Stereotyping, Black masculinity, the role of fantasy, & Fetishism | Khadija Mbowe

[@KhadijaMbowe]

THIS VID WASN'T FACT-CHECKED because I only used that Representation textbook! Just so used to crediting Maddy and Priscilla lol CC's are enabled on all my vids! These are also my small channel shoutouts for the month of April! Go give them some looooveee! Ada on demand kzbin.info/door/HdojZtRVlsx_aQFa12ZRpA Intelexual Media kzbin.info/door/QVsTJx31Q_6o1bW9BHaO2w Axellekzbin.info/door/9gAHpZSRce9XVrkG3pMJtg Lauren Ashley kzbin.info/door/7lCEu1pXWe7bI4Gq2EaFUw Professor Flowers kzbin.info/door/GZrqXTq3GW2wNRz9M44Baw

[@MikeMena]

WOO!! Stuart hall, loooove his work on multiculturalism. I just made a vid last month on stereotypes using hill collins “controlling images”! Love ur channel, one of my fave KZbin academics 🤓

[@giannidc7]

Love the content and you. Thanks. Mentioned Foucault (I’ve heard it pronounced Foo-Coh) and thought about the book Queer Theory, Gender Theory: An Instant Primer, by Wilchins) and thought about Patterson’s Love is Not Colorblind. And of course thought about Lourde and bell (The Will to Change and All About Love). We have some similarities and differences in identities and wish somehow we could have a discussion, but we are strangers in different places, and I’m currently coping with some white hetero mono nonsense with my version of roommate red label, so... maybe grain of salt my situation, you know?

[@itskasarati]

im Kaysimba, a small commentary channel, also where i talk about whatever i want 😂 , i hope you can take a look at my channel, i’m not sure when Khadija does the small youtube shoutouts so i’m gonna leave this here :) kzbin.info/door/_4tJZvbeZ1SX9B47TXGhVg

[@KhadijaMbowe]

@@lmk-a1621 Yes, it was me trying to be funny because there's no way there were cameras filming the first time black people interacted with white people lol

[@allister.trudel]

You said something about the use of "blacks" as a noun not sitting right with you and not knowing why, it's because it's dehumanizing. We don't like the use of "black" as a noun (instead of black person/people) because it reduces people to the single attribute that makes them different or marginalized or oppressed. That's also why we don't call women "females" or trans people "transgenders" and so on... And foucault is pronounced fu-co ("fu" like in kung fu and "co" like in "co-opting"). Thanks for you amazing content!

[@robinhahnsopran]

Hi! I'm an LGBT disabled person (and an opera singer living in Canada, oddly enough). Disabled stories in the media (when told by able-bodied people) tend to paint the disabled character as "inspiring", without that media ever examining WHY we're "inspiring". Sometimes that media implies that "oh, it's amazing that they continue to persevere in that body every day", implying that our bodies are hellscapes impossible to live in and that disabled lives aren't worth living; sometimes it infantilizes us, making the (abled) lead the caretaker in a way that fetishizes the caretaker having "control" over our bodies; or sometimes it reduces a whole disabled person to a THING, a plot device used to tell a story and then to be forgotten once the audience has consumed them. tl;dr, I agree wholeheartedly with your assessment of power in media. Having the power to portray disabled people as being able to live fulfilling lives on their own merits changes so much. I buy every book I know of with a disabled character written by a disabled person for this reason.

[@amayajanelle]

YESSSS and if we're not the “exceptional” disabled person that's profitable and palatable, then we're automatically disposable. That's why the sentiment of “I don't allow my disability to stop me” reeks of internalized ableism and toxic positivity. Every time I see it, I'm like, congratulations...I don't know what you want me to do with that information. It doesn't help me in the slightest. Especially as a disabled adult as I still don't have any agency and body autonomy. I'm tired of being expected to “defy the odds” I just want to live.

[@robinhahnsopran]

@@amayajanelle Absolutely! Can't believe I forgot the "exceptional" disabled person narrative, too! Can't even begin to count the number of times I've been "congratulated" for "defying the odds" and "not letting my disability stop me". So gross. My disability DOES stop me from doing stuff. And that's fine. And anyone who can do less than me? Also fine. Also a person deserving of being treated as a whole person.

[@katherinemorelle7115]

Yes! Yes! Also, the “exceptionalism” bar can be pretty damn low sometimes (which in itself is incredibly insulting). Two (of many) comments I got that I believe exist on the same spectrum: “You’re just so brave and strong!” For dropping my daughter off at school. And “you’re so strong! If I was you, I’d have killed myself by now!” Which... I don’t really have words for, tbh. And we are often both exceptional, and an awful burden at the same time. I’m a burden because I rely on a government pension, and I should (according to some) work myself to the bone and cause myself endless pain and suffering in order to at least try to work. At the same time, I see historical outfits. Mostly by hand, and very, very slowly. So slowly that I certainly couldn’t make a living off it. Producing one garment a month isn’t going to make a difference to my bank account, even if people were willing to pay seamstresses and artisans what their labour is actually worth (which is a lot, but people expect to pay target prices for something I sewed by hand, from natural fibre fabrics, after doing hours and hours of research into how those garments were constructed hundreds of years ago, and work to make it as historically accurate as I possibly can. For a great video on this, Bernadette Banner has one roasting (literally) a knockoff of one of her creations. Highly recommend). But anyway, because I do make these garments, while disabled, that makes me extraordinary. I’d like to be recognised for my skill amd dedication to researching dress history, not for the fact that I’m a wheelchair user. Hell- I went into making clothes by hand because I find it both more enjoyable (I love having something to do with my hands while I watch RV or KZbin), and far, far less painful than using a machine. It’s just frustrating, and the way we are represented in media only serves to reinforce all those shitty ideas about disabled people. I’m just sick of it.

[@katerrinah5442]

YES. I get told "you must get so much sewing done!!!!" when I tell people I work 2-3 days of the week. No guys, I sleep A LOT. Also can we talk about the stereotype of a disabled person is someone who looks disabled. Someone you can tell is disabled. Not people who present as regular people but actually have really misfunctioning bodies.

[@carltonbanks2351]

HI, you don't have to but since you talked about it do you have a book to recommend to me that's written by a disabled person?? Pretty please ?

[@Alltherestofus]

The way her channel has grown so quickly, as one of the OGs, makes me emotionally because she deserves all the love 🥲

[@KhadijaMbowe]

❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@therenegade916]

One of the BEST channels I’ve discovered this year. And also what I eventually aspire to be with the channel I launched. Love her video essays, especially because she highlights the nuances and complexity of these issues and doesn’t try to make shit black and white. A true critical thinker. And on the superficial side- bitch is GORGEOUS. 🤓👻❤️

[@KhadijaMbowe]

@@therenegade916 It's the ghost emoji that made me feel TRULY seen LOL thank you for your kind ass words 🥺

[@bean97nothanx15]

One of the most underrated KZbinrs out here 💕

[@orjosan]

I'm one of those that found their channel this year and so grateful I did. Wish I could call myself OG

[@imani0nline]

Victims being trapped in the stereotype is powerful.I feel like it’s like you are trying to break out of the system however you are only allowed or able to work with in the system. So whichever side you choose to fall in you are still held within the confines of the stereotype.

[@danmorgan3685]

@Powerful Oprah You're not doing that without getting rid of capitalism.

[@agoj925]

Yup!!

[@OGseoulite]

Lmao who else clicked then realized it’s set to premiere 😂

[@marsbar175]

Brings back feelings of when I used to have to wait days until Friday at 8pm to watch a new Disney channel movie but this is better

[@goobertron9099]

This feels like Christmas Eve lol I’m exitedddd

[@Grace_Zandile97]

I was so sad how long South Africa took to return her remains and provide her a decent funeral. Saartjie Baartman was buried only in 2002.

[@mycatisaslayqueen9778]

A lot of Africans were taken to europe for racial experiments & their remains are still there. The major issue with repatriation is that Africans & African artifacts that were looted during the colonial era are deemed as 'property'

[@wenjingfang9670]

My major peaks of being fetishized: 1. I'm in line at the grocery store trying to mind my own business and the white middle-aged guy behind me asks "Are you Filipina?". I say no. He replies "Really? I think you could be Filipina". I roll my eyes inside my head and walk away ignoring him...but wtf does that even mean???? 2. Me at the store, again, trying to mind my own damn business, and a white middle-aged (are you surprised?) comes up to me and tries to start the conversation with "I love Asian women, my ex-wife was Chinese". I just look at him, in shock that he thought THIS was a good way to get my attention??? What did he think I was going to do?? Jump to the Oh so rare opportunity to be with a white guy that could be my dad???? UGH.

[@sseraphim2818]

How many times have you experienced being fetishized by white men?

[@anotherlemontree]

I especially love it when complete strangers try to tell you about your own nationality/ethnicity. Very much the same energy as "You spell your name like this? Are you sure?" except with added ick.

[@sophiagrace6361]

Gross 🤢

[@nira4896]

OMG THAT'S SO GROSS

[@Rukhasu]

I dont understand this fetiche about asians, man...

[@annalewein4673]

Thank you for bringing up Saartjie's story. Her whole life was just a nightmare. Ask a Mortician did a whole video about her because even in death her body was exploited.

[@sseraphim2818]

Even after she was dead, the French or as I like to call them the OG colonizers would not let go of her body. South Africa had to beg for over decades to get her body buried in her homeland.

[@DD-po2hh]

I had no idea about her

[@lauriannajones]

@@sseraphim2818 do you know why they refused??? I can't stand them tbh

[@Misstressofdons]

@@lauriannajones they probably refused because colonisers think everything belongs to them. The British museums won't give back artefacts they've stole from other countries and former colonies and refuse to say why. They're probably affronted anyone had the audacity to ask.

[@Samantha_yyz]

AskAMortians' video was really good! Omg what they did even after she had died. They truly saw her as nothing but an object to be enjoyed.

[@amayajanelle]

A creepy older man on my Tumblr dmed me and told me, “awww, you're disabled? What a cutie!” Then proceeded to say, “I saw you tag bwwm on a post.” Ok and? That was definitely NOT your cue to come talk to me, SIR. This happened twice in the same week. It's like I'm being hypersexualized and infantilized at the same time.

[@oyinosolo5837]

Wth😃🤦🏾‍♀️

[@soupaloopa4294]

The absolute disgust I felt reading that. I'm sorry that happened to you

[@stoodmuffinpersonal3144]

I know this isn't the point. But, that was their opening line? Like. It wasn't an invitation, of course. But, even if it was. That? Is where you start? Like. Wtf, guy AND IT WASN'T. Like. That. Ugh.

[@JulianSteve]

Wow, just wow... Unbelievable and rude. I know he’s old, but that’s no reason to be rude💯

[@ep8246]

Definitely*

[@itskasarati]

“something with 4 legs and a flat top surface is a” Khadija: Table Me: A TURTLE 🐢

[@austincde]

A hippo 🦛!

[@sharonswa]

My first thought was a dog

[@CaraRowen]

I immediately was like "stool". Why we like this y'all

[@chantellew1782]

Thank you so much for talking about Ms Saartje!! When I learned about her in college, it was horrifying. Then I learned she had her vulva removed after death, and it’s been lost in archives ever since like WW1or2. I pray her soul has rest and peace.

[@gperson1967]

My god, that's horrible.

[@polarbearsss]

oh my god :0 i hope her soul has peace too... thats terrible..

[@prynce_k5522]

Oh my gosh 😲😲

[@olive7821]

I remember watching the movie about her life. It's insane what those people did to her. It scares me hoe she was disrespected while she was alive and the disrespect continued hundreds of years after she died. So painful

[@DD-po2hh]

I can’t believe her story isn’t talked about

[@Vanessa-vz5cw]

As a 26-year-old who just got over a way too painful hangover after drinking what I thought was a moderate amount, "Why did my roommate and I..." made me feel SEEN.

[@65Toronto65]

Hey you make me feel seen!

[@leopardshadow333]

The use of the term "blacks" bothers me bc it seems to be abbreviating and leaving out the "people" part of "black people". Perhaps thats not neccessarily the intention everytime its used, but i hear it more in my personal life from people who also make it clear they don't consider black people to be equal to other groups of people(i.e. racists in denial or flat out racists)

[@poptartious509]

same!

[@mimijansen3262]

Thank you! It didn't feel right in my spirit either, untill you said that. That's what it is!! The leave the people out, 'cause they don't consider us people.

[@sseraphim2818]

I couldn't explain this until now, but seeing this made me understand my aversion to that term.

[@sweeetzz]

I hate the term “blacks” it’s like nails on a chalk board...

[@BarbaraDayDream]

Same same same

[@Bliss-l1t]

Thank You! I threw a white exboyfriend out of my house once for saying I belonged to him like he owned my body during some fun time. He probably still to this day does not know why he was kicked out. Fetishization is really strong in some peoples minds, I’ve even had friends boyfriends implying I should sleep with them both due to being bisexual and black. Apparently that makes me as a ex friend calls it a succubus who allows deviancy. Not even a human being to people just by being outside what society calls the norm. I even had a creepy family friend who would try to set every black woman he knows up with random white guys because chocolate and vanilla should swirl. I got sick of interracial dating for this reason, time and time again I would hear guys say pretty for black girl, never thought I’d be with a black girl, or creepy fetishized versions of what I am as a person. It gets old! Also yes, I think about existentialism all the time. I really want to know why are here and what is the point of existing.

[@livelyosaki80]

Interracial relationships is a no for me personnaly alot of white folks think they are the default of this planet and will remind you that you are different every seconds and it's annoying. White guys fetishize me and act like being attract to me is a new sexual orientation lol which is very insulting

[@TheAyisyenne]

@@livelyosaki80 Liiissstteen! The fuckshit i hear BIPOC in IR relationships go through is the reason why i'm not interested in ever being in one. And then these same people claim i'm racist but i'm like...do y'all hear y'allselves!? Shit sounds absolutely miserable.

[@kionnakelly2918]

You do know black men can and do fetishize black women too right?

[@astolat2262]

Maybe he just thought it was hot, poor guy. I personally might say someone was mine during sex, I wouldn't mean they were literally something I owned

[@user-kb1ur9ky8b]

@@astolat2262 That’s what I thought too. But when she mentioned his friends I kind of backtracked. 😭

[@lilyevans7597]

A theory for why “blacks” doesn’t sit well: it works as a NOUN (ex., “Some Blacks responded to stereotyping by...”). When “blacks” is in the noun role, there is depersonalization. What would be better is “black” as an ADJECTIVE (ex. “Some Black people responded to stereotyping by...”). Now, “black” describes a person or people, instead of removing personhood from the sentence. The change from noun to adjective form is small, but it makes the sentence less dehumanizing, in my opinion. This also works for gays vs. gay people, Asians vs. Asian people, etc. In most cases, identities are best used as adjectives rather than nouns, that way there’s always a person being described by the identity, instead of being subsumed by it. Just a theory! I’d love to hear what anyone else makes of this linguistic question! (EDIT: I’m completely sure someone else has already thought of this, but idk who. So I definitely didn’t come up with this and if you know who did, please feel free to share!)

[@lilyevans7597]

@Alias Fakename that must be a painful feeling/knowledge! Language is such a powerful thing, and it communicates so much deep, often glossed-over stuff

[@Musu2000]

Can we also talk about the fetishizing of having a black friend, a gay friend etc. because that’s a fetish I’m tired of. Personally I have found myself in many situations where some people (particular white women) “trying” to befriend me because I’m a black women and they expect me to “act” like the stereotype and if I don’t they just lose interest. I’m a introverted, soft spoken black women, with a resting bitch face born in Norway, nationality Gambia.

[@winterswan5861]

So I'm white and indigenous. I've heard other people express saddens or discomfort seeing an indigenous person "fully assimilate" or not be connected to their culture doing stereotypically white things and I feel like that's a lot of the time based off the stereotype of indigenous people always being this half naked and "wild" or "exotic" being because a lot of the time when indigenous people DO get represented in white media that's how they're depicted.

[@ndeyediop3558]

Khadija getting halfway through and then having a mini existential crisis is a MOOD

[@maamebenewaa9203]

I just want to commend the level of nuance Khadija's analysis always has. It's really refreshing when so much content related to social issues is reduced to buzz words and sound bytes.

[@chooseitwisely98]

I really like the way you articulated how fetishism works. I think the fetishism of black and brown bodies is more pervasive and toxic than people, especially yt dudes who "like their coffee black" (which jesus wtf), are willing to admit. Our bodies are perceived as inherently deviant and subsequently inherently more sexual, kinky even. This is why the Kardashians are so famous for their looks. They embody the "deviance" associated with the black body and re-present it in the context of whiteness and wealth. Best of both worlds. Beyond black phishing, this also feeds into the assumed/implied access that's associated with our bodies and manifests as very real systemic, material, and social disparities for black women especially.

[@tj_6224]

as a south african poc , hearing saartjie baartman's story being exposed for the horror it was is so refreshing , because hearing about it in highschool was almost like a cautionary tale (to only some of us , the white boys kinda just laughed despite the severity of the topic). it really exposed how poc are still being fetishized and are expected to overcome stereotypes to have any intrinsic values. her remains weren't even returned to south africa until the 1990s (her death being in 1815) , showing how her value was deminished until south african poc were seen as people after mandela's rise to presidency. just wanna thank you so much for expressing how europe back then loved to strip people other than them to less than human and mere laughingstocks and entertainment p.s. your pronunciation of saartjie was pretty good , actually! it's more of a "saart-kie" sound (because afrikaans is majorly based on dutch) , but thank you so much for trying ,,, so refreshing yet again

[@dearone5000]

no one is doing it like her 😤💅

[@polarbearsss]

btw i just wanna say they use they pronouns (i think they dont mind she/her but i just wanted to let u know in case u didnt know)

[@DumiNihi]

Khadija: you know I'm almost 30 Me: ma'am I thought you were like 21👁️👄👁️

[@annoyedbyyourface]

Black don't crack, baby!

[@ereristark425]

On god! I would've guessed MAX 25 but damn.

[@Misstressofdons]

I'm so glad she's closer to 30, it makes my whole 32 yr old only just getting my shit together self feel much better about myself loool

[@kannot1]

How are you 32 and only just getting your life together???😐💔

[@anotherlemontree]

@@kannot1 I'm 35 and nowhere near getting my life together. We all choose different paths. There's no one way that 30 or 21 or 35 or 72 should look.

[@zaidylime2595]

12:45 In my experience, I have had a very hard time relating to characters in movies, shows, and characters being asexual. When a character in a movie/show is seen to be ace, they are either a murder, psychopath, or deemed to be "mentally disabled" or evil to seem to have no heart.

[@warmhoney5829]

It's always nice to see fellow asexuals and same. They oversexualise the characters so much or the story lines are about sex or love. The only proper ace representation I have seen is Todd in bojack Horseman. We need better ace representation

[@Im_bor3d0]

@@warmhoney5829 Todd's my fav character in bojack horseman

[@zaidylime2595]

@@warmhoney5829 ya its very sad that there's only ONE PERSON IN THE WHOLE GAWD DAMN WORLD BRO Todd a real G

[@amandak.5967]

I feel that so much. This is why I prefer books when it comes to my aro/ace rep like Sawkill Girls by Claire Legrand, Loveless by Alice Oseman, and One To Watch by Kate Stayman-London.

[@julesmallow]

Even when there is positive ace rep they won't openly address that, in a lot of cases they'll just say "oh the character isn't interested in romance because they're married to their work". like senku from Dr. Stone

[@duckiemomo7511]

Honestly it’s so weird because I’m black but I’m also Muslim and wear hijab so I have double the stereotypes being thrown. It can be really frustrating 😖

[@carriem8291]

I just know I'm going to be singing Why Did My Roommate And I Drink An Entire Bottle of Johnnie Walker Red Label for the rest of the day.

[@ajmalaika1287]

"Sway with me" Raise my arms and sways along in my room alone `,-)

[@frugalhousewife9878]

I also swayed.

[@bobthebuilderday6leader]

@@frugalhousewife9878 team sway here!

[@maggiedk]

Oof, I have personal experience with what you're talking about around 22:00 . I dated a white guy who had only dated black women in the past, and though it didn't bother me at first, I eventually started to feel like he was just fetishizing the "other." I'm from the US but my background is mostly Scottish, which I'm proud of, but at one point me made a comment literally saying "I've never known a Scottish girl before. It seems so exotic." Like... Would you not have been attracted to me if you didn't think I was exotic in some way? All this to say, I think you're right about white guys who make a point to say that they prefer to date black women/WOC. Like, it should just be normal to be open to dating any person who you have a connection with, it's weird that white dudes want a pat on the back for something like that and they often seem to be fetishizing perceived "exoticism."

[@quarantinedcosmonaut4082]

Ugh! I got so excited real quick then realized it wasn't up yet...😭

[@slaykei7132]

Mee to, last part was soo good!

[@tacrewgirl]

Same

[@jibarabicha4853]

When people at work are disappointed you keep a low profile and complain you’re not a “loud & spicy” Latina. It’s like their only reference of a Latina is Rosie Perez? ....Also, I do have “spicy” side but I ain’t sharing that with the folks by the water cooler .😉

[@RoseEyed]

As a Black women I've often struggled to understand why some black men seem prone to giving into the more toxic aspects of masculinity. The idea of trying to overcompensate for when that masculinity was intentionally robbed from them by racists makes sense though. Flying from one extreme to the other, makes me sad

[@donwade9800]

Being in my 30s... "why did my roommate and I" hit different.... congrats on your liver still having the range😭

[@diane9812]

This is... hilarious. Haha!

[@Kathrin_yt]

'Beauty is in the eye of the coloniser' is such a profound statement wow! I posted this on your video about smaller channels, but wanted to post it here too just in case. I have a YT channel where I talk about social and political issues from a leftist perspective. Thank you for using your platform to lift up the voices of smaller creators!!

[@vegahimsa]

This color blue brings out so much depth in Khadija’s skin- she’s such a glossy, dewy princess. I have envy coursing through my veins 🥰

[@KhadijaMbowe]

It was also the alcohol tbh

[@vegahimsa]

@@KhadijaMbowe wtf how did I just now see this. I love ur content queen, stay hydrated miss boozy 🤍💧

[@mariamarenga7765]

The video hasn't even started yet but I'm already loving the blue look she's got going on

[@aerris_21]

Yeahhh, she brings the looks! and pls let’s discuss her skin.

[@oyinosolo5837]

Omg I love ur pfp ✨✨

[@benediction7517]

OMGS, I AM THE SAMMMEEE I hate it when people say "blacks", it makes me feel so other(ed)! You are literally one of the only other people I know that feels the same way.

[@pbke9297]

I know it's not as harmful as other marginalisations but I see a lot of 'wild, fierce, mysterious, and sexual' European women as opposed to American and British housewife. They are admired on the one hand but their lifestyle is always bothered and judged. And I can definitely tell that this has very much influenced how American and British men interact with me.

[@hellenmuka7207]

You feeling are valid...

[@hellenmuka7207]

You feeling are valid...

[@Dojafish]

Well Africa and Europe had alot of history between each other and they were the first colinazers . So we might have some similar stereotypes.

[@luanaschmid2009]

The heartbreak when you realize video premieres not until 25. :(

[@imani0nline]

The only channel where I can get my daily dose of woke tea and A* entertainment recommendations🙇🏾‍♀️

[@miareed6725]

I can talk for days about how I, as a black woman, have been conditioned to tone myself down in order to be palatable. I know lots of other demographics feel similarly. Just another thing on the list to unlearn

[@elani9624]

khadija got me waiting 🖐😩

[@elani9624]

AHH SHE LIKED MY COMMENT IM SO HAPPY

[@clarebeforebreakfast5044]

What’s your take on Falcon and the Winter Soldier and race? There was a lot of talk it it about the black history of superheroes in the mcu and how the US military literally tested super serums on black men(like was done in real life with other things) and then their lives were thrown away in battle like nothing with no fanfare or publicity. Steve Rogers was chosen because he was a paragon, but also because he had blond hair and blue eyes, which makes me look at Cap’s origin story differently, personally. At the end there was a scene where the last living black super soldier (who had been tested on his whole life, which is fucked up) was finally honored in the Captain America Museum, but it was in, like, a dark corner and I don’t think that was enough. All those super soldiers should get their own museum! The ones who died in WW2 weren’t honored at all, and that’s totally overlooked. Anyways. That’s my take. I REALLY want to know yours and I think general commentary on this would be beneficial. Hope you’re well! Keep up with the great work!

[@Tikachu]

I agree with the last part. Always too little and far too late

[@cassiopeiathew7406]

I got here from tee noir’s shout out but now I like her just as much if not more especially since she has such a good upload schedule.

[@aerris_21]

Love these queens, different sides of the same informative coin!

[@tayxxmonster]

My almost 30 year old self swaying along to the hangover song as I prepare a drink: 😌🤡🥴 You are dragging me back to undergrad (Soci major) & grad school (counselor ed) with this video and I love it. Okay, last edit: I was a history major until I took a course about Reconstruction where I was the only Black person in a class with ~30 white people of all ages. My professor went from “African Americans” to “Black people” to “Blacks” as the semester dragged on. I dropped my major after that and I still regret letting the experience affect me like that.

[@astoldbynickgerr]

💙

[@princestory26]

as a sociology and anthropology major, i am LIVING for the theories being used in your videos!!! a true definition of a video esaay, and i hope that people become more educated (and also realize how amazing sociology and anthropology are in understanding the world!!!)

[@oktoberregeln]

This was very helpful. Sometimes it's hard to explain to people why when they tell me how much they like Latin men, it makes me very uncomfortable because it almost always boils down to treating me like an object and not a person.

[@TheClueless17]

Why do I attend Khadijah’s videos more than my asynchronous Sociology lectures👏👏

[@s29nv1sr1]

I'm only a few minutes in and I just want to say I appreciate the _Community_ moments in this video. Edit: little further in, and I just want to say that I understand that labels and stereotypes do allow me to comprehend things better as they allow me to compartmentalize things, y'know? I'm questioning my sexuality, and while I know I'm not straight, I don't know what exactly I am. A lot of people have told me to not worry about labels and just do your thing, but having a label, being able to pinpoint what I am just allows me to understand myself better. I _want_ a label.

[@annoyedbyyourface]

I'm like you in terms of wanting a label. I think the problem with the world is how many people in many societies don't ask for *your* label, they assume. This is where stereotypes can be hurtful. I hope you find the label that fits you and that your journey in self-discovery is fun and safe!

[@astoldbynickgerr]

Going through a very similar thing myself 💙

[@TheKarret]

Yeah, before I found out there was a term for asexuality, like I was able to get along fine, but now that I've got that term for myself, I really like having it and being able to tell people "I'm ace" instead of having to pull some tongue-in-cheek shit like "or", "none of the above", or basically have to define it by saying something like "opposite of bi" ; being able to simply just say "I'm ace" is so much nicer, because it shows that it's a thing and is like the linguistic proof that I'm not alone in feeling this way - there are enough people who are like me, that a whole ass word was repurposed to encapsulate my experience, and having that verbal shorthand is so nice. The label doesn't mean anything beyond that; it's just nice to have when you need it.

[@lara2653]

just wrote a term paper about stereotyping, looking forward to this!

[@joythefrankenfluffy1635]

I live for her singing at the beginning of the video.

[@hwchen39]

The section on representation and power really puts into perspective this whole idea of science not being as objective as we'd like to think. Especially when it comes to systems of classification and white men like Bluemnbach are coming up with ways to classify those of different races into different groups and essentially stereotyping them. Moreover, every "Father" of scientific classification has a dicey history with racism: Linneaus, Cuvier, and Darwin yet we never talk about that when we learn about them. I think Sarah Baartman is also an important representation of the dehumanization black women faced in the name of "science." I was really lucky to be able to learn about her in university but it still makes me upset to this day that her remains were preserved and displayed in a French natural history museum as a "specimen" and not repatriated to S. Africa until 2002.

[@fatai1917]

we back on the floor 😩😩 love to see it

[@tinypinkturtles5943]

I've found that a lot of mental illnesses are stereotyped in the ways you described. It was a struggle for me to get diagnosed with OCD or ADHD because they both get so warped in the eyes of neurotypicals that it didn't occur to me to look into them. The idea of people with OCD as "neat freaks" is so pervasive that I immediately discounted it as a possibility just because I didn't fit the stereotype.

[@matheuscastello6554]

can i just say i love when people say "key change" and then change keys, unironically it's the coolest way to change keys

[@_sarah.honey-]

I am so glad that I am not the only person uncomfortable with people saying “blacks”

[@emily-crawford-soprano9181]

You have legit inspired me to continue with my weird niche KZbin stuff. Thank you so much you are wonderful. I hope I get to hear you sing opera one day. Sing with you? That’s like Thor’s hammer I have to prove myself worthy.

[@brownhairedkid1]

Procrastinating horribly on my master's thesis with this, no regrets! (I might have regrets tomorrow..)

[@darthdaja]

A great sentence I have heard about the stereotype that you have to be androgynous in order to be nonbinary (enough) is, that this is a thing set up by cis people to make us more consumable. They can´t think of adult people being anything other than male or female. So nonbinary have to be kids with no visible sexual caracteristics. This made so much sense to me...

[@KhadijaMbowe]

woooooaaahhh yessss this!!

[@Slm99]

I click so fast and we don't need stereotypes period. They only hurt people's lives.

[@AESTHETICALLYPLEASED]

I absolutely love your channel and the way you are able to weave and unfold nuanced ideas into video essays that are easily digestible and at the same time intellectually challenging 💓💓💓💓Much love from the UK xxx

[@afrina7347]

Omg Khadija are you psychic? 😂😭 I just finished your toxic masculinity video and saw you said you'd do a video on black masculinity in the future. And now this ... Anyways I'm so excited for this one Love you and your videos so much 💞

[@kharismamessam]

I don't know how you managed to do this with a hangover, but God bless you dude.

[@Bound13ssDr3ams]

Omg girl I love you 😭😭 your little existential crisis at 14:48 was so me. Especially when I sit around and try to unravel and understand all of these complex issues about society as a young black woman, I can’t help but have these moments where I’m just like “but why do humans even exist?” and as much as I want to understand and change about the world, does any of it even matter at the end of the day since we’re all gonna die. But then just like this video I go right back to work lmao 😂

[@mateakalanj3988]

this is the kind of stuff that has me vaguely gesturing and making frustrated noises in regular conversation. the kinds of ideas that i can FEEL in my mouth but i can't find the proper words. you're a life saver, thank you for articulating this so well!!!

[@BeingBennetGreen]

I wish I could already watch this. I thought she uploaded it 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@analiahurst1602]

Khadija :* implies she uses dating apps * Me:* planning a trip to Canada and downloading every dating app ever invented*

[@HistoricaHungarica]

But only to drink some... JOHNNIE WALKER! ;)

[@ukkugoodasfidem]

@@HistoricaHungarica 🤣😝

[@quarantinedcosmonaut4082]

♥️🤣

[@katerrinah5442]

Man I'm in Australia, do you think that's too far away for her? 😜

[@danmorgan3685]

I admire your optimism and "go get 'em" attitude.

[@miumiu9390]

"People are not tables" Don't forget

[@discmeeds]

"I can't believe I dropped out of sociology school to do book reports every week on the internet" 😂😂😂😂

[@clantis]

Did I start celebrating to watch a video from Khadija, until I realized it's scheduled for usual day and time😂😂😂😂 I'm still excited though. Looking forward to the video. Last night I checked you out on Ben's channel and I loved it.

[@Em-ey6gv]

'tell me why did i drink an entire bottle of johnny walker (red label)' is my new favorite song

[@aigerimsakenova4276]

We are blessed with Khadija’s singing

[@torinetter4637]

Appreciate you touching on Black masculinity and the history there, because usually when a black man says the same it’s not well received

[@thebarefootfairy]

“You ever stop and think about why we even here” yessss, everyday. Like what is it for. Putting up with all this nonsense. I’m tired. I go on though cause it’s worth it, plus I don’t want to miss all dis bomb content.

[@oversoul7]

Don’t mind waiting for all the good stuff that Khadija brings ...😁

[@sylvias190]

No makeup, hungover and your skin is still serving for the GOD'S!!!! 💯💯🥰

[@AtepaHathorMakalani]

I've been discovering just how much people stereotype black men since I started dating my boyfriend. I had some toxic white boyfriends in my life. Then all a sudden I start dating a black guy and everyone seems so suspicious of him. It's been really exposed the shitty people that were in my life. One friend offered to pay to abort our children and I caught another friend gossiping our relationship was toxic when they don't even know him and have no justified reason as to why he's toxic. He has literally saved my life by always being there for me when no one else was. People were telling me to kill myself on Twitter and he was my only friend that stood up for me.

[@AtepaHathorMakalani]

Can we talk about the save the white woman trope cuz I think that is also damaging and dehumanizing to women of other races. I think that's why we have so many karens.

[@watsonmelon6575]

Although it will be hard to wait, I'm certain that this video will be worth it.

[@IsabelleRae00]

Have you ever thought about being a professor?? You explain deep concepts so well and people love listening and learning from you. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us 🧡

[@melodye14]

Foucault is pronounced Foo-Ko. His work on sexuality and prison systems are a great resource for discussions like this. I love that you bring in journal articles and well-known figures as well as media resources. :)

[@clumsygoat3282]

Honestly, this is like a super accessible sociology lecture, for everyone, for free. And i LOVE that, it really makes knowing about these concepts so much less elitist.

[@Rain-np7tk]

That song at the beginning is very much a vibe

[@ChavvyCommunist]

Since you asked about examples of stereotyping: I've noticed programmes set in Southern England tend to have a Northern character (usually a woman) who's either really stupid or really loud mouthed and aggressive, but the common thread is that they're meant to be comic relief. It's nothing compared to black stereotypes but it's deffo an example of classism.

[@WorldofDaisyFlowers]

I love how diverse the first world is, yet we are all put into categories that clearly don't work.

[@nikkipooh9]

Just know I'm subscribed now! That freestyle at the beginning is MEEEEEEE

[@agustinavictoriaborre1054]

The fact that l came back to this the channel the whole week and tried to play the vid even tho it said it would premiere today. That's how much I love you Khadija.

[@bentouta5]

Well done video as always. Pessimism has dominated my thoughts regarding the collective trajectory of the African diaspora these past few weeks. I just feel what we deserve(positive outcome) and what we'll get are paths that won't ever converge.

[@quinn2091]

I'm queer (nonbinary, asexual, greyromantic/aromantic) and I like labels for myself because it helps me make sense of myself. I obviously don't press labels on other people and I don't take well when people try to label me, but it's nice to have them for myself

[@LagrimaArdiente]

This was great! Hope you were able to get through that hangover as painlessly as possible.

[@aisjay1204]

thank you especially for the discussion of the circulatory power structure with fantasy. that was a real lightbulb for me

[@raystettler2896]

Regarding certain identities only being shown if they are marketable, this is something I’ve noticed a lot in how disabled people are represented- normally people with disabilities aren’t shown in TV or movies if they aren’t somehow just as if not more capable than other not-disabled people. It’s like people won’t be shown with disabilities unless they can somehow inspire an able bodied audience. Autistic people get this a lot with sort of “misunderstood genus” stereotypes that allow people to make a spectacle out of autism (or whatever other condition is on display)

[@rhambosia1]

Tried of lurking...Khadija, you make my week. How come I didn't know girls like you when I was in my late 20s? you are wise and beautiful. And so inspiring. Thanks for your content!

[@LightGlyphRasengan]

I grew up around predominantly black neighborhoods wherever I went to school so I had to definitely think about a lot of these different topics surrounding stereotyping. Thank you for the lesson!!!

[@MsPopstar500]

I have literally watched all of your videos within a matter of a couple weeks lol, I absolutely love your content and I can't wait to see what you do next. ps you're so gorgeous and YOUR SINGING! yes, all 10s from me sis lmao

[@elainethompson6514]

(Relatively) new follower here and fellow auntie-aged Taurus, totally comfortable waiting till Saturday. Suuuuper look forward to your posts, always. You're a shining star in a (pretty) disgusting world.

[@ndcoach29]

“Thus ‘victims’ can be trapped by the stereotype, unconsciously, confirming it by the very term in which they try to oppose and resist it.” This makes sooooooooooooooooo much sense! I can’t say that I’ve ever considered this but I can see how this can be perpetuated!

[@ladyjustice169]

I spot Ssehura Baartman in the thumbnail. I’m defo setting a reminder for this 💖

[@Anneminnie]

Subscribed ❤❤ finally a channel i can sit through about these topics.

[@kaiya33123]

You and YOUR VOICE!!!!! ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL!!!!!

[@goldenlioness868]

Can I just take a moment to appreciate your research and intellect.

[@humunchi4991]

I studied Stuart Hall at university in first year. I find your explanation really clear and enjoy the way you use your hands and touched on your experience on dating apps. I'm looking forward to more lovely creations from your channel. :) You are wonderful Khadija.

[@anitapallenberg690]

Currently binge-watching ALL THE VIDEOS of my favourite fun internet auntie !! ❤️ Finding your channel is the best thing that happened to me in weeks. Yay! Go, KZbin algorithm, go - spread your wings and get that lady the subscribers she deserves !