Staying Together: How We Navigate Marital Issues and Prevent Divorce

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Gary is back by popular demand! In today’s episode, Gary and Valeria discuss the complexities of marriage, drawing from their own 12-year experience. First, Gary and Valeria touch on the passing of his mother, then dig deeper into how their 18-year age gap impacts their views on marriage and divorce.
The duo explores why marriages often fail, the long-term and ongoing emotional neglect, changing personal needs, and societal pressures. Valeria highlights the dual burden women face as caregivers and professionals, while Gary emphasizes the importance of effort and communication to resolve issues before considering divorce.
From bickering about cavemen to dissecting foreplay, this episode definitely gets spicy 🌶️
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What We Talked About:
00:00 Intro
00:54 Let’s talk about divorce
02:04 Dealing with loss and grief
06:16 Responsibilities of a son and a husband
07:42 How should children repay their parents?
10:10 Our grief process
14:45 What’s your experience with divorce?
17:01 How do you prevent infidelity?
19:34 Single mothers in a marriage
21:42 Men and women are wired differently
24:38 The traditional model of procreation
27:43 When couples aren’t a good match
28:30 Divorce is never an easy way out
31:35 How soon can talks of divorce happen?
34:37 Don’t be scared of having difficult conversations
37:57 How do you prevent divorce?
42:12 Discovering the things that turn you on
47:20 Men are responsible for an amazing s*x life
51:53 Have you read Kama Sutra?
52:25 How do you define sensuality?
56:11 Secrecy of marriage and in friendships
01:01:35 Financial stress
01:05:34 Dealing with your partner’s long-term trauma
01:06:32 The phase of falling in love again
01:08:22 Would you go through a divorce?
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[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

Do you agree with me or with Gary? Let me know in the comments 👀 If you enjoyed this episode, please like this video and subscribe to my channel for more Not Alone! Your support means the world to me 🫶 Thank you!

[@KarinaRekowski]

You, totally.

[@akilbourne]

Gary 100%

[@mashtires1848]

Gary is generally speaking real truth and I agree with most of what he says. There’s always exceptions to the rules and each marriage is it’s own case such as mental illness which is really hard to live with if the spouse who’s mentally ill doesn’t wana help themselves and is only destroying the whole household/family.

[@akilbourne]

@@mashtires1848 This is perfectly said. 💯👌🏼 1000% agree.

[@emiliaserbaneci]

I agree with both of you and I can relate to each one of you. I think that's great!

[@manetconolly3390]

As a child of divorce, I never believed in marriage, but seeing both my parents fall in love again with new people and get married in the middle of their lives… nothing can beat that. Nothing beats seeing my parents find happiness and love, even if not with each other. They are better people for it. I understand everyone has different experiences and beliefs around this, but I think divorce was the best thing they did for each other and their children. I love my step-parents and feel blessed to have watched love thrive in their lives

[@vaportrails7943]

I don’t believe you for one second. No one in that situation has ever said this. Ever.

[@saramhere]

I’m only about halfway through but to make a blanket statement about kids being better off without divorce is sorely lacking the mention of abuse which is so much more common than people think. It is not healthy for kids to grow up witnessing abuse and I wish that this had come up in this conversation

[@katytallon1]

Or even just unhappiness!

[@LeaDeven]

My humor. Gary outlines in length one should never divorce, try EVERYTHING to safe the marriage. But isn't even willing to have 30 minutes foreplay?! Don't start when it is too late. Even if she asked for tickling with a feather (which she didn't)- she didn't ask for doing a long in depth psychotherapy, although the latter would be very helpful for you, and for her. "You are a nice person", says the 10 year old boy to the much more mature older aunt😮. I guess it becomes obvious why 38 year old Gary was single back than and not taken by any 38 old woman. I am 26 and find him like boys I dated at 16🙈. I cannot imagine how I'd perceive him in another 10 years if he doesn't move a single step forward. No wonder he doesn't like Valeria exchange with friends about him. Another red flag for men who want the full control.

[@Pinglester]

Valeria, the patience, grace and love you show is so admirable. You beautiful soul!

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

🫶🏻🥹 thank you love

[@cher1982]

He thinks he is so much more emotionally intelligent than her and he has it sooooo wrong. There is also an under the surface aggression I get from him. He definitely thinks he is the smartest person in every room. I feel she will continue to evolve and he will get left behind.

[@cher1982]

Her patience is so admirable …..as quite a few times I’ve shouted ‘oh shut the fu** up’ 😅

[@lar7849]

100%

[@vk_reads]

Woooow... The amount of triggering comments by Gary in this conversation... 🤯 Especially in the last part about the "workshop with the feather" you can see how stuck he is in his beliefs and isn't even listening to Valeria, just like she mentioned, he was starting to contradicting himself instead of making an effort to try and better understand women and their sensuality..... Applause to Valeria for her patience 👏👏👏👏 Hope you'll teach Gary many more new things!

[@Newtonwilson-yw4kg]

I've realized that there's always a way to solve problems. Five years ago, my wife and I were almost getting divorced because we had problems in our marriage, but we managed to sort things out. It was a difficult time, but we got through it.

[@oglaskubuot]

I really want to be happy too. I'm in a relationship, and even though we're apart now, I can't think of life without her; my love for her is big. I really miss her, and I'm determined to bring her back. We've tried different ways, like therapy, to fix things.

[@Newtonwilson-yw4kg]

Releasing the grip on someone dear is always tough, but in my scenario, I was fortunate to have the counsel of a spiritual guide who preserved my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.

[@oglaskubuot]

Your guidance is valued. I'll immediately seek her out online. Appreciate it. I'm hopeful that implementing this method will also bring me success; I miss her dearly.

[@Newtonwilson-yw4kg]

I promise you will not regret it.

[@susanmckenna4506]

She’s so much more aware/evolved and his way of dealing with it is being defensive and condescending

[@sherrymuscleyoga]

I feel sorry for Valeria for tolerating this man, he is such a stereotypical grandfather

[@Krustudio]

Valeria you hit the nail on the head. People have too many options and people have become more selfish. They see others on social media having a “perfect” life and people share everything on socials and others start comparing themselves. We are operating based on a transactional basis. It’s no longer let’s get married young and work towards building a life together that we can be proud of it’s what can you do for me and if you don’t do it I’ll find someone else. My grandparents didn’t have a perfect relationship far from it but they stuck it out because they had a bigger picture in mind. We are living in “thank you, next” generation. By the way marriage is never equal and trying to make it so just wastes time, energy and creates bitterness.

[@kristin.sleepyHamster]

I think Gary has interesting controversial opinions but he always says his opinions in a way that they sound like facts. And these ,,facts" are said like he is talking you down instead of with u. I never feel like he is trying to understand your point. More like u have to give in. He has the intention of a teacher but says things like a preacher.

[@EmaTheiss]

It’s a delicate dance to be wise, hardworking, and emotionally regulated without coming of as righteous. I personally appreciate straightforwardness and not beating things around the bush much more than someone that doesn’t stand for anything. I see your perspective but different dynamics aren’t necessary wrong. Additionally, my thoughts are that Valeria’s introspection and her skill of bringing depths and nuance to the conversation is an addition to them both as a whole. On the same token, his devotion to the family unit leaves room for emotional exploration even if it doesn’t appear like it..

[@Soltopmtz]

Yes, it feels like there's no room for others perspectives or ways of living. I wouldn't say this to someone who experiences abuse in any way, it's just not the best for their mental health and the conception of love and self-love for the kids.

[@saraaaaah8542]

Completly agree!

[@luim3347]

Daddy daughter

[@dariakim]

I feel the same way most of the times when I watch them. And then I remind myself that them two know best how the dynamic goes. The problem I see in the comments is with extremists. Calling Gary abusive, and I fell in that trap too. I think he has these Alpha male tendencies, I see them in my current partner and I remeber my ex used to do them as well, trying to be a tad controlling or thinking he can do some things better because he's a man. I always put him back in his place and remind him I am perfectly fine on my own and he should keep that crap to himself. He usually mumbels something in disagreement but there's nothing he can do. So I think the problem is not with these outburst, but if he's willing to correct them when their partner signals to them they're not ok. Gary seems willing to work through stuff, he will be putting on some resistance, I think it's normal and human, but if he corrects his behaviour for Valeria that's what matters

[@saramhere]

Saying divorce is always wrong also implies that we as humans never have a lapse in judgement. People marry people that they shouldn’t have married and we used to live in a world where they were pretty much forced to live in that mistake. You two got married after months of knowing each other which basically means you got lucky because as you said, people that have known each other for years before they get married find things out about the person too late. I say this as someone who is happily married for ten years and I honestly believe that we just got lucky when I look at relationships around me.

[@CarolCurotto]

Men absolutely talk with eachother regarding their marriage relationships and difficulties. They find good advice in the trusted friends.

[@CarolCurotto]

My husband of 24 years passed away unexpectedly just a few weeks ago while he was on a month long work trip several states away. We raised four beautiful children into adulthood together. Life is fragile . Sending my love to both of you and healing energy with the recent losses you’ve suffered.

[@mramey2704]

The way Valeria speaks and explains her points is amazing!!! So respectful but strong...love it!

[@KarinaRekowski]

Gary is guided by his childhood experience and agency of trauma in this matter. And basically, he is afraid that little Gary, the inner child, will once again find himself in a situation of his parents' divorce, where he has to take care of his mom and carry an exorbitant burden. Because it hasn't been worked through (as we see in the situation where Valerie offers her support on the journey of loss, and Harry says what loss? it's okay). That's why he is so adamantly against divorce, doesn't have the power to be flexible in his thinking here and can't accept that there are different reasons to get divorced, like you got married very young, or just your views have changed even just because of mental maturation. In general two adults do not die if they end their union. I think that's important to understand. And to question and criticize the idea of why a breakup is seen as so fatal and destructive. Again, it is fatal to the child. It's not for an adult. Going back to the beginning of my post, that's why it seems fatal to harry, because he sees the marriage from the point of view of his little self.

[@akilbourne]

You sound ridicules.

[@balahatun]

Makes perfect sense

[@HappinessPlannerTV]

It’s so lovely to hear that Valeria is falling in love with Gary again and Gary seems absolutely ecstatic to hear that. 🎉🎉🎉 You both are adorable. I admire how you both have such understanding and acceptance towards each other and let each other grow, evolve, and be themselves. ❤

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

You’re so sweet ❤️ thank you!

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

You’re so sweet ❤ thank you!

[@Krustudio]

Gary, sorry to hear about your mom. ❤

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

🙏🏻❤️

[@ardintseva]

@@ValeriaLipovetsky i'm start crying with you 😢😓💔

[@Soltopmtz]

I enjoyed hearing different perspectives on this podcast. However, as the daughter of two parents who are still together because of marriage but are not a couple, I can say that this is MUCH more harmful than beneficial. You cannot fake or force love. I believe that the core of marriage is being a couple, being a team, and working for the good of both partners + family. However, when this is lost-whether due to abuse, infidelity, or simply because one of them no longer wants to continue and it's not putting the effort -I think they should no longer remain married. On the contrary, I believe this greatly affects children's perspectives on love and what marriage should be. Growing up with parents who don't love each other or disrespect each other but stay together because they think *they should* and that's how's supposed to be, has been much more damaging than if they were separated but maintained respect. At the end of the day, they can be separated parents but still look out for their children's well-being.

[@TheKatalin93]

@@Cocoisagordonsetter I agree with you!

[@AnastasiaHamurari]

Couldn’t agree more. How many times did I wish my parents got divorced but they never did. That really affected my view of relationships and led to me having to figure out by myself what a healthy marriage and relationship looks like as it was never modeled to me

[@larrywatson3479]

Hello Valeria! My condolences to you and Gary on the loss of his Mother. You guys have great communication, love and respect for each other. You both are so fortunate to have each other! Love you so much Valeria! Love, Janice and Larry Watson. Pittsburgh PA. USA

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

Thank you my dears ❤️🙏🏻 sending love!

[@user-qc3mb5vx3i]

❤

[@Mongoliantalk]

It's so beautiful to see you authentically communicate. You have such a good ability to lead crucial conversations. I think Gary is also shifting in his self concept. It's a journey and thank you so much for this potcast. ❤️🙏

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

🙏🏻 thank you love! I’m glad you’re enjoying the podcast!

[@OlgaSunny-pl2sg]

From outside looking in again I am not in this family 24/7 but being an observant person and have been right many times. I think it’s accurate to say Valeria’s emotional needs are not being met to the extent she would like them too. Financially and other aspects are being met but it locks emotional aspect. Not going to provide examples as we are on public forum but they know it best themselves alone. Never late to work on what your partner needs emotionally. You can be a great intellect, wise , smart etc.. but never neglect what your partner’s emotional needs are because neglect one or more times leads to divorce.

[@sarahmarkowitz89]

1000000 percent. Poor woman

[@OlgaSunny-pl2sg]

@@sarahmarkowitz89 when someone is emotionally empty they are poor inside indeed.

[@mc-ob7vp]

yeah, especially with women. its the leading cause for divorce for women. men not so much if not at all

[@Talofa684]

My siblings and I will be caring for our parents when the time comes. Not because we have to but because we want to. We come from a Polynesian background and I feel like it’s normal for elders to live with families until the end. And in the end they are buried in the land where family lives. It’s a way of life for us, never a burden but a honor to have the ability to do so. ❤

[@laizagomez1184]

I really enjoy listening to Valeria and Gary talk. It’s like a dance. It’s raw and real! There is not enough of this on social media. Two human beings their true selves and not trying to be perfect ❤

[@emarcostar]

He likes the "secrecy of marriage" because he doesn't want other people to know about the bad things he does to her wife. He wants the wife to keep silent and not tell anyone so he can keep doing it without anyone telling the wife that it's wrong and he shouldn't accept it

[@stellamaxwell777]

Proud of you for transitioning into more personal, substantive content, Valeria! This was excellent. Keep up the good work 😊

[@sianimay420]

Conversations between you two are my favourite. Love how deep you dive into each others opinions and still respect the differences. Lots of interesting points were raised about how nature and circumstance affect relationships

[@mauranoonan8951]

Interesting conversation! My opinion is closely aligned with Valeria’s. There are so many grey areas in life. ❤ One thing I really believe in is personal responsibility. At the end of the day we are capable of listening to our conscience and making the right decisions. ❤ Adding: Gary said it would be better if his parents had stayed together, but he added if they got along….that’s the reason they divorced. It sounds as though it was an unhappy situation. I don’t think that would have been better.

[@AMontaque-zd9uy]

The comment that I am concerned about is Gary saying he's still in love with Valeria and has stayed in love because she looks the same... 😑 If she gained weight, lost her hair, teeth, etc. would he still feel the same? No one knows.

[@CarolCurotto]

Gary’s take on sensuality , foreplay, sex in general - is wildly gross. I’m so glad my husband was so completely into pleasing me and put it as top priority in our marriage/ sex life … I didn’t know men even thought like Gary anymore. YIKES. Nooooo thank you .

[@marlen7255]

I do think that Gary’s opinions as far as subjects like couples and relationships etc are very much based and coming from his own feelings and personal experiences towards the love he has for you Valeria. Like of course kids would be best if they grew up in loving homes with both parents, but you can have sooo many reasons to exit a marriage, it’s not based on minor inconveniences. Financial struggles, raising kids in todays societies, unhappy work lives, not making enough to go on holidays or date nights, mortgages, school problems, kids born with abnormalities, serious hardships, or even as simple as changing and falling out of love!!! Like the list is endless and people might not always manage to overcome these hardships. Marriage counselling is very much needed but not everyone might be able to afford it and as Gary said both need to WANT TO PUT THE EFFORT IN! Even though sometimes the effort could be placed and the divorce could still be the outcome. And I do feel that Gary’s opinions sometimes are, from his own generation, a little more rigid… some stuff and the way Gary sees things are ingrained of course, from his own upbringing and going back to where we came from and what was stuck within us, is very important to understand, as Valeria said, so we can deal with todays struggles. But a lot of the time the love he has for Valeria is so great that just by talking about it (divorce) you sense he can’t handle it, and it’s more so based on how he feels, what he would do, how he reacts, (even though some of his stuff is right) yet the opinion is quite “strict” and “simplistic” without being open to exploring the vast issues emotionally, mentally and physically that are at play, in marriages today.

[@TheKatalin93]

Is each reason you listed easier to manage alone?

[@ilknurer6537]

A man, like a real man in right mind in USA! Gary you are an endangered kind. Glad to hear you today. Greetings from Istanbul Turkey☀️

[@inesbarros3847]

i loved this episode. i tend to agree with Gary on the divorce topic (probably in part because i grew up watching my parents navigate ups and downs in marriage, but nothing ever passed me more security than them sticking together and working things out). nowadays i'm married with 2 young kids- i can only hope me and my husband are able to work through hard phases with the same resilience my parents did back then.

[@etsukofly]

i mean, i think everyone tries but trying doesn't mean they will succeed. hence enter divorce. people are flawed and not everyone has ability to work it out. anyone who is unhappy consistently at some point would question what the hell they are doing with their life being unhappy trying

[@Katrawrina]

Also just lost my mom recently so listening to Gary talk about this and Valeria’s perspective is great for me and my partner to hear ❤

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

Glad this conversation came at the right time for you. I’m truly sorry for your loss ❤️🙏🏻 sending so much love!

[@strawberry1025]

Opinions do not have to align [ours don't....lol] but values do. Shared values are key I feel. My tuppence worth after near forty years of marriage. Many blessings on you both Gary and Valeria, and my deepest sympathies to you Gary on the loss of your mother. Complex relationships yield complex grieving and I send you a huge hug over the pond from Dublin.

[@rachlovesthebeatles]

My husband is also the son of a Holocaust survivor. Reading “Children of the Holocaust” by Helen Epstein helped me (and helped him) understand his worldview and psychology. It could be a helpful book for you both as well. It’s impossible to completely understand our husbands and the generational trauma they hold, but this book really helped me begin to empathize on a deeper, more profound level.

[@sarahh9903]

Condolences for your family. I wish Gary's mother and your family peace and healing during this challenging time.

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

Thank you so much 🙏🏻❤️

[@hotdot10]

My condolences to you Gary ❤ I really admire your resilience through such a difficult time. I could only dream of coping with such a significant loss this way. Wishing you all the best 🙏

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

❤❤

[@karinafischer1041]

I love seeing how you guys have different opinions on several things, and are able to listen and discuss calmly, and accept that you dont need to agree in everything. ❤

[@nm8548]

Hearing anybody lose their parent in ANY age and them shedding a tear makes me tear up also...we had barely seen your mum Gary put felt so sad for you...happy to see you are processing it wel...

[@tulip_peony]

I’m so glad we still have men like Gary with his opinions regarding marriage and divorce! I agree with him! Both partners have to put in the effort into the marriage period. If one of the partners stop trying, then (behavior is a language) they’re trying to tell you that they don’t want to be married to you. So obviously you can’t control someone else, you are going to leave because you can’t force someone to want to be married to you.

[@pi5162]

I've been with you since the start, Valeria, and I've grown to admire you more over time. You really are brilliant

[@user-ec4hc9wl8u]

Sorry in advance for my english (My native language is portuguese 😅 but… OMG !!!! Those first 20 minutes of this exchange is the most beautifful, sincere, relatable and full of love exchange that I’ve seen on a postcast in a long long long time !! Gary, for the 1st time in 11 years I feel I can think of my both parents passing away in a most peacefull way… thank you so much ❤❤❤

[@sofiaiwaszewicz4251]

Hello Valeria and Gary! Thank you for having this conversation publicly, i enjoyed it very much! I feel like I share both of your opinions, like I agree with the both of you on almost everything. It’s not about taking sides, in a marriage you are one so you shouldn’t try to “win” necessarily. It’s hard though, I know, as a newlywed I’m learning it myself. Traditional marriage and learning about the other sex, having grace compassion and love for your spouse are fundamental. Thank you!

[@360Jelly]

This is a really good episode. I would listen to you and Gary talk all day!

[@iwanolga]

Completely agree.

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

thank you so much! I'm glad you enjoyed it ❤️

[@KK-is4xc]

I agree with the comments below that Gary generalized that married couples mostly divorce because of infidelity or loosing a spark, but in my household my father was constantly hitting my mom, and she would stay with him because her parents and friends say same thing Gary says “As long as you save the family and kids have a father everything else you should just posh through” And because of seeing a constant physical and emotional abuse towards my mom, I literally was wishing him death every day and having him in our lives made my childhood beyond miserable

[@Noneofyourbuisness459]

People are forgetting that our conditioning/gender makes the way we each think different. The reason they work well together as companions is they give each other grace with their own opinions and ideas. There is no “you are wrong” “I am right” it’s listening understanding and being okay with the fact that that your ideas wont always align with

[@sanjeevbains690]

Personality disorders - divorce is good. I agree with Valeria. Gary has unresolved trauma of having to take care of his Mum. If one person neglects the other and refuses to put in effort then that is not a marriage. Marriage like.

[@mahaajami6933]

I’m impressed how you, Velaria, are very calm and composed❤

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

Thank you ❤

[@simonaplucarova1295]

I love how you keep your ground Valeria ....❤❤❤

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

❤❤

[@Nourabdallah-bw2uq]

What a lovely couple with absolutely calm intelligent conversations!

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

🙏🏻 Thank you!!

[@an.7039]

i loved listening to Valeria, you put the essence of marriage dynamic in simple 3-4 sentences. i felt seen

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

Glad this one resonated with you ❤

[@justezajankauskaite3440]

Gary very sorry to hear about your mom. Thank you both for this great and vulnerable conversation.

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

🙏🏻❤️ Thanks for listening

[@Cristinashubin]

I love you guys. Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable ❤❤❤

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

Thank you for watching! Sending love❤️

[@olga.lialeka.esl.]

Valeria you are so wise honestly! A beautiful woman inside and out, thank you for this amazing conversation with Gary. A lot of things to think about ❤

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

Thank you so much 🙏🏻❤️

[@evelynnarollo]

Valeria I appreciate you more hearing this Podcast. It resonates how you manage emotions. Sigh. Virgo Heart is tired 🫠

[@maayanmiti]

Such an important conversation, in the middle of the video I called my husband to watch with me, my husband is very similar to Gary in his beliefs. I love that you both don’t hide your Jewishness despite the climate today 🇮🇱

[@simplycm]

I feel the same, my mom died 2 months ago. I live in Denmark and during breaktime from my work, that's usually the time I talked with her, she lived in Philippines. And I am still adjusting, many times I reach my phone to call mom and then I remember she moved on. 😢

[@user-ph8so5ds4t]

Loved the episode! I love how open you and Garry are ❤️

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

Thank you! Glad you enjoyed it ❤

[@heYMIO]

The point to look backward is to learn, reflect and grow. Val is so wise! ❤

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

❤️🙏🏻 thank you

[@aglaiaorganic]

The difference between animals and humans is that humans have the ability to go beyond their nature by free will. Free will is the choice what to do with it. To choose unity and love or to choose for the self alone ( our ego)

[@aplusjba]

I have watched your channel before and I think that you are very intelligent, wise and fun. I didn’t know much about Gary, but after watching this, I understand the attraction. His opinion has value and I think that couples give up too easily on marriage. We must sometimes work hard on relationships, particularly when children are involved. There are exceptions where it is unhealthy to stay in a relationship. I come from a similar background as the two of you and so I can understand both of your thoughts and views. The fact that you can so respectfully and openly communicate is a key component to a successful marriage. We need not always agree. It’s the caring of the others opinion that is key and you two have that. ❤

[@arevikzohrabyan3104]

Enjoyed every moment of this conversation❤

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

Glad to hear it! Thanks for watching love ❤️

[@stephaniem5188]

Valeria the more I watch this the more I sense a disconnect between the two of you. I see the pain in your eyes. I sense he is defensive and shuts you down at times when you bring up fair points and it’s honestly triggering and hard to watch so I don’t think I will watch the rest. But I am a huge fan of you ily ❤

[@karenk683]

Ur just jealous

[@Nada14may1993]

AGREE!!! I felt so uncomfortable watching this!

[@aleksandrasazdova]

I just love, love, love your podcasts with Gary! Feels so casual and natural how the conversation flows.. Love to see more of this, please! ❤

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

Thanks lovely ❤️ More to come!

[@ccdomazet]

I love you two. I cried, laughed and learnt alot from this. Still love how humble you guys are. Best people!!

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

aw thank you so much ❤️🥹 sending love!

[@stephaniem5188]

Red cardigan is amazing on you ❤

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

Thank you ❤

[@AlexandraG-hd5yq]

Thank you. Its been good listening to you guys

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

Glad you enjoyed this one! Thanks for listening in ❤️

[@hpsvetka]

Feathers and tickling matter, Gary😂😂😂 love you guys!❤

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

sending love!!

[@eluby]

This was really cool, Valeria! Such light-hearted conversation, very enjoyable 😊

[@annlatham]

1:08 Thank you for voicing this ❤️

[@samantarizzi248]

I agree with Gary a lot. Also, my fiance is the same way when we talk about relationships and divorce... he thinks a divorce is never even an option, unless of course it's because someone did something really horrible and deceiving to another person, but he in general doesn't like the concept of divorce mainly because of the same thing Gary said, people give up too easily whenever a small problem occurs... but yeah, I'm somewhere in the middle with this, sometimes people just fall out of love I guess. Each relationship and marriage is diffent anyways, so we can't always generalize like this. I do respect my partner and I'm always going to be willing to try to resolve problems instead of running away from them. :) For me marriage is sacred too and my soon to be husband made me realize that to the full extent. Loved the conversation!

[@foodworld88]

For me is like being with each other like brother and sister. Big fight today like nothing had happened tomorrow. And we nerver talked or argued about money.

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

Conflict resolution looks different for everyone, as long as you’re doing what works best for you and your partner ❤️

[@gabrieladagenais6665]

I love these new kind of videos Valeria!! Love your authenticity, thank you so much ❤ - Your friendly Canadian :)

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

I’m glad you enjoy them! Thanks for watching ❤❤

[@seanbean002]

I don't agree with gary- but coming from a complicated family, on multiple sides of ww2, i can respect how much historical and socio/cultural aspects come into his mindset. It is obvious he has an 'old world' mindset with a 'new world' brain. May not work for all, but so long as it works for you... my mom told me, when i had issues with her relationship with my dad, it is my relationship, my marriage. If i am happy and he is happy, why does your ideal matter for us?

[@justynamaks]

I just love your conversation, i appreciate the most videos when you two talk about stuff, please do it more frequently 😊

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

More to come ❤

[@Sofia_.._]

"I'm being sensual with my motorcycle?!?" 😂🤣🤣 oh Gary Gary

[@Sofia_.._]

Gary, listen to your wife and the feather tickling! Happy wife happy life 🎉

[@kimgirl702]

Society has evolved faster than human physiology - we evolve very slowly. That's why there's conflict between our human nature and societal expectations, and we need to be aware that our human brains are not caught up to where society, culture, and technology are.

[@celestedasilva4109]

Fav episode so far !

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

❤ glad to hear it! Thanks for watching

[@juicyjessica2298]

Valeria is level headed and Gary is stern in stating opinions. I think this will be good for kids to see both ways and make their own decisions. I feel when parents think tooo similarly, children come out extremely biased.

[@jessicam8346]

One thing that I'm seeing in that "single mother in marriage" sphere, is that women are being very influenced as well as educated about what children need around diet, screen exposure, outdoor time, etc. and the fathers may not have the interest or bandwidth to research all of that, and so it creates a divide between a father who is still stuck in how he is raised and a mother who is hyper-focused on meeting expectations that they've acquired through parent influencers, psychologists, etc.

[@balahatun]

Yeah such an important observation

[@nadyanadya2883]

So sorry to hear about your mom, Gary. Keep strong!

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

🙏🏻❤️

[@michelwatt349]

The culture of taking care of your parents is real. I’m 31 and grew up speaking Polish and being taught family is everything which it is, but I will do anything and everything for my parents when they get older, because they did everything for me in terms of taking care of me when I couldn’t take care of myself so I owe it to them to take care of them when they can’t ❤

[@Andellyelly]

I always appreciate this kind of conversation… I learned a lot. Thank you ❤❤

[@kathrynmoll86]

That you two can talk is amazing. I could never get my husband to open up like Gary is with you. He’s right, though! Especially with the Ibiza workshop matter. However, I understand you, Valeria! But Gary’s spot on about men. Love you and your family vibe!

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

So grateful that we can communicate our thoughts honestly and glad we could share this conversation with our community ❤️ Thank you for watching, sending so much love!

[@margaritapetrova3427]

Yep, I’m pretty much a single mother in a relationship and I feel that I’m the one who puts the real effort to push this relationship forward without much success.

[@xhescuka]

Gary is the best husband. His thoughts are just like a man's thought should be when it comes to his woman and family

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

He is ❤️ Even though we don’t always have the same opinion, I’m glad we’re able to have honest conversations about these topics!

[@dagmarasygut-kazmierczak5320]

Love that conversations❤ both of you are marvellous

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

Thank you! Glad you enjoyed this one ❤

[@aidasdiary]

I liked Gary until this episode 😅 he’s really not trying to get it and has a very simplistic view… if ppl would get along, they wouldn’t need to divorce, if both putting the work was an option, they wouldn’t get a divorce… it’s mostly because one partner (very often the man) doesn’t want to put the work, thinks his wife is nagging and complaining whenever she brings up things that she misses or ideas to improve their relationship 😅

[@jowiens32]

I don’t follow tennis and never heard of this wonderful human, but really enjoyed the conversation. Thank you!

[@aleksandradjurdjev]

I want more of you and Gary! 😊❤

[@klara664]

Your convos always remind me of my discussions with my hubby 😊sometimes we agree, sometimes agree to disagree 😅but we always love to talk to each other on various topics, ranging from business, social issues, politics to random topics like documentary about trees xD being best friends with your spouse is super important in a marriage😊 (we are together since we were 17 years old, now we are half of our lives together, lived in several countries, currently back to our home country Poland but already planning to live in Dubai or Miami within the next few years)❤

[@MarianaManifestations]

Much Love to All!💖✨

[@violettamoura]

Valeria you’re so right on! Everything that you said you hit the nail on the head. You challenge both sides very well and fairly!

[@sonnylovesfreddy340]

Gary is right. Men don't talk to their friends about their marriages. You know who they do talk to? Other women. And a lot of the time, those intimate conversations lead to infidelity.

[@janeturkova4228]

Interesting talk! It also would be also interesting to hear how you overcame your crises in life (they say it's a 3-year crisis, a 10-year crisis, etc.)

[@taiadzyan8939]

Your husband is so wise and understands the proper role of a parent. He also really understands marriage and commitment. I hear the wisdom in what Gary is sharing and I sense Valeria secretly contemplating divorce. “The only way out is leaving “ is emotionally immature and laziness. It requires a lot of maturity and wisdom to have a successful marriage especially in a culture that strongly promotes divorce. The family until is the bedrock of a healthy society.

[@brendab1614]

Great video!!

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

Thank you! Glad you enjoyed it ❤

[@LizaMinenkova]

Good podcast, nice conversation! Hope you guys have more episodes together

[@ValeriaLipovetsky]

Thank you! We definitely will ❤️ Stay tuned!!