Stepdad Demanded Rent from Me for the House that Actually Belonged to Me. I Evicted Him and...

[@Semi-Addict-Gamer]

Choosing a husband over your kid is crazy. And that’s exactly what she did. An empty house is better than occupied prison.

[@Chociewitka]

the "kid" is an adult, and Joe is her current husband, her duty towards her husband and minor children trumps her duty towards her adult child who even owns a house = is already provided for

[@Semi-Addict-Gamer]

@ He is still her blood, blood always comes first. She showed who she valued more, and I’m glad that they are struggling without her adult kid.

[@Chociewitka]

@@Semi-Addict-Gamer ? And her minor children are not? And they are still minor. A parent as no legal obligation to provide for an adult independant child. But a wife has current legal obligation both towards her legal husband and towards her still minor children.

[@Semi-Addict-Gamer]

@@Chociewitka she chose her side, and I’m glad she is paying for it by having to work again.

[@Chociewitka]

@@Semi-Addict-Gamer she should, it is her responsibility to take care for her minor children and to support her husband. Which is what the law obliges her to do.

[@umm9008]

The entitlement displayed in expecting the homeowner to pay rent is nothing short of absurd. Moreover, the mental and verbal abuse that OP's stepfather subjected him to is completely unacceptable and deeply damaging. It's truly commendable that OP has finally found the courage to stand up against this toxic behavior and put a stop to the nonsense once and for all.

[@donnamason938]

Joe's pride was more important than his family.

[@RyujinVontzar]

The mother let you down, your family betrayed you. Your mother condoned abuse for her own happiness.

[@DogSerious]

Lol, wanting you to pay rent in your own house? I would have said "No, you're paying me rent" And tell them, "he wants me to pay rent in my own house?" OP, did nothing wrong!

[@orchid069]

I dont feel sorry for thos mom at all. She sat by for years and did and said nothing while her husband treated her son differently. She should have told her husband that this wasnt her house. It was her sons.

[@aking3624]

Mothers silence after eviction is exactly what she did everytime her husband abused her son....

[@D-stories68]

Stay strong, you did what was right 💪

[@suehirsch6545]

OP, your step- Dad pushed you into a corner where you had no other choice but to evict him for your self- protection. If you had let him stay and EVEN IF you had charged him rent (which he SAID that he wasn't willing to pay) he would have continued to be horrible to you. He had never really loved or respected you and wasn't CAPABLE of being a respectful renter. Your Mom realized that you were an adult and that you were capable of looking after yourself. She chose her own happiness and went to go live with your step- Dad. I blame her for not protecting you from his disrespectful behavior while he was living under your roof. She wasn't being a good mom to you at that time. If she's struggling now, it's because she chose a LOSER (LITERALLY) over her son who was a caring person and going places. Sadly, your observation that the real victims of her bad choices and your SF's bad behavior were their kids. She chose that for them too. She could have handled things much better but her eye was on the prize of the guy that made her happy rather than on the big picture. Disrespectful people tend to end up with a big bowl of karma in one way or another, so your SF's financial struggles could be seen as just that. He was incapable of basic respect for you and that's indicative of his capacity for respect in the world. Employers don't intentionally hire people who are incapable of being respectful in the work place and they CERTAINLY don't go far up the ladder.

[@warnesia5276]

I fault mom 100%. Instead of getting help for herself and her child, she decided to get a man. And let's be honest, she could have found a Jerk but she actually found a semi decent person to marry. Of course Joe would treat Op like a step child. There is so many stories out there about step parents coming in and trying to erase the bio parent. This isn't the case. Op talks about respect but Joe did that. Op is their fathers child. In not one sentence did Op mention Joe ever trying anything to erase the dad. I respect him for that. Op said he initially treated Op kindly. I can see how challenging it would be for Joe to try to support a grieving widow and step child. Then to add additional children would defiantly be complicated. From Op's words, it sound like he was a decent step parent and understood his role to be a step parent. There is nothing vile about that. The whole rent issue is another example in which Mom is at fault and allows Joe to be a scapegoat. There is nothing wrong about asking for rent since it sounds like Op kept Joe at a distance. Joe wouldn't know how Op money management/ budgeting skill level are. Mom kept Joe in the dark about a lot and Op is just like mom. Asking for a reasonable college student size rent and bill was not a big ask. Op asking for Joe to pay rent isn't a big ask as well as Op would then be getting income. I can't say I wouldn't have reacted like Joe if I was blindsided and then dealt a blow of having to pay rent now. I'm not sure what bills and living expenses Joe took over in the house and from the sound of it, neither does Op. If Joe thought it was his wife's house and was investing heavily into it and contributing to Op's upkeep, I doubt Joe would have additional funds to pay rent. The life insurance from the dad would only last so far and combined with Op's mom only working part time for years, Joe was carrying them. I have to wonder if that was another reason for the marriage and what mom meant about needing Joe. I think the mom was wrong for 1. not getting Op and herself professional help 2.not informing Joe of the situation 3. not settling this when it was first brought up. I think the mom is the main character of chaos.

[@Omnipotent_Diva]

Joe's pride was his problem after learning it was the son's house he should had just paid rent.

[@samhouston1288]

Joe made his choices. He chose to be distant, disrespectful, and hateful. He choose to hold onto his ego instead of being a man and apologizing. He chose to leave as a result. Your mother chose to stand by him and make her life and the lives of her sons worse as a result. All you did is choose to not stand for disrespect in your own home.

[@jaykay1223]

You should tell them to pay rent all the years back since he moved in!