Terrible Mistakes I Made in My Early & Mid 20's - Winifred Nwania - WSE

[@berthedupervil8780]

Thank you for that video. I made those same mistakes. I did not heal my inner child before dating and getting married. It caused a lot of pain in out marriage. I was counting on my husband to make me happy and give me the emotional stability I missed in my childhood. 11 years into our marriage, God opened my eyes and I realized that the source of my unhappiness was me. I asked too much from my husband. Now that everything is clear in my mind, I start enjoying my marriage instead of having constant fights.

[@GiftofGod282]

Same with me

[@nalujjapauline4377]

I am in my 20's , ever since I started watching and following your videos, I started changing my ways. I thought I had friends. Thank you Winnie.

[@winniesschoolofelegance]

My pleasure!!❤️

[@sophiawill789]

I think we both share the same childhood experiences and honestly, I am still battling with some of these things in my late 30's even as a mum. The points that hit me the most were: The triangular life, not retaining friendships, worrying about what people think of me, and not wanting to ask for help. Most of these behaviours stem from the childhood restrictions by my elderly ones, because most of the time, they were overly protective of me since I was the last born of the family. I find it difficult asking for help because many times I've done so, I hardly get positive responses, maybe because most people often think my need for assistance isn't so serious. I've learnt to handle a lot independently which I also think is not so bad. These traits ended up becoming part of my life but currently Ive been working on breaking out from them gradually. I believe i'll definitely get there. Thanks so much for this one! Weldone.

[@Kristy_yumtreats]

I watched this video and said, God brought your channel to me, not by myself, you always hit the nail on the head, thanks for everything Winnie.

[@adedolapoadelabu]

I keep loving you, every other day. People who venture into this kind of aspect of work (like you're doing) probably got to a point where they had to do this (courageously sharing their experience), because, it actually connects them more to their audience and showing the practicality of what they teach. All I could muster, was "hmmmm"... Because, if they remove that dating, everything you said looks like you're describing the me that hadn't evolved (I'm still working on me, by God's Spirit). Thank you, I personally appreciate your genuineness.

[@adesinaoluwaseun5796]

As a Christian, your Invincible force, strong intuition..I believe that the HolySpirit. The more you acknowledge Him in your life the more reveal Himself to you . I learnt a lot from this video, my life has been just a routine everyday, from work to home to church then again and again. It’s changing now😊

[@tamunonemitekenah499]

I just turned 30, and I can relate to EVERY point you just stated. Let's just say I'm living better now.

[@winniesschoolofelegance]

Well done!🙌🏼

[@selinaokotta5468]

Why do i get to reasonate with every piece of what you wished to have known earlier....thank you for mirroring them out,and now the me is getting better(work on progress) ,thank you to the the likes of your videos.

[@winniesschoolofelegance]

Knowing you found this video helpful makes me feel fulfilled and thank you for taking the time to write this comment.❤️

[@fadzo123]

Please teach us more about Financial literacy , I'm 22 and I'm in college and I'm doing business as well, I learnt from your previous videos on how to make money while you're in college and it's helping me a lot but I now want to make more and be financially independent.

[@winniesschoolofelegance]

I will share more videos on finance in the coming weeks…watch out for them okay. Keep soaring and making great progress. I am rooting for you always.

[@YourMediaSis]

Please can we get the title of the books to help heal the inner child?

[@winniesschoolofelegance]

@@YourMediaSis it’s in the description box

[@victoriaclement6300]

Am interested too please

[@KelsyNanji]

I'm interested

[@Ceceeke]

Oh Winnie!🥺 I don't know how to thank God for your life. You've had a positive impact on me and I've learnt alot from you. I'll never run away from conflict and I'll definitely read the books you recommended. I pray you continue to grow in strength and wisdom. I hope to see and talk with you one day❤️

[@winniesschoolofelegance]

Amen!! Thank you so much!❤️

[@cherish587]

Winnie thanks for always educating us on this channel. Most especially this new course "art of speaking eloquently and elegantly" it just feels like u're looking through the mind of people to know the right things to bring to them. That course is really meant for people like me and I'm definitely purchasing it. Thanks once again for everything. Much love 😍

[@aning-berkonanayaa273]

Girl you just like me... from Ghana. I like you and I could learn from you. I need to have someone like you very close to me.

[@i.am_maryam]

I trusted and loved people around me that I never knew or noticed when they didn't want me in their circle anymore and saw me as a competitor, it hurt me a lot knowing lately.

[@jerushawanjiku5576]

This felt so much like me, I'll definitely be better, thank you Winnie ❤

[@winniesschoolofelegance]

You are absolutely welcome!❤️

[@Miss-Bree]

That's me with the fixed routine😂😂my house, work, church , and I work from home💔😂😂

[@CeesLessons]

Thanks for this Winnie! I'm also the kind of person that tries to please everyone, tries to make everyone happy at my own cost. Plus, I also have a triangular lifestyle, I find it really tasking to go out. Haven't seen some of my close friends for up to a year or 2.. but we do chat everyday, they all know I won't come out for a drink. I'll change I promise 😂

[@maychukwu4024]

That second point, I learnt it just recently and trust me I have been battered even by people who I had no business with because I opened my arms to everyone. I remember also almost getting married because it seemed like it was time even though I knew I wasn’t ready to be anyone’s wife let alone mother. I’m learning how to make and keep friends now. Thanks Winnie. Still a work in progress

[@Admire__]

This points are what I'm going through at this my teen age non has been missing,thanks to God and you I'm learning this today😊

[@folukeelizabeth8393]

These are all the mistakes I'm going through, thank you so much winnie for sharing this and i want to say that what you call your intuition was actually the holy Spirit.

[@maameaddae9479]

Winnie! You made valid points and I can relate to everything you said. Sometimes I just sit and regret but then again, time is moving. If I don't do anything, the next 5, 10 will still be the same so I get to get moving. In my early 30s and I feel its too late but I believe it's not. I can start from where I am and be better. Thank you for your vulnerability Winnie. May God help us and continue to give you more grace for this chanel 🙏

[@winniesschoolofelegance]

It’s certainly not too late dear…your life literally just started and you haven’t lived your best years yet. So please put in the work that allows you to be the best version of yourself and I promise you, you won’t regret that you did. I am always rooting for you!❤️✨ 2:03

[@maameaddae9479]

@@winniesschoolofelegance Thank you so much 💛

[@justqueenlaney]

Oh Winnie! I feel blessed anytime I listen to you. Thank you so much. God bless you!❤

[@rebeccaamonor4909]

This video was SUCH a blessing. I resonate with a lot of the lessons you shared, and as a young woman in my mid 20’s, I am thankful for the wisdom to apply these lessons now. God bless you! I appreciate and love your content so much

[@ampuriresusan757]

Thankfully i started reading some books about emotional intelligence three years ago,am now getting better, surely got to refer this to my friends,she sure need it more

[@chinenyenwoko1600]

Can you recommend some good books on emotional Intelligence?

[@nnekaagatha3054]

The intuition part, it is so true. It's more than a feeling. It leads me to restlessness but most times, I go against it and it is never funny, the situations I will find myself in and know I could have avoided. Most of them, I still blame myself for.

[@TwinomujuniPhionah]

Thanks so much Winnie for sharing, I have really learnt a lot from you, may God bless you. We wish we could hear more of this to make our 20's fruitful, much love 😊

[@winniesschoolofelegance]

It’s my absolute pleasure and I am so glad you found this video helpful.❤️

[@esthercomfort]

Thank you so much for this piece. This is just me. I literally broke down crying this morning. I trust people easily and at the end I get hurt badly.

[@NwaorguGrace]

Dear Winnie am not surprised that i relate with every single thing you have shared. I actually am doing all this currently. But am glad you shared them and am going to follow everything you said. Thanks for sharing ❤

[@winniesschoolofelegance]

It’s my absolute pleasure! I am so glad the video resonates with you..✨❤️

[@mfonVic]

Thank you so much Winnie ....God bless you You're like my virtual big sister 😍☺️🙏

[@winniesschoolofelegance]

You are absolutely welcome! I feel honored to be called your sister…lots of love!!❤️❤️

[@thechefyoumade]

It's a privilege to be learning this even at 27! I've come to learn a lot from your experiences, and I hope to learn more on financial literacy. God bless you

[@winniesschoolofelegance]

Amen! Thank you!

[@estherkechen6595]

The first and second points really got me because that is how I was leaving during my early 20's but thank God I'm unlearning and learning how to work with people. Thank you winnie❤

[@BountyfarmNewgloryventures]

I relate with all you have said, didn't know the importance of true relationship and thought everyone owed me,messed up angels in human form.i know better now

[@Thislife247]

You are absolutely correct, I used to think everyone is like me o 🤣🤣🤣 dem show me pepper ehn

[@winniesschoolofelegance]

Sorry!!❤️

[@maryimmaculate1404]

Thanks for sharing, we heard almost similar experience, your teaching has given me courage to deal with the most difficult moments of my life especially now that I walked out of a toxic marriage, as a single mother of one, thanks Winnie I hope to met with you one day. Your videos are so inspiring and life changing. I will love to have you as my mentor, each time am down emotional I quickly run to your channel.

[@julietchukwuemeka3123]

I am grateful I found this video early, I'm turning 20 soon and I know ive made these mistakes already, but I've learnt a lot now, and id change

[@faithnwaochei830]

Oh Winnie, if you ever feel like quitting this you do, just remember that what you are doing blesses someone somewhere. This blessed me so much, and spoke to me personally! Thank you Winnie❤

[@okeabimbola4398]

🤔🤔🤔 Thanks so much for sharing this because I am currently in my early 20s and it almost all this mistakes that i am making especially this habit of trying to please everyone and avoiding conflict.😢😢

[@JaneChiluba-in2ks]

I like the last point dealing with conflicts right and then

[@charitybuabeng4670]

Awww Winnie😊May God bless you enormously my darling ❤Some of us actually look up to you always oo....because there's no mom, no dad and the siblings and other people around us also no get sense to teach us these things ooo...thanks for sharing dear❤❤❤❤

[@adongobennacaroline231]

Just discovered this channel today but I already love you winnie❤..u inspire me

[@FaithAbel]

Thank you so much for this.❤ Your old self spells me out loudly. I'm glad to hear you speak out, i am getting better

[@maureenmuthuri4875]

I like the way you say quickly and thankfully 😘,thank you for being so honest with us,am learning alot from you Gal❤

[@FloreSincarne]

Miss Winnie...I can see myself in your past and it's a serious struggle and I really want to change.I really want to apply these advices to my life so that I could be a new me. Thanks for these great advices and may God bless you abundantly. 🙏

[@muhiirwalynette]

Thank you so much Winnie This is me Lots of love from Ug🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬

[@sifonfriday7863]

I'm so grateful for coming across Winnie's School of Elegance. I am 28 and I must say that everything listed is who I was, still battling to work on some so I can be better. Thank you, for sharing and I must say that you are doing a great job, your passion and charisma are inspiring, and I admire you a great deal❤

[@ogechukwuanih7582]

If this was a paid conference, I'm sure to leave the venue happy because all of what you have mentioned is just like you're literally pointing at me... Like I can't even hold back my tears because it hurts me so badly and I don't even know where to start... Thanks for your enlightenment Winnie... You're the best❤️❤️❤️

[@brendaagwe7873]

Wow,Winnie i cant say how blessed i am listening to you right now.Im 23,AND THERER ARE SOME MISTAKES IVE ACTUALLY MAdE and im equally trying to work on that. but this message at this PARTICULAR POINT OF TIME GIVES ME REVIVAL.tHANKS SO MUCH FOR THIS.i THINK ITS HIGH TIME I STEP OUT OF MY COMFORT ZONE AND BRING MYSELF TO NEW OPPORTUNITIES

[@zoembanda5647]

Thank you so much that is me now trying to get out of all this mistakes and I think am not late at 39.

[@winniesschoolofelegance]

My absolute pleasure!! No you aren’t late… your life just literally started! Take it one step at a time, one day at a time.. you will be amazed at how much progress you will make in 6 months. I am rooting for you!❤️✨

[@Elante0808]

I have struggled with all you said, i related well. Still working on overcoming them. I will by God’s grace❤

[@roselinedorajohnsontunis5414]

Winnie, you are such a blessing in my life I have been there for people for all this years and I usually think because am their for them the own me a lot but thanks for lighten my thought

[@emmanuelolasunkanmi6536]

You are making me to enjoy myself at my single stage of my life. I am about to turn 30. I have few months ahead

[@victoriamensah5527]

Hi Winnie, thank you so much for opening up. I've been battling with the last few mistakes you mentioned and its just recently I realized it. I could relate soo well to all you were saying regarding those. I'm currently working on overcoming same and this vedio, I would say, is a light in the right direction. I will be very glad if you shared the steps you took as well as books you read to really overcome those mistakes.

[@judithganu1902]

This is very educative. I hope i heed to this advice. Thumbs up❤

[@patienceowusu4580]

❤ this Winnie

[@annackywaendama6804]

Funny how I resonate to all of the mistakes you mentioned 🥹 Thank you for sharing sis

[@gracelyncounselling]

Thank you for allowing yourself be vulnerable in this video. Thanks for sharing.

[@adeleyeoreoluwa9784]

It's quite funny when I heard you saying "Your intuition" that made me remember a friend of mine who kept using that same word not until she realised it was the Holy spirit. I love your teaching ma'am ❤ it's actually solved one of my recent anxiety. Thank you ma'am❤❤

[@GiftofGod282]

Thank you very much for sharing. I can relate with all your points. *Marrying at a certain age was the worst of them*

[@peacerobson3994]

Oh Winnie, I bless the day I found your channel. So I came online to check on tutorials for a dress and stumbled on this one. This speaks to me big time! New experiences ❤❤ ah, I need to break this cycle😢😢

[@winniesschoolofelegance]

I am so glad you find my content valuable.❤️ Thank you for being a part of our community.

[@faithbella4335]

ma'am Winnie.. firstly thank you for this video.. everything stuck but you see that triangle life.. school church home now its work church home.. I am tired and making resolutions to try out new stuffs and activities this new year.. Thank You for sharing Ma❤❤❤❤

[@UmuhozaDivine-e5q]

I don't know how people can have same stories, and I just trying to improve everything on me you know it's journey and believe everything will be fine soon

[@Sophiamorenikeji]

Thanks so much winnie for sharing this ❤🥰. I always learn alot from this community 😊.

[@winniesschoolofelegance]

It’s my absolute pleasure!❤️

[@Samarah-it1pk]

Oh sis this is sooo me 😢🙌thank u for this❤

[@BlessingLloyd-Ade-ys3vn]

I'm in this presently but I'm happy I'm able to figure out in time and adjust. Thank you for also coming out to teach on these things I've gotten deeper knowledge and learnt more.

[@thekidslounge5077]

Winnie u just spoke for me!!

[@winniesschoolofelegance]

I am so glad you found this video valuable!❤️

[@AkuaYeboah-s7k]

Hmmm is true oo trying to make everyone happy when they don't appreciate really hurts

[@TunaSarah]

Hello Winnie's school of Elegance, I'm so grateful I came across your videos which has changed my life of how I can improve in so many activities. Just know you're going to be my role model

[@annwanjiru5284]

Great tips Winnie. Now waiting for a Q&A😀

[@winniesschoolofelegance]

❤️❤️❤️

[@winniecardiophy3262]

Seeing this vid it’s like it was meant for me to See ,Surely I am attempting all Mistakes mentioned😢and my name is Winnie as well , everything mentioned is Just so realistic to my Real life ,, too much empathy, Giving out even More Than I have ,Not being capable to say No to people to secure there happiness 🙌🏾, trust 😢,,putting much efforts to others problems 😢and infact they don’t even Appreciate 😢, But As I have seen this vid At My early 20’s I Believe it isn’t late For A change😣 Thanks to Winnie❤

[@ganiyatanifowose7302]

Wow! I am filled with awe. Thank you very much for this. It's just as if you were referring to all the mistakes I had made too. I have learnt from this video so much. I am happy I eventually subscribed to your educational KZbin channel after seeing it on IG for years and dismissing it

[@oluwadarasimiadekola5340]

Thank you so much Winnie . This is very expressive. I'm glad i come to this.. this overly independent mindset is real affecting me

[@fadzo123]

Wow thank you so much, I'm 22 and i have the same mentality, thank you so much. I'm not going to continue making the same mistakes

[@winniesschoolofelegance]

It’s my absolute pleasure Dear!❤️

[@miriamjoseph7245]

I love you so MUCH Winnie. Most times I regret never trusting my intuition because it is mostly right but I believe now100%

[@chrischristinemj6572]

Winnie the first mistake surely made my life terrible. Trusting people till i am still struggling with this. They use to tell me that I never learn but now........ thank you

[@judithchiemela3619]

Thank you so much Ma'am. You just lifted off something from my shoulders. I enjoyed your lesson.

[@Goldengrandeeza]

Still in my 20s mine is feeling that people don't own me anything, this mentality stopped me from requesting for what i need, from pushing, i accepted No too easily. So i guess a balance is good.

[@rounaokiemute-df3mj]

I also felt this way and it was hard to speak up even when I wanted and needed something badly 😢 I just kept quiet because I felt no one was entitled to me and everyone had enough on their table 😔

[@FavyFavybite]

Thank you so much Winnie, this will really help me a whole lot

[@didi-yv3vq]

I can't see the books you read on healing your inner child and thanks for the word❤ really helpful

[@ruthleke]

Honestly all you said is true with those growing up in 20's most especially you grow to learn things yourself

[@amarachiokpata3931]

Thank you so much for this video. God bless you now and always.

[@kathrinetaylor9853]

Yes ... Allways learn through mistakes, & I learned to not expect everyone to be like me, not everyone has a good heart, take time to learn a person, & intuition, have a high level of that is good, most women have that naturally, &if I knew what i know now i would have never Divorced my husband, would have worked it out! I really like your classes... 💞💯

[@kathrinetaylor9853]

Hi "Winnie!! #1. Do you mind me asking you , how old you are??? If you don't want to answer 🤦🫣 o. K.. #2 & Outside of your tremendous web-site, what's your line of work. , you don't have to answer, 💞 Have a nice day!

[@winniesschoolofelegance]

Thank you so much for sharing this!✨✨✨

[@kathrinetaylor9853]

​@@winniesschoolofelegance Thank you Winnie! Your very sharp mentally!

[@AnneOkafor-lh7qb]

I can overly trust people eh! My husband will keep warning me until these past 5 yrs. I started meeting friends that were stabbing me at the back. Now I'm W.I.P. I like to please people to my detriment, I care a lot about what people say, I like to make people smile, I feel I must be there for everybody,. You know like I'm superman, saviour of the world, I think people are like me. My husband has really helped me to deal with these things o! I didn't know how to say no but now I've learnt it. Winnie it really was not a way to live. I wish I could go back in time and correct some things. I reckon with a lot of your past mistakes. Thank God for where we are now. I love the conscious efforts you made to correct them. Thanks for this. I'm inspired to correct myself the more.

[@kathrinetaylor9853]

That's good you decided not to be a people pleaser, most dont care anyway, I've really never been a people pleaser, but I know people who are, people like at that as a person with low- self esteem, or weakness, we all have areas that needs improvement, that why I like this class.

[@rosemaryomoyemen1177]

You're absolutely right. Thank you so much for sharing. God bless you endlessly❤❤❤

[@susanugochukwu8792]

Thank you so much, ma'am❤, the one you said about worrying about the future really touched me, I appreciate what you do, God bless you.

[@charityjoseph7300]

I love this new you.. just hitting points and exactly what we need

[@Jacobesthermamuzo2116]

Thank you so much, winning. you just narrated what's happening to me currently which I have been looking for a way to free from it

[@winniesschoolofelegance]

It’s my absolute pleasure. I am so glad you found this video helpful.❤️

[@abaziechiamaka-qd2zi]

For the fact I am concerned lady Winnie you are the best content creator in the hole world. I love you so much thanks for all your good works I pray you have more wisdom and God bless you 🙏

[@nchifietelma4107]

Thanks for sharing❤

[@okaforchidimmablessing2992]

That friends part..😭😭 I have been dealt with,I done think I will give it a second chance...

[@Admire__]

These points are exactly what I'm doing,and going through at this my teen age, non has been missing,thanks to God and you I'm learning today😊

[@chiderapromise4605]

My life is boring now. Triangular 😩 Work- house- church. I'm so occupied 😩. Thank you Winnie for sharing this.

[@KetchoMaurine]

Exactly my life style and am trying hard to develop a new way thanks to your video it helps me

[@somtochukwuamechi7080]

You see that triangle of school,church and home is soooo meee🤧😅😂Thank so much, Winnie❤️ I'll to do better

[@highlyfavoredbygod1051]

Oh Winnie God bless you sis. You keep inspiring me to become the best version of myself.

[@holuwabukolaogbeyele7884]

Thank you so much winnie. This is so full of depth.

[@bee604]

I like how you spelt out your points. They are helpful. Thank you for this particular one🎉

[@emmanuelokonta905]

This is Gold, amazing job. Resonants a lot. Welldone Winifred

[@beckyadhiambo5235]

Thanks Winnie for your vulnerability alot of the things you are saying are soo relatable like trusting that gut feeling.

[@kunlemiabelinda3052]

Thank you so much Winnie . Am so grateful to listen to you ... I haven't been able to thrive throuy life with ease due to my past traumas but am working on them and will definitely get those books . Thank you for your love

[@EstherLeo-su7zv]

I'm so relieved watching this ❤❤❤

[@dogodeborah972]

Sincerely, I feel its me you're talking about/to, I'll work on myself.. I just watched your video for the first time today... I'm grateful for you and I'm automativally an obsessed Fan🎉. Very educative content ❤ Go Winnie!👏

[@Blessed247-t8p]

Winnieee really impact my life❤❤❤ I would really like to meet you 🇬🇭🥺. I love you Winnie

[@sonianandagire]

I relate to a lot of these. Seeing me through the old version of you in my last 20th year 😮... Still, I'm grateful.