Stepparent Jealousy * BLENDED LIFE * Blended Family Podcast

[@jaclynh9343]

💯 my ex had his kids every single weekend + during the week + his ex had every weekend childfree + had the space + freedom to be w/ her bf. My ex had his kids 4 days minimum a week which incl weekends. There's no space for me clearly BC he works M - F + F - SUN + Tuesdays... I felt so overlooked.

[@hoemardagoat6382]

Honestly this video helped out a lot especially with me being a new step parent and not having any children I do feel like I am an outsider if not all the time most of the time and it makes me feel more open especially as the guy to just being able to talk about my own issues I can deal with.

[@Ang-xx5cd]

You don’t understand, thank you for speaking on these topics. I’m really struggling with my relationship and this blended life dynamic. I’m a step mom and have my own child with partner. You’ve really helped me feel not alone.

[@taha1127]

My husband won’t talk to me and that makes me feel worse.

[@mariaelenaherrera5738]

Im so happy to hear this! I do have jealousy towards my fiancé and his daughters moms co parent relationship because they make it so easy to work through problems together. My kids father and I have a bad bad co parent relationship we only talk on a court issued app and it still is so toxic.

[@lynnmangan5013]

First time listening to your podcast...thank you for being so open and sharing real life! Reassuring that I’m not alone😊

[@BlendedLife]

We are so grateful to have you here with us!!! Please let us know if we can answer any questions and no, you are not alone!!! :)

[@Frankybroadcast]

Stay away from single moms. Getting with a single mom is like putting gas in a car, that another man already wrecked. Don't do it fellas. You get all the responsibility and none of the authority. You will always come last. Stay away.

[@mrs.elentz2336]

I SO NEEDED THIS- thank you!!!! 😊

[@BlendedLife]

woohoo!!! We are so glad that we can be here for you! And we are so happy that you are here with us!!

[@daniellebollen5781]

Extra expenses beyond child support can be established in your divorce decree so I'm curious if he has been court ordered to help with some of those expenses like medical and extra activities. My decree breaks it down and we split extra expenses that are listed in there like sports, daycare and school fees. In Ohio, the child support order indicates that we each owe a percentage for medical expenses. But it sounds like she's more concerned with the boundary issues.

[@BlendedLife]

That is some great info Danielle! Thank you for sharing!!

[@kellepropst3100]

My husband NEVER supports me when it comes to my step daughter when it comes to my step son pretty much always does. But everyone knows he plays favorites with the daughter. And the daughter hates me basically and always runs to her dad if I try to ask her to do anything (picking up after her self, get ready for school) and she is rebellious big time!!!! I’m not allowed to do or say anything I’m supposed to just sit back and let it all happen even though He will not discipline her. How can my marriage survive this!?!? Am I the one that is making this a big deal?!? I desperately need help because now he’s talking about homeschooling her himself because she refuses to go to school. She’s 11 by the way.

[@justinadugan5789]

What's the Facebook group? I'd love to feel less alone and supported.

[@BlendedLife]

Here is a link to it! We are excited to see you there :) facebook.com/groups/285159338709513

[@Riley42-03]

Time stamps would be helpful

[@ruggedlifejewelry]

What if the feeling of jealousy is coming from a legitimate place? What if your husband treats your stepchild more like the spouse/confidant, has a lack of appropriate boundaries, puts them in a best friend place instead of a parent child relationship, prioritizes the child's luxuries over your core needs or the family's as a whole, always leaves with them or does their own thing right in front of you and ostracizes you then blames you for not wanting to be a family or wanting to "hang out" ? He has literally ignored me over and over when I'm talking because his child is here and he says he never sees him (has 50% custody), and also allows him to loudly interrupt us and have way too much control and say in the home/decisions. He allows his child to make decisions over me right in front of me because he wants to make him happy no matter what it does to our home or finances. He has even made plans for our family vacations with his son since he was 8, bought tickets, and then told me if I want I can tag along. He gets defensive, raises his voice, curses, and emotionally pushes me further away when I try to explain calmly how I'm feeling and my core needs which leads to him leaning emotionally more into his child then resolving anything with me thus making me feel more angry and sad. His favorite play is just saying I don't like his child which then shames me and shuts me up because I can't do or say anything then. The resentment isn't personal for the child but the bio parent is creating an environment where it is nearly impossible not to be. I also feel the gag order and have to fake my feelings or wait all week to ask my husband anything in private since I can't get any alone time with him so I have to sit on my frustrations and pretend to be happy when I'm upset. He won't even give me 5 min alone because he says he always sees me and needs to be with his son the ENTIRE time so much so his son can't even go to the bathroom without him calling him a few times to come back in the same room with him. Is this codependency? Please help. Do you do any email counseling?

[@agquaproductions9361]

Jealous is never legitimate so get that through your head especially if it’s a child and they aren’t yours. You don’t belong around children. Someone else’s relationship has nothing to do with you unless that child is disrespecting you. I know people like you and you’re disgusting and should not be married or even around or near someone’s kids.

[@AG_MACC]

I know somewhat of what your feeling. My gf treats her 11 year old son like he’s her spouse and let’s him have way too much control of adult spaces and conversations…then if I respond as an adult to him respectfully then I’m being mean or is accused of not liking him…she says she’s not the “affectionate type” but can show affection to him all the time. (Non sexually of course) but is soft…gentle…constant touching…ect I can go on and on but this def is an uncomfortable situation to be in…and as a step-parent I don’t see how this can be rewarding

[@hoemardagoat6382]

Honestly this video helped out a lot especially with me being a new step parent and not having any children I do feel like I am an outsider if not all the time most of the time and it makes me feel more open especially as the guy to just being able to talk about my own issues I can deal with.