Imagine person with possible 19:46 ASD ADHD and c-ptsd and long relationship with covert narcissist. What would happen.

Man this whole story is me

Thank you Doctor Kim you are amazing and I appreciate all your honesty and your voice is very calming and you've got a great presence about you and I believe that is a higher power allowing us to learn through you and be blessed by your words of wisdom. Thank you for all you do and all your hard work in the field of psychology

Thank you I needed this soo much ❤

Can crushes be a form of stimming? I'm far too old for this, but I almost always have a stupid crush on someone, and they distract me from focusing on my own life/goals. The object of my attentions takes the place of my dreams and ambitions. Please tell me I'm not the only one! Could also be trauma related but I've been like this since my teenage years.

Please don't apologise for using the straightforward language of male and female. It's very important these things are easily understood.

My grandma was poisonous. I called her out at age 9 when she was bullying the family, and am very proud of that. As Top Dog she only wanted to control my father and he copied her. We had a stressful upbringing but I never gave her one inch of time or respect. She was quite careful with me, but controlled my father and her husband. Mine was the only wedding she didn't start a fight at!! I sorted it all out at therapy.

Patriarchy? Gender roles? sounds more like daddy issues and men blaming

Let them live with their suffering and not on anyone else

Does anyone else feel they use basic english like this sentence yet everyoje wildly over simplifies or ignores half of the grammar and just ignores half of what you say and just paraphrase your entire presence?

Thank you

❤ Thankyou 🙏

I'll be 80 yrs old in a couple of months. I tripped over your video while scrolling artist videos, and I am stunned to hear you state so many characteristics that I have. Could it be that I've had autistic presentation all these years without knowing anything about what made me the way I am. I must say, I've always wondered.

What a wonderful and thoughtful person you are, Dr. Kim! Thank you for this video.

I can't solve things 😢 no

Bc im disabled i don't function well . Barely every symptom u said

Could I function kinda and ha e autism? All that yes

I didn't hear one, two, three, four.

The silence was key to survival really hit home with me. You get to a point where retreating and shutting down is the only way you can deal with things. I developed selective mutism at age 5 and had it for my elementary years. Only a couple of years ago did I realize it was connected to abuse I had immediately prior. Ugh.

i so appreciate you sharing your personal experience in this here thank you.

can we practice a LOT more care here to not mix in "health anxiety"/catastrophizing with actual disability and chronic illness? This feeds the psychologization of very serious diseases that disproportionately affect women, queers, PGM, and yes, survivors of childhood trauma. This psychologization literally kills many of us. Yes the anxiety/medical trauma/catastrophization can overlap/co-occur with "real health issues" (we're all medically traumatized if we've been chronically ill, on top of the other childhood traumas) but millions of us are living y'all's worst fears (eg, losing sensation, losing mobility, losing cognition, or in my case eg having my legs turn blue within minutes when I stand up) --we are living the actual catastrophe of trying to survive capitalism while severely ill--without breaking a sweat. (OK dysautonomia can literally make you sweat. Yes these overlaps and the way trauma gets embodied and how ACE scores impact risk of injury or autoimmune diseases are fascinating). We do not need more shaming or suggestions --to ourselves OR to the rest of the world letting us literally smother and die--that our real disabling issues (often entirely neglected by doctors and/or incurable) are "just the trauma/anxiety/depression." I don't think any harm was intended but the actual context makes playing into this extremely harmful. For a clear, more academic outline on this (lest y'all believe I'm exaggerating) please turn to the quietly herstoric blog of none other than Chloe aka Elle Carnitine, who writes essays to move mountains and make history while being barely alive. epistemologyoftheclinic.blogspot.com/2024/02/capital-and-controversialisation-of.html Here entry entitled "A Bourgeois White Woman’s Disease" is also super salient here.

So I went to my gp , the first time I went they didn’t believe me saying I’m not hyper, the thing is I have had all the other things, the depression, anxiety , seen as dizzy , can’t comprehend things ….I then got recommended by my therapist , so now I did a list but they haven’t gotten back to me, it’s annoying me I want to find out for sure because I’m done with being , I’m stuck I’m so stuck , I need some help but I haven’t worked ever cuse other issues and I’m loss sigh

I want to see the video but it’s too triggering .

Yet this therapist is on point 😊

I a tired of therapist think they know how truely CPTSD affects people they cannot until you lived

@DrKimSage This is the problem of narc mothers, even when I am listening to you, my mother's inner critic voice told me "Look how evil Dr. Kim is? she wants you to hate me". I am grateful that I could handle this. Thanks Dr. Kim

Thank you for taking the time to make these videos. We really appreciate it.

Yes, I feel everything is my fault somehow.Not autistic or adhd but extremely sensitive. I force myself now to not care about others problems. When someone asks me a personal question I have no idea how to answer as I never regard my own needs.

This is interesting. As a kid I was very loving to my mom, she was very loving to me as well. Very accepting of my love and giving of her own. Then I met my dad at about 5 or 6. He completely rejected me both verbally and physically, giving me a really weird view of how a man should treat a woman and how a father should treat their daughter. He ended up leaving randomly when I was about 9- that internalized so much rejection for me. Things started to click- and I immediately felt like it was my fault. You wonder what you did to make your parent hate you so much that they’d insult you, ignore and neglect you just to up and leave one day. For some reason I thought the way he treated me was how all dads treated their daughters, so the loss of a shitty dad still hit. After he left I stopped hugging, I’d cry a lot of someone tried to touch me without asking first, and had a lot of outbursts. It wasn’t just rejection for me, but in my child mind THAT is what hurt the most. I didn’t care if he treated me badly at that time, as long as I could say I had a dad.

Spot on and concise. Thank you! Would you teach us how to navigate getting free from communal narc?

Fear is root of mental illness

The remedy for fear is trusting God

People are wicked

I'm definitely the scapegoat. Thank you for this. I'm trying to discern whether this applies to my Mother.

Is there any correlation of Dissociation and Dementia? Can dementia be a form of dissociation in the BPD subject as a way of escaping their trauma or past trauma?

Are we all just autistic?

I agree with all of the things you said Kim, but I was having a chuckle to myself when you were talking about anxiety & how you can't wait to go to an event, then when you get there, you can't wait for it to be over. It reminded me ofwhen I'm near the end of a product. I can't wait for it to be finished, so I can open another one. I have no idea what that's about....

I have been through decades of therapy re narc mother, plus psychedelic therapy. It's all helped, but nothing as much as reading these comments and understanding I'm not alone. Even better, discovering there are people out there who truly get it. Not sure my therapists ever did. Unless you've been through it, it's pretty hard to fathom let alone believe. Nobody wants to believe there are mothers like this: pure evil.

I like the video however I noticed periodically she keeps attaching fathers to the subject of absent mothers which is not fair because we have specific videos on absent fathers but in the case of absent mothers the father is still included. Why?

my 'highschool jv baseball coach': "you weren't even trying"

My parents took in my best friend when she got pregnant at 20 and her parents kicked her out, so to my friend my parents are her "saviors". Got into an argument with my friend because I was telling her about my parents emotional neglect and she just kept defending them and telling me that my parents love me so much and they did their best. She couldn't grasp anything i was telling her. Made me feel even more alone.

Dr I can’t express in words how important your work in my life is (besides Ramani and Vaknin). As being autistic and in the same time exploited by a very toxic parental dynamic, growing up in an “improving” country (where civil society is still a dream), I was getting no real help for decades. KZbin literally saved my life after finding your channel and the other two precious colleagues mentioned above. Thank you for all.

Everything on there

As a Christian intercessor, being alone is the safest place for me. The spirit realm is more real than the natural world and being a prayer warrior makes me a target for the demonic. God put me in a home in the country on a beautiful river so i’m hidden away. I love being alone because i can pray all i want to. I have 9 family members coming for christmas and i’m a bit apprehensive. I want to isolate but i can’t if im going to pull off Christmas as it’s up to me. I just found out i’m CPTSD and im not sure what to do about it just yet. Looking for a doctor to help. Thanks for your post! ⭕️❌

How would uk if I've been misdiagnosed 35 yrs

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KIM, YOU ARE AN ABSOLUTE TRAIN WRECK

IN 1970, MY OLDER SISTER HELPED A CHILLD DOWN THE ROAD WHO HAD THE FIRST CASE OF AUTISM IN THE AREA. NOBODY EVER HEARD OF IT. THIS CHILD WAS BRIGHT BUT COULDN'T FUNCTION PHYSICALLY VERY WELL. SO DRS CREATED A TREATMENT PLAN BLAH BLAH BLAH. THIS KID COULDN'T FUNCTION. WHAT THEY CALL AUTISM TODAY IS NOTHING LIKE BACK THEN. TODAYS AUTISM IS SO WATERED DOWN AND MOMS TREAT THEIR LITTLE KIDS LIKE BABIES. THESRE CHILDREN AREN'T AUTISTIC, THEY ARE PAMPPERED WHICH HURTS THEIR DEVELOPMENT

57 and this video has opened my eyes. My daughter was diagnosed on the spectrum a few years ago. I have been in denial but here I am because someone loved me enough to send me this video. I now understand why I love my career. I’m an echo tech and it is a quiet environment where I use both sides of my brain-art and science, and have minimal conversation with my patient. Sigh

Wow, that felt good. Thank you. I yawned twice. I love your soothing raspy voice. Can you sing?