Sista Explains What Happens When A "White Washed" Black Person Get The Wake Up Call

Phillip Scott reports on a Sista explaining what happens when a "white washed" Black person gets a wakeup call from their friends.

[@mickeybrooks]

We need to stop adopting this “cookout” mentality for outsiders, and be more accepting towards our people like this young Sister.

[@Black_Iron44]

Exactly

[@user-to7up1dl3d]

Right!

[@RonnieMyers777]

Yes because Black Americans dont have any friends

[@yumiko0017]

I agree

[@nonya8193]

This! 💯

[@SuperTillys]

I was the same way, I was the white washed black guy for multiple reasons, I was raised differently especially in the suburbs, and when your like to have deep conversations, about knowledge, history, traveling, different cultures,science or different music, your called white! And we were rejected by own, but then years later, I realized that I was” friends” with Mexicans and Latino’s who were as anti-black racists for years and I tolerated it, because I wanted to be accepted and I was foolish to think that they would stop, because I would never do the same thing to them! But I left all of them and I never felt better, and befriended with decent African American brotha and sistas and I don’t regret that decision AT ALL!

[@usmokndopeordogfood7542]

Well in my experience with white washed black ppl most of y’all are rejected because y’all tend to be a bunch of know it all’s when somebody was trying to tell you whats really going on, that’s why it’s called a wake up call. Yall have white ideology so trying to have conversations with you is like debating a WS, so I wouldn’t just sit there & say you was rejected by your own cuz you literally just said you tolerated the Mexicans & Latinos to be accepted but yet you couldn’t tolerate your own?? Bru you wasn’t looking to be accepted by your own & that’s your fault, because if you was you would’ve eventually found those same group of black friends you have now. You thought everybody that’s black gets along with one another?? Sounds like white ideology to me🤷🏾‍♂️.

[@amehka5416]

I'm glad you said decent black Americans because people act like all black Americans are the same.

[@SeanJonhDiddyPop]

Welcome back brother 🎉🙌

[@Sky-yh3ml]

@@amehka5416yes it’s exhausting

[@leonfrancis3418]

You were never rejected by your own. A small minority of ignorant people don't represent your own. The more we realize that as a people, the better off we'll be. We think and speak as if Pookie and Kiesha are the majority of us, when they are the minority by every measurable metric. Glad to have you back.

[@marcusmajors6196]

So welcoming and accommodating to all other races but our own. Thats been some of our greatest weakness with us as a people

[@dreynolds4883]

Since the days of the Moors smh

[@usmokndopeordogfood7542]

Uh potatoe/potato some of your own ain’t your own so you can’t be welcoming to them either.

[@Jay-jb2vr]

Don't be so accepting of white counterparts

[@lobsterbalelegesse9919]

@@usmokndopeordogfood7542 true to a degree.

[@usmokndopeordogfood7542]

@@lobsterbalelegesse9919 Life lessons taught me otherwise

[@paimei1651]

If you raise your kids in these hostile anti-black environments their mental health will suffer, it's imperative that you teach them about the history of our culture so they have a healthy cultural identity.

[@2bjjones]

We used to call these types oreos. Black on the outside, white on the inside. I have yet to see them try that around some Asians.

[@SeanJonhDiddyPop]

Facts ! 💯 It's one thing to have the means to provide the best for your children . But if you can not educate them of their origines. You mind as well stay in the inner city or ghetto . Cause ignorance is ignorance regardless .

[@Sky-yh3ml]

Teach em Good moral character and skill sets like camping hunting y mas! Ok

[@saonedixon5476]

Yes brother Umar said the same thing. That black kids well suffer self esteem issues and mental health. Being around a bunch of them folks.

[@barriewright2857]

Absolutely correct 👍🏿.

[@tunisiaowens3075]

As a Black woman who attended an HBCU but grew up on the west coast. I saw and befriended Black people from all walks of life. I think we need to work at understanding the diversity in Blackness. Travel, visit other places, try food from other cultures. We have to expand our minds.

[@ms.patriciaheron9061]

Going to an HBCU is definitely a great way to balance growing up in less diverse environments. It teaches you a lot of things for sure ✔️ ! Plus traveling 🧳

[@ChamP10nk1ng]

Beautifully said. I don't feel many Americans comprehend how the black race is so immensely widespread from the Carribean, certain provinces in South American countries, Europe, to even India. Even in religion, many folks still think Moses & Jesus were white 🤣 where it clearly states they were of color. Enjoy life & learn your fascinating roots imo. Black is beautiful.

[@MrHutchiemcfly]

Agreed!

[@polyglot2023]

@@ChamP10nk1ng Jesus was Middle Eastern. So brown

[@nnotof3218]

@@polyglot2023 💯

[@u-n-isurvive3030]

Someone else mentioned that we will praise a non-black person that "acts black", and invite them to the cookout, but won't fw our own people that don't fit the mold 😂. Sad but true. This is how we end up with resentful people like Candace Owens and Ben Carson. We're so busy trying to accept other groups of people that we push a lot of our own most talented and intelligent folks out of the culture by shunning them.

[@stewrobb2329]

Candace Owens made her choice, Stacy Dash made her choice, I don’t go around calling black folks sellout because I disagree with what they say but those two in particular are the very definition of a sellout. When they make their bread being anti black that tell me what they think. As far as “act black” who determines who and what is authentically black?

[@chayo4537]

​@@stewrobb2329yall love moving the goal posts and being politically incorrect when its convenient. "What does it mean to act black? Or who gets to decide what's authentically black" the Contradictory nature and confusion and playing dumb grinds my gears.

[@stewrobb2329]

@@chayo4537 I suggest you look up the definition of what a sellout is.

[@hydraelectricblue]

Yeah I honestly see this BUT Candace Owens needs to get over it. On the one hand. She’s obviously a sensitive person and was clearly hurt. However, harming every single black person as a response to that pain is just messed up. I am really glad people are open to discussing this because it’s something I’ve noticed recently. When I go on tiktok they will let white “accomplices”take precedence over black people who even just sound white washed even if they aren’t. I personally was adopted from birth by white people went to private schools and I’m also biracial. I have spent the last 7 years unpacking my own antiblackness, white supremacy , racism and classism. I constantly call out other biracial people for being ass hats. Because I know we can be and are. But because of how my voice sounds and probably because of my upbringing I sound like I should be one of the problematic biracials. Just based on habit. People expect me to say something antiblack and it just never comes. Because I’m not. I hate white supremacy and whiteness. It’s a disease of the mind. Or they expect me to say “I was bullied and I’m not accepted by either side” Which is complete BS narrative that white people and whiteness make biracial ppl think they have to say for some reason. It’s weird and corny and I hate it. But all that being said. I get harsher scrutiny than a lot of the white allies and it annoys me. It’s obviously never all but it’s happened to me often enough that I’m just glad people are bringing it up so I don’t feel rude voicing it.

[@thewargododin1976]

Hahaha, your people are reaching to be the victims. Black people act like they on everything, they get mad at white women when they get braids, even though braids started with Vikings, hence the name, Nordic braids. Stop with this nonsense, no one else is buying it.

[@maryumlee9892]

Bottom line = never insert urself where u are NOT wanted or valued

[@Hero-and-Hooligan]

Most black community don't value other black person's life

[@pacmiller7564]

Atleast she can admit her faults because many others don't

[@C.S.SpiritualbEe]

It's not a Fault. Being Called "White" is A GODLY STRENGTH!✊🏽✊🏻🕊️💒✊🔥(GOLDEN RULE)

[@C.S.SpiritualbEe]

🤔🤔🕊️💒😂🔥😡😉

[@japhya0378]

She had her N wake-up call.

[@pacmiller7564]

@@C.S.SpiritualbEe You think you used enough emojis

[@AmaAidoo-ts8ws]

Agreed!! She seems young as well . There are a bunch of old fools out here who still haven’t caught on 😮

[@orangesandroses9448]

She will be okay, her eyes were opened for a reason

[@CameliaMoore]

I agree because my parents placed me in an ALL white neighborhood and school district. Then wondered why I had issues 🙄

[@sparklesp9304]

A lot of our parents should've waited to have kids. Children have to have friends to develop properly

[@joybrooks564]

That’s a recipe for problems, as you know..Especially when the child becomes a teenager

[@jhende82]

I still go through at 41

[@julianbeasley2097]

Always trying to assemilate and associate with them is the very mistake of thinking from the beginning that they are your friends..when they are not.

[@Jay-jb2vr]

They never were but black people are easily bamboozled

[@AnitaWashington-jm4lb]

"I don't give a damn about my former man, he can go to where's the sun isn't shinning"!; I don't feel inferior;/; about any human beings on this planet! Because our never ever believe their negative towards black people

[@NoName-up1px]

You're already assimilated...smh

[@BlueberryMuffin-nt7ew]

I was raised in an all Black community but attended white schools all my life. Sadly Black folks rejected me because I played violin/viola, learned Martial Arts, and ran cross country. It didn't help my Dad's family founded and attended the "sell out" Black Presbyterian Church. The rejection hurt the most because very few Black people lived in the area. If you didn't conform to the Black stereotypes then people made your life miserable by either shunning you or attacking you. I'm glad I left that place and broke contact.

[@SeanJonhDiddyPop]

Where was you raised ? In the south ?

[@omnipotent8773]

Man, you can't define your life based off of what young, dumb Ns decide to do. I know. But when you deal with actual Black adults whose growth ain't stunted, it's the best feeling ever.

[@BlueberryMuffin-nt7ew]

@@SeanJonhDiddyPop Yes, suburban Atlanta.

[@Sky-yh3ml]

Attacking I already got 2 same week listing to music in foreign language it wasn’t Spanish nor creole And next thing came was old blk w with ax to grind sucker punch me for like no reason at all!👀 how dare they say BLM I wasn’t raised by u!

[@hoodadventuretv1890]

Same I got looked down upon because my dad taught me piano, I hate nike's, I like to go ghost hunting from time to time, I take sky diving classes, but I just accept being in my own lane, while still loving my brothers and sisters, I just accepted I'm different

[@adriennetamia5645]

I barely had black friends because they were soo mean to me and never gave me a chance . I’ll just be sitting there and I’m laughed at . Like why??

[@sparklesp9304]

I've been there...I moved because of it.

[@adriennetamia5645]

@@sparklesp9304I’m sorry to hear that. It’s great to know that we are not alone. I hope where you are now brings joy and happiness into your life.

[@user-od5sh1ck5g]

Those are called bully’s, and I was tortured and teased as a kid by all white children. No reason for it just bully’s who targeted you. It’s forever damaging. Sorry that happened to you!

[@user-to7up1dl3d]

@@user-od5sh1ck5g Right! Bullies come in all colors.

[@adriennetamia5645]

@@ellenburke3698 growing up. In high school. Til this day at my job 🤷🏾‍♀️.

[@kenhill8272]

I’m so glad that you touched on the topic of black people who are “different” being rejected in our community. It’s a struggle I’ve dealt with since I was young, and I continue to deal with it at 50,

[@sparklesp9304]

Same. I'm thinking of creating a group for people with our experiences.

[@kenhill8272]

Excellent idea

[@ashasun6620]

Different how a black goth person, a black Jeffery Dahmer look alike? A creep?

[@Wlaboy3]

@@ellenburke3698 facts there’s plenty of black people with a similar experience but I never understood black women/men use that as an excuse for why they don’t date in the race when there’s a whole population of black people who had a similar experience to them. Why not date someone like that? Because you hate being black and crave outside validation just tell the truth.

[@empyrean196]

⁠@@ellenburke3698- There’s different subgroups of black Americans. They’re not equally accessible.. Prevalence is a thing. I can’t tell if you’re outside looking in, or inside looking out.

[@ronque23]

I think your advice is very thoughtful and on point. As long as a black person knows they are black, wants to be around other black people as family and protection, who cares if they don’t have the “black” style on every damn thing. But these same people who would reject someone who dresses or talks “white” are more than happy to embrace a white person who talks “hood”. Fine if you wanna do that but don’t call yourself B1 if you’re rejecting blacks who wanna be a part of our culture.

[@AfroAmerican8499]

Well said

[@nonya8193]

My point exactly smh so backwards. They will happily embrace a white person who acts, talks, dresses like a stereotype but will boldly reject and dismiss a black person who doesn't subscribe to Stereotypes. It's sad and annoying. 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@elsatshona9004]

Facts

[@synaptik111]

It's all the parents fault for not preparing their kids for the real world that we're subjected to - plain and simple

[@Chi__22]

True

[@AlphonseWeebay]

EXACTLY

[@taahiramcgee]

You're parents can only prepare you for what they went through not what they didn't. I grew up in the suburbs and they grew up in the hood. Some of the things I went through living in the "so-called" better neighborhood they didn't go through. So what can they tell me. They can't tell me about the psychological conditioning that goes on in white schools. They can't tell me how to avoid getting bullied for braids or for having black girl builds. Now when I sent my son to a suburban school I could prepare him for some of the things he might encounter. Like white girls being after him simply because he's tall and has an athletic build. I can warn him of teacher believing he's dumb if he doesn't perform perfectly just because he's a black boy. These are things I've observed but if you haven't you can't tell it.

[@stewrobb2329]

Like it’s been said parents can only teach what they know, just like in poor neighborhoods a cycle of poverty whether financial or mental continues into the next generation. We have stop trying gate keep the “black” experience as if the African American experience is universal to all African descended people.

[@MissCellanious1]

⁠@@taahiramcgeei knew the bs tactics would be here... and thats total bs. We are ALL aware of issues we didnt/dont have to face ourselves and can teach our kids about them.

[@Gabreya]

This is why we must protect our children and, as you said, Phil, place them in a diverse environment.

[@thadevilzadvocate]

Thank goodness I dont have any kids. I can only imagine what situations parents are in for how would they prepare.

[@CameliaMoore]

@Gabreya Yes I agree because my parents placed me in an ALL white neighborhood and school district. Then wondered why I had issues 🙄

[@devoncarter8813]

Yes diversity environments are usually better off especially if you have kids.

[@DrUmarJohnson1]

@@devoncarter8813 Why not an all-Black space? Saying "Diversity environments" tells us all you don't think highly of Blacks. We're all getting "All lives matter" "Love is love" "Blacks shouldn't receive reparations" vibes from you Devon

[@narutoross1129]

We are a loving culture of differrences as a black people. As long as you do not sell us/me out!

[@papa6bell]

If we are a loving culture, then why are we on the bottom of society? We have a self-hating foolish culture, that refuses to unite.

[@kevinaustin5086]

I dated a girl once who was raised like this in high school. She absolutely adored yt ppl and she trusted and believed in everything they told her. Me being from the "other" side of town, I tried to warn her on exactly how *_"the pinks"_* can really be. She ignored my warnings and even tried to convince me of how wrong I was. True to fashion, the pinks did what the pinks do, and they eventually showed her how little they really cared about her. Her love grew to hatred, and to this very day, almost 30 years later. She's still really scorned by the whole ordeal.

[@judyd8310]

Story of my life

[@kevinaustin5086]

@@judyd8310 My heart goes out to you baby girl! Stay strong!🙏🏿

[@Rareone101]

I respect different I don't respect someone not loving who they are "ethnicity wise "

[@user-to7up1dl3d]

Right! Same

[@jaymz010]

My sister! ✊🏽 As a “whitewashed” black man, I feel you 100%! Had my Wake-up call nearly 13yrs ago. The post-Obama/Trump Era & the ubiquitous prevalence of social media also opened my eyes to how other races really feel about me & my kind.

[@MissCellanious1]

Pre?

[@knowtheledge1930]

I grew up in a predominantly white suburban environment but I never was under the illusion that I was one of "them." While I would have preferred to grown up in a black or more diverse environment my parents NEVER let me lose sight of who & what I am.

[@rbailey3309]

I feel bad for the sister and understand her confusion. I also agree that we should not be a monolith. In the end, however, as Phil reminds us, we should not look for validation from a group of people who will never accept us as equal.

[@Rareone101]

I respect her truth hopefully its growth for her from here

[@Teddy42O]

A reformed buckdancer

[@kazperdadon9176]

I live in Phoenix Az, where there’s a lot of biracial/black uppity people. There’s this black guy at a store I deliver to & seem to always have a condescending tone like he has something to prove to non blacks. He says things like “You made sure it’s inside.” I can feel him trying to belittle me w/side cheesy comments. Also when he signs his invoices he yells out my name is “Ken” every time like as if I got amnesia. If you wanna join the other side do so but go calmly don’t make a scene baby.

[@hereisayana8207]

Thats crazy...lol. I live in Phoenix too😂

[@sparklesp9304]

The thing about trying to be accepted by racists means that you have to hate what they hate, which means you have to hate yourself. Arizona has a stereotype of being like that.

[@chevvonnejohnson8367]

I hate this and understand what you mean. Sooner or later the other side will reveal itself, unless he is that far gone and accepts the disrespect from them. You keep focusing brother. Sending ❤

[@DrUmarJohnson1]

@@chevvonnejohnson8367 That's the issue I have with the Candace Owens, Tim Scott, Jesse Lee Peterson, Clarence Thomas, Malika Andrews, and Larry Elder type of Blacks. They believe by disassociating with Blacks, non-Blacks will accept them more. Problem is they NEVER get truly accepted! Thye have an inability identifying if they're being loved or used to further an agenda

[@clare2002]

Ive had people call me hilary or white girl because i speak proper and articulate my words. I always say to these black people , " what does that say about you? There is nothing wrong with me speaking proper English and i dont have to dress or speak the way you want me to speak". As a black educated woman it is ok to speak proper in fact I expect you to speak with intelligent and articulation especially in the business world.🎉🎉

[@Wlaboy3]

That’s cool but there’s a ton of black people who literally talk white and think when you say something about it that you’re jealous because they speak “proper” as if whites own that lmao no you just sound like a kardashian or a character on mean girls don’t flatter yourself

[@rheadreid]

I would say, “who? Hilary Banks?”

[@hueypautonoman]

They're wrong for saying that, but you're also wrong for putting them down for not speaking "proper" English. African American Vernacular English is a dialect just like creole, Spanglish, Boston Urban, Pennsylvania Dutch or whatever else. It is proper within its own cultural context, even if it isn't accepted within the business world. Rather than putting them down the way they put you down, educate yourself on your cultural heritage and then educate them.

[@Jj-jg6pw]

@hueypautonoman I always wonder if those who say that they were brought up to speak proper English by their parents were ever taught African languages of African history.

[@DrUmarJohnson1]

@@hueypautonoman As Africans [Blacks] in America we speak using our slave tongue. Words we heard during slavery are still spoken today. It isn't until we attend an HBCU where we can see the range of Blackness and QUICKLY conclude the idea of what we thought Blackness was, isn't Blackness at all! Blackness has range

[@NickyRe16]

I lived in a diverse area in a small city in the Midwest. I hung out with so many different people. We embraced each other and our differences!

[@joshuabrown7958]

Just say you’re whitewashed 🤣🤡

[@CC-pu6qn]

I grew up in the hood and had white girl friends. I was light skinned, nerdy and reserved. The black kids alienated me. Then they get mad when you have other friends.

[@Imissyoulou]

Thus, you think being light skinned, is some kind of attribute? I am glad I was taught better. The blacker the berry, the sweeter the juice.

[@LilithTheAquarian369]

@@Imissyoulou is being dark an attribute?

[@Imissyoulou]

@@LilithTheAquarian369 Hell yes!!!

[@LilithTheAquarian369]

@@Imissyoulou why can’t light be one as well? It’s called balance.

[@Imissyoulou]

@@LilithTheAquarian369 Balance?

[@deniseeugene1852]

The joke is trying to be like them. Instead of them wanting to be like you if you just be your beautiful great self.

[@sparklesp9304]

They will punish you if you are yourself including the teachers.

[@deniseeugene1852]

@@sparklesp9304 I was a black student bussed out into a predominantly white school in the 60s in New York. I went from Bedford Stuyvesant in Brooklyn to Elmhurst Queens in 68. I was the only black kid in many of my classes as a result of desegregation. I quickly decided since I was so dark. To show my pride and blackness. Dispel the myths and do my damn work, lol. Then, I returned to Bedford Stuyvesant. My peers in Brooklyn said to stop acting white. Talking white, etc., when in reality, I was talking proper English, and my parents fostered education. And I did well in school. So it depends. I have always been comfortable around white people as a result. I attended an HBSC and reconnected to my roots.

[@user-to7up1dl3d]

​@@sparklesp9304So, learn how to fight back.

[@user-to7up1dl3d]

@@deniseeugene1852 When some Blacks say that you're talking "white" they don't mean it in a sense of speaking proper english or having anything to do with education, they mean it by how a Black person sound when they speak, like sounding like a valley white girl or a white man in voice tone.

[@deniseeugene1852]

@@user-to7up1dl3d I didn’t sound like that white . I was always reading and I wore glasses. Lol. I carried that nerd look until high school.

[@nightowlofisraeln.o.i2033]

We as Blacks need to stick to Black

[@sparklesp9304]

Suburban black people: If you can't do what Phil said, put your kids in a for-pay black private school in the black community. My mom did this with my siblings after they were experiencing racism in the school system and it instilled in them a positive outlook on their culture and sense of self because of the type of black people they were around from their teachers to the principal to the other students. Everyone was EDUCATED and there to LEARN! It also wasn't solely black, but predominantly black.

[@Cahluvca]

That kumbaya is damaging. Antiblackness is worldwide and sugar coating this is a problem.

[@chocovanille5809]

So glad my father took me out of USA and got raised in West Africa although I hated it when I was young. Glad I was not subjected to divisive cultures in America

[@tiffanycotter9675]

I appreciate how you spoke on how many of the community reject each other unrighteously. I’ve been a victim of those my entire life- even by my si called relatives.

[@YaadmanRichie]

And you still found a way Just say to yourself ‘Their loss. I am worthy. They missing out on a phenomenal black woman’ Live limitless sista I am proud of you

[@Sequr2289]

Family can be disruptive, rude and unrighteous and who you are as a person. Being a victim your entire life isn't good. When necessary avail yourself to some professional counseling. The holy scriptures are invaluable source that covers these matters and much more. Of course it's hard to find a holy sanctified church cuz there are way too many churches with different denominations not found or mentioned in the bible. Lol

[@usmokndopeordogfood7542]

I mean who hasn’t been a victim of this 😂 not everybody gone like you!.

[@Jay-jb2vr]

*You missing the point*

[@angieangiel2666]

My family except my parents rejected me because I talked and acted differently from them. Im 48 and I'm still rejected and I no longer care.

[@robertpannell5486]

It is not about how we dance, talk, or act. It is about knowing your ancestral history that makes you feel comfortable in your skin, where you can dialogue with anyone and not feel inferior or ashamed about who you are. Learn your history and your true identity even if you have to do it on your own time.

[@careybenjamin2101]

I was born in Albuquerque, New Mexico, and I know exactly what she means

[@yo3rdtier128]

Blame your parents. They didn’t move you out of Albuquerque. What a sad place. You not only had to deal with whites but taco hispanics as well

[@keyfield8967]

I just passed thru Albuquerque for the 2nd time...I ran into more Black folk than I initially expected.

[@crystalsplace7163]

@@keyfield8967You probably ran into my family. I’m from Albuquerque too.

[@dbig48d]

Your city is very beautiful. I love how it has a desert feel but there's mountains. I had a project that took me from Phoenix to Flagstaff then into Albuquerque. Very beautiful drive along I40

[@Polemic-2525]

Usually the ones doing the rejecting are the ones having the negative self-image problem. When I encounter that attitude, I accept that’s the way they are and move on also avoid them like the plague. I don’t need the grief and negative energy. It’s not worth it.

[@johndepass5986]

I find many Africans like this.

[@cbrown3936]

How. Most Africans are certain about their cultural identity

[@cbrown3936]

@@YourKingJDG i had no idea she was a 2nd generation immigrant. That explains a lot ngl

[@sparklesp9304]

​@@YourKingJDGI KNEW she wasn't African American. We love our culture too much to ever elevate another culture over ours.

[@Cahluvca]

Some overlook the Stockholm syndrome just because one is from a homogeneous country. Quite the opposite

[@donpablo5056]

@@sparklesp9304are you sure??? 😂😂😂 Seeing what about your culture and what you elevate that's explained a lot …

[@curtisalleyne3710]

I'm glad it was born into the Caribbean culture because those folks kept telling me to go back to your own country even though about three million of us were born in the UK this is why I travelled to Barbados every two years where I meet up with uncle's aunties and cousins the real people in my life

[@thadevilzadvocate]

Try telling that to Tamla Horsford.

[@ashasun6620]

Tell her for what?

[@arlenebutler2849]

I live in an all black community, but my mum and dad made sure that I treat people with respect. In turn, they needed to do the same thing. I love black people ,that are ' different because they are still black,there, are many, Shades, of black, we all come in different shape and Colours,.. And sizes, but God loves all we all his children..

[@bornlikethis7536]

Totally agree. We moved to a more diverse community so that our son could have a range and variety of people to learn about.

[@Sylvio-pc6rx]

Perfect definition for our black politicians "white washed

[@AnitaWashington-jm4lb]

"That's ridiculous I wouldn't change my black essence for know one's business"!

[@michaelbrantley.8628]

Bottom line never insert yourself where you are not wanted or respected.

[@janiceholmes430]

To me the resentment comes from them thinking and feeling that the person is smarter or prettier then them, so the pushback is to make the person an outcast. Because they just make youlook bad one day. And if your not around you want have to face that. Your around people that look and sound like you. It's like average lòoking females. They know when a beautiful female shows up. That puts them to shame. Immediately most other females don't like her. And the results of that could vary from shunning her or down right fighting her. And does not help her to be smart. She just becomes a target.

[@EarthiztheGod]

Well said brother Phil. Keep teaching.

[@thegrandoti00]

The irony is that we, as black people, reject the notion that we are a monolith, but we then simultaneously turn around and indict other black people of cultural treason who dares to differentiate themselves in linguistic style, speech pattern, musical preferences, or cultural interest. I moved fluently between "black and white" cultural here in the US code-switching, just as I later did in my life switching between Italian, French, and Español when living in Europe. I simply saw it as crossing linguistic borders. Methinks that a great deal of that is a born out of cultural insecurity; presuming that anyone who dares to evolve out of what is perceived as "stereotypically black" culture, does so out of shame instead of natural evolution, growth, and curiosity about the world. For me, though, having been accused of shedding my cultural "black" authenticity as I went about satiating my intellectual curiosity about people, places, and things around the world; my journey of discovery actually created a deeper love and appreciation for my race, culture and generational antecedents. Having had an eclectic exposure to a diversity of women around the world, I actually acquired a more visceral appreciation for not only black women in general but black American women, specifically.

[@user-st6nt4ou6f]

I believe we should understand how difficult and conflicting it is growing up Black, period. We need to try to understand and support each ither. I like the comments from the presenter. Sellouts are different.

[@user-od5sh1ck5g]

I think racism still occurs on both sides today. It’s not one sided. This kind of ignorance and hate shows how we haven’t evolved at all. When does it end? It’s not just white and black, it’s Spanish, Asian, indian! No one is better than one another. We all have different cultures, indeed. But this is no reason to hate, or carry anger or resentment in your heart. I’m sure half of this panel has a friend or family whom is a different race. To me this is craziness. We are living in 2023 and still arguing over race! I promise anyone who follows the words of the Bible, thou shall not hate for the colors of one’s skin, would find a lot more peace in there life.

[@AlphonseWeebay]

Nah. Enough energy gets wasted on people who need to comply or learn the hard way. When they’re ready they will find us

[@manuginobilisbaldspot2]

THANK YOU! These folks didn’t have a choice in their upbringing. And I’m tired of us having to fit in a narrow box…that is not “Blackness”. As long as you’re not out here buying in to stereotypes and bigoted nonsense, we’re not meant to be the same. Learn from folks!

[@tygetsfitt2023]

This is it

[@user-fq2zx6fz9j]

Malcolm X ideology is always top notch ❤

[@MilkMan317]

I feared this same situation would happen to my daughter growing up because she was in all white schools in her early life but she got a wake up call in College. I was raised black in a black neighborhood and community I wanted her to experience BUT someone else decided differently so now she's having to deal with it in adolescent years. I'm happy you covered this topic because I thought I was the only one experiencing this problem 🙏🏽

[@kamalasheiress4035]

I grew up in an all-Jewish upper class neighborhood (and attended predominantly Jewish schools) all of my life. I have LOTS of secrets. But, I’ll just start with my own individual experience. I thought it was just me, but no matter how dynamic of a personality (or “funny”) you might be (you know, to keep the J folks wined & dined / happy- your stark difference-it will still catch up to you. It is a slow-eating process. It eventually eats you alive and you have to pretend as if everything is ok-or else they’ll sense a rat, and of course, heck awaits if you don’t “play along” and convincingly. i just barely, survived-by separating myself from them, working from home, i barely ever go out- and spending as much time away from people as humanly possible.

[@99alfailiwaqain51]

@@kamalasheiress4035 Peace! Secrets? 😮hmm..do you care to share from their playbook? Did they ever admit to you that we are the “chosen people” of our Father (ALLAH ) Himself? Are u from Riverdale?

[@writtenhousesecurity6499]

🤣🤣 Don't worry if you send her to a HBCU , she will be back on the streets for sure .

[@kamalasheiress4035]

Okay, as for some of the secrets living in the internal world of Jewish Supremacy. When i was growing up, i managed to fit in. But what enraged me was how denigrating all the Jewish kids acted and behaved towards the largely underpaid, understaffed, and underrespected black Haitian & Jamaican-only lunch cafeteria servers at lunch time. There was zero respect. The worst part was-the laugh. That. Laugh. The Jewish kids all knew that they had come from rich & wealthy families (it was commonly understood) & would go on to graduate from the Ivy League Universities-Harvard, Yale, Princeton would go on to become doctors, lawyers, and accountants, real estate moguls, et cetera. And these…black servers would amount to nothing. I’ll never forget THAT Laugh.

[@MilkMan317]

@@kamalasheiress4035 You sound much like my daughter

[@hereisayana8207]

My mother hates being black and when I was 13, she sent me to a lily white boarding school for 2 years and I don't feel black anymore, don’t fit in with old friends etc.... but it helps to read black history books now etc

[@chocovanille5809]

Your dad had a say in it?

[@Ray03595]

How were the schools in your area? You likely got a better education at the boarding school.

[@tygetsfitt2023]

Growing up I was definitely the “black sheep”in my family. No pun intended. But aged and became more educated and realized that I don’t have to fit the stereotype of a “blackness”I realized that it’s OK to be diverse and express yourself outside of that. People listen, when you liberate yourself from all that and do self evaluation, you’re going to feel so much better.

[@sbolden123]

😂 black people, we will never be white 🤷‍♂️🤦‍♂️

[@Black_Iron44]

The faster we accept that the better

[@matusala8322]

I don’t care if they look like me or not I just don’t want to live next to discourteous people.

[@sanp6092]

Yet again, thank you for defending your black woman and for the understanding of why we do some of the things we do in life.

[@michaelmawazo]

Thank you ADNC and shout out to you Phillip Scott for this actual nuanced and balanced perspective that is so needed for our communities to understand. For too long we have gripped onto stereotypes and assumptions about those of us who grew up in different areas and cities as if it makes us less who we are (Black/African whereever) and did the work of them folks by outcasting and isolating sisters and brothers who arent Black in a specific way. I remember coming from the burbs to diff spots alot of time where close folks to me who were also Black trying to clown me for listening to rocknroll (chuck berry, jimi hendrix etc) ‘why you listening to wht folks music?’…and im like ‘..my folks taught me its part of our culture, it comes from us’….The disconnect is unfortunate and we need to embrace our full selves which means us wherever we come from as long as were not selling out like ADNC said - because we could actually learn from eachother.

[@taahiramcgee]

Exactly, I came out of the burbs listening to everything. My parents taught me to be well rounded. That's what I taught my son.

[@stephaniebowser2630]

We grew up with our college educated black mom NEVER allowing ebonics speech. We had to speak correct English at all times! Our dad supported her even though he only had a high school education. Some ignorant blacks would say to us, "You talk white." Talking "white" ALWAYS GOT ME THE JOB! IT AINT TALKING WHITE - ITS CALLED SPEAKING ENGLISH- DUMMY! Love you Phil!❤

[@dmilleniumdiva]

So true Phil! In our town in NJ, there’s very few children of African descent in my granddaughter’s school so I’m constantly worried about what micro aggressions she’s dealing with. And not just from students, also teachers!

[@Autumn-zd9nq]

I’m not “White-washed” and still faced attacks from my own family because I rejected certain parts of black culture that promoted violence, contempt and disrespect towards young women like me so then I’d hear the whole “She’s a white girl” spill. I can speak any vernacular but I choose proper English simply because more people from different walks of life would understand what I’m saying. Today I have an amazing, large, healthy diverse group of friends so I can say it was a great decision.

[@beneaththecrust4661]

Racism is taught in the school as well.

[@giver-ig9zt3hx6h]

A young black girl told me one day- "that ish look nasty" talking about a green leafy salad with Italian dressing with tomatoes 🍅 I was indulging. I was insulted a little bit but didn't show it. I just realize that she was not raised to eat vegetables like me and my siblings which of my youngest one is about her age or a little older. Late 20's early 30's. I had to tel her why I eat that and how it's good for the body. Then she understood. It was just disheartening to hear an individual say something so dumbfounded and she has 3 children under 5 (age corrections). 😮😢

[@mobilemworks]

Actually, Thank You for that Brother Phillip. You always wind up doing or saying something super unexpected and later I think, "that, that was ingenious!" or "Why didn't I think of that!?" or "He just laid it out .. and you know what? I agree with that!". Anything really. Expand the thinking all the time and "WE" appreciate you as well brother Phillip.

[@fromthedivinesource7059]

Did she say Racism makes you question your whole existence 🤦🏾‍♂️oh wow.

[@MutedMinimalist]

Black people are not a monolith. I went to a pwi. Pastor Stephen Darby woke up me up to the racism black people face. Give the girl grace and stop rejecting black people that aren’t stereotypically black. If your own community rejects you where does that leave you to go?

[@Cahluvca]

She has to find like minded types. It's only so much grace given in this world unfortunately.

[@saonedixon5476]

Yeah Houston is very diverse i use to live in Houston and it was the most diverse city ive ever lived. Its a melting pot of all kinds of people. But i liked being around alot of black people so i moved back to Georgia AKA Lil Africa 😊

[@hereisayana8207]

You didn't find your black people in Houston? Im thinking of moving there

[@sparklesp9304]

​@@hereisayana8207Houston has a lot of black people from other places...and typically black people who are not hood will have problems if they're not foreign.

[@Melanin_Kitty]

I was never white-washed. I however, was the "different one aka black sheep" because I liked all kinds of music and spoke differently. It made me feel bad but I'm black asf, even though I might not be considered "typical" black.

[@thadevilzadvocate]

I was always thinking outside the box I never fit in with anyone I was always a loner and I was OK with that. I dont like people. I can get into enough trouble on my own. I've always been taught you have to love yourself because no one else will. Never be comfortable around other people. Especially ones that don't look like you. Always keep your head on a swivel. What is the meaning of being black? or any said color/race? I have and never will follow what society dictates how I'm supposed to be like. I write my own narrative.

[@terrivanmater8124]

Right on! Always be you.

[@lmcnultyn]

​@@thadevilzadvocateSame here. I'm pretty much a loner myself as I have never been able to fit in with anyone my whole life regardless of race or background, including my own people. I take comfort in my solitude and have accepted it as I also do not like people due to the negative energy I always get, particularly from my own people, (yt people include) so now I pretty much stay away from people.

[@adriennetamia5645]

Same

[@MelanatednNature]

Same.

[@MsNS-uh7vb]

Our heads are constantly on a swivel because truthfully, "All skin folk aint kin folk". And if you aren't consistently bringing anything to their table, you're immediately disposable as opposed to eventually. It can be exhausting to be us everywhere we go. Self-care is my bestie.

[@malama_ka_aina]

Thank you for the very positive message

[@Henryshepherd3367]

I remember something my dad said and it stuck with me till this day! And am almost 40! . He said if he will be done wrong, it will be by his own!

[@Dr.Beetlejuice110]

I think black parents need to understand too that this affects dating as well.

[@davidazure1539]

What a beautiful message Phil 🙏🏿

[@lunarbeauty]

This is such a good video. Very well put.

[@rob1859]

Love and respect to our Brothers and Sisters upon their Awakening, of course it can be pretty rough.., but well needed. "The TRUTH will set you Free".

[@wr066]

Similar situation happened with the now-known Candice Owens; even as she herself has said - in so many words: As a youngster, her initial rejection "was done by other young Black females simply because she did not fit the stereotypical image of the said Black female". Therefore, although Candice Owens herself was indeed a highly intelligent, respectful and well-spoken young woman; yet, she was ridiculed as a youngster by other young Black females as well as other bigoted young Whites. The irony of it all is that even today a number of Black males would assume that she was abused by some Black males during her earliest younger years.

[@devoncarter8813]

Absolutely this Sista is speaking true facts 💯 it's reality of life.

[@charlesabernathy5842]

I agree with you. Thank you so much.

[@WuesRown]

Right on time I needed this subject thank u 🙏

[@MsUnity2011]

I understand to a certain extent what she's going through. I didn't grow up in a neighborhood full of white people, however I did grow up in the neighborhood being a pastor's daughter where I was made fun of from time to time by my peers. I also am a classical pianist so I was called "white girl" as a youth as I trained intensely while my peers were outside playing and having a good time. On top of it the white folks didn't accept me either especially during competition. So I understand the dilemma of trying to fit in on both sides. I never tried to at white, so to say, I'll ever because I was different, I felt rejection on both sides. It's important to learn to embrace all of who we are and not believe the hype or the propaganda given to us by our enemies. By the way, there's a talented young brother from Atlanta named Tony Evans Jr who's a country western singer, very talented. Why don't you feature him on one of your podcasts showing your listeners how diverse we are as a people. Just a suggestion to help us get out of the box that we all should sound the same and dance the same etc. The MOST HIGH has given us all different talents and different gifts which we need to start appreciating more. And for those of us who have been pretending to fit in, knowing that's not who we really are, can start to come out of the box and really be who we have been designed to be. Peace.

[@Chi__22]

Well said.

[@JustKenExisting]

This is why I don’t like anybody. Saves on disappointment

[@ElevenAce]

When i was a kid i distinctively remember these kids telling me i should of been born white. I guess i wasn't black black. Which it always hurt me. And on the flip side at times some white folk went above and beyond to help me in my education. What im saying is that im happy to have friends from all races. I dont let my past or how others treated me reflect on my future actions but i wish my people were more mature and open. Im friends with open minded folks who treat me fair and do business with me fairly.

[@AD-xn7pt]

i commented before watching the video, but you basically broke it down spot on. its tough because most of the time this happens when your parents have worked hard enough, and sadl to say they're arent enough "nice" black communties so they end up moving/living in a 'nicer' community where the ppl theyre are almost all white. so you moved on to what you thought was something better and it probably is for both the parents and the kids but then there is something missing and this is where you get the idea of white washed which is bogus imo, i hated the idea of not being black enough even among your own ppl and you go the other side and your just the black friend its a lose, lose, just take the advantages your given. i think its all b.s. and these comments confirm the whole bull crapery of this situtations. cause clearly the "community" isnt all excepting

[@taahiramcgee]

I understand this completely. The problem is us suburban black kids don't talk. We never talk about the pitfalls of living amongst white people. If we don't talk nobody knows the internal stuggle that it caused to be "one of the good ones" or " your not like them". Everything black was considered ghetto. I grew up in the 90s graduated H.S. in the very early 00s.

[@andrewmatzo8167]

Man people are people, if you carry yourself with pride and respect, and make people respect you. It doesn't matter what group of people you are around. Most people end up hanging around people who have their same mindset and beliefs.

[@user-od5sh1ck5g]

Wow well said!

[@Shaun_X]

Different like Andre 3000. If it wasn’t for his tour with OutKast. He’d be viewed as hella different. 🤔

[@beemoboppins]

Eh, not really. Atlanta has always fostered out of the box thinking Blacks. Atlanta is filled with Andre 3000s; of course not to his depth but there are many on the same wavelength.

[@theafrican-panamerican9712]

That's right. Great Content.

[@letmetranslate4249]

Man, that wake up call had me furious lol I finally just started to chill out a bit

[@PainfulTruths504]

Oreos are often sellouts tho Phil. Sellouts aren’t my family bruh. They embrace “them folks” their culture and reject their own. They don’t relate to us or our struggle so we aren’t the same. All skinfolk ain’t kinfolk. Ima die with that overstanding.

[@dappadondadda100]

What is your opinion on someone like Michael Jackson? Or Spike Lee?

[@PainfulTruths504]

@@dappadondadda100 Michael found out what it was. He hated his skin, his experience and attempted to assimilate but was viciously attacked by his “friends”. They destroyed him! Spike is informed yet he has flaws. He straddles the fence, on one hand he will make great films uplifting the culture then he will unnecessarily prop up other cultures which is damaging because of the cultural appropriation and culture vultures among us. It is very difficult to be pro black while also associating with our documented enemy. The results are always the same. My opinion

[@dappadondadda100]

@@MissHamilton2988 ... huh? What are you on about?

[@dappadondadda100]

@@MissHamilton2988 ...where did I say "sellouts"? You said that! I just asked for the original posters opinion. Also, I did not any anybody on earth owe me anything. So chill.

[@dappadondadda100]

@@MissHamilton2988 okay, cool. The message came through to me originally, but I can't see that post anymore. Let's all just keep the peace. One Love.

[@joannebittle9230]

Phil my blood sister took me to her all whyte church for a women's bible study and stood up in front of them and faced me and said, these are my people, now I understand why We could never have a relationship, whyte people is her everything!😡🤬🤔 They always have and always will be. I finally had to accept that fact, hurtful as it is.

[@venusoflatassimus3584]

😂 wtf ...that's awkward I wonder what the white people were thinking "no tf we arent" lol😂

[@joannebittle9230]

​@@venusoflatassimus3584We have folks in Our families that suffer with the stockholm syndrome, unfortunately my sister is one of them... So please don't be rude.

[@danabenson4125]

Wow. I can imagine how embarrassed you were. That was not cool for her to do that. Really messed up.

[@joannebittle9230]

@@danabenson4125 I was totally embarrassed and hurt...

[@dtm2078]

I feel rejected because I don't embrace today's disrespectful Hip-Hop, but rather smooth jazz and R&B from the 70's and 80's🤷

[@dubson461]

I've gotten it from all. I'm good by myself. Appreciate the heads-up.

[@sparklesp9304]

It's the parents fault...kids have to have friends to develop properly. We need to plan for our children before having them.

[@a.jaszhumphrey9871]

Being ex military allowed me to raise my children in a diverse community. I have to give multi cultured communities it's props, because it created a subculture where it allowed kids to relate in a way that may not have happened if I had used my experiences of 60s and 70s America, and closed my mind to the idea that my children could possibly live in a society that allowed them the opportunity enjoy the freedoms to express themselves freely irregardless of the color of their skin

[@AlphonseWeebay]

Are you a military female?

[@danabenson4125]

This is so true. Most military families live in diverse communities. You will meet so many different people and experience different cultures. My dad was in the military. My parents had so many friends from every where. They became like family to us.

[@superlove.6797]

Very good answer Phil very good answer. We are all different in. This is what they have stereotyped us and it’s wrong. Thank you.

[@GregLakatosChradm]

You did that to yourself. LOL!!! But prove me wrong and leave. Go back to Africa. People like you just talk, you do nothing, you are a complete failure.

[@lesliefarmer6755]

Good show! God bless you.

[@newyorkapple6192]

I AGREE COLD HEARTEDLY💯💯💯💯. I think it’s SO STUPID when fellow black ppl treat other black ppl who they feel don’t fit what it is to be “black”🙄🙄🙄. Just cause someone is well articulated does NOT make them less black or a “sellout”. It’s ignorance at its finest. Every black person does NOT celebrate the “hood” and wanting to remain there mentally and physically and never evolve. Black ppl who do that keeps the stereotype of black ppl where it is. Ugh!

[@chiefreficul9774]

some of us will move to an all whyte neighborhood and then be surprised by the racism they face.

[@Xslices]

I’m in one. I keep harassed by them. I’m successful they hate that. I plan on moving to Atlanta soon.

[@goodyearxx2169]

Better than living in an all Black neighborhood 😃

[@chiefreficul9774]

@goodyearxx2169 i'd prefer a black neighborhood over those caves u troglodytes crawled out of.

[@imoseetruth1980]

Well said. 😊

[@user-fy4em8tv6x]

At least she recognis it, and accept, there are many who don't...Self Awareness, is always a good thing... Congratulations...

[@kjen1516]

That was me… it’s the worst feeling to realize they were not friends! I had to do a deep dive and now folks that knew me prior to waking up, can’t understand this version of me. now, i have trouble in white spaces bc I can see all the passive language and normative behavior that most black folks can’t identify as aggressive. The worst part is, I still seem safe to most white folks so it get weird for them. Another perspective on black folks that present different is some of us, wanted to do anything that was “not black.” I think it’s ok to call out that hypocrisy within reason. It’s not just about realizing the racism around but loving our own culture. Proximity to whiteness is a terrible drug and probably the most silent struggle most folks will still struggle with. Like you said creating positive black space, or finding them for the children even if and when you have “made it” is imperative for continued growth.

[@cheikhmbacke4624]

My son is a an international, intellectual, environmental activist raised in the hood. But he’s built different. I had to teach him in his teens that the “African American“ is the newest incarnation of the “black“ man on the planet. As such we’re making this thing up as we go along. So none of us owns the standard of what is blackness, and as such cannot dictate to you the contents or context of your blackness. Myself… I’m unapologetically a fan of pumpkin pie 😂.

[@sharoncansler5524]

Right. This subtle racism IS REAL. We must wake the hell up. (Tim Scott is hopeless) Thanks Bro Phil.

[@Gboogie22]

I live near Princeton NJ & I always see a group of girls with one token black girl, usual mixed. You can almost feel the discomfort of being in that position.

[@Ray03595]

Sounds like a you problem for automatically judging everyone in the group.

[@Gboogie22]

@@Ray03595 NO, NO. It’s an us problem. Excluding YOU!

[@Ray03595]

@@Gboogie22The black women at Princeton are going to be just fine. I can assure you. 😆 No need to get so worked up.

[@Gboogie22]

@@Ray03595 As a man that was born and raised in Montbeliard France, I can assure you that I don’t fit anywhere with any group. I’m tolerated and made to feel welcomed, I can see myself in these kids. Maybe they’ll be fine after Therapy. I know these parents mean well when looking for better schools and neighborhoods to raise their kids, but life is not a Disney movie for us. No matter who you are, you never want to be raised a minority anywhere.

[@RTA6226]

You are CORRECT! Get with family.