SOCIAL ANXIETY EXPLAINED: sad vs. shyness vs. introversion

[@KatAmarie]

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[@xmaja97x]

"The world is missing out on all that honey" This is probably one of the hardest things about social anxiety; deep inside you really want to participate in conversations etc., but that outer shell just won't let you

[@karlalolumna9453]

artisticchica exactly. And we know this in our every day life yet cannot change

[@letsparchmentitupyo7566]

well said

[@cloudtheminipoodle6140]

Exactly

[@renn.eu_]

EXACTLY... I reallly want t be myself and i feel like if i could just be my self, people will start being friends with me... but the anxiety kick in and i find my self crying sometimes because it feels like no one else know who you really are, even your own family, and i feel trapped in myself because no one understands, and if i do ever open up, i is to a certain point, and thats never enough...

[@chrisbova9686]

How stupid does it feel to act like something you are not. Joining a stupid conversation is not of any use to me.

[@pinusnigrus7333]

I have no friends because of my social anxiety. Everyone thinks I'm just shy, but they don't know how stressful can a simple conversation be for me.

[@kayanashields8254]

❤️

[@LeBronyaJames]

I'm really shy towards people who aren't related to me. I have only one friend (I'm crushing on her, oof), I'm afraid confessing will ruin our friendship. If our friendship is ruined, I will have no friends. I may talk to a selection of people at school but they don't feel like they're my friends, even if we always talk to each other and are friendly. I never had a sleep-over, went to a friend's house, next to never go out, call (starting to call my friend just now) or even text and all the things that friends do. I'm 16 and I don't know what a true friendship feels like. Typing this comment makes me feel like crying, it hurts. I definately know it's not social anxiety but a shyness scared of rejection. I'm scared I'll never have friends and a girlfriend for the rest of my life.

[@chloereads5705]

story of my life

[@esther9210]

Homer Simpson hey you should hang out with her more and eventually tell her you like her!! You never know, she could like you too. If she rejects you, it might be awk at first but I bet things will go back to normal.

[@MegaMetinMetin]

My only friend is my cat

[@isleeem]

Who else is just tired of living with social anxiety 😔😞😞😖

[@n0_body7741]

isleeem honestly because it’s ruining my life and I’m already in my third year of college.

[@isleeem]

@@n0_body7741 it's my last year in high school now and i've been struggling a lot since i was little but stay strong after all. everything is gonna be okay u know 😌

[@user-pz6ex9vv5r]

i have one year and half of high school and i just want it to be over already, I wish I could skip time 😩

[@alyssapetell5047]

isleeem me 😖🥺

[@manellemaiouf7389]

Me 🙋‍♀️🇫🇷from France we encourage each other from the other end of the globe

[@sonicdoesfrontflips]

Classmates: "you should talk more!" Quiet kid: talks Classmates: "OMG IT CAN TALK"

[@saihambd6]

sums up my 1st to 9th grade

[@Andrew-wf6fi]

Yep I've had that

[@alexismiddlebrook430]

Yep

[@Gracegalxc]

Relatable

[@libbyt6426]

"OMG SHE SPOKE" they wonder why i don't talk. i really wouldn't want to talk to someone who only responds like that even if i wasn't afraid to. the annoying thing is that they always try to be nice to me when i'm alone. i don't want friendships that are secret tyvm or at all, with people like them.

[@danielf16]

"Most people don't really listen. They just wait for their turn to speak." - sooooo true!!! This is the biggest reason why I'm quiet even I want to say something...

[@LeBronyaJames]

Never read anything that deep before😭. This is why I don't speak to other students in my classes or in a friend group

[@NoName-uk9wv]

That's what highly extroverted people do? 🤔 Interesting. They must love themselves talking or their own ideas.

[@angelicyearsago]

My friend who talks about her mental issues or problems in life never even gave me a chance to speak and share about mine because she doesnt even want to listen and ask about me but instead we always just talk about her whole life story and it feels like im just a messenger whom you can rant your problems on. I know its one sided 😔

[@danielnaiken4978]

I don't have friends. but i do have classmates and I am the only shy introverted person in the whole class. So yeah i usually go days even weeks without talking to people.On multiple occasions i find myself depressed because they refuse to acknowledge my presences because I am so quiet. I just wish i had someone to laugh with for once ,you know, an actual friend.!! :')

[@esther9210]

Julio Caesar did u just tell him to move all the way to Mexico just so he can make friends I-

[@byron2683]

i want a friend with social anxiety so we can talk about it

[@bloodngloss]

I don't have any friends with social anxiety so I totally get that

[@mohlachi]

Hi..

[@lianl2an]

But u know sometimes having a friend with same “mental illness” can be hard too bcs we will tend to ask for help at the time we both need helps. It is not easy to say “we can both help each other” when we were both at our weakest condition.

[@danielnaiken4978]

@@lianl2an yes but since theirs two of you won't that give you more confidence or at least help motivate each other enough to come out of the shell.

[@lianl2an]

@@danielnaiken4978 yes thats possible and I was hoping for that too. But sometimes when our "base" isnt strong and something (that could triggered us even in different ways) happened, the situation can be more complicated. Lol Idk how to explain this but things may not gonna work out when either side cant share same motivation and give positive vibes to each other.

[@endorstoi4911]

I never thought someone would explain social anxiety so well

[@abhinarayan7751]

Ikr , she is just amazing

[@Salsapotato96]

When people/parents think you’re lazy, but you actually just have crippling social anxiety

[@Double400]

@Julio Caesar I feel you man, I was on the verge of suicide because of my crippling social anxiety that convinced me that I would fail in the future and I felt I had no other way out. Things are a bit better now since my school got me help

[@dicaprio1002]

DOUBLE O Thomas im happy you got help. Im in the same boat, i feel like my future is a blocked tunnel

[@nathanvandevyver]

It made me lazy, so I'm both

[@manellemaiouf7389]

@@dicaprio1002 mee too i just feel trapped in a canvas and i feel like if i get out off my frame something bad will happen but idk why😔😖 i'd want to be friend with you cuz i guess only people like me suffering of social anxiety or selective mutism can figure out each other you know... from France 🇫🇷🙋‍♀️

[@itsukuyomi6156]

@Julio Caesar me rn ._.

[@mrpanicattack6688]

Sad, shy, introvert, social anxiety. Well, that's all me 😐

[@heavyblueee]

Mr Panic Attack sameee:)

[@sarieeele218]

Me too

[@vivianadecamara9035]

Same

[@chrollolucilfer7629]

yo same

[@anegron3285]

I have a little of each of them. Trying to work on myself. I getting better

[@pearbuns101]

I’m almost 20 and I can’t even get a job or go to school because of how bad my social anxiety is. It’s really ruining my life

[@moist.teabag]

i've wanted to go to the gym since i was 16 i'm nearly 30 i'll make it one day

[@____________________5680]

@@moist.teabag Never give up, king. Some day, there will be the day, where you will be the one who stands out, but in a positive way. I wish you the best of luck with fighting with your social anxiety because I exactly know how you feel. Its a living nightmare. Have a great day!!

[@BluntlyBean]

@@____________________5680 I Love it when people spread positivity, it may look 'cringe' to some, though that is sad, because sometimes the very thing you consider 'uncool' or 'cringy' may be the one thing you may be missing

[@alessadolan5718]

Just go, i had such a bad anxiety that i would be so damn nervous in public even when i was with my fam or friends.. but now i just go and hangout with myself and i don’t give a shit… yess it’s damn uncomfortable but still i do it because i am the only one who can change it periodt

[@LovePotionNo.9]

People with this condition tend to be the loveliest of human beings because we are highly aware of our behavior and the behavior of others. We tend to go over emotions and daily interactions with a fine tooth comb which makes us experts at treating other people/situations with the utmost respect. If only we could form friendships or date amongst each other it might eliminate the feeling of being weird or alone.

[@SA-uy3xd]

i honestly love you

[@mercurius1877]

Know any socially anxious women? ;)

[@fibonojomano5369]

Exactly

[@jetomoon]

Right.

[@drgamerstat66]

True💯

[@minarii2286]

When you started explaining socially anxious introverts at the end I could relate so much it’s scary. Even around my friends that I’ve known for years I still get anxious and scared that I might get judged and although I do love to be alone sometimes I feel very lonely and like I need someone to talk to but I do this weird thing where I talk to myself as if I was talking to someone about how I feel and I can’t get through a sentence without breaking down. I just feel like people won’t understand and listen to me. I feel like I don’t have a voice and I want one but at the same time I’m too scared to be heard.

[@minarii2286]

Even my friends tell me that their first impression of me was very quiet but rude and judgmental, which is actually kinda funny because I’m scared of all of those things. I don’t like being judged and people will mistake my quietness as coldness when I just have a hard time talking to people and I just want to be alone.

[@dandelionlys]

I also get nervous around my friends despite being really close with them after 6 years and I talk to myself ALL THE TIME, as if I’m talking to someone. I’m always thinking about so much and it’s one of the only ways I can get it out.

[@bangtanshiz877]

bruh samee

[@jiminisprettierthanu927]

Honestly same though😔🥺

[@windyks]

Same, I alwayssss talk to myself when I can't tell people how I really feel. But my sister sometimes always said I'm crazy or I'm insane because I talk to myself hmm

[@ilovebosgc]

I know I have social anxiety but I watched this because it’s nice to relate to something.

[@iisxlence1836]

Same

[@oj8272]

Same

[@shelbyland2501]

Same I dont even like to go outside my social anxiety is so bad

[@shelbyland2501]

I also have anxiety disorder too

[@julsiegamermove4115]

Same

[@Abby-ft1bu]

wow i'm crying - i didn't realise how much this issue haunts me until i watched this. having social anxiety is so stressful. i just want all of this to go away. i wonder what it's like to not have a social anxiety monster constantly whispering in my ear.

[@danielleswanepoel595]

You have somebody whispering in your ear? I just have a voice in my head saying if you do this, you'll be judged, so do it this way instead and don't look up.

[@ES11777]

@@danielleswanepoel595 It's a figure of speech. Social anxiety ''monster'' is a metaphor, too.

[@danielleswanepoel595]

@@ES11777 And I never said it was or wasn't, I was just giving my own personal experience and giving an example of what goes on in my head.

[@ES11777]

@@danielleswanepoel595 Ok, I understand now.

[@TheLastLostContinent]

I really hate the over analyzing part of it. I keep thinking and bashing myself basically every single day for something that has happened almost 2 years ago. It’s like spreading cancer for your mind. And the worst thing is, I actually do know it wasn’t even that big of a deal, but I just can’t let it go. This, and depression kicking in every month or so really challenges someone’s sanity. I’m not even sad anymore, but completely indifferent, barely feeling happy at all. All this started when I was around 8, I’m 25 now. This shit sucks. I’d really want to try Xanax and/or Adderall, but they are hard to get...

[@lorena2075]

Dániel Breszkovics i know what you mean, it‘s like you are literally punishing yourself a million times for something that wasn‘t even that bad... the worst part about it is, that you are totally aware of how irrational you are being 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️

[@PozytyffTv]

That's why you shouldn't focus on what is behind, you can't fix it or whatever. You should focus on what you can do today and tomorrow :) Believe me, you can do this! :) I was there before too! For couple of years. Back in a days I was analyzing myself almost every time, on every topic. Today it's gone. Every day is the day to start something new, opportunity to born again :) You can't change the past, but you can change tomorrow! Remember! :) Whenever this thought/memory comes back, just try to let it go! After 100 times, it will be as automatic, as your analyzing process :)

[@teomesay7024]

Dániel Breszkovics thank you for sharing I was so depressed the last few days glad to know I'm not completely alone. No one ever talks about this in person. It's really hard having to deal with people when I just wanna be alone where it's safer. If someone says something offensive or treats me a certain way it plays in my head forever. Next thing you know I'm angry, sad, mentally abusive to myself and questioning my purpose for being on earth. I just recently had the desire to see a psychiatrist so I hope that works because I think meds may be my next option.

[@supanovawilliam3012]

I'm 24 and this resonates with my life too and it sucks coz i feel like I'm left out , haven't been in a relationship in a while and i keep pushing ppl away

[@Brit15102]

Same I still beat myself up for something I said over 4 Years ago

[@berebecca]

Once I try to creat a youtube chanel, but then I thought: what if my classmates see this? Well, that was the end.

[@nathanvandevyver]

I was thinking about it once, but then I would have to talk. So I dropped the thought

[@a_030_shelvatainfantria6]

So so so so so me

[@fugeelah]

i made a youtube channel once when my social anxiety wasnt so severe and it did not help AT ALL. i still have the constant regret and fear that people will watch/remember the videos even though they've all been deleted. not to mention the fact i was also bullied for it :/

[@alilbitoflumos8659]

Sometimes I try to create KZbin channels so people can see it and would think I’m human because people think if I do the simplest things that I don’t usually do, (like speaking for once) they get all surprised

[@tamara7520]

Same. I even bought a camera but I'm too scared that someone I know is gonna see it.

[@slytherinqueen8370]

I think I have severe social anxiety and my parents don't understand! I live in India and mental health is still a taboo. I need help🙁

[@princessnoor176]

I used to be the same but I step by step took myself out of the sever lever now I'm much better than before but still I have never talked about it to my parents only rarely to close friends. Best of luck my friend. Convince yourself that you can; find a purpose for your betterment and it will gradually get better with time yet not without an extreme amount of panic attacks.👍

[@ajaydobhal8241]

me too

[@hilalkilic1120]

Hey to all of u guys that suffer from anxiety and don’t have anyone to talk to… I’m not a professional just somebody trying to help I have my dms open on ig to anyone that needs help 😊 -> @lilGoldieH18

[@xNO123x]

Slytherin Queen Idk if you have this cause I’m Canadian but in my country we have drop in clinics that give free consultations you can google if you have any near you. Hope this helped.

[@kiranbhatt7300]

Same. I am from Nepal. And,I also need help.

[@Insanityltself]

Gets phonecall: *PANIC* Text back later

[@Lost_In_Peace]

as if anyone calls me..

[@brooo539]

More like text back never 😂

[@davidnjara]

this

[@kimberlyna13]

ITS SO STRESSFUL BECAUSE I ALWAYS TALK SO LOW AND I MUMBLE AND NOBODY HEARS ME!! SO EVERYTIME BEFORE I SAY *ANYTHING* I PLAN HOW MY LIPS WILL MOVE AND HOW MY FACE WILL LOOK WHILE I SAY SOMETHING SO IT IS UNDERSTANDABLE. AND ITS SO AWKWARD WHEN I NEED HELP IN CLASS AND I ACTUALLY WANT TO OVERCOME IT SO I CALL OUT MY TEACHERS NAME. HOWEVER, ONLY A WHISPER COMES OUT! THAT IS SO AWKWARD I WANNA DIE. AND EVERYONE LOOKS AT ME BECAUSE IM THAT WEIRD GIRL IN CLASS, SLOWLY TRYING TO OVERCOME THEIR FEAR. BUT IT LOOKS SO WEIRD WHEN IM TRYING TO DO WHAT OTHER PEOPLE DO, SUCH AS ASK FOR HELP TO A TEACHER, OR ANYTHING. THEY WORST PART IS THAT I HAVE TOLD MY PARENTS THAT I HATE MYSELF, AND I THINK ITS SCARY TO SPEAK UP, BUT THEY SAY IT’S BECAUSE IM A TEENAGER. I AM TOO SCARED TO DIRECTLY ASK MY PARENTS THAT I WANT THERAPY. I HAVE TRIED TO OVERCOME IT ALONE FOR 3 AND A HALF YEARS, BUT IT SLOWLY BECAME WORSE, EVEN THOUGH IM DENYING IT. I CONVINCE MYSELF THAT IM DOING MUCH BETTER WHEN I AM ACTUALLY DOING MUCH WORSE. IM AM TOO SCARED TO SEEK HELP TO MY DOCTOR. BUT I DONT WANT TO LIVE LIKE THIS FOREVER!!!! I HOPE SOMEONE FINALLY HEARS ME, EVEN IF THEY DONT CARE. thats why i wrote all of this in caps Edit: I totally forgot that I wrote this comment, I’m so happy that it could help some of you not feeling alone. I’m doing MUCH better. I’m not totally fine but reading what I wrote a year ago seems like a distant memory now. It gets better. Surround yourself with positive people who motivate you. Push yourself a little more everyday. Overcoming is possible. I realized that there are bigger things I wanna worry about and value in life, and caring about what others think shouldn’t be a priority. It still lingers in my mind but not as much. I promise it can and it WILL get better.

[@huntiau]

Oh, I can SO easily relate to your plight - and I AM hearing you. I know EXACTLY what your are going through. Your stories about mumbling, being unsure of yourself, problems in class...these things (and more) happened to ME only yesterday...........do they laugh behind your back? Not part of "the clique", just a hanger on occasionally getting noticed...but when you open your mouth nothing comes out intelligent? Worried about how you seem to be to others? Yeah, got all this shit in school just yesterday - remember every bloody thing about it. But school was a long time ago. I am 63. Age doesn't matter, nor does my color, sexuality, religious beliefs, political leanings. I am just some one who has gone through this and I fully get where you are at. ..... in other words, I just got here on this planet a bit before you thats all. No big deal. Just a person just sayin'. I was diagnosed with SA only four months ago -I have lived and struggled with this curse all of my life. Since my earliest childhood memories. How many genuine job opportunities did I allow to pass, how many friendships I didnt pursue, how many real romances did I miss, how many nights sitting home alone - all because I was too shit scared about how I thought people saw me? Or simply put, just too bloody scared to give it a go. Oh, how I so deeply regret not speaking with someone professional years and years and years ago...someone who could have put me back on track and kind of sorted things out a little for me. Quite literally - it would have changed my life - for the better in all probability. Yeah, I did alright in my jobs and I was middle of the road average, but the fear and the scrambled thinking held me back. Big time. You disappoint me with you selling your parents short. Welcome to adult time. Sit them both down, turn off the bloody phones(!) and without drama, TELL them what is going on in your head. The first sentence will be the hardest for the entire conversation. Tell them your fears, tell them you are genuinely worried. Tell them how long. Hear what they say about being a teenager blah blah blah but do NOT argue the point. Let them speak. Tell them you are hearing them (this part if very important!!) Then quietly insist that you would like to hear another opinion before you can make up your own mind. NO tantrums if they say no. By you not reacting in your usual way, they will take notice. Trust me on that. The fact that you are bringing it up again has already told mum and dad that "something maybe aint right" . Does the school have Councillors? Speak to them. Do not, I repeat, do NOT be scared to go to the Doctors. They are there to help you - they have chosen that profession to help people on their way. It is no big deal. Again, the first sentence is the hardest. Accept it. Its life. It is not hard. Trust me on this. And when you have your first cry with them - oh the relief that you have FINALLY talked with someone!!! Come on...three and as half years is too long lassie. Time to bite the bullet - time to start doing adult thinking (for a while anyway). Get off ya bum and take the first very very big step. You will never regret this opportunity. I really hope this works out for you. I really do. Hunti

[@kimberlyna13]

huntiau Thank you so much for this!! I will take your advice to heart. I teared up while reading this. I WILL TAKE INITIATIVE FROM NOW ON! I wholeheartedly wish you the best, just like you wish me the best. It is relieving that I am not alone. Thank you so much

[@kimberlyna13]

huntiau May I ask, what procedure did u go through to get your diagnosis? Questions, forms to fill out?

[@balencialli6681]

I hear ya girl💕

[@hippocratesm.d.1543]

me.

[@anfiprotico4233]

I can't get in touch with anyone, I feel like there is a wall between me and other people. I'm so lonely I'm afraid I will never love or be loved

[@taylorcrosby5625]

I have the same exact fear. I even feel like there's a wall between me and my own family.

[@budaisprincex9793]

we can connect on instagram . though i deleted it thrice i am using a Null account 😭😭😭

[@budaisprincex9793]

@BLOODBATH9998 i can use but i dont like video chat its kinda awkward for me .

[@esther9210]

Same. When I’m not close with someone, it feels like there is a barrier between me and the person. Once that barrier is broken, I can be myself with the person. Sometimes the barrier is broken right away or when we spend time together or, over time. The barrier is like a filter. When I’m not comfortable with someone, I think about what I’m going to say or do before I do it. but when I am comfortable with someone I say whatever comes to mind and I don’t fear judgement( I can be myself) don’t worry!! One day you will find someone that you connect with💗

[@alyssapetell5047]

Anfiprotico me too😞

[@cameuille]

write down all the things you need to say before a phonecall...yes... PHONECALLPHOBIA HERE ? 🙋🏼‍♀️

[@journeeavalon]

Cameuille ME.

[@stop2c]

I can not even call friends and family - I am 61 years old, too late for me!

[@valentinasexchange2506]

Cameuille omg me...it's so bad

[@shivamarora3360]

I don't write down but ya i start to think in my mind what i have to say before starting a phone call.

[@rose.888]

MEEE

[@LIFEOFSTUFFEDANIMALS]

I'm a 6'3 guy in highschool. Everybody notices me. I have extremely bad SA. I just avoid people. Presentations cripple me. Have no friends, accept my sister. She's leaving next year to college and I dont know what I'm going to do.

[@Rose-zg9pu]

I'm in high school too, I have the same problem... but I'm not that long😜😂

[@cherishdeb]

use your height to your advantage and OWN every room you step into (without being the center of attention). I'm sure you light up the room without taking up too much space and being obnoxious and self center. I'm sure people LOVE you. You have nothing to be shy about.

[@SooBeautyFull]

Hey, just hang on bud! I hated high school so much and it was just an awkward phase of life. But then I graduated a few years ago and went to college - in many ways, college is a lot more chill and the anxiety is far less for me. You got this! Look forward to your graduation :) And I'm sure you're less awkward/socially anxious than you think - we often think the worst of ourselves in our heads, and to others, it's not even noticeable.

[@THEJOKEYJOKER]

i was told once that i should use it for my advantage... i think it helps somehow... people don't think bad of shy people but of rude ones... so i think you should embrace it... don't hide.. yes you might not be able to control it.. so trying to hide it might make it worse. just be yourself even when you are nervous ..

[@SueCherry]

I can relate so much! I'm between 6'1 and 6'2 and thats quite tall, especcialy for a girl. I feel like everybody is always watching me and my anxiety keeps telling me they are all judging me. It makes it hard for me to go in public. But although I'm feeling anxiety when I go in public, I still try to go out and walk straight, because my height isn't going to change, but I can try to change my mindset about it. I'm not there yet but I'm working on it, and I feel the more I actually go outside, the less my anxiety becomes. Because sooo many people that walk by and notice you just don't care. Trust me with that! They might watch because they notice you, but people are so into themselves that they probably dont think anything at all. My mind keeps telling me they are thinking all sort of things about me, yet they probably arent. And even if they think something, what can happen? I know its hard.. but hang in there, because you deserve to enjoy life :)

[@Emma-fq9pv]

The trouble is I’m shy, introverted AND suffering with anxiety, so I don’t always know whether my actions are simply my introverted preferences (and they are okay and I should not berate myself or feel ashamed), or they’re elements of my social anxiety and I should counteract it... E.g. I might be hanging out with my friends and suddenly I’ll realise I haven’t said a word or contributed to any conversation, and I’ll start to worry and talk negatively to myself (things like I’m so weird, I have nothing in common and that’s why I’m not talking) and I’ll start to believe that, but then again it might just be my introverted personality, something that I shouldn’t be ashamed about.

[@geometry9541]

That's similar to me :(

[@chebettmutai6012]

Oml saaaaaaaaaame😪😪

[@user-sh5iu1lq6x]

KafkaDecaf literally same

[@esther9210]

Same I feel pressured to say something so ppl won’t think that I’m a mute

[@SickandTired95]

Same. All three smh

[@kizzy3563]

"This world is not well suited for those who bloom slow..." That is so poetic T^T I don't often find people who can explain my disorder so well. Social anxiety... completely controls me and dictates what I do in life. Not many people can understand the pain involved in that truth fully unless they've experienced it themselves. Thank you for sharing.

[@n0_body7741]

I've had social anxiety ever since I was in grade 8 and its ruining my life. Many relationships lost because I wasn't able explain myself. I have yet to make friends in college because I am unable to formulate words with others. I just hope whoever has it gets through with it.

[@lucaslee9271]

though i'm not yet diagnosed with social anxiety, i'm hands down sure i have it. i started to have the symptoms when i was in grade 8 as well, and that is when my school life started to deteriorate as well as my daily life. getting through the times at school is terrible. whenever i communicate with others, i'll tremble, sweat, blush... i've been through all the situations mentioned in the video and my reactions are exactly the same. the list of situations can go on forever. i recently and finally tried to seek help from the school social worker. he says he can help me to find a psychiatrist, but requires my parents conscent. but the problem is, my parents do not know i have extreme difficulty with social interactions as i never mentioned it, and i don't want them to know about it, as i'm worried about what they might think about me. i'm not sure what i should do at this moment, especially my mum now is suffering from a sever brain tumour and my family is already so uphappy and worried about her.

[@n0_body7741]

Lucas Lee Hey man I feel the same way. I have tried to tell my parents about it too but they're too worried about my disabled sister that I don't want to get in the way. I hope all is well with your mom though.

[@yumisy111]

sigh i’m the same way D: my middle school experiences left me socially anxious and now i’m a first year college student who struggles to even make friends 😭 it’s harder cuz i go to a community college but i guess that shouldn’t be an excuse :’) i hope that we all get thru this someday

[@Twiggy_1824]

I have to go to an academy in like a month and i just dont want to. I dont wanna talk to anybody. I just dont know why. Im scared. I dont wanna go.

[@iminseven5140]

me. hope u are ok..

[@crazytoast2065]

I cried during this video because I always felt alone with my social anxiety that everyone hated me and I didn’t know how to speak my mind. But just hearing everything that I’ve kept inside put into words just brought me to tears. It made me realize that someone finally knows how it feels and I’m not alone.

[@howchen8529]

Used to be shy...and to my understanding shyness is a nervousness of meeting new people, and it goes away when u get to know the group. introversion just means u want to be alone from time to time. However, social anxiety means u never get to know the group, and always have to be alone.

[@youdecidewhatmynameis3549]

Has anyone strayed away from social interaction for so long that they kinda just... forget how to talk?

[@DemziiDollface]

thank you for this, even though I knew the differences I still watched because I needed to feel less alone, everything you said about social anxiety is 100% all me but the problem is, I can't see a therapist because I'm away at college dorming :( there's a health center but my anxiety prevents me from getting on the bus and going, since I've never been there and also am afraid of getting lost. It sucks, I want help for my anxiety but my anxiety is the thing that prevents me from getting it. by the way your voice is very soothing kat! lol

[@Shay__9899]

kass m also in college nd m far away from home . I study in Ukraine nd m not really good at the language i searched for therapists who can speak english but i can't find any . Some days i can't even leave my dorm or take the bus to the university . i even drink alcohol on hard days to boost up my confidence a little bit so i can go to class 😂😂 Nd don't even get me started on grocery shopping 😭😭

[@abdlrhman900z]

you guys can try better help or other online therapists they are great I have social anxiety too and they are helping me fight through it

[@DemziiDollface]

what website do you use?

[@OCFreak2009]

Hey, kass. :) Not sure but maybe 7cups(.)com may help you for now.

[@kristin7258]

You can try the app Better Help

[@mams2847]

I know it's out of the topic but you have a really comforting voice.

[@taehyung_my_lyf6492]

Army 😭💜

[@astrospher1031]

Social anxiety is my biggest problem But your videos help me soo much,thank you

[@truegreen7]

I came in very skeptical that you'd describe all of my symptoms since there is such a wide spectrum, but you literally addressed everything I deal with on a daily basis. Makes you realize we really are just part of a group whose over analysis often times leads to many wrong conclusions about the situations we are avoiding or are encountering.

[@whereskentuckybruce8245]

Hi Truegreen7, I used to really like your videos

[@Cryst3a.2]

The best explanation by far 🙏

[@leev4nter]

i literally started crying after watching this video because i've never felt so understood from another person, everytime i explain to friends or family that i have social anxiety they just say "everyone has anxiety, it's nothing" or "it's just shyness, you just don't wanna make any effort to open up to people" and hearing this it's actually heartbreaking... i genuinely want to talk to other people, take part in conversations and laugh with everyone but it's so hard :( i hope i will overcome social anxiety one day, it's really stressful living like this..

[@rylea4063]

How are you doing now?

[@leev4nter]

@@rylea4063 i'm doing way better now, thank you! I left the toxic environment where I used to be a year ago and I met new people who are slowly helping me feel more comfortable speaking :')

[@madebysyreal6151]

I did a presentation about this a couple days ago and this was just perfect timing for you to post this video. I’ve been struggling with this from a very young age. And even now, it starts to break me down emotionally when I realized that I don’t have more than one unconditional friend. Other than that, it’s me in my lonesome.

[@izzierolph6398]

i actually often get angry with myself because inside i really want to participate and put myself out there but my social anxiety just wont let me do it and i feel like i should be able to. its so annoying it literally controls my entire life

[@taylorcrosby5625]

Same! It's so so frustrating!

[@psalm3288]

"Shy, socially anxious & introvert" Your last description TOTALLY described me! Its really hard to deal it that people who met me just assume im arrogant & unfriendly, when actually i don't know how to talk to them and I ended up to take forever to plan out the "ideal" conversation in my head. Its even worse when i have a serious face.

[@funnyGIRL804]

Also what I wanted to say because you already mentioned it: I suffer from social anxiety yet I am not shy. Sometimes it really depends on the person I am talking to, but most of the time I'm being happy, making jokes, being funny and stuff. I can also go to strangers and talk to them (but again, it depends - boys for example: I can't even look some in the eye and I start shaking.) so I always thought I was not suffering from social anxiety because of not being shy. I learned that you don't have to be shy to feel anxious. Riding by bike , eating in public, shopping alone, walking alone in the streets, taking the bus, ordering food - hard for me to do. My friends actually know it. They are really helping me out, although they now live In a different city than me. Thank you for doing this series - so some of us don't need to feel alone. but I also have to admit that I'm not really ready for a therapy yet..

[@Gabriela-dc2se]

Wow sis, it seems that we having it the sam way. Hugs!

[@denisemarie9268]

The moment I realized I had social anxiety was when I first started college. Since throughout middle school/high school I had friends to hide behind my SA, I did not realize I had this disorder till I went to college and had no friends. I remember sitting in the hallway between hour long lectures hungry for something eat with an entire cafe downstairs and plenty of vending machines on each floor but being too nervous to walk to the vending machine and buy something. What if I don’t have enough change? What if they don’t have what I want? What if I take too long and the person behind gets mad? What if the snack I choose gets stuck and someone sees and laughs at me? What if I look stupid grabbing my snack out of the machine? What if I use the machine wrong??? For an entire semester I did not use the vending machine. For an entire year I did not step foot in the school cafe. And for an entire year and a half I didn’t even walk around the school campus because I did not want to look lost. SA has eaten away at me for a long time now and I hope to overcome it one day.

[@srose2952]

I am an extrovert but I have social anxiety :/ I just wanted to say that 😂 my anxiety has gotten more severe within the past couple years, but I’m learning to cope. I love your videos! They’re so calming ♥️

[@____________________5680]

I am also an extrovert who suffers from SA and I am honestly very glad about that because the fact that I am actually extroverted even helps my SA out sometimes. Not very often, but atleast sometimes LMAO

[@suabsolu]

I'm feeling overwhelmed. It's the first time I hear someone describing social anxiety so perfectly. Unfortunally, I can relate.

[@tannergrinzel1835]

I know how this goes as well

[@lusiscus]

I am 57 years old, I diagnosed my own Social Anxiety about 8 years ago via Google. I got fed up of wondering why I feared using the phone to speak to strangers, why I couldn't fly a kite on the beach with my young son because everyone would be looking at me, anxious about cleaning the windows at the front of my house for fear of everyone looking at me, struggling to make small talk around friends and strangers, feeling like a jibbering wreck when talking to my boss at work, the list goes on. I find as I'm getting older some things are getting a little easier but when I look back I have missed out on so much.

[@cuteypanda]

I’ve never been diagnosed with social anxiety but why do I relate on so many levels??

[@LonaStar]

I remember the day I noticed my social anxiety getting out of hand. I couldn’t talk to my dad. MY DAD. I live in the same house with him for the past 20 years. I speak with him everyday, but all of a sudden I started cutting the conversations fast cause I felt overwhelmed and I was just panicking all the time. That’s the moment I knew I needed help

[@elisaelisa43]

same...

[@georgia9812]

I feel like I can never talk about how I feel when it comes to mental illness with anyone... I really do struggle with the unprepared questions I am incredibly worried before events with my friends and sometimes break into tears I am very scared of being put in the spot and being judged I feel like I always say things wrong and go over it again in my head I am very quiet around groups of people even my friends, it is worse with strangers When you explained what it is like to be a shy socially anxious introvert that is exactly how I feel

[@dollybe]

This video was like a wave of clarity that washed over me and left me feeling drowned in melancholy but looking up towards the sunlight at the surface... thank you

[@axeld.santacruz4659]

Your English is perfect. I wish I had your level. I suffer from anxiety and I cannot talk to people even in my native language.

[@allysediting5813]

I have social anxiety ... I've not been to school in 3 months

[@typhaine1586]

siredtoharley oh god same here! Even more then 3 months

[@rrrandomstranger]

Please try to hold on. You can do it.

[@amberb8075]

I stopped doing to school once the second semester of 10th grade started. I’m now currently in 11th grade and haven’t gone back. It’s hard to go to school but it’s so incredibly important. If you need time off, take it, your mental health is the most important thing but the longer you’re away, the harder it will be to go back. Don’t make the mistake I did. 💕

[@metalweeve]

So I'm not the only one who does that! I get so anxious when I need to go to school, I skip school a lot which makes me more anxious to go back..

[@typhaine1586]

its cool to see im not alone, my family makes me feel bad bc of this bc they don't really understand

[@itty-bittyghost9787]

I was diagnosed with social anxiety [and depression and insomnia] 6 years ago, when i was 12 (though i most definitely had it before then), and i remember being told i’ll grow out of my shyness or i’m just an introvert. it’s weird, i personally don’t feel “afraid,” but i hate eating in public, remember photographically my mistakes for years, i practice speaking on the phone, and i have very physical reactions (blushing, sweating, increased heart rate, shaking/tremors, stuttering, panic attacks). it’s weird, i’ve gotten more outgoing but it’s not when i’m acting like myself. i am an actress in a haunted house, i actually got an award for scariest actress last season, and i scream and cry and yell at people as my character, but i would never do the same thing as myself of course. somehow i’ve become able to distance myself once i wear a bunch of makeup and get in a costume

[@alexgibson2871]

thanks for this. an extrovert once dressed me as the hulk for halloween, painted green head to toe with lines for muscles (im very skinny) and the next day i really wanted to go to work green, alas. probably wouldn't have got an award tho as a quiet green englishman!!

[@sanojh08]

I want to add that with social anxiety its much more harder to get in contact with the different gender (means for a boy its harder to speak to a boy then to a girl).

[@LukeTheArtist96]

That really depends on the individual. It's not the same for everyone.

[@endorstoi4911]

Jona Happiness Totally, I thought it only happens to me

[@at-xh1yv]

I relate so much... I can’t look at a boy in the eye or talk to one, so I never have. Sometimes I hate boys

[@Pickoffarwim]

Jona Happiness Not really only when I consider the girl attractive because id want to come off as a weirdo

[@itty-bittyghost9787]

this is more personal, i always have had trouble talking to girls even as a cisgender girl. It might be more due to attraction, but i’m no specialist lol

[@ellej6985]

understand that there's a lot of people on here trying to know if they do have social anxiety. Ngl, I am one of them. I need help. Here are my symptoms: 1) I FREAK when ordering food. Went to a Chip shop and asked the guy, "excuse me." He didn't here and I panicked so I just said hey really loudly. I only went to the chip shop in the first place because my parents told me to and wouldn't take no for an answer. 2) I've had to slowly learn conversation. 3) I have to remember to make eye contact. 4) I have to physically FORCE myself to talk to someone new, 5) I write out my phone calls before I make them, and I've only done 3 phone calls in my life (I'm 15) and no one else can be listening when I do them. 6) in conversations, I always have to think really carefully about what I'm saying and how it comes across. 7) It makes me so scared being in large crowds. 8) I refuse to go in small shops (like a bakery) because they're just too small and I feel like I'm being judged and I'm too close to the till person. Does that make any sense!? 9) I find it so hard going to social events. And yet, I love dancing so long as it's dark, no ones watching or I have someone to dance with. (My best friend (I only have 1)) 10) I hate walking along main roads because I feel like everyone is watching. 11) I'm always conscious of What people are thinking of me. 12) I dip dyed my hair bright pink once and felt physically ill and a nervous wreck when I went to school with it, but I have since dyed my whole head pink and experienced those feelings on a lower level because I convinced myself to stuff people's opinions. 13) I cry when I have to go to a social event that I really don't want to go to. And will often spend time on the toilet before bigger social events. I would SO appreciate any help you can offer, you don't even understand how helpful it would be to get a second opinion.

[@mschell350]

it doesnt matter if you have social anxiety or not but you should still see a therapist to help you with these issues, you don't deserve to feel this way no one does

[@juliaa.9870]

I feel the same way and I am 28...

[@avalonjustin]

Thank you for the comprehensive video. I'm a 34 y/o man who has suffered from SA since childhood. It destroys your confidence because you see everyone else out there dating, pursuing career goals, having fun with friends etc. while you don't feel able to do it. I want to have close friends and get married to a good woman before it's too late! I'm lonely and tired of just going to work and coming home.

[@ingridseiss7600]

AvalonIsle Hello there! I hope you find the love of your life and be happy. ❤

[@Christian-mn8dh]

Get therapy

[@luc1d356]

At least you get a work , can I ask you where are you working ?

[@alexsiple]

i’m an extrovert with social anxiety! over the past year i’ve been going to therapy and it’s helped a lot. your videos are always so great, thank you

[@wajdiraach9874]

Nice to see you Again

[@austingeorge2022]

Finally someone whom I can relate myself with. I wish I had a friend like you. Thanks for the video.

[@landon3008]

It is really sad that we socially anxious people come through as rude or uninterested when we just don’t know how to express our excitement. But most people don’t understand and don’t stick around for us to explain.

[@Valeria-Kr]

Yeah so true

[@kappii21]

I can speak with people but im very nervous, and even think 3 times about the sentence im about to say. I hate going somewhere,where many people are.. I hate holding a Presentation but my main problem is overthinking. I think thats the reason why im here

[@Diana-hp5uc]

I think I have social anxiety but I’m afraid to tell my parents, I don’t know why I’m afraid.

[@UnregisteredHyperCam_2]

Hey, I've had the same problem a few years ago. I thought they would think it was ridiculous, but i've gathered the courage to finally ask to see a therapist about it. They are a bit confused about the things i'll do sometimes, but they still support me and don't think any less of me. I'm sure it'll be better once you've told them what you're dealing with since you can get the help you need and get the support of your family. I hope it all goes well if you do decide to tell them !!

[@sansgirlfriend]

Same

[@christineirungu724]

I thought I was just an introvert, turns out I also have Social anxiety. It's such a relief to know that it's real. I thought I was just socially awkward

[@jkbnw]

that Laura Palmer's photo in the background ❤

[@Tryshroom]

Sis your accent is enough to make my heart melt and your honesty is admirablely beautiful Thank you for being oh so brave 💪💯

[@notpebbles310]

I am extremely shy. I don’t know if i do have social anxiety because i haven’t talked to a therapist since mental illness is considered taboo in my country. I’m afraid that this will really affect my future dream profession which is to become a doctor. I really wan’t to get myself consulted but no one’s around to help me nor do i have the money for it. I don’t even wear what i’d like to wear in public because im afraid i might get judged. Thank you for this 😭❤️

[@ttgl9572]

I cried so many times during this video. You just described almost exactly what I've struggled with my whole life within social anxiety. Fearing judgment pretty much sums up my life. It truely sucks.

[@Cat-nk2yb]

hey Kat, i don't really know why you stopped your podcast but just so you know, it was really amazing, so informative, relaxing and well made. love you

[@KatAmarie]

I didn't really stop. It just takes a lot of time to prepare one.

[@Cat-nk2yb]

Kat Napiorkowska oh that’s great!! really excited to listen to the next one then 💜

[@KatAmarie]

will be about A.I. ;)

[@DianaGaytan04]

THANK YOU SO SO MUCH FOR THIS VIDEO. I RECENTLY (LIKE 2 DAYS AGO) FINALLY DISCOVERED THAT I HAVE SUFFERED FROM THIS FOR SO LONG. IT WAS SO HARD FOR ME TO FIGURE IT OUT BUT IT'S SO FREEING TO DISCOVER WHAT IT REALLY IS. I HAVE FOUGHT SO MANY OF THE SYMPTOMS INDIVIDUALLY BUT IT ALMOST FELT LIKE I WAS FIGHTING SMALL BATTLES WITHOUT REALIZING THE REAL WAR WAS SOCIAL ANXIETY. I GIVE MYSELF SO MUCH CREDIT NOW FOR ALL THAT I HAVE ENDURED AND MADE MYSELF FACE SOME OF MY DEEPEST FEARS BUT I GUESS IT WAS ALL PREPARING ME FOR THIS MOMENT. THE WAY YOU REFER TO US IS SO ACCURATE AND SO BEAUTIFUL IN THE END. I'M GLAD TO KNOW THERE ARE MORE PEOPLE LIKE ME OUT THERE. THANK YOU !!!

[@lise7349]

I still don't know if i have social anxiety because i can relate some topics but not all of them. I am just an ultra shy introvert.

[@KatAmarie]

You should ask a professional to diagnose you. They’ll know whether it’s shyness or social anxiety.

[@mariovanda9504]

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[@plume4961]

Thanks to your video I finally undertand that it's not just shyness or introversion, but social anxiety. Social anxiety really makes me struggle in every thing in life. Sometimes I'm even afraid to say hi to a friend because they are with other people, but then I'm scared that if I don't say hi they will think I'm rude and that they will start avoiding me. It also stop me to ask for help because I think I will just look like a fool. I'm also scared to post comments and often I just end up erase what I wanted to say. I feel like I don't belong anywhere and that no one understand me. I actually don't know what to do, I wish I could have friends who I could talk about it and with who I would feel confortable around, but it just seems out of reach like a vague dream.

[@GG-he9jb]

I love the way you described a shy socially anxious introvert, as Someone who has a lot to offer to the world instead of making them look unstable . It spoke to my heart , I think I can relate to it, would like to hear more about this topic if you can make a separate video about shy socially anxious introvert mix ? Really informative video btw, good work 👍🏻👍🏻

[@marieclaire7283]

Appreciate this vid so much. I’ve had social anxiety for several years. I used to throw up before an event or while I was there! Awful symptoms!

[@Ccreft882]

Dodam od siebie (przepraszam że po polsku ale mój angielski jest tragiczny) że osoby z fobią społeczną bardzo chcą nawiązać kontakt, znaleźć przyjaciół, partnera lub partnerkę, ale ich zaburzenie im na to nie pozwala więc obwiniają się za to że są tak bardzo nieprzystosowani do życia w społeczeństwie. Z mojego doświadczenia mogę powiedzieć że występuję też przesadna kontrola nad mimiką twarzy, ruchami, jak najmniej gestykulacji, spięcie, mimowolne odruchy takie jak skubanie skórek, drapanie się, tupanie nogą podczas siedzenia. Takie typowo nerwowe ruchy ciała. Ja na przykład gdy już musze wyjść to skubie rękaw od kurtki lub chowam ręce w rękawach jak by mi było zimno, choć nie jest, przekładam telefon w kieszeni. Nie wiem czy wszyscy fobicy tak robią ale mam nadzieje że przyda Ci się do czegoś moja wypowiedź. Świetnie że poruszasz tak ważne i potrzebne tematy :)

[@kuzmazuza]

Mam dokładnie tak samo robię tak z rękawkami i skupię skórki od paznkoci i cześto nie wiem co zrobić z rękoma co prada nie wiem czy mam takie zaburzenie ale mogło by to być bardzo możliwe ale sama siebie nie zdjagnozuje więc się nie dowiem

[@olazalewska1613]

Albo zagryzanie ust, i stukanie w coś. Byle tylko się czymś zająć. I nie analizować.

[@olazalewska1613]

macarena Tak ja też często mam tak pogryzione usta do krwi, albo zdarzało mi się robić i rany paznokciami, częściowo przypadkowo.

[@kuzmazuza]

ja jednak bardziej uczepiłam się palcy więc nie mam takiej pomadki, ale moje skórki przy paznokciach też przez to cierpią

[@sansgirlfriend]

Też tak mam.. szczególnie że mieszkam od 2 miesięcy w Wielkiej Brytanii.

[@neotoss]

Thanks for your video. It was totally awesome. I have SA from the time I went to school. I'm 32 now. It is much better than before but I still feel SA in some situations. The more Im older the more I want to heal from SA. I can give some tips that helped me: - I started to workout and eat clean because it helps when I see myself looking good and ofcourse feeling better. - I have read many books about psychology and motivation. Especially one book helped me a lot becuase there were some technique I can find the source (or many sources) of the problem when/why SA started. I dont think the book is translated into english but in czech language it is called "metoda rus aneb ja to mam jinak". Thanks to those techniques - meditation helped me a lot too. we need to clean our minds and this is the best and fastest way to do (when you learn how to meditate) - I also started to travel alone. It helped a lot because I was pushed to talk to other people and to solve many stressful situations. Now I feel confident while I'm travelling - talk about SA with somebody you can trust. if not in person maybe you find somebody on the internet - do/try something what could help. hiding at home will not help ...I hope it will help to somebody

[@TheEmpoweringUnicorn]

I will win, I am a winner, nothing can stop me, neither social anxiety, no matter how huge it is, step by step, I will win.🌟✊️

[@user-ws1dd6sr9i]

Your last description is honestly so accurate

[@iya1989]

My anxiety doesn't fit into any particular box, it's a mixture of them all.

[@inthebingk]

thankyou for saying that you can be extrovert and have social anxiety. i can speak out with people i’m comfortable with. since january i’ve been dealing with social anxiety. i don’t want to tell my mum because i think she will think i’m silly. but she’s had anxiety for 20 years. im scared of being judge and i literally have been thinking about me saying one word to someone new today and if they hate me or think i’m weird. people say i’m shy and introverted and of course emily has her headphones in. but they don’t see the burning fear behind this of even saying hi to you because i’m scared to walk out of the house. but with my main class for school we are all kinda close and i’m comfortable with them.

[@logicalava150]

I Love your accent

[@novaturient4404]

fujioshi yandere what accent is it?

[@dominika1813]

Novaturient British, I think

[@mauricio8859]

She is polish. But speaks british english.

[@ignorethis6856]

Where you from? I’m Liberian. Sorry, *whispers* I like ya accent, where you from?

[@jeansat7922]

ignore this top class vine reference ma dude

[@aishwaryas5734]

Thank you so much. I am an introvert and just shy, maybe very mildly socially anxious. This video helped.

[@techkanakesh6765]

I felt the same way but I am afraid that its getting worse each day

[@ryanseay5784]

Most of the time my "symptoms" match up perfectly with social anxiety but i convince myself I'm just over reacting and I'm fine.

[@aoife4163]

same, i dont want people to think im doing it for attention

[@monikamylonopoyloy6223]

It is so helpful to watch videos like this. People just don't get the concept of social anxiety. You're actually terrified of going to the super market , to the gym , to university , to a place you've never been or even using means of mass transportation , passing through a crowd , uttering a phrase for fear you might be misunderstood or embarrassed , making a phone call , making an appointment to the doctor... But others just don't understand. They think you're overreacting , you're trying to attract attention , you're being immature.... They think that somehow being twenty years old you must not have a problem doing all of the above. Well, let me tell you , age has nothing to do with this , it just doesn't go away and you are not being immature because you have social anxiety.

[@mariel8982]

I remember when I was asked to report for class. I prepared a lot. I put a lot of effort with my visual aid and I even wrote a script that I could say during my reporting. They even laughed at me because I'm carrying a green cardboard. But guess what? I failed. I failed to report what I prepared for. I sweated and stuggled completing my sentences because thoughts kept entering my head. "You should've done this intead of this." "After you say this, this should follow." "Point to the visual aid then say this." Such things. Even now when I'm writing this I have a lot of things that I'm thinking about aside frkm writing this. I want to say all my ideas that I want to say but I can't do it. I can't put things connected and it just keeps on making me stay out of focus. I want to say too that I want to write a book but I can't finish one because of my brain. I don't know my mental illness lr if I have one but I just can't focus on one thing.

[@jmk1962]

You are so articulate and I love your explanation of social anxiety. My daughter suffers from SA and I am going to recommend she watches your videos.

[@deutschrapoderwas]

Social anxiety is a burden in every single area of your life. It sucks so much...😞

[@zombiedeutsch]

I used to be normal, suddenly i developed a severe social anxiety... watching this made me realize it's been there all the time since childhood but not too severe... now i startshaking whenever i start i talk to people, even friends...

[@eden-xr9gw]

i honestly love your videos so much

[@sofiaardvark9039]

Thank you for making such a clear video explanation :) About the over-planning, it seems to be a common trait in people with anxiety , but, in my personal experience, I tend to do the exact opposite. When I have a task I must complete that feels very big to me, I stress about it to the point that instead of actually completing it, I'd rather hide away from it and avoid all thought about it. This leaves me not only feeling stressed for much longer than I need to, but I'll also complete the task quickly and poorly when I run out of time, limiting my chances to show my talent. People think my procrastinating is a product of laziness, but they have no idea how much I'd love to just deal with things confidently right away sometimes.

[@moon_lyrics]

I got social anxiety from my pre-k teacher. She used to call me stupid, embarrass me, and always tell me when I make a mistake.

[@timidlytender5483]

Any therapists/school counselors I’ve met with were crap. They will ask me to explain things that I don’t even understand myself so then I end up stuck trying to explain it, saying shit I don’t mean, then overthinking it for the next few weeks and thinking about what I should have said. I think you’re amazing by the way. Everything you explain helps me to understand what I’m going through a little bit better because sometimes I just really don’t get why things like this are happening to me, or more like what is happening to me and it makes me realize why I don’t the things I do sometimes.

[@AceVie_]

You should make your own podcast. Your voice is so calming to listen to

[@Vxnlcy]

I never felt more understood than while watching this. I have best friends who support and help me in every situation but No one really ever understood what that „shyness“ is. That it’s not just only shyness. Everyone says: u don’t have to be shy, just talk to me. That shows that people don’t really understand social anxiety and don’t know that it’s not that easy.

[@PopasMUSIC]

Finally, an asmr video. You go, girl! :)

[@tctat5839]

Damn..I can relate to everything you said in this video... This was extremely helpful. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. It's nice to feel that I'm not alone in that shit.. For everyone with SAD I want to wish lots of strength which you already have, because leaving with this disorder takes extreme level of bravery. Sending lots of love and support

[@e.l.a5455]

I have social anexiety but wouldn't call myself shy or introverted, I just never leave the house or talk to anyone because I overthink everything even tho I would actually love to travel and meet people, I can't order a coffee without preparing or make a phone call, most likey I will make someone else call for me. I'm terrified of sharing my opinion or anything and I know if I do I will mumble and forget everything and sound dumb

[@atira3995]

Thank you so much for this video. I feel the exact things as you do. I really want to go to therapy one day, once I've found the courage. So far, I'm slowly pushing myself out of my comfort zone

[@andersmith715]

I don't really know if I have social anxiety or I'm just hella shy. I find my ability to talk with people I'm unfamiliar with or people of authority is getting worse and I sweat tremble and blush, but often it doesn't cause me to avoid the situation (unless it's talking in a group I don't know well which I avoid 100% of the time). With my friends I'm very loud and unanxious around them, and I don't really plan out social situations all that much.

[@vdiitd]

No one else has ever explained Social Anxiety so well as you have. The "writing down entire sentences before a phone call" thing is exactly what I do. Didn't know others also do it.

[@KumarMayank1]

I am shy, Introvert vith sprinkle of socially awkward. And I can totally relate each and every word from 12:16 It bought tears in my eyes knowing I'm not the only one.

[@nikitalotlikar1954]

Everything you said is relatable. For so many years I thought I was like this because I was an introvert but when my anxiety started to get worse I realised it was anxiety and now working on it. Also you explained it so beautifully. I wish I had see this video years ago. Thank you

[@WerJoy]

When you start to list the forms of judgment im litterally start shaking and crying just thinking about them. My Social anxiety don't let me EVEN visit psychologist because i thinking that they will make fun of my problem after sessions. And the knowledg that not all of psychologists in my country accept social anxiety as the mental illness, didn't make it easier to take a step forward to my mental health.

[@urskn.7985]

this is probably the most helpful video Ive seen on a topic like this. What I've noticed about myself is that Ive started to hate myself a long time ago because Im constantly holding myself back from doing things I really want to do and which would take me further in life because Im scared of even the most basic interactions sometimes. The fear or just the idea that Ive missed all my opportunities and ruined my life constantly puts me in a headspace where I dont even want to do anything because I fear that I will just do the same mistakes again and that I am unable to act differently.