Sisterwives, My Story (Part 2)

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[@mndbodyspirit]

I've had an experience similar to yours. There weren't any additional children or mothers that became a part of our relationship, but I dealt with a lot of random women. There was a roommate situation where he was with the roommate, there would be times where I would wake up in the morning to get kids ready for school and another woman would be there, and after giving birth to our 4th, he would leave at night, with my car, to go see another woman, who he eventually brought into our house for me to meet. She stayed for a couple nights. We've spent some time being homeless..and not like the hippie kind, like real deal homeless begging for money outside of 7-eleven. I stayed because he would always say that he wanted a ride or die..it feels so silly typing this but, I wanted to be that, and I wanted my family. I, like most people watching your videos, witnessed your journey and I remember being so sad because I didn't have the family dynamic that you had. Not jealous, but sad for myself because I didn't choose better. And now I find myself throwing my hands up in the air because I wanted to see a successful family, but it seems like it's just a dream for us. For most I guess. All of this happened years ago, I'm almost 10 years removed from this situation so, I've done most of my healing...most of the sadness is gone but now there is work to do. The work of raising my babies. I'm sorry that you are experiencing this but, what I appreciate about you is your honesty, and your ability to work through these things in such a pure way. Even if your heart feels heavy, you are doing the work necessary and that's why I follow you and appreciate your content. The work doesn't feel good but, it's so important in order to not allow yourself to be hardened into an unrecognizable version of yourself. Wishing you the best.

[@pheonixiswild]

@@mndbodyspirit wishing YOU the best. Reading and internalizing these words is what drives me to share at all. Know this and know that you were never alone even before you could step forward and say you were healed. I have experienced homelessness to such a point where I was arguing over a fire to be built BY him to cook a SINGLE egg for me to eat while I was pregnant. The things I speak on are not as a negative bashing. It is of principle and of what is right. No mother should have to beg. No child is created alone. If we are to do it alone than truly let a mother be. To stay and be in the way is just. Not the way. Love to you. I love you so much, you and your babies 💐

[@DimitriDee5]

"and im not talking about... dreams. I'm ralking about a JOB!! now whether you like it or not is your own business. But every man needs a job!!" 😂😂😂😂😂 preach sista!!

[@DimitriDee5]

"you are hungryyyyyy your clothes are wrinkled! you kinda smell all the time 😂😂😂😂😂😂 &boys need to know that, if you wanna do hippie life, &folks your dreams we're not having sex!!" GIRL!! I am cracking up this is soooo good

[@DimitriDee5]

"we're not abandoning mothers ANY. MORE." my fav quote 💚

[@DimitriDee5]

feminist here! (womanist actually, because I'm black 😅 but same principles apply) not about hating men, at all lol actually not about men at all! I really really enjoyed this video, and I'm excited to have these conversations! I too am committed to raising sons to be different from the men we have today, and I'm glad that we have community in each other! The variables that affect young men's development seriously needs to be broken down and studied!

[@Yadalove-ci1gb]

Where do you get these animations from that you put in the beginning of the videos? ❤

[@pheonixiswild]

@@Yadalove-ci1gb random internet video screenshot. If you find, lmk and I’ll credit

[@orchidchamblee]

Lmaoooo at some point in hippy life/bohemian art life you have to make concessions so you can thrive. And you have to have a hard conversation with urself bc always being in need ain’t it! Also I love the animation you used! Omg the Happy Birthday in the background melt our hearts 🥹

[@freetobree5323]

Another unique and profound perspective ❤

[@DimitriDee5]

so refreshing and necessary!

[@OmoNyame]

i used to date a guy who was BIG on polygamy. wanted all these kids with “beautiful Queens” but didn’t even have the money for a pot to piss in let alone to afford all these damn kids. not only that, he was an imposter - painting this image to the public that wasn’t true and a leech. had big dreams with no action or follow through. i actually got really close with one of the other women he was involved with, and one me and her started communicating more, his boyish ways became even clearer and we both left him the dust while me and her became close friends. i bet he probably regrets ever introducing us lololol. he now has children with just one woman but he is still the same guy who doesn’t truly step up to the responsibility of what it means to protect and provide for a family. this makes me hurt for his partner and his children and selfishly, feel thankful that i was able to get out before we went down that path and couldn’t turn back. i say this to say that i wholeheartedly agree with you - men should not even be thinking about having girlfriends (let alone life partners when they can’t provide any financial support). most men today loveee the idea of poly for all the wrong reasons - they want to have access to many women but can’t even afford what it takes to keep them all sustained. add kids to the mix, and it gets even worse. i don’t think poly should even be a conversation until we have a stronger grasp on the foundational principles for ONE unit. again, thank you for sharing your story. it’s so beautiful that you and your children have gained a bigger and better village from this experience. i pray you all continue to be blessed and strong in this journey together ❤

[@pheonixiswild]

@@OmoNyame oooo your comment gave me chills. What a fantastic reality these men are in to think we are just going to stay silent. lol oh no. I’m just going to get much much worse.

[@kyariscar]

even in the “perfect” polygamous scenario it still doesn’t account for nightly cuddles :( so i don’t see how it works for women who need that in their day to day .

[@pheonixiswild]

@@kyariscar I agree. The lifestyle is not without those pains. But the monogamy has its own set of perils too..

[@loesjem]

Always loved your videos and the way you convey your thoughts, and I'm happy you're back on social media :) Metta is your twin

[@pheonixiswild]

@@loesjem I love you, and thank you for opening your heart to my words over the years. I wonder how many have battled these things alone. My content is a prayer for the silent ones. The ones who will never even feel they have a voice.

[@yanairemedranobustam]

Thank you for sharing, my experiencia is not the same, I was in a monogam relatinship with my baby's sperm donator (thats how i call him because being a father is a big thing that goes further that just having sex). Altough our experiences arent the same, there a lot of things in common, and listening to yo, and reading the comments makes me feel that I am not alone, I feel like this is the firts time that someone can undersand what im going trough. Once again thank you for sharing, sometimes I hace my dilemmas with internet but when used wisdomly its a big tool

[@shex7873]

We are all living the same existence. Interesting. My guy has no job, blames everyone but himself, refuses to apply anywhere. I work constantly and spend my free time with our daughter. He drowns his pain in useless podcasts, alcohol, weed. And porn. Refuses to build with a community of men because he is the “alpha”. Wants to use my body as a stress relief ball, no effort for romance. If this relationship ends I will never live with another man again. I would prefer we have our own places and his access to me will be based on how much he contributes to my life. (Perfect world).

[@pheonixiswild]

@@shex7873 it is sad. But your words hit me like knifes. I never would imagine another woman experiencing these things. This is in excess the same life I once lived. I don’t know how I will ever live with a man again either.

[@happyandfree11]

Did your mom and dad have a talk with you about how to select a partner/husband? Or did they just expect you would follow their example? I am realizing how little parents teach children about life and relationships. I’m teaching my child these things at an early age.

[@pheonixiswild]

@@happyandfree11 yes. They sort of went ahead of me. Growing up in their own lives, proving to me the truth. In the end I admire them. But in the in between, it brought me a great deal of pain. They had me at 18, to put it in perspective.

[@queenisha333]

I love that you love the sister wives 💕 where did your partner meet these lovely women? Online ?

[@pheonixiswild]

@@queenisha333 no. In his travels.