single & alone at the end of my 20s (let’s talk about it)

Single at 29...and everything I've learned about love throughout my 20s. Let's talk about relationships, growth, and the pressures of turning 30.
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[@imtaramichelle]

here's to my single girls!!!!! let's talk about the things I've learned about love in my 20s ❤

[@katherinelee7460]

Thanks for being the best big sister !! Lots of love 🩷🩷

[@gwenellison5386]

I'm 54, married in my 20's, divorced in my 30's. What I can tell you with not a trace of doubt is it is so much better to be alone than with the wrong person. I'm single and fine with that. If I meet someone yay! if not, I'll be alright. No more bad relationships for me. =)

[@itsjanetlee]

i love that! live the peaceful life :)

[@Jindarella_]

Me too, putting the energy into someone that can't put in the minimum is no longer happening. I'm okay with being alone, I hope it's not forever, but so be it if it is. I enjoy a peaceful life 😊

[@littlerivercottage8558]

Amen to that

[@Mindyhartwick]

I could have written this myself. Same age, married at 21, divorced at 31, been in relationships off and on, but never remarried.

[@TheMintoncynthia]

I love this so much thank you for sharing🥹

[@eerinoneil]

"you do not expire at 30" PREACH 👏seriously so so true!

[@mbb05jb]

you just hit the wall

[@eschalle89]

“Love is not enough” is such a powerful line, but also so true and important for women to remember ❤️

[@lo_barry_]

Before meeting my husband I always thought, “once I meet the one I’ll finally have that last piece of my life complete.” I look back and laugh now as life is forever evolving and one moment friend relationships are good and then they aren’t or work or family. I realized you have to find peace in the current moment and it’s okay for things to constantly change.

[@danichvste]

I’m 29 and I just ended a 7 year relationship with the person I thought I was gonna married. It has been a very difficult 3 months but watching this video gave me hope. Specially to start living life for myself and start giving all the love I gave to that person towards myself. Starting my 30s not as I thought I would be living them but I do believe the universe has better plans for me. Thank you Tara for always being such an inspiration ❤

[@winterglow000]

I’ve learned that when you really love someone the “honeymoon phase” never ends! Any time my husband and I are apart I always get butterflies and the biggest smile when we reunite even if he’s just coming downstairs to help me with the groceries! Also I was single for a long time and never felt it took away from my happiness 💕

[@rera5421]

I got married in January 2020 at the ripe old age of 43. I was comfortable, independent and never thought I'd ever meet a guy I'd want to marry. He came as a complete surprise. So enjoy your life Tara what's yours will reach you. The right one will come at the right time.

[@adriennehilll]

I love that you know your person is out there but in the meantime you’ve chosen to love yourself so much and build so much success for yourself as well ❤ loved this entire vlog girl

[@laurenbanaga8337]

Tara, I’ve followed you for 8 years. And I’m currently a 31 year old single mom of 4 boys. I finally left my toxic relationship because i realized I deserve to be loved the way I want….. and there is someone out there who will love me exactly that way. Regardless of what I have in my life. I’m so happy you shared this vulnerable of a video.

[@charliefinn319]

32 year old single Mom of 3 here. I left my toxic marriage not too long ago! We've got this. We deserve better and to heal 🩷 I hope you find happiness in life!

[@lasvegaskillers11]

I was 29 when I met my husband, and I am now 54. I wasn't in a hurry. I loved living alone and still to this day I enjoy my own company. ❤ You are right in everything you say, Tara!!!

[@nickihaylon4244]

I started dating my forever person at 30 after being single for like 2.5 years. I enjoyed that single time so much and felt so ready and so confident in who I was, and that's why I feel like the stars aligned when they did! There's absolutely no rush, and it's always better to wait than to settle!

[@mala890]

I'm 65 and was going to give you all kinds of advice, but girl, you've got your sh!t together just fine. I truly believe that if you're not content and enjoy yourself, you'll depend/expect a partner to fulfill that. And that's not a partners job. When people say, "I'm bored, or there's nothing to do." I cringe. You've got to make an effort. There's a whole world out there. There's hobbies, interests, friends, self care, fresh air, cozy home, etc. You're a smart young lady who has a lot to offer Tara. All these dates and relationships taught you well. You know what you want, and you're not settling. You'll get married someday, then people will be asking, "When are you having kids?" LOL ❤

[@chamchamcham5051]

Am I the only one who can’t seem to focus on the vlog because im being mesmerized by tara’s beauty with dark hair. I just can’t get enough of it

[@musicfan2403]

I LOVE this message. Romantic love is not the only type of love. Self love is super important. Having family/friends who care about you is super important. There’s a lot more to life than having a SO/spouse.

[@SouthOfTheBorderQueen]

I'm almost 44 years old, never been in a relationship and I use to envy my friends who got courted and into relationships, then married in their 20s, now a lot of them are either divorced or in the process of it, and I realized that there was nothing to envy there, you never know what's inside a relationship, so better to be alone, than with a partner and feeling lonely.

[@kellykohler-dj9em]

Tara you are so wise! Lived the challenge myself and didn’t find my person until I was 31. He is 5 years younger than me , so at first I ran away from the relationship. We’ve been happily married for 28 years. 🎉

[@wydjoseph4669]

wait tara why did this pep talk actually make me feel sm better rn 😭

[@littlemissliinda]

i absolutely love this style of video because you’re still giving vlog but more structured and i love it! ❤️ i feel like you’re the happiest you’ve ever been, and it shows!

[@fanylu_go]

Thank you so much for sharing! Your content as a single girl in her 20s has helped me so much. I went through a breakup last year. It was unfortunately a very toxic relationship but around the time I was healing from my breakup I reconnected with your content and it has truly helped me so much 🥰

[@jennafitzgerald2389]

You’re so well-spoken and I love hearing about your growth!

[@jcolorguard123]

Wow I needed this. I’m turning 30 and I’m just like am I doing something wrong. But it’s nice to see that other people feel the same way.

[@lisamore8290]

I'm one of your older subscribers and I love everything about this video! You are absolutely right, you do not expire at 30. In fact, each decade in life just gets better! I am 51, single & have never been happier! Loving yourself & enjoying spending time with yourself is key.

[@andrearicolife]

Tara, I genuinely want to thank you for this video, it’s one of my favorite! I felt like I was listening my big sister. Thank you so much for this video💕

[@crazy1234573]

I am a single girl for now!! I didn't realize how sad I was in my last relationship until I ended it. It was so hard, but the best thing I could have done. He was very emotionally abusive and never wanted to see me happy. Everyone needs to take care of themselves first. Happiness comes from yourself. Hope everyone finds true happiness ❤

[@easnider]

I swear your content just gets better and better ❤

[@lilyashtree]

I love this series and I love the self love talk 😊 your advice can apply to people who are in relationships as well. I think it is important to spend time with yourself and work on yourself. Just because you are in a relationship does not mean you have to stop the self love. Go on dates with yourself, do something by yourself for yourself. Those things are still important. Thank you for making this video, it made me realize a few things I need to work on. Please don't stop sharing what you love to share. This was probably your best idea yet as far as videos. They without a doubt brighten my day when I get that notification. So thank you, and never stop being you.

[@artbyemmafleming]

I LOVE this vlog!!!! Thank you for your vulnerability and wisdom Tara. Your love for yourself and your life is so inspiring

[@hayleeperry]

You hold yourself and relationships to higher standard. You know exactly what you want a deserve and that perfectly ok. As a 35 year old, wife and mom of 2 boys I live my single life through your videos. Keep doing you love. 🫶🏻

[@esztergloner8919]

Tara, thank you so much for this video! ❤ As someone in her early 20s(almoat 23), who spent months and months last year healing from wounds from a pretty toxic situationship and realizing my worth and all I can give to myself and to anothr people. It was truly a great reminder, that I shouldn't waste my single years and should cherish them as much as I can!❤ wishing you a great weekend!!🥰

[@beah4263]

This was everything. THANK YOU TARA

[@MegaGossipgirl411]

i’m so happy you posted Tara. I have been struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts lately and the uploads really help.

[@michaelajarosiova3375]

So proud of your growth and journey Tara 🫶🩷

[@trtlduv07]

Girl love the darker hair on you! Looks great! Awesome video as always! You always have such great reflections about your life! 💗

[@AbbieBabsGrace]

I’ve been watching your videos since covid times and am really inspired by you ❤️ I’m 27 and recently divorced and hearing you talk about all the people I am yet to meet that I will love made me cry 🥹 I am grateful to have a single friend/older sister like you!

[@carolinepeters323]

I am so glad you posted this. I honestly have started to enjoy being single and know it’s better than settling. But sometimes I feel guilty for feeling that way also! Love this video ❤

[@Jasminemusic5]

I can vouch for what you speak Tara. Being now 27 almost 28 I have reflected on past relationships and it’s so crazy how my perspective has changed for the better.

[@marspon]

Your ted talk on love moved me to tears😭 I just turned 25 so to hear this was such a great reminder, i love you Tara seriously.

[@jamierenae3833]

My favorite quote is “Alone doesn’t mean lonely” ❤

[@lakeesha_444]

Honestly really needed to see this video today! I just turned 26 and I’ve been single for 5 years because I was so stuck in this toxic situationship and not I’m ready to move on. And seeing this video showed me that it’s okay to be alone and enjoy being with myself. Just watching u grow and do things alone makes me feel better about being alone myself. So thank you and I love you❤

[@dazeoff9400]

I really appreciate your openness and willing ness to share with us! It really is making a difference 💕 also I really see the effort you put into filming and editing this video! Good job it was so good ❤

[@makeupbyAC13]

Love you so much Tara and love this video definitely needed to hear this ❤️

[@eightsisee]

Loving your outfits and new hair color! and glad you had a nice day and hopefully a wonderful weekend!

[@elizabeth4614]

Never settle. So glad you have that wisdom at such a young age and are sharing🩷. Loved the vlog

[@sugadoll52]

Needed this today. Thank you 💜

[@erinmelia]

I admire so much that you're willing to put yourself first and wait. I see so many women settling with what they have so they don't have to start over again (and can stay on the "timeline" for marriage and kids). My Mom was in a toxic marriage for 30 years. He walked away one day and now she is stronger, healthier, and happier than ever. Wishing you the best on your journey!

[@jessie11396]

Love this video Tara!!! And explaining the type of loves going through! Literally the toxic love is accurate and the way you describe it is accurate! ❤❤

[@israa915able]

thanks for that talk Tara!!!! I needed that

[@darianlynnS]

I adored this video. Truly such a well spoken, inspiring human, and such a comforting soul for me. Thank you for being you🫶🏻 I made it to the end and I also agree with all the points you made, coming off of a toxic relationship I learned a lot in the last few months that I had to tell myself not to believe in the relationship when in reality it was all trusting my gut so that really hit home. I also loved how you said if I can feel this way about the wrong person, how am I going to feel with the right one, I really liked that cause this past relationship has been really hard to get past. Overall such a good video, and watching them has truly helped me find ways to love myself. Going to start reading over the summer as well! Keep being you and never change, you deserve the world and more❤️

[@Janettalerose]

I love this concept, Tara! So applicable to everyone, at every stage. I’m 31, got engaged at 29, but due to the pandemic and job stuff, had to postpone our wedding. But I’ve realized that we all have different timelines. So it’s okay to find love at 21 or 61. You’re the author of your own story! ❤

[@kaitlynmia220]

You have no idea how much I needed to hear that ❤

[@fatash87]

I’m probably one of your older subs 😂 I’m almost 40. Had a lot of love in my life and a divorce, but life is so much better in my 30s than when I was younger. My current relationship is the best one I’ve ever had and that’s after years of self work and relearning my worth. ❤

[@anasofiatajonar8860]

I just turned 25 and never been in a serious relationship, and while I really enjoy my single life, I also feel the pressure and sometimes wonder if I’m ever going to find love. So really needed and loved the whole message of the video. Thank you so much Tara! 💗💗💗

[@elisaerys]

your speech is so empowering!! thank you Tara ❤ you are an inspiration to me ❤❤

[@chloemoses5941]

I’ve learned that love is not hard, unless you make it hard. Once you start to see a pattern in behavior or a lack of movement in the relationship, it’s time to step aside and take care of yourself. It is not a failure if it does not work out like you had previously thought it would. Thank you so much for this Tara! ❤️

[@nicolehernandezvlogs]

Love this video so much! I’m 27 and single and a lot of times i find myself thinking “when is it gonna finally work out for me?” but you said so much in this video that i can relate to and i really needed to hear this! Such great lessons and reminders ❤

[@goldenskal]

Thank you Tara, I needed this ❤️

[@atomicalice0]

Amen Tara!!!!! This is the best message, its so fun to see how similar of a journey we have had in this aspect. Self love is my truest love and i cherish myself every day! Literally getting emotional lmao thanks girl

[@fio6291]

i really really needed this

[@AshleyAvalanche]

PERIOD!! I loved your reflection on your past relationships and how each are different types of love. 30 is NOT old and I hate that society always thinks your life is over!! 😂 ugh loved this chat so much and great advice 🫶🏼 Loved seeing your growth throughout the years 🥲

[@kiwime6214]

I truly loved the sit down chat, thank you

[@olivialeigh752]

your home is so beautiful i love it! im in my mid 20s and i'm not 30 yet, but i relate to this 100%! having a more hard time with this recently but realizing theres a difference between loneliness and solitude, even if a lot of friends are settling down already!

[@muhleekuh]

NEEDED THIS!!

[@krystlerae74]

Thank you for this therapy session 🫡

[@tatianasantiago3948]

One of my favorite vlogs !!!! I will give the same advise to spend ME time and enjoy it to the fullest. Even if you are in a relationship it’s important to take time out of your busy schedule and dedicated to yourself.

[@blbrz8]

Love the reflection on your past relationships & hearing you share the lessons / your growth. I’m recently single and heartbroken but it was me choosing myself for the first time in a long time. There will be love again. Someday.

[@jadevlogs4341]

I love this video and adore you and everything you put out. Thank you! I just got out of a relationship, he was my first love. I could not have come across this video at a better time. Love you girly

[@ashleyeve6641]

I loved this video Tara! I can totally relate. Love your wisdom and willingness to share your experiences. Keep going girl! You’re inspiring❤️😘

[@user-df6md6zn7q]

I love your new watch, Tara! I love seeing that watches are what some women might wear on their hands, and not just nail polish. Happy belated Valentine’s Day!

[@FlaviaSilva-lk5xu]

Thank you, Tara! I have a lot of my friends getting married and I sometimes feel behind them. Your words helped me a lot to understand that I’m not alone with this pressure from society. I can’t wait to meet the right person at the right time!

[@kimwynnobel1830]

Love love love the hair and love that pink sweater!!!

[@michelleguzmanphoto]

Love the positivity and the fun self love activities.

[@cathleenmarie4338]

You go girl! Live your best life!

[@juliachung37]

Great video! I’m in my 30s now but I wish I had your wisdom and confidence in my 20s! I love how you are choosing to value yourself and choosing to not settle for less. Happy Valentine’s Day ❤

[@yolandahoward1099]

Bravo Bravo Tara👏 This was such a well put together, vlog. Thanks so much for your candidness. I enjoyed,and agree with your chats on love.

[@cheyennewoonsam]

this was so well said Tara! Loved this video! :)

[@andreabryant1131]

so true love yourself ❤❤❤ first, that is important, tara!! great advice, love ya babe!!!

[@ximenaperez630]

I loved watching you, sending you lots of love and I hope you get everything you wish for in life 🩷

[@danielamurillo8933]

Thank you so much for this Tara, im 32 and the pressure its heavy…im here thinking im gonna be alone forever.. but its true to just enjoy myself ❤️❤️

[@cashira55]

Thank you for this video. I turned 30 a couple weeks ago and ended my relationship a week before my birthday. It’s been really difficult but I love this perspective and it’s given me hope that I can learn to be happy alone and I will my the right person in time.

[@brynolivia1634]

I've been here since your first studio apartment in LA when you were still at FIDM. It's so amazing to see where you are now and look back at where I was when I first started watching your videos

[@Gosia9585]

Beautiful video shots of you cooking ! I looove to cook and bake and I really enjoy watching others during that process - the food looks amazing as always ❤ And as for the main topic of this video I definitely felt the pressure of having everything figured out by 30 - I got married at 21 and I had a kid just last year after almost 7 years of marriage - and omg the amount of questions I got about why I didnt have kid earlier is just crazy - the society pressure is so real - but everybody has their own timing - I am very happy that I got to focus on my career and traveling for couple of years before having kids - many people didnt understand my choices but whatever it is not their life - you are doing absolutely amazing things with your life Tara ! : you have great family, friends, career, house and you are traveling a lot - you should be very proud of yourself - and you definitely deserve a great guy and I know you will find one - but remember you are completely perfect by yourself - i need to sometimes still remind this to myself - no matters what happens in our life we need to love ourselves and treat ourselves as best friends ^^ because we freaking deserve it Ok that is it from me today Totally too long for a comment but oh well xD Have a great day girl !

[@alyssamaria7057]

girl i love your videos about being single, as a single girly i can totally relate and love love this content. please keep it up :)

[@kimberleyaquino4381]

You’re so wise! I looove listening to your talks it always makes me feel better and I learn a lot. I tend to compare myself to other people a lot but the reminder not to is very helpful. Love you girl I’m single too ❤ I do enjoy my alone time to tho it makes me feel good

[@milly9897]

You are wise beyond your years Tara. You live. You love. You learn. You are your most important relationship. ❤

[@trishamorris2085]

As always, I'm back, you're 76-year-old friend. You enlightened me today more than you can believe it you're young age. I got a lot out of what you were saying, but gave me a little more empowerment in my life. It doesn't matter how old I am, or how disabled I am, I can still go outwhich I haven't been doing for like six months and be alone and enjoy myself and I thank you for all your insight today. You are an amazing young lady and don't ever change and thank you for always giving to me personally and empowerment that you don't really realize you're doing have a beautiful day.

[@allisonmechling5235]

So early ❤ always love your videos!

[@Metrasha94]

You’re remarkable woman, so grateful for your content ❤🥰🙏🏽

[@acbrand03]

I loved this video so much. I’m not single but I still found this to be so valuable and enjoyable 💖 thank you 💌

[@AmberLykins]

Been married since 22 and with my husband since I was 18. Life and love gets better with age and I’m thankful for that. Self care and therapy is always important to us more then ever in our marriage. I enjoy your channel and I’m also a KZbinr. You’re very inspiring!!

[@chloemonette7427]

When you were talking about your 4 year relationship, I really related sooo much. I was with my ex for 6 years and he was the love of my life but our relationship was so toxic and I put up with so much stuff that I never would now. I learned so much by leaving that relationship and I am so so so much happier now :) thanks for sharing with us Tara, I really feel seen and understood.

[@melanieg9014]

Thank you for this video. I really needed it during this time in my life. I appreciate you sharing. This made me feel better and have more hope in finding love again!!! ❤❤ thank you!

[@AmaniHanna]

Such a great message for women of all ages. Your story is inspiring 🫶🏼

[@rubinakang7419]

You made me cryyyy, I needed to hear this im 24 but already feel the pressure

[@mslisa6824]

Just wanted to say, love the way you do videos these days! More casual random day in the life vlogs of whatever you're doing, but also the more "themed" vlogs like this one, or the reading one in Florida, where we still get to see some of your day-to-day but has a bit more structure to it! Chef's kiss!😘👌

[@nikkimuze]

I love this vulnerability from you!!! Big slayyy. I’m 33 and single and this year is the first year I am truly giving love to myself. Society paints such a big picture that you need to be married and if you’re single by a specific age then it’s a problem. F what society says and what anyone else says. Start loving yourself ❤ well said Tara 🫶🏻

[@xerindavisx]

absolutely lovedddd this video

[@chloemonette7427]

Loved loved loved this video!

[@lindseyandrews2650]

This was cute. ❤ I’m 37 and have just recently learned a lot of the things you talked about today and I had to learn it through therapy. I grew up in an abusive environment so my concept of love was skewed, leading to more abusive relationships. But I’m finally getting things sorted out and I’m happy by myself! I do hope to find love but now I know I don’t need that to feel complete.

[@vanessaciasulli]

needed this 🙏