Some Things We Have Learned Together | Jeffrey R. and Patricia T. Holland

Elder and Sister Holland share what they've learned after 22 years of matrimony: Live worthy of marriage even if it doesn't come soon. And cherish it with all your heart when it does.
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Jeff: Each time we have given an address to this student body, we have started off with a moment or two together, usually including a couple of jokes about my father-in-law. Then we have each presented individual messages. Today we are going to do something a little different-we are both going to stay up here because our message today is a shared one. What you see is what you get-the two of us-“The Pat and Jeff Show.” Indeed, we have tentatively entitled our remarks “Some Things We Have Learned-Together” and we hope both the audience and the television camera can handle two of us at once.
Pat: We are going to talk about some of the “before” and “after” of marriage-our marriage. But this will be slightly different from what might seem a traditional BYU sermonette on the subject. For one thing, this year we reach a milestone in our lives-we will have lived as long married to each other, twenty-two years, as we did before marriage. Surely that ought to justify some sort of sage advice from us.
Jeff: Yes, I was told on that fateful day in 1963 that with marriage I had come to the end of my troubles. I just didn’t realize which end they were speaking of.
Pat: The last thing we want to do is sound self-righteous, so our first assurance is that our marriage is not perfect, and we have the scar tissue to prove it. To quote my father, the rocks in Jeff’s head have not yet filled the holes in mine.
Jeff: So forgive us for using the only marriage we know, imperfect as it is, but for some time now we have wanted to reflect back on the half of our lives spent together since we were students at BYU and to see what, if anything, it might mean to you as you look ahead twenty-two years from now.
Pat: Before you get up and leave, let me again reassure you that this isn’t going to be the usual BYU talk on matrimony, important as that is. For one thing, we are going to try to apply these little lessons we have learned to all of you-single or married. For another thing, we fear that too many of you, especially the women in our student body, are too anxious about the subject already. So please don’t be anxious...
Jeffrey R. Holland was president of Brigham Young University when he and his wife, Patricia T. Holland, gave this devotional address on 15 January 1985.
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As a young man who is helping with planning his wedding I am immensely grateful for finding this talk today.

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I love this talk so much!! So touching, so humorous, so profound, so uplifting, and so encouraging!

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You will be missed Patricia.

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These guys are a lot of fun together. Funny how Elder Holland is fighting off the temptation to silently mouth the words the Sister Holland is reading.

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Very wise words of counsel to those who have ears to hear and heart to understand light and truth.

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"Be calm, be patient, be happy with the season you are now in."

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Great talk. Down to earth advice

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How grateful and appreciative I am for these inspired and powerful massage from our Lord Jesus Christ through His chosen Apostle Elder Jeffrey R. Holland and his wife. True happiness are fully experienced between husbands and wives and family members, when the gospel of Christ are applied and place it as center in the home. Love, repentance , forgiveness and humility.

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Rip sister Holland

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Realistic and lofty at the same time.

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