Step 4 of Alcoholics Anonymous: Resentment Inventory

[@榎木康朗]

I appreciate your great service. When I did the forth and fifth step work with my sponsor, we used page 552 of the Big Book, and the step work contributed significantly to my recovery. About 13 years ago, a spiritual awakening saved my life. I have been sober since then and extremely grateful for this program. Thanks for letting me share.

[@jameslovesbutter2314]

Yeah page 552 is BS.

[@kimballer]

Bro, I needed that passage today on pg 552 of the big book. Pray for those people you resent. Talk about humility! 🙏 ❤

[@creativecards4u]

Food addiction had me at 361lbs. Mentally, resentments had me at 1000 pounds. TyG 🙏🏼 for FA and AA who started 12 steps. 🤗 Well done video my friend.

[@tamaraclarke7993]

Wow the best outline and description of step 4 resentment I've heard/seen. Thank you!

[@NoOne-go6tc]

I am doing my step 4 as I am watching this video. I needed these examples! I had been stuck on this step for a month. Thanks

[@thesoberempire]

Stay tuned. I'm going to upload another set of videos with a bunch of examples from my step 4.

[@missladybug6712]

I'm a Drug and Alcohol Counselor intern and I'm so impressed with your video and how you explained Step 4! Magnificent job!!!

[@mindsetrecovery2340]

I have been in AA and worked steps. I have been a chronic relapser for 3 decades. Recently I transitioned to NA. I found more acceptance through this program but I loved AA, I just wasn't willing to do what I had to do to get it. Maybe now the gift of desperation is finally strong enough to actually work the Program. Anyway I like the step working guide in NA because it asks me a lot of questions that really made me take a hard look at my self centeredness. I found your videos when I was looking for help working the 4th step and it's helped me a great deal. Thank you for your help!

[@euler2589]

anger is a secondhand emotion, it comes from hurt. i buy those spiral ring note book. i open it up, so i have two blank sheets looking back at me. I draw a line down the middle of each page. that gives me 4 columns. paper is cheap, drinking is not.

[@jpage99999]

Wow thank you so much! You have explained this in the best way I have ever heard. Using resentments to protect me as a defense weapon, I am blown away how correct you are. It’s all about our ego. I want to forgive and let go. When you got to the inventory about my part in the resentments, my body went bizerk. I felt rage and seething anger and wrath coursing through my whole body. I was screaming in agony on the inside,” what do you mean my part in all of this? What did I do wrong? It’s not my fault!!!!”, and I felt a huge anxiety attack coming on, but I’ve sat with emotions here now and am praying to God to help me surrender this egotism and pride. Thank you brother in Christ.

[@jayjellobean]

Thank you so much for this. I'm about to boldly go where no version of myself has gone before. Great resource.

[@thesoberempire]

You won't regret it

[@userbelieveinGod]

Thank you. I have been struggling with starting step 4, perhaps because my resentments are stronger than me, and I relish the anger I have towards all my wrong doers, but your video has reached me. I will begin my journey towards forgiveness. I have to in order for me to regain some sense of sanity in my life. Again, thank you for reaching out to not only myself who has struggled with starting step 4, but to the many who needed some extra guidance with this step. You take care.

[@dsaints8668]

This is a spectacular look at the first part of the inventory. I truly enjoyed it. It was insightful and thorough. Keep doing what you're doing may God bless you amen

[@halleytoft5137]

Been struggling through step 4 for months and months. This video was the thing that finally allowed it all to flow onto paper. Thank you, truly. You've helped me more than you know. Throw in some latin roots and I'm on board. 😅 But seriously, much gratitude.

[@Notkeith-ii8nr]

This was awesome! So glad I watched it. I'm currently doing a new 4th step and I always have a hard time with this part of the step. Thanks so much!

[@jessicakupietz2341]

I found my fourth step quite difficult at first then I applied my belief in Jesus Christ and realized I was not alone and I didn't have to carry any resentments. I still believe I might have a few of them though as I dig deeper in my recovery but I know now to trust in God with any all my problems and I trust and believe he will help me and lighten that load

[@LorwelDonquist]

I’m starting step 4 with my sponsor now and u made me realize so much in that first line about something making feel over and over Sobriety date 4:13:21 New subscriber

[@lumpymeyer2990]

Excellent job my friend. Straight to the point and very honest! This is going to help a lot of people including myself. Thank you for the video.

[@sammyp7790]

Thank you for this video. You are helping people including me

[@ashishrai4023]

After almost 17 years i m rethinking to do my step 4 .. thnks bro 👍👍

[@jimmystrange1]

i liked "forgiveness is or may be a feeling we give ourselves"Saying it & really meaning that takes practice

[@wulf67]

Accept ownership for our actions and behaviors but tell ourselves and each other that we’re “powerless over alcohol.” Got it. My biggest resentment is AA itself.

[@TruthWillTriumph]

Lots n lots n lots of love n respect admiration to you from india this A.A meeting saved my life it was meeting i was looking for all my life 2 years sober n completely clean life is beautiful mind is completely cleansed of evil thoughts video explained it amazing

[@moeb8620]

Great job my man!!!!! Beautifully done!!!!!!!! You helped this alcoholic !!

[@alexandrazermeno6955]

THIS VIDEO WAS SO HELPFUL!!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!

[@gottagoguylo]

I’ve got 19 years. So stuck in self. My son is suffering and I’ve never felt so helpless so I’m venturing on some inventory to reconnect with God. I pray for my son my healing and especially the healing of others too!

[@thesoberempire]

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[@caseyt4140]

It WORKS if you WORK IT! As an Al-Anon I spent over 2 years going to meetings, thinking that I didn't 'need' a Sponsor. That fellowship, meetings, and my stubborn self-will could bring me serenity. It could not. I too needed to work the 12 steps out of the Big Book (BB) of AA. I had to swallow large chunks of truth about myself in order to finally start to be free. Not easy. Not fun. However, what was the alternative? I could continue to obsessively control and "Help" and when that fails, as it always does, play the victim and then the martyr? Over the course of 20 years, I've been through countless therapists, self-help programs & bought a library of books and none of them gave me relief. Finally, with the help of a BB Al-Anon Sponsor, I was hard-core honest about what 'my part' was in my story. The writing in steps 3 & 4 lifted the scales from my eyes. Thank you David for your amazing service work!

[@adriangough8473]

Fantastic video. I’m just about to start writing my resentment list and you’ve made it make complete sense.

[@Steven-qd8rdb]

You have helped me grow in AA❤❤😊

[@Jewgirl2911]

“Expectations is premeditative resentments“ 🤯🤯🤯🤯

[@alicesadler5441]

Love aa program and fellowship and 12 steps

[@robertmoya7043]

I'm currently working on step four and and as simple as it may be these instructions really helped me thank you because I'm doomed if I don't get this right

[@smallcityhomesteaders1600]

Thanks and God bless yall. Keep comimg back eh....

[@krogerman30]

Great video! Thank you for making this easier for me to understand this process

[@thesoberempire]

Glad it was helpful!

[@olenga4340]

This helped me so much and I need to dig bit deeper. Thank you for your service ❤

[@RahulSharma-bu8lw]

Finaly got someone who can help me . 🙏🙏🙏

[@sheridan4038]

Your channel is fantastic! I've been hanging around AA for close to 3yrs, but not putting in nearly enough effort (to my own detriment) An older member suggested to me that I should get my s**t together and get stuck into step 4.. So I feel blessed to have stumbled across your channel this morning. So thank you from Australia, and keep smashing them out mate, it's truly great stuff! PeAce🙏😁👍

[@TheM7373]

This was so helpful ❤ thank you 🙏

[@good1ryan-124]

Interesting view and well put. I appreciate the way you identify and breakdown the "affects my" of self. I think most people are not aware of the connection of how the injured self manifests in our minds and actions. This seems to be the fuel of resentment they try to get us to see and offer to replace with a "key". Invariably "self, manifested in various ways," drives my need to take back the control or power through my reaction to resentment. The powerless want power, right? Consequently "selfish" ideas and/ or the "fear" materialize as "self-seeking" -- "dishonest" behavior (where we, "Referring to our list again." ) is my part and identifying those seems to be "where we were to blame " and the " faults"..."we place before us in black and white". I do that with Selfish, Fear, Self-Seeking, Dishonest, in the same fashion you break down the "affect my". Looking at it that way shows me how self manifests into the troubles I have and leads to the drink I will take. I've really grown to appreciate "the key to the future" that is offered with the idea of, "mastering" our resentments. That process of meditation, prayer and action, sandwiched between "...our injuries" and "...our own mistakes", has been the true relief from resentment and one of the more tangible spiritual tools of AA ...along with "...outgrow our fears" and "right ideal" for relationships. Truly transformative.

[@louisirizarry8344]

wonderful video. Thank you

[@jimrose71]

"TO UNDERSTAND EVERYTHING IS TO FORGIVE EVERYTHING"

[@luckyeasyfree1]

Dude with the background music I have resentments over that I can't hear anything

[@sethie_shots]

Same

[@sixstringblitz100985]

thank you for this video!!

[@gary_roc]

thanks for the video. one day at a time.

[@WillSmith-ru3mz]

Thank You! I needed to hear this while working on Step 4! The number one offender will not hold me down! Time to Work, Work, Work!

[@s.morrow1846]

this is excellent but the music was a little distracting. thanks for the transcript. looking forward to more videos

[@dwaynecorporal7339]

Thanks brother, you make good, helpful videos. I appreciate you. Just some feedback. I'm colour blind and I can't see the last two columns. I was able to follow still, but just letting you know for future videos. I hope this helps. Thank you.

[@mikelaferguson3310]

Keep making videos! This was so well said and immensely helpful. A lifesaver.

[@thesoberempire]

Glad it was helpful!

[@jbmoney357]

It's not just resentment inventory. It's also a fear inventory.

[@mickeyrube6623]

What if you seemingly got over your resentment of a person, long before starting the 12 steps? Should I include them in my inventory? Am only asking because I am having a hard time truly finding people I've ever resented, let alone still resent. Like what if I got over it that day? Like really, the 12 steps are really presumptious, like who said I was angry at someone?

[@debgib007]

I have a resentment towards this music.

[@Deba7777]

Thank you so much for this, this is very helpful! God bless you

[@euler2589]

forgiveness doesn't mean the person is necessarily back in your life. to the contrary, they are now out of it. i was going through life with school teachers invisibly chained to me. forgiveness is like a pair of bolt cutters. it cuts the chains of people I am dragging around with me. I could not see the people, but i was dragging them.

[@yayab.5284]

Great Video thank you 😊

[@celinemalinche6477]

Thank you for the clarification, I could not see how to do this exercise. Thank You!

[@wedorecover215]

Yes i am going through this now so i gotta do abotger step 4

[@Vashti0825]

It's an excuse to be and remain a victim. Once you figure this part out, life looks totally different. Then, get outside counseling. Don't rely entirely on AA to get to the root of your problems. I do not trust people in AA enough to keep my vulnerabilities private.

[@stephaniemcgrath5428]

This helped me on my step 4 in another program. Thank you.

[@alicesadler5441]

Love this

[@CR-bu9il]

Thanks cutie. Very helpful🙌🏽

[@justinmartin6796]

GREAT VIDEO!

[@alicesadler5441]

Proud to be drug free and alcohol free

[@meghansouth581]

Resentment is the number one offender, that always reminds me that if I don't apply the tools I will be at risk of a relapse.

[@SuperSahajayoga]

i cannot think of a better solution to go over resentments after all we are ppl who are damaged and need to repeat process until it leaves us and can truly forgive and forgive and move on, it is great that the fellowship has grown and the 12 steps are used accordingly. no one has to stick to th sponsorship relationship and must assert themselves to the work need doing set by sponsor, and identy for themselves if their sponsor is the right person or not AA works beautifully and has evolved, you can choose whether you do steps or not recovery is unique for ach person, i have not had a drink for 23 years and never did the steps so steps for me are not a necessity, just attending a meeting is fine for me. this video is such bullship if youre affected by aa and dont wish to be a part of it GO, making videos wont get you well

[@anitapike6936]

Thank you so much for this!

[@thesoberempire]

You're welcome!

[@mdhaneef9274]

So beautiful,but still I can't forgive and let go ,what to do

[@parenting1017]

What's after fear inventory

[@adriangough8473]

I’m really struggling with my step four

[@remains_BS]

You chose a great guitar track for this video. Would you mind sharing it here? Thanks for the video man, this is really good work!

[@oldskaterfromchula]

That's the part what taught me ...I am the problem or played a part in it.

[@thesoberempire]

Yes. We arent always necessary the problem, rather the way we react to it.

[@Modernstoic1]

This is really well done

[@oldskaterfromchula]

Please don't do what I did.... I was jealous over the institution of marriage. Also I was jealous of college another institution. People out there follow it word by word. Good video addict inside. This is awesome

[@Cracktune]

on 4 today... this is going to take a while, isnt it...

[@magichobbiest3425]

I practice the art if letting go and acceptance. But they told me to write down my resentments. I don't have resentments from the past any more. I keep getting resentments every now and then though. What do you think I should do. Should I still use 12 steps though Buddhism has been working for me?

[@thesoberempire]

Who told you to write resentments? AA people? If you're an alcoholic the way AA describes it, then I suggest you do all of the 12 steps, not just resentments.

[@patrick9004]

I'm still mad about the day after my fiance left me I went to jail and the mental hospital for 30yrs

[@Hollis719]

Fantastic message.... But the music (I can't say background) is drowning you out

[@janbrett674]

Amazing 🙏🏼 beautiful

[@danieloconnell3489]

A very tough step

[@oldskaterfromchula]

This is really good Man. ♥️💡

[@thesoberempire]

I'm glad you enjoyed it

[@oldskaterfromchula]

@@thesoberempire you know there are a few sayings and AA I'm a true member that I have beat myself up with over the years. I see that now. I'm not necessarily the problem it's the way I reacted to it " that fits better. Because I'm not always wrong man you know that. We are not always wrong

[@oldskaterfromchula]

Another one is I always thought sobriety is going to be this huge burning bush. I'm not there yet but I got a feeling it's not going to be the bright light thing. I'd like to see you do a video on coming to believe. Anyway keep up the good work ♥️

[@MikieBLEST]

Thank you brother

[@thesoberempire]

You're welcome.

[@brianabner6373]

Thanks bro that real helpful

[@travisnunya7960]

Could you put yourself down as a resentment based on how you feel you act in certain situation

[@thesoberempire]

I would put that down in the fear inventory part of step 4.

[@aamarvr9803]

There are 8 columns for step 4 resentments there is no worksheet in the Big Book, whoever made this did not read the Big Book. Step 4 instructions are clearly laid out.

[@XenaXena-s5f]

It's like drinking poison and wanting the other person to siffer

[@TheBardicDruid]

Resentment is only a part of the 4th step, you shouldn't leave out the rest of it or people will get the wrong idea.

[@gerbear1004]

I don't see part 12?

[@thesoberempire]

Its not done yet. coming soon.

[@Creativeabandon]

Are you still sober? 💕

[@sethie_shots]

WHY so much music?

[@patrick9004]

🤬

[@cajunkarl4828]

I feel like I am not worth shit