Sometimes Living in Germany Makes Me Sad

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[@beckyontour7417]

Actually it is better to not wash your hair every day. I only do if 2 to 3 times per week.

[@booksmeanyway235]

I was going to say the same thing. I wash my hair almost everyday, I'm not very fortunate 🙄

[@user-bj2lu9qt3o]

100% better if you only wash it when it's needed. I hate when women shame other women with reactions like "what?! Only x days a week?!" I hate that I have to wash it every day. 😩

[@OkieJames]

Yeah definitely same but my husband can wash his hair every day.. I think it just depends .. he produces a lot more oils than I do... I don't produce almost any natural oils for my hair

[@TiffanyHallmark]

As a hairdresser, I can confirm you don't need to wash your hair every day. That was a thing made up by shampoo manufacturers to get you to use more shampoo, so you have to buy more.

[@ZaZu80]

same here. I am washing my hair 2 times a week, sometimes 3 times a week, the rest of the time I just shower :) Like other people said too, it's not even healthy to wash your hair every day and/or to shower with a lot of shower gel every day - not good for the skin. Interesting video once again :)

[@mariannevis417]

After being divorced I came to live in the same town as my parents which was very helpfull with a 3 year old and a 1 year old child. My parents gave me a lot of support through the years and i'm very gratefull for that. Now it is the otherway around. My parents are 89 and 90 years old and i am the one giving them the support they need.

[@rome0610]

My father turns 92 soon (my mother sadly passed away decades ago) and we live together. As our parents supported us when we were children, it's now time to give this support back. Even if from time to time it's hard to be wakend up in the middle of the night, I won't want to miss it! Under American circumstances it would be reduced to a random telephone call with the nursing home...

[@fawnjenkins7266]

Same here, except my husband can't live in the altitude where my parents live, so I am unable to help my parents the way I would like to...

[@lost.in.the.sixties2323]

I wash my hair once a week. The hair gets used to that, so it doesn't get greasy so fast :)

[@BrokenCurtain]

Having "Rollläden" in your home seems to depend to some degree on whether you live in a rented apartment or your own home. It's an additional expense and many landlords seem to cut corners by not having them installed. If on the other hand you own the place, you'll probably see the long-term benefit of being able to cut down on heating costs by adding an additional layer of insulation to your windows overnight.

[@RebellHAI]

They don't do this only because it is more expensive to buy them. It's also because at a certain age these things needs repairings. Who have to pay the repairing? Right. The landlord. Mostly all apartments do have them on the ground floor and sometimes on the first because it's helpful against thieves.

[@dorisw5558]

I have them in my rented apartment but hardly ever use them except for the bedroom

[@dolovonwerder7833]

To my experiences blinds or Rollaeden are much more used in the south of Germany. In Hamburg,where I’m from,we had curtains to draw when it was getting dark. On the other hand I lived in few places,where nobody could look into my windows.So we had a lot of nice curtains but,besides the bedroom at night,we never used them. The blinds may be more used in first floors of single houses. It really differs a lot! As of washing my hair...I’m a very lucky guy cause my hair is pretty easy.. I wash it when I think it’s necessary. It’s rather dry and with getting older and in the Southeast climate of Florida it started getting curly which I love after all these years with straight hair 😍😂

[@BrokenCurtain]

@@dolovonwerder7833 I'm from a small town in East Frisia, and Rolläden are extremely common there. I don't think there's much of a difference between the North and the South. It's probably more about urban vs. rural locations, historical vs. modern architecture (no PVC in old construction) and rental vs. home-ownership.

[@BrokenCurtain]

@@RebellHAI "these things need repairings" Which is also what I mean by "additional expense".

[@FairyOfSomething]

I wash my hair once a week, I am fortunate to sweat or grease up less than other people.

[@LuisaH2022]

My hair gets greasy in 24h but massage keeps grease at bay. Yay! For the massage!

[@TheTerrorHamster]

​@@LuisaH2022 I have to wash my hair every morning. Even if I took a shower before I went to bed. I wake up after 7-8 hours and my hair is greasy again. I can only go thru the day because the grease doesn't get spread in the day time like it does when I turn around on my pillow while sleeping.

[@LuisaH2022]

@@TheTerrorHamster nothing wrong with washing your hair every day. Just don't forget to condition every time you wash your hair. If your hair is long enough to braid, clip your braid on your t-shirt and wash your scalp only.

[@norbertderiro9458]

I wash my hair twice a year! They have become much nicer, but it just itches so unpleasant.

[@PertinaciousGeek]

I follow the exact same regiment... since the pandemic started.

[@katharinaastleitner]

I am pretty much in the same boat like you. I moved to Canada over 4 years ago now, my boyfriend is from here and my parents are back in Austria. I am an only child and in the beginning I didn't have issues with missing my parents even though we are really close and I am so happy when we get time together. However, the last year (I am 28 now) I have started to miss them more and I think a lot comes down to realizing that they are getting older and the number of times I will get to see them if I am in Canada are very limited. Also in the beginning when you move away there isn't even time to think about missing them because there is so much excitement going on, a new country, new adventures, people, food etc. But now that I am done university and everything is kind of normalized I realize how nice it would be to have my parents around specially when most of my friends do have their family here and spend time with them a lot. I am so glad you made this video. This has been something that I think about all the time these days and it helps to share

[@SvenjaKuckla]

To answer all your questions :D We have automatic window shutters and we love them, we timed them to go up shortly before the alarm. I wash my long hair every three days, except when depending on my schedule I wash it a day early. We moved only a "big" town away, so approx. 60km. We later moved back. Thankfully because the area is filled with jobs and opportunities. I also didn't have a pull to go far. We now live in the same city as most of our families. It is not expected, but definitely enjoyable for us.

[@Beatrix_]

I was just tearing up when you were talking about your parents. I feel you so much! I'm a German living in England. I just came to study here but I still miss my parents as much as you do. I also just realized it when they told me and expressed theire feelings about it and how much they really miss me ans hoping me to come back one day. Luckily I can visit them at least twice a year for a couple of weeks.

[@tasminoben686]

Moin Dana, ich muß inzwischen mehr Gesicht als Haare waschen! lach Danke, daß du deine Gefühle mit uns geteilt hast. Schönes Video, mit diesem Einblick in deinen Alltag.

[@Never_again_against_anyone]

Hair: at least every other day. Oatmeal: "Haferflocken" or "Müsli" The parents-distance-aspect: Your parents want you to be happy and do what is good for you. But that does not mean that it does not hurt them that you are so far away.

[@annabear3553]

I had that with my parents as well, even though I did not leave Germany. I am in my early 30s now and just moved a lot closer to my family because of the reasons you described.

[@160468kino]

Love your videos! I am American, I moved to Germany when I finished school and have been here since. I can relate to most of the things you talk about!

[@marthamelitta2832]

My hair is extremely dry, so I wash it every 7 to 8 days. But if I am out camping in the woods I don't really mind to make it 10 days or more. (And my hair is still less greasy than my friend's after 2 days. I know I am very lucky in this regard! :D)

[@mitternachtsfruhstuck4448]

Unsere Wohnung hat überall Rolläden, außer im Schlafzimmer und im Kinderzimmer. Ein echter Geniestreich der Architekten 😂

[@Krieghandt]

I can't sleep in complete darkness. My subconscious needs light to know what time it is, otherwise I wake up constantly thinking I have overslept. Each person hair washing schedule is different, depending on the oil they make. Personally, I need to use a grease stripper (actually just a tough shampoo) every several days or regular shampoo everyday.

[@Attirbful]

Krieghandt indeed, however, the products one uses have a big influence! When I stopped using parabens, sulfates, and silicones in hair products, my hair changed completely. When I had to wash my hair every other day before it was becoming oily, I can now stretch washing out to every four to five days...!

[@FiveOClockTea]

I sadly don't have rolladen, my mom does neither but she has like old school blinds (fensterläden) And I also wash my hair every few days, really depends on what they look and feel like 😊

[@vic1918]

Amazing your November project!

[@elizabethchoymoorman6381]

Hi, Dana, my daughter moved to Germany six years ago for grad school, and now lives and works in Frankfurt and is engaged to a very nice German man. We miss her a lot, and video chat, thank god, but it’s not the same. But she is very happy living there, and that’s what matters most to any parent. Next year we will see her 3x because of the wedding, but this year only once. It is hard sometimes, and I am glad to hear you say it goes both ways. You are very sweet

[@MichaelAlthauser]

We have blackout shades and a dawn/dusk lamp. Set the alarm on the lamp, and about half an hour before the alarm it will gradually start to get lighter - it's supposed to help you wake more naturally than being jarred awake by a noisy alarm in a completely dark room. Highly recommend.

[@patico11113]

This happens exactly to me.... I don't regret moving to Germany but I miss my family and friends....and suddenly you really value and learn the concept of "TIME"... I started to wonder how many hours I have left to be able to hug them to laugh...to walk together to cook for them.... My dad is on his seventies my mom in her sixties ....the ❤️ aches sometimes .....

[@patico11113]

Oh and thank God!!! For technology shorting distances ...even if not the same ...I'm grateful to have this tool to video chat all the time

[@Sweetycat95]

I wash my hair every 3-5 days, my flatmate just does it every 7-10 days! It just depends on the hair and how you treat it ;-)

[@tammykovacs2265]

So I found your book from when you did easy German. And this is while I still was learning German. Do after being here for 6 months I’m getting closer to reading it in German lol

[@BrokenCurtain]

Re: products that are no longer being sold in German supermarkets. I miss Rice Krispies. 😢

[@FiveOClockTea]

So you remember these chocolate mountains? The tip was white and there was something crunchy on the inside... go I loved those as a kid 😢

[@LythaWausW]

Whatever you do, don't try to make Rice Krispie Treats with any German alternative to Rice Krispies! Never again.

[@HeidenherzLP]

shop.rewe.de/p/kelloggs-rice-krispies-510g-reisflocken/VW2QJQNM just order them ^^

[@michelleroth7910]

Hey Dana! I actually just recently graduated from college in the US and decided to move to Germany. I've been here a little bit more than a month and it's been really great but also stressful. I'm happy with my decision to move here, but also experience my family members missing me and vice versa. I can say I'm glad I found you on KZbin since you offer great advice and have already been through some things that I'm going through. So thank you! :)

[@WildBlossom]

In Spain, almost everyone has Rollladen, but nowhere else I was in a house that has them. Lucky you!!

[@kyliejenner6059]

WildBlossom also in Israel

[@HeidenherzLP]

If your products vanish from the local storesa round you, you might want to consider buying those products you like, in an online shop, they tend to be more consistent and keep products that are ordered regularly. (or even order directly from the company that produces them)

[@beachgirl9304]

My family lives in a 50 mile radius. I wouldn't want it any other way. We can see each other for holidays, family events, etc. I am especially glad my daughter lives 10 miles away. I can see her and the grandchildren all the time, not just once or twice a year.

[@js-aus-haar]

A friend had a theory that my later life taught me to be true. When the distance to friends and family is more than let‘s say 200 miles it makes no difference if it is 500 or 5000 miles. California to Florida is the same as Germany to California. The trip costs you almost a day to come and to go. Tickets are a few hundred dollars. More importantly is if you have 10 or 30 days to go on vacation in your labor contract. Btw - I am talking of my real life experience here.

[@noteman42]

My son grew up in Massachusetts, but now he and his family live in SINGAPORE and have for the last 15 years.We visit them maybe every 18 months to 2 years. My daughter and her family move frequently (her husband is an Army officer who has been relocated, on the average, every 3 years. The Singapore connnection is a 12 hour time difference...always requiring calculation before we call! But, as my wife summer it up: We raised them to be independent -- and by golly, they are!

[@irmgardkoloska1975]

"closer with my parents" I love how germanicisms are creeping into your english.

[@lalaa555]

Why how would you say it?

[@irmgardkoloska1975]

@@lalaa555 In Canada, at least, we say "closer to my parents".

[@fs3180]

I dated a German person who was very beautiful but living horrifying life. Because of this personal life, I have gone through PTSD and I believe, it was a good representation and a window to real German society. I am lucky, I didn't move there, I wish I could find a German friend where I could ask all the questions. Life is depressing there, no soul, no passion, no joy, no emotions and no love as if everyone is dead. I send you LOVE my German friends

[@mrnice81]

Rollläden are A standard, but not THE standard. It's not uncommon or special to have them, but by far not every home has them.

[@IceNixie0102]

I live 45 minutes from my parents. My sister lives 1.5 hours from me, and my brother lives 30 minutes from me. We are all in Maryland, through in VERY different parts. Last year, my youngest brother moved to Oregon, which is now so weird b/c I'm used to everyone being close. That being said, my mom grew up in Seattle (and her siblings live all over Washington state) and my dad grew up outside Chicago, and his family is everywhere -- OK, TX, FL, OR, IL, CA. I miss my cousins that I only see every couple years. Luckily, Facebook keeps us close, and able to see each other's kids, etc.

[@annaberova9391]

hi Dana! I live in the States. I moved here almost 5 years ago and I have pretty much the same opinion as you do! I was born in the Czech Republic and I was 19 when I decided to move out of country. I definitely do not regret that I moved here but on the other hand I miss my family and friends so so so much. My feelings and me being more homesick has gotten worse when I gave birth to my beautiful daughter almost a year ago!!! I am very skeptical about my decision that I have made but keep reminding to myself that I have my husband and my daughter... but... my family don't see those milestones that our baby does and when I miss all birthday parties and holidays I really don't feel right. I wish we moved back for a few years but who knows what our future brings to us! Anyways enjoy your life in Europe! And let's be positive! :-) P.S.: I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS, IT TAKES ME BACK TO EUROPE. KEEP DOING WHAT YOU DO!!!!!

[@celmaqueza1997]

Hi Dana. I do understand you! I am from Portugal, there is not expected to leave the parents house. Depending of how your life goes it can happen mostly due to jobs. I always wanted to live in a different country, I wasn't sure where but I knew that I wanted that experience. Now I live in Edinburgh, Scotland and I am very happy about it. However, I have to call home everyday because my mother needs to know that I am ok but I also need the closeness. Everytime I go to Portugal I struggle because I can see how much I miss them but at sometime, Edinburgh is my home now. Is hard but it is life choices. We can't have the best of both worlds x

[@EnolaElorie]

Hi Dana, just wanted to let you know what an amazing person you are. telling your parents publicly that you love and miss them is such a lovely gesture. I hope you will find a way to spend more time with them rather sooner than later...time is just flying these days, I feel. I have to say that at the end of my teenage years I almost despised my parents, but over the last decade I learned to be more reasonable and I also got to a point where it was more important to be understanding and loving than having it my way all the time. I can accept that my parents are different from me and they learned to accept me the way I am as well. I notice how in some ways I'm very much like them and love is the glue that kept us together through the hardships. I guess that's what it all comes down to. I f there was love in the first place then there is a good chance that people will have an awesome relationship with their parents later on in life even though they might have disagreed and fought previously. On the topic of hair...I wash my tailbone-length hair about once a week. It took me some time to make my scalp adapt to longer periods of time in between washes, but It's totally worth it. My hair is healthy and not greasy at all. If 3 to 4 days feels good to you, your skin and your hair then don't let anyone tell you otherwise. You neither have to stretch nor shorten the amount of time. Have an awesome day and enjoy life to its fullest!!

[@kc9scott]

I call it oatmeal, and use steel-cut oats, cooking it for the needed 45 minutes in a double boiler, so it doesn't need any stirring. Speaking of products disappearing, another breakfast food I like is muesli. Around 1998, my mom introduced me to Mestemacher organic muesli, which she found in a German deli in Cincinnati. That was my favorite for a number of years, periodically stocking up on it when going to Cincinnati to visit them, until it disappeared. I think Mestemacher stopped making it. Now I buy the individual ingredients and mix my own.

[@Hendrik1901]

I used to live in Australia and my parents in Germany, which was pretty much the furthest I could have lived away. I now moved to the South of France which is fairly close to Germany.

[@fzoid3534]

I lived on the other side of the same country from my parents for about 10 years. About 2 years ago I went back to the same city and now even have an appartment just a few minutes from their house. It's really nice just to come over after work or have dinner together and the week ends. I was okay just seeing them a few times a year but having them close now is something I didn't miss but I'm happy that's how it is now.

[@camelopardalis84]

You can wash your hair even less frequent. Your scalp "gets used" to the frequency with which you wash your hair. There are people who go from washing it every other day to once a week who say that no matter how often they wash it, as soon as there is some kind of regularity to it (for example washing it every five days for a few weeks in a row) their hair gets greasy one or two days before they wash it "on schedule". Also, pediatricians say that a child's hair only needs to be washed once every week and even only every ten days if the child's hair is curly. So again, you can wash your hair less frequently. But having a rhythm seems to be kind of important.

[@saratogapilot6100]

"Jook" is Cantonese for porridge, by the way.

[@amtarrant]

Hi Dana, As another 33 year-old American living in Germany (8 years!), I can relate to a lot of what you say. What's a bit different in my case is, where I'm from in NJ, growing up we didn't know anyone who DIDN'T live in the same place as where they grew up. It was (and for my extended family, still is) normal to stay very nearby. Maybe it's a class/education thing, maybe it's a difference between the Northeast and a lot of the rest of the country. Maybe both. I went "far away" to DC for college, was the first person in my family to get a passport (in 2006, when I was 20). So I'm the outlier. My parents otherwise complain that my sister has moved so far away, but actually it's a 40 minute car ride still within NJ. In any case, I can relate really well to all the mental arithmetic - I see them less often than my sisters do, but I probably spend more time in total with my parents than they do, given the long visits I make for the reasons you say. My ambivalence is also growing about the distance as time goes on, but my life is here now, with a husband, jobs, etc., and there's no way they're emigrating, so... It's a bit tough. PS jealous of your Jalousien because I wish it were that dark in my bedroom! They're def not standard in Berlin. :(

[@hansc8433]

I think most kids move out, study and then eventually move ‘back home’, or closer to their family. I was never a family type, so I didn’t mind moving away from home. I never moved back. When my dad was still alive, I would visit them maybe 3 to 4 times per year, and they lived 200 km away. Now that my mum is alone, I go and visit a bit more often, but it’s more for her (and my kids) than for me.

[@susi131]

I wash my hair like once a week maybe twice sometimes. Have never washed it more than every 3-4 days because I have rather thick hair that takes hours to dry and I really can't be bothered to wash it more often when my hair isn't greasy.

[@fresetu]

Du bist Super! 😉😁(In my opinion, It's the little things in a relationship that really make them worthwhile, such as that greeting card)

[@jenjen7728]

We're all getting older Dana, quickly. Perhaps you're missing your parents more because you realize this more as your parents near retirement. Time is precious.

[@peternakitch4167]

Porridge, made with oats. No sugar and some milk. If I did as my Scottish ancestors did, Porridge, made with oats and with salt on top; that's how my grandmother ate it.

[@srkfan4ever137]

I call them blinds and I always keep them close at night. And open them in the day time. I only wash my hair about once a week. Sometimes more than that if I have to go away somewhere that week. I live in the U.S. so we have like 3 types of porridge. Which is oatmeal, cream of wheat, and grits. But grits is something you will not normally find where I live in Pennsylvania. It is more common in southern U.S. So I only ever ate oatmeal and cream of wheat. At the age of 39 I still live with my mother and step father. Only because I have health problems and disabilities that prevents me from moving away from them. And believe me if I didn't have disabilities. And I was normal. I would be moving either to northern Alaska. Since I just love that state so much. Mainly because I have such a huge love for cold weather. And because of my love that I have for astronomy. I want to live somewhere that is very isolated. And where there is zero light pollution. Living in Alaska I especially northern Alaska I will definitely have that. Or move to my most favorite country in the world India. But unfortunately thanks to my disabilities I can only imagine myself in those places. At least my older brother is normal. He lives just 20 minutes away with his wife and 2 sons.

[@marinaab7276]

In my opinion, having a disability doesn't make you not normal. I think you are a normal person that just happens to have a disability. I wish you all the best 🙂

[@jessali_]

For me, a Rolladen in the bedroom is definitely, 100%, the most important asset a house must absolutely have. Most vacation homes I've stayed in didn't have them, and I just could never sleep due to the light (even a faint moonshine disturbs my sleep). I was on a vacation, but after a couple days, I would always long to go home to finally get a proper night's sleep. I also suffer from migraines sometimes and I need absolute darkness during those times to make me feel better. I don't understand how people manage without Rolladen.

[@valkyr8]

I was born in Wisconsin and moved to Minnesota at a young age. Other than living in Chicago for a couple years, I have lived mostly in Minnesota, where the majority of my family lives. I could see myself living elsewhere, but I like living near my family. I have a coworker who has not seen his family in Ethiopia for 8 years and I would have a really hard time doing that.

[@IceNixie0102]

Oatmeal is a type of porridge, made from oats. Porridge can also be made from wheat, flax, rice, corn, tapioca, etc etc etc. Mush is a descriptive word that I have not heard in reference to cereal, but I guess most porridge is generally mushy.

[@cookiecat5389]

I'm German too and I wash my hair 2-3 times a week 😊 I guess it depends on every person individually

[@MrJanml]

Rollläden are often built in for safety reasons if the owners are afraid of burglars. Mostly old people do this. But it is also a protection vs. Burning Sun, heavy Winds or staring neighbors. In Germany we do not have tornados that threaten the house, but still stormy winds or landslides that can break windows. Mostly in the South every old house therefore has Fensterläden. Modern windows are very robust und that is why you can leave out Rollläden. Rollläden are no insulation though. In fact, manual Rollläden have a drain of warm air though all the holes in the Pulli mechanism. Also, they are place in an open area above the Windows where insulation is thus left out. Thus manual Rollläden drain a lot of heating energy from a house.

[@m.s.3041]

Hey, i am very lazy so i wash my hair also every 3 days... it depends on how they look...

[@hcwm2]

Well, I am a guy with long and thinning hair and I wash it every day while showering before work.

[@larryweller7948]

Thank you so much for your very honest truthful sharing during this video. Enjoy your time with your parents and your chit chats. I lost my dad 2.5 years ago. Also I call Mush, a roll of corn meal which is sliced and cooked in a skillet till golden brown on both sides and then add maple syrup. I call oat meat and then there is cream of wheat. In Cincinnati we have Goetta which we serve as a breakfast meat. I understand it came from Germany and it was called Grutzka?. Which was like oatmeal in the USA. Thank you. Viele Dank.

[@AnnaLee33]

My hair is thick and long, down to my waist, so it takes hours to dry. So I usually wash it ONCE a week without it getting greasy. I shower in between with my hair tucked away under a "Duschhaube", to keep it from getting wet. It's much better for the hair not to wash it too often, it's mechanical stress that causes damage.

[@johannessugito1686]

Fifty years ago my father's employer sent him to Thailand for a couple of years. I was 19, a student in The Netherlands living in a dormitory. No Skype, no WhatsApp etc., just writing letters every week. A phone call cost a fortune, also an airplane ticket. My parents came to Germany once a year or two years on a business trip, so I met them there. It made me value the contact with my parents so much more. It was hard, but I survived.

[@AdventuresofLaMari]

I also live in Germany. My mom did the same thing (she moved from Peru to the States) so she knows how it is - but she still misses me nonetheless. But technology is so much better than it was for her in the 80s. We talk every day and we actually don’t really feel that far away. But when my dog died - that was when we felt the distance because my mom couldn’t immediately come to the rescue. 😘

[@truSN8P]

When I was young I had many problems with my head skin, always had plenty of dandruff just 2-3 days after washing my hair. I tried many many products over several years in addition with special treatments such as rinsing my hair and skin with rinsing products and home natural things like beer, eggs, vinegar... At some time I tried historical natural soap with no chemical ingrediens and washing-soil. This seems to have balanced everything out. In these years also I changed my nutrition plan so I ended up with washing my hair 4-6 times a year - yes you heard correctly! 'a year'! Sometimes, depending on my stress level and/or what I'm eating, I get some dandruff and I just wash my head so it's mostly fine for several weeks. btw. I have long, strong hair 'till my elbow.

[@dorisw5558]

Hair: twice a week (I cut my hair very short), but getting up at 7.45 is weekends only. During the week it’s 5 am. Breakfast: sometimes porridge ( regular zarte Haferflocken, any brand) but usually scrambled eggs. I live about two hours away from my parents.

[@Lucares]

Ich glaube irgendwann merkt jeder (vorausgesetzt er/sie hat ein positives Verhältnis zu seiner Familie), wie wichtig gerade die Eltern sind. Es sind die Menschen, zu denen man immer kommen kann, die immer für einen da sind und die einen so gut kennen wie sonst (fast) niemand. Ich bin 30 und ich muss ehrlich sagen, dass ich den Tag fürchte, an dem meine Eltern nicht mehr da sind. Beide sind schon älter und ich versuche sie regelmäßig zu besuchen, melde mich fast jeden Tag telefonisch bei ihnen oder schreibe auch mal eine Karte an sie, weil ich weiß, dass sie sich darüber freuen. Die Zeit ist viel zu kurz und schade, um so wichtige Menschen zu vernachlässigen. Irgendwann bereut man es und dann ist es zu spät.

[@MultiScooter63]

I think it depends a lot on the house's age - those which are quite new do have the Rolladen, also in the upper floors, but those which are a bit older only have them in the ground floor. I live in a house built in the early 80s on 2nd floor - no Rolladen so far. :-(

[@xxemmixx_4056]

I understand what you mean. I‘m from Germany but currently living in the Us. And besides that I‘m only 16 years old because I‘m doing an exchange year. And it has always been my dream to live in America for one year. I really like it here but now being here it is harder than I expected and I miss them a lot so I really start appreciating what I have in Germany. But I‘m still happy here:)

[@pierreabbat6157]

I wash my hair once a week with water (no shampoo), mostly to comb out the loose hairs. Every few months I henna it. A few weeks ago I was running out of wakame and went to the store to get some. They had stopped carrying it. I asked someone, who directed me to another store, which has it, so I got some. The store has previously discontinued sprouted wheat tortillas and sprouted wheat raisin bagels, but brought them both back. I'm in North Carolina and don't have rolladen, but I know about them from visiting Germany. I have computers with blue lights in the on buttons in the bedroom, so I cover my eyes with a blanket when sleeping.

[@LucentMembrane]

I'm from Southern Germany, where Rolläden are pretty common. I live in the north now, it’s very (very) rare to see Rolläden here; I sometimes wonder if it’s because of the strong winds in the north or just a regional preference.

[@torte21175]

well, I moved from Germany to the US, my American wife didn't like Europe much, so I do miss my Parents and understand how you feel. Especially as I didn't have children until I turned 36 and now that I have children, my parents only get to see them once a year.

[@babsihebeis8939]

I miss my Rolladen because I live in UK and they just do not have them at all! I think washing you hair when you think it needs washing is the best approach, no idea why I should waste time and water otherwise?

[@matthewhendricks5712]

I fully relate to this Dana. I moved to Germany from South Africa nearly 7 months ago and I know it hasn't been that long, but I think it has dawned on me that I have to miss an entire year of time before I can visit them, since traveling to SA is not that cheap either. This week I particularly missed my mom and my younger siblings and not being around to watch them grow up can be slightly tough sometimes. I have the same view. I do not regret moving to Germany at all and I am so grateful to be living here, but I miss my family so much and I just wish I could see them more often. Oh yes, and I always sleep with my Rolladen closed and I sometimes wake up so disorientated about what the time is. hahaha.

[@katiet4402]

Me and my girlfriend are in a LDR (I'm in Canada and she's in Cologne Germany) your videos are awesome, we haven't decided who's moving yet it's a hard choice

[@rebeccasmith5832]

I also only wash my hair when grease starts showing or the night before I have something important, but other than that I rinse it

[@keriezy]

I wash my hair ×2-4 per week. It depends on my activity level. I recently shaved the majority of my hair off and cut the top to a few inches, so it is super simple to wash. But for years (+15) I had hair just like yours. I always wore it up so I would wash it every 10 days or so. I have trained my scalp to be less oily and it gives me flexibility to be a little lazy.

[@uneviefrallemande]

Since I live in Paris I need to wash my hair nearly every day. They have weird water here, it makes your hair look like you haven't washed it in three weeks...

[@anneliwilliams]

I moved away from the states to Germany two years ago for a grad program and just graduated and accepted a job here...really interesting to hear your thoughts on all of this! I definitely have felt that it's more or less the "same" as living on the other side of the US and that the longer visits lead to more quality time together, but do miss having my parents around (especially as I'm currently moving cities in Germany alone...!) My parents are incredibly supportive of my life here, but I know they miss me lots and wish I lived closer :/

[@keriezy]

I moved away at 18. Of all places I move to California. I'm in the same time-zone as my family but I am over a thousand miles away. I miss them but not enough that I'm willing to go back home. I've also used similar arguments with my mother saying that she hears from me more often because I'm not there and sees me more often because I do go out there for a few weeks each year. I do not regret my choice to move I know that I am a better person because I did leave home, I am more open the new ideas as well as more tolerant than I ever would have been had I stayed home.

[@SabrinaChach]

Usually, I wash my hair after doing sports, so about three times a week....I don`t live in my hometown. I think most people around me stay in the region at least.

[@Merrsharr]

I moved out for uni (but stayed within range to easily visit during breaks or for special occasions) and came back after

[@5onnenschein]

Same, I even wash it only every 4-6 days, which its totally fine.

[@ravenwolfblazing]

It really depends on how oily your hair gets and what activities you do. I myself wash my hair every 3-4 days. Washing every single day strips the natural oils out unless you have super oily hair. I was lucky to live close to my parents the majority of my life. They retired and moved 3,000 miles away and it is noticeable especially with just a 2 hour time difference (cannot imagine 8!). Most people swing back to closeness when they reach their 30s and 40s. I wish i could spend a whole month visiting!

[@Attirbful]

When I still used regular shampoos and conditioners, I HAD to wash my hair every other day. But since I have embarked in a curly girl routine and started avoiding silicones, parabens and sulfates, I can go for four days easily without washing my hair (possibly even longer). It feels and looks so much healthier, too...

[@Zarkovision]

While you mention this: Why on earth did Aldi (Süd) stopped to sell peanut butter? Now I have to go to the Netherlands to get reasonable peanut butter.

[@markreichman5922]

When I lived in Germany at Sembach the windows had rolladen. It is quite common. The first time I turned the handle on a German window and it tilted inward from the top I thought I was dead. German windows are quite sturdy and well built and open by swinging sideways but also can tilt inwards from the top and make American windows seem cheap.

[@angelique_cs]

I wash my hair about every 3 days, which is typically what most stylists have recommended; it strips the natural oils to wash too frequently. You're very lucky to have such a close relationship with your parents! They are wonderful people 😊 By living so far away, it's possibly encouraging a more precious relationship, which might be taken for granted if you were only two timezones away. I certainly appreciate my LDR all the more for the time we do get to spend together.

[@FelixAB88]

It's neither necessary to wash your hair daily, nor take a shower daily - as far as you're not sweating extremely / doing sports or smelling for other reasons. Ask some dermatologists. They will tell you the same. Regarding hair washing: In most shampoos are ingredients, which are bad for your hair. Some seem to "repair" them, but in fact, they cover broken and damaged hair with oil, parabenes, silicons, etc. If you change from classic shampoo to "hair washing soap" (look it up; you can even make it on your own!), it will take some time and will look worse than before for some time - because the oil etc. gets washed away and your hair begins to "heal"/repair REALLY. After that you'll be fine.

[@christineseiberl2993]

So I totally get what you are saying with you talking to your parents more now that you are in Europa rather the the US. I live in New York right now as an Aupair and me and my parents usually videochat every day for sometimes an hour or even longer. It is weird because I did an internship 2 years ago where I lived in Austria about 2 hours away from them and we would rarely talk. We would have a call maybe once a week and that was it. Now that I’m all the way on the other side of the planet we talk more often just because I’m “so far away”. You really know how much someone means to you when you don’t have them near you. That’s something I learned here in my 2 months.

[@booksmeanyway235]

Things that I like to eat/use that disappear ... 😑 All the freaking time! Changing the subject: as a mum, I really really hope my two girls will think about me the way you think about your parents, when they get older. I'm half Italian and half Venezuelan, and both countries, both families, expect their "children" to be as near as possible. Especially in Italy is a great "sacrifice" to move away, usually. Me and my husband left 18 years ago and lived in different regions, different countries and now we live in Bayern, and that is 14 hours of driving away from my parents and parents in law. For us is more than ok, is not that hard... But maybe I shouldn't feel this good about it 🤔 Ok, now I feel weird! 😅

[@reinerjung1613]

I had never the experience that products disapear from the store just after some months. However, my oatmeal components are oats + milk or water (heating), which are standard components.

[@yelenayeli9529]

I live in The Netherlands. We name 'oatmeal', 'havermout'. In summertime I wash my hair also almost everyday. It feels so fresh and we don't have AC. Now it's colder I don't do that and in fact it's not necessairy. So now I do it three times a week. A lot of young people who live in the rural parts of The Netherlands move to the Randstad for study. There is also more work. I moved later in life to another part of The Netherlands and now live a 1 1/2 hours drive from my parents. We hoped to move closer to my parents but because of work we didn't manage that. And yes, for me (and for them!) that also feels far away.

[@sholtey1]

I agree with how often you wash your hair. I usually wait to wash it 3-4 days as well. Like you it depends on the product in my hair.

[@marinaab7276]

Lovely video! 1) I have long hair and I wash it every 3 to 4 days, otherwise it gets too dry. 2) I speak English as a second language and the word I learned is oatmeal. 3) The skirt is lovely! 4) I'm 50 and grew up as an only child in a traditional Mexican family, so my parents expected me to move out of the family home only after marriage, but they also expected me to stay in my home town afterwards. I got married and moved to the U.S. They considered it a betrayal of my duty as a daughter. I kept visiting them twice a year, but they never came to visit me. They are both gone now.

[@fedupnow61859]

I have rolladen in my house. During the week I sleep with them up since I have to get up at 5:30 am but on the weekend I will close them so that I sleep longer. I also wash my hair every 3 days since menopause. When I lived in Florida though it was everyday because my head would sweat and make my hair limp.

[@tselampe]

It definitely depends on your hair. I know lots of people who wash their hair only every 5 days and they are perfectly clean. But you are blessed if your hair stays nice that long!

[@sgeskinner]

Oatmeal is porridge made using oats. Porridge can be made using wheat or even rice. Mush is a different dish made from cornmeal.

[@Belgarion2601]

I am German, my sister has never lived more than two hours away from my parents; now she is married and lives in walking distance from them. I have lived in New Zealand, in Chile and in German cities that were five or six hours away from home. I am planning on working in different countries in the future.

[@ernstnaumann6318]

3:42 I'm a German living in the Netherlands and this keeps happening to me too. I have autism so it's quite likely that i'm not mainstream at all, and I started thinking that the disappearance of your favorite products from the assortment of a store or a manufacturer, is just a fate that must happen to people who are not mainstream. Is it very rare in the U.S.A. that a store stops carrying a product or that a manufacturer takes a product off the market?

[@ThePerksdeLeSarcasmeSiorai]

From my experience, it’s rare but can happen depending on the stores and if the products are very unpopular with local shoppers. For example, my closest supermarket used to sell Wasa German crispbreads but they stopped displaying the products after several months and as a result, I had to drive to another supermarket to get them or order them online. Other than that, products will continue to be sold at supermarkets UNLESS the manufacturers decide to stop making them or recall them due to health-related concerns (for example, eggs being recalled after reports of salmonella). And holiday items ( such as Halloween, Fourth of July, Christmas) are sold for usually 2-3 months before disappearing and reappearing again next year.

[@EvilZoe2]

I used to have to wash mine every day until I hit menopause. Now, I only wash it like twice a week because washing it more than that dries it out too much. Plus, it really doesn't need it.

[@ad220588]

If you do without shampoo and do not wash your hair as often, it will not grease quickly. 

[@robandkarrie]

Super long straight hair here (to my waist) and I also only wash my hair every 3 to 4 days. The only difference is if I have a really rigorous day outdoors and I sweat a lot. “Oatmeal”, lol. Not sure I could eat if it’s called “mush”, haha. Re:moving away - I too was baffled in my 20’s by my husband’s mom freaking out over our plan to move away (my own parents never expressed this), but now BEING a parent, I can make myself cry right now imagining the day that my daughter leaves home, and I finally “get” what his mom was trying to express...that she misses him so bad it physically hurts. I can see that being me. Growing up changes perspective.

[@johndtribuna1194]

Not that I have all that much hair compared to what I used to, but no, I don't wash it every day. Living abroad I was able to experience different ideas about such things, so usually every 2-3 days, more often in the warmer weather or if I've been exercising. The Rolläden were ubiquitous in the places I lived in or visited in Germany, but it's been a while. Your thought process about moving away from home and living abroad mirrors a great many of my thought processes; in the end I decided to move back to the US because my parents are getting older and I wanted to be able to see them more often - the reality is that I'm not able to go see them anywhere near as often as I would like to, and in many ways I may as well still be living abroad in that regard. I suspect you having found a partner in your adventures abroad changes the situation a bit as I have remained single; you have family anchors in both countries now, which was not a situation that came to fruition for me.

[@airyaydayway279]

The thing is, most people here don't go that far. They can do college from home if they want to and they might move to a part of the same town. Should they move to a large town like Utrecht or Amsterdam they're still not much more than 2 hours out. (Here that is considered far) I live on the edge of town, my father lives in the center. My sister lives in the south, which is.... not much more than 2 hours out. :P