So we're supposed to split the bill?!

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[@LotusFlowerBmb]

Me being asked to split the bill: * lowers glasses * "This is upsettin ta me..."

[@jenniferlouden6859]

🤣🤣🤣🤣 Ms Jackie

[@amoryll36]

🇬🇧 🙋🏾‍♀️ Ok ok Miss Jackie! 🤣 👏🏾

[@charmcharm2352]

😂😂😂 Chiiiiilllee I'm with you. Time ta call Robert in HR!

[@HISfaithfulsheep]

Yes maam 😆

[@LovelyTrueRed]

😆😆😆😆😆

[@CurlversationPop]

This happened to hubby and I at this birthday dinner we were invited to. There were about 20 to 25 people at this dinner. The restaurant served Tapas so the portions are small. Hubby and I ordered a couple of drinks and 2 tapas and shared it. The bill comes and it was 700 dollars. I look at my hubby like what is going on? He said don’t worry our food isn’t on that ticket. I was like huh? He said I told the waiter when he took our order to bring our bill separately. He said I’m not paying for a bunch of people I don’t even know to eat. We are team not here for it.

[@dorisnamondo97]

Great idea!

[@Jeanology]

Hahaha I know that's right!!!!

[@normabuckson7345]

That's what I do. Not paying for them expensive "drinks" for other folks when I don't drink. Your husband is smart.

[@yrb5512]

Exactly what I do when I suspect shenanigans may be afoot 😉🙃

[@janeseknight5425]

Yeeessss 🎉. 🌞

[@Whatareyoumashugana]

As a former server, if you just ask us we'll split your bill off from the rest. Then you can leave the rest of the party to deal with that foolishness. You are NOT obligated to pay for anyone else

[@bebebe1354]

I always let them know up front...separate MY order...problem solved...

[@APTTMHYforever]

In my experience, most restaurants don’t do that… especially for large groups… I say just split the bill. People are super cheap and tacky for saying “don’t split the bill”🙄

[@lilhypnotique]

@@APTTMHYforever Umm ma’am who pockets you checking you, for “their” money?! Again “their” money?! If I didnt order it, I am not paying for it, plain and simple. Cheap is not pulling your own weight and expecting someone else to pay for it. When you can simply calculate what you ordered, your tip, and the tax, simple math skills and everyone has a calculator on the phone. Sounds like beater behavior to me. That’s something you discuss before entering a restaurant, splitting a bill is for if there is a predetermined amount for each person.

[@mistersmith1883]

@@APTTMHYforever agreed

[@tw449]

@@APTTMHYforever Maybe you can bully some of your friends into subsidizing your expensive taste by calling them cheap and tacky. They'll go broke hanging out with you.

[@FamiliaSuri]

I pay for what I eat! If they get upset oh well! Not everybody can afford a $100 dinner especially if you ordered the $14.99 special 🤣

[@maryrubick932]

Yes, agreed! it's common sense to me.

[@crystalterry144]

Say it again!! I ate $10.75 worth of food and that's what I am paying for. PERIODT

[@tyrab2434]

true but obviously this is a $75-100 plate restaurant 😂 so they must be wealthy or hood rich (hood rich is having $2,800+ in spare/spending money.. not bill $, but side money)

[@lindseyhussey6450]

Right!

[@trillythagr8259]

Everybody get their own check. Its that simple. What's not clicking????????????

[@CLCCOTTON1]

EXACTLY

[@cherissebrowne3795]

Honestly sir! Like what's confusing about that??

[@morgan-gx1ho]

Exactly keep it simple and straightforward.

[@charmcharm2352]

Ion know. You get yo paper with what you ate on it I get mine with what I ate? What? Is the restaurant rationing the order receipt paper or sumn? Ask me to split a $600 bill after I've only eaten $40 worth of food and imma have ta call Robert in HR!

[@Lill2895]

It's the entitlement people think they have that's not clicking lol Those the same people that don't want to tip but call the server all night long for no reason.

[@prosperinsoul4767]

Immediately NO. I was once at a dinner with a group of ladies celebrating a birthday, and was told my split bill would be 124 dollars. I asked to see the bill, and I asked for a separate ticket, and then someone said “So you are paying for you?” YES. Had no problem paying for the birthday girl’s meal. However, that wasn’t what happened, I would have been paying for other people’s food and drink. Not to mention one of those at the dinner DIDN’T even care for me. I think this is perfectly fine amongst friends who do this together ALL of the time, I’m just not that friend. IMMEDIATELY NO.

[@varroz6926]

Definitely gonna have to use that saying "IMMEDIATELY NO"!!! - I can hear me now when the devil TRY stir up in somebody - IMMEDIATELY NO🙅🏽‍♀️satan ‼️ 'The THEY Sayers SAY' "NO, IS A WHOLE SENTENCE"‼️ LOL , Also LOVE the 'name' you chose to use.. ' Prosper in soul'.😎👍🏽🗝️📖🎁❤️🙏🏽💯🕊️

[@tw449]

Normalize NOT splitting the bill. People will try to shame you for wanting to pay for only what you ordered, but I would always come out on the short end of the stick. So, I'm sticking up for my pockets every time!

[@feliciahardin2304]

Exactly

[@ladonnawilliams4813]

Right! I wanted steak too. But, I budgeted for pasta. So, I’m paying for pasta. Don’t try to put me on economic blast.

[@cameronalexander1111]

Ain’t no shame in my game. No one told Tina to get 4 margaritas she can’t afford. Pay for what u ordered. Keep it moving

[@smartmoufx6800]

@@ladonnawilliams4813 #FACTS!!!

[@lorettaknoelk3475]

Love that "sticking up for my pockets, " 😆

[@NativeAmericanSwag]

I came for the conversation, the half priced appetizers, shrimp, lemon water,, and burgers all for under $20. Not to help with Kenny's alcohol problem and Susan's issue with not looking at the prices for the house specials!!! SMH 🤦‍♀️

[@smartmoufx6800]

🤣🤣

[@janet5712]

Heard that!

[@dyoung2739]

I've picked up the tab for a group before but I only announced that I would pick up the tab AFTER😂the group ordered. Bcuz,let's be honest, some folks tastes get more expensive if someone else is paying.

[@Perfectlyradiant_]

That’s smart.

[@keabanks2619]

That’s true, some people get stupid when they know they don’t have to pay. My tastes get cheaper if I’m not the one paying. Due unto others…

[@dyoung2739]

@@keabanks2619 Exactly

[@jasminehaywood7682]

AMEN!!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@valeriewilliams-hogan3885]

Exactly how I do it

[@GBabyBayou]

Here's my philosophy: if I invite you out, I'm paying for it all. If I am invited out, I go with the intention of paying for my own food & drinks and paying my own tip unless the person that invited me says otherwise. In a group setting, we have separate checks because what I order is what I know I can pay for. Full stop.

[@tekeco]

Separate checks . Everyone pays for their own meal

[@idontwantahandle22]

If our bills are roughly the same amount, then it’s fine to split the bill. The issue is that this scenario is usually supported by the habitual line steppers. They will order the steak, lobster & bottled wine b/c they are expecting the attendee that had the salad & tap water to offset their bill. No ma’am.

[@franv4153]

Habitual line steppers 😂😂😂

[@sdc8598]

You nailed it!!!

[@lazybaby15]

See this is what you do. Remove the gratuity percentage and split that amount. And then add the 18% gratuity to their amount

[@ginasellers4212]

Yeah, fuck that

[@AndreiFantastic]

Stepping on lines! Habitually.

[@carlajones2169]

I learned to advise the waitress, before my order is taken in a group setting that I need a separate bill. Usually others will second that and we all get separate bills. Either way I order according to MY funds. People order totally different when they think they won’t have to pay their full bill. And when I decide to pick up the bill, I only announce that after orders are taken, or after I get the bill. It’s funny how thirsty or hungry people become after they find out they don’t have to pay. Don’t pimp me! Just don’t do that! My associates stopped that mess with me!

[@DanyellBordeaux]

I’m paying for what I ordered. The only exception would be IF we discussed splitting the bill equally IN ADVANCE 😂…bday dinner, group outing, etc. to celebrate a special occasion ONLY! Don’t spring this on me at the table, ask me beforehand 😐

[@dietrich2894]

This!!

[@aprilblake-cottingham3864]

I know that's right!!!

[@Lill2895]

Yeah usually that's how it's suppose to go. If I ordered a $20 appetizer and drink water or a simple fountain drink, I'm not paying for someone's 3 margaritas and $50 plate lol

[@cluv513]

¹

[@charlajefferson9220]

Yes, we split the bill for special occasions.

[@ginasellers4212]

I'm only paying for what I ordered UNLESS we've agreed to split the tab BEFOREHAND. I'll die on this hill.

[@krissy35]

When my husband used to work at the office, he and his coworkers would go out to eat. They had a system where everyone would put their credit cards in a “pot” and whoever’s card was picked randomly out of the pot, had to pay for everyone’s bill. 😳 I would never agree to be a part of that foolishness.

[@avasd59]

That's crazy!

[@krissy35]

Not to make this a white/black thing but I know he agreed to it because that was something his white coworkers were doing for awhile before he was a part of the group. He didn’t find out about it until after the bill came. He only agreed because he was the only black person and didn’t want to be the odd man out or make things awkward for himself. However, he does like to gamble at times, so….

[@marieknight9385]

Oh hell no, I'm on a budget and I stick to it

[@ashleej527]

@@krissy35 I hate the fact he had to feel “forced to fit in”. I am the only black woman at my job and I WILL NEVER EVER GO OUT FOR COMPANY EVENTS BECAUSE OF THIS CRAP!

[@shellymitchell1673]

NEVER chyle!

[@blackgirliniran]

I think splitting the bill really depends on the group and a persons pockets. My best friend & I never split the bill. I pay for our entire meal this time & the next time she pays. (& so forth) Also when my husband & I are out with another couple, the men usually split the bill evenly. But it’s normal because we always share food.

[@janet5712]

But you also know and trust one another. You all have a system. Great!!

[@KingsKidMediaGroup12]

Pay for your own bill, tell the server to separate your check from the beginning of any group meal.

[@beverlyhall4578]

Amen

[@latonyamarlow2517]

The waiter may ask beforehand or they let the table know that they don't do separate checks. Then discussion needs to take place beforehand

[@lovebug6388]

Are you my long lost sibling 😂😂😂cause I do this when I see the shenanigans about to start and I tell them I'm paying in cash so I need it separated.

[@leijen208]

I always let my server know before I give them my order. Don't care what everyone else is doing 😅. If it is a special occasion for someone, beforehand we have discussed paying for the special person

[@islandqueen8195]

Please & thank you! No confusion when the bill come

[@t.e.burgos3263]

Their playful chemistry is so joyful to watch! Love EJ, and I love to see her smiling and having fun with her hubby!

[@chinemeremudoh3732]

it is sooo heartwarming!

[@taybee4653]

Everyone pays for what they order. Why should someone have to pay for extra food they did not eat? 🤔

[@Lill2895]

Agreed. The only time you don't split is if someone volunteered to treat you.

[@solaira3154]

Especially if they don’t finish all they food

[@indiaindia9491]

Right!

[@tee415y510]

Especially when I go to eat with people who drink 🍸 🍷 🥂. I'm like, "How am I paying for your alcohol?" I'm not. I always have water cuz I'm not paying $3 for a soda 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@teena82]

Yes!

[@KamisKisses]

I know what I can afford and I order accordingly, there is no splitting tab with greedy Gerta. 💅🏾

[@joela.7325]

as the vegan at the dinner, i am FO’ SHO paying for only my portion. 💯

[@Martina_E]

Same!

[@leshcamp7281]

Exactly

[@SoulSistah1LM]

I'm vegetarian, and I know my ticket is cheaper than other folks. (Even though I'm a fat vegetarian). Separate tickets please.

[@curlykiki8]

hello!! ‘cause it ain’t NO WAY my bill can compare to that of a carnivore. 🌱

[@Bubblegumswitch]

Agreed! This happens a LOT when I go out, especially if someone else ordered plenty of appetizers & drinks that I did not partake! 🤬

[@deoncapass-tatum3629]

The exact way FJ said “NO!” is how I’m responding when/if somebody expects me to pay extra. They gone make me have to call Robert.

[@egyptscott4801]

"CAUSE".. "THIS IS NOT RIGHT" "THIS IS UPSETTIN TO ME" "ROBERT"

[@MoZart1920]

As a professional, let me say that EJ was being extremely sweet and generous. Her suggestion is NOT part of networking or business. FJ has it absolutely correct!!! You pick up the entire bill OR you pay for your own. The only other variable is that the person paying the tab usually will tell folks that they pay for their own alcoholic drinks.

[@nekitaclark6539]

If I'm in a business meeting/networking, I'm like EJ, where I order under $20 for my meal. When the bill comes and the host pays in full, I'll add my amount as a tip to the waiter (or more). I do that on dates as well. And before anything is ordered, we talk it out. I don't like surprises.

[@QueenKunta]

When I’m eating out with friends we split the bill because it’s easier math and we don’t want to fuss over money. The key is that we are friends and sensible folks. Don’t order lobster and alcohol when the rest of us got burgers and lemon water.

[@APTTMHYforever]

Exactly!! Who are these people that they’re speaking about??? Sounds like they need to broaden their horizons😁 I thought it was completely normal to just split the bill and if it’s couples then one of the men will normally split, and if it’s family (even all women) one of us will just pay the entire bill and then another will pay the next time… folks are super tacky these days

[@CiaoColeG]

@@APTTMHYforever I heard about splitting the bill equally for the first time on television when I was an adult. Some of us live in a part of the states where people don't do that. It's not about tact, it's about customs. EJ and her husband are in Arkansas and I'm in Indiana. The only dining with friends scenarios I've experienced is paying for myself or one person treating everyone.

[@gscr09]

It is normal to split the bill. I’ve been in the hospitality industry for 15 years. Only the difficult tables that don’t tip well are the ones that fuss over someone ordering an extra drink or two and having to split. I swear some people go out just to make others lives miserable.

[@selenasimmons6653]

Agreed! 100% for this situation

[@MogaliMasuku]

I'm in England. This is such a common practice here that asking people to pay for what they ordered rather than splitting the bill is considered gauche. People make you feel like you're the poor cousin who's making a fuss over nothing. This is, as EJ says, "upsetting to me." . I believe you should order what you can pay for, and deliberately not leave the house with more money than that so that your group, whether friends or workmates, learns the social etiquette of respecting each other's wallets. I'm an artist and have a career where one season is flush and another is tense. Thinking I'm being asked out cos I'm 'flush', that hurts me, and embarrasses me. *Order what you can pay for. You have absolutely no idea what's going on in another person's wallet.

[@bwcarter921]

That's the bottom line... please exit my wallet.

[@glamrgirl33]

It’s similar here and it makes no sense. Aside from how people want to look at or judge the person that doesn’t want to split, there is absolutely no harm done if everyone pays for their own order. While on the flip side, someone in the group has to take on expenses beyond what can easily afford or even budgeted for just not to appear gauche- keep up an appearance. Yea, that’s much better than everyone just paying for themselves. It’s just inconsiderate, really, to assume that everyone at the table has it as good as everyone else.

[@latigrelibre]

and all I can say is, "yes." ✊🏽 my sister did this to me, choosing a pricier restaurant than we'd ever been to (while I was a struggling student) and at the end of the meal and in front of the third person, tell me, "I thought we would split the bill between us and treat so and so." no darling, you can't think for me or my pockets.

[@ynmonroe]

@@latigrelibre For real. I have no problem speaking up when I'm being wronged.

[@jaleedamoore8837]

You should move....

[@shanequashante5987]

Yasss! This happened to me a couple of times 1st time I went out with a group of runners and we ate at a restaurant I knew what was in my pocket and what I was going to spend so I ordered accordingly. While everyone else ordered mimosas I had a water. There's 6 people 5 drank. Bill comes to $550 they wanted to split it I was NOT about to do that and calmly said so then asked the waitress to bring separate bills my total $22 with tip one girl got so upset she no longer wanted to talk to me . I don't give a damn. 2nd time I was out with friends at a lounge 5 ladies bill comes $600 I again know where this Is going and loudly tell everyone to pay your share and again another person got upset and didn't want to talk to me and I didn't give 2 damns. I don't come out to pay for other people s shit on the spot this isn't a date this is me eating out with friends pay your own shit! granted we all were sharing our food but still pay for your own shit my total $37.94 for my entire meal with 1 drink . I just don't go out with large groups anymore it honestly ruins the night when people feel entitle to your money.

[@chasehim3761]

If yall were sharing then you give the expectation that you're helping paying. How you gone eat the stuff too? Just eat your share--to be fair.

[@veldaglover7609]

I’m almost 80 years old. Over 40 years ago I’d go out with several friends (all girls). We would go to Manhattan (from Jersey) regularly for dinner and a show. We’d split the bill equally. I remember on one occasion someone who had joined us for the first time offered to pay more because she was the only one who had dessert. The oldest in the group replied, “We ALL had a good time!!!!” I think that best described how we viewed the evening, we were paying for a “good time” not just the meal. We paid for our theater tickets individually.) I live hundreds of miles away now and with COVID-19 this isn’t even an issue for those of us who are “sheltering in place” but I sure miss those “good times”.

[@bjdubb08]

I truly believe this is an age thing and being in the position, economically, to split the check. Someone said people are ordering up a bunch of appetizers and drinks and then don’t have enough money to pay. It’s time to upgrade your contacts.

[@nataliaglover6136]

👀Hey Grandma-nana!! Didn't expect to see you in the comment section today lol. Love you ❤

[@macummings7818]

I absolutely LOVE that approach! ❤️ The vibe should be giving and supportive and considerate, always!

[@veldaglover7609]

@@nataliaglover6136, you never know where GrandmaNana may show up. ❤

[@Kai-fl7jp]

💜💜🌹🌹

[@god-given-child6040]

I live in New York and MY group of friends and I are nurses and we always split the bill or one or two people decide to take care of it. Reason being, we each take turns without being asked. We know each other's business and we know who can't afford what... so sometimes if we cant pay for our entire split, we just throw whatever we have on the table to contribute or do the gratuity. If it's not close friends, we pay for our own or all like FJ said.

[@twicebenice]

Pay for only what you ordered, no splitting equally if my order is less

[@InnerRise]

"If my order less" So if it's more you good with other people paying YOUR bill........okay

[@LoveAndSnapple]

@@InnerRise just because they didn’t say the other part doesn’t mean that they’re OK with it too. You need to learn to understand context clues and understand gray areas of nuance. They never said that they would be phony if it came to doing things the other way.

[@haleyclarke1332]

You guys balance each other. EJ is hilarious and FJ is seriously funny😂, this was good😅

[@pretaporterp]

I got played with this split the bill thing before going out with co-workers who ran up the tab with multiple drinks and sides when I only ordered a water and pizza. Pay for it in the moment and know never go out to dinner with those people again. Also is FJ Ms Jackie's son, because this was upsetting to him. LOL!

[@franv4153]

😂😂😂

[@GemaSpringer]

🤣🤣🤣

[@mwatson4970]

Bet you lunch, Mrs. Jackie is either her Mama- or Auntie-In-Law on HIS side.

[@MsMockingbird06]

Don’t want you to get played by a different group. You can also communicate how the bill will be paid before ordering so the expectation is clear ahead of time.

[@JennsCorner777]

I once went out on a double date with a bestie at the time. The guy she was dating was ....not worthy of her time I'll put it that way. I immediately told the waiter I'd be paying for my bill separately. Her date told her not to order anything because he wasn't going to pay for her food just his. The way he handled it was so rude and controlling. She looked so sad and said oh ok well I just won't order anything. I was so pissed. The guys were the ones who invited us out, he could have said something before offering to take her to lunch. I picked up the menu she put down and said NO, you order whatever you want. I don't care what it is, get what you WANT I'll pay for your food. She felt better and we ate. I let the waiter know I was picking up the tab for myself and for her only. Screw that guy. 😒 I never expect anyone to pay for me. When I make plans to eat out with someone I'll say Hey let's go here...my treat?! If they balk I let them know it's ok, when I'm offering it's because I have it in my budget to do so, and when I don't have it in my budget I don't offer. If I invite someone to eat I do it because I have plenty of money to spend at a moderately priced place so they can feel free to get what they'd like. I also don't invite people out who are greedy or users. I take my loved ones out who appreciate me and with whom I have a mutually giving and respectful relationship. When someone asks me out to eat if I can't afford it I let them know, oh that's so nice of you I'd love to go but it's not in my budget. If they offer to pay I make sure they are certain and keep my selection to what I would order if I was paying. Mutual respect.

[@QuitasBanana]

This is upsetting to FJ.....I am only paying for what my spouse/I ate. If you aint wanna pay you shouldn't have ordered it. I dont even split with my spouse. One of us will cover the bill. Everybody laughing and giggling til that waitress drop that check. FJ has my thoughts exactly.

[@Lill2895]

Deadass 🤷🏾‍♀️ I can't stand people who go out and then suddenly they can't afford all that they ordered. Oh well. Guess it's time to wash some dishes 🤣

[@renesimmons6652]

@@Lill2895 🤣😂🤣🤣

[@wagnerd548]

This was very enlightening. I never thought about splitting a tab like this.. I thought splitting a tab ment everyone pays for what they ordered. However whether it's a business meeting, networking event or whatever, I want to pay for what I ordered. I shouldn't have to pay someone else if I didn't choose to.

[@thepinkpanda818]

Um, did we share the food? If not, I’m only paying for myself.

[@resa31802]

Now this is one situation where I would gladly split. If we're sharing food, I will gladly split the bill.

[@FallenVixen93]

Agreed. Only time I could see splitting it. Like what was order was easily split

[@Saighin]

Right. Like, if it's a Peking Duck restaurant or a Brazilian steakhouse, that's a specifically "price per head" establishment where everyone *shares* the dishes the table orders. Then it's fine. But only then.

[@rodtherichest]

Nah we don't share food🗣💯

[@justasiam601]

Preach

[@christilynfranklin2104]

I love to see EJ make FJ laugh 😂😂😂 and when they laugh together. I can only laugh with them.

[@chinemeremudoh3732]

A woman able to make her man laugh is a National Treasure!!

[@just_patience]

Come EJ said it! "Order what you can pay for!" Pay for what you order!

[@MsMockingbird06]

I’ve heard of this before. I’m paying for what I ordered. Sometimes, especially at dinner, people buy a lot of drinks. I don’t really drink, so I will not be contributing to others buying 5 drinks for $10 each. NO! You can’t let people take advantage of you. It would be the same for me at the business/networking dinner. Don’t tell me what to send up. If I only ordered $30 worth of food, I’d be pissed if some told me to send $100. Sounds like someone I should not be networking with. I think this situation gets more complicated when people are sharing appetizers and several of those are ordered. It’s best to communicate how the bill will be paid before even ordering.

[@vonettamedlock5146]

Cash registers these days can keep track of who ordered what. I'm going Dutch.

[@victorybeginsinthegarden]

But if you shared an appetizer but you need to discuss before we go out

[@aeoligarlic4024]

It's the best!

[@monawilliams286]

I'm with EJ and FJ!! perfect example: One of my Attorneys said back when he was a Law Clerk and broke, new to the office, he was invited out by the Lawyers. Great opportunity for him to meet and learn things. He purposely ordered cheap. Fries? $1.99. Water? Complimentary. The look on his face one of the Attorneys suggested they split the bill? Priceless!!

[@chinemeremudoh3732]

😂😂😂

[@ashakiwest4244]

I'm paying for what I ordered and give the waitstaff a cash tip. Plus with a group,they already add a 8% gratuity to the bill.

[@Lill2895]

Nah it's more like an 18-25% automatic gratuity now. These restaurants ain't playin 2021 if you come in with a group lol

[@TheYAyaLady]

I’ve seen group tip is at least 20% off the top. 6 people or more. I’ve done both. Pay my portion and pay a set price. What bothers me is when I go on a date and he say let’s go Dutch, right before we sit down. That conversation supposed to happen before then.

[@ItsWhatevers14]

I love ejs love for her husband. It's so wholesome and adorable.

[@kittenbrown2484]

Been in this situation a few times. Had not a problem getting out my calculator and totaling up my bill. Then adding my tip and placing it in the servers hand. Then getting up from the table and leaving. Folks have tried to get me to pay for their expensive meals and top shelf drinks.....like I said tried.... I dont bend to their silliness....and I think its plain rude to expect people to pay extra because they want to split a bill evenly.👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾😌

[@heathertea2704]

HELLO!!!

[@Kai-fl7jp]

In college, I was always the one to get the tickets, and do the math. I was not about to play with the peoples 😂😂 I'm not paying for drinks when I only ordered water. Lol I pay for what I order.

[@taniachara77]

😂😂😂

[@ms.s9291]

😂😂😂

[@APTTMHYforever]

If you’re under 25 years old then ok cool… it’s super tacky to try and divide a large bill, especially if everyone is paying with a card🙃

[@ms_bleu8416]

The two of you had me hollering!!!😂😂😂 Splitting the bill equally makes sense when everyone is eating and drinking in excess. Because it ends up being cheaper. But of course if one is certain they will only eat & drink a small amount asking for a separate bill works too.

[@janae296]

Hmmmm, I'm paying for what I ordered. If I choose to personally assist someone else on behalf of their bill, that's on me. That's just me. To each their own.

[@Kai-fl7jp]

Same!!! I agree with you.

[@ashleykoonce584]

When I used to go out with groups in NYC, restaurants didn't split the bill for you or give you separate checks. Some people may automatically split the bill for that reason. However, my friends and I literally sat down and did the math and only paid for what we actually ate plus the tip.

[@benitawilliams5545]

Split? I've already told the waitress that all my food is on one bill, what y'all do with the rest is up to y'all. I ain't paying for something I didn't eat

[@rochellethundercloud346]

Exactly.I'd do the same thing.simply because i've been in situations where a group stated literally ordering the ENTIRE menu.the ENTIRE drinks menu.ran up a huge bill .like over 3 grand bill.it was like 14 of us.i paid for my order which was like $60.i did not order no $1000 worth of booze.i damn sure ain't payin it.

[@kyliCatherine1]

I know that’s right

[@hollyhlee]

You two are sooo adorable! I love you all's chemistry!

[@askinJesusname]

"Immediately No" is what I think Fred was trying to say! 🤣🤣🤣

[@jenethompsonart]

I am from the east coast and to keep this from happening in social settings I ask the waiter to put my stuff on a separate bill BEFORE I ORDER MY FOOD. In a business setting I agree with the host paying the entire bill.

[@TheLionsLove2]

This is Hilarious because my husband HATES the split the bill theory 😂. We actually have been in this situation before. We went out with a group of about 10 and folks was running up the tab with drinks, appetizers and full meals. We (my husband and I) only had soda and one appetizer. At the end they all wanted to split it a tab that was over $1000.00. It was awkward to say the least.

[@CLCCOTTON1]

SMDH!!! That’s some bullshit! I would have been pissed.

[@cherissebrowne3795]

So what did you do??

[@CLCCOTTON1]

@@cherissebrowne3795 I don’t know. Like you said that’s an uncomfortable position to be in. I don’t know if I would have paid 100 bucks. They would have probably never invite me again. Seriously

[@CLCCOTTON1]

@@cherissebrowne3795 they were wrong tho

[@charmcharm2352]

Been in this situation before. So I learnt while everybody is kee keeing and ordering I say to the server when it's my turn very casually "oh you can just put mine on a separate receipt plz" and nonchalantly resume talking as if it's no big deal. Usually they end up following suit and saying "oh me too plz!"

[@TheToddR92]

Depends on location. Here in Los Angeles, most places don’t allow you to spit the check by what you order. They’ll only give you one check and either one person pays and then we have to figure it out later and Venmo the person that paid, or we have to figure it out right then and there (do the math), and then the waitress what to charge each card. So a lot of time it’s just a lot easier to split the check evenly

[@gscr09]

Thank you! I’m in Miami and it’s unheard of or very rare for people to ask to split the check by what they specifically ordered. They either split it evenly or one person pays the whole bill. As a server I feel like people are going out there way to be difficult when asking us to split a check 15 different ways. And if they do that please believe I will add automatic gratuity to their check and force them to tip me because I’m not doing all that math for free. ☺️

[@cheshkat6321]

When I was a young adult, I ran into this situation and learned my lesson. I don't drink but the people I was with guzzle 3 or 4 drinks plus a couple bottles of wine. I had only a cheap "special of the day" meal and a glass of water. I had to work night shift and couldn't arrive to work sleepy from stuffing myself or under the influence. Split bill was over $100 per person. Never again. I tell the server my bill is separate up front. If they don't want to do that for a large group, I have no problem sitting at a separate table to get my food and bill and join the group later. I eat out with a budget and stick to it.

[@RuthieSongbird]

Smh. I’m so sorry this happened to you!

[@smartmoufx6800]

But it didn't have to happen, why are we so afraid to tell people who are clearly taking advantage of us, N0? Glad you learned your lesson though.

[@MsMockingbird06]

Glad you learned your lesson. Yes, for sticking to your budget!

[@Keasha274]

The only way I have ever done this is trying a new place and sharing plates where we order pitchers of drinks and several appetizers, desserts,and entrees and extra plates so everyone can try anything they want then you split the check and tip evenly

[@MzLadyDi1]

I’m only paying for what I ordered, unless it’s a special occasion and I decide to cover myself and the honoree. I’m not covering the tab for everyone unless I’m hosting and it was previously agreed upon.

[@michellebutler9492]

Usually , the person that orders the most wants to split the bill. Everyone should only pay for what they ordered.

[@be-u-te-fulkarma4794]

My Mom always told me when you are out with a big party of people you order around the same amount as the majority of people. That way you won't feel like you overpaid if you split the bill.

[@_michael1332]

I have seen and been a part of it- splitting the bill equally. It works on condition- you know the crowd, everyone is reasonable- ordered a drink and a meal, shared an appetizer, had a genuinely good time/wanted to see these guys (no undertones of being taken by someone for a ride), then it feels good to split the bill equally. I have talked to someone about it- he said, splitting equally is part of breaking bread with someone, breaking bread with close friends. In all other cases, agree- ask the restaurant to split the bill.

[@hazelwitherspoon2721]

When my friends and I go out, we all get separate checks. That way there is no confusion of how much I am laying down on the table. If we are treating someone, that is different. Go ahead Big Willier FJ - picking up the tab with your baller self.

[@clementine4133]

That happened to me before, a boss invited us, we were young, teenagers, and had us pay for their share, thinking, ewe didn't know how to count... It was frankly sad when you saw the income difference. I remember feeling Will in "The Pursuit of Happiness" in that cab... they have the money, they do not pay. I also got to mediate a situation where an acquaintance invited their friends to their birthday dinner on an expensive Rooftop in NYC and wondered if they could require a high minimum amount of money from everyone. I explained that when I invite, I pay ; when I offer we can discuss and choose what is best for all. Not forcing expanses on others. They took the advice as everybody was canceling...

[@ladytinag4276]

Simple. I’m not ordering without a clear understanding upfront of the payment situation. Also, if I don’t want to be a part of that situation, I’m getting my own separate ticket.

[@violettefrye7627]

So, my feelings about this completely depends on the group. If I'm with a group of super close people, who ALWAYS split, which means, I don't have to worry about who's gonna pay me back or who I pay for, then it's cool. If I don't know those in the group like that, I order what I intend to pay for including tip.

[@nany21988]

I would pay for what I ordered. No more no less

[@angelamoss5156]

I've typically experienced this if it's a large group of folks at dinner -- it keeps things simple to split the bill. Saves time.

[@Tielatells]

EJs body language after her her husband said he can pick up the tab 😂😂😂 With my siblings, parents, and close friends I am okay with splitting the tab equally. We usually discuss what kind of meal we are having. Are we eating and drinking in excess or just a simple meal. Co-workers or associates… separate checks please!!!

[@vickiboston8463]

I had a sibling that would order drinks, appetizers, an expensive entree and desert and holler we gonna split the bill, the rest of us would tell her no because her bill was almost more than the other 3 of us put together! 😃😃 she hoodwinked us once and that was it.

[@eurekamreum5458]

2:36 "woah, wait a minute, I ain't going?" lol thas was so cute!

[@ashakiwest4244]

The way EJ looked at him when he said six guys or whatever 🤣

[@boujiebarbie3198]

Fa real!!! She looked like "Okay, let's review our math"😂

[@meorthejob]

In most environments I’m in, we split the bill evenly - regardless of who ordered what. I thought everyone did that! Dining out with friends is about the experience and the whole “I only ordered this” vibe kills the mood for me. Over time, it evens out - sometimes my meal is more, sometimes less. Just tell the waiter up front if you want your own bill.

[@gscr09]

Thank you. When people say they only want to pay for what they preferred I feel like they’re being difficult.

[@musikatre]

I don't like this. Especially, if I am now paying more than anticipated. Let's say I budgeted 70.00, but am now asked to pay 100.00. Not because I ordered above my means, but because others have allocated larger amounts or were hungrier. Now, sometimes it doesn't matter when the cost per entree is relatively the same...this instant and prearranged terms are my 2 exceptions.

[@calmcuke6865]

@@gscr09 More like you feel entitled to others time and money.

[@MariaMaria-sr8zg]

Vibe also kills the mood when you have to pay for Johnny's alcoholic drinks and you had water and his drinks were worth the price of 4 of your meals and you still have to have gas to get home. I do agree to figure it out upfront Before the bill comes.

[@hystericalbiology991]

MY EXPERIENCE!!! Splitting the Tab can only successfully occur (no hurt feelings, awkwardness or pettiness), when the group consists of mature employed people (6) OR, a group of mature employed people, who are also friends (6). How? Payment method is decided BEFORE we enter the restuarant or BEFORE we order. No need to be anxious. You can also opt out at this point. Now (5). If a friend is short or between jobs, we agree to "help a sista" because it could be me/you, next time.(4) We all order according to our pocket AND we share, IF asked. This way, we get a chance to "taste" a dish we were undecided about before ordering. We pay for our drinks SEPARATELY because we are not all drinkers and somebody's got to be the designated driver! We laugh, we eat, we drink. When the bill comes. We split it 4 ways + your drink. WE TIP and we go home. Until the next time. Oh, we also designate who will be responsible for determining our split. Usually, the designated driver. This is great when trying a new Restaurant. Or, celebrating someone's birthday or Congratulations on whatever. Substitute the broke person, in these scenarios.

[@RuthieSongbird]

I can absolutely vibe with voluntarily letting everyone know that I’ll cover the full of ticket. I feel FJ on that 👏🏾.

[@spnfancurl5026]

I saw this in a movie or tv show once, can't even remember what it was. It was a big group of friends and then one person wanted to pay only for what they ordered and his friends acted like he whipped out his stuff and laid it on the table. lol. (might have been Curb Your Enthusiasm). I did see this post on IG and so many people were in the comments talking about split the tab 6 ways. As EJ said, there was a person that said something like "this is what grown people do." No. I'll be a child, then. The only money coming out of my pocket beyond what I ordered is the tip. I'm not about to expect someone to pay for my five course meal and I DAMN SHO' ain't paying $100 for my cheeseburger and strawberry lemonade. Split the bill five ways next time because I won't be back out with yall crazy behinds.

[@katrinab7657]

This was also an episode of Friends. The friends with good jobs and money vs the broke friends who only ordered soup OR salad and water

[@shayshaysherree]

Sisssss, Fred was so serious 😂 I PAY FOR MY PORTION AND U PAY FOR YOURS!!! LMBO🤣🤣🤣

[@KiraBKADestroyerOfWorlds]

If everybody is eating everything, then yes, split it equally; but if we're ordering separately, and eating separately, then we're PAYING separately as well

[@musikatre]

This makes sense. If the apps and food are shareable, then yes splitting equally makes sense. But,,,, if you ate 3 entrees and I had a soup....nah fam!🤣

[@mehwishkhan9671]

I love y’all’s dynamic. Also, I’m never the one who only orders a small thing at dinner so I never feel put upon by splitting up a tab but it really depends on the group and if everyone is sharing everything or if there is someone who is very conscious of what they are ordering/spending

[@resa31802]

Also, I think the concept originated in a time when it was difficult when it was difficult for servers to split checks for large parties. Everything is automated now and its just not the case. The servers in restaurants can open the tab for an entire table and split the tab by order before they even send your request to the back of the house. They are literally just pressing a button. This screams I want to be bougie but I don't know why we even started doing this, to me.

[@avasd59]

I've been to plenty of restaurants that all of a sudden decided they no longer split the bill for large groups. Perhaps because of Covid or because people "forget" to pay for what they ordered but it's really odd to me that they stopped doing that

[@keithjones7037]

Unless someone says that they got your ticket, then like, EJ said: "Order what you can afford." Simple

[@tiffanyluvenia4220]

I've never been to a restaurant where the waitstaff didn't ask while taking orders. Generally, they ask "and is this all on the same bill?" And I'm like spongebob...noooooo. 👍 😆 Unless we agreed to this beforehand...baby, I'm not splitting the check! Period 💯

[@A.J.Jones_and_J.]

We totally agree with you both!!! We always believed in paying for what we purchased unless someone picked up the tab. Even still we’re a little hesitant.

[@Fabfitand50]

Honestly, I think it depends on the relationships of the people in the group. I've gone out with 10 people (family) before and one person will pick up the whole thing. I've gone out with 6 friends and we all pay for our own. If I go out one-on-one with someone like my sister, maybe I'll pay, maybe she'll pay. It just depends.

[@ynmonroe]

Right. Agreed. But the key here is the intended social pressure. What you've described is a mutual choice; I'm down with that. What I won't do is get forced to do something that I don't feel is fair to me and that wasn't agreed upon beforehand.

[@karenvonrabenau7196]

It’s always the person that orders the most wants to split the bill!!! 😂😂😂😂

[@Theenrichmentlab]

This reminds me of Secret Santa. I kick in the door for my Secret Santa but I ALWAYS get dish towels or a $5 Starbucks gift card. 🙄 I don't do Secret Santa but thank you!😊

[@isabellap9087]

No. My family goes out to eat often, at least once a month. Theres about 15 of us. We dont "split" bills, before we start ordering we let the waitstaff know that we are opening separate tabs and at the end everybody pays for their own food/drinks. Everybody is happy with this arrangement.

[@jonettezephir6701]

It honestly use to depend on who I’m out with. There’s some people that take advantage of split tabs. They order expensive meals, drink after drinks, then want to split the bill. Now, I pay for what I order. I ask for separate checks, unless it’s a special occasion.

[@Beya_C]

“well wait a minute, I ain’t goin” EJ you crack me up 😂

[@kingtyrone4375]

I feel like it depends on the context , like sometimes me and a friend may get the two for one margaritas ant chili’s and share And apatizer , and we just split everything and share the snack lol but it’s just a friend outing

[@kingtyrone4375]

Or a drink and dessert lol but again. It may be three of us , splitting an appetizer and a dessert, and pay for your drinks lol , but I love your ! Context me and my friends know each other and are conscious of the budget, and just have fun as a friend get together idk lol

[@g.a.m.230]

I love this. I'm so with FJ. If it's business/ networking other than that If I did not say from the beginning I have the tab. No No Gina! The waiter / waitress will have to split the tab cause 2day is the day I'm fasting & I only had coffee & lemonade. No, No Gina! You ordered it! You Ate it, now You pay for that $165.00 dinner & drinks that YOU consumed/ taking home, what ever! No, No & NO! I have learned to say No without Any remorse! TU both for the topic. Love y'all, 🙏🙏.Keep the dialogue coming.💖🙂❤️

[@l.a.w.79]

Yes! I have been in situations where people want to do that and I absolutely don’t like it and then I quickly decide I will not be going out with this group again!

[@puttingonaface]

A friend on mine said when she went on a European tour she was shocked because it was just normal practice to split the bills and they don't have free refills. Me personally, if our bills are around the same, I don't mind it being split down the middle but I don't drink and most of my friends do, so usually I'm paying for what I ordered.

[@asanteadams4572]

I went out to a bar with people from work mostly white. They all went into there wallets pulled out money and stacked it on the bar and said let's drink and eat. Everything we ordered the bartender just took from the pile. Periodically dudes walked up and added to the pile..... I never saw that before. I threw 8n my twenty and drank two drinks and had an appetizer..... That was what I was going to spend anyway...

[@BL-ur2sc]

My kinda ppl! Everything is paid so when it’s time to roll out everyone is full, happy, and headed home with haste.

[@chocolatebeauty1688]

I love the way EJ be all flirty with FJ when he's speaking 😂😂🥰

[@c-bee2904]

I ain’t never heard of this. We usually say when ordering “this is gon be a separate ticket”.

[@MsSteph_on_YouTube]

I live in NYC and this has come up (I've been here almost 20 years). Folks do split "evenly" here for friend gatherings. I was taken by surprise the first time because I tend to order on the low end...budget. I've learned to go out with specific groups and make my expectations more clear. I also don't order alcohol or appetizers...ever. Folks will order appetizers "for the table" and whatnot...you have to know who you're with and be ready.

[@MsSteph_on_YouTube]

Additionally, in NYC they always bring just 1 ticket or will say no more than 3 cards can be used!

[@kelliontamason2009]

As for me and my household, we're only paying for what we ate PERIOD😏.....Side note: I love you guys chemistry. EJ love her some Fred 😅😊

[@ladonnawashington1643]

Their affection for each is so sweet.

[@esthers4861]

No, No, No!!! I'm paying for what I ordered unless we planned this ahead of time, even then I would put a maximum on the bill. $ 600 for 6 people is reaching for the sky!

[@genxx2724]

I went to lunch with a big group from the office. It was a weekly custom, but I rarely participated, largely because of the check splitting issue. I rode in a car with three other people, two of whom went to lunch together every day on the cheap. We arrived last and were seated at a little 4-top at the end of the group. It was a middle-eastern place. Our little table got our own check, and I let the others order for the table. They ordered platters of hummus and vegetables, salad, and falafel. I would have liked shwarma and fries, but I just went along and was satisfied. Our check came and we split it. A very aggressive woman from the other table demanded to know why we had to chip in much less than her table! “Why is yours $12 each and ours is $22?”Well, because we ordered fewer things. We enjoyed less and paid less. I dodged a bullet. 😅

[@ivanfairweather6049]

If you decide that you want the much higher priced items on the menu let everyone including the server know that you are paying the higher portion of the bill or will pay for your portion separately (Slip your card to the server to do so.) Eliminating any mess when the final bill comes in. I am not paying for your bottle of vintage wine. No mam!

[@Queen.of.queens]

I would say the best thing to do is let the server know upfront whether it will be separate bills or together to avoid an awkward situation at the end of the night. In a business setting the person who is hosting the meeting or presenting the business proposition should pay! 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@Refreshing_Words]

I love y’all!!! FJ is not moved. 🤣🤣🤣

[@kimsimmons4869]

I don't understand this. I can see if someone wanted to add extra out of kindness, but to assume I'm obligated to pay for the extravagance of someone else. No way.

[@KnobbyKnows9]

I can see splitting with my girls if we go to a nice restaurant and it’s a la carte or something (or even Applebees spinach dip) and we each order something different and eat it all together. But that’s not often especially now that we’re older.

[@gscr09]

Now that you’re older you should know better. Proper dining etiquette is for one person to pay the entire bill or the bill is split evenly.