I do that . I asked God should I Stop this pls reply. I know it's not right to do against God's creation . We created beautiful the way we are this video conform me that i must Stop this . I made beautifully .

[@lovelyjandi6257]

Can we make up??. Because we are saved through are faith. And problem come when we only care about ourselves. It's OK to look good not for boys but for yourself

[@mayor7363]

ur beautiful, i wish i can find a pretty and GOD fearing lady to settle down.just like u

[@outofthebox7]

Long hair was intended to be a woman's glory. It comes out of hair and it is for her. This is glory by definition. This is why women are the glory of men. Eve came from within Adam and was for Adam. -1Co 11-

[@faith2756]

It's not about long hair, in general, Africans hair grows thicker rather than longer (afros are round for example). So girls' hair doesn't need to be rapunzel length, especially if that's not how it naturally grows.

[@outofthebox7]

@@faith2756 No. That is what 1Co 11 says. Exception don't destroy the rule. Even an afro can be big, or dealt with differently.

[@uriyahpanas9669]

Because youre getting tougher

[@diychurch3827]

I have dam thick eyebrows 😊

[@pravinutankar2107]

Simple men like clean shaved women rest it's your body play with it.

[@gs9550]

Heloo sis ... lets be more practical .. don’t get so confused.. live your life ... your topic today was time pass .. but I enjoyed listening you .. u r smart gal ( little sister in Christ) groom yourself well , be presentable, .. We are not born with cloths on us .. we were clothed ,covered later after birth .. piercing ear to wear earring , grooming urself to be presentable is nothing wrong .. tats why bible says it all , God sees ur inner heart .. outward doesn’t matter .. it’s ur wish to be more smart or be ugly with hairs all around .. God will except you as u r .. but we need to be presentable in this world to be more effective in watever we do .. even God loves beautiful church ..

[@ondreatorrence4322]

She didn't say any th ing about looking crazy . ... Don't you see her in the video she looks great and classy ? Don't take what she said so extreme .

[@dicksonsamuel8815]

You have tried the issue well! But I guess you dont have any solid solution for the issue you are raising about! First, there is a huge difference between 'doing for beauty' and 'doing for comfort' Next, it's all about the motive! Everyone has different motives and we should be more democratic to accept their own choices! I guess, you said in this video that u r an introvert! Being an introvert, it must be hard for you to look this issue in a wider sense! I understand that! I appreciate you for thinking more and for addressing these issues, but you can't find answers or solutions just through what ur mind says or what u feel! Try for some solid solutions! Better luck next time! And kindly remember that, words spoken and letters written are always open for dialogues and criticisms! And the way you finish addressing the issue, by making it completely one sided is actually rude. Since you are forcing to accept ur audience to accept whatever u say without questioning by mentioning that u don't care, if the audience don't understand / agree to what u say! Hope you are not thinking that there is no one else better than you! And plz do study some research methodology and do some researches, before you start addressing practical issues !

[@steffijacob299]

I thought that you were more spiritual inside and out side by listening ur worship.....how come u misled in these issues like makeup,listening secular music,break up....without guidance,leading of god u have sung n composed songs in before...I wonder

[@EstherJesintha]

Dahlin no one's forcing you to adhere to beauty standards other than your own self. Take responsibility for your actions, and the way you see yourself. Blaming it on society is pure hypocrisy, coz at the end of the day, you are the one who exerted your free will to shave in that unseemly manner. People are so eager to jump on this bandwagon and criticise others for their own insecurities. I've never applied makeup or inflicted my skin to the horror of an epilator, despite the 'pressurizing' beauty standards. I don't expect anyone else to do the same- but when you do, STOP blaming the people around you, they didn't pluck your hairs out, YOU did it to yourself. It's so convenient to APPEAR to "not care about external beauty" and preach about the 'inner beauty' that God cares for- until it comes to following it in real life, right? Easier to assign blame to 'society' instead. Remember, no one cares about the way you are perceived as much you do. It's entirely your choice to succumb to the duplicity of pretending to not care about other's opinions while decorating yourself, or to admit your insecurity and ask God to help you overcome that. It's honestly so tiresome to see people wage this "war" against beauty standards "imposed" by others when the truth is, it's a matter of choice and exercising one's own free will to decide how one wants to look. Please don't dismiss this as a "hate comment", but I cannot stand it when people play the victim card, I always call them out.

[@VihanDamaris]

Hi Esther. I get you. I'm glad you were aware enough to know that you didn't need to follow any beauty standards. I wish I had too. It took me so long to realize what was happening. It is my guess there are many like me who don't see it for what it is. We don't even question it, 'coz it doesn't seem wrong, and everyone does it. It's like driving on the left or right side of the road. We just follow the rules. In this case, it's not as serious as road rules, but it felt like that for me. Like if I drove on the wrong side, traffic was incoming. Not everyone is as strong as you, dear woman of God. As a KZbinr and musician, I'm in the public eye a lot. It seems like the traffic is worse with a bigger audience. Yes, no one's gonna put me in jail for this, but a lot of people are gonna click away to something more pleasing to the eye. In my world, that's potentially a career failure. This from a human perspective. Now from God's perspective, I totally realized what you're saying about being responsible for myself is true. This is why I'm stepping back now, uncomfortable as it is. But I will not blame myself, because I did not put makeup or remove hair to be attractive. I didn't want to. It was only to avoid the negative attention if I didn't. I've been a people pleaser much of my life. Frowns meant a lot to me. That kinda pressure was enough for me. I know for a fact most people would rather go with the flow than against it, whether they like it or not. I'm not 'playing a victim' here. I was a victim. Society has fallen victim to the delusions of Satan; the idolization of lust and attraction, and the need to constantly be seductive in some way. I didn't know this till now. As soon as I found out, I spoke out. I think that is something to encourage, not throw rocks at, especially if I'm in the same boat as you are.

[@PrakruthiAngelina]

Vihan, I love that you are exploring topics like this and bringing them to light, because not everyone takes time to think about things like this, and actively choose what they want. To say that we shouldn't "blame society" is a very limiting statement, because literally every aspect of life is shaped by our culture, upbringing and thereby the larger society. It's definitely not "hypocritical" to call out what society has been following, and what you also have as a result of social conditioning, peer pressure, etc. It's very easy for anyone to say, choose for yourself. But the journey of growth from a young girl to a woman is already hard enough due to all the changes (physically, emotionally, etc). And is only made harder by all the expectations society, yes society, places on people (both women and men). It's insensitive for anyone to say, ignore what society says, choose what you want. Because there's always an undeniable influence. And it's not like you blamed any particular group/ person, it's just the way things were for us growing up. You know what bugs me the most, women don't stand with women, when we should understand that compassion, and mutual support is often the biggest thing any woman or human for that matter, needs. Continue questioning society. It benefits us all to think rightly with our heads and dig deep into our hearts from time to time. 💜 Bless you Vihan Damaris.

[@EstherJesintha]

@@VihanDamaris Alright, let's do this! Keyboard warrior mode on! Haha ;) First and foremost, let's get that convenient gender excuse out of the way- about being in the same boat. As much as I am an ardent fan of the "If you don't have the same views as me, you are a hater of your own sex!" modern feminist logic these days, and as much as I'm sure it brings you great comfort to blindly accuse me of 'throwing rocks at you' when I specifically mentioned not to take what I said as a hate comment (anticipating such cheap jabs); I'd like to spell it all out lucidly once more so you won't feel any need to resort to such passive aggresion again! :) My point is simple. Don't blame society for the mistakes you've made. The blame game is the easiest coz it's endless. You initially wanted to blame men (1:42 in the video), then you realized it was, in fact, women pressurizing other women to conform to certain ideals, but none of this gave you deep insight to notice that the person who was actually mutilating your external appearance weren't members of any particular gender- surprisingly, it was YOU doing it to yourself! Wow! Now who would have dreamt of that possibility? Not me, certainly! What does this amazing realization remind us of? A-ha! The Creation story! When Eve blamed the serpent, Adam blamed Eve, and so it went on and on, in an endless cycle, with no one willing to take RESPONSIBILITY for their actions. Is this to say the serpent (standing in for society here) wasn't evil? By all means, no! It only goes to say that while the wicked serpent tempted Eve and was rightfully punished by God for doing so, Adam and Eve were equally wrong for placing the blame on someone else instead of admitting and repenting of their sins, for it wasn't in their position to place fault (that was God's job), however, it was their duty to lovingly obey their Father, which they failed to do. Instead, they kept blaming each other and refused to be held culpable for their mistakes. Likewise, we are all susceptible to temptation, to adhere to the standards accepted by society. But how you want to exercise your choice to feel beautiful or ugly about yourself is entirely up to you. That's the beauty of free will, amazing how it works, innit? You keep saying you didn't 'really' want to wear makeup and you're comfortable in your own skin, in spite of you yourself openly acknowledging you've felt ugly (4:43-5:00) and not beautiful without disfiguring yourself in a dozen ways (9:26). Forgive me if such statements don't seem to add up- looks like you weren't satisfied with your looks yourself. Being a 'people pleaser', contrary to what you might assume, is not equivalent to 'self effacement'. It entails a degree of narcissism, in that you expect your ego to be stroked and leave an impression of your self as 'a selfless, sweet person' in others' minds. (Dissecting the real meaning of the term 'people pleaser' here, mind, not directing 'hate comments' at ya, for I know how tempting it will be to dismiss all this as a form of 'hate' since it wounds thy pride by exposing uncomfortable truths, instead of actually paying attention to what I say). My point is: people never blindly do what they don't want to do for the sake of others' interests. Human beings are naturally selfish. While you keep saying you did this to please others, what you really did was to please yourself by having others form good opinions about you. Now you can say it's easy for me to speak like this, since I don't live your life as a KZbinr in the public eye. Dahlin please let me inform you that: 1) "I rock the same boat you do" (women everywhere are pressurized by their female friends to appear in a certain way regardless of their job, position, status, etc) 2) a lot of people do click away at something that is more pleasing to the MIND- that is to say, your channel views and subscribers are influenced by the content you make, and it's unfortunate we live in a world were people are highly inclined to avoid Christian content. You are 100% more likely to not have that many views due to the content you make, not coz of the way you look. If you had pursued a secular path instead of using your gifts wholly to praise God, I promise you would have had at least a million subscribers now, for you are really talented. So 'KZbin algorithms' have nothing to do with your looks (unless of course, you intend to start a beauty channel😜) Is all of this to say I don't believe you could've actually been naive enough "to take a long time to realize what was happening"? Nope, I truly believe that it would have been easy to "be the victim" of society, with its "idolization of lust and attraction". But this is exactly the point I've been trying to make all along! We are all fallen, we are easy prey for Satan. Just like Eve and Adam were! It's super easy to follow the world and protest our innocence, our inability to "distinguish between good and evil". Which is the right thing to do is to not blatantly DENY our mistakes, but to TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for them. We can't change the world around us, and neither is that our responsibility. What we can do is own our mistakes, seek God's strength and allow Him to change us. And that is what I wanted to convey to you: stop blaming others for the way you saw yourself, when it was entirely in your power to control what you did to your looks. You don't have to blame yourself, just take responsibility for your own actions. Lastly, I am not strong, neither am I "woman of God" hehe. I'm trying to be. But the more I read the Word, the more I understand I don't have the ability to do it by 'just trying'. I'll have to submit to God and let Him take control, for only He is capable of doing great things, not me. I am a sinner on the path to recovery, and the reason I've subscribed to your channel is coz I can learn so much from the passion and fire you have for God. It helps me in my own journey, and many thanks for what you do. I only ask you to read what I've written through unbiased eyes, you don't have to assume people who have differing viewpoints are 'out to get you and drown your boat!'😜. Be blessed, and if you've had the patience to read this extremely long-winded reply, guess there's nothing left to add on to this repetitive response than to wish you a good day and all the best! :)

[@ashwinmichas]

. I feel that You shared something of your past experience just like a how a very small child gives an explanation . At the end you meant to say that Now you are a new creation in God. So I appreciate the way you wanted others not to fall prey of satan. May God bless you @vihan damaris 🥰 And God bless you @esther jasintha🙏 because you left no stone unturned in correcting the people you love. I really believe as a God's child this is like how a pastor enlightens the people whom they love very much. And also God bless you @ prakruthi angelina🙂. What you said is true because world takes hold of us especially in our youth ( flesh being stronger than spirit )(Matthew 5:3). I finally Thank @God who gives a share of his kingdom to everyone in the same way (to the beginners as well as the conquerors). (Matthew 20:1-14) Bye all of you. Peace of Jesus may reign our hearts till the end of the age. (Matthew 28:20)

[@ashwinmichas]

Dear children, Blessed Are They Who Are Never Offended . In Jesus name. AMEN

[@fereniac6355]

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[@akusudaisy]

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[@danielboelnielsen4605]

Proverbs 31:30: "Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised." Praise God for you Vihan. You are beautiful inside out-