So it p*sses you off being Introverted Eh?

[@ventox1337]

you became so extroverted that i only hear you on my right ear

[@Greenskiez]

The problem with what you are doing is you are only forcing yourself to be uncomfortable in order to be better at talking. This will only work for a short period of time it will seem, but you will eventually run into the problem of not knowing what you are doing in the long run. The goal should be to be more of yourself. And if that means being more introverted then that is what you should be. To be content in your life and preoccupied is a way better state of mind is way better then being squirly,awkward, and uncomfortable. You want to have a conversation with someone who knows what they are doing. The main goal is not to simply have a conversation with someone. This is very unnatural. Which is why its easier to have a conversation with people you are friends with or family. Trust me I've tried most of the techniques and they don't end up working in the long run. There are oppurtunites in social situations where you do have the option to break the ice or be more outgoing and in these times will take wisdom to know when to take action and when to keep your mouth shut. I also don't think we should view extraverts in a superior light. Just be happy with yourself and be patient. Friends will come eventually no need to force yourself into peoples lives when you don't even want to be there in the first place.

[@marcjas]

Thanks bro for taking your time to wright this comment🤙I can see that you too you spend some time thinking about this and that you have experience. Yeah me too I believe that the main goal is to be yourself/authentic. The reason I am doing this is because the truth is that I don't like being an introverted, and I know that I am not the only one. Always feeling awkward around people, being shy, literally stressing about what I will say (even friends and family). I want to become someone who is comfortable in every, if not most social events. It could be with meeting new people, making new friends, not gonna lie with girls specifically. And from "my understanding of life" putting yourself in uncomfortable situations is where you see the most growth/results and where you feel the best about yourself. Even tho this is not the most comfortable path you can take, I believe that this is the right one for me, and maybe for some guys watching this. Hopefully this will enlightened guys like me who are stuck in the dark and who are seeking the light. This is my opinion but I think that saying in general "Just be happy with yourself" (again not here to put the knife back in) is coping. How can you be happy with yourself if there are things you don't like? For the things you don't like that you can't change (ex. height, face, hair color, etc. yes you have to learn to accept them), but with the things you can actually change (ex. introverted) why not improving them so that you become happy and proud of the changes you made? Again thanks for your comment and good luck with you future 💪 Haha as you can see by length of the writing this is something I have been thinking about a lot

[@Greenskiez]

@@marcjas Hey thanks for the reply. I do not feel you are putting a knife in my back, but simply stating your beliefs. I first off wanted to state that I am 39 years old. We all have feelings of being left out, or have awkward moments. This is part of the experience on earth. You have asked me how can you accept what you don't like about yourself. If you are able to change it. And I will ask you. Why you would want to change yourself if you don't like what you have to do to change? Either you are introverted or you are not. If you are not introverted and you do not view yourself in a negative light. You will not see something so much wrong with yourself. And when you meet new people you will be starting out on a good foot instead of "Hey I'm an introvert! But I'm not really an introvert because I'm putting myself out there!" This seems illogical and a bad way to solve problems. It's very hard for me to say that you are wrong in what you are doing because in reality you are being positive and not doing any real harm. I just don't want you to be confused and so desperate that you will go up to random strangers. My best advice for you is to be patient. Try and understand what is going on around you in social situations as opposed to what isn't going on. We all mature eventually so also know you most likely will grow without you knowing it. I hope this helps and doesn't come off as too negative. I wish you the best in the future. God bless you bro.

[@marcjas]

@@Greenskiez I love this conversation I appreciate you for writing some constructive arguments. You said "Why you would want to change yourself if you don't like what you have to do to change?" The hard and cold truth is that in order to achieve/get valuable things in life (have a six pack, nice car, house, be very good with conversations, etc.) you have to bite the bullet (fire expression I learned yesterday). Basically to do something unpleasant or painful because it's necessary even though you would like to avoid it. And I am someone who wants the most amount in success in life as possible (examples over) and I am ready to sacrifice anything in order to get those. And doing something you don't feel like doing most of the time (ex. train many times a week abs) is mandatory to reach this level of success I want. 6 pack example: 1- Because you don't want to train, you follow your feelings and you don't. You wont get a 6 pack. 2- Because you don't want to train and you understand that this is normal (if everyone would want to train to get a 6 pack, everyone would have one) and despite that you train. Eventually you will get it. And this apply with become more extroverted. So discomfort = growth This is why most people end up coping and saying "you don't need muscle anyway" "you don't need money to be happy" -> (true yet coping mechanism) "If you are born introverted you can't change" (they say similar things to those) because they don't want to feel the pain. So unfortunately they end up living a normal a life and not hitting their full potential because every time they feel uncomfortable (requisite to get what you truly want) they give up. This wasn't of any way negative, it was a mature response. Thanks bro you too 🤙