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[@lubnan08]

Being a woman is hard. Our bodies go through a lot. Sometimes other women can be more harsh than men. I pray for Selena's health. I gained a lot of weight after my 2 back surgeries. I am finally trying to lose weight again for the 100th time. It's a struggle. I wish all us humans peace and health.

[@schneeroseful]

women are always harsher than men... you go girl. be Kind to your body, eat nutritious food, the rest will follow

[@i3blu3mOoN]

We are harsher than men, and it is because we measure ourselves under those same standards (those that only people who's work is their body or are genetically blessed unicorns have), find ourselves lacking and need to judge someone else that looks "less" to give ourselves value. It's effed up. Even when you realize your are doing this is hard to stop cause it's engrained by society. Effed up

[@Nomoretime33]

Absolutely men are waaay more relaxed about how a woman looks, the beauty standards is based on marketing created to target women who are the ones who consume the most.

[@wolfone8538]

Thank you! True that

[@lunar686]

I think one of the main problems is trying to meet all the standards simultaneously and permanently. Even if we are blessed with, or work hard to attain one standard, we immediately start thinking about the hundred other ones we missed out on. I think the constant advertising we’re exposed to plays a bad role here...but hopefully if we work at finding out what beauty means to us ( us, not the algorithm lol) and work to incorporate those aspects into ourselves, with the understanding it is transient (e.g. the stomach expands with food in it, so if what you truly want is a flat tummy, then even with hard work it still won’t be there for your whole hormonal cycle, let alone the full day) and realistically achievable (there are limitations to everything), then I think these standards could be fun and fulfilling, rather than toxic. But it should always be unique to us, 💯 agree that ranking ourselves and others is a cruel waste of time that is unfortunately almost encouraged by our society

[@ambergulley403]

In Spain, no one cares about this sort of thing. Girls wear whatever they want and everyone looks gorgeous and happy. It's the way it should be. Having moved here from Australia, I'm still really self conscious of my stomach being exposed or my legs showing. But I'm slowly gaining the confidence of the Spanish girls. It feels good just to be happy. I wish that for the rest of the world.

[@annapuczyowska8772]

So true, helps me a lot

[@stuffedpotato9826]

Must be so freeing 🥺

[@mara-ue6ry]

Thank you so much for your nice opinion of our country! Although beauty standards still affect us all, its true that we have waay more freedom. I don't know why it is like this, probably because of so many hours of sun and the need to go fresh with little clothing, that people get used to see all kinds of bodies! Welcome to Spain by the way! ❤️ ❤️

[@LucyStokesOceansofNotions]

I was on holidays in France and the women by the pool were the same. They were gorgeous, but their bodies weren’t “perfect”. I was (stupidly) stressing out about my mummy tummy, I looked at them and just relaxed and ENJOYED myself.

[@ambergulley403]

@@mara-ue6ry Thank you! 😊 I love it here.

[@marellaa3694]

Lupus is such a horrible disease, I know someone who was so fit and the steroids just made them gain so much and the lupus makes it very hard to lose weight and it devastates them. Be gentle to people please 😔

[@ambercotrone]

Yeah I have Lyme disease, and so much weight fluctuations from it. People tell me all the time that I must be sick because I gained weight and must be eating burgers daily when I actually eat as clean as a Victoria’s Secret model.

[@j9beauty]

I’m fighting lupus and what you said is so true! 😢

[@clairec6618]

A family member of mine also suffers from Lupus and the self hatred they developed for their body is heartbreaking. I love her to the moon and back and tell her she is wonderful and beautiful and I will never see her as any less than perfect.

[@Ambermarie13]

people are so cruel for no reason, especially online. it’s extremely disheartening

[@comment3711]

Indeed. I have autoimmune disease (Crohn’s and Hashimoto’s). Medication side effects, bloating, weight loss and weight gain can wreak havoc on your looks.

[@ajd8558]

Cannot imagine shouting anything at a passerby, like 'you're fat'- or whatever. Like, what's wrong with you if you think that's ok or necessary? What are you accomplishing by doing that? Does it make these people feel good about themselves? It's so far out of my ability to grasp that kind of behaviour.

[@Rain_Reign]

You know what’s “goals”? Being alive! Lupus is no joke. Selena is a fucking warrior queen and I won’t hear different 👑♥️

[@prachi9410]

She is a queen 👸👑❤

[@evamoustaka4048]

Agree, Lupus, chemo, steroid, transplant recipient here, speaking from self experience. HEalth is your wealth. Bless you

[@Sunflower-uh3em]

She iiis 😍👑💯💯

[@iknowexactlywhoyouare8701]

Dude all girls are queens not just her and she’ll agree with me .

[@firefeethok_tui2355]

Well said.

[@aishakassiasalihu9072]

I'm from Africa... Nigeria precisely. Women who are curvier/chubby are praised and desired whereas slim women are rarely desired. It's weird in this part of the world because even selena's curvier self is regarded as "not thick enough". P.S. I believe every woman is beautiful regardless of their body type/shape.

[@palesasefurutshe6832]

Am South African and its what we're experiencing here

[@NotJoegoldberg]

is it because of poverty and access to food?

[@fmrt7504]

@@NotJoegoldberg I don’t want to say those are the only reason, may play some factors. My family is Nigerian and from the Calabar region and back in the day before a woman got married, some of them went through “fattening houses” which basically made you bigger in order to look more fertile, prosperous, and beautiful to the husband. I’m not sure how much poverty and access to food plays a role in modern day for this standard or even back in the day. I think it’s just a different form of beauty? It does show wealth in a way, but I’d have to ask my family why we see curvier women as more attractive. The fattening house is specific to calabar culture so I don’t know if other parts practice it as well.

[@JK-ll3yk]

@@NotJoegoldberg it's coz of availability of healthy foods that make women gain good weight (at the right places) Junk food is expensive in Africa. So you will rarely find women with extra big stomachs. Just big asses. But I believe all women are beautiful.

[@annewilkinson9611]

I was bullied for being "too skinny" when I was younger (often by strangers yelling at me to "eat something") and a part of me always feels down on myself for being "too skinny" even with an overweight bmi. Gaining weight didn't take away the feeling and fear of being too skinny. I'll actually go into panic mode if I feel the slightest hunger pang and imagine myself shrinking down by the second. I have never met another white woman who can relate.

[@yassi8814]

Our goal should be to be healthy. Remember… that looks totally different for every person. It’s not a one-size-fits-all situation💯

[@rudirudirudirudi18]

It's really interesting that atm Doja Cat gets a lot of hate for losing weight and also Lizzo! People are absolutely ridiculous.

[@vimanaarchitects2151]

Doja Cat got liposuction on her legs. You can't lose weight on certain areas. Her legs look completely different now but arms and waist are the same thin. Nothing bad on that by the way. I am having my leg lipo this Winter cause I have lipedema as Doja used to.

[@Sleipnirseight]

They did the same when Rebel Wilson lost a **healthy** amount of weight. People are too damn obsessed with women's bodies

[@jessica5470]

I can't understand being offended that someone's gonna live longer, it's psychopathic

[@iloveazaeliabanks]

same with adele

[@Sleipnirseight]

@@iloveazaeliabanks And Jennifer Hudson! I bet the list goes on. How many male celebrities have had the same treatment?? The ones I can think of are usually congratulated for it.....

[@cozywalrus7175]

This is why you can’t judge a book by its cover. So heartbreaking that Selena had to go through so much with her illness and then afterward people were bodyshaming her on top of that! There are so many reasons people gain weight wether it’s physical or mental illness. You can’t just bodyshame someone when you don’t know what they’re going through

[@MandyAliens]

She also treated the person who gave her a kidney like crap. So . Just because someone’s sick doesn’t automatically make me feel bad especially if they are a nasty person. Just saying

[@MandyAliens]

@Beastbombshell she didn’t need too selena said messed up stuff about her publicly

[@Sunflower-uh3em]

Exaactlyyy , so true

[@RedRoseSeptember22]

Right? Both Selena and Camilla looked great regardless of size!!!

[@roxycauldwell544]

I think celebrities that gained weight after the early 2000's got slammed the most because they were all criminally UNDERweight and borderline starving themselves for the heroin chic trend. In comparison to that, normal looks like fat and your metabolism is a trainereck. Christina Agulaira is a perfect example

[@justrandomotaku]

Lady gaga as well there was a period of time people slammed her for gaining weight but looking back... she literally was at a normal weight for many women... wtf?

[@RedRoseSeptember22]

I rememeber when Christina got thicc after having her son and she looked sooo good!!! She had that "va va voom" figure haha. Queen. ♥

[@katiefoster2169]

I think most women deal with a transition of having a different body when they were young and then growing into another body as an adult. It’s so normal for our bodies to change. I played sports from 5 years old through college, and now that I’m done my body is so different. I have struggled with it a lot because I used to be made fun of for being super skinny, but now I’m more “normal” and have been made to feel fat by beauty standards. It’s such a mind f*ck to be honest. But I am working on owning my body at any shape, and I hope for anyone else out there dealing with the same thing that you are on your journey to feeling comfortable in your skin too. It’s hard, but we got this!

[@minervarose7664]

Can totally relate. I have been dancing since the age of 10. I stopped during COVID and with everything that's been happening in my life never got the chance to go back. Now that am 35, my body *really* feels those changes. I am still at a healthy weight, try to work out a bit and eat well (not diet) but sometimes i feel sad that i no longer have my dancer's body! I used to be able to wear most clothing styles but now i feel conscious of the flab on my arms, rolls on my tummy etc 😬

[@ElizabethScottStress]

Thanks for sharing, and well said!

[@angelenergia2163]

For me, I am 24 and my body has not changed at all since high school so I feel so abnormal. I eat so much praying to gain weight

[@risuficus]

That's so true... I have been sick for a year and gained weight because of that. When I see old photos I tend to think "oh I want to look like that again", but reading your comment I remembered that back then I wasn't happy with my body either. We are brainwashed into never feeling good enough and that's pretty messed up.

[@kcrow430]

❤️

[@leahsmith2078]

People who are so into someone like that visually praising them are also the ones who are mean enough to hate on them. Let’s praise people for stuff other than their looks sometimes

[@ElizabethScottStress]

Great point! Even when people are saying how great they look, celebrities (and regular girls, really) probably all know that they're just 20 pounds away from all that praise turning into something else. Everyone needs to focus on something besides looks!

[@Anyox17]

Let’s praise people for stuff other than their looks MOST of the time. I’m so ready to move away from appearance being the most important thing in our society/lives.

[@m.j.moonpie]

"Beauty does not come in sizes." Is such a beautiful quote. ❤️

[@JuliaShalomJordan]

I agree. Just love it.🤍

[@wolfone8538]

True that

[@heiress.]

Beautiful? More like delusion lol.

[@julieme7927]

Might be beautiful but it isn't true

[@reshell7338]

@@heiress. im sorry but it’s true . There’s always beauty in someone you just have to find it !

[@alexandrarios9496]

It's scary bc Selena literally went from a teenager, young woman and into a woman right in front of our eyes and all those different stages has different hormones and we usually loose and gain weight during different years

[@Sleipnirseight]

The irony is Selena still looks fantastic with the TINY amount of weight she's taken on.... Not that it matters - women are allowed to exist and be loved regardless of what they look like. I hate that how we LOOK determines our value to others, regardless of our personalities or talents or the fact we are HUMAN BEINGS.

[@mette1983]

I have suffered from anorexia for more than 20 yrs, spent a combined of 5 yrs in hospitals, had to live 12 yrs in a special facility surrounded by help 24/7. Today I only go to theraphy 2-3 times a week, I live on my own and I’m trying to create a life for myself at the age of 39 yrs so videos like these really help me a lot. Please don’t ever stop making them Stephanie❤️

[@larkfly9273]

It actually makes me sad that in a carreer like the music industry it's so much about the body and not about the actual valuable asset - the voice. I also can't believe that we as a society haven't gotten further since Britney was bullied like hell in 2009 for her weight gain - I'm not any better, I thought the same thing back then because I grew up with her as a teenager as the perfect body idol, but thankfully I have progressed and don't think like my 14-year-old self anymore. I remember Christina Aguilera having bulimia in the mercyless 00's and Jessica Simpson just torn to pieces after being heavier and performing in a leopard top and jeans at some point, I'm sure some of you remember this exactly as vividly as I do.

[@minervarose7664]

I was a teen in the '00s and i remember even the fashions being so much more unforgiving than now. Eg. Super low rise jeans with crop tops...unless you literally had a stick figure you couldn't pull that off 😂

[@larkfly9273]

@@minervarose7664 That's completely true! Diesel jeans was all the rage and if you had just a tiny amount of fat on you it was a no go. It really was about the body, not the fashion - it wouldn't have pulled through nowadays with the test of "is it fashion or is it just the body"-thing. :)

[@yourfunsister]

The question to me is really about: “How can we as a society be such incredible a$$holes”? When did it become acceptable to be so cruel and rude to each other? The irony is, that the people shouting the cruelty and obscenities are certainly NOT anyone’s goals.

[@lemonlimsa]

I know right. Some people have no manners or boundaries in this society. There is a lot of people that will never reach "the body goals" for various reasons. I would advice everyone to stop wasting precious time on mean people or unrealistic goals. Search for better quality and focus on building your life fun and exciting. There's men and women who will accept you as you are. Don't give up and make world better place with your own gestures to others. Healthy inside, healthy outside. 🙂

[@katcrl6486]

AMEN!!! 🙌💯

[@heiress.]

Stop encouraging obesity.

[@user-ej7gk1hl7z]

i think it is not society, i think it’s influential people, and corporations that want you to buy their products, subtly implying something is not desirable, because your insecurities = more money for them then people get influenced and that’s where the chaos starts

[@Ambermarie13]

yes! last night i was looking at the instagram account of an influencer in recovery from drug addiction. she looked so much happier and healthier but all the comments were talking horribly about her weight gain 🙄

[@KeyushTheStuntDog]

Monstera like well draining soil, they don't like to be over watered, it can rot the roots. Only water when the top 2 inches of soil is dry. And they like humidity, 50% and above.

[@waveleopard3074]

what do you think about light requirements?

[@emilyzugay1]

@@waveleopard3074 they love bright indirect light!

[@kylee5560]

Am a Monstera owner and I concur. Per the light requirement, mine sits about 4-5 ft away from a south facing window and it's very happy.

[@karinanicole3665]

Mine loves lots of sunshine as well !

[@christinebernchat7125]

This is good advice. They also burn easily in sunlight, so keep them somewhere where they only get a little sunlight and are mostly in the shade. There’s nothing you can do to fix burnt leaves.

[@gracececi8043]

Btw Camilla is not tall at all. She is 5’ 2”

[@warueri]

I was looking for this comment 😂

[@insertcreativenamehere7970]

I did a double take at that LOL.

[@MJ-pm8pb]

You're a stunning woman too Stephanie! Your beauty radiates from your kindness, positivity and love for other women. Thank you for the work you do on your channel x

[@stephanielange]

Oh thank you so much that is so kind! ❤️✨

[@notyourfrind9415]

MJ, you have no idea how Stephanie's channel has saved my self esteem. You'd think at age 34 I'd be mature enough to not care about what people think of me, but beauty standards get to everyone.

[@stephanielange]

@@notyourfrind9415 I’m 34 in august! And the beauty standards absolutely effect me too, even though I KNOW they’re bullshit! It’s just crazy isn’t it! Xx

[@soho6435]

omg absolutely steph is so gorgeous!!

[@jenn8179]

I can't IMAGINE seeing people write these things....HEARING people yell "You're fat"....I would be a blubbering mess. I'm hard enough on myself...I don't need to hear it from strangers 🙄

[@unmellowyellow]

Just get Asian parents for a week 😂😂😢

[@stephaniesinternetlife]

Last year I found out a I had a herniated disc in my cervical spine. I was in so much pain not even months of physical therapy was helping. Since I was in so much pain, I tried to limit my movements. So I gained about 20 pounds. Then I had surgery and gained about 15 more pounds since then. The worst part is that my family judges me for my weight gain. They don’t understand that I’m still in constant pain. I just went to the gym for the first time in months but I had such a bad migraine that I threw up. Never judge someone bc you never know what they’re going through! I remind myself that working out and eating healthier is for my own benefit. I got to the point that I don’t care about losing weight. I just want to be healthy and strong for my own body’s sake. This is what my body deserves

[@violetmoon6233]

Sending so much love. I hope you get the support you deserve . Much respect to you strong Warrior .I hope your able to do something more gentle like yoga, Pilates, exercise bands &walking if you find the gym is too strenuous.. I had a lot of health issues in the past & had to learn to be gentle with my body as well 🦋.🤍🙏🌻✨

[@ambercotrone]

I have Lyme disease and weight gain from illness, medication and inflammation and my family has fat shamed me as well and my brother only believes in calories in and calories out when that is old science and only a part of the picture. I hear you, validate you and support you. Focus on your health and whatever your body is, is what it’s meant to be to protect you. Much love 💗

[@Ash-nk8lk]

It’s even worse in K-pop and k drama

[@bia_blue]

she should speak about this too

[@sia6183]

I AM SO HAPPY SELENA IS IN A MUCH HAPPIER PLACE AFTER ALL THE TOXIC EX THING AND BULLYING SHE HAD TO GO THROUGH . SHE IS MAKING MILLIONS AND SPREADING POSITIVITY , SO HAPPY FOR HERRRR, QUEEN

[@PriscilaAraujo124454]

Body goals is to be healthy and ALIVE!!! Selena almost died in 2017 and to this day she’s still fighting this diseases, she’s a body goal 100%!!!

[@marasophie9276]

dealing with an autoimmune disease and the weight gain that comes due to my medication this is exactly the video I needed to see. Thanks

[@D0ntTickleMe]

I'm glad you talked about Camila because for a while there everybody was saying that Shawn Mendez broke up with her because she gained weight. Like grow up everyone! I really hate tabloids and rumors it's so pathetic and childish.

[@Oelcenila]

I think it is wonderful to see beautiful women like Selena and Camila in their "fat" version. They are obviously not fat. I have a similar body type that I struggle with (I've been bullied about it by my family from early childhood). And seeing those two and other gorgeous women look so beautiful in their (abosultely normal!) bodies that aren't "body goals", anymore, really helps me to accept my body!

[@leyla1135]

honestly as someone who's gone through this and is recovering from this all i can say is thank you for this video,it really opened my eyes. i used to be the very skinny girl with an hourglass figure(that's my natural shape)a big booty(I've always had a big booty,ever since I was like 11)and smallish boobs. everyone used to compliment me on how skinny and gorgeous i was and yada yada yada. plus i come from an abusive household where food is measured with a spoon and everybody looks at you when you eat and observes and criticizes if you eat too much. they call you fat and tell you to eat less,so I never ever felt free. I moved out and in two years I gained a bit of weight. people literally harassed me. i was a model for a while till last year and one time as I worked in a restaurant I told my boss(who was literally like 60,weighed like 100 kg and was hairy af) that I'd been a model and he said yeah you're pretty but you're not skinny enough did you use to be thin? no cause why did you gain weight? how did it happen? my hairdresser literally went to the extent of saying omg how much have you eaten? yeah you should leave your boyfriend maybe you've gotten a bit too comfortable with your body (coming from a guy who looked like santa claus) like what in the actual fuck where in the world do you get the fucking right to say these things about my body??like my value is ALL in my body and when I said something back they'd answer with yeah you're too sensitive OH COME ON LITTLE WIENIE I've battled with this for years when I was 15 i was so skinny i didn't even have titties anymore and in the year between 19 and 20 people just wouldn't stop fucking harassing me it went to an extent that i would cry for a few hours while changing before going out and sometimes would stay at home so I really REALLY feel for these women and if this is what i had to go through i can only imagine what people bigger than me go through it's just disgusting honestly it honestly just boggles me that we are SUPPOSED to thank our bodies because they are our means of living how did we get so far into this contorted culture that all we care about is "body goals" and how our bodies look?? not how they are our means of survival and how they make daily tasks happen,but how they look just ask a disabled person how they feel about this and i'm sure they'd say that they'd give anything to have for example a pair of legs that person wouldn't fucking care if the legs were big,or hairy or whatever they'd just want legs and all this culture can value is the looks🤢🤢 anyway now i'm trying to work on having a healthier relationship with food(fuck diets) and on losing weight at the same time,for me though. i have a goal and i want to achieve it,plus sculpting my body makes me feel hella good. now i've been working out 5 times a week for the past 3 or 4 months and it honestly makes me feel so good, it especially helps with my depression. i send SO much love to people who are going through this and please don't let society tell you who you should be ❤️ love y'all

[@Elinal23567]

Your message is strong , with you 🙌

[@leyla1135]

@@Elinal23567 thanks girl!❤️much love

[@His_Healing_Hands]

I totally agree but it’s not just women. Men like Brendan Frazier and even Jonna Hill have dealt with hate due to fluctuating weight. Food for thought 🤷‍♀️

[@chelseatonkin9549]

True, which is so wrong but it’s not as often as women I think. Neither are okay though!

[@thecensoredmuscle563]

@@chelseatonkin9549 it is as often as women. Anytime a male celebrity who was once fit gains weight, its pointed out on tabloids.

[@bryna7]

2 examples compared to every woman on earth, famous or not. Food for thought.

[@larsonboy-sx8wu]

Eh ​@@thecensoredmuscle563

[@TateAHS]

I was never happy with my body just because of these "instagram perfect dolls,, that I see everyday but since I started watching you it really opened my eyes and now I've never felt better in my skin. Thank you Steph :)💞

[@MandyAliens]

You’re perfect the way you are don’t change

[@kabsatdajaj]

"Coz I was running and existing like a normal person that doesn't tuck it in all the time!!! Camila Cabello That should be one of the greatest quotes of all time.

[@kermitfrog9814]

Shout out to you for not being toxic about bodies that's queen Also gnr gang

[@minja7777]

Bodyshaming someone because of sickness (and any bodyshaming at all) is absolutely disgusting.

[@kellynaz9256]

Use a dry wooden skewer and dip it into the soil for the monstera. If there's soil coming out attached to the stick, its not time to water. If its damp but the stick comes out clean, time to water

[@crystal482]

Genius

[@daniellerau3465]

I was hoping someone would give plant tips, I want her to be able to revive the monstera

[@rocioguillen751]

Stephanie, thank you so much for these videos. I wish I had had these when I was young. I am a 42 year old woman who has suffered with body issues since I can remember. My mom, who passed away at 58 also suffered from this my entire life. She worked out daily and heavily restricted what she ate. When she was in the hospital before she passed away I remember her telling my brother, who also suffers from body issues to eat whatever he wanted in moderation but to eat because life was too short to deprive yourself. I took that to heart and while I still have issues and work out 3 to 4 times a week, I can finally say I have accepted my body and appreciate it. It has allowed me to carry 3 beautiful babies and while it has changed significantly, it has also given me curves I never had before. I have stopped caring about what others think and work out more for myself than for the approval/acceptance of others. Again, thank you for your videos and please keep them coming because it is important for women to see this type of content.

[@ElizabethScottStress]

Hearing about the body shaming of Selena was breaking my heart BEFORE I got to the part about her health issues being the cause! This is really sad for me, partially because I was so happy to see a more "average-sized" woman being cast in a fantastic show (I LOVE "Only Murders in the Building"!), and I thought she looked beautiful and was thinking that everyone else thought so too, and partially because I just feel so sad that anyone should be treated this way. What monstrous stuff to say about OR TO someone! I'm so glad there are videos like this to help balance things out a little and give us a forum to call out how ridiculous this all is

[@FionaGraceBridget]

If I ever have a daughter, I will be showing her your Videos! It’s sad that you even have to make them but I’m so glad that you are because honestly we need to hear it.

[@j9beauty]

Thank you for bringing awareness about lupus! I am fighting lupus myself and also struggling with weight gain due to the meds! I am trying so hard to loose the weight i can relate to Selena so much.

[@piyusarkar3065]

I feel really bad for Selena. It's like being sick is a crime, being yourself is a crime. Sometimes I feel like I understand why older generations hated internet initially. Sarah hyland on the other hand was always criticized for being to skinny or small, and even she suffered from many diseases and had multiple surgeries. It's like women are never enough

[@lucklessluce557]

"Beauty does not come in sizes." So true, Stephanie. Powerful quote.

[@guelsy28]

The same way we have rolls, fat, etc because we are human, we can be affected occasionally by mean comments because we are human. Sometimes we can truly not care, other times we will, because our feelings fluctuate the same our bodies fluctuate. Mean people are always going to exist. Expecting to not be affected by them occasionally is also unrealistic. With time, I think we all learn how to deal better with those situations.

[@kelseybennett3477]

Selena and I shared a birthday I’ve loved her since the start. No matter what she looks like. Selena’s interview where she talks about her weight that going like “i dont have to fit in my teen and early 20’s body cause that’s not me anymore my body has changed”. That made me feel so much more confident in my body

[@rigelmoon5230]

I am so torn between "Hey, even the world's most beautiful celebrities feel insecure, maybe I'm truly not alone!" and "Even the world's most beautiful celebrities feel insecure, what hope is there for me?"

[@beverlydash220]

So many bullies! So many women struggling with their own insecurities so they're projecting their insecurities and bullying others.

[@Zoe-bx5xt]

Regarding the monstera:🌿 -make sure she’s in bright indirect light. -make sure the pot has drainage holes -if the leaves turn yellow crusty, she’s dry. If the leaves turn yellow and squishy, she’s drowning -take her out of the pot and remove the soil. If the roots are mushy and brown, she suffers root rot. In that case there’s loads of tutorials online to get rid of it. If they are white they’re healthy -generally the soil a plant comes in isn’t the best quality, so buy a good quality soil (maybe mix it with perlite and orchid bark to make it airy, this prevents root rot) and plant in a planter big enough for its rootball -water when the first 2 inches of the soil are dried out (just stick a finger in to test) -when you water don’t just give it a splash but completely let the water come through the drainage holes (in the sink or bathtub) and let it drip out a couple minutes, then place back to its original spot This is only what works for my plants 🪴 Hope this helps ❤️

[@meOW0131]

My bf told me today that he and his male friend from high school called a girl they are both friends with from hs as well fat because she gained 30 lbs in a few months after a breakup (long term relationship). Girl went from maybe 90-100 lbs to 130-140lbs. I immediately understood the body positive movement and why its so important. I told him, "So I'm fat?" Because same thing happened to me after we got together and I cooked more often. I said, "you got fat too then, look at yourself." We're both at healthy weight. I lectured him. He got quiet. There's more to it but that's the gist. How incredibly frustrating time we live in.

[@ilovenycsomuch]

I always loved Camila as an artist & admired her beauty but now I admire her more than ever for gaining weight as I have been lately

[@JavaBeanJean]

She’s a real racist person with a dark past.

[@thecensoredmuscle563]

Weird thing to adnire someone for. She's probably depressed.

[@RougeMaire]

Thank you this means so much too me. I was recently diagnosed with Fibromyalgia another auto immune disease that makes it hard to lose weight and chronic migraines so everything exhausts me and I’ve gained 15 pounds which doesn’t sound like much but for me it has impacted my mental health thanks to societal standards.

[@lauryn6037]

i hope you’re doing okay! my weight has increased a lot over the past couple years too and i’m in the middle of an autoimmune disease diagnosis myself. it’s hard to not be so hard on yourself and beat yourself up about it but i hope you can get to a place of acceptance and realising you’re beautiful no matter what! much easier said than done but i hope one day we can all learn to stop associating weight with beauty so heavily. btw are you irish? me too :) just spotted your name

[@Blondicakes]

I also have these 2 chronic illnesses and a few more. It’s a battle.

[@RougeMaire]

@@lauryn6037 Thank you It’s hard finding people who have similar issues since im 31 . Im doing better mentally physically I am trying to get to do yoga. I am 73 percent Irish born American though :) My great grandparents came from Counties Galway Cork and Clare ❤️😊. Thankfully Stephanie is helping me have a more positive outlook I’m glad we have a loving community here with her !

[@mizzangeluh]

omg when you put the quote that camilla said at 12:25. i truly felt what she said like it makes so much sense. we do it for our health but when it becomes soemthing else pretty much and it starts affecting our mental health. thats the perfect way to explain it. this is such a good video and i feel like you picked good people to do it about. i also appreciate this one as well becasue i am latin. love you so much girl!! keep on!!

[@bandana_rathore]

World is a cruel cruel place. Babies please take care of your physical, mental and emotional health. I hope everyone learns as soon as possible for them to love their own selves and realise no one will be like someone else. Evolution has worked really har for thousands of years to make sure of it.

[@TheZchristina97]

Your videos made me realize how warped my perception of my own body was. The work you do on this channel is so important!

[@findmeharry2]

One thing that gets me is hearing about medications causing weight and I’ll hear a lot of patients that don’t want to take them because of the potential weight gain. I just appreciate your channel because it keeps it so real and reinforces taking care of your mental health. 😌

[@bearsbeetsbattlestargalactica6]

When I was 17, I was put on depakote for a few months that made me balloon up. I went from 115-125 to 175ish. That opened my eyes so much to how society looks at people who are not society’s “standard of beauty”. I’ve fluctuated and currently sitting around 150-155 almost 10 years later. It’s HARD to lose weight you gain from medication. You feel so shitty because your body has gained weight rapidly and that makes you feel like crap physically and obviously it takes a mental toll too. I can’t imagine how painful it is to go through this as a celebrity, seeing people say awful things about you all over the internet, if it’s painful for me and I’m a no one.

[@jarmilapatterson1536]

This one is quite personal to me. There was a time when I gained a lot of weight from medication that kept me alive. The saddest moment came when I realized that I am being painfully shamed not just by strangers but also by members of my own family. I was told "I wouldn't take the medication if it made me gain weight" .... . This whole problem is completely out of control. I am still struggling with my health condition, but I will be all right. Unfortunately I have never forgotten, that people cared more about how I looked than whether I was healthy.

[@chelseygordon2416]

Thanks for these videos, this is really a wonderful thing that you are doing ❤️

[@courtneymeyers82]

Read that about Selena, her finally coming out about her lupus and felt so bad she had to go through getting fat shamed, when it was because of meds she has to take. The same with Britney for her mental illness, the papps were horrid to her It boils down to the male gaze, and the healthiest thing you can do is don't give a fuck about what men think of your looks. It's about you and what you like and what makes you happy and confident. And it's about doing and living And if a man (or a few women buy into it) give you that creepy once over, stare or sneer or make rude comments, call them out and switch that microscope 🔬 around onto their looks and their bodies - because a lot of the time, these creeps are extremely unattractive and are overweight and flawed themselves. I can assure you, it's quite effective. They don't like it, and it's a stress relief, I don't need the burden of their toxic shit. Here you go, Buddy, giving it back to you

[@Peanut_taco_muffin]

Well said!!

[@rolancurry]

About the plant, they need to be in a fresh space, with air and never straight sun light, water depending on the size of the plant, 2 or 3 times a week, you can use a sprayer like everyday, just a little, to make her feel damp, I hope I explained it right 🌞🌻

[@mixtributes7636]

The new body " trend" should be to be healthy, it doesn't matter what your bodyshape is.

[@Livelythesinger]

Coming back to rewatch this video because I needed the wisdom 💛 I grew up being the single very skinny person in a family where everyone else weighed much more than me. Skinny was my label and even though people meant it as a compliment, it became this weird part of my identity. Now I’ve put on close to twenty pounds and I’m so terrified. I’ve been working hard to shed the extra pounds to be this perfect skinny person again because my identity feels out of tact if that’s not what I am. But I think maybe I’ve lost sight of what’s important, agonizing too much over calories and sucking it in, all the stuff that you mentioned in this video. Thank you for what you do, Stephanie! It really helps to see other women like myself and know that I would never judge them as I judge myself.

[@Valeria-du1qq]

You just made my Friday even better🥳🥳 we love you Steph !!💓

[@dennguia]

this is why i am greatful that i found this channel. being someone who has no self confidence on my body and even bd, her videos makes me realize that i shouldn't be too harsh on myself. her uploads makes me have the courage to love myself more. and yes, being a woman with hormones that causes so much change in our bodies is so hard. the bloating that is caused because you as a human should be eating to survive is scrutinised. the weight gain caused by the child birth which people are expected us to have is called "letting ourselves go" is being shamed. and now with what's going on, we can no longer have choices over our bodies? tf with all this standards.

[@Tatt2ed82]

This makes me very sad. I have a 19 year old GORGEOUS daughter that thinks just because the Kardashian are “perfect”….why can’t she be also. 😞💔💔💔

[@9Angstroms]

Thank you so much for this, Stephanie. I was just looking in the mirror lamenting my belly when I came across this video. I really needed the pep talk. May God bless you ♥️♥️

[@oldwelshlady6584]

Thank you so much. M crying my eyes out. I'm getting old, in menopause and am no longer size 8 uk and have got quite big over the last year due to illness. I have been so hard on myself, like suicide hard on myself fir getting so big. Thanks I think I shall concentrate on being better and not give a toss about the weight until I'm better.

[@Smile_4k]

Take care of yourself and please hang in there! Sending you love!!!❤❤❤

[@lauryn6037]

please try to remember you are beautiful no matter what! take care of yourself and i hope you can see you beautiful you are some day ❤️

[@newtexan1]

When I was in my 20’s my weight would always fluctuate (110 -125). My boyfriend of 13 years used to tell me he preferred me with a little more weight. He said “it’s like hugging a bicycle” when I was thinner.

[@Rosyhyacinth]

Are you still together

[@madeleinecallister3521]

a BICYCLE? wtf how

[@Shakira8xo]

I’m a size 8 uk, go gym 3 times a week for over a year. When I’m on my period I can fluctuate to a 10. Then back again a couple days after my period. It’s normal 💕

[@Bakerygo]

Same, nothing fits those days, I look truly pregnant

[@kamrinicole2437]

I love that you speak about this and how you speak about it. 100% always agree with you and I will never get over all of the hate!

[@veritorossi]

MONSTERA CARE TIPS: I have a forest of Monsteras in my patio, what I've learned is that the like bright indirect sunlight. Outside the need to be protected from full sun. Inside they should be placed right infront of a window but don't let it get full sun. Don't place it in a corner far from the light. No enought light they die, too much sun they die. They don't like to be overwatered. They need good draining soil and watered when they are dry. Give a good shower to really soak them and then wait until it's dry again. They don't like to be overfertilized and they need a big terracota pot because they get rootbound ver fast because they grow very fast. Don't cut the aerial roots just stick them back in the pot so they root in.

[@heidioberlander8919]

I began taking anxiety and panic attack medicine a few years ago. One brand of anxiety med made me gain an excessive amount of weight and one day I noticed something different and I was shocked. It really threw me off because I am really self-conscious of my image.

[@rttnmlk123]

They aren’t even fat and being fat ISNT an insult!! These women look stunning in every photo in this video!

[@justforfun3283]

when we dont care about what our body looks like, were ridiculed and told TO care and told what our bodies should look like and what we do with them, and the second we start showing that we care or understandably stressing out about it, were shamed for it and told that we "shouldnt spend so much time on our looks"

[@kristinamullen4066]

I completely agree.Women have been brainwashed from a young age to aspire to a Barbie doll body shape.It's not realistic at all,and we all gain weight with age and slowing metabolism.People are allowed to be human!!

[@guesswhoiam1875]

We should be aspired to embrace life to be outdoorsy as much as possible. To touch grass I would say. People in this world are modifying their bodies to look the sameeee

[@clairec6618]

I'm a little chubby right now. Nothing crazy, but it is noticeable and it hurts my self esteem (especially since it happened quickly and I used to be athletic). My partner tells me I'm beautiful and sexy and that weather I'm toned and fit or rounded and soft, they love me and my body and think I'm the most beautiful woman they've ever seen. Surround yourself with people who are good to you, and be good to yourself. You are so worthy of love and kindness. You deserve to feel confident at a size 2 or 22.

[@eveningstar8581]

When Selena's and Camila's "bad" bodies, considered so by society, are MY BODY GOALS LOLLL!

[@MonkeyBrainMcGee]

I wish I had someone like you, with your positive messages, to listen to when I was growing up. To tell me it was ok to love myself the way I am.

[@kermitfrog9814]

I also feel like pop is the most toxic genre

[@Ancientpathshomestead]

I’ve battled ED all of my life. I’ve finally come to a place in my life where I finally am really happy with me. It’s a mix of finding my higher power (Yahweh) and aging. I’m over 40. I just don’t see things the same anymore, and that shift in what I believe to be important has calmed so much of my mind and soul. Saying this, however, Stephanie, you have brought so much insight to me. About myself, but mostly about how I need to talk to my baby girl who is going to live her life in this age. In this time where social media influences so much for her. And for my son. They are susceptible to this too. So I thank you so much for your honesty and just for putting so much out there. Thank you 🤗🤗

[@LoremIpsumPeach]

Body love starts within ourself, not outside ourselves. Seeking validation is a bottomless pit. Even when we are perfect, what does it mean if we are empty inside. We change society by changing ourselves. Loving ourselves and being a role model to other young girls to do the same. That we are not perfect but we are brave enough to love oursleves anyway. Live the values you cherish even if those around you live by different values. You know what it is true for you. It takes daily work, because the daily external influences outside of us. It's so important to have daily habits and rituals to build ourselves up and reject what brings us down. We get to choose to create the lives we want. If you struggle with body shame, try this. Write 10 things you love about yourself (or like about yourself if love is too hard right now). Then write 10 parts of your body you are grateful for and why (like your arms for letting you hug those you love). Try to feel the positive emotions from this. It actually reprograms your brain on a subconscious level and it works. Its called neurogenesis. Do this for 21 days and you will be really surprised how your relationship to your body changes.

[@elsamariahertervig6171]

I think to many people get some kind of sick kick out of being vile and mean to strangers behind a screen, whether the person that is attact is a celeb or not.

[@A·c·h·i·l·l·l·e·s·Last·Stand]

If i was a celebrity then I could already see everyone comparing 2016 me to now, and saying "wow she's gained so much weight", dude I literally have hips and an ass now so wassup?

[@RexytheRexy]

Thank you so much for talking about the toll that physical and mental health issues can take on a human body. I've recently been diagnosed with a serious mental health issue. I'm in my mid-late 30s, and have had symptoms since childhood. The medications that save my mind and allow me to feel like myself, live, work, and enjoy my precious time on this earth are notorious for causing weight gain. I'm doing the best I can to fight my ED and internalized fatphobia, but it's been a struggle. I really needed this video right now.

[@karmaleenash2841]

Weight is a mystery sometimes. Folks who believe it is strictly calories in vs calories out. I just went through six weeks of a strict liquid only diet due to serious jaw surgery. I took in from 500 to 900 calories a day. And I GAINED 16 freaking pounds. And I forced myself to get up and walk and move during this time. I am so upset and having a hard time not feeling defeated. Sigh.

[@Melissa.Garrett]

It’s possible that any medications you were on during that period may have caused the weight gain, and if that’s the case your body will go back to its normal self once you stop them. But it goes to prove, once again, that the calories in/calories out thing is a total misnomer!

[@ngeee10]

I started keeping track of my calories and I decreased my calories to 1800 and I gained 4lbs in June hmmm.

[@shirin9452]

Hey, not sure if it will help, but it’s possible your metabolism dropped as your body thought you were starving. It then holds onto and burns fat much much less to keep you alive. I just learned this from a video with pretty respectable credentials so I’m sharing the knowledge. If you go back to eating normally, your metabolism may increase back to normal. Then if you really want to lose weight you can go back to a slight calorie deficit. And I think by staying active and mobile you were doing the right things. I may not be right but there is scientific backing to this. I hope it helps :)

[@nordette]

@@ngeee10 might be muscle if you were working out as well

[@karmaleenash2841]

@@nordette Not enough to really gain muscle, just to keep from losing.

[@Flickdariss]

I've been going through therapy to work on my self esteem after a break up, forever grateful to here and saying this. If anyone is reading you can do this! ❤

[@user-umcub]

I stopped caring about these body goals when i realized that most of the influencers don't have a period and a period is so important

[@Simplelivingslowliving]

lol. yup

[@bloodliriel]

I will keep commenting and thanking you for every single video you make, because this, ALL OF THIS, is so so necessary. Thank you for reminding me and making me feel ok with myself, because sometimes I forget. Thank you, and greetings from Luxembourg 🇱🇺

[@saraf3041]

“A flat belly doesn’t equal happiness”. Thank you! We are so brainwashed thinking that being skinny is the solution to all our problems. As LatinX women, Selena and Camila have genetically more curvier bodies and are beautiful. Shame to all the spineless people spitting hate at them. It’s so easy to insult people about their weight to make yourself feel better huh? Pathetic behaviour. I think Camila and Selena are inspirations. They make me feel normal and seen.

[@Kate-is5mz]

I have a flat belly my whole life and am skinny and that literally made 0 difference, I was still ridiculed and bullied for my body my entire life. I receive unsolicited comments about my weight and appearance to this day, almost on a daily basis. Just wanted to put this out there to prove your point. It was never about being a certain way, it was always about just shaming women for their bodies and the way they were physically manifested onto this Earth, as if male bodies aren't strange at all... like there's something inherently wrong with our bodies, any trace of physical maturity in a woman is drilled into us as a "mistake". Think about that for a moment. It's alright though, all the more reason for any woman ever to just NOT CARE, and live their best lives. You can't win so it's best to play an entirely different game 😎

[@goldenparachute392]

Way to profile women. Quite racist. And WTF is LatinX? is that a subset of some ethnicity?

[@Pink_pr1ncess]

@@goldenparachute392 lmao she’s a gringa. I’m a gringa too and I hate the word Latinx because wtf?

[@brioje23]

@@goldenparachute392 Thank you!!

[@estrate_live3213]

I had subscribed to your channel a long time ago but only started seeing your videos recently. In my opinion, this is one of the best channels on KZbin. It is eye opening on so many levels

[@missg8183]

I water my monstera like every 3 weeks and leave her alone, she is thriving.

[@amberr6]

Stephanie- my whole heart and soul goes out to you. Your content really helps me and is what I needed to hear, and see! The thing is, when I see other women, I see how beautiful they are, how unique, admire their outfits and style, but I never ever pick them apart like I do to myself in the mirror. In an era of self love and body positivity, I would hope to see more women being themselves. Filters that literally change your entire face? Why is this a trend?? I’ve met people IRL that are FB friends/acquaintances and didn’t even recognize them. It’s just so sad.

[@staceybaker4925]

I love camilla attitude I aim to get more confidence in my body ! I gained weight in lockdown then broke my back and I was in a brace so couldn’t get active but I’m bk at the gym three months after my accident trying to get strong and healthy again xx

[@LucyStokesOceansofNotions]

I really appreciate your channel. I started a channel about fashion and sometimes I find myself not posting videos because I’m so self critical of my “imperfect” body. It’s so stupid. The people throwing all this criticism around are hiding behind anonymous accounts and keyboards. I suspect their bodies aren’t “goals”.

[@P4melaMasters]

What makes me laugh is when men demand that their girlfriends go on the pill. Then complain when some of the girls gain weight. It makes me so angry!!!

[@clarrissadawn7148]

We should always drive to be a better version of ourselves. Whether that's making sure we go to the beach and wear that swimsuit that might seem a little small, but you love it anyway. I didn't know who the last girl was, until you mentioned "work from home" and it respect her confidence!

[@aimeerae209]

😩 I'm 4'11 and if I gain 3-5 pounds it looks like I gained 10-15!! Weight mostly goes to my legs so I never wear shorts & I live in Texas! 😭

[@solaceskies1]

Omg same! I am also 4'11" and My thighs are huge! It's hard to find pants because my waist smaller than my thighs as well :/ it is also hard to lose fat on my thighs too no matter how many exercises I do.

[@DoeRaeMe]

I’m 5’2” and I have the same issue! I’ve had 4 babies now and sometimes I just wish u was taller so when I carried the baby weight it wouldn’t look so very MUCH!!!

[@annelarsen4480]

Just wear the shorts or whatever you want. People are strangers who think about their own lives. They dont care what you wear!

[@annelarsen4480]

You only live once. Dont keep yourself from feeling good from wearing shorts in a hot enviroment just because you think some stranger will think bad. They wont think anything. And even if they do, then fuck them. You may sometimes think things about other people as well, but does that mean that they should change whatever you thought of them? No. Its just strangers who means nothing in your life. So live your life

[@DoeRaeMe]

@@annelarsen4480 I noticed this at the beach! Everybody worries about if their bodies are beach ready but nobody actually looks around at anyone else! They are all too worried about themselves lol

[@Allergydemon]

Monstera tips from someone who has 8 + and regularly propagates/gives Monsteras away: 1) Bright indirect light (think a window with a sheer curtain or set back from a window with no curtain). 2) ONLY WATER WHEN THE SOIL FEELS DRY (the top two inches of soil should feel dry- stick a finger into the soil to check until you get a watering schedule going). Usually mine need water every 1-2 weeks. 3) Make sure your water isn't too hard or soft. I use filtered or distilled water, since my tap water has too many minerals that kill plants. Less is more with Monsteras. You've got this!

[@mal5678]

I needed this today! Thank you

[@lovecore1313]

I love this. It is an “airbrushed world”. Once women (and men) are more educated and understand the effects, we can demand more from media and have higher standards to protect and improve rather than hurt our kids, our relationships, ourselves, and our society. We shouldn’t feel bad for protecting our mental health

[@AnnieLynn]

Your content is awesome. I wish I saw some makeup related videos toooo 🥺😢 your hair is amazing your lips are so beautiful buuuut i would love to see some new eye makeup videos maaaybeee? 🥺