Sister Woke Up & Had An Epiphany So She Went To Mom's House & Destroyed My Wedding Dress & Told Me..

[@susanlynch1825]

Story1 sister needs to have charges against her. You need to tell mom she’s not invited anymore,and press charges on her too.

[@angelamurray2725]

My thoughts exactly, sue her for the cost and emotional damages. I was open mouthed in horror at what she did , I’m in Scotland so thousands of miles away probably. I think sister is jealous. I’m so sorry this happened to you. 🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@fcold9402]

1. NTI. Sue her for the cost of the dress.

[@stephanien6237]

And the cost of custom tailoring to have it ready in time for the wedding!

[@frankielovejoy9928]

Story 1: NTA. Yeesh, it's not every day a sister wakes up and chooses violence. This is an adult woman who should know better than to mess with other peoples' property. I smell a lawsuit.

[@brookelynnwu8016]

Sister is honestly lucky that the OP didn’t kïck the cräp out of her. If that were me in that scenario I’d have a hard time holding back, so yes OP did indeed, “go easy on her.” LMAOOO

[@Colorbrush21]

I can't believe the commenters who think OP went too far by saying she hoped her sister's husband cheated on her. Get real! OP's sister destroyed her wedding dress! OP should have gone nuclear on that b**ch. Why should OP be nice to someone so awful? OP should take it to small claims court to get her money back. Sister and the mother are all idiots. OP should disinvite them from her wedding.

[@asmith8692]

It took my sister 60 years to learn to leave other people's stuff alone.

[@Dphantomfan369]

Story 1: last comment, I can argue that OP said what she said out of anger and considering that was a custom-made wedding dress, it feels like OP still went easy on her sister. I know if that was me my sister would’ve left the house crying, possibly with a black eye. I’m actually a fan of up cycling, DIY projects, and all that stuff. But I’m not going going around destroying people or shaming them. No one cares what you do, but that doesn’t give you a right to the side what they have to do. OP should absolutely press charges and make her sis pay for the dress, Tell her she can use the money she’s been saving from shopping at thrift stores and DIY projects.

[@brookelynnwu8016]

Sister is honestly lucky that the OP didn’t kïck the cräp out of her. If that were me in that scenario I’d have a hard time holding back, so yes OP did indeed, “go easy on her.” LMAOOO

[@4bibimimi]

Anything said in Anger will be considered a curse.

[@petthequeenofmaddness8592]

if that's how the sister is no wonder she was cheated on like how often do you think she went and destroyed his things and there home with DIY bs

[@akl2k7]

Yeah, saying something horrible out of anger is nowhere near as bad as actual property damage. And possibly thousands worth too. It was also an act of passion that wouldn't have happened without said property damage. OP is NTA, especially compared to the vandal of a sister.

[@halbouma6720]

@@4bibimimi Yeah, was it a pretty horrible thing to say? Yes. Did OP feel driven to say it to try and get through to the sister how badly she f'd up when she was trying to act like it was "no big deal"? Yes. Especially when OP's mom is enabling the sister's bad decisions by also acting like its no big deal. Feels like we know which one is the golden child in this family. Also, given how expensive the wedding dress was, getting a replacement rushed in a short time is going to be even more mad expensive if its still possible.

[@joeschmo622]

dyed dress? I'd file criminal charges as well as a civil suit, and disinvite both from the wedding.

[@kisstune]

And here I was thinking of painting all of her cars windows telling her that her car color was too traditional and I was just trying to help.

[@catsmeow5566]

Story1: NTA. If people insist on an apology it can be given AFTER (and only after) the dress is replaced and/or restored to its previous condition at the sister's expense. The mother can chip in as well, but OP should not have to pay a dime to get it fixed and should cut sister and mother out of the wedding and possibly her life. I do think saying "I hope your husband dumps you" would have made more sense than "I hope he cheats on you". But I can understand that OP was incredibly angry.

[@stephanien6237]

Upcycling does not apply to brand new items, particularly custom made items. And obvious both sister and mother are bat crap crazy to state that she was only “trying to do something nice”. Neither of these women deserve to be at the wedding. Not just lack of respect; but intentional and malicious

[@DarkCrystalSage]

Press. Charges. Press. Charges. Press Charges. Force her to get a new dress.

[@Clyde-S-Wilcox]

The only solution.

[@TheQuantumWave]

After reading too many stories like this, my mantra is: "always press all the charges".

[@Dphantomfan369]

Story 2: she stayed when he was poor, but left when he was rich. That is literally the opposite of a gold digger, OP is rejecting the ridiculous lavish lifestyle that won’t even last. It doesn’t matter how much money someone has if he’s not working or at the very least budgeting to make it last he’ll end up completely broke. And from the sounds of it that money is not gonna last 4 years. Then all the friends and family that were beneath are gonna be real important. OP is trying harder than he is, she needs to have a serious brutally honest discussion where he either changes his attitude or he can be single.

[@stephanien6237]

People are going to accuse her of staying until she got half of his payout. But they are idiots.

[@user-wr3vt8uq4s]

Dude should spend some of his money on therapy to figure out why he's a douchy AH. As someone did the math earlier, even 200K a year is not Lambo country. Dude will be broke soon enough.

[@kisstune]

She should try to return some of the stuff if she can get cash cool if not resell the gift card at a gift card exchange or something for cash and save it.

[@Valecto]

There is an inconsistency in the story though. Michelin stars only go from 1 to 3 and none of such restaurants are « steak houses »… which makes me doubt if the story is even real.

[@Kayenne54]

Leave sooner, not later, otherwise her half would be less than he spent on sushi last week. Normally I'm all about fairness for both partners, but in this case, get out while there is still cash in the bank.

[@HubiKoshi]

Story 2: Hubby is going to blow through that money faster than you can say "Emergency Divorce". OP should run before the eventual bankruptcy sets in.

[@lorilancaster5917]

Exactly because his debts should not become hers. I also can see him pushing plastic surgery on Op as possible grounds to help her in the divorce process.

[@brookelynnwu8016]

That’s actually ïnsane how he’s spending. There no hope for this sad pathetïc man.

[@nonyabiz2013]

The same thing happens with some people who win the lotto and within 10 years are broke and living on assistants. A sudden windfall doesn't make you a better person it just allows you to be who you've always been deep inside, for better or worse.

[@SH-qs7ee]

Yep, and the gold digging accusations are easy enough to quash too; but have the lawyer ask for a split of equity BEFORE the settlement came in.

[@prg4647]

@@SH-qs7ee I would take him for all he's worth just by the plastic surgery comment alone😂

[@ifynwamma]

S1: "She just wanted to do something nice"...ok....nice for who? NTA.

[@lorilancaster5917]

The nice thing to do is ask. She didn’t because she’d rather use OPs dress to protest her ideals.

[@4bibimimi]

Pretty much. The Garment was left unguarded and she wanted to do her thing with it!

[@4bibimimi]

​@@lorilancaster5917a dip dyed rainbow dress would be appropriate at an LGBTQIA+ marriage, which this was not!

[@lorilancaster5917]

@@4bibimimi and if the bride wanted a dipped dyed rainbow dress

[@taz598]

Story 1 NTA I'd tell my sister she has 48 hours to pay me for the dress or I'll be filing charges against her. Then I'd tell mom that I don't believe for a second she didn't know what sister did so if she keeps taking her side I'll file charges against her as well.

[@Symphonia30]

Would not surprise me if the ex husband in the second story comes back to his wife years later, now that he’s burned through his money, and in deep debt, and dodging the IRS. Also doesn’t he realize that spending that much money how much taxes cost with it?

[@northbynorthnorth]

And you know he's coming back with an age inappropriate girlfriend 😂

[@Clyde-S-Wilcox]

Story 1: Sue. Period. And, enabler mom and fiance - she ruined what is clearly a dress costing thousands, but OP is in the wrong for saying something mean? Absolutely no. NO APOLOGIES.

[@Clyde-S-Wilcox]

Story 3: NTA. AWW did poor Tiny Johnson have his authority questioned? F the abuser.

[@JayeEllis]

Dress: 100% SUE! The insurance will settle, cover it, then go after sis. This is definitely no contact worthy. No way Mom didn't know; it's her house and her safeguarding responsibility. This one really cannot be attributed to stupidity. That leaves malice.

[@Kayenne54]

Sister is the Golden Child. There's been a lovely lead up to the "thrifting phase" in order to justify her destruction of someone else's very expensive, brand new, wedding dress. Sis saw the OP was getting lots of attention, and figured out how to get it back. I'd certainly let her know that now she has my full attention. Backed up by the legal system. I wouldn't have just thrown a mild comment at her, it would have included the police, instantly.

[@Dphantomfan369]

Last story: oh please, John would’ve kept assuming OP didn’t have a diploma until he saw it for himself. OP didn’t do anything to him, none of this would’ve happened if he stopped trying to spread rumors like a mean girl just to cause trouble and drama. He looks like a fool because he has a fool.

[@user-wr3vt8uq4s]

I've never worked in an office where people displayed their diplomas. Only seems appropriate for doctors and lawyers. John deserves every bit of shade.

[@kateemma22]

Normalise telling people like John to F off.

[@sandyberger-r9j]

Apologize as soon as sister buys you the same dress again in your desired color. Story 2: That’s why so many people who unexpectedly get money, like winning the lottery, are absolutely broke and few years after..

[@wildblue0]

Story 2: What hubs doesn't realize is that settlements aren't just to punish a company for the injury, but to also pay for future medical bills related to it. If he blows through the money in a couple years, he could be looking at massive medical debt in the next decade. Let's assume a back injury, and now he needs a walker. In 10 years he could need a wheelchair. That means a ramp to get in, first floor bedroom, accessible bathroom and kitchen. If the house doesn't already have those, they're looking at a major remodel. OP would be better off getting out now before she's tied to any of that.

[@kitkakitteh]

Press charges.

[@lorisewsstuff1607]

Without warning. Call the police and have them come to Mom's house.

[@brookelynnwu8016]

Destructïon of property. Probably qualifies as the definition of crimïnal mischief too.

[@brookelynnwu8016]

The mom could probably be charged as well, since she allowed the sister to do this.

[@4bibimimi]

Unfortunately it will end up in small claims

[@lugi_L]

​@@4bibimimi Not if the dress costs a lot of money. Especially since she got it tailored.

[@aragnee1]

Story 1, mum and sister can refund the full price of the dress and the fiance would be gone!

[@thatonecooktone]

Second story. The wife should divorce before her husband ends up broke and in debt and has to provide and take care of him and his debt. Take half of what you can now and run for the hills now.

[@SH-qs7ee]

doesnt even have to take half, just get out

[@BruinPhD2009]

Yup, husband is making the mistake of lottery winners who end up bankrupt: they spend the principal instead of living off the interest. Dude's a moron.

[@thatonecooktone]

@SH-qs7ee true. But she has three options, either leave without taking anything or take half or stay in the marriage and take on half if not all his upcoming debt even after divorce.

[@SH-qs7ee]

@@thatonecooktone Or 4; calculate what they were worth before the settlement, and take half of that, so no one can say she's just a gold digger.

[@shells500tutubo]

Last story- many people hang their diplomas, especially if they are relevant to their work. When I first started working after my surgical residency I did not immediately hang up anything, photos, degrees, etc. People actually started asking me where I went to medical school and residency, and I realized that it was important for them to see those credentials. If it were a job where the degree really wasn't relevant to what I was doing, then I could see not hanging it up.

[@juliairzyk]

I have my law degree on the wall at my office. It gives people that extra reassurance that you are as smart as you say you are.

[@onepieceisking5493]

Story 1, massive NTA. I understand that sister now has a new lifestyle. But that doesn't give her the right to bash everyone else for not doing what she's doing then go as far as destroying her own sister's wedding dress. I do disagree with saying "I hope he cheats on you." I would have said, "I hope he comes to his senses and divorces you" as cheating is a no no. Why am I not surprised that egg donor is enabling the brat by saying "she was doing something nice." When she was just being extremely controlling and forcing her way of life on everyone else. Not to mention destroyed a wedding dress that op had custom made. Definitely agree with the comment that op NEEDS to uninvite them from her life and not just the wedding.

[@brookelynnwu8016]

Sister is honestly lucky that the OP didn’t kïck the cräp out of her. If that were me in that scenario I’d have a hard time holding back, so yes OP did indeed, “go easy on her.” LMAOOO

[@GiordanDiodato]

nah the comment was warranted for her being a bitch

[@Kayenne54]

Sister does not have a new lifestyle. That's a red herring. Sister thought of a way to get mother dearest on board with her vandalism of OP's wedding dress. Put on a good show for a month or two. "Now I'll just turn this brand new wedding dress that is NOT mine into a thrift store item, because I'm so jealous that OP is getting all the attention".

[@JayeEllis]

Unearned Chores: NTA - Good for you for the lessons you're teaching your daughter!!! If she can't stand up in the face of injustice in the safety of her own home, she'll never be able to do so in a crunch. Your husband is focusing on the wrong lesson to avoid the consequences of his parenting mistake. Time for a VERY long, thorough, talk. This is fixable, as long as he's a mature adult about it, but in this case, you're right. Stand your ground, WITH your daughter, because teaching her blind obedience is absolutely wrong.

[@lorilancaster5917]

Hopefully hubby will get the point but I’m doubtful. If so I hope OP and daughter ban together and say this louder each time.

[@JayeEllis]

@@lorilancaster5917 A lesson is repeated until it is learned, and with a wife like that, I have hope. Many men still remain oblivious what it really means to be a woman in today's society, and all the pitfalls that entails. I don't mean to discount men's pitfalls in life, but rather to say a father of a daughter has the duty to learn some of her perspective in order to properly guide her through the challenges of growing up. Good thing she's got Mom on her side!

[@user-wr3vt8uq4s]

And who browbeats a 7 yr old like that? Really dude?

[@kkn9041]

Diploma Bully: “YOU should have told me I was making an ass of myself, instead of letting ME make an ass of myself!”

[@angelamurray2725]

My late Brother in law, worked his way up from electrician in the mines to being a very high up electelectrical engineer in mines in Africa, many different places. Something similar happened to him. People saying you should put up your degrees etc, this was in the early -mid 1980’s. He put “ His Name VD and Scar. lol 😂. But when my husband was getting called out to work overtime again mid 1980’s , Mon-Thurs at 10 am(He worked from 2am until roughly 7-8am). On the Friday 10 am, phone rings, I answer “Hello (my town name)clinic venerial diseases , How can I help you” My elderly mother in law said, Im sorry I dialled the wrong number. Me in huge embarrassment, that’s ok no problem and hung up. Then told my husband I’m locking myself in the toilet and not talking to her today, tell her I’m out. Lol 😂 😂😂

[@maurer3d]

Story 3: NTA, he wants to punish your child for....Not stealing a dog? Seriously? Dogs get get free sometimes, no call to punish the innocent child who found/saved the dog.

[@JayeEllis]

Another Baby: Yeah, Grandma needs a loooooong time out for that one! It's bad enough she keeps going when she's told to stop, but to manipulate a child's feelings like that is beyond. Time to take back the power over this decision. You need firmer boundaries, after you've had all the time you need to cool down and establish with your partner your future action plan for dealing with her, if she's given grace to show she will play by your rules. It is the bare minimum requirement before she is allowed access to your attention.

[@sgm8265]

Asking if a couple will have more children is natural, if intrusive. But when the answer is NO, the question doesn't need to be asked and brought up incessantly afterwards. Siblings are wrong, mother is wrong. No contact is the consequence. Funny it is often adults who don't understand and react badly to this concept.

[@Mumble785]

not to be an armchair shrink, but i'd be willing to bet the comment only went that far because AH sis was being so flippant about it. OP wanted to make her hurt, and she did !! Honestly can't say I blame her, if she's not gonna show any kind of remorse or care for ruining the dress then why does OP owe her a bigger person. Sis can have an apology if she owns up and Fixes the problem, her actions are worse than OP's words imo.

[@maurer3d]

Story 1: "only trying top do something nice", no, no she was not. Destroying someone else's property let alone their wedding dress, is not helpful or harmless.

[@NM-ub6ml]

Your sister is taking the piss. She knows what she was doing and it is targeted. Tell her she has a month to pay because you want a new dress. Focus on the replacement of dress and tell her to skip the wedding.

[@sophietierney-jf6el]

story 1 your sister is a massive jerk for tie dying your very existence wedding dress and your mother just stood there and let her do it is she insane you had every right to tell her off you should sue your sister for the cost of the wedding dress and when you do get the new wedding dress don’t let your sister or mother near it is there a friend how let you keep the dress there 😡😡😡🤬👰

[@ilive4anime.]

Sue sue sue sue, sue her for the cost of the dress. If mom wants to say shit.sue her too. Theres no way she didnt know

[@maurer3d]

Story 2: NTA, that settlement is supposed to last him his entire life. From how you are describing his spending, he will be broke and penniless in a few years.

[@betsybattles2696]

I never in all my career put my diploma on the wall. I have always considered it negligble as so many really really smart and successful people never went to college at all.

[@nonyabiz2013]

My cousin has several degrees, she has them at home in her office space where no one cares to notice them.🙂

[@Becks-and-books]

Especially a BA, like a PhD I get, a BA? No lmao

[@Becks-and-books]

@@nonyabiz2013all of my degrees are just online. I never ordered a physical copy lol

[@sigisig3941]

1. wow, I skipped back to the beginning to see how old that sister is. I though she was like 14 or even younger.

[@clarehidalgo]

You'd think her sister was 3 years old cause she doesn't understand not touching other people's stuff

[@SH-qs7ee]

Story 3: Tell husband that he can make their daughter do the punishment if he really wants to but should know he will then be punished for wrongly punishing her for no reason.

[@diamondjim7560]

That is quality Father-of-the-Year candidate right there……… sarcasm, in case anyone is confused.

[@PiscesMoon2You]

Agree press charges.

[@hagnat]

Last story… must be nice to move the goal post every time you don’t get the results you expect. OP did exactly what he was asked, but for his co-worker he did too much. Dude just did as asked, so John needs to be stop being such a sore non-honors loser.

[@nancyomalley6286]

John is jealous of and threatened by OP'S educational background and work ethics. He's trying to get rid of 'the competition' by hopefully getting OP fired

[@melissaisloud7404]

Story 1: sue.

[@catsmeow5566]

Story2: NTA. I wonder if the husband suffered traumatic brain injury (TBI) and it changed his personality. OP needs to see a divorce attorney and prepare herself. Husband is gearing up to dump her. She doesn't fit his new lifestyle preferences. If he's pushing her to get major surgery to fit the image he wants, he's not happy with her and he doesn't care about her feelings. Best to cut ties asap. Better to secure a good deal now than to wait until he's broke and bitter OR until he gets the best lawyer he can find to screw OP out of anything and blindsides her.

[@lauracottom7425]

I would have to leave this person. I don’t care what people call me I have to be happy. You two aren’t compatible. He is trying to change you mentality and physically. That is not ok. Definitely don’t have kids with this person because they will be monsters.

[@mbyerly9680]

The sisters who support Mom telling a very young child he needs siblings will receive a nasty surprise one day when she starts meddling with their own children on some other subject.

[@catsmeow5566]

Story3: NTA. I'm glad OP is standing up for her daughter over unjustified punishment. Parents should always talk to their kids and get their side before jumping straight to punishment. My mother would always jump straight ot punishing me even if she didn't know who had made a mess or done something wrong. I would get blamed. At least my dad listened to me and would advocate for me so it sort of balanced out. Girls who get treated like the father was treating the 7-yr old will either be very rebellious or end up being downtrodden and putting up with abuse if their spirits get broken. I vehemently refused to accept punishment when I was wrongly accused of things or I felt I was being punished for something someone else did that I had no part in. The "because I said so" is not good parenting.

[@hanoh2904]

Sue her for the price of a new dress

[@realbadger]

9:45 I always cut up butter for mac and cheese. If someone no matter who tried insisting I do it another way, I'd just proceed as if I'd not heard them. If they continued to insist, I'd ask if they were requesting to take over the entire task. If they replied No I'd suggest they leave me alone and let me cook.

[@kristinwiebold2433]

Story 1. OP NTA. Sister and mom are YTA. They knew what was Op's wedding dress and the fact that it was custom made I think it makes it more expensive. Sister should have kept her filthy paws off of her sister's dress. I would press charges on both of them and won't apologize until the dress is fixed by a professional or they pay for a new one. Then I would take back my words. Sister needs to learn a lesson don't let her go free.

[@YvonneFobbs]

Last Story: Me whispering in John's ear: "We can take it to HR or we can take it to the streets!"

[@lorilancaster5917]

Thank you! I also know many people who don’t display their diplomas.

[@YvonneFobbs]

@lorilancaster5917 Mine is at mom's house somewhere! You can also request pocket size copies from some schools and universities!

[@lorilancaster5917]

@@YvonneFobbs I’ve seen some of those before. I made copies for them to attach to their apps. Mine didn’t offer that.

[@Clyde-S-Wilcox]

Story 2: Leave him. He's not who you married anymore. And no matter how much money he makes he's going to push you into the poorhouse. How could you be a gold digger fir running AWAY from money???

[@JohnM-i2g]

When her husband Burns through all that money because I was probably a one-time payment not ongoing payments, that is going to be a very hard landing. And he's unable to work the way he used to there's no backup.

[@JohnDoe-rj9ql]

Last story, do t start none won't be none

[@sardonically-inclined7645]

Last story: NTA. He could have dealt with it himself by choosing to not be an AH. Now he acts like _and_ looks like an AH.

[@JayeEllis]

Diploma: Learn this phrase, 'is that a fact?' If they double down, say it slower. You will look confident in your innocence, and shift the burden of proof back on the accuser. For this time, now that you've proven yourself, let his pettiness fall all the way to the floor. Reply with silence. Ten seconds of the 'really?' look works great when they're the one with egg already running down their face, and people will see you have the class not to kick him when he's down.

[@brookelynnwu8016]

13:47 When I graduated and received my BS (bachelors of science degree) I was studying abroad and missed my *own* graduation ceremony. It’s really not a big issue. He has an inferiority complex, so he has to do this weïrd rationalization in his mind that everyone is in one way or another, “beneath him.” You put him in his place and now that he realizes he quite literally is inferior to you and your degree he’s angrÿ! 😂

[@botori9194]

Years ago, I had something similar. A co-worker started mocking me when I told her I had a BS because she thought my field of study should confer a BA. When I brought in my diploma rather than admitting She was wrong and apologizing said my school was stupid and gave out the wrong degree.

[@LunarisArts]

A custom made wedding dress is so far from fast fashion as possible.

[@shanadelahaye1213]

I love op in the last story!

[@jmarie9997]

Keep the gifts, because you're going to need to sell them someday.

[@JayeEllis]

Millionaire: You're not going to be a gold digger because that money will likely be legally off limits. Either way, you're walking away from the man, not the money, which your morals aren't going to allow you to touch anyway, from the sounds of it. This is about a fundamental difference in worldview, and your husband has revealed one you find abhorrent. You know full well you're perfectly capable of making your own money, or you would have already quit your job and joined in the fun. Leave the sad dragon with his big pile of cash. He'll have it burned to ash in no time, and you know better than to let him take you down with him!

[@fionaeckert4556]

I don't know the US legal system but I'd say if she paid bills throughout the legal battle with her own money, then she might be entitled to part of the settlement money. She should definitely consult a lawyer.

[@JayeEllis]

@fionaeckert4556 That's definitely not how it works. One has nothing to do with the other.

[@fionaeckert4556]

@@JayeEllis if she covered his parts of rent/mortgage and utilities she very well might be entitled to be paid back.

[@JayeEllis]

@@fionaeckert4556 Yes, but that's not the same thing as the settlement monies being on the table.

[@danielrobles3668]

Don't apologize for Jack you said what you said she did what she did and that's all

[@GalliaUchiha]

you know what's not eco-friendly? destroying a perfectly good dress that doesn't belong to you. I'd be fine to apologize for the comment if mom and sister paid for a new dress. is it a shitty thing to say? absolutely. but it's way easier to not destroy someone's things than to think of hurtful things to tell in the moment when someone destroyed your things and is unapologetic.

[@2Peachcobler]

Last storyline. He should have gone to HR and complained for harassment. I wouldn’t have brought mine in . I also don’t have any cap & gown, I to slipped the ceremony, and my class ring was stolen.

[@YvonneFobbs]

Story #3: NTA!! He's trying to teach her that men lead and women follow!! Tell him to drop it and apologize to your daughter or you'll teach her how to flip out and flip furniture!

[@stephanien6237]

14:11 HR needs to talk to John. He’s malicious. He literally made a ridiculous assumption, publicly accused the OP of “lying to get the job”, and undermined him. This was not some passive comment-this was John going out of his way to undermine the OP and tear him down! I also agree with that last comment about it being ridiculous to put your bachelors degree up in your office.

[@lorilancaster5917]

And it’s also HR who look into a person’s credentials prior to hiring. John is basically insulting them when he accuses OP of not having his degree.

[@CreditR01]

2 - Sometimes money changes people for the worst, OP. You should start to check out of this relationship. I don't think there's any saving this dude. He's gonna blow through that money faster than you can blink, anyway. Why would anyone call you a golddigger for LEAVING a rich man? Get outta there. Get some dough in the divorce and let him try to marry someone on his "level."

[@miss_mish]

John is a twit. Continue to ignore his bs. The whole office is bizarre though.

[@Faeryrose618]

We know who the favorite child is

[@Jeanies09]

I haven't heard or saw this stitch before.... I think it's time to learn it !

[@alisonklein105]

I don’t hang my degree but it’s because my job is a bit unusual for white collar. I did not originally need a college degree for my job but it’s required now and a lot of the old folks are grandfathered. Can no longer progress but these folks literally know more than the current college grads! I trust them more than the interns with degrees because it’s hard to teach sometimes what some people simply understand! Negotiation is one of those things.

[@joeschmo622]

degrees: I have no idea where my diploma is Don't rightly care, either. It's just a piece of paper like the same paper you get by completing some Netware course or completing some BS certification. Less crap in the office is less crap to clean out if you quit or get canned, too. All I had was my wireless keyboard and a thermometer, that I could grab in like 10sec if I needed to.

[@littlegreycat]

8:49 yay Mom! As someone whose mom always was forced to side with dad, i am so proud of her

[@1COMIXMAN]

Id tell sis replace it or I'm calling cops for destruction of private property . Id go straight to her husband and tell him your the hubby I want money for it or I sue. I bet her hubby gonna be pissed at her. Might leave her for causing problems.

[@benfrench3504]

They'll them to pay for a new copy of the dress before the weading and definitely before u say sorry

[@pamelalejeune2424]

Nope uninvite your mom and your sister from the wedding. They don’t deserve to be there.

[@halbouma6720]

S1: NTA, the sister is going to have far more problems to worry about than a few harsh words. Like repaying the dress she ruined. OP will be lucky to get it replaced/repaired this quick before the wedding without spending a second fortune. Also, the sister's "excuses" of "upcycling" or "eco-friendly" or "anti fast trends" are all crap. There's nothing eco friendly about all the dyes used to tie-dye the dress. It also limits what it can be "upcycled" into - because tie-dying is even more trend niche than wedding white which can be reused for basically anything. Sister was doing this out of malice or just because she's always gotten away with being the center of attention.

[@olga2023]

I would not apologise and demand compensation

[@CreditR01]

11:33 - Tell your mom to knock this shit off NOW. You did the right thing. Relatives who try to bully you into doing things through their kids are gross and manipulative! She has enough grandkids already. NTA

[@samanthasmiles9112]

St. 1 - I don't know of anyone who wouldn't lose their sh-t on that narcissist. Why and I not surprised mommy defended this. NTA. Your mom and sister are immeshed. None of this is okay.

[@maurer3d]

Story 5: Really.........NTA... "How dare you defend yourself from my baseless campaign of slander.". Don't be an idiot, if you don't want to be proven an idiot,

[@vidaapplebee8388]

Sue her and make her pay her for your dress!!

[@nataliescott2261]

Press charges ban sister and mum from wedding

[@melrobertson2743]

Op in the 1st story should reciprocate on sister's "niceness" get a bunch of finger paint and go to town on something that's extremely important to sis

[@maurer3d]

Story 4: No it is not normal, for family to harass an innocent child. For anything, let alone to try and punish the parents for being responsible, having more children than you can/want is not a smart decision.

[@nimisilverbird1239]

Nta. She would be buying me another exact same dress. Plus, she would no longer be invited to my wedding. You do not mess with another person's wedding dress. Mother can be uninvited too

[@dreamhobbiz]

I have never understood why people need to have multiple kids when they cannot even handle ONE kid. And then the other kids suffer from their parents incompetence.

[@Symos]

Story 1: I hate when people do stupid shit unasked and use the excuse "I was just trying to help"

[@caitlindooley7826]

I press charges and sue her

[@taylorslade961]

Story 1: I'm all about eco-fashion and this ain't it. Press charges. Depending on the price of the gown, it could be felony vandalism.

[@bethanyb4478]

Story 2: I'm thinking that the husband is filling the self esteem void left by the loss of his career with this "rich" attitude.

[@zombiechicken7114]

What principle is he fighting for here?? She has no autonomy or right to justice? Men dont have to listen or apologise? Please do not stay with him and teach her these lessons!!!

[@Mglay556]

Last story: this literally is the definition of F around and find out. Honestly, if I was OP, the only thing I would do is report the guy to HR for harassment. Cause it sounds utterly annoying that this guy was essentially chasing OP because they didn’t want to hang their degree.

[@CarinaCoffee]

Last story: hanging a diploma is such an American thing. I'm from Europe and if I go to the doctor or barrister I know they've went to uni for it. And even in more technical fields, it doesn't really matter if someone has studied, some jobs actually work quite well with formal training and years of experience and further qualifying training. Some jobs naturally require certain diplomas and otherwise people tend to know how to do their jobs. The only people in my country that really display diplomas are "masters". It's an official diploma you can get in crafts and trades and you need it to own certain conpanies, like running a hair salon or a carpentry business and those people display it to show they're a legal business.

[@Rj-ij6ko]

Story 1: I…dont get how people are saying what Op said makes her the bad guy… Sometimes when you do RIDICULOUSLY awful stuff…people snap at you and say mean things. Op is NTA and she 10000% should sue her sister

[@CreditR01]

John story - NTA. John should have kept his mouth shut. Go to your bosses if he continues harassing you and explain how he tried spreading a bunch of lies about you.

[@Nicholem718-1]

15:33 A bachelor’s degree? I have never heard of anyone hanging a degree at work unless you’re a lawyer or MD. But then again, I had. J.D. and I haven’t hung mine. These people are weird and not really celebrating anything that great. (I didn’t go to my college graduation either, though.)

[@ladykay8]

your sister is nuts. That is destruction of (most likely) several thousand dollars, and well into the criminal realm. I would file charges, immediately. Was your comment over the line.... maybe, but it was ENTIRELY justified by her destruction of your dress.

[@Shea333-n3k]

The story where the husband got a huge settlement in the lawsuit and is now spending all the money: OP YTA but only if you stay with him. Get out while the getting is good and grab what you can on the way out the door. At the rate he’s going he’s going to blow through that money in nothing flat so take what you can while you can and leave. let them call you whatever they want to call you. They will anyway. PS, OP, the money didn’t change your husband. The money just exposed him for who he really was all along.

[@TheQuantumWave]

Story 1: NTA. Sure, that was a terrible thing to say but she was pushed over the edge temporarily by a complete psychopath destroying her property. And sometimes extreme behavior needs something equally extreme back to get the person to see how far over the line they've gone.

[@C4TC4T]

Holy crap, the husband in story 2 has so many issues; to insist his wife get crazy dangerous plastic surgery?! His money is gonna last 1 years, tops

[@littlegreycat]

4:45 he wont have money for long. He's as bad as one of those awfully lottery winners you hear about.

[@Voodoomaria]

Story #3 OP needs to be wary of this behaviour in her husband. Abusers will "Manufacture" reasons to give unreasonable punishments to their chosen victims as justification, OR they will corner them and trap them into no-win situations forcing the child into disobedience, then assigning draconian punishments. There was another post regarding a "Mother" who's daughter asked to try a soft drink Mom was drinking, daughter tried it, it was okay, but Mom said if she liked it she had to finish it. Kid said it was okay, but didn't want anymore, Mother then assigned draconian punishment for the girl "Lying" about liking the drink. Father stepped in cancelled the punishment and forced wife into therapy. OP's husband is displaying the same "Sick F*ckery" here.