Signs of a FEMALE Narcissist! | How to Deal with this Woman | Stephanie Lyn Coaching

[@jaredunity7164]

If you are suffering because of a narcissist. I love you and never give up on yourself!

[@iniubongnkanga9390]

I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call [phone] or reach him on WhatsApp [phone] and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later

[@carmeliasj]

Thank U.

[@emokiriemiabednegoabed2844]

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[@carmeliasj]

So what kinda scam yall running. with these THANK ME LATER closings? I could give a damn,,GOD SEES ALL,,,VENGEANCE IS HIS!! I'm too old to micromanage a grown ass man!

[@jaredunity7164]

@John Clayton don't give up my brother. I have been through a similar situation with my family and my father sexuality abusing me. Then I attracted women into my life that were narcissist. There is hope my friend. Sounds like you are doing the right thing. Love is the answer. This is something the narcissist will never understand. Sending love to my friend. Don't give up. You have got this and the darkness can be fruitful and a time to find your light.

[@crazzyross]

I closed all social media accounts 5 years ago. I humbly recommend this to everyone.

[@RileyElite11]

Why?

[@bigjorge863]

@@RileyElite11 your life will change dummy

[@4jrgolf]

Terry Riley same here. Don't miss it a bit!

[@aylajadadea8693]

Good for you!!...i never ever opened a facebook or instagram account....!!my friends look at me like I m an alien...but all I really see is them competing constantly with eachother to who has the best picture....the best family....the best couple...the best holiday!!....instead of really focusing on LIFE....💚

[@crystallizationofthesoul7095]

Unless I want a internet job and expose my talents and my work!

[@jonathanmoore1868]

The female narcissist usually tries to make herself look like the innocent victim and that she's pure and sweet. Behind closed doors however, the true beast shows up at the slightest provocation.

[@andrewp1998]

@Dehlilia_ 8thHouseMoonRabbit and they say the ex husband is a jerk there are 2 sides to every story

[@kinghinckson]

100%

[@andrewp1998]

This woman in work is divorced and claims her ex is a jerk but she played games with me for a bit and she thinks she is a nice person? Wtf..

[@defectdetectorrailvideos3186]

Dude this was literally my ex. She "love bombed" me and made me believe that she was innocent, caring and just a wholesome soul. She always played the victim when talking about her past relationships and how I was just so wonderful and amazing... 3.5 months later I caught her cheating with my once close friend. But yeah, sweet girl.

[@JasonBlack66]

yeah, my one fires up like crazy for the slightest precieved criticism.

[@MySOBER-Life]

You nailed my GF of the last 6 years. - Took me another year to get over her - My advice to everyone get out as fast as you can. I dropped 200K plus in helping in those 6 years. I was emotionally and finically damaged... Run away.. Yes, she's breeding a narcissist child

[@mariejedlickova4226]

I think one year to recover from a 6 years of narc relationship is incredibly fast, you are doing amazing! After being gaslit for such a long time, the brain must do a lot of reality observing and recalculations. Hope you can replace this with a lot of kindness and love and rest. The best!

[@stevenherd9799]

Been there done that 4 years took 2 to get over it best move I made was to walk away

[@Enochulate88]

Simp Someone idolizing mediocre 🐈

[@CAMILAAMORIMB]

Omg I dropped 800k and now he wants to fight for custody. Impossible when he tried to sell me our daughter. And he uses her to know everything about me. He's creating a big situation in our recoveries.....

[@themoonbleu627]

The child will be a victim not a narcissist

[@biozio186]

I'm a man. And my ex used to physically abuse me. Then said it was my fault because of what I said. She also said that I deserved her reaction. We have a 2 year old daughter and I finally got the strength to leave. Fast forward a year later and I have my daughter full time. Live in another state. Still Learning how to be a single dad. Best decision I ever made was leaving

[@mikelenetv6329]

You just gave me hope im trying to build evidence on my current spouse so i can get full custody of our son. Ive been secretly recording arguements and most of our arguments stems from her telling our colic 2 month old son to "Shut the f*ck up". Every time i call her out on it, she denies it and hits me in the face but were fighting a cps case currently because she refused to stop smoking marijuana while pregnant (we live in Texas so its illegal here) thats why I havent called the cops and with my luck i would go to jail with a bloody nose anyway and ever since she quit smoking since his birth she hates me like its my fault she got pregnant when she was always the one to want sex 1st even the 1st night we met. Im secretly saving up lawyer money and evidence because i know push will come to shove eventually and when it does i want to prove my innocence. I work from 6am to noon everyday at my new job and she always wakes me up to start fights around 3 am telling me "hes your son too, its your turn you watch him." When ive only been asleep for 3 hours or less and calls me worthless when i cant hold my eyes open and its affecting my job performance and my well being in general. My mom has been more of a mom to my son than his birth mother. Please pray for me

[@johnsonbobo2376]

Look how you said you were physically abused and only 2 comments. If that was a chick someone would of cared. Take that bitch to the cleaners like she would of done you if the situation was reversed. Nail her for Alimony, child support, and throw her in jail. Force her to take rehab. Coach your kid into saying she touched him/her. Annihilate her to the point she dont wanna live anymore like woman do to us

[@biozio186]

@@johnsonbobo2376 word up

[@biozio186]

@@mikelenetv6329 hope all is well

[@jenniferwong4530]

I wish you and your daughter love, laughter and happiness together. Well done Dad! Best move you could have ever made!

[@guitawrizt]

*_Never make someone your priority while allowing yourself to be their option_* .

[@sagewisdom3371]

Facts!!

[@jgspeed2222]

guitawrizt for real I am posting that quote

[@glenholmgren1218]

Profound

[@guitawrizt]

Deb- should be part of the 'Golden Rule'.

[@MsBleau]

@@guitawrizt thank Maya Angelou

[@RG-ls2db]

"Insecurities are loud, confidence is silent" - The empty can rattles the most.

[@x1985]

🖤

[@D-NICE33]

well said.

[@imusingadisabledoldpersons63]

Prob right, maybe thats why that recent former coworker, couldn't quit (every hr atleast) talking crap , takin breaks , and whining about how bad his back hurt, the whole day. All the others who were more trained were silent, and he was just a laborer like me.I never heard that 1

[@acharich]

💯💯💯

[@i.p.knightley6970]

if the can is empty how will it rattle? An empty can will be silent, and so confident :-)

[@gregm3224]

You are a beautiful person, and I am NOT talking about your looks, I'm talking about the person you are in your heart.

[@CrimsonHazmat]

Insecurities are loud, confidence is silent 👌

[@akshayde]

trouble is lack of confidence is also silent. actually shy. but most people confuse silence and shyness..

[@torylee05]

FACTS

[@willtheangrydudeist9120]

The loudest one in the room is the weakest one in the room...

[@patrickotshumbe4201]

CrimsonHazmat Wooorrrd

[@oneroad2935]

CrimsonHazmat what a perfect line...

[@erickrcisneros]

Does anyone agree that Facebook/Instagram is a showing off platform, Also a place where people compare them selves with other’s. I truly believe that this is super unhealthy!

[@hourglassesandphatasses]

Facebook is misused excessively by certain personalities

[@specialkaye3059]

Yes Erick Cisneros I definitely agree👍

[@chandlerwhite8302]

Erick Cisneros Yes, especially Instagram. It exists for no other reason. Facebook at least has some legitimate social networking uses and allows friends to communicate.

[@debbiegross3136]

Erick Cisneros There is way more to FB than just this.

[@erickrcisneros]

Yes I’m Blessed Yes I know that. It wasn’t created to be that way, I believe it’s an unintended effect. I haven’t been on Facebook for almost 6 months life is better

[@briansoule1002]

“Insecurities are loud, confidence is quiet.” That is a brain melter.

[@TheReal1ThatGuy]

The loudest person in the room, is the weakest person in the room.

[@Richard-jq6mq]

That is an excellent and profound statement. Every social event will give opportunity to observe both...

[@naomi4836]

Took me 25 years to learn this

[@clusternova6278]

Wep not really true

[@clusternova6278]

@@TheReal1ThatGuy and what ig you are at the rage against the machine concert? You just talking shit

[@triforceconstruction8107]

The best revenge is to move on and be successful in a new relationship. 100%

[@joshuamerlin9905]

Finally divorcing my wife of 2 years, been together for 7, we have 1 child together. I caught HER cheating with multiple side-boyfriends and she tries to play the victim once I start leaving her. She’s tried to destroy my career, paint me as this terrible person, and ruin me financially. I am so thankful for these videos and this community

[@blackbeardtx371]

This is exactly what my narc ex did to me, multiple side guys, playing the victim including having me wrongfully jailed for domestic abuse, tried to run my finances dry. Once I got out it was like a weight off my shoulders.

[@joshuamerlin9905]

Chris H It’s insane behavior. Literally insane behavior.

[@dennisconrad6124]

Joshua Merlin She did you a big favor by hitting you hard and fast. The slow drawn out torture is worse in my opinion.

[@fgcpeak9591]

gross....

[@Justincasethompson]

Is she good looking? Pimp her out.

[@byrdmaniacsg2776]

My son was married to a female narcissist. What I learned? You don’t deal with them, you eject them from your life.

[@claudiamedina6500]

True. I learned the hard way. I tried so many times to have a relationship with my mom but she keep putting myself down. Talk nasty comments about my son and husband. I said no more. I want a healthy environment for my son and family. Enough is enough

[@RedroomStudios]

my ex GF tried to turn my family against me and was jealous of trips we had gone on before I met her. every time when our relationship was on the rocks she would go to my other and portray me as a terrible abuser. one time she did this while drunk and had my mother on the phone for 3 hours crying and telling all kinds of lies. then when she finally got off the phone at midnight she decided to cook something and then fell asleep on the couch and the food burned on the stove. so sick of that insane drama all the time!

[@eryn5826]

Yup my sister in law

[@bobbybero7452]

Try doing that when society is gaslighting you to keep the birthrates up while every lady you meet sees you as a utility and has great contempt for you unless you give into her impulsive whims and demands.

[@fighterflight]

Same. My SIL. But how can you eject them without ejecting your loved one too when they control your loved one??

[@robertbeckham3091]

They always have a horrible story about their ex boyfriend, they’re always the victim at work, she argues and has conflict with her friends, she judges other woman in public, and everything is always about her

[@SavvySkye444]

This was my ex fiancée

[@JammaOG]

truly exhausting lol

[@RedroomStudios]

great comment - lived through those exact things with my ex. she had conflict with everyone - workmates, family members, friends and of course with me. always she was the innocent victim. everywhere we went she would have a judgement about how people looked or dressed.

[@gregoryking9348]

@@RedroomStudios I think we were seeing the same woman. Wouldn't surprise me...she was banging everybody behind my back.

[@fighterflight]

My sister in law lol always the victim always quits her job because she’s always being persecuted my poor brother has to be at her beck and call and she spent his whole inheritance 😭

[@Queenmotivation]

I’m so glad someone decided to do something about a female narcissist! I asked myself often if I am one or have traits. Childhood trauma sucks and to heal is hard!

[@karleehicks7126]

A narcissist cannot be reached. They don't admit fault. Their manipulation is purposeful. If you are seeking truth, you aren't one.

[@Shayla8319]

Very true!!! I definitely have traits. I’m unlearning and praying

[@Ariesadventures18]

I agree, I tried to reason, forgive the female narcissist I am with and it was no hope.

[@Shamilt3]

The very worst thing is the projection and gas lighting. Every "discussion" is an exercise in being wrong and being shown how youre the bad guy... So awesome.

[@bombay747]

Exactly.. spot on!

[@trojan403]

YES!

[@slotheatworld]

Yup

[@davidkenneth3983]

I'm freaked out my ex I loved her a lot!!!!she was I think competing with me instead of being my partner it s plain bazaar.

[@arrow4773]

So fun

[@leogilbert7220]

"She's a bully." Thank you. I needed this today. I feel validated. 👍

[@pietbliksem]

Bully is just the old word for them. Narcissist makes them sound cool. My sister (adult) refers to her screaming public temper tantrums as 'Narcissistic Rage' as if it were a badge of honour.

[@iniubongnkanga9390]

I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call [phone] or reach him on WhatsApp [phone] and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later

[@ciaphagray1063]

Sexual bully. Lol

[@kidawesomeness123]

@@iniubongnkanga9390 will that evidence stand in court?

[@guitawrizt]

Inflicting pain to 'elevate' them- their ticket to Hell.

[@efthimios]

Never compliment, never show appreciation, never show warmth emotion,-‘ always jabs you even when doing something good, always picking arguements over no reason

[@mikeleschber33]

You have described my life to the letter.....

[@redpillretail]

That's my wife total devil . Call me a cunt infront of my children? I never got guys to Hoover the car when I took it the car wash. Why.

[@tomd1434]

Yeah I agree except she acted literally like an angel at first lol. You don't know until you know. Then you end up here hahahaha

[@AEHudg]

That was my ex best friend.. she was just like that.. WOW!!!

[@BigBux]

I have felt so alone in this...But seeing these comments I know it’s not just in my head and I’m not alone in it. An example, “I would never have a child with you” (even though we have one already)...then after watching the Christmas lights with our Son we stop to get a snack at a drive through. She says “Ok, so I’ve been taking prenatal vitamins and they are almost out, should I just finish them and that’s it, or get more?”...I looked at her with complete shock at what she just said and asked her “what do you think?”. She got really angry about that and made sure to let me know I was such a horrible person for responding like that. Just something that came to mind first...but there are a million instances like that. Including her telling me we need to keep our personal life to ourselves...and then I find out randomly from others that she has talked at length with with people and made me look like garbage. I came to a point where I completely lost myself. She had completely stripped away any self worth...really anything. Everything with these people is so cunning and calculated...it’s hard to believe how well they spin their web.

[@tedankhamenbonnah4848]

This just goes right through me. I'm stuck in a marriage with a narcissist due to our special needs child. Currently making moves to get us out, wish us luck.

[@lokessylva9554]

Hope you do get out

[@darwincollado8993]

Get out! It has been 19 years for me and they only get worse

[@unknown-lf6zx]

I’m so sorry

[@joannemonique9039]

Be strong for your kid . You have the power ⭐️🙏🏽

[@Spiritman597]

So sorry, I was blessed in being able to cut those ties to getting entangled with her by the grace of God.

[@johnbehneman1546]

I noticed that narcists are not into self-improvement. I see self-improvement as a healthy sign to a healthy relationship. I am always learning and growing. I enjoy learning and growing. Great video.

[@dtraversodt]

Unapologetic and no accountability for there actions and situations..trust me trying to show her was like pulling teeth

[@jasonjib1354]

John Behneman Great Point!!

[@sarahliebie4730]

I totally agree! They enjoy asking for advice but never seem to ever do anything with it...

[@atheliaecheverria7576]

That's a really good eye opener thank you for that.

[@jasonwaterfalls9615]

This is so very true. I myself am into self-improvement (which led me to this video) and my ex (narc) would never so much as pick up a book or make any real effort to improve herself.

[@learneroftruth8025]

In my past codependent toxic relationship I was dating a professional female narcissist...but then also realized I was a narcissist. I finally woke up and got out of that toxicity and have developed some self awareness from witnessing someone who was worse than me. Who you date is a direct reflection of who you are. So accurate!! I have some growing up and healing to do..

[@SherryONeill]

Peace To you Learner

[@melgray019]

Needed to see this..

[@vatovii5028]

Not in most cases, some times you don't know what your going up against because a Narcissist knows how to hold there composure. Play it out cool, mirror you without you being aware.

[@vatovii5028]

Nothing to do with healing....just Snap out of it, & move on, but learn from your mistakes & experience be easy with yourself

[@AnubisLuxor]

The fact that you could even realize that shows that you are definitely on the right path.

[@rayjones201]

"And she definitely doesn't want to spend her own money" . Couldn't have said it any better my self

[@pamelawherey4583]

Ray Jones The Narc I know buys everyone all kinds of gifts so everyone likes gifts right? She found out early, that people can be bought pretty cheaply by her shiny things. When she was young she controlled my little brother with penny candy.

[@nigeldupaigel]

This is mind blowing. I'm awakening I think.

[@charlesadams4487]

And that's where I started being played a fool. I pleased her using my money. Lucky for me we never went beyond friends.

[@ritahanson1619]

@@noreenstarck992 I understand completely. This is also my Sister. I have been widowed 4 yrs so I moved close to the town where my divorced older Sister lives, thinking this would be good. Boy, what a mistake. She is a loud mouth bully who insults everyone and says the most mean spirited things to me. I could go on and on but instead I think I will move to another state. I need to be away from her.

[@natureandphysics403]

"I have my own money." But she'll happily have him spend his on her.

[@Craigdna]

The fact that you are a female and talk about female narcissism, displays your professionalism and dignity. Thank you for sharing. Narcissism is the biggest problem in our society, although, so many people think that narcissists are only men. another interesting perspective on narcissism, is that the prefrontal cortex in the brain is the newest part of our brains, and in Daniel Amen's book "Change Your Brain, Change Your Life, he talks about the different functions of each of the varying lobes. The prefrontal cortex is where empathy, introspection, retrospect, tolerance, perseverance, attention span, judgement, and most importantly, self objectivity, reside(as well as traits). In a narcissist, many of these abilities in the prefrontal cortex are seriously lacking. I thinks that we should focus on the lobes abilities to understand these problems, as a narcissist's attention span and judgement are focused on their sense of superiority over others. They lack empathy and are not very tolerant of others, in general. Certainly, conditioning plays a role as we have learned from the breaking of the bond between the mother and the child, spoilage, wealth, and also abuse, but narcissism definitely has many influences. thanks again Stephanie, you have a new subscriber. Now, if we can just clone you. Much appreciated.

[@BrotherTree1]

Human beings can be so damn evil. That's why I prefer being alone most of the time.

[@jozzz222]

BrotherTree1 me too

[@antoniog.4821]

Me to me to one deep 4life

[@Punkpsychobilly]

Yes sir. Love yourself and do your own thing.

[@moonu2336]

Sometimes it’s healthier.

[@ambis99]

Same here

[@richardlepri9438]

I'm in a situation where I truly believe that narcissism RUNS IN FAMILIES. I looked for help by talking with my girlfriend's mother but she showed the EXACT same signs as her daughter.

[@jessicathompson8231]

Of course it runs in families! That's where narcissists are made!

[@P4ulyAnon]

I had a similar experience!

[@angelaneucere3830]

Richard Lepri yea I know how that is I’m dealing with the same thing with my husband n his mother

[@munequa81]

it usually does! my mother is narcisstic and my brother is worse than her.

[@Dj-ve2hx]

Yes, it ruined Me, I was a tool for years, there way or no way, I was the blunt of there comments for 25 plus years.

[@dadbodfolkpunk9433]

Covert is the worst, everyone thinks it’s you. Stop fighting , reacting and explaining and it is a whole new world. Gray rock it bro

[@adamsabo3583]

They'll picture her as a cute caring angel. I know I'm the only one seeing her demonic face, covert narcs tends to have two faces, that caring face to the public and the demonic face behind the closed doors.

[@RedroomStudios]

yep - she was an actor in public and in front of family so she could always claim to be the nice one and stab me in the back making me out to be an abuser! but she was like living with someone possessed by the devil. mine was on medication for anxiety and she was also an alcoholic. the anxiety medication specifically warned that it should not be taken with alcohol because when she did that the effects would be reversed and she turned into a raging paranoid nut case. thinking back on it now I dont know how I lived through the insane drama for so long (5 years). I wish I had it on film because trying to explain it to family and friends is so hard and they almost cant believe what you are saying.

[@seano312]

@@RedroomStudios Gone through a very similar thing recently (though just 1yr). Trying to explain it to people is so hard... I found writing it all down helps or putting screenshots together if this abuse occurred via message. Hope things get better for you.

[@wesley6442]

I grey rocked after she started hoovering me, then she started gaslighting me to hell, it was the most painful guilt trips I've ever felt

[@lisaking4386]

Excellent advice. I just ejected from my life this narcissistic creep who was after me. He would even come up to my friends and ask them, 'Where's Lisa?' I told them I was ghosting him, so they wouldn't tell him, and it drove him wacko. I moved so he can't find me.

[@edwardnelson3304]

Yes, this is my second time listing to this and the saying you highlighted about "Insecurities are Loud and Confidence is Silent" was a light bulb moment for me that fills in the blanks. I thank you. Blessings

[@chrishart763]

Crazy level of self entitlement, loves drama, always a competition - so true. Thanks. Oh God, I have lost 10 years of my life

[@bigNo13]

@Druid VW stay strong, good luck

[@allysonogston522]

Snap - I lost 10 years as well :(

[@Nocturnal_Neil]

This sums it up for me. I have 2 kids though and don't see how I can leave them or take them with me. Woman always wins over man in law.

[@GUURL101]

The competition part is the CRAZIEST part!!!

[@dadbodfolkpunk9433]

Better than 27 years....

[@jamessimpson5636]

I have ptsd and just realized I was in relationship with a narcissistic woman. And she blamed me for her flirting, texting and talking to other men. Her favorite quote was “you better love me or someone else will.”

[@jasonroberts8128]

No matter how much of a man you are, a narc woman will destroy it. Or try.

[@kevinRamirez-vb6dz]

Wtf... I thought I was crazy that happened to me before my ex said the same thing to me

[@rvz77]

I got the "you better pay attention to me or you'll regret it one day when I leave you, and I'm not coming back."

[@jamessimpson5636]

rvz77 I still don’t understand the logic behind it

[@rvz77]

@@jamessimpson5636 a narc womans identity is incredibly fractured. And she refused to face her flaws. So she wants attention, adoration to feel WORTHY. She wants to feed off the attention you give her. That's all she cares about you...what YOU can do for HER. A full, solid person who loves themselves doesnt need others adoration, or attention to feel good about themselves. They enter rltnshps to SHARE the love they have within. There is no need for a happy person to TAKE. But to GIVE AND SHARE. Find a person who is happy on their own and who is content and doesnt need your adoration to achieve happiness or self worth.

[@ashton123256]

Just got out of a tough relationship with a Narcissist, caught her in a lie and she went ballistic. Thank you for pointing out this information.

[@RedroomStudios]

oh ya, they hate it when they get caught out! they make you go through hell for that!

[@nopcshere6097]

Yes, Ns react 1 of 2 ways when you try to hold them accountable. They either go ballistic (like my NMIL), or they ignore you & give you the silent treatment (my former wife did this a lot).

[@music-ms6wr]

@@RedroomStudios Haha heard that

[@legacy4548]

@@nopcshere6097 facts im 7-9 days out of a relation with a narc and the both things you said she did and shes on #2 now

[@sweetchinmusiq]

I finally walked away after 7 years, and man it has been hard. I’m on Day 3 now. I can’t believe I stayed for so long but now I know.

[@imnotcrazyaskkim6591]

I’ll take her.

[@dynomike502]

2 months now after 8 yrs stay strong. Been really hard for me.

[@disgamecheats5195]

@@dynomike502 leaning this way. absolutely dying inside. i know i have to get away just havent taken the leap.

[@HighSpeedNoDrag]

Keep on walking, pick Up the pace and never look back, Never.

[@dynomike502]

@@disgamecheats5195 You need to get away, she eventually cheated and moved on, but she still emails me daily, but she wont talk about what happened at all she acts as if it never happened, its a ploy. Its such a hard thing to be in love with a girl like this. Because inside you want to help, but she is an unfillable pit that requires happiness and that is delivered only in being a slave and buying gifts to make her "happy". Its shortly lived. Mine put me 15k into debt and is currently driving around In a lease I've paid for the last year or so. I figured after 8 years we can do something like this. DONOT CO SIGN for anybody on anything!

[@metalphobos3632]

I noticed you have a video on how to get revenge on a narcissist. I haven't watched it, but in my own opinion the best way to get revenge on a narcissist is to accept the fact they're their own worst enemy and that they will never be happy. They will ruin every good thing they have and leave a trail of destruction behind, but will never be satisfied.

[@TheSimonScowl]

The idea is literally to DESTROY THE NARCISSIST before he destroys somebody else. You DO THIS using the same tactics he uses to 'gaslight' with (except that we're not gaslighting but telling the truth, although the narcissist will ALWAYS condemn you for 'ad hominem' attacks, conveniently oblivious to the fact that it is the narcissist who always relies on character assassination). And I discovered that the only thing that was preventing me from speaking 'truth to narcissism'... was my OWN egoic need to be different from the narcissist (but I DO have a confident, aggressive and feisty side).

[@eliciagarcia3601]

I actually think the best way to get revenge on a narcissist is to let them keep being a narcissist. For example my dad abandoned us for hookers and meth, so my revenge on him was letting him live a life of hookers and meth. Like what they are doing comes with its own revenge. My revenge on my ex is also just letting him be him. No girl unless she’s extremely insecure, manipulative, and abusive, will stay with him and he’ll never have a deep meaningful connection with someone because he doesn’t do that. It’s like the narcissism is their own revenge and if they stop it then they’ll be happy but also they’ll deserve to be happy cause they stopped it. It’s karma basically. Whatever they are doing they are doing to themselves to the equivlent. Just don’t reward their behaviour by giving them attention, even if it’s negetive attention. Cause “please don’t do this to me, I need you” is a stroke to their ego and motivates them to do it more for more of your approval. Just leave them and go be happy without them, that’s the revenge. The revenge is to let them be destructive and not let it affect you or bond to that.

[@TheSimonScowl]

+Elicia Garcia Appreciate everything you just said, but narcissists can be 'worn down'. The results are unpredictable (e.g.: they might KILL you), but they're actually very easy to 'defeat' as they're extremely predictable.

[@garethmason9255]

Drummers Eve I totally agree mate.. my ex wife has destroyed my relationship with my children and I said and done nothing but she mad my kids stop seeing me even bribing my daughter with a little pug big if she stops waning to see me.. she will get it all back someday from the kids.

[@PeaceNLiebe]

Gareth Mason I wish there was an easy way help children being raised by Ns as the kids will experience abuse and continue cycle. Kids will go through the same sick abuse and never being taken care of. Not given a choice, they and become either a narcissist like the mom or scapegoat (sometimes switching roles.) In my case I became a scapegoat and subconsciously tried to make it out getting good grades to go off to college but ultimately formed a stress induced illness that took me out, never being taken to the doctor and even child protective services not doing anything. I ran away to a family member who took me to a doctor and temporarily house me. Ended up also being very narcissistic and kicked me out last semester of HS. During this whole time never having anyone tell me I was set up for failure in the hands of these Npeople no matter how hard I try. Took me until mid twenties and an abusive partner to finally stumble upon this information and taking steps to finally take my life back and know who I really am and not this terrible person this Nfamily has painted me out to be.

[@ghinso1967]

I am so mad at myself by being caught up with a female narc. I lost so much of my life.

[@Lightworker-uo9uh]

I know the feeling ..

[@Dj-ve2hx]

Me too

[@selbyclements8559]

A decade here! Chin up bro's

[@mikemacgregor5650]

ghinso1967 ya me too . Then I thought I was stronger , smarter and let her reel me in again! Hope I’m really smarter now!

[@sooptime]

Completely understand. 2 years of hell and another 4 years of not even considering another relationship. Ironically, she has a KZbin channel dedicated to dealing with a narcissist and is now scamming others.

[@BubblyAlexandra]

I have these tendencies from growing up with a single mom who was very much like this. I would not say I'm a Narcissist but i know i have low self esteem with deep wounds. Not looking to date until I fix myself. Thanks for the insight.

[@Fetchem1222]

Alexandra Johnson I wish you the best. You are going to be alright! Keep working on you- it’s worth it.... you’re worth it!

[@MichaelAChristian1]

You can't fix yourself! Call upon the Lord Jesus Christ! Believe in Jesus Christ and you shall have everlasting life! Neither is there salvation in any other! Get a king james bible and believe. Read Matthew. Read 1 John chapter 4.

[@messimess9985]

Alexandra Johnson respects and credit to you. I’ll pray for you that you better your life in all aspects. Nothing wrong admitting your faults if you’re willing to work on yourself honestly.

[@MichaelAChristian1]

What's laughable is after thousands of years of pagan atheist FAILURES, people still want to believe earth created itself! Yes only God can help You! When you are about to leave earth, you won't be calling on "darwin" or "muhammad" or "buddha", they can't help You! There's only One NAME on the face of this earth that can keep you out of hell and it's Jesus Christ! Neither is there salvation in any other! kzbin.info/www/bejne/nHTRgoSCiq97mJo

[@stephanieduncan9023]

Lies and Infidelity is a very serious issue to deal with and it’s a major threat to most marriages and relationships.Scars left behind from a narcissist husband is hard to erase from the mind. I was reluctant at first about finding the truth about my cheating husband but I’m glad I finally took the courage for it .I got help from Cyber Hack Solutions as he helped clone my cheating husband’s phone and I got access to all his phone call logs, emails, text messages both deleted texts and also social media chats; whatsApp , Facebook, Instagram without having access to his phone because he is mostly out of town due to the nature of his work and I was able to track his location too, all I provided was his phone number to this wonderful hacker. This was very revealing for me as he’s a serial cheater until I got into his phone and ended things.I’m glad to uncover his, lies, secrets and Infidelity. You can contact this amazing Hacker David via gmail (cyberhack003) or text and call on his phone and WhatsApp : [phone]

[@noramein]

How good it feels to remove toxic people from your life, since they contaminate it. Your energy is renewed ✨✨

[@dwrussell96]

Geez. I just got out of a relationship with a woman who matched this video. I was only with her for a year and a half and I feel like I wasted my life. Some of you guys were with them for years or even decades. I’m so sorry for all of you guys’ pain.

[@ACEDIAMOND666]

Thanks. I put in 23 years. My life is fucked.

[@airthrowDBT]

@@ACEDIAMOND666 you can rebuild and you deserve to be happy

[@melzfraser8033]

@@ACEDIAMOND666 wow 23 years i did 18years and shes now still trying to get family and friends to get to me

[@doreenevans5945]

Don't look at it as a waste. You will be able to spot the next one that comes along. Use every experience to make yourself a better person.

[@gaminartube]

Don't you kings fucking dare say your life is fucked. Yes, you lost time, but you will come back even stronger!

[@4433giorgio]

Worst thing that can happen to man, and then she discards you in an instance, then she doesn't give you closure, then she plays the victim when approached. Run for the hills the moment you see this.

[@iniubongnkanga9390]

I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call [phone] or reach him on WhatsApp [phone] and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later

[@ronaldwhite4671]

This is exactly what happened to me it's cold blooded shit y'all

[@roshawngreene7069]

This is exactly how I was discarded by my narc ex-gf... So f***ing frustrating!

[@pfzht]

they have a taste for military men like you wouldn't believe.

[@pfzht]

@@mysticpizza02 that statement is true through the looking glass as well.

[@andreagomera]

if you want to know a woman remove lust and have long conversation with her.

[@-_oOtianaOo_-]

💙 i love this comment

[@andreagomera]

@@-_oOtianaOo_- 👍

[@HeWhoHath]

Danny Adames right. If you’re feeling insecure about a woman’s beauty when talking to her, say to her what you would say to one of your most stupid or most humble friends when replying to her. This quickly breaks the ice.

[@alexanderwalle3568]

I was trying to rap to someone else who was also hot who seemed to respond favorably but I couldn't: all that slap-ass had my mind in prison, I felt like I was taken so shouldn't when there was really nothing wrong with it, we weren't hitched yet. As a result of how it all turned-out I don't rap no more, at all; let someone else lose a fortune over it.

[@-_oOtianaOo_-]

@Distilled PUA never thought of a man as his status. I can do things and handle my own very well.. I enjoy a man that has a good sense of humor. that's better than anything!! 😊

[@andykay8949]

I dated a woman like that. Saw the red flags and ended the relationship early before it got to the abuse stage (I could see it coming). They see themselves as the centre of the universe, and get really annoyed when other people dont see it like that. Jealous, emotionally needy. She took the breakup very poorly - straight to tears and accusations that I am the bad guy, trying to guilt you into changing your decision. Dodged a bullet there.

[@siddreddy1416]

I’m about to break up with my fiancé today and I know it’s going to go exactly like this LOL! Wish I could just send a post card and be done with it. Been watching these videos so I don’t feel bad and fall for any more of her stuff, I know she’ll be pulling out all the stops 😅

[@jamesh8648]

I spent 10 days with a narcissistic, that was enough for me. Called police to remove her from my flat.She was intimidating and abusive. They don't take responsibility for their actions. Taking time to recover. They are the bad guy. Take care, God bless.

[@kimtarves1725]

Lucky you

[@reginaldblakey1441]

A dynamic personality and attractive appearance can disguise a evil mind.

[@mattblom3990]

I just learned this. Broke up with her 3 days ago.

[@amandapryar4675]

Friend I work with a female narc and what a bitch it's no good arguing because they suddenly become the innocent one!!!

[@Alaskanman]

True, love can make you blind. But many aren’t blind, they tolerate it because they “love” their abuser

[@LegacyKnight-zm6vz]

This is literally what I went through with my narc

[@lisaking4386]

That's why one should never judge by superficial appearances.

[@RealCoachLee]

She wants to be worshipped and she wants you to feel like you aren't worthy of such worship. She is fueled by your lust and doesn't want you to feel what it is like to be lusted after by another person - that's part of her sense of feeling like your object of worship. If you worship her, she certainly isn't going to worship you. Gods don't worship each other. One is a god (or a goddess) and the other is a subject. Don't be her subject. If there isn't mutual lust and desire, leave her.

[@reginaldblakey1441]

Aggravated and she is drowning when her main victim distance him self from her need for refuel of false worship.

[@topflighttv1143]

Bro, any relationship you get in out of lust is bound to be taken away from you because it's idolatry for the simple fact you're putting it before the ONE & ONLY living God...

[@eyesoffire2325]

The spiritual types behind this are Jezabel, Delilah, Lilith, Ahab, and the like. All required worship.

[@ZRanchLady]

I'm learning it takes a lot more than lust and desire for a real good relationship. If you know yours and your partners "Love Language", that is half the battle.

[@marcovelasquez8998]

Thank you man you keep taking me out of situations

[@bettyboossister3918]

When the narcissist woman throws you under the bus...she MAKES sure the bus driver reverses aswell to make sure you are DEFINATELY MASHED....

[@bakerinthehouse5346]

Betty Boo's Sister my mother to a 'T'

[@dennisconrad6124]

Baker In the House Ain’t that the truth

[@retake1697]

yup that wraps it all up. Ready to burn the barn down.

[@pamelawherey4583]

Mashed with made up lies about you. Yep!!!

[@princedsouza3514]

Well said

[@wildbill562]

Great video. I was married to a BPD woman from 1988-2000. 10 years of pastoral counseling was worthless. Now, after 23 years of blessed silence, she emailed me begging for money! Unbelievable. When I said NO, I don't care what happens to you, she began bombarding me with emails calling ME a narcissist. Her husband even got into the act. I blocked them both. You are doing a wonderful service for those of us who have been victimized by these psychopaths. They have convinced everyone else that they are righteous victims and we are the abusers, when in fact it's the exact opposite.

[@chewygal69]

I have a degree in Forensic Psychology and a Master's degree in Psychology, and your description of a Narcissistic personality is on point!

[@tarvisbickler3787]

Education is Freedom

[@Michaelgracon]

You are a bad ass! I hope to get my masters one day.

[@billyjimbob65]

I was raised by an EXTREMELY narcissistic father ( I also had a brother & sister ) dad was a very successful business owner/operator who was a totally different person in his professional life. Mom always tried to keep the peace and console us after all of the derogatory name calling, verbal assaults, hollering and screaming that was directed at us constantly as we were growing up. Mom was raised to "keep your family together at all costs" so she never left him and always made excuses for him. Now I am 54 YO and just learning what narcissism is and wish so badly Mom would have gotten us out of that house. Us 3 siblings all have extreme social anxiety ( I have also just learned what that is) --- mom always told us "y'all are just shy". I also now realize that all the girls I have dated in my life were narcissistic just like dad --- as well as my wife of 25 years. I was seeking out narcissistic partners for some bizarre reason. A few years back I figured out my wife was having an affair with my "best friend" (which was also her "best friends husband) and of course it was all my fault (and her friends fault). I have stayed in the marriage for the purpose of getting my daughter thru nursing school with no student debt but when she is finished I am out. This affair has led me to counseling and to open up to someone about all the feelings of inadequacy I have always had deep inside my head that I couldn't discuss with anyone. Now that I understand this type life/relationship is NOT NORMAL I regret raising my kids in the same type environment I was raised in (except with a female narcissistic parent). Unfortunately both of my kids refuse to go get counseling but I realize now they both exhibit same symptoms of myself and my siblings. Thanks so much for your videos as they help continue my education in how to recover my emotional health from a lifetime of narcissistic domination in my life.

[@andreasleonlandgren3092]

Jack Wagon great insight i have had similar things happen 2 me.

[@JT-di3bl]

Experienced players make the best narcissists. They know exactly how to hide all of the tell tale signs. Its disgusting, but my advice is never hold hatred in your heart for them. Find the strength to walk away in gratitude for the lessons in humility and self worth they provide.

[@ajitkumardas7561]

OMG, ur true. A great empath.

[@Yeti480]

J T good advice because it is certainly easy to hold resentment. I’ve told myself to let it go. I know there are parts of me still bitter.

[@InanisNihil]

well said... dont reciprocate the hate.. it does nothing butt justify why they do what they do to begin with.. and literally in a way makes u become what u hated them for... xb believe it or not there are ways people can actually help these kinds of people... will it be easy no... but most people are quick to simple hate/despise back.. cause its the easiest thing to do.. it reminds me of spoiled women... hating and thrashing them does not solve anything... there are ways to help women like that... butt rather then do that.. lots of people they simple insults and hope they meet a miserable life ... it usually take a person or a multitude of people to create narcissistic or spoiled behavior in others.. so in reality narcissists and spoiled people are technically victims who then go on to victimize others.. who in return want some sort of revenge... xb which then begets more hate.. etc etc... its a cycle... the key is to not reward bad behavior.. as well as not mocking or insulting bad behaviors... and instead encourage good behavior.. and then reward that.. and not apologizing for everything thing... in terms of dealing with spoiled behavior in kids and adults.. this is how psychology says to handle that behavior... the issue is now.. men are either still spoiling women till no end.. or now walking away thus the problem still goes unanswered... both solutions are literally carrying out actions that psychology says NOT TO DO WITH SPOILED BEHAVIOR... women today are victims of systematic ass kissing by men.... now women are ungrateful.. spoiled... self entailed.. narcs... u cant blame the effects without blaming the cause... now men are paying the price for raising their women this way... and now men are angry.. yet they still dont get it.. they are now doing the opposite extreme of spoiling.. they are ignoring it.. then insulting it at every chance they get... if men didnt expect the current result of what spoiling women does.. then how can groups like MGTOW be so sure that ignoring it wont have the same negative effect by in the opposite direction. this is a human issue.... if ur on team women ur a problem... if u on team men ur a problem... we should be on team HUMAN... im grateful for the men that dont run away and acknowledge the part men played in shaping women.. thus now understand how to help and encourage women to regain integrity.. cause it takes integrity to create it... men still kissing womens butts.. lack it... men who walk away.. lack it.. women who are a result of the fomer lack it.. which then creates the later who walk away which again also lack it... all this shit is so interconnected... a cause and effect of another effect of a cause.. lmao

[@thebitcher01]

@@InanisNihil interesting response. So what is the answer to the problem? How we as men can do better?

[@InanisNihil]

@@thebitcher01 well science has the answer.. psychology approved.. the but question is.. do you have the will power to do it or are u just gonna "go the other away?" cause thats the easiest thing to do in my opinion... to walk away from a serious issue... also yes.. lifes not fair... so i believe its on the mens shoulders to bare it.. as they are in a better position to do so.. so in terms of not creating more spoiled women as well as fixing it... attempting to fix it.. the "right" way... men can stop apologizing for disappointments of women... its also extremely beneficial to empathize with disappointments without having to apologizing.. it shows u care for their feelings... as its important to validate peoples feelings... its shows u understand and care but doesn't mean u approve of it.. humans simply do not listen to others if they feel attacked.. they instead get defensive... u should know this well.. this is how all debates often go.. both sides tryna make the other side look bad.. regardless of who's right or wrong.. feelings are completely ignored..xb and dont make excuses for them.. let her know what u will and will not tolerate.. this by no means means u have to be and asshole about it... u can do all those things in a respectful way... men could be more assertive... as well as not get into arguments.. the fact that ur getting into arrangement with a SPOILED person clearly shows ur not helping nor know what your doing... just making it worse.. really think about that... what do u achieve by arguing with some spoiled person.. their fking spoiled for crying out loud.. just make it clear u dont agree and leave it at that... arguing more often then not is just a waste of every ones time.. acknowledge their feelings but stress they need to take responsibility for their own feelings... that ur not to blame for their feelings if u actually arent... if they start to act out.. dont thrash them.. just create space.. if u do thrash them u get that waste of time argument.. right.? so it dont help... also can ENCOURAGE good behavior... lets be real.. everyone likes to get rewarded... especially if u earned and or deserved it.. can we agree on this at least... we need men of integrity to help encourage integrity in women... u cant beat it into them.. u cant scream it into them.. u cant walk off expecting them to get it either later.. in fact all those thing themselves are signs the man has no integrity himself.. and its actually what psychology says we shouldnt do when dealing with spoiled adults... so many men rant on about "putting women back into their place" WRONG.. thats not gonna work... thats patronizing...which ill get too.. ALL OF THIS HAS TO.... HAS TO.. BE DONE IN A RESPECTFUL WAY... the second u get aggressive or hostile.. making them feel like they are being attacked... the conversation is over.. they are gonna be on the defensive.. NEGATIVE criticism are cancer when dealing with spoiled people.. men or women... YOU NEED TO BE CONSTRUCTIVE in ur criticisms.. discourage and encourage certain behaviors... thats what u do if u really want to help and solve the problem... now i know you may be thinking.. thats just to much effort.. especially if u do it and the women still ends up stepping on you.. well think of the now spoiled behavior of women.. it didnt just happen over night.. it was a constant and continual way men interacted with women that eventually lead to it.. it happened over time.. so its gonna take time to help it as well.. and lets not forget patronizing.. probably the worst thing a adult human can do social interaction wise with another adult human... when u treat someone lesser then you.. or inferior.. conversation over...!!! and it can create deep negative views toward the patronizer.. example of patronizing in my life... im 4'11 and 89lbs.. i worked retail and use to volunteer to help unload the trucks sometimes.. clearly i was not as strong as the guys(i didn ask to be psychically weaker).. and a little slower at it... but i still finished on time... butt lot of the guys gave me shit.. talking about im useless and slow and how i shouldn't be back here doing mans work.. like really... i volunteered cause they were behind schedule and short handed... here is a case of when a women attempts and tries to help yet gets belittle and treated inferior... like i knew i couldn't keep up but i just wanted to help and got thrashed for it.. u can see how things like this could be justification to start disliking men.. and im no stranger to extremes. .. like men telling me i should be rape and learn my place cause of an opinion... xb but i have enough integrity to not generalize all men based of the guys like this.. butt its hard not to.. not gonna lie.. i dont like femnazi butt my impressions on being "raped" are less then under the wing of the extremist men.. all this back and forth hostility is just driving a bigger wedge between men and women... i myself was a spoiled little ungrateful shit... but my bf of tens year now... who has lots of respect for all humans... was well aware of my behavior and he accepted it.. he didn't blame me for it or treat me like i was a evil shit... he understood the possibilities of why i was the way i was.. and basically did all the above... he could have thrashed and insulted me.. or walked the other away... and id probably still be a little shit right now... am i perfect now.. no.. butt im way better then i was before... and its all cause a single man out of all the men i came across lacked disdain for others.. hes just a very scientifically minded person.. that there is a reason for why people are the way they are.. and to solve it.. or have the best chance at solving it.. is to understand it.. then go from there in a constructive and encouraging way.. id say he is more reasonable then me.. more reasonable then most men in fact.. like i still get my spoiled tendency every now and then.. i yell and vent.. he lets me get it all out of my chest.. then we sit down and talk about.. and it works cause right or wrong.. he does not deny my feelings... these tendency i have that slip out sometime.. he still encourages me in the right direction.... so for me.. thats the answer.. short and long term.. butt its an answer most will refuse.. xb

[@bill_y4762]

Don't try and "tackle the female narcissist". Just run away!!! (As fast as you can your life may depend on it).

[@georgekershner6626]

23 yrs of her playing the victim

[@amandapryar4675]

Can you imagine what would happen if female narc meets male narc⛏️☠️💀😳👹👹 I tried to find an exploding bomb but even that wouldn't qualify!!

[@bill_y4762]

@@amandapryar4675 is it even possible by because the Nac believes they are The center of the Universe and all things revolve around their epic gravitational pull. Could you even have 2 centers? It's seems like narcs specialize in Drawing Co-dependants and ematha and rescuers and such (enablers). Also maybe borderlines. If two narcs met each other I'm suspicious they will hate each other with burning passion (how dare a second person claim to be the center of the Universe?). I bet some of the most heated rivalries if all time were two narcs just hating each other.

[@billyyuba2241]

My idea to write this is to help readers get rid of the resentment and anger that sometimes is held inside against the abuser, even after the relationship has ended. The fact is the moment you move away from a narcissist and begin to work on yourself, you begin to heal. But sometimes resentment, anger, or the need for revenge keeps us connected to the abuser. This holds you back from fully recovering from the abuse and healing. Let go of these associations and be free, Karma will take care of the rest. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to disconnect from your abuser and let yourself heal and have the beautiful future that you deserve.

[@albertcarr5025]

This Sh¡$ hurts like hell...

[@Skank_and_Gutterboy]

My last boss was a narcissist and I put up with his shit for 3 years, then he retired. I still hope that I see in the local news that he died in a car accident or in a bar parking lot. Him winding up eating out of fast-food garbage bins would be OK, too.

[@maryland9987]

@AlbertCarr5025-It does. However, you wouldn’t be commenting here if you haven’t already began moving on/letting go. So, good for you-protect yourself, and accept that you want and can have genuine people in your personal relationships. You just have to find them and it can take time do that. You’ll go through some unsavory people, it can feel lonely at times, but you’ll survive. Quality over quantity. Best wishes.

[@caseyadams6347]

I want to be able to move on from her so, so, so desperately bad. It's been a month and a day. Our relationship was about 18 months. My life has gone down hill very much so in the past 12 months. I knew before she cheated and I found out and she discarded me that it would almost take miracles for it to work with her. The way it ended seemed to really be scarring me. Why? Cause I was chose over? I'm sure that's a big part. God, I just want to be ok without her. I want to be there right now. I'm scared I will never find the connection that I felt with her, and I am fully aware it was never special to her, nor was I. I'm fucked. I think I'm broken. Help me please.

[@CantTameBeauty]

This is my mom. I have finally cut ties with her after 15 years of trying to have a mother / daughter relationship... I don't want it in my life and I'm better without it.. Thank you for this video it validates everything..

[@PamelaReyes]

I can totally relate, i am better without my mom, shes the one that has hurt me the most

[@karmpuscookie]

Same here. I'm 56 and my mother is 85.she has ruined my life and the lives of others for decades.

[@iniubongnkanga9390]

I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call [phone] or reach him on WhatsApp [phone] and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later

[@lightning9279]

Same here. Forteen years ago I walked away from both parents and haven't looked back. The weather and pets were the only topic one could talk about with them. Anything else meant dealing with the truth which they refused to allow to happen. Reality was not allowed to be present. Wise people know healing never happens without the reality of truth. Best decision I have ever made. My sister chose my parents route in life, so she got the boot too.

[@Ayixlia]

I found my Dad and omg we were so much alike we connected off the back he told me everything he went through with my mom when I was a child and why he left. I saw him last at age 5 and I'm 32 now, but everything he said about her I experienced. She's a narcissist at best, kept me away from my dad and told me lies about him.

[@JCB.PSALM_23_KJV]

My faith in God and dry humor helped deflect all the incoming drama, half truths, negative vibes and court orders...I am thankful to know my Shepard when the wolf comes around!

[@mifnp8887]

Amen.

[@GodsLove165]

Amen Brother!🙏

[@Qlivia]

I set up boundaries w/a A narcissist friend

[@donotaylor5307]

James C. Breckenridge where is god?

[@CIMO13]

@@donotaylor5307 Right in front of you... See him? There next to the Easter bunny, behind Santa, sitting with the tooth fairy. You just need to open your eyes.

[@joycestepancevich6591]

Female narcissist rage then 10-30 minutes later laughing hysterically not realizing that they've just minutes before torn down the moral of others, hurt people terriably, caused great pain. The Rager!!

[@Barbie-gg3fx]

Absolutely true!

[@woop-dd8zn]

I am a woman and this video is also helpful to avoid making friendship with narcissist women

[@davidallen5776]

He that exalts himself shall be abased, and he that humbles himself shall be exalted!

[@also9825]

I've been in a relationship with a narcissistic woman and it's true. It's incredibly tough to walk away but focus on loving yourself and working on yourself and you can do it. Do it now and find the support to go through. The longer you stay the harder it is to leave.

[@iamblessed3539]

Absolutely 💯💯!! Stay strong!!💪💪

[@JoseHernandez-rh1xt]

al so xd

[@brizzchizz7302]

How to deal with this Woman..... YOU DON'T.... YOU RUN

[@primalway1317]

then she'll accuse you of being a coward..

[@Lee-lilo-Noto]

@@primalway1317 right accuse u of abandoning her!🤦‍♂️

[@mattblom3990]

@@Lee-lilo-Noto My ex did this of me and her other exes. However, we need to understand she doesn't deserve us to worry about HER narrative. She is sick and has pushed us all away...Not our fault.

[@abikelly1567]

Thank you! I really needed this. I needed this for myself especially. I grew up with a narcissistic mother and grandmother. Most of my family is cultivated with them because of this, and I’m trying to heal these traits within myself. So thank you so much for helping me gain awareness and clarity into where I’m falling short.

[@justxjxskmxjjdijdjdk8560]

just found out i might have traces of that as well

[@chrisresinger8222]

DAMN!!! This is SO spot on. If you have ever been in love with a female narcissist this lady describes her perfectly. It's so sad too. They manipulate you so much to love them. Then they turn into the biggest monster.

[@owenarmstrong1915]

Going through it right now, not sure if she's a full blown narcissist, but definitely ticks some of the boxes.

[@davidmorton2092]

The worst is... Though I will never go back how I miss the fun we had, I was discarded and like a fool thought there was something worth fighting for, all the time I was played like a flute, literally.

[@bilaltariq6456]

im really sorry man.

[@chasingshadows1543]

literally????😀🖒

[@Winterreise189]

They will discard you no matter what man. I owned a house with her, paid all the bills while we were engaged and she was pregnant with my daughter, doing everything for her and providing unconditional love even though I was treated like shit. She discarded me like it was nothing after I went grey rock for a bit, to move into the ghetto lol. They do not give a single flying fuck about anything

[@malrvinmason4745]

Oxalis wife is debating now on breaking up a family. we all go thru it

[@mymusic4821]

Sad but these people are heartless. Don't feel bad, God will bless you with a loving woman.

[@Universal_exports87]

"Insecurities are loud" "Confidence is Silent" Wow that just helped me deal with mine and find some closure. THANK YOU!!!!!!!

[@heartspeaks]

4 years ago… you were almost at 22,000 subscribers! That’s crazy! 💕 Now, you’re over 556,000! Amazing! Your content helps! 🥰

[@GUURL101]

"The Female Narcissist is an Attention Seeker."

[@danparish1344]

Attention and promoting a fake image will be her number 1 priority. I feel like my life is shattered and I was only with her for 7 months.

[@esmooth919]

My ex was always trying to keep up an image, and my mentality was "Who the hell are we trying to impress??"

[@echospace7347]

@@danparish1344 exactly I need to fix this

[@davidarthurkingsworth9683]

With my narcissist (Sister) she showed the worst when I started growing up and maturing, thus, living my own life and taking care of myself, reducing the attention that I was giving to her. Then I experienced some of the worst behaviors from this sort of people. In one occasion that she exploded, her attitude was the very of a little imp, was a very child with the body of an adult, which was pretty violent, there I realized this people in the bottom are crazy, cause her behavior in that particular occasion was the very definition of madness, was pretty scary but showed me who she really was. Very violent, gossiping all the time, manipulating and putting everyone against me (And basically all the family is narcissistic, with she being the worst, against me), trying to damage my reputation and destroying my moral by any mean. In my experience, I can tell you, there should not be place for tolerance. No man nor woman deserves to have this shit on their life; there shouldn’t be place to have this shit in your life, they should be thrown away as rubbish is thrown away.

[@GUURL101]

@@esmooth919 looooooool I had a few friends like this. They lived for the applause of men

[@jaywilley955]

Refreshing to hear a video from a female who isn’t just blaming men. Uncommon in my experience. 😀

[@ancm19]

Could say the same about a male who isn’t just blaming women 🤷‍♀️ uncommon in my experience

[@o.aldenproductions.9858]

Jay Willey I’m so sorry to hear that 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@nataliaturner4845]

@Reality Not Considered This is a chance for EVERYONE to realize that there was never such thing as "all women are this" or "all men are that". This kind of thinking is *illusory*, not bc the abuse someone went thru wasn't real, but bc the conclusions they've drawn about the world are inaccurate. People who think like this are basically projecting personal experiences onto an entire class of people, and your comment shows that you've fallen into the exact same trap. I don't mean that in a judgemental way at all - it happens automatically bc your brain's job is to make sense of the world around you in order to survive. It does this by categorizing everything, including threats to your well being, and if you get hurt enough times, or even just hurt badly once, your brain will categorize ALL men or ALL women as a threat, in an attempt to keep you safe. The problem is that those reactionary beliefs are INACCURATE (ie, a category error). They're not describing the world as it ACTUALLY IS. They are keeping you personally safe in the short run, but if everyone were to live by those beliefs in the long run, what would happen? All men would stay away from all women & vice versa, & it would literally be the end of the species. But even just on a personal level, those beliefs are not going to help you in the long run bc they function like an impenetrable emotional wall; no one can get in to hurt you, great. But no one can get in to love you, either, and your love will have nowhere to go. The price you ultimately pay for "feeling safe" or "feeling competent" in your beliefs, is to never feel what it's like to have a healthy emotional bond with another man/woman again (which, ironically, is exactly what the narcissist wants!) Instead of categorizing all men or all women as abusive, we should learn to recognize *narcissistic abuse* from both men & women as a category unto itself. We have to keep in mind that cluster B personalities are grossly UNDERDIAGNOSED in society bc the people who have it never seek professional help, precisely bc don't think there is anything wrong with themselves in the first place. It's estimated that it could be as much as 25% of the population that fall into this category - that's one out of every FOUR people you know. And narcs often groom the people around them to be their flying monkeys, so when you get caught in these social webs, it may very well SEEM like "all women are like this" or "all men are like that", but that kind of thinking does not serve you, it only isolates & starves you. Don't fall for it!

[@stevenromano8708]

Oh my word! Why did I not see this two years ago? Just ended a toxic 3 yr relationship with a woman that had me convinced she was IT! The sexuality piece is 100 percent accurate! I was emotionally abused and gaslighted for the better part of 3 years. Needless to say the healing process is taking time. Thank you for this video!

[@RedroomStudios]

toxic truly is the word for a relationship with these kind of people!

[@chrisriphagen3874]

Thank you so much. Answers to my last 17 years, 4 kids. Now i know why she cant say anything nice about this time together when asked. All negative and i am to blame, every time. Thank you again, great info, beautifully presented.

[@ednorton47]

Why even bother with a counselor? Just tell her that you are going down to the corner to get a pack of cigarettes. Then, never come back. Leave no forwarding address.

[@imusingadisabledoldpersons63]

Big Fan

[@kimmiec.peridore886]

Edward Norton that is what my dad did when I was 10.....LOL..I'm ok with it. Now that I am older I know why and it wasn't ME)))))

[@renzocur]

kim peridore that’s the problem with this scenario. Dad’s destroy kids when they do this until they become adults.

[@TheCrossPearls]

Edward Norton AMEN.

[@Kevork1]

Lol Edward

[@g-slack958]

" Insecurities are loud confidence is silent " ... very true !

[@pamelawherey4583]

This should be taught in high school. Perhaps even in middle school.

[@justinwilliamson6355]

It needs to start in Middle School and continue all the way through High School, to really ingrain that shit into the students.

[@MYFATHEREMMANUEL]

Yes it does people need to be more and more aware. I didn’t even know that such things existed and even when I started to I didn’t know the name for it. Just proves my ignorance at that time.😔😔

[@imadn4147]

Schools will never provide real life education. Schools are there basically to distract kids from real life.

[@chaosdweller]

🙏

[@WATCHMANANDREW]

Has anyone ever been or claimed to be healed from narcissism? With evidence that supports its a genuine miracle. Cuz it would have to be. I believe there with the Bible calls reprobates and their conscience is seared with a hot iron and they cannot be saved and their mind is defiled and they're always Liars inventors of evil things Covenant Breakers proud boasters lovers of self never admitting wrong taking accountability always worried about clean and unclean Meats it says it all routes back to when they knew God they didn't honor him as God and started worshiping other things so God gave them over to a reprobate mind that they would do those things that were at the very least inconvenient it's a lot harder to be the way they are than it is to just be nice or the person they pretended to be to suck you in. That's what blows my mind because I've been the victim of a few of them on with one now and she did a good job acting I'll tell you that cuz I was trying to be extremely careful looking for the red flags and she put it on for like 4 months and she did a good job there wasn't one slip-up that I noticed that I've got really good discernment. I know I'm not perfect I'm not a narcissist either but at the same time I don't know how I missed it I almost want to blame myself not like punish myself to stay in this I'm currently trying to work out a way to get out of the spider's web if you know what I mean. I moved in with her so I live with her at her place and I'm unemployed right now with no vehicle I sold all my money in a hurry to get it fixed so we could both use it and now she doesn't even let me use it when I need to and I need to make sure I have secure employment with transportation and my own place to leave could actually if I got a vehicle I will get a van or a truck so I could just sleep in that leave immediately and just get back to enjoying being me. I mean I love me and I'm good friends with me myself and I but it's really hard to enjoy being me when I got to walk on eggshells and I'm constantly finding myself caring about someone who doesn't care about me and I know it I'm trying to figure out why they want to be that way even though I know what they are Holding Out for it and they know they are what they are but it's always I know you are but what am I I just don't understand why they even want to be that way cuz it's so much easier to not be that's what it says they do things that are inconvenient. That's a nice way of putting it cuz never found it hard to love God and others as myself or care about someone's well-being or be humble admit when I'm wrong take accountability and really get to know myself and love me and healthy way but it's like she won't even let me love her anymore and you can tell she's going to try to push me away cuz when she was faking it and pretending to love me and pretending to receive my love even though it wasn't the real her she seemed like she enjoyed it and I couldn't tell it was an act so it's absolutely mind-boggling to try to understand why or maybe that is the real her maybe not all narcissists are hopeless that's what I want to believe about her because I've really done my research on this has been around them and I know that that's where she is now maybe it's demon possession that's taking place prior to a person becoming a reprobate like Saul was on his road to Damascus and Jesus said the blind him and knock him on his damn ass cuz he was either going to repent and get saved or become a reprobate that very day I firmly believe it. And when someone's on the road to being one especially if they're really close to that cut off point cuz there's got to be a cut-off Point. Everybody's born that way it's hard to tell if they've already passed it or not and one of the things that really gets me is is there anything going on that is super evil that's like a plot not even just cheating which I don't believe there is but I think sometimes there's a larger agenda to either try and harm me or really just try to ruin me even if it takes her whole life I feel like sometimes she's having conversations with people talkin about their plans for me and it's disguised as other shit and I'm not a paranoid person and I'm not a person that thinks I'm that important that I'm more important than other people or something but I really don't try to just dismiss it with the same time when there's so many times that it just really screams out to me like this is obvious there's no such thing as a coincidence especially when there's too many coincidences and I don't like to stir the pot and I know they won't tell the truth but sometimes I like to just let her know that I'm really distrusting of her and I'm on to her and if there's anything going on it's going to be bad news for her cuz I'm a child of God and she will lose. And it seems like it gets her mad that she knows I know shit that I haven't been told and shouldn't figure out and that I'm right about what I'm saying. But it's not like she's mad because wrongly assuming falsely accusing her or even accusing me of making shit up that's crazy sometimes she just gets real quiet when I say shit to her that I feel is going on and I know if someone said that to me and I wasn't doing it I would not only be hurt that they thought that but I would wonder how they came to that conclusion I would want to make sure that not only did they know I love him with my actions every David make sure there's nothing wrong with them like paranoid schizophrenia but that's the thing I'm really observant and I have a sound mind and a good conscience towards god with a humble attitude when I say I have a lot of wisdom and I'm not stupid I'm not somebody that likes to be abused either but it's just so weird that she's quiet room even if she wanted to lie it would be so much better for her case if she just acted like it didn't bother or pretended it pissed her off that I was believing a lie but she sometimes just shuts down when I say shit that when I say it I wanted to not be true but it's so fucking obvious in I feel like it's so evil what's going on that I got to put it out there cuz I don't want it to be true but if it is I want to let them know that look all this shit that you're doing to try to gas me up so you can like me is just going to burn you cuz if it is what I think it is it's not just her it's a whole new group of people and they all work together I really feel like it's a koven and they're taking orders from and they're taking orders from probably Satan himself I also feel that's one of the reasons she changed I don't know where maybe she figured this would all have been over with and she got fed up with she's having to wait longer day get paid or get her reward will get out of the situation and go do what she wants or get on to the next victim but it's really obvious that something's going on. It's made me want to go out see other women to be honest. We're not married on government paper or any of that we believe in biblical marriage or at least I did and she lied about it but I still live here we sleep in separate rooms it's been about four months since we've been slow dancing in a burning room and I've been walking on eggshells and we haven't been intimate in all the last time we were it seemed like for that month it was a different person and she needed a good job of Faking enjoying a lot of shit including sex and love and all that stuff and then she acts like she did tests it now like she detest holding my hand when she used to be so affectionate I don't know but I don't want to overthink it and I don't want to assume shit that's not true I just know I have the discernment and I'm on to something but if they think they can take me down in any way they got another thing coming cuz Papa Jesus Got a Brand New Bag... of old tricks that are refined better than ever remember Elijah was calling fire down on them from heaven after he was calling them out publicly telling everyone why. Hates them and they would get hit with fire from heaven I mean could you imagine it and that's what all the narcissists are there reprobates reppy's I call him LOL

[@deebee4622]

As soon as I feel like someone wants me to be jealous of them my guard goes up and I cease to tell them anything about my goals, accomplishments, etc., especially with female coworkers. Thank you Stephanie for your words of wisdom!

[@toneman335]

When a Narc tries to fill their bottomless hole in their life the attainment of things, power, and people it's never enough and they are never satisfied !

[@izio4408]

This describes my ex so well. But I do acknowledge that I made mistakes in the relationship too. I feel like the problem with watching videos like this is that we tend to generalize and put people in boxes. There are blatant red flags we should pay attention to in any relationship, but we also need to acknowledge that we all need to change, and a narc isn't the sole perpetrator of a toxic relationship.

[@kinseydesignsbrands]

Totally get this! I think any relationship, especially intimate ones, are an opportunity to learn and improve ourselves. It’s those who take responsibility for ourselves- the way we acted and reacted- that are the ones that will grow from a toxic situation.

[@ronelle8066]

No one is perfect. There is a huge difference in being wrong and admitting it, than a narcissist....they are just plain mean human beings.

[@dynomike502]

Yeah issue is I can admit my wrongs, and apologize and mean it. And actually work hard to never do it again, where a narc will blame you, never take blame, never apologize and only will to gain, not because they are truly remorseful for what they did. They don't even feel like they did wrong. They don't go out of their ways to better themselves because they blame the world for all their problems, they are the victim although they victimize the most.

[@brendenchen6472]

We all need to keep ourselves in check

[@maxsmart9116]

No! If you're in a relationship with a narcissist, it mostly THEIR fault. If you find yourself getting angrier than you normally would in a relationship, it's because of the way THEY are treating you. They will try to make you accept blame for things that AREN'T your fault.

[@Shredder-KJ]

She only wants all the goods of a beautiful relationship. No responsibility. No effort . They don't invite you into their lives but wants you to invite her to everything it's either her way or no other way . You try leave she'll reel you back in and start again

[@RedroomStudios]

yep, been through that cycle 5 times in 5 years! well actually way more than 5 times but that was how many times she moved her furniture in and out of my house.

[@drmarcusgeorge]

@@RedroomStudios close that chapter for good bro! Run fast!!

[@topro941]

My ex wife. It's all finally over and I couldn't be happier.

[@adamstampley7207]

Bbbrrruuuhhh, I'm going through this RIGHT NOW.

[@HANZELVANDERLAAY]

@@adamstampley7207 I went thru it last summer

[@georgeyguard2007]

Narcissists have a way of making you still want to be with them some how. It’s crazy!

[@millwallfan06]

So true! Especially when kids are involved. Especially when it was once good. They can hurt you so so bad. But when the dust settles they can worm there way back. And then crash. It happens again.

[@milestorme2]

I never wanted to believe my wife was a narcissist, after the break up I started to see all this , I used to blame myself and think it was me ( I still blame myself) but you and many others have said the same things as in this video , thank you for this . I’m happily single now and slowly healing .

[@EvilSeed187]

Im in the same boat bro

[@theemperor7500]

Hang in there, they really do fuck people up =/

[@brianhoule3219]

Mine was good at it too ! Thank GOD I didn't have children with her or buy my home until after the divorce !

[@stuartlincoln1303]

Give it time, it does get better as time goes on. Micheal & Edmund hope things work out for you guys. I’m well past the stage of being affected. Divorced about 5 years now, financially in a better place after what felt like a very long divorce, lost my house that I’d paid all bills on for 16 years and don’t see my kids much but I’m happier, physically and mentally better off and even back in another relationship with a truly wonderful woman with no narc traits ! Keep the faith and best of luck to all going through it.

[@dogmad6773]

MGTOW

[@AndrielleHillis]

I think we live in a very narcissistic society where every gal is taught that they are totally perfect. Just look at a t-shirt section of just about any clothing store. "I'm not arguing. I'm just explaining why I'm right." or "This is what perfection looks like." Sure, these shirts started out as jokes, but then people started actually believing it.

[@thechimeralife7442]

Andrielle Hillis I totally agree.

[@sabreena1khalick]

Andrielle Hillis agree! "You're totally worth it" beauty cream advert is another one. I can imagine buyers agreeing with it to extremes.

[@DirtyHippyStudio]

Greed. GOod point . Human Culture seems to have a huge foundation with inverted morals and ethics. Society spits out these types like a machine. No spiritual education. Its a miracle and a testament to the good nature of a lot of us that there isnt total saturation,

[@grandoldsoul4691]

oh yeah we are creatures of habit. if we are surrounded by things like that and everyday read the shirt before we put it on we start believing it. powerful. but true.

[@kallehagglund82]

Flashback. About a year ago, I saw a girl in a store with her mom. She wore a "YOLO" cap on her head, and a pink "I love lazy Sunday's" T-shirt. Oh, the irony.

[@chirstianbenn4831]

Never fill a void for a narcissist & steer clear from them

[@mikelind4215]

I wish I would have seen this 6 years ago when it hit KZbin. It’s so valuable and describes a woman in my life spot on. Almost as if she knows her and only left her name out. Great video!

[@johnrodriquez1933]

Oh my GOD. I was so tied up in this girl. After watching this, thank you JESUS I'm outta there with no kids and no ring. 😅

[@theemperor7500]

Good on you :D They're real man

[@GreatGingerBoy]

SAME LOL

[@GreatGingerBoy]

Looks can be deceiving, even with a nice ass

[@iniubongnkanga9390]

I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call [phone] or reach him on WhatsApp [phone] and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later

[@MyRayray007]

John Rodriquez your so lucky 🍀 blessing

[@Jimpopal]

I wish we learned this in school, i needed this video when I was 20

[@Whoinvitedthisnibba]

Exactly why tf do I need algebra

[@bigleo1312]

Jim it need to be taught in school

[@GatorLean]

Jim schools don’t even teach you this shit🤦🏾‍♂️

[@Melbester9]

@@GatorLean For real. I dealt with a Narc and I took Psychology in college and they didnt mention Narcissism at all. Only that it's a DSM-5 and parr of all disorders but don't get in depth. Who would have thought that one semester of General Psychology would actually serve me in my situation with my Ex Narcissist GF.

[@GatorLean]

Melbester9 I feel you

[@simonbennatan8257]

She's a maneater Make you work hard make you spend hard Make you want all of her love She's a maneater Make you buy cars make you cut cards Wish you never ever met her at all Fun song right? YOU'LL WISH YOU NEVER EVER MET HER AT ALL x10000

[@sunnybird4075]

DUDE THATS FUCKED UP BUT TRUE

[@hwanglee3330]

I met two narcissistics

[@BillyRunsShow]

My ex narc hated when I played this song. 😂 Seriously, she said her ex played this song.

[@bobbybero7452]

It’s a song for a reason

[@bobbybero7452]

It’s a song for a reason

[@MetalockieMusic]

This was pretty spot on. Was discarded by my narcissist about 5 months ago and am still recovering. Alot of what you said about insecurity and drama causing was 100 percent spot on. The jealousy thing is interesting in hindsight. I never dealt with anything like it and am in therapy now. I hit rock bottom largely because I had no idea what was going on. I never even knew what a narcissist was until i constantly got called one by her. Do not ignore red flags. Much love to everyone suffering

[@terricaldwell4275]

They mask their jealousy, envy, and low sense of self with a "grandiose image"!

[@ianhallihan3666]

Absolutely correct, trust your friends advice too, they can see it from the start, whilst you get wrapped up in her.

[@jessehutchings]

And they love bad boys with lots of money because they 'see through the facade' (actually, they just think all women are trash and enjoy watching them try but to a female narcissist the qualities of 'their man' plays into their grandiose image of themselves so they deceive themselves into thinking he knows their innermost desires even though he's really just playing along with whatever she says and having fun degrading her and bragging to his buddies about how stupid she is).

[@lrowlands53]

Real narcissists have a personality disorder - it's hard-wired, has neurological implications and therefore pervasive, persistent and completely unchangeable. The biggest mistake we can make is to hold onto hope that they can see the error of their ways and change. This hope ruins lives. It is pointless using reasoning, logic, morals, ethics, etc, to understand them; they are anything but 'normal' (neuro-typical). Just identify the abuse and run, don't look back. Nothing good ever comes from interaction with narcs.

[@alextorres990]

As someone who is not "normal" (atypical, I have autism), I'm not quite understanding. I am able to change my behaviors and my coping mechanisms with therapy and sensory tools, even my thought process has been able to change through out the years to the point where you can't even tell I have autism. I mean I wouldn't say my autism is "cured" by any means, I still have sensory issues that can incapacitate me sometimes but now that is few and far between to the point where I don't even notice my sensory issues (as long as I have my sensory tools). Is it different for narcissists? I've never been one (that I know of) so I don't really know how they think. But why are they so hopeless and can't be taught to open their hearts and lead a normal and healthy life?

[@lrowlands53]

CV B but this is like saying elephants could fly if only they realised they could grow wings. NPD has neurological implications, meaning, even if they were able to resolve their attachment trauma, their arrested development would not change, their diminished capacity to produce oxytocin would not change, their over activated reward system would not change, etc. The neural wiring is either absent or messed up in these circumstances. Neuroplasticity has its limits.

[@lrowlands53]

CV B Sure. BPD seems to be the exception. The mind is a great mystery still.

[@lrowlands53]

ENFP Perspectives I don’t want to be a prick, but have to say while your explication about what causes narcissism is an appealing set of ideas, it isn’t supported by actual research and accounts given by self aware and brilliant diagnosed narcissists like Sam Vaknin. I don’t wish to grind again over what is generally the consensus of psychological research. Please accept that attachment trauma can cause a dramatic flip in the psyche of vulnerable infants, resulting in NPD which emerges in late adolescence. What NPD may present like is akin to an iceberg. It is reasonable that we may struggle for explanations that concur with our current view of what constitutes being human. The problem is, real narcissists mimic normality as a matter of life and death, yet they function internally nothing like that - they are arrested development children in a stolen adult’s body with the drive of a hungry ghost who eats a feast but is never satiated.

[@sonnyk5344]

People with narcissism are into evil doing and lying- thy should be eliminated. They are what Eugenics calls ‘wasted people’ - child like intelligence, deception, manipulation, jealousy. They’re being controlled by Satan.

[@johnk6749]

I never really knew what narcissism was, but I came to realize much too late that I have been dealing with a narcissistic mother my whole life. I thought she was hard to deal with and had some bad, negative traits, but I never put it all together until now. Now I know I am not alone in my experiences. It makes me feel better knowing that I can start taking care of myself for a change and heal from the emotional abuse. Thanks for the help you are giving.

[@aena5995]

I have a narcisisstic mother too,i used to think she was just plain crazy but she used to say that she literally hates me and i dont even bother talking to her anymore , she tries to compare me with her physically telling me i am worthless and just saying negative things to me and whenever i try to prove a point or bring up all those times she said negative things to she would act like she doesnt even remember , she is really obsessed with herself takes pictures of herself ALL the time not even for instagram but just takes selfies everywhere never tries to include me in anything very self obssessed and prefers my little sister over me ,keeps comparing us or praises my little sister all the time she is very insecure and i see those traits in my littlee sister now , she feels better when she brings her own daughter down which is extremely crazy and both my sister and mom are always against me or try to one up me all the time and for a 17 year old gir' l its definetely not fun having to deal with a crazy mom like that , even when we go shopping for shoes or clothes she would buy stuff for herself and my sis not even asking me its just very heartbreaking and she is very childish and i dont know how to deal with her anymore 😣😣 thoughts?

[@CelesteLoveHeart]

johnk6749 m

[@Tarantula_Fangs]

@@aena5995 Omg, how horrible! You need help, find a therapist who can give you advice and help you along your journey. Good luck

[@kwuiki23]

I was the victim of a narcassitic female personality for 30 years of my life. It eventually broke down when she assaulted me and thereafter somehow created a story that labelled me as the "abuser". Everyone socially everyone believed her story because she was a girl and played the female victim role well. I eventually became suicidal after 3 years but she never apologized. I'm sharing my story because I want the world to know that men get abused too. And it's not a trivial matter. But nobody ever talks about it. If nobody talks about the abuse of men an entire gender, I think it's not too much to ask women to think about what their negative behaviours might be traumatizing others and to not just laugh it off because it's a guy your doing that to. I now live a life where I have a tough time trusting people. And she still hasn't taken any ownership for her actions while continuously telling me that somehow I should even though it was a one sided assault (I made sure I didnt fight back). Anyways. Oh and the girl was my sister...and everyone thinks shes a gem still to this day even though they know what she has done. That's the world I guess. 40% of women exhibit passive aggressive violent traits while only 5% of men are physically violent yet it's never talked about. Who is the oppressor exactly. Something to think about.

[@AkiTheLionAli01]

My narcs is firstly my dad , then my sisters and wife and their reletives are enablers and helpers of them. I then was in a 6 year relationship where I stay loyal and loved her but ultimately due to her bpd she cheated on me with a "friend " and during discard she brutally devalued me and insulted me and behaved very rudely.

[@Dointhamostcutz]

It frustrates me to no end how my wife gets away with everything shy of murder because she is a woman! It’s a shame the doubles standards!

[@burnerjack01]

I met a narcissist. Tall, blonde, gorgeous, nice to talk to. I RAN, did not walk to the nearest exit. Smartest thing I've ever done.

[@thatbeauty1376]

Wtf who told u she is one!!! Be bold and trust urself

[@terricaldwell4275]

"I RAN, did not walk...." Lol

[@x35mmman]

How far is this tall gorgeous blonde from Chicago? I am serious John I just thru a crazy Hispanic one for fourteen years and I am now ready to get back into a psycho tall blonde. Swedish? LOL

[@RaferJeffersonIII]

You people are crazy. NEVER get involved if she is a bona fide narc. You’ll end up on a harassment charge if you drop her.

[@trenorman832]

no the smartest thing you've ever done is decided to make that your thumbnail

[@DatKundalini]

Had to cut my mother off about two years ago. It was painful but once she was out of my life things started turning around. I went back to school and I'm almost finished with degree. I'm thinking about my own life and happiness again. My marriage has also improved. To this day she feels very wronged, and to her I'm just the evil male / worthless son who took her grand kids away from her. She put me through hell for 39 years. I hope she finds happiness someday.

[@jorisboulet3619]

dito for two years to!

[@thegirlwhospeaks236]

Good for you! You have finally learned to set what she most wanted to hide from you....A Healthy Boundary!,, keep hanging on to that Angels Wing,

[@jorisboulet3619]

Writing things down also helps alot , im starting to think that I should send my life story in a +- short form to all the ppl what she and i know. like leaving me behind in the car when i was +-10 years old on holiday while they went to a restaurant/opera, or abouth how she a on my birthdays/Christmas always had to make me feel like a failure! Or abouth how she and dad abuses alcohol. Or abouth the violence story's. But shes a covert narc , ….. I could set me up for disaster and who cares? but i care....that other ppl know. been breaking my head for weeks/months…...pfffff

[@txjellybean3772]

KundaliniRising Good for you!! I am having to remove my sister from my life. She has bullied me long enough.

[@jorisboulet3619]

Yeah dont hold on for/by fake morals, even if it is youre sister

[@MrPatvee]

Every dude is gonna thumbs up this one.

[@lazuritekitten]

🙄 she's pretty but focus on the substance, pay a compliment but don't be overtly weird.

[@jonathannewman494]

Wow, she is hitting the nail right on the head and I did thumbs up

[@jonathannewman494]

I'm definitely going to watch the narcissistic mother next

[@johnbrzeczyszczykiewicz5972]

@@lazuritekitten he was commenting on the substance. This comment about the guys thumbs upping this video was about male experience with narcissistic women not about the speakers appearance.

[@jaiseweldon426]

I wasn't planning on it but after you said that I had too

[@jlyda78]

25 years. I have gone back to day one and see it clearly. I gave my youth. I have nothing left. Gave everything and it was never enough.

[@AbhishekJoshi]

I was caught up with a narc girl for a year. I didn't know what love bombing and gaslighting was (you are special, I'm lucky and then ignoring me, talking about some other guy - how cool he is and how lucky she is to have him!!) This was so intense that I started doubting my sanity. I lost self-esteem and self-respect. Call it psychological education...these videos have helped me a lot. And today after 3 weeks of no contact, she messaged me and told me that how busy and happy she was! Maybe she thought that I would be jealous but she lost what little respect I had for her.

[@mac1bc]

These types of people are very popular, especially at work. They usually have management on their side too.

[@lifegoeson6461]

Spot on!

[@viktoriarodney9714]

Yes, they are pure nightmate to work with.

[@michaelalguire419]

Then management is either stupid or they are narsasistic themselves.

[@rohanjarande]

@@michaelalguire419 Generally they are just trying to watch their own ass... Think of a child that forces it's parents to buy/give them shit by raising a tantrum and making a scene.

[@peacejoy8454]

💯

[@kennethmann3122]

Thank you for this. I was feeling like I was the only one dealing with a woman like this. My god this has been a journey. It damages a person's 'own' self esteem: being in a relationship with this type of emotional abuse. Thank you.

[@artemlifemusic7290]

You got this brother, keep your head up.

[@savannasmuaythai]

People recover from depression cause by this abuse when they remember to keep the narc out of they’re life, just remember to stay away and focus on yourself :)❤️ I’m feeling much more like my old self already and the world feels like a much safer place! 😅

[@rielrelacion7566]

Same here..

[@youflatscreentube]

She just described Facebook's effect on the general public.

[@toneman335]

The female Narc don't know themselves but they are Masters of demonic, evil manipulative behavior with no integrity.

[@esperanzavibes2368]

@alan sullivan I am a Christian and I completely agree with that statement

[@southbound2081]

Integrity Never goes out of style!

[@lorrainewest8377]

You've met my mother then 🤣

[@OCTOBERBABY7901]

Speaking as a female, I know of what you say. I have a female co-worker, who is as you describe to the letter! I have two male bosses. Father and son. The son gets berated by this female EMPLOYEE, and the father laughs at it. The old man is also a narcissist. Talks shit about his son to this female employee and uses it to her benefit. She also gets paid a shitload of money from the old man, and I do ALL the work in the office. She is protected by the father, and the son and I get yelled at, berated, talked down to. Think this is fiction??/Its fact. I can tell you more, but it is a long, long story!

[@jasonreimer4742]

Sumtimes they just need a dick in n there mouth......

[@nickp3949]

My ex was a narcissist. Check this out. She was very religious (she was Muslim), she loved to donate to charity, loved doing “good things” and loved to talk about it. She also loved to say how she was a virgin (this is before we got involved), she never once had an ounce of alcohol, never once smoked a cigarette, never once got a piercing or a tattoo, not even earrings. She loved how “pure” her body was. Perfect features, it really was incredible. She was Persian so she was beautiful (looked a lot like Gal Gadot except shorter). She used to carry this little basket that she would use to put fruit in it so she could give it to the homeless. Literally everybody loved this girl. She was an INFJ Scorpio. Very mysterious, very seductive, very sweet and caring. BUT...once I fell in love with her she tortured my soul. Everything from lying, manipulation, gaslighting, lack of personal responsibility or accountability, turning everything back on me, torturing me with threats of leaving and coming back, actually leaving and coming back, threatening me with no sex or touching of any kind, throwing things, threatening violence, saying really random and cold things for literally no reason, like “your mom going for a cancer diagnosis is really stressing me out, I don’t have time for this” or “your heart is so loving and pure...I can smash it over and over again”. She would go from being loving and incredible to pure evil. It was like a switch would go off. It really was out of control. It almost killed me. She is what you call a succubus. You’ll have the best sex of your life with the most beautiful woman ever, but you have to sell your soul to do it.

[@ashl8804]

@Nick P She was a Jezebel. They want your soul. Dark and deadly. Hope you find true love. Sorry for what you went through.

[@Zultzify]

More men need to hear a perspective like this so they know how to dust themselves off, lace up their boots and get back into the dating pool after a few months when theyve recovered from the situation properly (this typically includes some binge drinking and hitting the town with the boys if youre in shape. Doctors orders!) The biggest mistake you make is blaming yourself or just the other person. Life is difficult sometimes, we all have to juggle so much now. Its much better to forgive whats out of your control at times if you genuinely out every ounce of your free time into trying to improve those skills yourself. Life really is how you look at it more than filling others mold of what they want you to do. I still struggle with at times interpreting good advice as backhanded compliments. Egodeath is a very important part of life.

[@htpeck91]

Sorry man. Just came back from a 4 month stay with a cousin Scorpio. Narcissistic Psychopath. The problem with Scorpio is always seeking revenge. If they are insecure so always feel slighted, watch out.

[@David232x]

She wasn't INFJ, people of this personality types aren't passive-agressive and manipulative at their worst, instead they become unempathetic, cold, confrontational and direct Based on what you described she was either xxFP or xxTJ dunno about Scorpio thing, but I am very confident about the above

[@nickp3949]

@@David232x She was INFJ, I used to think she was INTJ because that’s what she originally thought she was, but as time went on and I got to know her, I realized she was actually INFJ. She was very Fe oriented, she was very warm and soft spoken, and she understood people’s emotions very well. Also, my brother’s gf, who was also an INFJ, had a very similar vibe to her. You could feel the deep emotional inner world coming off them.

[@lauramatherne1049]

I was involved with a narcissistic abuser. I've been watching these videos and you say narcissists take the best care of themselves, then that they don't. I've dealt with narcissistic abuse much of my life and I don't want pity. I want them, the total strangers, and all narcissists to STOP. They've made it look like I'm the narcissist. They're trying to make me kill myself. I started reacting badly to it, being triggered by their lies and projections. I appreciate all of the good advice on how to deal with it. It's easier said than done when you have cptsd from decades of narcissistic abuse.

[@jonathanmoore1868]

I finally left my narcissist GF (we shared a house... her house) I was with her for ten years of abuse. When I made the decision to go, she said she was sorry and cried and tried to look all innocent - playing on my sensitivities like always. I remained detached and neutral. Then as I just sat there looking at her with a poker face, she told me she had met someone... "of course you have" I thought. She was always searching and scanning the room for "him", you know, the good looking guy who would want to jump her bones. She paid 0 attention to me whenever we were out. I stopped going out with her because I knew what would happen. I slept in my car a lot and just didn't want to go home to more f-ing problems.

[@RedroomStudios]

holy shit! I had the same sort of experiences but never slept in my car. we slept in different rooms a fair bit though and it was my house. and yep when we would go out for dinner or to parties she would zero in on the hottest guy even if he was married and give him all her attention the whole night. she would blab on endlessly about her kids as if she was the only person on the planet who ever had kids and make an absolute fool of herself. then when we left she would yell at me for flirting with other women! absolutely zero self awareness!

[@travis6694]

The most I can relate to that stuff was always being ignored when out in public. It was like I was a ghost tbh. Made me feel so bad about myself. And last week she tried to come back into my life. After 7 months.

[@fatboyslymShaddy]

Worst mistake ever! Her house, covert narcissist lady? Dude congrats you finally left...

[@donnakreye3716]

Congratulations for leaving. I’m kinda done not saying anything. The greatest favor we can do for our fellow humans is to help each other all these bitches/man whores out. It’s not as tricky as calling out your own narc.

[@mscapri1628]

Glad u made a wise decision.... It's best to end a toxic relationship than to be stuck in one.... That's horrible.... Stay blessed always 🙂

[@shinertaz]

This is not a gender issue but a battle between good and evil

[@vivalospepes1402]

taz maniandevil bravo!

[@vivalospepes1402]

Boreeng Vajay you made some very valid points. But with all the brainwashing going on in the world today I doubt anybody's going to take a liking to what you said. People don't want the truth anymore.

[@vivalospepes1402]

Twala Biscala what you're going through and are describing is my ex female narc. It's all sad

[@vivalospepes1402]

Dark Caesar it is pretty much at simple .. it's also called free will

[@DavidAKZ]

I do not subscribe to that theory either. But unfortunately , it it was to be true , it would explain a lot !

[@stephenhymesjr.9996]

It was the worst year of my life emotionally. No matter what I did, she would find a way to start a fight. Then, when I would try to adapt to her wants she would still find ways to fight. Tear me down, minimize my love, minimize my worth. Finally I just couldn't do it anymore. I realized it was her not me.

[@timg6176]

Often times they start fights so they can go out and cheat. If she was doing this everyday that's probably the reason.

[@mattblom3990]

My recent ex did exactly this. She'd fight and say I wronged her over ANYTHING.

[@stephenhymesjr.9996]

@@timg6176 100% man. I guarantee she was

[@stephenhymesjr.9996]

@@mattblom3990 I feel your pain. It was awful. Can't believe I even tolerated it that long

[@RedroomStudios]

yep - nothing is ever good enough for them. love to fight over the slightest thing, even if that thing never happened but they imagined it! no way you can ever win that argument when the other person is arguing based on a delusion!

[@i4L_Podcast]

Very well thought out. Was broken up with by a partner of just over three months last year who, I thought the reason was that I had inadvertently triggered past trauma she hadn't been completely forthcoming about. However, as a retired counselor mysel, it really messed with my head since there were things that weren't adding up or making sense at all, especially with her reactions and what she did after the breakup, isolating her friends from me by hinting about “emotional abuse”, saying “it got physical”, really hurtful stuff. I fell so hard and so fast for her which I've never done before; I had shared so much of myself and been so vulnerable with her in such a short period of time and could really see a future with this woman. I got completely stuck in self-blame, was worried that she’d continue pushing people away and continue the cycle of self harm, etc. While working with my own therapist and talking with a friend who has been married for 17 years to a woman with a diagnosed borderline personality disorder, I really got to thinking about it and wrote out the things she had said and direct observations I made about her behaviors, how she interacted with others, etc. Suddenly it all became clear. She likely had dealt with actual narcissists in past relationships and adopted some of those same traits as protective factors, but in doing so had become a narcissist herself. When reading back everything I wrote down, it painted a very clear picture. I did send her an email with as gentle a language as I could asking her if all those things sounded familiar and if she had run into people like that in her past relationships, so hopefully it will give her some insight and she’ll be able to make that commitment to work on herself. There’s certainly hope for people with NPD, and I’ve struggled with some of those dark triad traits myself in the past but have protective factors such as a close knit, loving and supportive family, and friends with different educational backgrounds, all of whom will call me out on my own BS when I start going down that road. You have to make that commitment to change though!

[@rmhutchins7]

I, really, enjoyed reading other people's experience to realize that I am not the only one who has a narcissistic wife!

[@mreloo]

40 years with my covert narsicist Jezebel wife....one year awake ..i just cant believe it took me this long to wake up...im so broken physically emotionally, spiritually and financially .... this thing destroyed me...jesus help me....

[@t.g.5058]

mreloo I know it hurts, but don’t be too hard on yourself. You’re awake now, so moving forward you can focus on yourself and make your life what you want it to be.