Some things are changing (for the better)

[@karenhaire5451]

"You can't care more about someone else's problem than they do." You don't know how much I needed to hear that today. Thanks!😊

[@MinimalistHome]

You are so welcome!

[@shellyjay8954]

I woke up to all of this 5 years ago when I had to retire to take care of my husband who had a stroke. I’m now 70 and regret not living life fuller and more “free” from the things and behaviors that bogged me down and robbed my joy. My advice to everyone is listen to Robyn. She is helping us all to embrace simplicity and self-care that ultimately makes us better daughters, sisters, wives, mothers, friends etc. Don’t wait. We don’t need to say yes to everyone. We don’t need stuff. Our kids don’t need stuff. Managing stuff steals our time. God bless y’all.

[@GrammyAmanda]

❤

[@susanoline5823]

Not to mention the time we spend working to get the money to buy the stuff.

[@MinimalistHome]

Thanks SO much! I'm so glad to be of help and it sounds like you're on a roll!

[@lennyburdick3192]

“Not my circus, Not my monkey.” A favorite reminder for me.

[@MinimalistHome]

haha, totally love that one!

[@GrammyAmanda]

I say that almost daily! 😂

[@kathy5706]

Never heard that, but it’s a great saying!

[@stacyfausett5436]

Yessssss

[@juliemoore6957]

This is the gift of perimenopause... we are no longer willing to put up with any B.S. It's truly part of this phase of life. I agree with everything you're saying! Now that I'm 65, I'm way more focused on my health, my rest, only making room for the good things. Living life more intentionally.

[@MinimalistHome]

Right?? I love it!

[@EricaLucasLoves]

Yes! I started caring way less about it other people’s opinions when perimenopause started.

[@EricaLucasLoves]

I quit watching the news 3 years ago. I felt less stressed within days. Now I scan headlines for 5 minutes before bedtime reading.

[@MinimalistHome]

smart!!

[@mariahwilson6505]

This is a great list!!! I stopped watching the news over ten years ago for my mental health. It was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made 😂❤

[@sonyad7723]

I don't even own a TV anymore but I don't watch the news on any other devices either, for probably 20 years!!! Every once in a while I'll get a pop-up for a really big story that I might click on and skim so I know what's happening, but otherwise I don't want to hear all of that negativity every day!!! That's all they ever seemed to put on the news!!! Even when I HAD a TV I didn't watch the news for a good 10ish years bc of that!!! (And I'm only 52! Lol) I'm saddened by my grandmother who watches pretty much ONLY the news all day long "so she knows what's going on in the world" but meanwhile she's taking in all of that negativity all day long and has nightmares Every night!!! :(

[@MinimalistHome]

Yes! 😍

[@michelegioffredo8811]

It's all propaganda anyway. All the fear that has never come. Ridiculous

[@grinchy56]

I'm 56 and decided lately I need to try new things or make plans for myself. If I want a pedicure or nap or try new recipe or whatever I give myself permission. It feels good.

[@MinimalistHome]

Hallelujah! 🦋💪🏼🩵

[@rebeccabieri354]

The Smiths, The Cure, New Order, Depeche Mode ❤ reason enough for me to follow your awesome channel 😊

[@MinimalistHome]

yessss 🎶

[@purpledonkeylover9988]

I love the JOMO idea!! What an awesome list, I think we harm ourselves more and the other person is clueless . Grudges and toxic people....ugh! They need to go! We need more positive things. Take care and enjoy your day.

[@MinimalistHome]

Thanks a million!

[@joanneconnor4319]

I remember going to have some counselling when my children were a bit younger as I was struggling with everything, and the counsellor said "if you don't take care of your health and mental health first, you are unable to take care of your children". I'll always remember that!

[@MinimalistHome]

It’s a tricky one to figure out, but it’s so true! 🩵

[@Esti89dec]

Totally agree with the news! I stopped watching a few years ago and I’m so much less stressed. When my mom talks about it and what’s going on she’s so anxious about it and I’m always telling her to stop. Like you said, I can stay apprised of the important information without watching it everyday.

[@JAMtheKnitter]

You nailed it with this one, Robin. So many things I have been thinking about or realized with you saying it how much I need to pay attention to it. Not micromanaging, not taking on other people's problems, not neglecting my health are the top three off the top of my head. I think a lot of why we do these things stems from us being women/moms/caretakers (or being brought up to be told we should be) and so we put other people's problems and happiness in front of our own. One thing I still struggle with is if I don't micromanage, and I don't do all the work myself, why should I have to live with the mess or undone things if the others don't do them?

[@MinimalistHome]

I’m glad you can relate! I’m not a parenting expert, so please seek some out who have more step by step advice on this kind of thing, but I will clarify that there’s a difference between leading / managing the home / housework and acting in a micromanaging way about it. Neither needs to mean that you do all or none of it. I do see your point though and it might take a bit of time to shift into a new routine that works for you and your family a this time. 🤞🏼💛

[@daphblue]

This is perfectly timed. We were just asked if we want to go to my father in law’s work party again this year. They do a big German festival with live music, great food, and a car show. It’s a great time, but we’re going to their house 2 weeks later for his birthday, and we really need the time at home. Plus, traveling with our 17 month old is really challenging right now

[@MinimalistHome]

Smart!

[@arlineswardson6012]

Robyn, you are an inspiration! Lots of great ideas!

[@MinimalistHome]

Thank you so much!

[@ReneeDennis-x8h]

We got new flooring in my living room yesterday. My friend could not believe that everything was put back into place within 30 minutes. The reason it was fast was bc of less stuff to put back (thx decluttering) and the TV stand on sliders. My friend said it would have taken her a week 😮

[@MinimalistHome]

Awesome! 👏🏼 🩵

[@rachelvidal1053]

I remember a mindset change in my 40s. It's a good change for you.

[@MinimalistHome]

Yesss, like "hmmm, I am NOT into this anymore"

[@rachelvidal1053]

@@MinimalistHome YES, with age comes wisdom

[@susanoline5823]

Mindset change in my 40s, 50s, 60s, lol. Gotta change. Life is a series of little adjustments.

[@sherrigibbs528]

I love your positive energy and enthusiasm.

[@MinimalistHome]

Thanks soooo much!

[@campingknitter]

such a good video - so many good points that i need to remember

[@mariannedavis9136]

Robyn, This is one of your best videos yet! Great advice that I agree with. I like the JOMO idea. That will work for me. Thank you for you! 😊

[@MinimalistHome]

You are sooooo welcome!

[@susanmcdaniel9431]

So good to Count Your Blessings!!!

[@MinimalistHome]

Yes! 💕

[@donnagrifford7142]

Happy Happy Birthday Blessings! 🎂🎉🎈🛍️💐🥳✝️😘💝. Fantastic video! U r so inspiring 4 all of us! Time passes quicker n quicker the older we get! There's No time like the present 2 make healthier changes!!! The earlier the better, tho! I'm 63, raised 5 beautiful kiddos. We have 8 precious Grandbabies! Getting intentional in the "Now" is Loving Urself! 😉💞 U share Great advice n tips! 👏👏👏👍💞😘 Thanks 4 being that Utube Mom, Sister n friend that we ALL cherish! 😘

[@MinimalistHome]

Oh wow! Thanks so much! 💐💛

[@anji5635]

Thanks Robyn, I needed this today To reinforce A DecisionThat I pretty much made and Haven't done.

[@MinimalistHome]

Awesome! 👏🏼

[@Fun-pf9lw]

This list applies to us all. Thanks for the reminder!

[@MinimalistHome]

Glad it was helpful!

[@rhondatallent2396]

I'm gonna stop making mountains out of molehills! Love ya, Robyn.😇🥰

[@MinimalistHome]

yea!!

[@kristencobb230]

Also a RN, and new I liked you! The Cure is my fall vibe music too 💕

[@MinimalistHome]

💛💪🏼👍🏼

[@mariahwilson6505]

This is a great list!!! All of these are great contributors to mental health! (I stopped watching the news over ten years ago - one of the best decisions I’ve ever made) ❤

[@MinimalistHome]

That's awesome!

[@stacyfausett5436]

I agree as women we tend to put ourselves last and I’m trying to change that even at 52 but it’s hard! I’m homeschooling my youngest 1 more year and then all my children will be grown. 🎉 I’m looking forward to the next season of life!

[@MinimalistHome]

Sounds like you’re in a great moment or reflection and preparing for the next chapter of your life! Exciting ! 👏🏼🩵

[@DaysAfterDecluttering]

Gosh I loved this video! I've been a practicing cozy minimalist for seven years. I'd like to work more on reducing what I bring home. I have SUCH a hard time feeling like a day wasn't successful if I don't find something. I always part with something else, I do keep things tidy, but I'd like to conquer this.

[@MinimalistHome]

Sounds great! Do you mean if you don’t find something to get rid of? 🩵

[@DaysAfterDecluttering]

​@@MinimalistHome Yes, or something I don't need. It's still here, it's just hiding. =)

[@thebusybees2006]

Happy early birthday 🥳

[@MinimalistHome]

Thank you! 😍

[@thebusybees2006]

@@MinimalistHome YW

[@bettyjo2737]

Crumpet 🥰 I agree with your list. I have been doing some of these things myself. When I hit perimenopause it started. It is a wonderful chapter in our lives! I can't remember the last time I watched the news. If anything is important, my husband tells me about it. Thank you Robyn ❤

[@M_SC]

Definitely I think it’s evolutionary that at perimenopause and above that we stop caring about certain things. And that’s great, for us. It’s not worth hot flashes but it’s great.

[@MinimalistHome]

Yes! 💪🏼💕🎶

[@jemellugtu6273]

I watched a lot of videos same as like this, but yours is the most relatable! Thank u for sharing this because it made me think to quit a lot of things in life! Keep the videos going❤

[@MinimalistHome]

I'm so so sooooo glad!

[@Kate.g.]

Toxic person, ohh yes! I don't have to forgive everyone everything. I can forgive someone because deep down I feel that person is sincere, but I can not forgive someone who I don't feel is sincere. We can hear excuses, but not necessarily accept them but that doesn't mean that I have hatred, or anything else, I simply free myself from this person. This was liberating for me!

[@MinimalistHome]

Yessss! 💪🏼💕

[@dfrost7934]

I love this list. Other people's problems. I empathize too much so that it bothers me. Not good for my mental health. I can relate to a lot if these things. I need a printable of this!

[@MinimalistHome]

Totally!

[@smontone]

I needed to hear this. My son is 4 and I have very little time for myself. We have also been so sick since he started preschool. I shouldn’t feel bad for the things I can’t do.

[@thatswhatisaid8908]

Lol. I didn't fold my own laundry last night when I asked. 😮

[@Gigirl59]

Loved this!!! Thx so much!!!❤

[@MinimalistHome]

You're welcome!

[@kiwimorado]

I loved loved loved this video.

[@MinimalistHome]

You're so so sooooo welcome!

[@joannafoster3423]

Love love love this list!

[@MinimalistHome]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@Amanda-yd2ey]

Good news yes!!!

[@MinimalistHome]

Yessss!

[@marshagaravaglia8149]

Great video ❤

[@SaraShire]

YNAB has helped me manage my money so much. In a way it gamifies budgeting. Plus it helps so much in planning. I especially love how it takes the money right away when you use a credit card, so when the bill is due the money is already there. Yay, no more credit card debt!

[@MinimalistHome]

Yes! Magic!

[@GumboGirl13]

Your video is great! So many good ideas. Love the idea of JOMO. I am an introvert and it’s difficult even to go to parties to begin with even though the people having them are friends. I support stopping many of the things you mentioned. I will have to start with one or two. ♥️ Just a note… I noticed that your kitty has an odd gait. Could you tell me about that? I have a special needs kitty who is paraplegic. 11 years old already and doing great with a lot of support and care by me. I’m a physical therapist and have treated humans with this condition as well. That’s why I’m particularly curious. 😸 Thank you for all your words of wisdom. You are amazing!

[@MinimalistHome]

Thank you so much!!! My cat has a brain injury that affects balance and general coordination. 💛🦋🌿

[@VanessaDunleavy]

Great video! Your cat is cute. Are his back legs ok? So cute.

[@MinimalistHome]

Thanks! He has a brain injury. 💕

[@colleen6921]

Great advice, Robyn!

[@MinimalistHome]

Thanks for watching!

[@micha7895]

I just decided to also no longer say yes to things I don’t want to do!!!

[@MinimalistHome]

yesss!

[@tinayoung2543]

Oh my goodness this is good stuff. Just within the last 2 weeks I've taken on problems that aren't mine. On a side note costing me 5k SMH

[@MinimalistHome]

Oh man!!

[@winerock]

So many gems here. Thanks!

[@MinimalistHome]

Glad you enjoyed!

[@IceBearHalfwayPoint]

I'm 42, and I 💯 agree with kicking toxic people and not watching the news anymore! Same here! Unfortunately, I'm so overworked that I'll probably never kick multitasking.

[@MinimalistHome]

Ah darn!

[@mrmrlee]

When our neighbors moved they tried to give us their gigantic entertainment center for free, I said noooooo! Now that the TVs are wall mounted and you can keep a separate bookshelf somewhere else if needed they're completely unnecessary and they're a giant waste of space.

[@sonyad7723]

Great job! Good for you!!!

[@MinimalistHome]

Yesss! I just need a piece of furniture for under the TV and we are good to go! I totaly agree

[@mrmrlee]

@@MinimalistHome Can you keep that center section piece with the drawers and ditch the rest?

[@northstar4851]

​@@MinimalistHomeWhy? If it's not needed, it's not needed.

[@extrememinimalism]

keep the tv bench underneath, but defo get rid of the bookcases next to it.

[@cathypreaster1210]

Love this list! I’m also working on all the same things. Isn’t it interesting how each one of these goes hand in hand with all the other ones?

[@MinimalistHome]

Yes! Like...um... a chain of events! LOL

[@frozenjonesfam]

These are all so great!

[@MinimalistHome]

Hooray! 😊

[@lormor460]

I need to let go of my high school bully. I shouldn’t give her that power. Ugh. Right now, the U.S. is on the news daily. It’s like watching a train wreck. I wish I could get that out of my mind. 😢 Can’t help but watch but my heart is breaking for our country. I used to exercise almost daily until a series of injuries which I have had to stop which is frustrating.

[@MinimalistHome]

Oh man, I was bullied too. Definitely helpful to let go. Can you be more intentional about how and when you consume the news?

[@lormor460]

@@MinimalistHome I need to…I never used to watch anything regarding politics. Things are crazy now. I can give it a try. I recently got back into watching scary movies. I can be scared and safe at the same time. You are such a help and you always respond to me. Thank you 🙏!

[@susanoline5823]

Lormor460, beleive me I am sure that bully has a harder time than you do forgiving her. I feel horrible for any "bad" things I've done to others when I was younger.

[@melissataylor8910]

Amen!❤

[@MinimalistHome]

😍

[@vanessaandreatta9098]

...... This is why when we get old young ppl complain 😂 I won't miss out on any party, any free dinner, or fun event... To keep myself funny and relatable. I said no to useless week end trip, to walking pets, to relatives I hate, and travelling for the sake of taking souvenirs and photos. Grudges I will hold on to to bitter end, because it was useful to me to avoid toxic ppl and to level up because I plan my revenge. Revenge first, then grudge can go😅

[@MinimalistHome]

haha!

[@joannafoster3423]

Thanks for permission to skip a party I really don't want to go to! Also, not caring more about someone else's problem than they do..... even when it's our kids!!! Man, parenting adult children in many ways is harder.

[@susanoline5823]

Joanna, I work in a nursing home and a 100 year old lady was complaining about her kids in their 70s! Then a 75 yo told me her kids in their 40s were always arguing.

[@MinimalistHome]

Thanks for sharing!

[@MinimalistHome]

Yes! And I'm just getting started with this!

[@GrammyAmanda]

I am such a goofball 😅and not used to saying no. So, I downloaded a list of 100 ways to say no, before declining to head a ministry at my church. But due to physical and emotional stuff I need to say no sometimes in order to function. 🤷🏼‍♀️ The people around me aren’t used to me saying no.

[@northstar4851]

That's the #1 reason. Like starting a diet, it makes THEM uncomfortable.

[@MinimalistHome]

Good for you! They will start to get the picture and respect you for your self-respect in time.

[@tressalewis7004]

You might want to read the book One Thing…❤😊

[@MinimalistHome]

Thanks! This is the second time I've been recommended this book! I'll check it out!

[@TheWoodburningWarrior]

Are you My sister from another mister LOL you like the same music as me 😂💚

[@MinimalistHome]

yessss!

[@latoyaangle4568]

What are some teenage penalties do you have? I have a teenager as well.

[@MinimalistHome]

It’s usually something like 2 hours of no screens at all.

[@sandraasandoval9509]

Agree totally with needing to put my foot down and quitting certain things, but to be honest I couldn't focus on your comments because of your cat. I felt so strongly concerned about how he/she was walking. Is kitty ok ???

[@MinimalistHome]

Oh, that’s Crumpet. He has Cerebellar Hypoplasia. It affects his coordination. He is a very happy boy and is in no pain, but he is quite clumsy. Thanks for checking and caring.

[@northstar4851]

Thank goodness! My dog sometimes does that bc flooring is slick.

[@extrememinimalism]

im currently trying to quit/reduce my use on technology

[@bloodwashednana]

It's a shame we can't have another Walter Cronkite to do the national/world news. He told the truth.

[@MinimalistHome]

Truth or not, sometimes, I really feel I need to take in as little news as possible...

[@joycampina4133]

I get 1440 news email to the point no politics

[@MinimalistHome]

If that works for you, that's great!