Signs you lack SELF LOVE (biblical understanding) | with Kamia M.

Hey Family, I wanted to share some signs that you lack self-love with biblical understanding to support!
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0:00 - Intro
1:50 - Why is self-love important.
2:23 - First sign, you don't love God.
3:16 - How do you know you love God?
4:03 - You can't love without The Holy Spirit.
5:33 - What does 'love' mean?
7:30 - Second sign, you don't love people.
9:57 - Third sign, you're not patient with yourself.
10:52 - Fourth sign, you don't like hearing the truth.
12:18 - Fifth sign, you remind yourself of your past.
16:18 - How to practice self love.
18:29 - Outro
#selflove #God #Faith #jesus
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[@inusa3876]

Hello, Your words just saved me from destroying myself and marriage, I realised I don't even trully love my son , am going back to my first love God and learn from him how to love. Thank you so much, may Our Father continue blessing you.

[@KamiaMcWilliams]

GOD IS SO GOOD! You've reminded me that God is a restorer but most of all you've encouraged me to keep going and keep sharing what the Lord has personally dealt with me on in my individual walk. I pray that both you and your family, receive God's love for each and every one of you so that through accepting it, you embrace loving each other but yourselves also.

[@Tmaria-wn3hc]

This is so true because i am so hard on myself and it shows on how i treat others as well i am normally so hard on others too.

[@zariahlafleurpowell7028]

Thank you for sharing... if we are the temple of the Holy Spirit, and man is made in God's image thank you God.

[@corenthia7430]

I’m gonna get up and listen to this everyday until it gets better for me.

[@86Kera]

!!!❤

[@ca6248]

🙏🏻🫶🏻

[@ruthdali8518]

Amen

[@friederikemaragela6363]

Many dont love themselves. God is love. I'm the same. Tell me. Love warns. 1Cor 13 Love does not rejoice in iniquity.

[@helgatanny]

This message is perfect on my journey with God. I feel so unworthy based on my life circumstances. But God is love so I must love myself, and if I truly love Him, I will obey this commandment

[@Ori.ginelle]

Nothing but the Holy Spirit spoke to me through you. Every word was the truth, thank you for being obedient and creating this video for your brothers and sisters in Christ❤

[@KamiaMcWilliams]

GOD IS SO AMAZING! Thank you Lord for making yourself know through the power and work of your Holy Spirit, thank you so much for these encouraging words 🤍

[@britniturner8109]

I struggle to take care of myself. I am a single mom with a special needs child. Each day is a struggle. I know God is with me and teaching me each day.

[@xchorro]

I’m alive, I give God so much thanks for it. I was a mess, I knew I wasn’t myself. I felt and heard people’s judgement towards me, it hurt so bad. I’ve been living with a “time to get them back” mindset now that i’m ‘myself’ again. It was so much pride and anger and honestly hatred i thought was justified but it was wrong and evil and Lord I am so sorry. You had so much grace for me during that dark time I choose today to forgive anyone I felt judged by and to forgive myself for who I ‘was’ back then

[@KamiaMcWilliams]

You don’t understand how much I thank God for this comment, so honest, open and transparent to be able to admit that you had so much pride and anger. And listen, it’s beauty attached to confession. I dealt with the same thing BAD, I wanted to “do people how they did me” and it left me resentful towards MYSELF. Praise God for every level of growth that you find yourself in this season 🤍

[@lilyok6485]

Please how?!

[@marilynnwora3611]

The crazy thing is that even the things that we may dislike about ourselves now or have disliked in another season of our lives, are the very things that draw others to us. I was drawn to you because of your voice, because of the fact that you look like me, and speak in confidence. Thank you for being you and for being obedient. I thank the Holy Spirit for speaking through you and being a voice that resonates with me, so that I can receive His word. May God continue to bless and protect you🙏🏽

[@squirrelm245]

That so crazy because sometimes I would get mad at my husband for no reason because of things I don’t love about myself.

[@Sydonie-po8iq]

Man I needed this , cause I’ve been so hard on myself bruh. Imma just go ahead and focus on having a better relationship with myself.

[@KamiaMcWilliams]

Don’t be hard on yourself. If you’re taking accountability that’s the FIRST STEP that you should celebrate, everybody can’t do that-I know three years ago I couldn’t. Now look at you!? Desiring different! Once you establish a deep rooted relationship with The Lord. Your relationship with yourself will be deep rooted and established ❤

[@xchorro]

it’s so hard not to be hard on yourself it’s so passive too like you don’t even realize you’re doing it. He will restore though He renews our minds 💖🙌

[@Mrs_Garcia21]

Hi Kamia, thank you. As tears flow I have come to the realization I really did not love me. I need to go back to my first love immediately because the enemy is attempting to hold me captive. Thank you for being a helping hand. I am officially joining the family.

[@Daughter_of_God21]

I have finally gotten to a place where I (almost) love myself. He's brought me a long way, but lately, it's as if I've forgotten how to let God love me and to receive it. It's odd, somewhere along the line, I became so focused on loving others that I forgot I need love, too. Please pray for me that my heart will be open to re-learning how to receive His love. Bless you, family ❤

[@Nenej293]

I was here before sister and I lost literally all I had thinking I was walking out scripture. I loved others more than I loved myself. I thought I was having the mind of Jesus and I was forsaking myself. May God bless your discernment of His truths for your life.

[@Daughter_of_God21]

@kiajohnson8726 Thank you, and thank you for sharing. I'm sorry for the losses you faced - if it be God's will, may He restore it back to you in Jesus' name. 🤍

[@KamiaMcWilliams]

We often get off track, but God's love is ALWAYS pursuing us, even with the step you made to even comment that and acknowledge that about yourself says so much to God. Put your focus back on Him and you'll realize His focus is on you, so to not consider loving yourself is refusing His love for you. It can be so hard, especially when you're use to loving others first (I still struggle with it and being a people pleaser) the more you rely on His love, the more you'll naturally receive it. I'm praying for you family 🤎

[@KamiaMcWilliams]

I am so sorry for your loss, and I pray that the Lord began to heal your heart to receive His love all over again, I pray that you began to trust Him more and more, in a fresh and new way even in the midst of heartbreak, questions, and grief His love and mercy is enough! @@Nenej293

[@Daughter_of_God21]

@KamiaMcWilliams Thank you for your words of encouragement, Kamia, and for the gentle rebuke. I didn't think about it, that not loving myself is also refusing His love; that broke my heart to imagine His heart hurt because I don't accept His gift. After rereading that part, I think it comes from a place of feeling unworthy, honestly. I'll be praying for you, too, bless you!

[@wingingitmillennialpodcast5205]

Soooooo thankful for this. I feel the same about the importance of self-love as a christian. I feel I got so worried about what the Christians who think any love for yourself is bad that I wouldn't allow myself to read what was clearly stated in his word. I idolized criticism and opinion and it put God in a box of the angry father love only me and not yourself in any capacity and I think it damaged my personal relationship with him because I allowed others to define that for me.

[@MegM77]

Hearing may have very well changed my life. I pray to God daily and been trying to get my life together as my relationship with God is concerned but now I know why I can’t move forward and it’s because I don’t love myself, which I secretly am aware but have not openly admitted to others. I haven’t forgiven myself for the things I have done and how I have hurt others. I carry weight on my shoulders that went on in my child hood and teenage years with not having a great relationship with my dad and not knowing how to communicate over into my adulthood. And now I don’t know how to resolve issues with friends , I don’t know how to forgive when I feel wronged and I don’t know how to forgive myself. Where can I even start now.

[@laylac9886]

This is my first time coming across your page and the first video I have ever watched of yours and I am at awe of it. This video spoke so much to me and my partner. I have subscribed and joined the family. Thank you Holy Spirt for talking to me through Kamia. Amen !! ❤️❤️

[@KamiaMcWilliams]

Let me tell you, this made my entire day, to see how the Lord has connected us but most of all connected you back to Him through this conversation! Welcome to the family lovely 🤍

[@ayannab1476]

Girl this changed my life. This is so gooooooddddd. Especially when you started breaking down 1 Corinthians 13 kind of love. I forget that we should behave that way towards ourselves. You opened my eyes to so much. Thanks for your obedience.

[@sojournerstewart9678]

Your accent is adorbs!!! I really love this breakdown, keep it up sister. =)

[@KamiaMcWilliams]

This lightened my soul because I’m growing to embrace it, slowly. May God bless you and thank you for taking the time out of your day to sit through it and watch it, I’m thankful for you 🤍

[@beautifulbutterfly2474]

I had to watch this twice. Thank you for your obedience❤

[@KamiaMcWilliams]

Thank you for taking time out of your busy schedule to even watch this, may God bless you!

[@elisabethmfonfu5195]

This video is amazingggggg… the breakdown?? The explanations?? I’ve never heard someone speak & disect this topic like this. See in how much self love connects to Our love for God n others.. so amazing

[@KamiaMcWilliams]

God is so good!!! I’ll get to rambling and be all over the place so I’m thankful that you were able to receive it, God bless you 🤍

[@Victoriaakunyili]

Girl i listened to this in the shower and i don't know if i should cry or what but this is beautiful ❤️ thanks

[@favorsolomon4845]

This is amazing❤️. The point about using 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 on your relationship with yourself is something I’ve never considered, I’ve only seen it as a tool on how to take care of others! God bless you!

[@AudAkos]

This is what I needed to hear. Sometimes I become negative towards myself and struggle with low confidence from past events. These still bother me today but your words have touched my heart 🙏🏽🙏🏽God bless you❤❤

[@XentricMi]

Discipline is the highest expression of Self love, thanks for contributing to this topic, I wrote a song titled Self Love for people on this journey.

[@KamiaMcWilliams]

I am about to go onto your channel and check it out! Thank you for watching and commenting!

[@XentricMi]

I struggle with being comfortable around people, like social anxiety...makes me avoid people in general, plus my trust has been betrayed in the past, so when you say love people, I think you need to describe what that means details. What does that look like or feels like? Because love is an emotion that needs to grow from getting to know people more, but we can't be that close to everyone. So what is this love for people? What are the examples of it's expression and how does it feel? @@KamiaMcWilliams

[@XentricMi]

@@KamiaMcWilliams Thanks sis...leave a comment please Sonia know you've watched it🙏🏾

[@joanstephen7007]

I watched the video because my mom was advising me because she saw I looked ragged and did not look so good and she asked me ' do you love yourself as a person' I was stunned to answer because I never thought of that question and I was shocked to realize I did not love myself like I proclaimed and if I do not love God , how do I love myself then? i want to love God first because I get swarmed by my emotions and get concerned not knowing I did not care for his temple my body well. Thank you, it really helped me!!!!!!!!!😘😍🙂

[@PreciousdaughterofChrist]

I realized that I don’t love myself like I thought I did & this video is helping me. thank you Jesus & thank you so much for this video 🫶🏾

[@celestea_.]

I grew with a lot of self hate when I was younger I still am young though but God is helping me I just have to continue to seek him

[@bunnygirl3357]

The fact that I noticed I hadn't been taking self-love as serious. I thought to use 1 cor 13:7-9 on myself first. This is confirmation that is exactly what I need to do. Thank you

[@KamiaMcWilliams]

GOD IS SO GOOD!!!! Thank you for taking the time to comment and also watch 🤍

[@lolomarie9081]

Thank you this message has helped me today. I have to forgive myself, God has forgave me already

[@michaella-evelyn]

Finally, someone is actually connect the dots!❤

[@VibewithCin]

Needed all of this 🫶🏽 I struggle a lot with self condemnation and didn't have this perspective on it! God bless you 👏🏽

[@kaicampana6405]

I am having a hard time dealing with confusion. I prayed to God to reveal His words and for understanding, since I backslid for 3 years and I have just decided to go back (very hard). I read the verse again when Jesus told His disciples to deny themselves and follow Him then I came across a quote that loving people, and loving life is a reflection of how you love yourself and that is the love the author has been searching for. I told myself I am that kind of person. I love taking care of people, I smile at strangers, I consider my friends' feelings, but then thoughts that I am selfish came up and I felt guilty. I don't know how to align this with God's words as it contradicts what the word of God says. I have so many questions like, how can I biblically love myself and deny myself at the same time? I'm confused and keep praying to God for this clarity and peace. I searched and found your video, and it's clear to me now that I have been doing all that because I was self-seeking in friendships/relationships. I am a people-pleaser. I wasn't considerate because I love people. I wanted them to consider and see me too. I wanted them to validate my feelings when the times comes, so when they wanted advice from me, I was available for them 24/7. I lacked boundaries and my actions were selfish, not self-love. My motivation in "loving" people was to gain something from them such as company, acceptance, validation, their time, and everything made sense. I confused myself with the ability of smiling to strangers with the innate character of being kind. I did that because I feared being negatively perceived. My sense of self started to shake, and I realized that I have been functioning based on my trauma and every action, and Jesus revealed to me now, that in the past, every relationship I had including friendships, failed because I was selfishly loving them. I was self-serving and the illusion is clearing up now. During those times, I didn't love God enough and I wasn't showing them how Christ lived in me. I lost my ability to genuinely love and I let people trample me, became a victim and dwelt in that narrative that I am a victim in every failed relationships and friendships because I wasn’t accountable and responsible of my actions that led to that. God warned me already through my parents, but I took their corrections and advices with aggression and thought that they didn’t know what they were saying. All your points, thank You Lord Jesus, are making sense, because these problems I had with correction, patience, all came from my lack of understanding of how Jesus loves me and so I didn’t love myself enough to take care of the temple, to glorify Him in my peers, my actions, my way of loving, and it hurt people in my life and damaged me threefold. Now, I am unworthy of God’s love and I will never be, and that’s good because that means I recognized that I can only do life with Him beside me. Without Him, I will just keep messing my life and my relationships and I will just go farther away from Hi, which I do not want anymore after living in sin for 3 years, gratifying myself and that is what “deny yourself” meant and it’s all clear now. Praise God for your life, sister. May God bless you more. Thank you for being an instrument of Jesus Christ

[@keshannajacobs6167]

I really needed to hear this! I haven’t been myself lately and lacking a lot of self love. It’s time I start over and go to my first love! God 🙏🏾 Thank you so much!

[@tiya5544]

I found your video after searching for how to love yourself and I am in tears as I'm watching because I really can't and don't love myself.I suffer from a physical disability that has caused me to distance myself from family. My relationship is suffering because of the unhappiness with myself and I was looking for the answer on how to love myself because I don't. And you are absolutely correct in everything you said.

[@KamiaMcWilliams]

I want to encourage you, to not take my word for it but please read The Word for yourself to be able to confirm or disprove what I spoke about in the video regarding self love and what it means to truly love yourself and to be able to love others: from the perspective of the Bible. I’m going to pray the same prayer for you that Paul prayed in Ephesians 3: 14-19 I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that YOU, being rooted and established in LOVE, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the LOVE of Christ, and to know this LOVE that surpasses knowledge-that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. My prayer also is that, you learn to see yourself how God sees you, love yourself so much that you receive His love for you. The fact that you’re acknowledging and seeking, speaks volume and it shows that you have a deep longing and desire for love but TRUE love is found within the One who is Love and that’s God. 💕

[@kimberlysanaa25]

Definitely begins with God. Thanks for providing such rich content and encouragement and most importantly, Gods truth!

[@KamiaMcWilliams]

No, I thank you for your encouragement and for taking the time to watch it! God bless you family!

[@Fancypants52]

This is the video I didn’t know I needed. Thank you. ❤

[@user-vw3mn8zs2o]

thanks be to God for this self love correction, you gave me a clear perspective of me loving myself the way I should and loving others and I do feel convicted and I desire to repent to God for not loving myself, my name is Sherell and I am viewing you from Seattle Washington thanks be to God for you speaking out thank the Lord Jesus.

[@nayelliDixon]

Man this is the best video I have watched in a LONG Time thank you 🙏🏼

[@Dabupa1185]

THANK YOU FOR THIS. Be blessed, Kamia❤🙏🏽

[@trensshawndy9595]

I'm on a self love journey as we speak. New follower I love your channel you Rock gorgoues ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@KamiaMcWilliams]

God bless you queen! I'm so thankful to have you apart of the family, may God continue to be with you on your self love journey 🤍

[@manifestinggyou]

your calmness and ur vibe is soo gud i love ya

[@latoya1153]

This really blessed me so much. Most definitely a vid I will refer to over and over.

[@kickroxanne]

This video is everything. Thank you so much and may God continue to bless you !

[@brittanymarshall7621]

Thank you Kamia!! Three of the signs spoke to me. I am ready to fully love myself and most importantly love God more. God bless you for blessing others! You have a new subscriber in me!❤🙏🏾

[@kristian6633]

I was so depressed until I started listening to you thanks for your encouragement and support.

[@KamiaMcWilliams]

God is so good, I pray that God has continued to pour into you during your season of depression. His arm is not to short to pull you up out of it! I've also dealt with depression and suicide attempts and He saved me from those so I have faith that he'll do the same for you! ❤️

[@AspiringLiftingQueen]

I usually do not comment under videos but I had to today. I have been going through a lot of trials and tribulations this recent month. It has not been easy but honestly, during that time I found myself beating myself up. I stumbled across this video today and honestly was not even looking for it. All I knew was it was meant for me. Thank you for sharing such amazing words today and I pray God continues to bless you to touch many more people and bless your family as well. Thank you.

[@missmorgan202]

Thank you for this ❤You really spoke to me

[@joylenekamara6152]

off topic! you are soo beautiful, face card, hair, skin tone! First time on your channel, I had to pause the vid to check if you had a haircare routine. GLORY BE TO GOD for your beauty! okay let me get back to the video haha!

[@KamiaMcWilliams]

Thank you so much for this beautiful comment! Now I don’t have a hair routine video but, I usually wash once every 2 weeks and then just coil my sides and curl my top with my demibrush and fingers using auntie Jackie’s gel and then donna's recipe (condition, leave in, oil, styling creme and shampoo) 🤍 and over time I’ll just unravel the coils until my two weeks are up

[@sarahacosta7889]

Wow , I relate to this soo much and it was soo spot on. This has blessed me. Thank you sister 💜

[@Miriam-xm7gl]

Im so thankful to God for recommending this video to me! This was very helpful. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us

[@MrsBrown2021]

😢❤ I received every word! Thank you for this video I needed this

[@itssricaa96]

First time viewer ! Thank you for this video. New subscriber ❤️

[@robynelam1570]

I needed this today. Im on a road to self love so i can love others as well. It takes time, and anything that takes time takes patience. I love that you didn't sugar coat anything in this video. ❤

[@mommmasavvvy]

This came right on time. Thank you so much! ❤❤❤❤ thank you Jesus!

[@shannonshanamorgan9684]

Amen, sister ❤️

[@Daniela-ub5tq]

Thank you for this! I needed to hear all of this. You’re spreading the right message and I’m so happy I was led to your video. Thank you!! Have a great day

[@sandracrump]

This is such a inspirational video! Thank you for talking about this! I am encouraged! ❤

[@user-qo1kz7gq2n]

great analogy between boundaries and the ocean - love that !

[@corenthia7430]

This just saved me. I lack the ability of be patient with me or myself

[@noh3ly333]

Wow thank you for allowing the Holy Spirit to speak through you!! Needed this! 😢❤

[@renishataylor6684]

Giirrrlll you alll in my business 😢😢😢 the truth really does hurt but Lord knows I needed to hear this! New subscriber…. Thank you sister in Christ 😊

[@originalx8189]

This is really insightful, thank you🫧💗

[@sherrysunshinefreeman3434]

Amen. Thank you for this message. God bless you sister!❤😊

[@aunistis.8648]

Thank you for sharing!! 🤍

[@danielleallenyoung7992]

This was good. Glad to connect. I just subscribed. I found you on threads. Kingdom blessings 🙌🏾❤️

[@fopeolufala9651]

Thank you very much! I really needed to hear this💕

[@KamiaMcWilliams]

God is so good! I am so glad it was helpful!💕

[@ali-mj3ty]

i absolutely needed to hear this, may GOD continue to speak through you. this was so beautifully said. GOD i surrender all that i am to You. and may GOD continue to do HIS good works in us all. all glory to GOD AMEN!

[@yvettegordon1202]

Thank you beautiful sister! God bless you!🙏🏽❤️

[@Myrasroom]

You are spot on sis❤ God bless you

[@gibellycarolinaverdirojas7162]

Thank you sister, the words of GOD trhough you, have opened my eyes to see that I am not able to conquer the enemy of my soul, because of my lack of self love. GOD bless you and keep you and your family, keep up the good work. May you keep on growing in the grace and the knowledge of who GOD is.❤

[@user-ns4td1tv2v]

Wowwwwwwwwwwwwwww you did that! This was worth it !!!

[@innocentmodiba3932]

Thank you so much for this video, I have been crying so much, this was for me, may God bless you, I feel something has broken in me

[@hugostevenson7158]

Your words spoke very true to me. Thank you Kamia.

[@akomacreates]

This was an amazing video thank you so much for this. This is my first time watching and I plan to watch more.

[@jenniferdaniels5113]

Listening to this daily during this week.... God bless you!

[@jadawilson2983]

This video was truly sent by the Lord for me. Thank you so much, God bless you gorgeous💗✝️

[@thereallexxmarie]

Wow, this is exactly what I needed. The Holy Spirit is speaking to me through you because I’ve been going through most of all of this lately, for months. God is sooo good, he just answered my prayers because I been needing to understand what I’ve been going through and feeling and thinking. Thank you so much for this video.

[@autumnross9843]

Thank you for this message my sister in Christ! 🙏✨I’m on my self-love journey and I didn’t grasp this in my Christianity the way that you just helped me to. Thank you ☺️

[@FtCastano]

Amen ❤ be blessed sister! 🙏🏾

[@josswilson659]

God Bless You, thank you for this

[@Mariana.831]

Such powerful words. Thank you!!

[@user-fk3gr9pv1p]

Thank you I needed to hear this ❤

[@naonao77090]

Amen. Thank you!

[@tierraa.9252]

I needed this video, thank you ❤❤❤

[@cecilywhite3]

This was really good!❤ I enjoyed how you broke it down from a biblical perspective ❤

[@Galgal999]

What an anointed message! Bless you for blessing me today with such a reminder that I didn’t deserve forgiveness therefore I definitely should be forgiving others!

[@walkbyfaith712]

Thankful for this message the very thoughts I was curious about

[@jilli813]

Thank you for sharing. So encouraging! 🙏

[@onlybnichole]

This really blessed me. Thank you for sharing

[@user-vw3mn8zs2o]

I made some errors and I meant to say you gave me a clear perspective of me not loving myself the way I should thank you Lord Jesus for this correction, I desire to be right with God and love myself and loving people better.

[@The_DeeWilkins]

This was an on time message to get me back on my square.. Thank you

[@beautifuld1146]

This was truly a blessing. I definitely needed to hear this message. Thank you, Jesus and Thank you Kamia.

[@Therealfabi]

Oh yessssss Go Jesus!!🥰🥰

[@taywright6125]

You’ve truly opened my eyes in a way I can’t explain. Thank you for this thought provoking reminder; I was listening to it while dropping my kids off to school. It helped me in this moment to be more patient & passionate. I will continue to move with the spirit of love.

[@bigderock2613]

You definitely open my eyes getting emotional I have no self love I have every sign that I don’t there’s a lot I got to work on but I’ll work on it with God thank you so much for the realization and helping me wake up thank you

[@sisteroflovea7215]

I’ve been speaking on this for sometime, I’ll be speaking on this at my women meeting, Awesome word Sis ❤️🙏🏿

[@floydhudson3287]

Great Message! Amen! Made My Evening Feel At Ease! GOD Bless You! 💙💙💙

[@kindlybritt]

This was so good and needed for the soul! Thanks and may we all do better at loving ourselves! ❤

[@LeadingLady1.]

Thank you so much for this, Queen. It was very necessary, in Jesus name ❤

[@moeemooniiyyy8024]

Amen