Stop Trying To Make Friends (you don't fit in)

[@TikyeWilliams]

Brah I be feeling SO alone like nobody feels my pain but then I come to videos like this and read everyone’s comments and I feel like I’m not really alone we all going through the same shit

[@kisht7469]

You’re not alone. Trust me😔

[@vogue_paris3106]

You are not alone I'm so tired of this 😓

[@pngo522]

Just rememebr to be urself and things will naturally come. back in freshman i had no friends and i wasnt happy. first sem of sophmore i knew i needed change and made friends with people, i wasnt alone anymore but i still wasnt happy because i was trying to fit in the whole time. 2nd sem of sophmore i left the friend groups and became myself. i naturally let people come into my life and now i feel full and happy with comfort around them.

[@sir.confident]

If you have confidence, you don't need to fit in with any group. God made you unique and you don't owe it to anyone else to be any different.

[@TJY_RISE_UP]

Amen 🙏🏾 🙏🏾 🙏🏾

[@Biblefirst]

Amen once I started standing for God more I was alone more Jesus is yo best friend

[@joshuabuchanan1141]

No one has to be "unique" or "different" if they don't want to just because society forces everyone to do so, and also being "unique" and "different" has nothing to God, I'm pretty sure God wouldn't care at all if someone decided to be the same or if someone decided to be "unique" or "different"

[@kisht7469]

@user-ky7pt8pp9iYou’re not alone. God loves you 😊

[@bankrollace8737]

Parents created him. Not God...

[@fittedconfidence2071]

Fitting in is overrated. Be liminal stand out. Be unapologetically real to yourself because we live in a world where people are scared to be themselves. We live in a world where people are trying to impress others instead of impress themselves. In High School, I didn't fit it at all that's what made me stood out and memorable. Know your worth your value💯

[@joshuabuchanan1141]

More like fitting in is actually very underrated, I'd rather fit in rather then feel alone, lonely and isolated because that's what being "unique" or "different" makes people feel like that

[@kisht7469]

@@joshuabuchanan1141You’re a follower who would rather conform than be your true and authentic self.

[@volpo5046]

It feels like Kam has been instilling a spiritual transformation, getting less toxic with time and going from game and tactics to teaching what actually matters.

[@xan8123]

Chasing material is an endless cycle.

[@medricadu8863]

Never ending

[@paperpencilsandart]

Truth be told

[@NarutoUzumakiofficial]

This hits hard. I used to be beloved, popular, and just admired. I'm still beloved by my real friends. I always tried to be myself and fit in. Be kind to all people but i guess that wasn't okay. I did make mistakes i tried to atone for them. I guess it was a false idol. I never cared for money, but just wanted to be loved. It's so confusing friendships, the crowd, etc. I know some of my views of questioning things aren't popular so maybe i deserve to be an outcast

[@Checkthisout898]

I relate with this … I ended up getting shot nd all I used to always roast folks nd be a class clown but even tho I made folks laugh nd crack up I was always still lonely… If you’re still in school brah focus on yourself fuck trying to get girls fuck trying to get “drip” focus on self improvement Get you a lil job and save up for a whip or some …. Don’t Graduate HIGHSCHOOL WITH NOTHING TO SHOW FOR IT Either get in those books for a scholarship or have enough to celebrate your accomplishment.. I’m 25 nd regret my Highschool decisions but I’m currently on the path to fix my self…. Anotha Thing Highschool Politics don’t apply after school … U will be looked at as corny if u still carrying that highschool demeanor… Yall stay up tho

[@DrOrr]

This is big fax I wasted my high school years

[@Henry-rh6gz]

@@DrOrr same, wasting high school only hits after you graduate

[@slumbermaster6932]

I’m a student dentist right now. I don’t have a lot of friends and seeing how my classmates are with each other. I’m here alone. I got into a huge drama thing at my school and the popular kids at school pretty much destroyed my reputation. It used to bother me but now it means that I have to do everything in my power where I’ve accepted that I’ll truly never fit in. That’s okay because I’ve been myself to get to this point in my life where I’ll be a dentist and I’ll be able to live the life I wanted.

[@r.i.c.otherapper5730]

I relate heavy to this topic only I stop trynna fit in after high school.I appreciate this channel and its simply becuz you put god first,I admire it.I’m new with practicing my faith, but your content is helping me evolve by analyzing my past mistake that I still never fixed. Feels like ur the big brother I needed. Much love g

[@flouserschird]

can’t relate to this video because I can’t even relate to the humble non popular people. I’m like this inbetween freak who fits in nowhere

[@SChome100]

Thank you for making this video. This couldn't come at a more important point at my life. I always thought I was missing out but I realized that what may appear to be good is not necessarily good for your spirit and soul.

[@1aidns]

maybe cus ur a nerdy weeb

[@vincenolfi2096]

We are set apart to focus on our higher self, the truth, and we must be able to live a humble, good life.

[@Cosmefulanito2812]

I listen to metal (unpopular music) and I play the guitar as my only hobbie besides the gym. I don't play videogames and don't do drugs, and somehow I'm still popular, or at least respected. It's all about being assertive and dominant. You can literally make anime and league of legends cool and have women chase you if you are like that. The thing is that I don't really care what some idiot in the next classroom thinks of me. I don't even want his respect or appreciation, and that's how you should actually live, that's how you reach peace.

[@KalebJackson]

I can relate to your story Mr. Kam because, for me at 16 in my Junior year of high school now, I wanted to fit in with people and hearing some other kids say that I'm annoying and this that and the third and I wanted to fit in with them especially some of the kids on Instagram that go to my school and some that go to another high school in my town wanting followers, friends, and people to like me and right now it's been making me feel miserable and having social anxiety and feeling that I can't be myself anymore! I want my first girlfriend, but I don't want to make a fool of myself and get all anxious and getting jealous of other people anymore!

[@WeLikePOVSoccer]

everything you just said right now, I am going through the 100% EXACT same thing

[@stealthcreek]

once u guys get out of school, graduate or whatever, i promise y’all will realize none of that stuff matters. don’t even worry about the girls either, waste of time

[@DrOrr]

Just be yourself bro (this doesn’t mean don’t fix actual issues with who you are) don’t waste your time trying to be someone you’re not.

[@billyg8259]

be dumb and make mistakes while you are young or you will regret it later trust me

[@novanity9611]

Bro just stop caring about what people think and change the way you see yourself through self awareness and maturity

[@theabileneranchertar7882]

As a young man you have alot of wisdom. Keep preaching. You do it very well.

[@truzi]

Thanks so much for making this. I literally was accused of trying to fit in yesterday. Always perfect timing🤟🏾🙏🏾

[@yaboinellz]

I really needed to hear this video I can relate heavy, thank you bro for the message nowadays in college I just do me I use to try to force myself to get along with everyone but after a while, most of those people stop talking to me for whatever reason and now I just am chilling by myself I have some people I talk to casually but I learned that I don't get along with everyone and there is no need for me to force friendships and interactions that aren't real

[@dats.napoleon]

Thank you kam for these videos it’s the only thing keeping me going in college. Keep self improving the rest will come 🤝

[@mr.ironmindset1973]

I often download your videos and listen until i sleep. But i had to click on the video to give thumbs up before downloading, i don't want to be ungrateful. Thanks for the informatice quality vids. My god bless you and your family.

[@Sydonie-po8iq]

I use to think like that and wanted to do things just to please people on social media😭, only because I felt lonely inside and and was desperate for love and attention. And that caused me to end up in shitty friendships and relationships that left me even worse lonely. But I came to a revelation and realize all along I never needed them, the only person I was looking for all along was me. It starts with us we are more important than we think we are, we don’t need to fit in, all we need to be is ourselves. Don’t follow social media!!, follow your truth and your calling and God-Given Gifts while here on Earth🙏🏽❤️

[@izzymillar4568]

🙏👏👏yess! Tell em! Spread the message cause that's what they need to hear.

[@whooked]

we all fell too peer pressure at some point

[@uniform.001]

Whats up kam. could you please make a video on how to be real. real with your self. how to act like yourself when you’re all alone. how to act like the same person arround everyone. and even how to define what being yourself even means. i been struggling with this and im defo not the only one and there is pretty much no advice of how to be 100% a real one with 0 gimmicks. if you could do a video on this it would be greatly appreciated by many people cuz i know that a lotta young kids struggle with this. love ❤

[@uniform.001]

also i feel like my default state is being kinda outgoing and spontaneous but i struggle being that arround people. how do i do that properly and how do i stop acting so robotic. man i swear like i’ve been trying to just look cool bc i see how other people are authentically and i somehow always imitate them 99% of the time. but rarely when i enter in a so called “flowstate” im myself. and everyone who im with feels included in the fun that im having but thats rareeee with me. whenever that happens i dont think how to act i just do so. how do i do that with everyone and more often. shi got me tight.

[@luxury8346]

I got the same exact thing brother

[@uniform.001]

@@luxury8346 slatt

[@lidiagizaw3828]

dude yourself is always evolving . it's not a set thing u learn things in life , u meet people, u accomplish things u change which is good .just as long u dont lose the core that ur fam and u have built for years beforehand and u still keep some of the good things they taught u

[@nanaagyeman1702]

Circle of influence is key in life 🙏

[@DrOrr]

This reminds me of my story. I became sort of a bully my 8th grade year cause I hit a growth spurt from all the years I got bullied, that pretty much ended for me during sophomore year where I got caught taking some freshman’s laptop and hiding it in the restroom as a hazing prank, got fined 500 dollars because it got destroyed even though I didn’t do it, they launched some bs police investigation for who destroyed it but obviously they didn’t try to actually find out who did it because i was only in the restroom for 5-10 seconds but supposedly the laptop was completely destroyed and those things are really durable. They definitely only pinned it on me because it was easy, I was a kid from a poor family, with poor grades, and was a pretty bad kid. That fine and on top of other ones got me up to $1.3K in fines in turn I missed out on many activities after that. I didn’t do it to fit in though, mainly just did it after years of frustration from getting picked on cause I used to be a fat kid. Although yeah the school system and police department are garbage for not even trying, I could’ve just avoided the situation altogether myself, i never even paid for it cause near my graduation the fines disappeared so I feel even they knew the fines made no sense.

[@jamestateIII]

Did you learn from it.

[@kimb6508]

ya you don't sound like you learnt from it and you actually sound like you havn't taken any responsibility and still don't to this day.

[@garry_productions]

yo Kam im a big fan of your videos id love to see one where you talk about starting a side hustle as a young man

[@tzio3716]

The best videos ive seen for the last couple months. Big ups!

[@wwubblear8569]

I got fake friends if I would call them that but I’m so scared to be alone and not be around people it’s such a horrific feeling don’t know what I am

[@kisht7469]

Be yourself but most importantly, be TRUE to yourself.

[@mechspectral3232]

Kams definitely watching me with this timing 💀

[@captainobvious7165]

Nah deadass, he’s on time with these messages

[@chidianblurts9818]

Another insightful video Kam...love the grind❤

[@bryanunderground]

It’s crazy because I’ll be judge for being to serious and never having any fun and that I grew up to fast.

[@KRLE2582]

Shalom. Ty for sharing

[@caroledwards2155]

Keep spitting them facts 😊

[@SozzyMurakami]

I used to skip all the time with people I ain't cool with No more.

[@voivod0160]

This man deserves at least a million subscribers

[@fromnowhere8131]

For some people every good things is good at first but then it becomes bitter and then worst.thats why i learned about making relation about friends

[@israeljaimes8309]

I needed this bro thank you! 🙏🏻

[@Klainnso4L]

I took notes on this part 7:47 because it hit even tho I don’t try to fit in I find myself lost in life and don’t know where to start

[@TikyeWilliams]

You have a lot of wisdom Kam

[@Envy.az_]

This video is real as fuck man

[@Rhude_tiller]

Infinite tsukuyomi 😤😤😤

[@wxntta]

Damn yo story hit hard bruh. Don't relate directly. but I how it feel getting in trouble n getting caught. Last time I did that was like 3 years ago.

[@QueenOFtheBUTTERFLIES]

your an amazing story teller

[@zootedeffect4082]

It’s weird I’m very good looking and a nice person but people just not interested in knowing me at all

[@stealthcreek]

they are intimidated. its not u, its them

[@wxntta]

If u black in a white area,it may be cuz of that

[@Bobe_Kyrant.42]

You probably have to keep focusing on yourself and keep pushing,, maybe go out try to start convos with random people even if u get rejected. Get use to it and you will build up your social skills. Even if you feel like people don't notice you. Don't let any that break you down. Keep pushing.

[@chrispy47]

We are chasing greatness.

[@isaacfitzpatrick8160]

Good video young man I think you're smart and wise keep doing what you do

[@jayviensam]

Even with family cousins too

[@EricaGlover-b7e]

I dont want to fit in. The stuff you have to get sounds exhausting still. I dont want to put on masks for different crowds yet (47 years) but still need my confidence. The INFJ or whatever is holding me back maybe time

[@joshuabuchanan1141]

Fitting in is underrated

[@jktavious4157]

U made this video at literally the perfect time for me

[@shacarw9735]

For me too

[@DarkcelReturns]

Post-HS, most ppl have either found their niche group of friends or have become completely alone / alienated. If you're the type of person that didn't make it after HS in terms of a social circle, you'll find it extremely hard to get into a friend group that is already established, let alone getting with women if you haven't already had a gf prior. Life after HS is living life on hard-mode.

[@Yoxicofficial]

Everyone wants to be better than everyone else after high school life is different. your girlfriend will think other guys are better than you

[@TheZestySoul97]

Got the wrong GF if that’s the case lol

[@Nustart999]

Hot take unpopular opinion if you have great credit and are good with finances “flexing” becomes a lifestyle it’s all about perception. God bless

[@wxntta]

Congrats on 50k. Did u get lighting equipment?

[@Bobe_Kyrant.42]

I'm Mexican and I know how that goes . I got caught stealing a 40oz from the grocery store when I was 16 and my dad was like the devil when we got home . Broke my guitar,amp, skateboard and when my mom came home she whooped my ass. Went full UFC on me .

[@GR3YHOODCrypto]

Itachi got y'all tripping 👁️

[@Mr.StanddOnBusiness]

I easily make friends but i test em first to make sure they aint fake or i cant fw em

[@Savemorespendless.]

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@noize8703]

SpiritualKam in the building 💯

[@GREEN_FLAGG]

I can relate because I took a picture of a teacher during class and uploaded to ig story to fit in next day teacher call me out that I’ve been caught I regret it every day

[@moonbeamelle]

💗

[@beth9235]

And why the hell the popular kids should be unhappy with their life. Especially if they're rich and have everything they want and having the most fun in school instead of being teased and mocked like me😢. The popular rich kids are just spoiled just f****** spoiled 😞😭

[@enternalkoto7073]

I have 0 friends ,_,

[@devin3607]

Lonely at the top

[@milesjamal]

thank you brother

[@GigaChad_169]

Hedonic treadmill…get off it ASAP!

[@Savemorespendless.]

Thx bro

[@Ronnie_Darko00]

How to let go would be a good vid topic

[@skater_man4622]

Congrats on 50k🎉

[@anushree8984]

im losing myself every day

[@saint_apollo]

needed this

[@Sydonie-po8iq]

You’ve just gained a subscriber!!

[@prxsence]

Congrats on 50k!

[@TheBrandBoostAcademy]

Much love. Been watching since 7K

[@yungfary]

3:24 Infinite Tsukuyomi

[@Funkylover-sl7ew]

so how come other people fit in so easily

[@Questionableweirdor6e]

I don't know bro. All my life I realized I never truly fit in and my only way of making friends was option A either be someone I'm not, or option B have to settle for other weirdos and outcast who will accept me, and option C, be friends with someone who initially I didn't even wanna be friends with because there one of the few people that actually wanna talk and engage with me.

[@Seennn999]

Bro😭 we will never understand, I don't they are acting. They easily fit in

[@itscnvulsins5384]

So I don’t talk to no one? I just solo this shit out? Tbh idk what to do

[@jamestateIII]

3:25....what? I gotta Google that

[@xan8123]

This is too real

[@anthonyejike5594]

Congrats on 50k

[@famousm6]

Ive been a fan of ur videos for a while ever since Xo Carlos stopped posting videos I appreciate all the dating advice you’ve been putting out on the content but To be real with you I was that guy that was quiet but wasn’t really shy to be around ppl and fitting in but My problem is that I have a fear of stuttering to the point where I can’t get my words out like I know what to say to a girl I just can’t seem to get the word out so it brings down my confidence to the point it gave me social anxiety so I keep telling myself to not let it get to me but it still bothers me. I’ve been going through this since my life time and that’s the only insecurity I have and I don’t want them to think I’m nervous or weird or anything but my worries are how people react on the way I talk and I’ve never wanted to open up about this but I felt I should so any advice?

[@urevya]

thats a matter of time and progress bro, you should know that 99% of people dont care about what you think is cringe/embarrassing. Just keep trying to have conversations with random people, try something new every single time so youre not stuck at a certain spot.

[@emmanuel_sal]

Bruh why do these videos always with the timing thooooo

[@WhoisSayge]

50k yuhhh

[@freeduolingo2730]

Yo so im on this college tour and I was walking down the hallway by myself to check out the area. This one girl was leaning on the wall talking on the phone and she was looking at me and when I passed her, she tilted her whole body towards me. When I came back she did the same thing again. Was she checking me out?

[@dihny5168]

Most def cause if she thought u was a creep then she wouldn’t have faced towards u twice I’d say make a move cause that was prolly her way of giving u choosing signals

[@freeduolingo2730]

@@dihny5168 thx. The only reason why I didn’t go up to her was because she was talking on the phone

[@wxntta]

@@freeduolingo2730she thought u was a creepy ass nigha bc u keep commenting koldheartkammusy

[@thahzjj1]

I know I'm supposed to be different. I just don't know how or why?

[@rando5618]

Damn, he nailed it thats me right now wtf and i had to think about dat shit to try to change

[@MicahBeatz]

Yessur

[@jamestateIII]

2:23..... that's what fresh and fit be talking about qnd Kevin samuels. High value .....it is pure crap..because they say you gotta make 60 70 100 grand a years consistently....and kevin says it comes from the past of women being with certain type of guys. Fellas....kam is correct....High value is more internal not external. who are you...what do you stand for...how you carry yourself..how you treat others. It's all internal.

[@gabartuVFX]

IshowSpeed posted...

[@medmed5436]

oh

[@Marlononafridayy]

3:53

[@21domino2]

real

[@narikdavido9335]

100%

[@medricadu8863]

You will only find happiness from jesus

[@TricksterLawlet]

I don't like being alone

[@23lurkin]

you should love it

[@joshuabuchanan1141]

Same

[@TricksterLawlet]

@@23lurkin Why should I?

[@23lurkin]

@@TricksterLawlet bc from bro people are not real they are fake nowadays it’s plus you gon die alone anyway bro you don’t need anybody

[@TricksterLawlet]

@@23lurkin That still doesn't change the fact that being alone feels awful

[@The1JordanJohnson]

first

[@adaswrath2783]

Content used to be good until u started using more clickbait like titles. Shame and unsuscribed

[@truzi]

Thanks so much for making this. I literally was accused of trying to fit in yesterday. Always perfect timing🤟🏾🙏🏾

[@moneogklarakyllingbaby195]

6:52