STOP OVERSHARING!❌ When You Feel The Need to Share Too Much Info, SHUT UP & do These Instead!

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@chloe_536 4 ай бұрын

"I used to think that sharing every detail of my life was a sign of transparency and trust. But I've❤ learned that over-sharing can lead to emotional exhaustion, judgment, and even harm. By learning to keep things to myself, I've gained control over my narrative, set healthy boundaries, and cultivated more meaningful relationships. I've discovered that sometimes, the most powerful thing I can say is nothing at all. In the silence, I've found peace, clarity, and a sense of self that I never knew I had. Keeping things to myself has been a liberating journey, and I'm grateful for the lessons learned along the way."❤

@winniesschoolofelegance 4 ай бұрын

@@chloe_536 I really love this for you! Well done!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

@chloe_536 4 ай бұрын

@@winniesschoolofelegance thanks ma'am🥂❤️

@estyonyi8153 4 ай бұрын

Beautiful 🤩❤️

@Tchibazz-TV 4 ай бұрын

Winnie is such an amazing person...I saw her first video on how to make pizza❤❤ she is so gifted...thanks for sharing theee tips❤

@francesamarachi2404 4 ай бұрын

I still feel this way How did you change

@sibongilephiri4292 4 ай бұрын

Im so excited about this topic, because I was once a victim and it drained my energy. Oversharing makes one's life boring, people should be curious to know what's going on in your life, don't just be an open book to everyone, especially on social media. AND WHEN SOMEONE DECIDES TO OPEN UP TO YOU, YOU'RE NOT OBLIGATED TO DO THE SAME.

@gloriagloria7401 4 ай бұрын

I need to pen down this comment

@laribareh3134 4 ай бұрын

I paid a big price for being an oversharer. But i take it as a big chance to grow . Am praying to God to help my weakness because in my weakness His strength is made perfect in me.

@winniesschoolofelegance 4 ай бұрын

@@laribareh3134 take it one day at a time dear…💖💖💖

@laribareh3134 4 ай бұрын

@@winniesschoolofelegance tq for taking up this topic and explained so clearly ❤️❤️❤️. Stay blessed

@debbiejoy7 4 ай бұрын

Me too

@chiamakaonwusonye4908 4 ай бұрын

First person here and I am glad to relax after Sunday service with this enlightening piece.

@winniesschoolofelegance 4 ай бұрын

I hope it inspires you and add value. Happy Sunday dear!❤❤

@RiamatuKamara-yu9vh 4 ай бұрын

100% a private life is a happy life..... That's my life style by His grace,because people has hurt me so much. Then I used this strategy in my life, and is a happy life ever.

@jesseerics9107 4 ай бұрын

Winnie, I know you know you're beautiful. But I still have to say it, you're so beautiful and you've modelled a lot of lives in a more elegant and better way. Thank you so much ❤❤❤

@winniesschoolofelegance 4 ай бұрын

Oh my!! Thank you so so much! I appreciate your kinds!❤❤

@maur7892 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for this Winnie, this is great, i remember some colleagues discussing that i don't share many things about my life. Am glad am a private person, it has saved me from a lot

@Faithhamilton141 4 ай бұрын

Don't over share. Privacy is power.

@winniesschoolofelegance 4 ай бұрын

@@Faithhamilton141 privacy is everything!

@OWUPELETAMUNORACHAEL 4 ай бұрын

I used to be an over sharer due to some traumatic experiences I have had in my childhood moments. Henceforth, I am going be intentional about keeping a private life.

@ijay_achinike 4 ай бұрын

Same here

@cynthiaokeke9444 4 ай бұрын

I was sharing every information about myself but I stopped and found an inner peace

@vivianchigozie3474 4 ай бұрын

Thank you Pretty Winnie for this episode and Happy Sunday to you! What really surprised me when I saw the notification and title of this video was how coincidental it was that I was actually thinking about this today, and even had to browse at length on different articles, to know the real reason behind this recent trend/syndrome of needing to put all of oneself out there. I would think of myself as an oversharer, though I had become aware of it and have been consciously trying to minimize it, after having seen the damage and harm it can do to one by living this way, but surprisingly most people have not really considered it adverse, judging by the things I see some people share on social media. One of the quotes I use to restrain myself when I feel that need to overshare or impress others is "Live a life that feels good on the inside and not one that just looks good on the outside". Overall, insecurity or voidness is at the core of it. People who are full or are wholesome have little or no need for external validation...

@winniesschoolofelegance 4 ай бұрын

@@vivianchigozie3474 I really love that quote! Live a life that is full on the inside and not just good on the outside!👏🏽👏🏽 Thanks for staying with us!❤️❤️❤️

@estyonyi8153 4 ай бұрын

"Live a life that feels good on the inside and not one that just looks good on the outside" words on marble

@The.PrettyBlessing 4 ай бұрын

I overshare most times because, I am usually by myself, I have no friends to really talk to . So I noticed that whenever I get comfortable with someone, I tend to share so much😔 I often regret after over sharing… thank you for this video Zee🥰

@ngicelia3797 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for this Winnie Ma, this is so amazing. This video is specifically for me especially growing up in a toxic family(childhood trauma), trying to get validation from people, it hasn't been easy communicating or making friends and so on. But coming in contact with this video has opened my eyes to a lot. Thank you so much ❤

@EugeniaIkenokwalu 4 ай бұрын

A private Life is a Happy Life♥️❤Thank You so much Winnie🥰

@teacher-vero 4 ай бұрын

I grew up defending myself towards many accusations from my guidance , which lead me to over share then This video had validate my next step in keeping my privacy. Thank you so much ma'am

@ChidinmaPeace-db7tn 4 ай бұрын

I have learnt from this video. It really touched me, and kept me thinking. A private life is a happy life.

@razitatebug7067 4 ай бұрын

The overly trusting part was clearly me back then I was overly trust Infact mine was more like a disease I trusted also because I thought we are all christian in one church Yeah This message is just for me Thank you Winnie 😊

@AngelaImmaculata 4 ай бұрын

Ma, all thanks to you I used to be in the dark but after seeing your videos I started learning. May God continue to bless you and guide you and give you more knowledge to share with us. Thanks once again love you❤

@ozochukwusuccess9064 4 ай бұрын

Don't let people who you do not trust or vouch for to an extent into d vault of ur life It's not really ur place to keep a conversation going Read body language Dont always go looking for someone to talk to. Learn not to overtalk Learn to pen down your thoughts for yourself Set your boundaries Become a good listener, an active listener Listen actively not to talk back but to process what is or has being said James 1:19-22 Be quick to listen and slow to speak Listen twice as much as you talk Stop overly trusting people Trust is earned Test your friends Learn to keep things vague and generalize ur talk sometimes Stop posting everything abt you on social media Be mindfu of strangers Set boundaries to yourself and stay loyal to your boundaries

@ozochukwusuccess9064 4 ай бұрын

You inspire me a lot ma'am. Ur soul is blessed. Thanks a lot for sharing

@maryAmoduu 4 ай бұрын

Most time I don't know how i share everything thinking that those people think or behave like me😢😢and think that i have seen a good friend not knowing that they're just normal or temporary people...... Thank you so much pretty Winnie 🥰🥰

@EstherMawupemo 4 ай бұрын

This is very educative ,I do overshare I have been warn severally but hmmm I'm still paying dearly for that now I pray for the overcoming power to stop this awful act I'm a young lady and this is stressing me out

@nalujjapauline4377 4 ай бұрын

Am guilty about over talking which leads me to over sharing. I pray to change and set values for my lifestyle. Thank you Winnie for this topic

@francesamarachi2404 4 ай бұрын

Same here

@suzzybella3975 4 ай бұрын

There are times that after you have overshared, you just want to take back all you have shared

@winniesschoolofelegance 4 ай бұрын

@@suzzybella3975 that’s why you need to work on learning not to over share so you avoid those times…❤️

@estyonyi8153 4 ай бұрын

So true

@sylviachitakuza6141 4 ай бұрын

I know right 😢

@ozochukwusuccess9064 4 ай бұрын

Swrs. This is so me

@CHIMACHINONSO-eo1yu 3 ай бұрын

Very true

@PS-yn9wk 4 ай бұрын

Yooh baby girl you are so correct,we overshare and we become their nect topic of gossiping😢Love you sis', watching from South Africa❤

@winniesschoolofelegance 4 ай бұрын

Exactly! So you need to keep a lot of things to yourself.

@VickieGold-kx9xl 4 ай бұрын

Because of no friends, heartbreaks,no good family ties,i used to overshare but I learned in a hard way,never doing that again, just living as life offers, thank you sis

@sandraokonkwo900 4 ай бұрын

I can absolutely relate ,my case is same as yours.

@VickieGold-kx9xl 4 ай бұрын

@@sandraokonkwo900 it's well with us sis

@sarahwilliams9123 4 ай бұрын

Sharing makes me feel transparent Thank you Winnie, now I know better.

@SweettoothMarie77 4 ай бұрын

This is such an important topic. Moving in silence is the safest way to go. I hope you can also do a video on how to celebrate in silence🎉

@ceciliaamehey9864 4 ай бұрын

My grandma always says, it's not everything you see or hear u have to say and also wait for someone to ask for your opinion before u talk. Even that if u know u don't know no body will force u just keep quiet .❤❤❤❤❤ Thank you so much dear. God bless you 🙏

@kundwaamina9572 4 ай бұрын

What an amazing video 😢😊 I started following this channel 3 years ago but today's video hits differently Winnie Thank you so much sis I love the fact that we have many things in common and the way you get up from down in the way you don't know 😂 but I highly appreciate the work of your be blessed beyond measures much love from Rwanda take a heart 💝

@smartpageprints8617 4 ай бұрын

Exactly. Best to just keep quiet. i have never seen where there is a fight because one person could not keep the conversation going.

@Nmesomachivera 4 ай бұрын

Winnie’s school of elegance, one of my save place❤ Thank u for this community

@winniesschoolofelegance 4 ай бұрын

I am so glad you are a part of this community. We thank God.❤️🙏🏽

@veronicatogbah4375 4 ай бұрын

Sure Winnie I learn my lesson But I don’t know why anytime I decided to trust people it turned out wrong but for me I have all their secrets in my heart ❤️

@OgechukwuAkah 4 ай бұрын

I always had this feeling of never regretting subscribing to your channel, and you just proved me right with this very video🥰 Please keep it up Dear 👍❤❤🎉

@razitatebug7067 4 ай бұрын

I always enjoy your vlogs Infact your vlogs is a must watch for me I get inspired when I watch them Sometimes I rewatch them to get calm❤❤❤❤ Thank you so much Winnie

@Easyreel 4 ай бұрын

Thank you Winnie 💕 Big inspiration and a blessing even to me as a man. God bless you

@faithnwaochei830 4 ай бұрын

Aww, Dear Winnie I am glad to be a part of a community free from toxicity 😊 I really admire you for keeping a lot of things private, that’s one thing I noticed once I started following you and learning from all you teach on elegance, and I for one will do the same. It’s called PRIVATE LIFE for a reason😉 Every week I look forward to your videos which always provides me with value❤ Thank you Winnie 😊

@Annie-Astrid 4 ай бұрын

Sometimes it's okay to put your relationships or friendships to the test and see what you're really made of.😊 I tried this with my flat neighbour, whom I had doubts about, by intentionally not showing up when they expected me to, but on my own terms. It turned out that the whole family was comprised of narcissistic psychopaths.

@phil_quil 4 ай бұрын

For real, you remind me so much of myself 🥰 Thank you for every content. It's really giving me the confidence that I can be a personal development coach too.

@NakimeraMariam-d1x 4 ай бұрын

I love you so much Winnie. Thank you so much

@winniesschoolofelegance 4 ай бұрын

I love you too!❤❤

@mwalomaurine7941 2 ай бұрын

You are a wow lady! You keep on transforming my life daily with your videos. Keep on shining ironlady.

@peacechianugo5679 4 ай бұрын

Here comes the queen of Winnie's kingdom. Thanks for sharing with us

@winniesschoolofelegance 4 ай бұрын

@@peacechianugo5679 my absolute pleasure Darln!💖💖

@ozochukwusuccess9064 4 ай бұрын

Yh, so much to seek validation To fill up the silence To prove myself as being transparent Feeling insecure This is so me,I hope to improve I think it has done more harm than good to me I sumtymz feel judged by own over sharing attitude Thank you mama❤️ for sharing I can't even seem to differentiate between acquaintances and real friends My secrets eeh

@loshi8162 4 ай бұрын

This message just come on right time, I’m learning a lot from you Winnie

@winniesschoolofelegance 4 ай бұрын

I am so glad you found this video valuable.❤

@WendyLiving 4 ай бұрын

Just 2 minutes in and couldn't agree more! Loving this specific topic

@chiderapromise4605 4 ай бұрын

I don't regret ever watching your videos. Three hearts for you ma'am Winnie ❤❤❤. In addition ma, I love your outfit ❤.

@ThiaChiammy 4 ай бұрын

I can relate with the KZbin space being less toxic. I started being here more because, i love the positivity in the comments. So a friend stopped talking to me for a while, she even blocked me. I reached out to her and she shut me out for months. Later she reached out to me and one of the reasons she gave for ghosting me is that i share very little about my life, but sincerely i believe I've been very open to her since we've been friends but obviously she didn't see it like that i guess. Thanks alot for these tips ma'am, i need to be better with keeping my business private, not everything should be said and i think we all should respect that tho.

@OnyecheJosephine-bu7xy 4 ай бұрын

Thank you Sis Winnie for this topic...I used to be an oversharer like a talkative but now I don't do that any more.ibfqct people think I'm now secretive. I'm grateful you discussed about this.

@ozochukwusuccess9064 4 ай бұрын

What people dont know, they cannot criticize Maintain your mystery A private life is a happy life Let people keep speculating Thank you mama❤

@Jides-mg4fp 4 ай бұрын

God bless you immensely,Winie....this information came @ the right time

@YandeChisabi-gk2hm 4 ай бұрын

One of the reasons I look forward to Sundays😌❤️thank you for the information, knowledge and wisdom that you share✨

@OjukwudivineChikamma 4 ай бұрын

Thank you winnie am actually waiting for this episode since 2:55pm today I just saw the episode now I,m so happy Winnie 😅😅😅 thank you

@stellatetteh7725 4 ай бұрын

My dear Elegant Intelligent Winnie, Here again, a special lesson to end the weekend yet a lifetime guide. Thank you so much. ❤❤❤❤❤❤

@ThembiKunene-oc5bn Ай бұрын

I used to be like that aswell,i regret but am cleaning up the mess of over sharing personal information never ever

@tosin1018 4 ай бұрын

Audio recording myself when I want to call and overshare. It has really saved me!

@Ijeezie 4 ай бұрын

I needed to hear this. Thanks Winnie

@winniesschoolofelegance 4 ай бұрын

My absolute pleasure!❤

@favourorilade6453 2 ай бұрын

This is such an amazing video. So many people need to watch it. I'm definitely watching this again! Thank you for sharing this Winnie. ❤

@ogunduvictoria6408 4 ай бұрын

There's so much strength in silence, for in quietness lies power.

@shanaeb4814 4 ай бұрын

My family came from two different countries to the U.S. One culturally is known for being extremely talkative. So for me it’s more cultural instead of insecurity or fear of silence. But yes not all people need to know everything about a person! Regarding letting people speculate can lead to people making false assumptions and then spreading that around as if it’s fact (they created their own narrative). I’ve had that happen a few times and it’s difficult to recover from that kind of reputation damage.

@Big_baby 4 ай бұрын

I’m so happy I came across this video video, to think I have always written down how I feel in my journal ❤️, and now in uni I still do ❤❤❤❤.

@maryaudu8984 4 ай бұрын

Wow! Thanks, Winnie for this helpful video. Keep up the good work

@MaryEne-bv2hd 4 ай бұрын

Thanks for being such a good elder sister to me ❤❤❤

@olwethumrabalala3117 4 ай бұрын

I came across this topic as an adult. I think it took me time to stop oversharing by being mindful about what I talk about❤

@tr7339 4 ай бұрын

Oh winni i forgot to say how much i love your look

@winniesschoolofelegance 4 ай бұрын

@@tr7339 thank you so much!❤️❤️

@hemhemoh 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for this, Winnie.

@Vickywhisper. 4 ай бұрын

I really need to share this video, I can't be the only one to enjoy this talk, but sometimes will share by mistake, this is when the video or journal will be needful.

@amoinannekouakou8053 4 ай бұрын

You’re God’s sent.you bless me with all your videos.i’m following you from COTE D’IVOIRE

@julieteberechukwu4947 4 ай бұрын

Even oversharing with some family members can be very bad!

@annnjuguna6560 4 ай бұрын

I find this useful. For me,i have learnt to journal,write.. Or I talk to my mirror😄

@vuyokazindungane4270 4 ай бұрын

Very good information...I'm learning something and I now know which areas to draw boundaries in...thank you Winnie ❤❤❤....love your outfit momma🔥🔥🔥

@_motivate_me 4 ай бұрын

So true Winnie. Thank you so much ❤

@Blessed247-t8p 4 ай бұрын

I know I do not overshare. I always keep things to myself and most times I’m not able to let go of the bad feelings so they make me feel down. I’m watching your video on how to build emotional intelligence for the second time and actually putting it into practice now. What I have taken from your video today is the “self conversation” on my mobile phone ❤. Thank you Winnie ❤

@NaomiAbankwah-n5v 4 ай бұрын

You are such a darling listening to you I can gladly say my life has change

@abalakablessing5544 4 ай бұрын

Awnnnnn…this video is really for me…thank you miss winny…I love you big time

@uzodinmarejoice942 4 ай бұрын

This is so insightful..... Thank you Winnie

@adesholz6127 4 ай бұрын

I have lent a lot from this video. Thank you. I am going to practicalise your advice.

@EstherChidimma-e4m 4 ай бұрын

This is 💯 thank you Winnie

@ethelezeh4662 4 ай бұрын

I always look forward to your Videos Winnie and I love every bit of it because it's life changing. God bless you

@RUYINAETENGsMEDICDIARY 4 ай бұрын

Thanks for this reminder

@winniesschoolofelegance 4 ай бұрын

@@RUYINAETENGsMEDICDIARY you are absolutely welcome!❤️

@NwaBene 4 ай бұрын

Thank you winnie for this video

@winniesschoolofelegance 4 ай бұрын

You are welcome Dear!❤

@humanenough_1 4 ай бұрын

That shut up! Is needed Winnie

@connexchiwindi882 4 ай бұрын

You inspire me alot ... very impressive...thank u

@theresadibie3157 4 ай бұрын

Well done, nwanyi oma. I love everything about you ❤❤❤❤❤.

@IfyBerries 4 ай бұрын

Thank you so much.... I learnt the hard way at some point 😢

@blessingameh4223 4 ай бұрын

Thank you, thank you, and thank you ❤❤❤❤ for everything today

@sulovesulove2172 4 ай бұрын

You're right my lovely. 🎉

@sylviachitakuza6141 4 ай бұрын

The need to cover up silence 😢😢😢😢that’s so me I feel the need to keep the conversation going and end up oversharing 😢

@RuthMwange 4 ай бұрын

Thank you so much Winnie ❤ I'm grateful to God for your life thank you for your good advices 😊 they are really building me

@Humanandwellness 4 ай бұрын

Thank you winnie for this video ❤very timely. God bless you pretty.

@Flowrybay 4 ай бұрын

GOD Bless you Winny and thanks for sharing this I'm so glad to have watched this.. ❤

@yummyfoodies474 4 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing, I am so guilty of this and have really learnt from watching this video. Please can you make a video on how to heal from childhood trauma and bully

@abigailchidimmah 4 ай бұрын

She has already. Check her previous post on this page

@rutendozingoni6686 4 ай бұрын

A very informative video! Special thanks Ma'am Winnie ❤❤

@poojashinde9831 4 ай бұрын

Such a informative video.... thank you soo much

@stellaolakada2155 4 ай бұрын

Thank you Winnie, I always find your videos as life saving, because it always talk about things I need to work on❤ Please can you make a video on things to work on before going to the university.