Stereotypes vs. Archetypes | Hilary Blair | TEDxCherryCreekWomen

If human connection is essential, why do we thwart it by stereotyping others? Stereotypes are the fast-food of human connection: they fail to nourish us and, in the end, are detrimental to our thriving. Hilary Blair, leadership and communication coach, explores how a shift to Archetypes--the shared roles of the story of our lives--can assist us in expanding our views of others to create a more diverse and inclusive culture. Hilary Blair is a keynote speaker, champion of human connection, and the CEO of ARTiculate: Real&Clear. She is impassioned by moving beyond habits and learned behaviors to uncover what is unique and authentic in individuals and groups. A presentation and speaking voice expert, Hilary is a highly regarded coach and facilitator working extensively across the globe with a variety of businesses including American Express, Maersk, Staples, Liberty Global, Slalom, Merrill Lynch, and Hunter Douglas. Whether facilitating workshops on professional presence or on navigating tough conversations to improve leadership/team connection, or exploring the messiness of communication in a keynote. Hilary’s 30 plus years as a teacher combined with her professional stage, film and voice-over career present a unique skill set.
Hilary is certified in Conversational Intelligence and CultureTalk. She is an active member of NSA and former board member of the Colorado Chapter. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@_tanitani_]

What do we lose by using stereotypes (labels) for other people? Often we lose their humanity. When we think of "a guy" on the street, "the cop" at the scene, "the karen" in the store, "the server" in the restaurant, we don't think of them as a multi-dimensional, breathing, living, loving, hurting human being, but rather we think of them as two dimensional cutout, a stick figure, not much more than a placeholder, a nametag. It is static, it is dead. What do we gain by using archetypes? A growth vector, a potentiality, since they are the plan of what could be, of what is possible in an expansive sense. It is like how the seed of a mighty tree (or any other plant, lol) contains all the potentialities and the "blueprint", like an architect's model and drawings contain the idea that becomes manifest in the building on the physical plane.

[@hilaryblair2977]

Beautifully stated - thank you for sharing.

[@rumfordc]

TLDR: stereotypes are over-simplifications, archetypes are under-simplifications, humans choose stereotypes because they appear to save time and energy, but we should choose archetypes instead because they capture more detail in the long run.

[@_tanitani_]

Yes, archetypes are the plan of what could be, of what is possible in an expansive sense. It is like how the seed of a mighty tree (or any other plant, lol) contains all the potentialities and the "blueprint", like an architect's model and drawings contain the idea that becomes manifest in the building on the physical plane.

[@cynthiaforstmann6772]

We are all a unique mix of archetypes ...we can define which of these storylines are most relevant for us and how they are taking shape through life experiences.

[@jeice13]

Im not sure archetypes are actually more complex than stereotypes however they seem to be more an exploration of a distilled trait or role where stereotypes are simply a profile people or characters assume people will fit. I think it is more easily recognized subconsciously that human archetypes dont exist because because they can often have fewer independent traits than stereotypes (hero=does the right thing, black=watermelon, crime, other food assumptions and such none of which are particularly connected because that is the established profile of presumptions) though not being a moron should lead to at least some understanding that both arent depicting individuals

[@romaerb4161]

Thank you for sharing this! You have fully affirmed that when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.

[@hilaryblair2977]

and not always easy to do - takes energy and effort for sure.

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@@hilaryblair2977 I'd say that all that is worth the outcome. Thank you for rekindling the hope of a better tomorrow 💛

[@r.p.8906]

My beautiful friend Wayne Dyer! Thank you 😊

[@MarSprite]

Definitely one of the better TEDx Talks I've seen on KZbin. I'll be sharing this a bit.

[@hilaryblair2977]

thanks for sharing - maybe we can make a little shift -

[@aaisha1018]

As a visibly Muslim person I feel very strongly about what she said about putting people in boxes and limiting them

[@alfredomeza3456]

The best thing to do is be who u are and show them you are more than what they see👌🏾👌🏾

[@whysoserious-yj1ku]

As an Indian, visibly Hindu person I believe that many people have risen above from the religious division and stereotypes here now. I believe in every soul and so in you. Namaste!

[@meganobrien2674]

Hilary Blair! I stumbled upon your fabulous and enlightening talk when trying to link my students to a PBS clip. I have no idea how it happened but call it divine intervention or some such! How lovely to see you and hear your inspiring and beautiful words. The last time I saw you was at Logan Airport about 20 years ago. What a lovely way to "see" you again! Hopefully, someday, we can truly reconnect. In the meantime, I will be sharing your talk with my colleagues.

[@hilaryblair2977]

wow Megan! How fabulous to run into you again! and thanks for sharing the idea! do connect - linked in? our website (articulaterc.com) or FB? thanks for saying hey!

[@carissanami5824]

"you don't need to be a follower. it's better for you to be a creator" -my mom

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Your mom seems to be a wise person lol

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[@carissanami5824]

@@jabeenfathima1870thanks! honestly she taught me a lot about confidence and to worry less 💫

[@dominicmdesouza]

What a brilliant insight, thank you! Stereotypes shut things down. Archetypes get things going.

[@SY-sp8uo]

Don't try to fit in when you were born to be different! 🥂

[@illshooterrr]

ego talking

[@elvoj5245]

Stereotypes, our fast food when comes to human connection.

[@sandramurcia2937]

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[@394seed5]

perfect analogy!

[@johnsmithson4479]

Way to repeat exactly what she says in the vid

[@mattclements1348]

Ill take the dollar menu 😏

[@r.p.8906]

One is a judgment and the other is knowledge and love. They have nothing in common and only determine who the observer is.

[@hilaryblair2977]

interesting way of framing it - thank you for sharing that point.

[@salvador6322]

Brava! Hard truths beautifully shared, thanks.

[@marthiajanes3538]

This message shows the greatness in the speaker well said

[@DylansPhotos]

what a wonderful talk

[@ryma.ilhem43]

This is such a good talk, loved every bit of it!!!

[@TheaDragonSpirit]

It's like we need to stop trying to put people in to boxes, and listen to them and talk to them, not just figure out how to decide what they are.

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I felt that "..... sharp edge that cuts" statement....

[@cynthiaforstmann6772]

I love that line too!

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Worth watching👍🙌👏👌

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[@marthiajanes3538]

Very well spoken

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Thanks.

[@rumfordc]

wow! an actually decent Ted Talk! surely there is some catc-- SHE WORKS FOR THE NSA?

[@hilaryblair2977]

that did make me laugh -- and glad it held together for you.

[@jeimyparada6334]

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[@diucho2118]

Superb.

[@barta9342]

There are limitations in how much information the brain can proces. We use shortcuts . We try to make to future predictable so we can anticipates on changes and possible treats. Stereotype thinking is one of them . It is a rough and simple tole but fast . We can react fast . Negative or positive stereotypes aren't to be trust because not every one who looks the same is the same, mostly not. We think to recognise bad or good people in a matter of a second, afterwards it can be a mistake. In a safe environment chose to be surprised. Don't judge on appearance. Archetypes are means to tell a story , everyone recognizes its function in a story. Caricatures are obvious over the top. Used to make something very clear , to offend, to ridicules, make fun of. People who are personally offended by stories, movies, fary tales are very sensible (or indoctrinated ) and need probably psychotherapy to manage this.' Its a human right , freedom of expression in picture and word. In politics its used to be political correct or incorrect. There is a difference in the imaginary world of archytypes, stereotypes, caricatures and the real word. If jou can't see this difference you wll believe that they are treu . You're not able to see the reality or the person in front of you. To be honest that is not always necessary . Most inter-human contact and social interactions take place in a setting ,a framing. Customer and cashier , patient and dentist , teacher and student . Every one knows his /her part and what can be expected . It is fast , easy and safe.

[@spikerdark]

thank you very much for the video, you are good professor, I am from Brazil I have a big dream about future and my next conversation thanks

[@My2cents.]

Narrative of Self is the result of a feedback loop between “Separate Self” & Cosmos✌️

[@hissendaud653]

Hissen daoud from the Sudan I living in Italy

[@MrWnw]

When I choose archetypes for somebody, at that exact moment, I stereotyped them... This is such a pointless controversy

[@sikrem8470]

Woah

[@joecombs7468]

But in today's society people WANT to stereotype everyone who does not think exactly like them. No one wants to understand anyone.

[@matth9103]

This is probably due to the large number of people that we interact with on an everyday basis (at least before covid). Most people simply aren't willing to spend the mental energy required to individualise each person they interact with, and so naturally adopt the simplest mental model - a stereotype. Additionally, our attention spans have been severely compromised due (in part) to social media and clickbait - and so requires an even greater effort to maintain the focus required to see past the surface features of anothers personality. I am unsure of how many people have even realised that they do this, as it happens at a subconscious level - and so requires a decent level of self-analysis to discover. From my own experience, it took several years of analysis during my late-teens/early-20s to get to root causations, and I have particular interests in psychology, behavioural biology, and philosophy - as well as some friends with similar interests. Unfortunately I have no idea how widespread such self-understanding is, but I would not expect it to be exceedingly high.

[@hilaryblair2977]

I was feeling that way too - and still do often. Working on myself, to catch me when I do it, and pause and expand the view

[@lausymaus9856]

I might not have understood this correctly, but arent there stereotypes that are aplicable on people. I mean i totally agree that people are diverse, which is in my eyes relative on perspektive (some are more diverse than others, but all are in some atleast tiny way different), but i dont believe stereotyping completes the picture for me. I know if somebody is wearing a benie they're probably gonna be rather left and hipp (based on german stereotypes) but this doesnt mean they aren't diverse within their Stereotype. PS: i might be getting all of this wrong, im just stating my ideas, id be happy to get informed!

[@hilaryblair2977]

good points - and greater exploration of deeper questioning that you are doing. Yes, from my perspective, seeing the beanie and then pausing to question whether everything that you think following is true for that individual. Being curious to check on our own assumptions. Once we move to diversity within a stereotype we're moving to a place of seeing more dimensions. There are whole books written on this topic and they dive deep into the variables that you are touching on.

[@lausymaus9856]

@@hilaryblair2977 im very grateful for your kind response! thank you for your Talk which definetly sparked thoughts in my Brain and that of Others. btw greetings from germany :)

[@jayphive2468]

Trippin’

[@spotify_byrdd]

Mhmmmmm

[@user-vn7ce5ig1z]

Stereotypes are necessary because there are too many people in the world. There isn't enough time to "get to know" everybody, so you _have_ to make snap judgements about most people, especially the countless "disposable" people you'll never see again after a brief encounter. Stereotypes didn't exist back in the days of small villages when everybody knew each other, they only became a thing when humans started overpopulating. 😒

[@hilaryblair2977]

interesting idea of when stereotypes orginated - I'll explore it further - thanks for sharing

[@mattclements1348]

No its not limiting, everyone always hss stereo types in everything in life, dogs bark, but thats a stereotype

[@harshpherwani6590]

It's a stereotype that dogs bark? No, it's a fact. It's not an archetype nor a stereotype.

[@sayss4611]

I hate stereotypes

[@jinxblaze]

Then stop being one lol

[@prasetyoadi2858]

Fast food connecting human by social media. Is that going to humanity?

[@Shazistic]

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[@robot3507]

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[@goregore6259]

To be quite honest I don’t stereotype people it’s a waste of time.

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INFJ ARCHETYPES

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[@kickass1437]

What’s with her eyes?

[@giftedgreen2152]

Put a fork in TEDx. This channel has fallen further than the Catholic Church.

[@archenema6792]

What a clown! This creature has spent her entire life refining the skills of complete and utter insincerity, and it shows.

[@kickass1437]

Uhm.... at first yeah....

[@kickass1437]

She’s trying...😁

[@adlsfreund]

that's a pretty dim view