Stop Caring What Your Parents Think

[@scottjoseph9578]

My parents were mildly below average. My parents favored my Sister. So, I got my MD at 25, paid off my student loans of 80k 18 months after finishing residency. I married a superb woman they didn't like, (she is a loyal, faithful genius herself) and am now a millionaire and a paterfamilias myself with kids who love me. I've told my mother that my mother in law was a much better person than her. I told her, "life isn't fair; deal with it."

[@scottjoseph9578]

I've told my son, (AND MY DAD) that my Dad was a perfect role model---whenever I have an issue with my Boy, I think of what my Dad would do, and do the opposite. Love them, but don't like them particularly. My kids know two things: 1) I adore them; and 2) if they come up with a life plan that I can help with (become a welder, etc.), I will.

[@scottjoseph9578]

@V O My debt was accumulated in the 1980s and early 90s. Much less expensive. May God Bless and Keep You.

[@scottjoseph9578]

@@jxxxmxxx391 I avoid diagnosing my parents, as a UCLA trained boarded Psychiatrist. But they do enjoy excessive drama, and I get enough at work.

[@scottjoseph9578]

@@seabreeze4559 No. She was a GENIUS, and Politically CONSERVATIVE, and my Mom is a Chicago Democrat. Nice way to ask the question, pendejo. Do you use a tweezer to hold it when you micturate?

[@tamadeus7189]

You thought, believed & acted! Well done, sir. The people who get on in this life will always be those who quit wishing, daydresming, fantasizing, feeeeeeeling, hoping so and otherwise wallowing in pools of empty-headed emotionalism and take up the authority and responsibility for living their lives.

[@sarvesh714]

This was a real talk. No bs, just spilling the facts. You're the dad I never had cappy. I don't have the fucking money now but soon I will and I wanna talk to you someday. Thanks, love from india...

[@1983jcheat]

Glad someone is telling people the truth.

[@1983jcheat]

@V O There's a fine line between Respecting your Parents and being a lackey. Now driving and exploring is fine. Personally, driving got old after 20 years. Your back gets older, but the cars get newer. Sitting in traffic at 16-17 isn't the same at 36-37.

[@rogerm3708]

When I was in my mid-twenties was the first time I unloaded on my parents and told them what I thought of them. That was only after I was confident that I would never need to go back to them for any help. I encouraged my adult children to do that to me when they felt completely independent of me because if they aren't, there will be consequences. They have yet to confront me

[@thecompetentman5384]

32, living at home and having panic attacks? MOVE OUT!

[@nandornagy5955]

By far the calmest we've seen Cappy EVER 😂😂😂

[@jeffberlin4179]

Of all the people on this planet. My parents are on the short list of people. I even care a little about what they think about me.. To everyone else. I don't give a rats *ss, what you think about me.. I didn't say, I wouldn't listen to what you have to say. If I believe you have something to offer that maybe valuable to me. But what you think about me. I'm STOIC. I couldn't care less what you think about me.

[@larrycheek3588]

Love this.. Zed Fs detected🔥

[@enigmahammer444]

I care because my dad is a long time fan of yours, and highly intelligent.

[@promochannel25]

how are you over 30 and have never left the nest lol

[@stoneroses1989]

Easy to do in this economy.

[@stoneroses1989]

I agree with you on the cultural failings of modern parenting, but to say the economy doesn't play a critical role is just not true. Automation, Outsourcing, Stagnant Wages since the late 70's, with massive increase in inflation have all contributed to many 20 and 30 somethings(and beyond) shacking up with Mom and Dad.

[@Josh-fp2qn]

@@stoneroses1989 And worthless degrees and high debt.

[@chris-ji2rw]

That quote is from John Goodman in “the Gambler”

[@sweetnovember3984]

Reality is everything! You have to emotionally cut yourself off everyone, even yourself. And then see everything from on top of a high mountain. Sometimes you need to cut off your parents, sometimes it is not necessary. Everyone is different and has a different past, but one thing is for sure, people pleasing is the biggest waste of time ever. Sometimes when we try to stop people pleasing we go overboard and it is important to keep that in mind, but also having some empathy for yourself, that you might need some time to adjust. In most cases your parents are not evtl, but also just victims of their own parents. Grace towards them and yourself towards yourself is a real blessing, with or without contact. It is so sad that society is so damaged because of the parents of the parents of the parents of the parents...

[@general8vergel]

I'm 26 retired, living in the farm and my parents lived with me 😭😭😭 I want them out but I can't..

[@shadeewalker8099]

My dad lives with me and heavily depends on me. Even tho he helps with rent I want him to move out as well..I can afford the rent and food for me by myself.

[@redeoghan]

I was in a similar position to this guy not so long ago. A realization dawning on me now after cutting off my parents etc. is that I never really developed much of a sense of self due to the environment I grew up in. Cappy is dead on the money, the first step is getting to know yourself for the first time and figure out what makes you happy. Until you can start that process you are just forcing it which will not get the results you want.

[@thehumansociety7784]

I will read the shit out of that book "The Gray Pube." Hows that on coming along?

[@MichalLSK]

Such a boomer logic

[@fovarberma752]

3 A.M. EST, You really don't want SuperChat trolling.

[@rppope1006]

Bro, remind me again whose house that is?

[@marpsr]

The Gray Pube 🤣

[@21stCenturyAccount]

16 year old Gen Z'ers don't have agency

[@kwh6769]

3:41 😂

[@tamadeus7189]

The greatest thing my parents did for me was prove to me by example that if I didn't think, I would lose. That's what they did all the time, but eventually mom woke up before it was too late. The sperm donor, not so much!

[@jaylaw.7660]

Okay, I will

[@hamidousy5460]

Nuclear family is evil. Unless you have 10+ siblings, it sucks.

[@Josh-fp2qn]

This guy needs Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for his anxiety condition. A therapist can teach him how to restructure his negative thought patterns about himself and the world around him. He also needs to gradually expose himself to situations that make him uncomfortable. Eventually, the anxiety will lessen.

[@kenrose2523]

I would never wish homelessness and starvation on anybody; that is just ridiculous

[@rppope1006]

Sadly, you are a minority of good people. Most can't control themselves and would gladly make others homeless if it made them better than YOU

[@larrycheek3588]

What book did he mention? "It'll save your life," Aaron Clarey.. "The Biden effect"? did he say? Which book did this author recommend in this video?