STOP CARING ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK: LESSONS IN WILD LOVE

[@allwellandgood8547]

You are such an inspiration Dr Sage! I love how vulnerable and real you are with us in sharing your own experiences to help others. Your videos make my day, they resonate so much. Thank you 💖

[@DrKimSage]

Thank you so much! I hope you have a beautiful day today!!:)

[@cheriemoore1290]

I've been a nurse for 35 years. Done all types of nursing. I think in the healing of others we forget to look at the mind, body, emotional connection. Our stories matter! i want to thank you with all of my heart for your videos. You are speaking healing into my life and into the lives of those who have suffered. It really is a beautiful thing to think about! I see you as a wounded healer. i am so sorry for your wounding. I admire your courage and love for others. Keep speaking words of life and breath to the wounded. You are a light to the world. C. Moore

[@SweetandSassyRedhead]

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[@samwebb1014]

This channel is a revelation . I think I’m just piecing together the attachment style with people-pleasing and hyper-vigilance , anxiety. All starting to connect and make sense . I’m a counselling student in 🇬🇧. Thank You 🙏🏻 x

[@DrKimSage]

Hope you know how important it is to learn to turn inward first! xo

[@NallahBrown]

5:57 "we're so focused on reading everyone else that we don't learn how to read ourselves. We actually don't know what's going on inside because we're scanning all of the time." 🎯🎯

[@KerryLiv]

I know you can't read my mind, but I've never heard such an accurate description of some of my struggles. As I walk my healing path, The knowledge you share, helping others, is making a powerful impact on so many. Thank you!

[@NallahBrown]

6:58 I LOVE how you made this connection.. when we're so focused on everyone else and we need a story... everything ends up being our fault. "I am bad" "there's something wrong with me"

[@DrKimSage]

Love that you are finding this helpful!!

[@normamartinez9904]

I´ve been watching your videos for a week now, and I just want to say: I love your style! Hahaha, you´re not only beautiful, but you seem to be such a tender and sweet human being. It´s so refreshing. Thank you for being a light in our dark moments. There are therapists that just don´t get it. I think that by doing your work I can finally heal.

[@heatherIsla]

I call them witch walks! TY for helping me so much. You are a true teacher and guide for me.

[@aC-zj9rh]

I love your videos! They really help me! Thank you! Don't worry about how long your videos are!

[@DrKimSage]

Thank you so much! Lol Sometimes I find myself wandering too long on a topic, but I love to share:). Hope you have a lovely day!

[@NallahBrown]

Go inward first: "what state am I in?" So simple yet so solid!

[@catherineclarke9131]

Thank you for these resources. I am grateful.

[@ingridperez5153]

Thank you for sharing your knowledge and divine energy! Truly appreciate the work you are doing for humanity ♥️

[@DrKimSage]

Thank you so much! So appreciate you being here with me!!:)

[@annvontrapp9108]

Your insight combined with compassion is a blessing. God bless you.

[@-Godlovesme-]

Thank you so much for such a lovely informative video.. It's so refreshing to hear someone with your knowledge being so personal. may God bless you and keep you and your family!

[@chailattee]

Don’t worry about the length of the videos! I love it and thank you so much for sharing these with us! Thank you ❤

[@Cowgirlupjo]

Just found you today. I have been in therapy for a long time. Looking forward to watching more of your videos. Many "aha" moments. Thank you!

[@DrKimSage]

Thank you and welcome! I am so happy you found your way here with me!!:).

[@melissawatson9662]

That was amazing. Thank you.

[@totalwomanja9105]

I love your practical advice!

[@rhondamaryjenner7868]

They are so good love your work Rhonda

[@rosyloveslearning3013]

This video may as well be about me. It’s incredible.

[@DrKimSage]

Sending you love and healing today:)

[@alexandriaelizabeth6672]

I love the longer videos! Don’t stop! Thank you 🙏❤️

[@sjohan7835]

Super helpful!!

[@NallahBrown]

Dr. Kim Sage, I just flooded your comment section but I just want you to know that I'll be returning to this GEM as I continue my healing journey throughout this human lifetime. I will share this mental health media with others! Thank you so so so much for your insight and vulnerability. Btw, I'm a graduate marriage & family therapy student.. so to hear a professional psychologist disclose that they too have to work through their anxiety is like a BREATH OF FRESH AIR. Question- Can you make a video on the dorsal/shut down state? Do we numb (drink alcohol, smoke etc) because we are anxious/nervous system dysregulated?

[@DrKimSage]

So happy you are here and awesome that you in the field! I honestly can't remember if I made a video on dorsal (since I post a lot on Tik Tok too) but I will add it to my list! Thank you so much for taking the time to share and post!!:)

[@marialovely7197]

Thank you this really helped l am going through a lot at this moment in my life

[@DrKimSage]

You are so welcome! Thank you so much for being here and please take very good care today:)

[@marialovely7197]

@@DrKimSage I am trying everyday it’s really hard

[@AnnaWinestock-f6p]

Wow, thank u

[@terryrustad1800]

Exceedingly Excellent.. Many Thanks! 🙏

[@DrKimSage]

You are so welcome! Hope you have a great day:)

[@PaulDesJardinsEntertainment]

Thanks Kim!!!

[@DrKimSage]

You are welcome! Thank you for being here with me!:)

[@Lovo369]

Flight to not deal with my emotions and have this state of false hope that the other person will reach out. Instead of speaking up

[@Paul1239193]

My God is this prescient. Though I'm not sure if I can just be independent of what others think.

[@Paul1239193]

And what do we do if we KEEP getting feedback that other people have been thinking of us, and in a bad light?

[@Paul1239193]

EVERYWHERE we go?

[@Alphacentauri819]

We can be very removed from what others think. It is a learned skill. Just as we learned (were conditioned/programmed) to be over aware, tuned into how others perceive us, and then learned to modify, etc...we can reprogram the thought patterns (often cognitive distortions, limiting beliefs, biases, etc) that keep us trapped. Healing our core wounds (often deep, subconscious (sometimes unconscious) painful beliefs that we are unworthy, will be rejected, will be abandoned, aren't good enough, are defective...and so on. We usually have a stronger core wound, that if we address it...is key. Once we see ourselves, from the inside out, as worthy and valuable...we no longer respond very much to messages that don't correspond with those beliefs. Just as if I told you, you're an orange caterpillar, with 2 purple heads, who will become a silly 4 headed butterfly...you would likely laugh, not be affected. Why? You have no previous "program" that says you are any of that, so it doesn't "hurt" or bother you! Once we heal the wounds that can be bothered by others, we become immune to their judgments and evaluations. We know who we are. We attract others who see it too. We let go of those who try to reflect back things we no longer believe about ourselves. The change is completely possible! One of the most powerful tools I've used is ACT. Acceptance and commitment therapy. There is a fantastic journal, written by two psychologists, that you can do 5-10 min a day. Powerful. It helps to question the narratives (meaning) we give things, the self imposed rules/restrictions, the mind patterns we feed (which are the primary source of our suffering). I wish you well! It can be done 💫

[@DrKimSage]

I know it's so challenging to focus on ourselves....but please trust your own heart.

[@DrKimSage]

@@Alphacentauri819 Yes - thank you for sharing and being here!!:)

[@edgreen8140]

It results in a very codependent way. At worst alexithymia can be present. That ear technique for polyvagal put me to sleep.

[@NallahBrown]

7:18 learn how to stop doing so much mind & mood reading/analyzing... we learn how to slow our body down (nervous system is regulated) practice turning inward first! I also love the idea of asking ourselves "is this true" when we rush to interpret/making meaning through telling a story. 8:37 "outside-in-orientation.....we are first looking to the rest of the world to decide if we are okay... that gives away all of our power, our feelings, and our wellness away to everyone else." OMG! That's brilliant 🤭 I relate so hard hehe. This is what I've been consciously working on. Changing the orientation I have toward my worth/value, it's truly a practice/ritual.. I think it's funny how people try to preach it as something you can just turn off as if it's a light switch. When I think of it as something I truly have to decode out of my system and replace with a NEW code.

[@DrKimSage]

Yes I agree completely on the code!