reacting to iNfLuEnCeRs in real life - Alexis Ren + Emily Ratajkowski

[@lilbabytears]

I want videos like this to reach more male audiences. I feel like most of us women are aware of the instagram/reality issue and men are still blinded by it.

[@Olivia-bs5wj]

Exactly that’s what I think as well. Also with selfies there are so much filters but men doesn’t seem to understand that

[@glassskindiva6721]

You are right and then they compare normal human with these ladies

[@hotinjectionjewelry]

It's one of the reasons why I think younger men wont commit. They're waiting for their instagram perfect female. Or someone hotter than their ex. All so very superficial.

[@gerardoramirez115]

Man here to provide some male insight - the flat stomach, flawless skin, no stretch marks, zero cellulite, tiny waist influencer pics are cool, the same way that we look at the 2% body fat male fitness influencers. However only very stupid men, which i think are a small minority expect photoshop perfection - emphasis on the photoshop/airbrushing.

[@samco63]

@@hotinjectionjewelryI actually really agree with this. Even older men are getting to be the same. I date almost 40 year old men who are the same way and follow so many of these women.

[@josifovskaviktorija8414]

as a kpop fan and someone who looks up so much to idols i would say that you need to do a kpop idol version of this, with kpop being so big now there are so many young women who look up to these idols not knowing all the craziness going on behind the scenes and the stuff that idols need to do to get those bodies

[@nvo_offmusic]

I was thinking the same thing! But do you think she’ll be able to find “real life” pictures though?

[@sukkatdavid3365]

yes, this^ do kpops please

[@bianca_dianna]

Maybe she can do a video about the extreme diet that kpop idols did

[@creamblue5990]

Im not a kpop fan tho i know some stuff they do and im thinking what if theyll do it as well?

[@creamblue5990]

Im not a kpop fan tho i know some stuff they do and im thinking what if theyll do it as well?

[@pamelapodell7075]

"Because her thighs are smart" 😂 Thanks for bringing us all back to reality.

[@tanii1356]

it feels like an insight joke with stephanie haha :)

[@lavilicious]

So True 🫶

[@_Laura.Marie_Sierra.Destiny_]

Op sorry I just accidentally stole your comment

[@Maorissa]

Do they also have smartknees? 🤔😆

[@tiffanybertelli7022]

I loved this quote! Haha. My thighs are so smart!

[@SincerelyHannah]

Another thing to mention is whenever we see models at events like the Met Gala they've probably been prepping for it for days/weeks, which could entail some pretty unhealthy stuff like restriction, binge exercising and dehydration so they loose as much puffiness/appearance of fat as possible -____-

[@alectakaewa9364]

Almost like where the male actors dehydrate themselves for movies in order for their abs to look defined. I was so shocked!!

[@unacring2207]

Plus, they get make-up even on their bodies, creating a fake definition

[@JujuJuju-ps7ms]

@@alectakaewa9364 wow didn’t know that! That’s really unhealthy

[@kaylabillings785]

They also pay for a treatment that basically flushes all the poop out of them

[@Marta-dn7qs]

Plus drugs

[@JohnJohn-jz9or]

Thank you for making this video. I showed this to my 9 year old niece. She would often tell me how she hates how her body looks because of how there are certain “fats” around areas of her body. It blew her mind how these photos are altered and made to look a certain way. Can you imagine, she’s only 9 years old and this is already affecting her viewpoint of humans in general. My heart aches for little girls who are more likely growing up to these ridiculous beauty standards instead of just living their life as a normal kid playing with their friends. Thank you so much for being sensitive and using thoughtful words.

[@gabriellemerkle3589]

I've been sick the last 2 weeks feeling absolutely uglyyyyyy and undesirable. I needed this. I appreciate you and your intentions and kind soul more than you could possibly understand. 🧡

[@hockey0013]

You are gorgeous!!

[@gabriellemerkle3589]

@@hockey0013 thank you so much 😭🧡

[@frummel403]

Please don't compare yourself to IG models. We are all beautiful, even with our so called 'flaws'. I have a bit of a blobby belly, but hey, screw it . Be kind to yourself ! ❤️

[@gabriellemerkle3589]

@@frummel403 girl same, I haven't felt great about my body since after having my son, but then I think how lucky I am to have had a great pregnancy and a healthy baby and it usually brings me back to reality. It gets tough out here!

[@ginwithmilk2904]

Hey wonderful soul - you are beautiful 🌻✨ We all have our bad days and that’s okay. But then there are also the good ones and I hope in the next few weeks you will feel ~ devine ~ 🌸💕

[@beatrizs4635]

I love how you describe this without putting down the influencers and having empathy for them instead.

[@jtjones8600]

Ultimately, you give criticism constructively. There’s a fine line between that and negative energy. As long as respect is giving in the fact that we’re human, it’s just opinions on the outside. Nothing wrong with that!

[@lillyandtheghosts3597]

Fr!!! U r the GOAT 🐐

[@BB25_25]

Everyone does this bc they need to be called out for the damage they are perpetuating to generations of young girls for vanity. It’s not ok.

[@woodpigeon7776]

Yes! She is very matter of fact and compassionate ! 💗

[@inejunta6569]

This is true. It's easy for people to make this a vent and have it permanently there. As someone that has a set weight of 100 pounds no matter what I eat or do. I see videos online of people like that and saying they do all this hard work and giving advice makes me feel ill. People have asked me what I do, to which you say you literally eat worse and likely more than they do and have not exercised for the last two months. I usually find people more prone to gaining weight just seem to be more attractive, not sure if it's a consequence of having good genes or just people like me eating too much sugar and processed food because they can. Also cellulite shocks people. Yes, you can have stretch marks and cellulite when people are concerned about the eating disorder you have never had. If you want your children to be like this and have other health and heart problems, just smoke excessively while pregnant. They will look sickly but at least they will be thin

[@deealdee7046]

I literally never saw these photos of emily with cellulite and a normal looking stomach. I always wanted my abs to look like hers (especially during these Met Gala photos) but never was able to get my stomach that flat even though I workout six times a week. it's nice to see that we're all human and we all can look like we eat food.

[@jianfalco2133]

People should uninstall social media apps (IG especially) or stay off them for a significant amount of time. Like a psych experiment, "dopamine detox" or whatever they wanna call it. I can easily imagine our mental health would be in a much better state without social media.

[@Mar-pe9kx]

I hope more women and girls out there know that having really a really toned stomach isn't about how much you work out, it's about your genetics. Even when I was working out and lifting weights, I never had toned abs. My body type just naturally stores fat in my stomach and it's perfectly normal.

[@ducklingscap897]

@@jianfalco2133 Or people could just follow news accounts, educational accounts, meme accounts whatever. basically everything that's not a beauty influencer who makes money by showing off their body/people in general showing off their body. If social media gives you issues its the content you choose to consume.

[@YourMotherForReal]

@@Mar-pe9kx for women it’s also a huge factor that our internal reproductive system occupies that area. And we can get a lot of water bloat. So it’s less “I have so much tummy :(“ and more so “ha I just took a drink of water today and also I have a uterus/ovaries/womb/I am human :)”

[@granolaman4410]

why the fuck would you want to llok like this. she looks anarexic. she hasnt eaten a proper bite of food in months, maybe years, so she can look like a skeleton for the vacuous envy of strangers on the internet

[@erinfennessy5332]

YES!!!! THE TORSO ARGUMENT IS SOMETHING IVE BEEN SAYING FOR YEARS!!!! I will never be able to have a tiny waist because my ribs end right where my hips start 🤣

[@Dorydreory]

Thats me... im skinny but my ribs and hips are too close together to have space for a small waist

[@uranianka]

😆😆😆👏

[@meatsuitoracle5176]

Same! I have a short torso and high hips!

[@rhiiyaevans4060]

Same

[@ker240]

Same. Like 2 inches between ribs and hips

[@AlinaMcleod]

Very well said. As someone who used to work in the modeling industry since I was 13 years old and seeing the photoshop that is done to most photos, it completely warps your mind of what a 'normal' and 'healthy' body looks like. It is so refreshing to see people of all sizes post more natural unedited photos of themselves and have it be applauded so much more than it was a decade or two ago.

[@unfortdork]

Thank you for these 😭 my ex followed quite a few IG models and started telling me I was fat. I'm not. Your videos have helped heal me so much!

[@JenniferoftheSea]

Oh my word. Glad he's your "ex".😶💞

[@unfortdork]

@@JenniferoftheSea thank you! I hope any other women being shamed by folks can catch these videos. They are so helpful!

[@bchud19]

WTH! Hoping you are doing great without that awful person!!

[@annacelan]

what a disgusting human. I'm glad you dropped that dead weight called ur "ex bf" 😂 i hope you're happier now! you deserve so much, don't forget it!! ❤️

[@Leesa111_0]

Omg that's awful 🥺 glad he's out of your life 💗

[@nataa88]

Long torso’d human here and you are 1000000% correct. I am 5’9” with a long torso and my abs sit really flat with a 24-25” waist. This is genetics. I don’t do targeted abs workouts- they are just flat because I have a long torso (and way short legs 🤣👍).

[@mmc1086]

I hope you’ve used that figure and face to make some serious bank as a model!! Xox

[@nannys_3045]

I have a super long torso but I'm obese lmaoo

[@nataa88]

@@mmc1086 haha you’re too funny and sweet 🤣🖤👍 I’m an engineer which doesn’t have much to do with my abs or face unfortunately. 🤣🤣🤣

[@luisaramos6862]

I have a shorter torso and it's funny cause if I stretch my arms up my belly instantly goes flat LOL So yeah, long torso helps, my short torso just gets some puffiness and that's ok, my uterus is there along with however many ft of intestines. hahaha

[@kumikooo2]

I have exaactly the same. Even trainers in the gym tell me that I probably don't need to work much on my abs, because this is were I look supeeeer lean. Thing is, I am waaay more powerful and trained in my legs. But since that's where my "fat" (I'm rather thin) is naturally, every trainer and even doctors told me to work out my legs more.. which made me have back problems, because I didn't work out my torso enough. 😅 People judge health way too quickly - and wrongly - on body proportions

[@missdaisy3006]

“She has cellulite…because her thighs are smart!” Love the energy ❤️

[@nJenkins420]

That made me giggle i was hoping I would see this comment

[@carmen8958]

you explaining why the body creates cellulite just made me look at my thunder thighs literally in a way i’ve never seen them before. i cannot stress how much that little piece of info really just helped someone who’s had body dysmorphia and disordered eating for seriously as long as i can remember. thank you for these videos ❤️

[@carmen8958]

why the hell don’t schools teach us stuff like that?? that information would’ve been so helpful so long ago. they taught us more about marine life than i ever remember learning about our own bodies lol. almost like they want us to hate ourselves or something 🙄🙃

[@RedRoseSeptember22]

Thunder thighs are amazing! I have them too ;) remember, thicc thighs save lives lol XD

[@johannalouw9979]

Honestly, my body image took such a hit just a couple months ago, despite maybe being the most “fit” I’ve been in years. I just suddenly started comparing myself to people when I hadn’t really been doing that in years. Your videos have helped me in ways I can’t even express. Thank you, you beautiful human. 🥰❤️

[@natalija5612]

I’ve actually read Emily’s Book “My Body” and I’ve never realized how insecure these women are. This is not about defending her questionable posts on Instagram which sometimes look really unhealthy, but she struggles as well. Obviously her posts are not helping in our society when she’s constantly showing off how “perfect” her body is, but I think that literally none of us would be able to make “relatable” content when we all feel this kind of insecure. Even our body idols are struggling and suffering with a disturbed body image. I don’t think that we’ve found the perfect solution of showing our bodies in the public yet.

[@ALT-vz3jn]

She’s part of the problem yet she has the audacity to ‘write’ a book to complain about it. I can’t stand that woman, wish she’d disappear for the betterment of humanity.

[@hollygrace6814]

she writes a book about the position she has put her self in, and continues to put her self in. I hope she doesnt want empathy. I hate 'victims'

[@guesswhoiam1875]

She's like I'm gonna make you suffer what I already suffered enough

[@MissimoCat]

@@hollygrace6814 Finally someone said that!!!

[@lo.fr.8092]

I wonder just at what point exactly it will dawn on you that Islam is the answer. Alhamdulilah for Islam and the Hijab.

[@elle3839]

One of my favourite parts of these videos is when Steph starts going off about organs 😂I find it both funny but also incredibly important to acknowledge

[@jabc4748]

OK..GIRL. Thank you! So, here's what I always dont get about Emily, in particular. She claims to not want to be known for her body and has an issue with others commenting on her body, but literally ALL she posts, is her bare torso. She does it on purpose. She is doing it not because she feels "empowered" but because her 'brand' is her body. That is OK. No shame, there. Work it. BUT, dont try and say that you are somehow better or that you care about women's rights ( she's made herself into one of these people and it is hilarious to me) when all you are doing is showing off your toned belly. You are not helping other women, Emily...because you dont care about other women. You care about your swimsuit line, the ads you make and your modelling career. If you cared about women, you would talk about other things besides your body...because women are more than their naked bodies.

[@marep5597]

💯

[@pinkitura]

We all know she did it for attention and money. Not trying to be mean but she has no intentions on showing reality.

[@olya_17]

Very well said!!!

[@christine-my3gd]

Thanks for pointing this out

[@Imbored-wx8fj]

So being proud of your body and not covering your entire body up means you can’t care about woman’s rights?? What is your mindset even. You sound so misogynistic

[@v-vettavetta]

You are genuinely helping so many of us with these videos. These women are beautiful posed or not but remembering that we’re all human and built differently to survive is hard in the age of instagram and filters. I just had to say I’m so glad you’re so real and so nice.

[@cjcha7717]

so empathetic, so empowering, no taking sides or shaming anyone - wow you are such an example 😍😍

[@Hannah-os2vu]

I really appreciate that you mention that the structure of your torso can really change how you look… I’ve been struggling with my body and this video truly was a friendly reminder that bodies vary and that even if were at the same height we could look drastically different

[@asyalit63]

20 minutes long is fine by me actually, so I prefer you would film longer videos, thanks for your precious content❤️

[@dallasoch]

Same

[@vanillac0ffeebean]

stuff that you are bringing up for younger people 💌💌💌 i wish i saw these when i was growing up 💗 keep up the good work

[@annapuczyowska8772]

same!

[@Mvnst3r]

Yeah, me too! I so wish I could have had this kinda content when I was like 14. It would definetelly have spared me of so many s**cid*l thoughts and a lot of self h4rm

[@lesliesilverzweig7584]

Agreed!

[@ChristinaKalachik]

I love this! Building women up without tearing Alexis and Emily down 🥰 thank you

[@lulipsia2360]

These instagram photos look like aliens tbh, really uncanny

[@LotusesGalaxyOcean]

I would love some content discussing how different trends or even specifics in clothing design doesn't work for women at all. For example women's weight tend to flux thru the month due to bloating and periods and yet trousers are not sewn to be fashionably adjustable.

[@SunnyGee-jd6pb]

This is so true!!! Never thought about this

[@niadean9518]

Certain clothing brands like Express maybe old navy have jeans called flex and they are meant to fit you properly when gaining, bloating etc.

[@pn6838]

I´ve also got the the feeling that since the last two years tops in stores have become much more suitable for the body type of women with smaller breast which makes it more difficult for me to find tops and especially bikinis that match my proportions. To me it seems like small breast had become the "trend" now, and bigger ones couldn`t match the fashion style anymore.

[@carom7960]

Definitely! We now get jeans/trousers in different leg lengths, it would be great to have some basics that recognised this. Some fashions, obviously, might not reflect this ie high waisted, but options are good... They do adjustable waists in kids clothes... 🤷‍♀️

[@youtube_user9110]

Old Navy and Lululemon joggers work great for oscillating weights.

[@alisonchalmers8288]

"... because thighs are smart!" 😄 Absolutely LOVE IT!!! Another good one. Those ladies look so much better IRL in my opinion. For a lot of girls it's gotten to the point where all the posing, angling, and photoshopping just makes them look unhealthily thin and unrealistic. Why does the media always want us to achieve the impossible?!!!

[@cherish_soul]

because they make money in any way, through our insecurities. now they are even working on behavioral engineering for marketing purposes.. what else is there to say.. we live in a terrible time of selfish .. a predatory system where everyone makes money on other people's problems.. 🤯

[@TwinsBigLikeTia]

Ikr, I think natural bodies and the candid shots of them just living their lives are so much more beautiful than the overly posed, unrealistic bodies.

[@olya_17]

Yea, I don't even understand what is there soo attractive about a body in a super weird awkward angle.. I mean in these normal life photos the girls look slim and fit just as well, but much more natural, however, nobody is going crazy about these photos. so why is everyone worshipping those unnatural and awkward looking, photoshopped pics.. You can almost instantly tell that most of these photos are heavily photoshopped. I honestly don't get it

[@林令怡-q1j]

agree. they look very pretty in real life

[@brittneydeyling5566]

Because you will keep buying their products that don’t work. Because you will want to achieve that level of impossible. It’s marketing… and they will always use the impossible towards the public which is freaking stupid, we’re worth more than wasting our time wishing we were like someone or something else.

[@adellaoconnor1960]

I’m off to Ibiza in 2 weeks, I’ve been so miserable thinking about being in a bikini Your channel is really helping me out my head back on THANK YOU I’m 38 and been obsessing for years I wished I had heard all this growing up ❤️

[@V-Mac00]

39 yr old here. Honey, please go to Ibiza & live it up in your bikini! If you're anything like me, you've probably spent way more time than you should've worrying about how your body looks to other people and there are plenty of times that you didn't totally enjoy things & stay in the moment because of it! Screw all that! We need to really, really enjoy whatever time we have left (as much as we can, considering... well, everything.)! Seriously, I hope you have fun!

[@beanqween9458]

Live it up!

[@cchicaloo]

No matter how thin you are, if your body language is insecure, you‘ll look miserable, and no matter how curvy you are, if you show confidence, ppl will feel literally attracted to you because nothing beats confidence! Rock your body

[@Sarah-fb6pe]

Have fun! Enjoy your vacation and dont worry about your body, you are perfect the way you are :)

[@olya_17]

​@@V-Mac00 love your comment ❤️

[@Meangirl22]

The way you explain the long vs short torso fitting all our organs and allowing for more flatness, is just BRILLIANT

[@lilalorens]

This video changed My mind. I also have a short torso and now I know I can't compare myself with those kinds of type bodies. Thanks a lot ❤

[@fonjadidi]

It's amazing how blind people are to this, I've told my husband before how everything is so fake on the internet and most women edit their photos and he was in disbelief and was like naaahh they would just look like that right!?! No mate!

[@jesscarter2427]

It's so wild how (some) men just don't get it. I had to explain to my boyfriend that [me] just working out will never get me a body like the celebs (Nicki Minaj, Cardi B, Kim Kardashian) or Instagram girls because they have surgery (which I can't afford) and photoshop (which I'm not good at). I told him if he wanted me to get surgery, he'd have to pay for it and then there's the "maintenance" which cost even more money!

[@jianfalco2133]

Ignorance that often turns into a dreadful anxiety-depression loop -- a wildly destructive endemic in this society we live in.

[@anonymous-wk1nr]

the funniest part is that these men have never seen a woman that looks like that in real life. that's why they're so obsessed withh these models online and not women around them

[@Alla.Skalikeu]

@@anonymous-wk1nr you think they'd wonder why they don't see women like this in real life 😂 cause they don't exist outside of filters and photoshop. Even girls who get surgeries don't look 100 perfect in real life situations.

[@user-df5ns5gr2r]

They are stupid 😂

[@its6104]

I put so much work into getting a flat belly, I was starving. At the end of it I realized that there was no way to keep my body looking like that and that I would have to suffer so much if I wanted to keep that "ideal body". It was around the time I found Stephanie's channel and I decided that I would rather keep my body well fed than malnourished. I'm a lot happier now. Sometimes seeing those Instagram bodies makes me want to start skipping meals again, but I just have to watch one of your videos to remind myself that there's more to life than that. Thanks for all your hard work, you deserve the world!!!! 🤗

[@V-Mac00]

I was anorexic & bulemic, at separate times. It's not worth it, really. You damage different organs & when you eventually start eating again it all comes back (because it's either that or you don't have a choice, if you get me. I'm sure you do.). So, you're at the same spot with worse health! And diets are crap (IMHO)! The only healthy & sustainable way is to eat better & exercise. Start lifting light-moderate weights & walking, if you can. Muscle burns fat, but it weighs more. So, don't go by the scale - measure yourself. I'm prob not saying anything you don't know, so I'll stop now. Lol. Just trying to help!

[@JuliaShalomJordan]

Amen. I’m there, too.🙏🏻

[@its6104]

@Veronica MacDonald Yes I understand I also had both of those. I don't mind the weight I got back, I call them my little bread loafs and that makes me feel better. I'm soft like freshly baked bread. 😁 I hope the best for you and thank you 😊

[@V-Mac00]

@@its6104 Little bread loafs! I love it! Glad you are in a better place now. And thank you, you're a sweetheart!

[@notreallyhim]

You don't have to starve to have a flat stomach with abs. Just have to actually put work in the gym and eat properly..

[@chrissymoss514]

When Stephanie "snatches" us back to reality and the real world of cellulite, normal stomachs and photoshop 👍👍👍👍 Hour long vids .... please 🙏🏻 💗💗💗💗

[@jtjones8600]

I can write an entire book 📕 on this subject! The Real World will be the title! 20 chapters from fashion to music to everyday life!

[@shannon4991]

Stephanie, I appreciate your candor in these videos so much. It's such a good example of using language to uplift, love, and appreciate our bodies and create a space to rewire an Instagram-riddled brain back to normal. What you said about cellulite being a cool and helpful thing our bodies have done for hundreds and thousands of years, and commenting on these womens' bodies in neutral and positive ways both when they're posed and unposed. I really appreciate these videos. 💕❤️

[@plavicvijet456]

I recently started working out more frequently and being more conscious of what I eat and as someone that's always been more focused on being healthy and not to concerned about the "ideal body" I cought myself slowly but surely falling under the influence of these unattainable body goals, mostly through these social media posts. Your videos are really bringing me back to what is actually real and that nobody looks "ideal" Thank you for that!

[@katedevivo8185]

Hi, I have an ED and lupus so exercise isn’t alway an option for me. Emily has always been my “body goals” go to. Your videos help me so much, I normally stay clear of that stuff on social but you can’t hide from everything. The videos you make are so so so important and appreciated.

[@emilyanne9513]

selena gomez has lupus and she is gorgeous! she’s a much healthier role model too i think.

[@nadiagi4081]

The work you do with these videos cannot be appreciated enough. You deserve the best life for lifting others up and truly helping girls and women all over the world feel better about themselves

[@siobhanlewis4511]

Two months out from my wedding and I’ve been putting so much pressure on myself to look a certain way.. see this really helped me centre myself ✨ thank you ✨

[@JenniferoftheSea]

Focus on being present, taking care of yourself, the commitment you are making and your relationship with your future spouse. Enjoy! It's such a special time!

[@ginwithmilk2904]

Hej beautiful soul- you are stunning 🌻✨ be kind to yourself, you only have that one body and it does all the tough work for you - so take care of it and show yourself a little bit of love 🌸💕

[@AndreaHa]

It's going to be wonderful and I'm sure you will be absolutely radiant! 🥰 you have a beautiful smile!

[@fonjadidi]

I was so focused and stressed to loose some weight for my wedding a ended up gaining some!! Moved and felt beautiful still and had an awesome day!

[@kimseung-ri1060]

Omg Congratulatioooons!💕

[@courtneyhernandez3178]

Ever since I learned how to do ab vacuums I look at everyone's flat tummy content with skepticism. It's really easy to make your stomach concave for a few seconds without even being especially thin.

[@katrina_skeffington]

Thank you Stephenie for improving my confidence! These videos always make me feel loved and remind me that it's ok to not look picture perfect.

[@elsamerino5035]

the way this made something click inside my head like ive watched many of your videos but this one particularly hit. the way you put into words all these healthy ass ideas and the way you can prove that nobody looks like that the whole time (while respecting everybody) and how if you are a model you ara capable of learning how to make your body look a certain way idk, we are so fucked up fr. thanks a lot really :,)

[@lerimish]

Stephanie, from the bottom of my heart thank you for everything you do. It means a lot and it helps so so much ❤

[@scarlrtt13]

Stephanie, Look into what happened with hazel E and the post baby surgery - in Turkey or Mexico I don't remember where- and it nearly killing her. The unholy desperation for women/mother's to look skinny or snatched is ... We are in hell aren't we.

[@sugarspicespirituality2194]

Stephanie I am so glad you make these videos consistently and you have centred your channel around this type of content because it was only after watching multiple videos of your and a lot of personal growth that I was able to dismantle the expectations that are fed to women and that's when I realised how deeply embedded they truly were. Hope this reaches you and whoever also needs to hear this

[@IsKaiOkay]

You help with my self confidence so much. I feel like the generation that grew up with social media have body image issues so bad

[@pascalelandry8630]

What I like about you, among other things, is that you are always respectful about the women that you talk about.

[@electron-Volt]

I remember what Adele said to Oprah in her interview: ”I’ve never looked up to someone because of what their body looks like” (not an exact quote).

[@drawntofashionillustration9596]

I do. Halle Berry: goals.

[@John-sr8hy]

You’re amazing Stephanie, these videos are a perfect length & soo helpful!! It’s important to be aware of perpetuated insecurities bc they could effect anyone

[@cindynicole3771]

I love how honest you are about this topics. Like this is something no-one talks about it, and when you talk about it, you are called jealous because 'you don't' look like that. We need to create more awareness around this.

[@EvilWolfGhost]

I'm someone with an extremely small waist and completely flat stomach and I'm still insecure. I don't like my thighs, I don't like my face... we'll always find something wrong with how we look and will never be satisfied because ultimately diet culture and social media wants us to feel insecure by showing us images that are edited and filtered. Also, I can confirm that a flat stomach does not look perfectly flat at all times. During PMS I'm sometimes so bloated it looks like I'm pregnant lol or when I lean to grab something the skin folds because if it didn't I wouldn't have room for my organs.

[@Olivia-bs5wj]

I know and what’s frustrating is women are complaining about everyone being shallow but still it’s women who upload all those fake pictures which contributes to all these thoughts. Social media shows we can’t blame media, it’s all our own responsibility

[@sayyadinawitch]

Also small framed women LOOK appealing….but I will say my frame is way stronger. Broad shoulders, wide rib cage, short torso, and long legs….I lift and move 400lb patients without help and I don’t workout other than cardio. Pros/cons with everything in life 😊

[@sayyadinawitch]

Nobody steps to me in any regard 😂

[@biazacha]

The pregnancy part is so true LMAO, I literally looks like someone in their second trimester depending on how much I eat. I wouldn’t say my stomach is super flat, but I do have a long torso and very small waist.

[@myyoutube129]

Yes I used to be very thin and I was self conscious about my butt and breasts being small and then I gained weight and had curves but then my face got puffy and my belly stuck out. I also felt like my curves looked flabby. I have since stopped trying to be perfect and just be healthy. No one, even the people who get plastic surgery, look perfect

[@foureyedfreak]

yesss, queen, you're so inspiring and gorgeous!!

[@preciousinfinity]

Me: someone's looks don't increase or decrease their value. Everyone inherently has it. My brain: not you though Me: not me though

[@crueltyfreemakeupheaven6907]

Relatable 🥵

[@ChelseaLynnThibodeaux]

same 😖

[@klcudyx_1140]

that suckks for u fr

[@braenpsy]

My brain too

[@Aahlife]

These photos are more than poses, they are clearly extremely photoshopped.

[@dianaaasims]

Thank you for this!!! Social media can be so deceiving 😊 learning to be happy with what we have is definitely a journey!

[@sofiepaloma2615]

I appreciate your realistic yet positive and uplifting approach to topics like this so much! Thank you for that, Stephanie!

[@annikla_]

I rlly needed this. Ur content brings me back to reality and honestly I think it helps w my dysmorphic view of my own body. Thank you so much for taking the time to make videos like this♡

[@amy9062]

Hey Steph, I love your content and how you approach body image issues. It would be amazing to see your take on male beauty standards, my partner gets disheartened comparing himself to the “buff” Hollywood actors but it’s so hard to find a good video to send him to help him see reality. Keep doing what you’re doing!

[@pekichinzah1995]

Im feeling comfortable about how i look after seeing your videos 🥰 thank you somuch ❤️

[@trippydaze2565]

Thanks for getting the truth out there, people need to know. Most men fall for these fake images, then they compare them to us, setting the bar to unrealistic goals. You are very beautiful and its refreshing to see such a natural beauty who is real. You are doing a great job exposing the truth and helping girls everywhere who are made to feel insecure and resorting to dangerous surgery. My dad used to work for a famous news paper and his job was to edit the topless models pics before they got on page 3. That was in the early 80`s, they also used these fade out lenses while filming celebs even back then. Plus body doubles in movies going back to early 70`s. It is all a big illusion to make money, like you say, by feeding into our securities. Even Marylin Monroe had a lot of surgery. There is more to life than how we look. Keep up the good work! Just found you and just subbed. 🙌💕

[@alessiaavila4830]

omg saying that cellulitis is our body being smart is the coolest thing ever. I feel like that is one of the last body shape taboos that nobody is trying to debunk. Personally I feel horribly self conscious about my "smart body" and avoid a bunch of fun things in life because of that. So your outlook on the matter was just enlightening

[@NikiMcNally]

You betta drop that science! No one looks the way the do on Instagram in real life. Thought that was common knowledge by now but guess not. I WANT MORE VIDEOS LIKE THIS! I hear all the time how perfect so and so is and I am like yea not really. 🤔🙄

[@larae7922]

Thank you Stephanie for making videos like these, and discussing the human anatomy and how our body are designed to literally, keep us alive and well. You are helping a lot of young women, including myself

[@iaral.8728]

My 2-year-old has had cellulite since she was born. And I am not even kidding. Right after she came home, 3 days of breastfeeding her were enough to make her this little ball of love and cellulite. She is super healthy, amazing, and perfect and I will punch anyone who says otherwise to her. Thank you for your videos

[@SueP-D]

My daughter had cellulite on her tushy since was born, too 😍

[@taik286]

Wow never heard about it

[@eraldadevole]

That is normal, many babies do it goes away.

[@iaral.8728]

@@eraldadevole sometimes it doesn’t go away and it is fine too.

[@alexdoms5052]

“We don’t see the hungry girl” wow, that really hit a deep nerve because I used to have an eating disorder and it makes me so sad nowadays thinking about anyone going through hunger. Whether it’s an eating disorder, a homeless person or people in need, no one should ever have to go through hunger. It’s one of the cruelest things we could ever go through

[@jchase746]

your videos have helped me with my body image so much it's insane. i feel so confident and i've stopped treating my body like a trend. i can now appreciate my body for keeping me alive. i love your videos so much ugh!!

[@ferzinhaN]

Once again, we all have something in common: insecurities! 🥳 Edit: Once again, most of us have something in common: insecurities! 🥳

[@deborahedelman2659]

Lol...how true!!

[@sassyqueen9739]

No I don’t have that I just like Stephanie that why I’m watching the vid🤷🏽‍♀️

[@tr4sh.doll_]

all human have insecurities,including celebrities, insecurities about physically or mentally :( but it's normal, except if you become obsesses, take care of your mental and your physical health

[@klcudyx_1140]

who is "we"?

[@katodd2925]

Not all of us. Y'all are weird af, comparing yourself to social media people or people you never meet.

[@jinnie_rhee]

this truly does wonders for people's self esteem, including mine; thank you so much.

[@dawnwilson5663]

Hi Stephanie. Have you ever done videos regarding facial features? I would love to see one with well known females in their 40s and 50s comparing their real selves to what they present in the media. I feel that so many women in this age group are being taught to loath themselves thanks to mainstream media. As always, thank you for your continued help in promoting real bodies and for shedding light on the trickery that is social media. 💕❤💕

[@Pollyjpocket]

I had to unfollow both of these people because it was making me so upset to see their photos every day and want to look like that. Just a reminder that we get some control over what we see everyday 😌

[@jenniferdavis4997]

The craziest thing is that Alexis Ren looks so much better in the untouched photos.

[@Dragon.Dancer]

I think every girl/ women needs to watch these videos thank you for bringing awareness on these topics your doing an amazing job!! xox

[@ivy3723]

It’s only since watching your videos I’m starting to be ok with my body, I never really put into perspective that I’m only 5”2, short legs, short torso and longer chest area. I did ballet for 12 years, it messes with you when you stop, become no where near as active and your body changes.. becomes “normal”

[@dytors473]

Ahh you’re doing Gods work with your videos. I’m so passionate about these topics and I adore every point you made, genetics, posing, the photoshop aspect, their point of view regarding their pressure, their feelings, their hard work and exercise and what depends on those photos, not calling them out for posting them. It is disappointing when celebs do photoshop cos it just brings everyone down and drives the industry but I love your explanation for their side. really they can do what they want its a photo of their body it isn’t attacking anyone, really it’s the fault of the follower if they make the irresponsible choice, knowing they’re insecure, to follow these pages. That being said I obviously have been guilty of doing that and I know there are so many impressionable young women that do this and it breaks my heart because I have so much love for the younger generation of women coming up. its evil how companies make money off making people feel insecure. I love how you brought up how hard their life is because I know many get annoyed when they hear “your problems aren’t all solved when you’re skinny” because many believe their body’s are their biggest problem but it really is true. I just want to ask people “have you ever experienced fun before?” Real, genuine fun. Real fun is being in the moment and completely present, doing an activity, and you are NOT focused on your body at all. Some people can’t experience that because they’re hyper aware of what they look like at every waking moment and that’s my point. Your body isn’t holding you back your mind is. But we are brainwashed from such a young age 😢 and some are delusional or dysmorphic it is such a real, extreme problem

[@gerganadimitrova8812]

I love you so much honestly. As someone who has struggled with body image for years it means a lot to see you praise their normal bodies too. It makes me want to take care of myself instead of mentally and physically torturing myself to look a certain way that is basically impissible. Don't forget to take some of the love you spread for yourself too, take care! ❤

[@lapatti]

That's the thing for me. I'm totally aware that perfect doll-girls don't exist, but I'm still jealous of the girl on the beach who's slimmer than me even though she drinks beer and eat junk food. She might have stretch marks or some cellulite but she's still so much better looking than I am and a lot more confident

[@joanah.29]

Gurl, everyone looks amazing and is beautiful!!! Everyone! And confidence is something you learn

[@olalla4630]

I ABSOLUTLY LOVE YOUUUU

[@kirstencxoxo]

For me, when it comes to flat tummies, even when I was in High School, I had a hard time gaining weight, but I have always had a little pot belly that I just can't seem to get rid of. Working out, or exercising has never gotten rid of it. Being 100 lbs soaking wet, it was still there. Now, at 135lbs, I've learned that I just need to accept it. It sucks seeing all these people with flat tummies, because it makes you feel like that's how you should look. I love that you do these videos, because it kind of snaps me back to reality, and realize that it's okay. It's okay that I can't look like that, because as you've said, they don't either! Love you, Steph!

[@scorchwave1]

Me too, it's usually just genetic and we just have to find ways to love ourselves and our uniqueness :)

[@cbiancardi9233]

When Madonna first came on the scene, she had a little pot belly and she was a huge sex symbol.

[@geets25]

Thank you for consistently reminding us that bodies are unique and different, that that’s okay, and that we are beautiful nonetheless!

[@thegingerx]

Your point about organ space in longer vs shorter torsos is fantastic and something i’ve never thought about before!!! 👏🏻

[@durulawz1391]

you make meel feel sooo comfortable about my body. even though im fit i still feel insecure when i see those influncers. thank u for ur amazing work ily

[@Homeofcraftsideas]

me too. This has made me depressed and I deleted all my socials I feel much better

[@laurends0614]

Thank you for making such great content. The only way we can change these impossible standards of beauty is to no longer giver our energy to them. Our focus needs to be on our beautiful hearts and divine bodies and not beauty influencers. Let’s continue to celebrate beauty diversity. By following and obsessing over these people we are only making the problem worse. Thank you Stephanie for bringing our attention back to reality.

[@shreyavardhan6651]

Broh Emily got a tummy tuck. And it so clear.

[@ririimari]

I don't think she did. I have had a tummy tuck. you would see her scar and her belly button would not look the way it does, now. I think she didn't gain much during pregnancy. after my first pregnancy my stomach was still super flat after some time because I barely gained any weight. my second, third, and forth pregnancies were a different story tho lol

[@EEsmalls]

And here I am with a short torso AND legs 😂😂 I'm literally saving this video, because in a couple years I'm gonna have my daughter watch it.

[@giozuzu16]

that's such a necessary video!!!! GIRL, THANK U SO SO SO MUCH FOR THIS 💜

[@98violetz]

Thank you! I definitely have felt the changes my body has gone through after having a baby and the internet can be very harsh in terms of even subconsciously comparing myself. Your videos definitely remind me that not everything (or even a majority of what) I’m seeing is real! Thank you!

[@ayodari_style]

I get it. I’m short, and I have a short torso so I never had well defined lower abs, but after having 2 children 2 years apart from each other, I have more of a belly pudge. No matter how hard I work out, no matter how much I count calories, drink my water, stretch, etc unless I get plastic surgery it’s not going anywhere. My oldest just turned 5 and it took me up to this year to be okay with it, and embrace it. Now when I look at the pudge I try to think about the miracle that my body grew, birthed, and breastfed two babies. And it’s okay!

[@sreejonibiswas4883]

Your videos make me feel so good about myself 😊❤

[@lexysvlogs]

First, I never look at their instagrams and think “stomach goals” instead I think “they literally look starving/unnatural.” Second, why would she ever hold her baby/dog like that and genuinely post it on Instagram…? I have second hand embarrassment over that lol. Lastly, it looks like Emily had tons of plastic surgery to look like Kendall Jenner. Every single one of these celebrities wants to look like one another. There’s no “goals” about that! I just feel sad for them!

[@lamaeyad3889]

I agree with everything but it’s actually the other way around😅 but Kendall copied Emrata. Look it up, Emrata got surgery before Kendall

[@girijakhumukcham]

you mean Kendall had lots to look like Emrata.

[@yeuxdebiche3915]

same it sickning

[@cecee3480]

Yeah it’s definitely not stomach goals to me. Those photoshopped pictures aren’t beautiful. If I feel uncomfortable by looking at a picture that’s a natural reaction to an unnatural thing. I don’t know what others are seeing because it makes me feel uncomfortable to see.

[@Bella-fz9fy]

@@cecee3480It’s the first time I’ve seen these women’s pictures and it also just looks completely unnatural to me.

[@AnniePharm]

Honestly I never get enough of your videos. They are always keeping me together... I used to have an eating disorder, and sometimes Instagram, Tiktok, KPOP really try to push me back into it. Then I watch your videos and I remember many of these "perfect" bodies are a lie. And that these women with incredibly tiny waists actually are a lot more normal than we think.

[@angiewilliamson5103]

They are both beautiful. Im long torso, I got long legs too. No one, not a single person is perfect. We all are different, not ugly, not drop dead gorgeous.

[@rachrainbow5817]

Yesssss love your content!

[@daniellemoore857]

Thank you for these videos. We all need to be reminded that highlight reels are not real. I love you so much for making me feel like a beautiful woman. Your beauty always shines through. My favorite creator!! Xoxo from Alaska

[@ivpoison]

I learned this while in high school but forgot so I love watching this kind of content bc I can always use the reminder thanks steph!!! I appreciate it truly!!!

[@sarahskies6146]

I used to be an underwear model and also now (30+ y/o) I'm a media designer. The people I worked with have always been so thankful they barely had to photoshop my body. But that wasn't due to my body being "perfect" back then. I just knew how to pose and use the given light setting to my advantage. And let me be absoluetly honest: I hated my body. I always thought I needed to lose more weight, be even smaller, have an even flatter belly, my legs need to look even longer and all that. Now I have a very average size and I have never been more in balance with my body. I have quite a big belly for a woman my size, my hips and thighs got way bigger, my thigh gap is gone and I am so happy! Of cause I would like to look like back then. But I never ever ever want to feel that pressure again. And I know all models I knew back then and those who are still working in that field feel the same way.

[@lucyfurr777]

WTF WHY IS SHE HOLDING HER BABY LIKE THAT???? PS thank you for this video. I can't imagine being a young girl growing up in the era of Instagram. I'm in my 30s and I still have to remind myself that most photos on there don't show realistic body goals!

[@aris8010]

I absolutely adore your videos, they help me ground myself, honestly the longer your vid is the happier I am. I love seeing proof that I'm not a complete mess that has to be ashamed of what I was born to look like or i.e. I look wrong,. It's difficult to relate and to have the right perception over how an average human looks, what is normal to feel like and be like and look like. Thank yo so much for all the work that you put into making these vids! :))

[@michellefueg9579]

I think Alexis looks so much prittier and healthier in the unstaged photos. Her Instagram pics don't look like bodygoals to mee! I thnik she looks unrealisticly thin in those.

[@LiLGouda.]

You take such a practical and thoughtful approach to this, the longer torso from a biology standpoint really hit me with a healthy dose of reality. Thank you

[@kittykamm1163]

I’ve always been insecure about having a long torso. What you said actually made me feel better ( not because of the flat belly part) but because It actually has a cool feature.

[@kennaleddick9949]

I actually love how positive you are even when trying to prove that they don’t look like that. I love you

[@Lnda111]

Steph, honestly, your channel is one of the best on KZbin. THANK YOU for doing this, please don't stop. I know you might have an idea of what you want do with this videos and what message you want to deliver, but I swear your message and the impact you generate in US (your audience) is way more deep and more incredibly kind of "healer" that you can imagine. God bless you for everything you do. You rock girl!