Stop the Self-Sabotage: How to Support Yourself with Love | ADHD Support Group + Q&A with Dr. Saline

Clinical Psychologist & ADHD expert Dr. Sharon Saline (drsharonsaline.com) offers advice for adults with ADHD who are plagued by self-criticism and impulsive behaviors
This was a Facebook Live Q&A with ADDitude Magazine (www.additudemag.com/) & Dr. Sharon Saline, recorded on 2/4/2022.
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[@Sociologeek247]

I’ve been loving your whole series, amazingly comforting to hear fellow ADHDers and their insights and struggles, and your advice and validation is so helpful!

[@DrSharonSaline]

Thank you! I'm so glad.

[@joneurrutia2780]

The same

[@PaulTraceydog]

the meditation was hard, as I am also aphant and SDAM, but thks for your video.

[@leroyjackson9171]

Hello Dr Saline, Your podcast is truly a breath of fresh air. Thank you so much.

[@DrSharonSaline]

Thank you so much!

[@DrSharonSaline]

Thank you!

[@DrSharonSaline]

Happy to hear this--

[@chrisb7951]

Self-Sabotage is so prevalent in society, not just with ADHD, so I hope that a wider audience will read this . This is a fabulous video ! I am so grateful that you have made this video ! I know my Sister will benefit from this too.

[@unbreakable4650]

indeed!!!

[@DrSharonSaline]

I am so glad to be helpful!

[@DrSharonSaline]

Thank you so very much! I'm thrilled that it's helpful to you.

[@Fran-xf6yf]

Thank you so much for this, I am a 23 year old, undiagnosed, however family history of ADHD and now looking back on my life so far is somehting I think I have always had. I have found this video so reassuring and just made me feel a lot less lonely in general. So thank you. Just wondering if there is place where the Doom box is explained? and the drawer concept?

[@DrSharonSaline]

I'm not sure about your questions. Good idea for me to write about this though!

[@andrewgibbs4009]

This was a brilliant and really helpful video thank you 💪

[@loragarcia5212]

You are Loved

[@lisafernandez2940]

Thank you for your words of support and encouragement, Lora!

[@Sociologeek247]

This is such a great video series!

[@DrSharonSaline]

Oh that's so nice to hear!!

[@alzyn8661]

Yes it is anxiety aganist self or preoccupied by self quality

[@DrSharonSaline]

That's so tough!

[@alzyn8661]

@@DrSharonSaline the Adhd can be hidden in adults because it is covered by dysthymia Which is chronic mild depression

[@joneurrutia2780]

😢My self-sabotage consists of "reminding myself" that in 90% of my actions I do not "measure up"; for example: 1. When it is necessary to "show face", in a moment of personal social tension, I escape 2. Not too intelligent and being insufficient at math and any other subject where we ought to reason 3 That I don't master any subject and left official studies at 16 years because of a change of continent and cultural traditions; or I'm That I depend on my state of mind to work, be with people, etc. , that I have depression and that when I am regular, I DO NOT FULFILL with acquired commitments: Medical appointments; Appointments with Professionals to whom I have asked for advice 3. My low mood and not having the courage to talk to anyone, or do things, or move 4. My anxiety 5. Fear of rejection 6. Fear of Frustration😢

[@DrSharonSaline]

Thank you for sharing. I encourage you to focus on more on what is working than what it isn't. It seems like it's time to rewrite the negative self-talk in your head by shifting your perspective. Start small by noticing one thing per day and write that down.

[@wessavage7577]

It’s about feeling s and charged emotions, not thoughts

[@DrSharonSaline]

These are intimately related.

[@manyBlessings2all]

Thank you very much for this 🙏👍

[@dawnkoepp7050]

gamble i think i dont want to go home because i dont know how tro get my apt organizsed

[@DrSharonSaline]

oh I can understand that. I would encourage to start with one small area to organize first or a theme. For instance, I'm going to pick up all my clothes from the floor or I'm going to recycle all junk mail and put it in a box. Break things down and start SMALL. Good luck!

[@dwayneneckles]

What is the the difference between avoiding a task or person due to self sabotage or self care?

[@DrSharonSaline]

Avoiding an important task can be a form of self-sabotage in how it increases stress and then self-criticism for not doing the task.

[@sanya3398]

@Dr. Sharon Saline what if it isn't followed up with self criticism? Is it possible that it's more of a burnout? I am just trying to understand myself from a compassionate place as to why after a certain stresss point, I absolutely cannot return to a certain task or situation. (Like doing the final assignment for a course I had a nervous breakdown over)