Stephen move back in?

[@valleygirl2925]

Only a suggestion about the stephen situation: speak to your sponsor and therapist. They know you better than us.

[@ebonidt]

No therapist would co sign on that arrangement, especially with what little we know, Stephen is a boundary stomper and has issues with Laura's boyfriend, recipe for disaster

[@PascaleLaurent81]

@@ebonidtshe said speak to not sign…🙄

[@amandaboyens]

@@ebonidt She's never said he had an issue with her boyfriend and neither has he. That's a reach

[@amandaboyens]

@@Ihateyoutube643 I've watched Stephens videos and he wasn't saying he didn't like him. It was just the fact of another man " taking his family". Stephen says these things so he can get them out, and get over it. That was a while back and it's obvious he doesn't feel that way anymore

[@kristennations8516]

@@Ihateyoutube643 She has a 3 year old why would she move in with a boyfriend

[@kristinegil466]

Girl….Don’t let him move in!! Let him figure out his living situation on his own. The same woman who is going to help him rent out his house can help him find a place. He will get in there & never leave & the mind games will be a plenty!! You don’t need that mess. ♥️🙏🏽

[@rachael943]

^^^^THIS!!!!

[@springflowerfairy83]

I definitely agree with this

[@marleyhill34]

As someone who was recently diagnosed as autistic and been diagnosed over 10 years with mental health issues ( no addiction issues) I think Stephen needs to live life on his own terms sober, not co-dependent, not doing dysfunctional/maladaptive things. I've lived alone for 10 years, It's not so bad and that way the kids don't have to grow up feeling like his emotional support caretakers when what they really need is a DAD! I second putting strict boundaries in place so that He can set up his own routine instead of just tagging along with whatever the family are doing.

[@ItsBellum]

@marleyhill34 All of this. Good on you for adapting and finding routines to help you function while having mental health diagnoses. Being an emotional support caregiver is burdensome, especially when caring for someone who is relying on you to do the work for them

[@marleyhill34]

@@ItsBellum I know someone who grew up with a single mum with physical disabilities. The more her mum leaned on her the more her own mental health deteriorated. Eventually her mum had to have a separate professional carer from social services. It's difficult for kids. Even i worry about how i will manage my autism mental health and my elderly parents as an adult. We know Alfie has autism but we can't put all the burden on Laura and Poppy as she gets older.

[@hollamonE]

100% listen to your gut and intuition. You two have worked so hard to have an understanding and accepting relationship. This may take it backward. He has to know this.

[@13Ilovenature13]

Ask your soul. It will know the answer❤

[@13Ilovenature13]

Your kids are beautiful ! They really bring a smile😍😍😍😍😍

[@standup2982]

You know that voice in your head which is screaming "DON'T DO IT!!" That's your gut reaction, listen to it because it will rarely fail you. I've got five children, two girls and three boys. With potty training I put them in proper underwear, made a big thing about how clever they were and went for it. No pull ups, they need to feel that wet knickers doesn't feel good. Honestly, girls are easier than boys to potty train 👍 Good luck! ❤

[@loshay5638]

Listen to your rational mind on this one girl.

[@LeahBreHappy]

The problem is sometimes rational mind doesn't always workout, lead with the heart. ❤

[@loshay5638]

@@LeahBreHappy and sometimes following the heart doesn't work out. Sometimes one has to override the other.

[@alyssareed3292]

agreed!!! This wouldn't be good

[@laurawall2827]

LISTEN TO YOUR HEAD ! ❤ Its a foot back in the door that you dont want. Its not healthy for either of you. Your heart can help him find another more appropriate space. ❤

[@lndz3089]

Yes, agree 100% ❤

[@shadowpuppet0312]

I mean, she posted about him picking a fight with her and then refusing to leave her home. Does she think that will change when he's living on her property?

[@amandaboyens]

@@shadowpuppet0312 i saw the Tiktok he didn't refuse to leave her home... She was saying it passive aggressively and not directly saying " Stephen leave". She said something like " if you want to keep filming go to your home and film" and he stopped filming. He's Autistic. She knows she has to be direct...and i think she knows her situation better than any of us, so if she wants to let him live there, I'll support her

[@AstrologicalTools]

@@shadowpuppet0312 Do you often talk out of your bum?

[@jolyneatherton]

Also I agree with a below comment that not8ced Stephen referring to Alfie as nonverbal quite often. Kids hear everything. So if he hears his dad say "oh Alfie doesn't talk " that will stunt his speech growth. Alfie is very verbal and in can tell you put so much effort into him while he grew up. He's a completely different boy- I'm so proud of him! Just ask Stephen to watch his words because he tends to say what he's thinking outloud and we all know from his past videos he gets some major hate for not thinking before speaking. Much love to you two and the kids. You all coparent great. Stop feeling sorry for Stephen. He is not your problem Laura. Tell him to look for a place but you can't allow him to move in because being separated means just that. A separate house/life/relationships/etc. I'm glad you found him a realtor but he's not your child. Give him her info and your work is done. I love you and feel you put far too much effort into helping Stephen maintain as an adult. Defending him/babying/mothering him. Not your problem anymore. Focus on your boyfriend. Funny he conveniently would like to move in after you start a relationship. Be careful. He was tracking your whereabouts less than a year ago. Things can get crazy quick. He seems quite obsessed with wanting his family back. He's a great father. But he had the chance to be with you and we all watched you try to get him to work on the relationship prior to the separation- he choice to relapse (or almost?) Instead. Live your life. You're doing nothing wrong but carrying him on your shoulders babe.

[@alisoncole5191]

Alfie is speaking really well. His understanding with his words are amazing. ❤❤

[@patriciablackburn9860]

Today was a sober day thats awesome Today I helped someone struggling Today I'm grateful for my program Xxxxxxxx

[@kristinrawlings3436]

Yay 😊!!

[@zosiarozanska4945]

Far be it for me to tell you what to do......... Do not let him move in. 🙊🙊🙊🙊 You will never get him out & then will come the mind games.......... Co parenting should not lead to living together......... See the red flags 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

[@joannakuyt1512]

I don’t see any red flags for this particular co-parenting couple. No relationship is perfect. The stress that it takes to raise not one but two children on the Autism spectrum is as overwhelming as it is an amazing blessing. It’s best to have at least a co-parenting situation in the home for children who have Autism Spectrum or other special needs. Now if it were my former husband and I moving in with each other for sake of our children then I would be absolutely certifiable. 😂😂😂😂

[@dianecooper5770]

You need boundaries to have separate lives with a real potential partner. You let him in, it will be a disaster. You know his track record and it's not good! He plays mind games and will certainly get worse being right there on your property.

[@Jessg1rl]

Especially, bc California has strong squatter rights. And it could be hell to get him out, if he won't leave.

[@flyingwithoutgravity]

@@joannakuyt1512is poppy autistic too?

[@nightowlluna7821]

I've lived with my ex for 11 years, drama free, zero romance and we do just fine. we now consider each other as best friends. my 17 year old son even mentioned the other day how much he looks up to us and our ability to get along and when we disagree how we have taught him a healthy way of making up. in his words " Its like a love story of a different kind" many people dont realize that a break up doesn't have to be toxic.

[@Weuwe22]

Also, if your gut is telling you ‘not a good idea’ regarding living situations I’d stick with that. It’s so difficult, but it isn’t your responsibility to find somewhere for him. I understand your ideal situation would be co-parenting that close but unfortunately history has shown it may not be the best outcome for you. You’ve worked so hard to get the peace you have now, let that continue and he will figure it out but you don’t have to - sending you so much love ❤❤❤

[@soychansa]

Like I replied to you on the Facebook post of this (which I don't see there anymore so not sure if deleted or just Facebook silliness) please don't let him move back on the property. Listen to your rational mind in this situation. Your heart will eventually see and integrate this wisdom. He asks you "where am I going to go' is an emotional manipulation whether he or you realize it or not and how he fuels your codependent heart. He's a man of 50. He already knew the answer you gave him and needs to, like any non toxic ex husband, find his own place to live. He'll still be able to see the kids just like he did before. I just worry that he'll use your heart against you to get his foot in the door. This could be entirely outside of his conscious intention - or not - but regardless the impact is the same and you can't trust him to respect your boundaries if this rescue response is all he's ever known. Protect yourself and your kids. I really wish you the best. Good luck. I hope you'll consider all these comments and not dismiss them like the meme you recently posted about opinions.

[@kimberleynealis5808]

Nooooo, you will end up regretting it, he's made his bed. You are not responsible for that man any more!

[@fragilefleur]

And on the positive way to go Alfie! Sharing and talking is coming along so well! That’s huge in autism leaps and bounds. His verbal has come so far.

[@tray7753]

No, no no he should not be moving into your guest house no question. And you know that listen to what your head is saying not your heart today but lead with your heart when talking to him about it

[@lndz3089]

Laura I love your tender heart and concern and compassion for your coparent. However, if it did not work out it could be an ABSOLUTE nightmare to get him to vacate, (not sure about laws in CA but in MA it can take years to successfully evict the worst of tenants) also worry about custody and such things. He is a grown man and can find an apartment or house more in his price range/size for a single person. I just feel moving into the guest house could potentially be dangerous for you, the kids, and your recovery/sanity. Please pray about it as I’m sure you do, and talk to your sponsor and other trusted women in your program…. Trust their wisdom and answers. ❤❤❤ sometimes we need to trust logic and look at old patterns vs listening to our hearts. All said with love and understanding…. I hope it comes off that way!!

[@Jessg1rl]

From what I've heard California has strong squatter rights...🤷‍♀️

[@MsOoglyBoo]

If you can keep a family together while the kids are young that would be the best thing you could do for them. They made them they need to raise them together. You always do what's best for them. This is the next best thing besides living in the same house.

[@mrspricecreates]

The problem with allowing someone to rent from you if things don’t work out it’s nearly impossible in California to evict them, add to it the messiness of them being your kids parent. The kids get used to him being there and then things don’t work out it causes more confusion for them. It’s a tough one. Not to mention how will it work with them having other women over, or you wanting to have boyfriends over, or want to remarry. Kind of awkward when your ex lives on the property. Dating our age is hard enough. Can you imagine being like “oh yeah, my ex lives in my guest house”. I don’t know. Seems like you both will have a lack of privacy I wish you the best in your decision

[@lizzyleefree1593]

Alfie's happy little bounce squatting by the water is the cutest thing. 😢❤

[@dazzlingdee1694]

Speaking from someone who's going through what you are (me after a 22 yr marriage), please do not subject yourself by allowing him to live in your guesthouse. I'm going through the extreme financial abuse at the moment and trying to keep from losing my house because of mine. If you allow him to move into your guesthouse he will never leave on a good note in the end. I sympathize with you because you are forced to interact with him after all he's done because you have children together. 🫂 All of us survivors deserve a gold 🏅 medal after what they've already put us through. Always remember that they never change. Theyll always repeat things all over again and each time it becomes worse. Stay strong and guard your heart! ❤

[@creativesexpression4929]

Victims of emotional blackmailers are prone to experience a psychological FOG, which stands for Fear, Obligation, and Guilt. Manipulators often use guilt by behaving needy and or helpless. Letting go with love !

[@joray5756]

My ex used tattics like that too and I believed him. It did not go well for me. I am actively having to seek out a special therapist to deal with the trauma from just that period of my life as of this moment. This is not to say people can't change. It is to say make them 100% PROOVE it first.

[@swblanc]

You have joked that he wants to get back together. If that is at all true, do not let him move back in.

[@Happy311full]

I hope your decision becomes more obvious and easier to make for you ❤ Personally, seeing the two of you and how he is, I would not enertain any possibilty of him living with you again. Stay your beautiful self 😊

[@justtee1259]

You have the biggest heart Laura - I felt like the comments were unfair to you , only you can make that choice it’s not a question if your making the right decision or the wrong decision for you , the kids or Stephan - like you say we just have too boss up and be an adult-personally im still healing from a separation from my ex husband and I could never only because of my own unresolved issues I have . I admire you so much for this - you are a wonderful mum and the kids will see one day that even tho mummy and daddy have some issues- you allowed space for co parenting even though you’re conflicted.

[@beckymays1677]

Terrible idea! ALWAYS go with your gut. You know this is not good for you and your kids. You’ll be exactly where you don’t want to be… again. You owe Stephen nothing. Don’t fall for the manipulation.

[@lisahodgson7126]

Oh boy!! Alarm bells going off when you say he might move into the guest house! Big mistake! As you say….there will be something he can rent and still be close without creating an issue 💙💚

[@tinajackson7688]

Yes, and I’m sure the realtor can help him with his search as well.

[@Knottycrochetery]

Where he goes is HIS journey. You need a space that it yours, that you can escape to when you need to, and inviting your ex to the guest house means you no longer have that. It also gives him even more control. He is taking advantage and manipulating you. He knows darn well you will want to say yes, he knows it will hurt you to say no, and he bets on you caving. PLEASE for you and your children, DON'T!

[@ValerieSEllis]

I can tell you that I let my ex move back in - with all the best intentions, and all the agreements in place etc. - it was the biggest mistake of my life. We are divorced now. But the pain of what I experienced during the time that I let him live with me again, and the permanent damage it did to my children and my relationship with my daughter? I can’t undo it. Biggest mistake of my life. That’s my experience, for what it’s worth.

[@lamac5770]

I highly suggest against it. Especially if ur dating again. He's so unstable and sick with no insight. Good luck, lady!❤

[@marciecatanese9888]

Laura, thank you for sharing your journey with sobriety. I'm 6 1/2 months sober, and God shots are real! You are such an inspiration to many of us.

[@lissamtate66]

You are amazing with your children! Your love is palpable. ❤️

[@marshmallow_pony]

dont let him move back in!

[@ayrelewis1495]

I always loved when my parents were friends. I loved when he moved back in for a while. He was looking for a rental. They had both remarried. But at 7 I asked to have vacations and holidays with both of them. I’m 46 and my dad had to move in my house with my mom and me. He had major surgery they found cancer. So for two months I had both of them under my roof. It was so healing having just us together.

[@pikachuiloveyou-il6zz]

Listen to your rational mind. Stephen does not strike me as someone who knows how to respect boundaries. That's not a judgement, but just an observation (from his content, and whatnot). It doesn't mean that you are doing a bad thing, by putting that space between you two. It's best to keep yourself healthy. Granted, I am basing it on limited observations. And aging is a bitch. I turned 41 this last year, and from the time I was 35 up until now, my body has completely changed. Remember to do what is best for YOU. Your kids will continue to flourish, as long as you are doing well emotionally.

[@sar-uh]

Beautifully and tenderly said ~

[@ItsBellum]

U know what would be cool. If Stephen didn't put you in the uncomfortable position to have make such a difficult decision

[@tiiamkgs]

What the...? Did you even listen to what Laura said? Anyway, sometimes in life you have to make difficult decisions. It is what it is. For the love of God, Laura is an adult and I'm sure she can handle one suggestion from another adult. No one has put her in any situation here 😂

[@ItsBellum]

He could just find a place nearby to rent and not make his problem hers ​@@tiiamkgs

[@LaLa-xh7bz]

Exactly! He is such a selfish person for putting that on her. Just go find a place to rent close by and leave her alone. He does not need to be in the guest house so he can play his mind games with her.

[@dianawardrip5171]

Grow up!

[@LaLa-xh7bz]

@@tiiamkgs oh we listened… did you listen? Or you just a hateful souks like Stephen 😆😆😆😆 yep you are 👏🏽

[@EvelynJoy]

Watching while gardening and my autistic 4 year old is also jumping on his trampoline! The "I love you too"s are melting my heart!!!

[@Bexinmo]

Boys and girls are VERY different when it comes to potty training. I was a daycare teacher with 16 3 year olds and the girls just did it. The boys were a mixed bag. I was a fan of potty stickers. I let them pick a sticker to wear if they went in and did a pee, and then I had some big, extra special stickers if they went poop. For 90% of them, that was the motivation needed, but there is always one...Keiran was my special guy. He wouldn't have anything to do with the potty. So I sat him down and asked him why he didn't want to go to the potty. He told me if he did he wouldn't be him mommy's baby any more. I loved that manipulative little shit more than I should have. He was so freaking smart. He probably could have convinced me to buy him a Ferrari given enough time. Odd to think he is 20 now.

[@honorsilverthorne7227]

F*ck NO don't let him move back in!! Have you forgotten about how he purposely picked an argument with you in front of his online followers just to get clicks, not caring how manipulative he was being to you? And now he's manipulating you again, by saying Where would he go. He's grown. He's NOT your responsibility.

[@Marthaad]

Laura .. please remember these things

[@cityamish1]

There both fake

[@CheerfulNihilism]

Renting the guest house is a terrible, terrible idea.

[@rachelkrumpelman5131]

Right? But I completely understand feeling torn. I would, too. Maybe I have a codependent heart as well 😮

[@vonbonbonjager]

At the end of the day, everyone judges and has opinions they will figure it out. I wish them the best!

[@cjcarver6290]

Absolutely

[@jenniwilliams3295]

Honestly I feel sorry for the kids and no one else in this situation The two adults have created it and just continue to be toxic both everyone cheers her on but she's just as toxic those kids deserve better

[@SerendipitySpoke]

Your heart is kind, but your head is giving you excellent advice! The realtor can help him find new housing. You did an amazing thing in recommended someone to help him.

[@sparkleystar75]

Everyones experience will be different. Laura just do whats right for you and the kids xXx

[@ashlynneMichalowski-pk5ie]

Today, I am finally free from my abusive 10 year marriage. I filed for divorce and bought a new car. I am finally living the life that myself and my children and I deserve. I am meant to live in peace, and everything is working out better than I could have ever imagined. Laura, you have inspired me and kept me going during a very dark time in my life. Today was a huge accomplishment for me, and I'm proud of who I have become.

[@kristinrawlings3436]

You should be proud sweetheart 😊

[@merrybluegirl8930]

You should be So Proud of YOU!!! I am so happy for you! Stay on your path no matter what!🎆

[@Catmafia5678]

No to that. If it's a question 😂🙏❤️

[@bevehrsroberts]

I love the way you are raising and teaching your children!

[@Chezlshay]

I keep hearing Stephen referring to Alfie as "nonverbal", but I hear several seemingly spontaneous, communicative phrases including "yes", "jump higher", "jump with me", "put the leaf in the water", and "cookie". Would love to hear an update of Alfie's progress! (Also, totally understand if it's private)

[@OnePaperPlane]

So, non-verbal autism is an interesting thing (this is coming from my experience with my boyfriend's non-verbal daughter). It's not always that they can't communicate at all, it's more like they're trying to communicate but can't speak the language. Example, Sara (I'm using a fake name for her), can understand everything she hears around her but cannot get the right words to come out of her mouth, so she echoes what she hears and repeats things she has heard that will hopefully get what she needs across. Like, she has a call she will do if she needs something and we do our best to piece it together. She has a few sentences that she can say (Cookies please, gotta bathroom, etc), but she has trouble communicating the bigger ideas. It can be extremely frustrating for her sometimes because in her head she is a mostly normal 12 year old, but she can't communicate that without using a keyboard, which to anyone outside of her teachers and family makes her appear to be less intelligent than she is and strangers often treat her like a toddler. She has broken down in tears because she gets so frustrated that she can't say what she wants. Anyway, I hope this helps. I know it's not specifically about Alfie, but I figured I could help shed some light from my experience

[@caffeinerequired3136]

my sons non verbal he hums all the time sometimes vocalizes babababa! mamamamama! when he is hyper reaches towards what he wants will grab his backpack and walk to the door when he wants to go out, he sometimes will try to talk but he says words at random and if you try to get him to talk he doesn't copy he just smiles and hums to himself

[@amandaboyens]

@@OnePaperPlane exactly. Non verbal doesn't mean you can't speak at all. Alfie has been diagnosed as non verbal

[@MonstehDinosawr]

​@@amandaboyens it's why those of us who are autistic prefer the term non speaking over non verbal

[@CassieMosher]

Also, sometimes a child will be diagnosed as non-verbal and/or a level (1‐3) when first diagnosed with autism (around 3yo), and when they're reevaluated a few years later, with time and people helping to understand their specific needs and what methods work best to help them learn, their "level" and official verbal status can change. My nephew was also diagnosed as non-verbal, and he is now doing full sentences unprompted and expressing his needs verbally very clearly. Sometimes they just need more tailored teaching. And if they end up truly being non-verbal, that's okay too, there's nothing wrong with them. :)

[@dodirae]

So he wants to use you again for his benefit. Smh

[@julievargas8527]

Follow your gut with potty training. All my kids were so different. You got this mama.

[@breklingman7098]

Also braces and invisaline changes the face in those woth hypermobility to in more dramatic ways. Jusy sharing bc i wish i understood erlier how much my own connective tissue diseasw affecrsx every single aspect of my life. You inspire me fyi with all the ways you are trying and working on yourself and they ways your helping your kids. Im an addict in recovery to for mant years and i think most of us really struggle woth codependency.

[@peggydrawspictures]

I haven't watched every single video or anything, but didn't you eventually, after a few tearful videos about how checked out and uninvolved he is, divorce this guy because you were tired of feeling alone in your relationship while he was just kind of hanging out in the periphery, being emotionally unavailable and shady? i don't see how having him in your guest house would be all that different.

[@carolgilreath9416]

Don’t rent your guest house to Stephen, your not together for a reason. He’s not your responsibility. Great talking Alfie

[@Hippierae42893]

I love how understanding and patient even Poppy is with Alfie. My son is 5 in a few days. And only over the last year has he found his "real you" voice where he realized he could say the words we are. Autism is a scary but so amazing and such a beautiful learning experience ✨️ 💕

[@victoriawhitley9906]

First of all Alfie is maturing and speaking so much more it's amazing. Second tell Stephen our chapter as a unit is over. He is responsible for a place to live and your guest house is not a crash pad.

[@misskitten333]

Your babies are pure magic. I know how hard the journey has been, but you're doing such a good job and you need to be reminded. Love.

[@shariselove]

Oh goodness...I don't think that would be a good idea...but what do I know😮

[@Mademoiselle-Bee]

This is a truly horrible idea. Too enmeshed, too codependent, and contrary to what a lot of people might think - it sends a very mixed message to your children.

[@amandaboyens]

Having him in the guest house doesn't send a mixed message. I grew up with separated parents living in the actual same house and it wasn't bad at all, it was actually great. Having access to both parents whenever I wanted .

[@nightowlluna7821]

I've lived with my ex for 11 years, drama free, zero romance and we do just fine. we now consider each other as best friends. my 17 year old son even mentioned the other day how much he looks up to us and our ability to get along and when we disagree how we have taught him a healthy way of making up. in his words " Its like a love story of a different kind" many people dont realize that a break up doesn't have to be toxic.

[@amandaboyens]

@@nightowlluna7821 exactly, kids actually thrive in this environment if the parents get along. :). My hubby came from divorced parents and HATED the two homes, because he never felt " home", he always felt like a visitor

[@nightowlluna7821]

@amandaboyens7948 what it all boils down to is the decision to get along.

[@amandahawkins87]

Listen, at the end of the day, what works for one family might not work for another family but it's Laura's decision to make and if she thinks its a good idea to keep the kids closer to him and she decides to let him move in, all we can do is support her and her decisions and not judge her for them... This might be a bad idea, but it could turn out to be an amazing thing for them all.

[@VanessaCas-mk1bz]

I just love her little voice❤❤❤

[@Kelkel815]

A good friend told me that if your head , heart and gut don’t all agree then something isn’t right and to do more soul searching till they all agree. I hope you get this all figured out ❤

[@Ralphies_Mom]

I have been listening to the podcasts, so watching this, i cant believe how far Alfie has come with his communication, and giving Poppy cookie, and just being a happy boy!

[@Littlehensnaturals]

Always go with your heart! We come from pure love. Do listen to your lovely heart 💜

[@jae2631]

Your kids are amazing and beautiful. Alfie makes me want a kid so bad! How much he loves you 😭😭 it’s so wonderful!!

[@lauriebieda4498]

Poppy is adorable 🥰

[@oshifish2]

I would say a big NO on renting the cottage. Reason being is that you both have shown jealously issues and this could really amp that up even if you feel you are both past it. If he sees you laughing and having a fun time with your new love interest, he may just " pick that time" to go see the kids, ruining your night. Now on to being thankful. I am thankful for my health and going to see my good friend today for just a silly hangout on a late winters day!

[@bandme796]

My cousin's rented their guest house to their grandson and his wife. There were clear boundaries about when they could be in the main house and it was all spelled out in the rental agreement. If you do rent to Stephen make a rental agreement and go through a rental agency. It makes it less personal and more business.

[@stephanieklemetsrud6781]

I made that mistake. I was having a really hard time with two little ones, working, and no help at all. I thought it would be easier for me and the kids. WRONG! Rented him part of the house. DISASTER! NO NO NO!! NoNoNo! We were doing pretty well before separated but after that disaster we became enemies. DO NOT DO IT. Bad for everyone. I ended up with me and the kids in therapy to recover from that disaster! Not good for you or the kids with the moving in, moving out …DOnOT DO IT!

[@noreinzweidrei2607]

If you want to stay friends with Stephen, don't let him move into your guest house! I speak from experience. 😢

[@amandaboyens]

It does work , it's not always bad. I grew up with separated parents living under the same roof and it was amazing

[@amandaboyens]

@@PyraMonero yes they dated new people. And we were under one roof . Stephen isn't dating ATM, Laura is. And the property is HUGE and he would be in the guest house. Not everything has to be negative either. They get along great

[@PyraMonero]

@@amandaboyens I’m pretty sure he has a new gf already since his last one according to his recent posts. Sure anything can happen in this world but it’s important to trust our intuition and make the best possible choices for ourselves and our children we can. I’m not trying to tell her or anyone what to do with their life, but I have experience being cheated on and losing the love of my life and I just don’t think Laura deserves any more hurt than she’s experienced already. I don’t feel this is a good move for Stephen either. The wounds are too fresh and both of them are trying to get strong. Again, I don’t know them personally obviously I’m just forming an opinion from things they have shared publicly. I happen to think they are both awesome people and want the best for both of them. Ultimately they will decide what’s best for them. Your opinion matters too and again I’m happy hear that this situation worked well for you. 🫶🏽

[@DeathnoteBB]

@@amandaboyens”they get along great” Since when

[@PyraMonero]

@@amandaboyens I am pretty sure he is dating someone new according to his recent posts. What happens when an argument happens? Why does he need to be that close? Look, I’m a fan of both of them and want the best for both. Having been cheated on myself I just don’t want to see Laura open old wounds by having her ex husband and his new girlfriends coming over etc. not to mention how confusing it will be for both of them as their separation and divorce is so recent. They are both also in recovery and this could set them both back. You’re entitled to your opinion and I’m happy for you that a similar situation worked for you. 🫶🏽

[@WitchHazel13]

Trust yourself, if it doesn't feel 100% right to you don't do it. It isn't unkind to maintain a boundary and space. Two things that helped us a lot through potty training were 1. I found an animated short for kids on KZbin called potty princess that my daughter really enjoyed and wanted to watch whenever she sat to potty. The second tip is layering sheets and mattress protectors so that if/when they have an accident at night it is a quick easy less stressful clean up for everyone so you can all get back to sleep. Think mattress protector, sheet, mattress protector, sheet. Just take of the wet layers and set aside until morning clean and comfort your kid then back to sleep.

[@LaLa-xh7bz]

Don’t do it Laura. Listen to your rational mind and keep him at a distance. He can rent a place close enough to see the kids. Stephen is a HOT MESS!

[@wesbennett6600]

Thank you for sharing some of your recovery process & much gratitude for setting a healthy example for others who are just coming around. Just celebrated 8 years myself about a month ago. Best thing ever. ❤❤❤

[@InvincibleSummer7]

Short answer no.

[@sarose1006]

I agree I think you should listen to your gut and not let Stephen move into the guest house. I know you care about him and have love for him which is exactly why you should not let him move in there.

[@wistfulwriter7]

The hardest of hard nos on this one. You need space! He needs to rent somewhere else that is close.

[@Amy-hl4rx]

@LAURA CLERYI don’t know if this helps your decision, but in California squatters have more rights than the home owner. From personal experience if he gets a foot in the door, everything you have worked so hard for will be undone. Once someone is allowed to live on said property you will never be able to get rid of him and the courts won’t help you because of the crazy California laws. I am so sorry this is happening. In the end, the decision is yours to make, but if you are thinking about for the sake of the kids, they will not benefit from the toxicity of your relationship with Steven, as they are older now. I just hope the laws regarding squatters in California help in the final decision 🫶🏻 You are a kind soul Laura, your therapist is a great person to talk to about this. Love & Light

[@melissamackenzie973]

There aren’t enough words in the English language for me to express how BAD of an idea Stephen moving into your guest house is. You are taking the separation out of your separation. He will take advantage of your kindness, pretend to not be able to find a permanent place to live and then you will be stuck with him living on your property while you are trying to live your life with your new boyfriend. Whoever is telling you this is fine, hasn’t seen enough of Stephen’s crazy content. He’s an adult, he can figure out his life on his own. Co-parenting doesn’t mean co-housing.

[@tracysamson6436]

Your little girl is so precious 🥰. She looks so much like you Laura. BTW, you are a fantastic and beautiful mother, woman, person.

[@wendyallen9697]

Started the day off fully rested. Got to work early. My husband packed me a wholesome wonderful breakfast and lunch for work. And it is only 4 pm so there’s so much time left for things to go right. Always remember to speak kindly to yourself and others and you can do hard things. Alfie seems to be thriving in his school.

[@kgrounds2266]

Alfie is speaking so well! ❤

[@RAJOPRODUCTIONS1962]

So beautiful, so precious ❤

[@BobbyLandiaPDX]

Listen to you head on this one, girl!

[@TheodoraKimmelHello]

I like the mixed metal necklaces. I like your jewelry styles in general. It’s clear it’s a creative outlet for you, not just making funny videos.

[@amyisaak8530]

Its a different house, and you can make boundaries around date nights and guests. Having your kids dad be able to be actively engaged in family life, is crucial at this stage in your kids life. NO drug's and no Guests.

[@miamistrawberry]

Absolutely do not let Stephen closer to you. He could find somewhere smaller slightly farther away. He’s trying to be as close as possible to watch you. Your boundaries are valid and you deserve to be respected.

[@FeistyFronds]

If you want to have a good relationship with Stephen, dont have him be THAT close. That will end with disaster. You need your personal space, the backyard or even next door is not enough!

[@kikiny2087]

NO, NO, NO. Let him figure it out. He needs to be on his own. You can’t be his mommy, you have 2 children.

[@stephaniecook7603]

Alfie is such a loving sweet boy ❤ and Poppy is so adorable and talks so well, they both do. 🥰

[@Weuwe22]

Hey! I work in child care and the best recommendations I can give for potty training Poppy are: Role play, play with her favourite toys especially if they’re baby dolls, small world people etc and get the to sit on the potty during play and overly praise the toy as if you would do with Poppy. Everytime she sits down over praise and explain what you can do on the potty ‘when you sit down, you’re trying for a wee wee or a poo poo’ it’s practising to use a toilet! Keep it in conversation, go to the toilet yourself and explain what you’re doing and that she can try too. Encourage sitting on the potty as regular intervals as I’m sure you’ll catch some action happening! Make potty sitting fun! Read stories together sing songs all involving going to the toilet (there are many books and songs) I usually make some up haha I usually sing ‘One little, two little, three little wee wees, four little, five little, six little wee wees, seven little, eight little, nine little wee wees, TEN! Wee wees on the potty’ and the same for ‘poo poo’. If you encourage potty sitting within her routine and not at random she’ll be more prone to getting used to it sooner too :) As it helps them sit for longer if they enjoy counting. Hope any of this helps xxxx

[@alexeusnicol]

My mom was a daycare provider and all the kids napped until 5. If they don't sleep then they rest

[@daniellecroce7]

3 things that went right for me today ❤: 1. I made a delicious lunch of salmon, Parmesan green beans, and roasted sweet potatoes and shared it with my mom and nanny 2. My favorite comfy outfit was washed and dried for a cozy Monday fit 3. My baby said mama mama mama mama mama all morning ❤

[@ashesrose5]

I was invited by the Dean of my college to have lunch and share my story about my recovery journey and my academic achievement. This spring, I will be graduating with a 4.0 GPA and taking my certification exam to become a certified alcohol and drug counselor. Four years ago, I was suffering in the insanity. Today, I am invited as the student rep for my program to share my experience strength and hope with the Dean. Recovery is amazing ❤

[@dawnhansen5770]

He will do the same thing he did before Don’t let him move back in a bad decision

[@Thatonechick778]

I swear we are the same person lol. I’m 37 and yes to the face change and yes to the Whole Foods salad bar! I ❤ it too. I’m getting out of an unhealthy relationship too and I have fought my head and heart too definitely go with your head. I’ve found myself following my head and wishing I hadn’t bc things go back to the way they were. You broke up for a reason and your immediate reaction when he brought it up was to say that there were other places to stay. I hope everything works out.

[@MiniBrandsObsessedMama]

Breakfast went right and some Decluttering. That’s about it. Love your channel! ♥️

[@dorisrosa62]

How adorable she is ❤❤ you are such a great beautiful Mom, love the way you keep your Son entertained.. can’t believe your Kids are so big already, it’s like they was born yesterday and today they so big already... They adorable ♥️♥️ beautiful parents ❤

[@MistySpring]

DO NOT let him rent the guest house! The one that is screaming "no" is your intuition! I speak from experience!

[@len6871]

I agree intuition is a strong advocate of self preservation. No is no.

[@rachelrieken6843]

Things that went right today. I made it to work on time. I got the dogs out for a walk. I went swimming.

[@dragonaries5251]

Only yourself can know this, don't ask anyone here, mutual respect for eachother is needed ❤️❤️

[@whitneylawson9973]

Laura it has been a bit since I have watched any of your vlogs and just wanted to say that Alfie is doing so great!! I am so proud of him. And you! ❤

[@Noonooj88]

Laura, no. Ffs listen to us. We want to help you. Absolutely no.

[@tiffanymirabella4891]

I'm 37 and under my eyes have the biggest bags it's like I'm sporting garbage bags under them 😂 Just wanna say you're a really good Mom laura, your kids are absolutely beautiful