Signs he's Just WASTING your TIME (TikTok compilations)

[@coraliepython1291]

Dating require a PHD in comportemental psychology nowadays, I just can't

[@kemmyoluwo4732]

Nah, just wisdom. Return the energy the man is giving.

[@Chommikenya]

@@kemmyoluwo4732 exactly

[@winning3329]

Guys are actually very simple because when they start playing games then they don't like you and when they show up and keep their promises then he likes you, but still keep your gaurd up

[@DiamondsRexpensive]

Just common sense and sticking to that common sense. That's where most women fail: sticking to it.

[@Richiko06]

Sounds like my ex 😂🙄🤡 he made excuses not to spend time in person in my city too.

[@WholeHeartily]

Ew. I gave my DISGUSTING “go with the flow” abusive ex way too many chances. Im so upset with myself for ignoring the signs

[@Chommikenya]

now you know! thank you for watching❤

[@missdollarless98cents]

I'm with you!

[@purpleflows5680]

We need to talk about men who waste women’s time even after commitment, including marriage.

[@Chommikenya]

Oooh my yeees we should

[@purpleflows5680]

@@Chommikenyayes, it happens often. I’m a therapist and see it everyday. I have also experienced it personally. A woman can end up having her most precious years wasted by a man who is in a committed relationship with her but is not committed to the relationship or to her. It also happens when we get involved with men who are emotionally immature and half-baked in their adult masculinity. A woman can waste years and years waiting for him to grow and mature so they may have a functional relationship. This is why potential is a horrible idea when dealing with men.

[@Chommikenya]

@@purpleflows5680 the thing is how do tell he's wasting your time if he's committed and acting right by you?

[@purpleflows5680]

@@Chommikenya ​Yeah. It’s a whole thing which is why many women are, understandably, not bothering with the whole mess that can be commitment with men because it really needs to be worth the ROI and should not be taken lightly. Proper risk assessment is essential. First, what is the man’s cultural context? What does the social group/social context of the particular man that you’re dealing with say about his role and responsibility as a man. The above is important because until a man is fully invested in a relationship, which may take some time, his social group/culture will have a bigger impact on him than an individual woman likely will. This means that without proper social pressure or responsibility to something outside himself or his ego, a man will often not have the personal integrity or discipline to align fully with his commitments. If he’s able to flow along and waste time without any larger consequences, many men likely will. I think it’s especially important to look at his family dynamics, religious constructs, and other male examples to understand what his blueprint is for commitment. In short, it’s important to understand how a man was trained and cultivated prior to connecting with you before even considering committing to him in the first place. Because, otherwise, you run a higher risk of involving yourself with a person who doesn’t have the baseline blueprint or training to be a committed partner. Second, it’s important to understand very clearly that part of the larger social goal of marriage is to ensure a large number of men in a society have a better chance of being civilized. Men benefit more from marriage because the connection to women and children can often serve to dampen their most innately, narcissistically-oriented, short-term thinking, instant gratification impulses. Societies with large groups of unmarried men tend to have problems with violence and general social upheaval for a reason. So, if you want to do the commitment thing with a man, it’s important that you recognize that many, including that man and his family, may see you as a sacrificial lamb to his civilizing process. Meaning, others may see it as your natural role as a woman to “help” him grow up and stabilize. If you don’t want this role, don’t build with a man or base any commitment dynamics on potential. Ideally, you’re only dealing with men from cultures that understand the importance of training their males for responsibility, discipline, dedication, service, humility, and devotion, along with other essential characteristic traits a man need to have been programmed for in order to be a committed husband and father. However, most cultural groups are not like this and many are doing the opposite (ie. the males are the most coddled; think cultures w/ heavy “boy mom” dynamics). I recommend avoiding these cultural groups if you want an emotionally mature man who will be a committed partner. Lastly, I don’t think it’s wise for women to get into any kind of commitment with men (or vice-versa) without clear contractual agreements. Before committing to each other, you should know and he should know what you are committing to and you should both believe in that commitment enough to put it on paper. Want to have kids in a certain amount of time? Put it on paper. Want to live abroad and work remotely as a family? Put it on paper. Etc etc. I advocate for my clients to have a big picture contract as well as a day-to-day contract that may evolve (ex. Who does the dishes and when or what is our love making frequency post-children). I firmly believe that before committing to a man, it is essential for women to consider these three areas. If these three areas seem like too much work, then I can only hope that women get lucky and happen upon a quality partner. Most will not as there are an extremely limited number of men who naturally have the character to be quality husbands and fathers. The vast majority need some level of proper cultivation and incentives. Even amongst those that come from those cultural groups that produce a higher number of commitment/marriage oriented men, you still, as a woman, are taking a gamble. But you lessen your risk by properly vetting.

[@lizaaa2590]

I've been there he even gave me a beautiful engagement ring and made plans knowing the whole time he didn't want marriage

[@jessicab5448]

The first one is so real, its vile that people , men can do that, act like their interested and not actually meet, and then ghost you. Oh well, saved me time .

[@Chommikenya]

Thank you for watching ❤️

[@aquaearthnfirequ_pinsnsavi1721]

Who is he? I need to read that note.

[@yazmynebright5892]

Wow heavy on that feeling unsure, anxious feeling that's how I'm feeling now. I'm done!

[@Chommikenya]

@@yazmynebright5892 thank you for watching 😊

[@Sheyshel]

Leave fast before you get more attached and create memories.

[@guitarsinger1231]

Simple, hold them accountable. That’s what I did, he didn’t like it and got upset and ghosted. You can’t force someone to like you. People like this are wrong, they don’t have to do this, it’s a choice. Blocked, he stills try and calls from different numbers. You didn’t like me but upset I called you out on it, insanity.

[@Ineedmypeace]

Gems 💎

[@shiningstar5919]

Great video

[@Chommikenya]

Thank you for watching ❤️

[@ak2daface]

but the fire alarm beep 6:21 😭 siiiir

[@Chommikenya]

😂😭!

[@moonlightstargem1006]

This is what happened to me! And i started to catch on. I knew he wasn’t interested in me because it was all about sex for him. I only ever saw him about sex. And he was my BOYFRIEND!! He stopped taking me on dates. He cut our meetings by half that & i started only seeing him once a week & some weeks we skipped. His excuse was always “i’m busy!!” He’s not too busy to try to get in my pants!! And he would tell me he wants a relationship & he’s interested in me but all his old behaviors would start diminishing. He stopped sending good morning good night texts. He stopped taking me out. He stopped getting mcdonalds with me. Instead he started coming to my house with having already bought it!! And he only got some for HIMSELF!!!! I started to catch on that he was being extremely selfish. He has cheated on me before. After a few bad guys i lost hope. Maybe i’ll find a good guy someday maybe i won’t. Either way i have to make peace with the possibility of being alone for the rest of my life

[@Chommikenya]

You would rather be alone than be with the wrong person babes!! Focus on bettering yourself a good man will come along ... Thank you for watching ❤️

[@ufos-cos]

I’m older, he’s younger. I don’t want kids, I’m technically wasting his 🙌

[@Chommikenya]

😂😂😭😭!!!!

[@mavisloke8894]

Credits please!

[@kwbaby4297]

These videos are coming out a little too frequently…

[@Chommikenya]

Thanks for the feedback! I'm trying to share content regularly to keep my audience engaged. Do you think I should slow down? I'd love to hear your thoughts!"

[@kwbaby4297]

@@Chommikenya No love keep doing your thing I’m just saying that it’s A lot of men telling these things and it’s becoming more frequent is all.

[@Chommikenya]

​@@kwbaby4297 Thank you for your support ❤ I feel not a lot of women talk about all these on TikTok hence...

[@HoneybeeHearts52]

Credits please

[@Chommikenya]

Will try to include them on my description box