Happily Friended with author Rhaina Cohen | A Bit of Optimism Podcast

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@mischake 4 ай бұрын

Ooh! The first date thing: i never ever ask people out who i don't know... never come at a stranger with the intent of dating. I only ever make friendships and see if they may evolve into romance over time.

@marnamiller9773 4 ай бұрын

I only got involved with people I had multiple connections with. If you marry a friend 🧡 it lasts. You work through things together and you love and like them. You forgive yourself for your part of the problem and forgive them for being needy or or unsatisfied. Find your own fulfillment.

@geemail369 4 ай бұрын

Great attempt! 👌🏻✨

@mischake 4 ай бұрын

@@marnamiller9773 how can asking a stranger out ever compete with this?

@KateUpton-ke1wy 4 ай бұрын

😂

@pickupwisdom13 3 ай бұрын

That makes sense

@mischake 4 ай бұрын

Me and my partner of 7 years broke up. The first 3 years were great, we never fought, and meanwhile we stopped having sex and I felt like a burden for having needs and desires. Towards the end of our relationship it got pretty bad at times between us. Finally we broke up, and we said lets just be friends. And i took her up on that offer, took it serious, and when we started hanging out as friends it felt like puzzle pieces that never fit finally fell into place. And we are for another 8 years now actually best friends and going strong.

@karendavidson6178 4 ай бұрын

Loved it!! Finally an open discussion about a topic that is relevant for so many people but is rarely raised, and in such candidness! Thank you both for opening the path for another 'friendship' concept 🙏🏻✨

@gsa76 4 ай бұрын

Very refreshing as I struggle with this too. It's too limiting and taxing to have your spouse expected to be EVERYTHING to you. As a man, I have several female friends that have come to be close and always ended up awkwardly because of the societal expectations. We need more words to allow the broad range of relationships.

@NPSvideo678 3 ай бұрын

Too true

@pickupwisdom13 3 ай бұрын

This is an interesting point

@AkeSatia1 4 ай бұрын

Someone once said everything comes at a cost. Indeed! :) Marriage is an intimate merger, and successfully merging two entities requires alignment, discussing boundaries, and redefining ways of operating. Most would find it strange for a married woman to go to her hunky running back friend's house at 8 pm and return home at 4 am, expecting her husband to be unbothered. It might have been something she did in her single days, but now, as one of two in a marriage, her husband's feelings and opinions matter and best be considered. Marriage is not an entitlement or a requirement for living. It is an honor when one prepares themselves and chooses to share their heart, mind, and body with another - for a lifetime.

@harmonylifewithjess1593 4 ай бұрын

Friendship for sure is foundational, like raising kids 😊

@pickupwisdom13 3 ай бұрын

well said

@highticketclosers 4 ай бұрын

As you change , those friendships may no longer work but you can still appreciate and value them for what they were to you at that time.

@pickupwisdom13 3 ай бұрын

That makes sense

@marnamiller9773 4 ай бұрын

Having same interests and causes fulfills deeper connections.

@highticketclosers 4 ай бұрын

Couldn't agree more

@estelaguidote3658 4 ай бұрын

Friendship is built through time and space. Expectations and disappointments are inevitable. There’s only one way to find out if something will work out or not, it’s getting into such a relationship, whether friendship or more than friendship. You have to be in it, otherwise, you’ll never know what will happen!

@KarlosEPM 4 ай бұрын

I have several of those angels in my life. Lucky me. 😊

@pickupwisdom13 3 ай бұрын

You're funny bro!

@ahuseynzade1203 4 ай бұрын

The problem in the US is that people think you need something from them, that's why they don't want to have close friendship. Most of them use you for while you are around, after they disappear because they got what they want. Overseas, we have friends because we enjoy each other company, we can talk for hours, we can see each other almost every time we have. Here in the US, people are thinking about priorities, and if you are not making money for them, you are not their friend. They would rather struggle alone than share they day with friend. I think that's why a lot of people have depression, anxiety, and struggle with their life. Unfortunately, that is what I came across while living in the US. I hope one day it will change.

@gemmadupont8352 4 ай бұрын

I call it like at first sight with friends who are very close.

@gemmadupont8352 4 ай бұрын

My best friend and I joked about marrying each other platonically.

@NPSvideo678 3 ай бұрын

@@gemmadupont8352why do I sense the term “platonic marriage “ for you? LOL

@OlgaSunny-pl2sg 4 ай бұрын

Just like in Western countries 30 year old non married women doesn’t live with her parents is considered abnormal same as in Europe, Asia, Middle East a successful, educated, self sufficient single men who is not married in their Middle Ages considered unusual. But everyone lives their own lives and not the life of others. If you choose to live your life a certain way that’s your life and no body else’s.

@lemaskraps7836 4 ай бұрын

Its normal in the nordic countries (besides some few religious people) to be a unmarried woman who lives alone.

@OlgaSunny-pl2sg 4 ай бұрын

If you look at the statistics majority people who immigrate to other parts of the world from Nordic countries belong to some sort of religious denominations such as Orthodox Jews, Evangelical Christians (Baptists, Pentecostals, Seventh Day Adventists, and others), Jehovah’s Witnesses, Ukrainian Greek Catholics, and members of the Ukrainian Autocephalous Orthodox Church.

@aliciagc2539 4 ай бұрын

You can’t always find your partner or spouse through a friendship. How limiting. I met my husband of 13 yrs (together 15) through a dating site. We are going strong and are best friends. Be open, be genuine, take risks. Love and be loved.