You don't fit in, so stop trying to.

[@mig2546]

I’m 22 and never could fit in. I’m being myself forever and don’t care if people leave me for it. I’m not a sheep I like being different

[@summertimetea4594]

I LOVE who I am, just wish others did too

[@kkKkK.KK87]

Are u an introvert too?

[@SarukiLIAS]

@@summertimetea4594 what’s the fun in that , when at the end , you already have the only true love that matters , loving yourself

[@JimmyJaxJellyStax]

It helps just to meet a lot of people and choose a very few to be close to

[@Jack_Hoff_69]

@@kkKkK.KK87 I'm pervert

[@bendwirantwi4405]

It’s like this guy knows everything that’s going on in my life 😂

[@ColeHastings]

I do 👀

[@christianlima2742]

Same

[@feelsokayman3959]

Personal FBI Agent 👀

[@insanoibro6331]

We are all kinda the same us young self improvement guys

[@diegobrettr]

Swearrrr

[@JAPHETMB]

If you don’t fit In you’re born to stand out! Be you and always stay authentic

[@ryegee9464]

What if you don’t like to stand out ?

[@jithinff8686]

@@ryegee9464 lol

[@ryegee9464]

@@jithinff8686 right lol

[@KonesMorroh]

idk about born to stand out but thanks :>

[@jRex918]

There will be consequences to being yourself. People will pick on you. People will be mean to you. People will ostracize you. Standing out and being yourself will have consequences

[@meowmy1659]

I always blame myself for not being ble to fit in. Tried being me, tried being like those who are with me but I always still felt outcasted. At times I tried throwing Jokes no one laughs but if its delivered by a different person, people laugh. Always being there for people but when I am the one who is in need, no one is there...but I still feel blessed at the end of the day because my family loves me..

[@Terrydon]

damn bro i can relate you need to make them respect you or you should find a next friend group

[@АлександърСтойнов-ф2ч]

If you could know how much I relate to it

[@euclides9777]

Imo relatable

[@howtfdoihave115subs7]

This...... I am exactly like this, no matter what I do, I can never fit in, people always give me that weird side eye whenever I am with them... And no one takes interest in what I sah, but when someone else says that same thing , its like all laughs and stuff.. there is a girl in my class who has pretty much the same sense of humour as me, And she says the same thing I do, but the way she delivers is makes everyone love her, but when I say that, everyone gives me weird looks

[@kitrep93]

You just like me fr

[@Hub71995]

“There are gems of movies sitting in the dark thanks to some rotten tomatoes score and there’s a gem of yourself sitting in the dark thanks to your unwillingness to break conformity” that’s a gem of a saying right there

[@ColeHastings]

❤

[@Liv-yr2wk]

that's a gem of a comment right here

[@siddharthchabukswar2]

"Scent of a woman", is one of my favourites

[@snicksabea]

Some of those are the best movies! Grandmas Boy!

[@nathaliegrammer6209]

I think the common school system is a big part of the problem. Wasting energy for getting better grades in school subjects you're not even interested in..

[@rail7646]

yep exactly learning stuff that 80% of it doesn't serve you or anyone else something is just an old relict that didn't get touched because it kinda "worked" to seperate willing or not-willing people.

[@nancy8605]

SPEAK LOADER

[@nancy8605]

SPEAK LOADER

[@thiago___]

Nah, people often find joy in things they thought they wouldn't when they have to do then, it is important to study different subjects, so you can learn that you can't have just what you want.

[@vm4890]

Many students are taught by teachers required to parrot a curriculum. The curriculum is chosen by people who only have experience in getting elected! The common school system IS a big part of the problem!

[@vladusa]

You either fit in and become miserable because you aren't being yourself, or you don't fit in and become miserable because you aren't making friends.

[@cinnamoroll_118]

The second one is me

[@MrSandManBringMeADream]

so whats the solution here

[@vladusa]

@@MrSandManBringMeADream Be something you aren't to impress people you don't care about for reasons you connect to your morals.

[@MrSandManBringMeADream]

@@vladusa sounds about right. thanks for the answer after one year!

[@vladusa]

@@MrSandManBringMeADream one day*

[@scribeofsolace]

I think social media is also a huge catalyst to this notion. Especially when seeing a huge demographic leaning towards specific territories whether it’s the in thing or simply giving them a haven to feel safe or comfortable. You sometimes compare yourself to other people and it’s almost impossible not to. You’re a human after all. This in my observation creates inner competition that nulls you to the fact that you’re becoming someone you’ve compared yourself to….not the person you were meant to be via experience of your own timeline. I think the younger generation focuses to much on what other people are doing and not what they could be doing. Pros and Cons to many intervals with this.

[@mr12aT]

Comparing ourselves has been happening in the world for social media began. Social media doesn’t even get a start on the conversation, it is just another vehicle to compare ourselves. Begin with industrialisation - marketing, advertising. “keeping up with the Joneses” has been part of our consumer capitalist culture for a couple hundred years now.

[@jadedjimmy]

You raise a lot of good points. I know that lots of people say that social media overall is just bad, and you shouldn’t pour much of yourself into it, but to me that seems almost like too safe of a route to take. I like to be reminded of what my peers are doing so I can have that push to make myself better and more successful than I am. If I just give up on any sort of competition whatsoever, I can’t help but feel that’s just a lazy way of living, to some degree.

[@theharshtruthoutthere]

@@jadedjimmy You belong not, simply because: John 15:19 (KJV) If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you. you are CHOSEN OUT from this world, TO DO THE WLL OF YOUR HEAVENLY FATHER in this world: Matthew 7:21 (KJV) Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven. the emptiness which we shall feel inside our souls, is GOD`S quiet voice, calling us to SEEK HIM, TO GET TO KNOW HIM TO UNDESTAND HIS WAYS TO ALLOW HIM BACK INTO OUR LIVES.

[@ColeHastings]

I tried doing the opposite by driving in the opposite lane. Now im in the hospital. Thanks Cole.

[@moritz3168]

Thanks for the movie recommendation, never knew tears could be this beautiful.

[@Hamza97]

which mic were you using for this vid pls

[@apurva7347]

@@Hamza97 adonisss

[@Jordan-ng2uv]

@@Hamza97 I forget the exact name. but i think he said it's the "fi- fine mic" it's a cheaper chinese mic. but it gets the job done. if you have a bit more to spend a blue yeti nano does wonders.

[@ColeHastings]

@@Hamza97 FFine K669 *kiss*

[@paullopez2021]

I've realized very recently that I do NOT fit in my workplace at all. Where I work is very Disney-like. Everyone is expected to be happy and cheerful, and ask customers what I feel to be invasive questions in the name of "homeyness." Non-conformity to this toxic positivity is looked down upon. It all makes me wanna puke -- and I now know for a fact that I'm an entrepreneur at heart. THANK YOU for this video, Cole. :)

[@corinawhite6457]

sorry to hear that know how you feel I am a big miss fit because I am transgender and gamer and adult baby side of life because of stressful life events 🤗🍼

[@melonagbaby]

I work in a very similar situation but I instead I decided being authentic was the best solution cause I would get customers that don't quite like the intrusive either and that totally worked at least for me. Fact is there are a bunch of people seeking for what they think it's more comfortable. I smile a lot and don't ask questions just let the environment let them say it all.

[@idrk1507]

I kindly disagree, to some degree, you shouldn't be yourself at jobs if the job mandates being a particular way you're not fond of. It's part of the customer service job

[@KidaMilo89]

Toxic positivity makes me sick to my stomach.

[@Sloan_Alone]

This reminded me of a comment one of my friends made… “I’d rather people love me or hate me, I just never want to be the ‘meh’ guy”

[@plantmama7442]

Damn love this 💯💯

[@saras756]

A swedish author, Hjalmar Söderberg 1869-1941, formulated precisely this ”You want to be loved, in lack thereof admired, in lack thereof feared, in lack thereof hated and dispised. You want to instill a feeling of some kind in people.”(directly translated to the best of my ability). He ends by concluding that, above all, the soul hates the emptiness, and wants contact - to whatever cost.

[@ryanbarker3978]

Remember when you are the guy that has nothing to lose, you have everything to gain. That's actually the most powerful position you can be in.

[@jaedanbellamy66]

I feel like I'm bout to collapse but I also feel like I'm destined for greatness so I'm not gonna give up my time is coming

[@fuzzypanda1684]

Sure but by definition as soon as you get anything at all you're no longer in that position. Just by having a phone and the internet to write this, you have something to lose.

[@hbennett5640]

Love this❤

[@nyxxose]

Not if you’re behind bars…. That’s not strength, that’s cowardice.

[@idrk1507]

@@fuzzypanda1684 Exactly, so make use of when you have nothing to lose, because it's a powerful unparalleled position you can't be in when you do have things to lose! Having a phone and internet doesn't take away from the quote, that would be taking it too literally

[@SkalesQ]

The problem is people make themselves worse just to "be like the others".

[@ShuElegar]

You mean, we worsen our condition on purpose so we could be different when its actually the same like the others? (Ik you wont get what i meant)

[@briannasandner5921]

Cole, this one hit home for me. There was really never a point in my life where I “fit in.” Only recently, within the past year or two in college, have I began to accept that as a positive. I don’t want to be like everyone else, as a matter of fact, that sounds awful to me. I would rather be completely alone and at peace than surrounded by people who make me feel lonely. Love your content so much, it makes me feel finally understood. Keep up the amazing work you do. Much love. ❤️

[@nadineskye7050]

Same, Brianna! Much love to you too!

[@asvalias]

I feel you!

[@en2p187]

Brene brown talks about belonging vs fitting in. We are social creatures after all, the solution isn't always to be alone (though solititude isn't so bad and I like it), just consider there may be more alternatives.

[@briannasandner5921]

@@en2p187 For sure, I love Brene. :) Personally I am an introvert and a highly sensitive person, so for the longest I thought there was something wrong with me. I always wished I could socialize like other people, but it genuinely drains me. Over time I’ve come to accept that there is nothing wrong with preferring solitude, and I have used that to better myself.

[@en2p187]

@@briannasandner5921 that's great that you've come to accept that part of yourself! And glad to see another brene fan out in the wild haha 😄

[@FoenyxFeather]

This is something I knew instinctively growing up Aspergers, and everyone called me crazy for. This video is like water. It feels healing to watch. I'm damn right. I'm not crazy, and I never was.

[@nathanadnitt]

That was beautiful man "like water" your on some bruce lee shit mate haha

[@ShiverRightOnYT]

Same

[@kingsoltani9307]

I am 13 and I realized how much of a nerd I was in elementary school in the past year and don't fit in even now. Social media is the biggest reason why I felt nerdy plus all the games that the majority play, the information and interests that the majority have in common but I don't have makes feel like I don't fit in. Thank you, this video made me feel better.

[@voodooo69]

At the ripe age of 37 I've finally excepted this. I love my isolation now and I'm not lonely.

[@heavensea141]

You simple more introverted by nature. I was entery life, been so annoyed by peoples don't understand I don't get my inner peace of mind if I don't get my solitude exactly when I need it.

[@desireeadjei9033]

I guess I am not the only one who finally accepted this at 21

[@peace606]

I dont think its healty to think like that. Im 22. I also thought like that for a while, but then im realized im just ignoring the existence of my social desire and suffering inside. Humans are social animals. You have to have a fulfilling social life to be happy.

[@a.kedits8720]

You need a physicist my Friend

[@a.kedits8720]

Loneliness is deadly stop telling other that it is cool and ok to be alone Be practical my friend and try to live in a real world not a world that is created by you

[@nickcarterr]

You truly deserve more subs and views. These videos are highly intelligent and therapeutic.

[@ColeHastings]

Thank you

[@symesalexander5294]

"Being different is a blessing not a Curse " 😎💯

[@corinawhite6457]

ty for this I felt like curse at times because I am transgender and gamer and adult baby side of life because of stressful life events and no matter my gender do say or Act I can't win in life and so broken by this world Ty for your tip trying my best in life 🤗🍼

[@upbestsalt1551]

It kinda is a curse because people will ridicule you for being yourself

[@symesalexander5294]

@@upbestsalt1551 Yeah been Ridiculed my entire life

[@dr.coomer8210]

Its a curse

[@91Definite]

@@upbestsalt1551 definitely I’m 31 years old and don’t have any real friends. The shit is very hurtful cause I would like for people I know to hit me up and check in with me 😞

[@albatross_407]

I swear Cole, there's this weird universal relationship between the exact moment your videos come out and the goings-on of my life. Your videos come out at exactly the right time when I need them most. That video you made for over-thinkers? It released around the exact time where I was buried in my own thoughts stressing over every single detail up to the point where I second-guessed myself. And then there's that video you made regarding the 6-month rule, which came out exactly when I was planning on changing my life for the better and was thinking long-term objectives. And then this, a video with the central theme of authenticity at a time where I've been questioning who I truly am as a person and what I stand for. At every single pitstop where I felt my life was going nowhere, you came out of the blue and guided me to where I am now, so thank you so much for everything you do. There's definitely a beautiful reason why you were made a part of many people's lives and this relationship I have with you is a testament to that.

[@ColeHastings]

Damn, that's amazing. Thank you for this

[@klausschwab4019]

Did you know your search history, everything youve watched, every time youve asked google something, your data is fed into a database, then googles AI systems compare you to others that are the same age, with the same problems, who have liked a certain video, and they will suggest you watch that video. So that you click and watch it and generate them money through ad revenue. Maybe thats why the videos seem to magically pop up at the right time in your life.

[@lillywantsheranchovypizza107]

i love this video. the rotten tomatoes thing is true. a lot of my favorite movies have terrible ratings but i love them nonetheless. i hate to think that if as a kid i had access to those ratings, would i have passed up on those movies? you absolutely have to go against the crowd when it feels right to you to. i think that trying hard to fit in will actually keep you from yourself and truest form of happiness after so long. it gets tiring.

[@ColeHastings]

Love it

[@carpenoctem775]

I learned this lesson a long time ago. I always struggled for acceptance and belonging as a boy. Insecurity. Now as a man I embrace my individuality and value my inner peace and headspace regardless of the opinions of others. It’s a journey that was paved on a rough path, but it’s worth it. Never give up on that, no matter how long it takes.

[@Cavegeckosol]

I think that authenticity should encompass more than this platonic idea of self. In reality, our authentic experience includes our pasts, our memories, and our interactions with people. The self is fluid, not a fixed point we all strive for like most self help gurus say. Conformity is part of the authentic self. We do it for a reason. Maybe it is biological or societal, but the urge to conform is part of who we are, even as individuals. If you are aware of this, it allows you to experience things on a deeper level. The choice to conform or diverge is ultimately ours to make, and it is the nature of that choice that is authentic to us.

[@michaelhampner7672]

Great comment.

[@Hubcool367]

Yup. Trying to suppress that deep need for "conformity", that fundamental need to fit in and belong in order to feel more "authentic", is ironically one of the least authentic things you could do. Of course, denying your urge for "authenticity" would also be inauthentic. I'm actually not even sure what the solution is, because there's almost always going to be a deep contradiction inside of yourself, at any moment at least a part of your authentic self that will never be fully expressed. On the other hand, you've never and will never be able to express any more or any less than all of the contradictions that make up your self at any given moment, and while that may feel inauthentic to yourself and/or others, it is as authentic, as fully you in all your complexities as it could possibly be.

[@meanwhileinespoo1265]

There is also an epidemic of people TRYING to be different.. dont mistake that for being you.. try a day without giving yourself demands or rules that make you normal... I have never fitted in anywhere with anyone.. at any time.. I tried and tried.... people will use you... people will hurt you... till they see something they never expected about you....

[@Bogdii]

I've learned so much from watching you these past few weeks. Congrats on 200k!

[@ColeHastings]

Thank you so much

[@Ocranix]

Not only should you not fit in, don't feel like you don't belong. I often think "I don't belong here" whether its in a class or at a church. But you just have to think to yourself "what makes them belong more than I do?" and then you realize it's nothing at all.

[@priyanshiagarwal1572]

Yesterday, I was feeling so down. I recorded myself and talked to myself (it's something I do when I'm lonely, it makes me feel there's someone else), and I cried two times for this exact reason. I never fit in. Seeing so many people on here saying the same thing is both sad and happy to me. Sad because I'm well aware of how hard life is when you have literally no one to talk to. (who understands you) and happy because there's hope. We all could connect with each other? All i know is that it's always good knowing you're not alone. This comment section made me feel so. The video was awesome too. I'm gonna watch that movie today. I'm hoping when I get to finally go to the UK, I'll fit in. Yes, I know the video said it's okay not to, but you really can't live a life without another. But what I can do, is hold on till I meet someone who understands me, gets me and makes me feel at home. xxx

[@aalulaa2549]

You will find your people 💙

[@AJBuddha]

Fitting in is a waste of time Just do what makes you happy dude ‼️

[@danielrust5398]

Get better Cole and thanks for feeding me wisdom. I believe that we can act like ourselves until we conquer social anxiety. Thanks for the wisdom.

[@isaacu6473]

When you said everything you consumed is where you are now. This really reminded me of when I heard Andrew Kirby say, “Every thing in your past has gotten you to where you are now”. It doesn’t define you, and there is no point dwelling on it. All you have is the present moment. Live today as it will be your last. Time is precious.

[@mikaeladavid7166]

I love that you're speaking on this concept. Only recently did I start to look within myself for answers. In the past, I always looked to other people for advice on how to live MY life. Also when you said that we should all challenge science and "facts".. I LOVE THIS. I started realizing that not every "fact" is the truth for EVERYONE. We may all be the same species but we're really different in a lot of ways (e.g. biological disposition, upbringing, and other factors) so I would be surprised if a "fact" applies to literally every single person on earth. I think you're absolutely right. We need to try things for ourselves instead of being influenced (without question) just because society says so. Again, thank you, this is extremely valuable information that I think should be shared!! :)

[@ColeHastings]

Thank you so much

[@marinaSassygUrl88]

Thank you so much for this video. I’ve seen this video long ago, the title and the click bait really spoke to me but I didn’t watch until I felt ready. You said so much of the things I always think of; or more specifically, started to think of now. What motivated me to get out of my very closed minded, narrow minded view points and thoughts on the world. We have been soooo afraid to even said ONE thing that isn’t the “ norm” because we will get hate mobbed online, I find it ironic because in real life, these same people are the most insecure and cowardly people ever. I know I am judging a lot, but the way these people online think [negative people] really irk me. There’s no one right opinion, and that’s something people seem to be doing a lot. Myself included and I dislike when I do it. They seemed to shut any conversation soooo quickly by “ science said so” and I agree with you, I wholeheartedly support science. These people take decades of their lives to search and study topics I can’t even comprehend, but that doesn’t mean they are always right. What happened to the scientific method? I studied that at school, it was in every science book literally, and it always insinuated how scientists FAIL times and times again till they get something right: there’s no magic. and I remember feeling better about being called an “idiot” sometimes because look, even scientists take ages till they get the experiment to work and get their results! They take time to see what works or not- they are after all- only human. And they can be wrong… I can count so many things the science has done that was “ factually wrong” a long time ago but now isn’t. I do understand some people who are bigoted can use this argument against science, but I am not referring to those people ofc. Just the overall attitude with “ you’re wrong, cause science said so” like it’s a new religion. My recent experiences on the whole mob mentality was on reddit, I hate that app with a passion. Everyone there either are little kids who think they are tough or conditioned thinkers adults. I got downvoted to filth for sharing an opposing opinion on a discussion matter, no it wasn’t a rude comment, just a discussion and a matter of opinion. And that was sad, not even people disagreeing with me, which always makes me happy as I see it as an opportunity to learn and it’s a fresh new mental challenge; but just nasty and mean just because they think their opinion matches the crowd. I got downvoted so much, and it’s prone to happen when some folks think you’re wrong because you’re not them. It’s hard to accept difference. Again I don’t hate disagreements, I hate ignorance and hateful energy that is so unnecessary and doesn’t even educate me. And the rotten tomatoes thing, I agree, recently I told myself “ I always listen to peoples reviews, well maybe I will like it? “ and I enjoyed that. It was a great movie indeed that people didn’t like.

[@OldFox-i9d]

On another note, Rip Robin Williams. You had so much more to offer man. We miss you.

[@MarcusChaiT_T]

My high school literature teacher forced all of us to watch Dead Poet's Society in her class. Till today I am very thankful for her actions in the past.

[@tatumtots25]

this has severely changed my perspective on my life. You just earned yourself a sub, your the goat and keep up the great work

[@bellaviebravery]

gosh! That’s why divine is within all of US. These few years i’ve awaken and i’m struggling to fit in anywhere! I thought i was crazy & i have personality disorder! Then i slowly find out it’s my soul the inner voice that kept pulling me in when i tried to fit in, kept stopping me when i tried to pleasing others…Now finally I got the answer! Thanks ! You explained it very thoroughly !

[@tylercoleman4235]

I love what you do so much man, you seriously had such a huge part in me getting over a breakup 6 months ago, you helped out a lot. Your content is so good I felt like I don’t deserve to be watching it for free 😂 so I subbed to your Patreon.

[@mikkelrregaard6127]

I love your channel Cole. On my journey to become the best version of myself and your videos are so helpful. Much love from Denmark.

[@FunkyGalilea]

Brilliant way of spreading the message using concepts from Jean Baudrillard and Friedrich Nietzsche. Idk if that was intentional, but it was so smooth! Subscribed

[@JonahKaylor]

Bro! This is my FAVORITE video you’ve made! Everything you’ve said is so true!

[@ColeHastings]

Thank you my guy!

[@dbern939]

God damn Cole, I'm so glad you're so good a putting your thoughts in words.

[@jayshmoney2318]

Out of the 3 videos (this being the 3rd one) I’m convinced your authentic ideas are very helpful for many of use and you got my subscription

[@ashley14579]

I love your timing, whenever I don't know what to do you are posting. Love you

[@ColeHastings]

Love yall ❤

[@krishnadevk3467]

Cole i've been following you for a while now...and your edits and way of presenting has improved a lot.kudos,brother! and again as always....effing relatable content man .

[@petrpernikovec6601]

Hey man, i am really sensitive person and i love how you make videos. Your voice and speech is clear and not disturbing, like bad spelling or talking in that "charismatic guru" way. Editing is great as well, because you say something and do it in visual way, like "do the right thing" and the sentence flip to emphasize to do the opposite. Thanks for your videos.

[@totomare4528]

I can connect you with someone who helped me attract my ex back to me after the breakup. 👇👇👇👇👇👇

[@totomare4528]

Message him on WhatsApp

[@totomare4528]

†2349056406417⏯⏯⏮⏮

[@Yvuyctxtxtx]

People don’t think it’s “cool” to be tired and depressed; it’s a condition of how we’re forced to live in this society.

[@piyushhk.j7506]

Thank you I really needed this I was trying to fit in with the cool guys since school and at college but I eventually landed up with bad habits and low self esteem. I relate to it too much.

[@brigidoconnor-gj8dq]

Hi Cole, I am Brigid from Australia. I only just today found your site on KZbin, and I’ve got to say that I’m very impressed with your work and thoughts!!! I’m going to watch Dead poets society asap! I love listening to and learning about people who are thinkers! You are so very insightful for someone your age! Thank you so very much for this discussion today. Namaste, and thanks again 🙏😊

[@Carlos-nx7is]

Congrats on the 200k Cole!!! + Idk if this happens to anyone else but whenever you make a video of this topics I feel like this strong positive vibe from you it's amazing, never change my guy

[@katiteee]

Back when I was in highschool, I read in my own science book "science cannot be proven" and when you think about it thats true. I thought that went with what you were saying in the video and wanted to bring that up. Love your content and your channel dude!

[@Vertgito]

Congrats on 200K you deserve it and the term "Dare to be different" has always been an understatement, sad to say things like this aren't taught too well in schools or pushed to the public as much as they should... and most people nowadays really don't understand that it's way easier and more fulfilling to be yourself than to try to keep up with the media and in-crowd, keep doing what you do my guy much love 💪🏾

[@bunsenn5064]

I embraced this aspect. I focused on improving myself and I really built up a diverse set of abilities. But no matter how successful I was, there was always a void that never could be filled. It ate at me constantly, and still does. I think that as hard as I try to function on my own, I always find myself suffering from the social isolation.

[@hibye8445]

I enjoy watching the full ad when i know it will support someone like you 💙

[@ColeHastings]

Thank you ❤

[@panch8270]

wow, what a beautiful thing you said. appreciated bro

[@panch8270]

we need more people like you. who knows how to contribute,who is doing hardwork.

[@hibye8445]

@@panch8270 if we don't help each other noone will , that is the least thing we can do to someone who gets tired and put his time into something with good quality .

[@wren5291]

It's so sad, but something of an epiphany just now whilst watching this video. I was rarely ever told 'no' by my mother - she is very open minded and always gently obliged me and gave me space to explore and enquire - and yet the biggest form of disrespect for the only parent I have left has been conforming to society instead of being my authentic genuine self, as reminded me by her throughout my whole life. I also find it kind of sad/odd that movies like Dead Poet's Society teach us more about the profundities of life than school/life actually does. However, I'm certainly very grateful that they exist. I learned more from that film - and others - than I ever learned in school. I'm glad that you discovered it and have made mention of it in your videos for others to discover. It should never be forgotten! Excellent video!👍🏼

[@rave1704]

Thanks!

[@ColeHastings]

Thank you

[@quiquedelcastillo3568]

I really like your content bro. Cheers from Spain!!

[@sasha-01]

You’ve become my favourite channel

[@SchuyFit]

Cole, your videos are incredible! You're touching on so many important topics that have the ability to change peoples lives.

[@HunterGT1]

I feel depressed and have anxiety and I’ve been trying to fit in for so long bit I realized that nobody gives a shit about my style or me and I’ve gained some self doubt lost

[@IgrejaMendes]

I LOVE watching your videos.. I follow a lot of people but can easily watch your video all the way through

[@lillotus5003]

This is the best self help video I’ve ever watched

[@prworswick]

Cole, your content keeps getting better and better. I can see a big change in you, it won't be long till your channel hits that million mark.

[@ColeHastings]

I appreciate that, my friend

[@plathrop7737]

Awesome analogy using Dead Poet’s Society. I’m an outsider and spiritual too. Thanks for this great video! 👌

[@nancy8605]

I don't fit in and i don't wanna fit in but it feels like poeple around me have different and false assumptions of me.

[@robo9466]

Remember me? I've been watching u since u had maybe 20k subs, and I just wanted to say I'm super proud to see you with 10 times that sub count. Your content has helped me a lot, especially since we have similar interests like lifting and self-help.

[@highliving-animatedvideos5831]

Reminder: *everyday is a great day to be yourself* ..even if it might not feel as such ❤️🚀🌙

[@1CT1]

Accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior and you will be saved. John 3:16 (share the good news of the gospel around the world!) Have a wonderful day/night, may the LORD bless you all, and farewell!,.,,,,,,

[@coolpfpbut]

Everyday*

[@Keedro]

oki

[@highliving-animatedvideos5831]

@@coolpfpbut that does sound better. Comment edited 😃

[@highliving-animatedvideos5831]

@@Keedro that’s the spirit 😂👍🏻❤️

[@maximeg7404]

but in the end nothing matters

[@adofficialchannel4831]

Man! This hits harrrd! Thank you from the bottom of my heart dude!

[@kaushikdr]

As someone who firmly believes in science; I think that we also need to trust our experience. For example, when people tell me "free will doesn't scientifically exist", I accept that there might not be science to back it up, but I do experience free will and its results on my actions on an every day basis. So I believe that science has not found everything that is yet to be found. But if there is good science backing up a claim, like maybe why planets move faster at certain points in their orbit or that liquids move by laminar flow, and you trust it both intellectually and experientially, then I think there is good reason to trust it.

[@jemalo-cszweitausend]

I grew up in a city (Berlin), where people move towards to be their self and to break conformity, ... in return however, breaking conformity has become a sort of "new conformity". So in Berlin we have diffrent sorts of "conformities", incudling those who are desperate in breaking out of it in oder to find "themselves" by buying "hand-made" and "artsy" things to express their individuality, wich basically makes them materialists, wich is also a form of conformity. So whenever I actually meet brilliant people who are actually "themselves" it ends up warming my heart even more so. And it doesn't matter who they are and what they do for a living, as long as they kept that humility inside their work, their being and their indivudality.

[@rickace132]

I can't fit in society at all. I just can't, I've tried, but can't. I think because of this, people don't like me. They fear me because I'm not like them, I'm free.

[@Serborez]

Same..They probably think I'm weird..But that's okay..It's all gonna pass, stay positive 💗

[@fywbyisaiahfloyd9627]

Bro your videos have grown so much. This video is by far my favorite one you ever put out. I really appreciate this video. Keep going bro.

[@KoryGraphic]

Your videos are top quality under all aspects, 200k is great, but you deserve much more.

[@ColeHastings]

Thank you

[@ikramikram4524]

I truly needed this rn. Thank you

[@DemetriPanici]

*I'm a big self-improvement guy. I love productivity apps. I know I'm different and the more that I've accepted that the happier I have become*

[@ren.8137]

Try writing funny comments and people will follow u

[@deutschlernen8697]

@@ren.8137 ???

[@koraysaglik1281]

Been watching some of your videos for a short while now, and I just wanted to say I love them, you give very good advice which has helped me out a lot, and I am sure it has helped many others! Thank you

[@rockjockchick]

Omg. Thank you. You are actually thinking for yourself! Wisdom. Listen to this man ppl.

[@raytweets]

Cole, you simply rock man!

[@EverythingHP]

this deserves more views

[@luketabidze8175]

Great video man, I've been watching some of your stuff and majority of them have been eye opening, and they've helped me look within myself and to change myself for the better. Thanks so much ♥️

[@Jujulianap]

You’re so bright! Thank you for the amazing content! 🌼

[@ChibiTalha]

Dang, you never miss, brother

[@kenneth_ol]

Cole your videos are fire

[@airflare7285]

brooooooo, i was just feelin this and this vid was recommended to me. thanks dude.

[@trrillt]

Wow you helped me so much cole 🥺 thank you for being a part of my journey

[@mikuko013]

What the hell Cole?! This is perfect timing. I was just talking about this very same topic to my family and friends. I've though like this my entire life and this video reinforces it. Good vid!

[@DMaineMusic]

My guy you hit my life issues as if I’ve told you my problems and then you make a video. 😭 Hits my soul. Thank you for this message. 💎💪🏾

[@panch8270]

It dosen,t matter how many views you get, i appreciate your content and your hardwork you put in making videos

[@dalilagarcia7230]

I have always felt like something is wrong with me and for some reason I just don't fit in with society. I was a homeschool kid from grades 7th-12th and it is so easy for people around me or therapists to blame it on that but I can recall being in public elementary school and still not fitting in. I have beaten my head for years trying to figure out what my issue is. Even when I am the nicest I can be or the cliche "be yourself" it never works. If I have friends usually it is because I adjusted myself to their liking. At this point, idk what my issue is. It's almost like feeling like some kind of mutant among normal people. Even at my nicest and most caring I have been ignored, disregarded, and even been given ugly looks by people that just seem annoyed that I am even talking. I am always forgotten or disregarded, never invited to get togethers or baby showers. I just exist to exist, frankly, I feel like I will die alone one day but at that point it won't even matter. I also had a therapist back in college that constantly said that I kept yearning for my pack. Well, nearly 5 years later there is still no fucking pack and don't believe their is one. At this point, I am just trying to accept that some of us just aren't liked by other people and will never be someone to hangout with or even go to lunch with.

[@MikeProvocateur-tu2jl]

U nailed it, COLE. Loved the video.

[@ukchris64]

Just seen this in my feed, and it has earned a subscrition, well done on a good video.

[@abundantras6287]

I see a cole upload - I like 👍🏿

[@ColeHastings]

❤

[@princelacatango5959]

Wow this made me rethink a lot of my beliefs and life choices. Thanks for such a thought provoking video, Cole

[@ColeHastings]

Thank you for watching

[@ambrishaggarwal9033]

This is the video I needed , I don't fit in the popular group of my school, all my friends want to be the part of it or are the part of it , but I just don't fit in , it makes me uncomfortable and conscious of myself.

[@karlewen2112]

Personally By far your best video to date! Keep going Cole

[@umitburcugoksel7661]

I am about to cry 🥺 thank you for this amazing video ❤️

[@johnvillagomez5676]

There was a time where I became full of doubt and insecurity because I began to notice how different I was from society. Instead of recognizing my differences as something good, I adapted into a bad habit of seeing it as a curse. You see growing up, I’ve always been and have felt different. I was never into sports or the drinking and partying lifestyle. Because if these things, I was judged and made fun of and was even peer pressured at times. My dating life has not been much of a success and I have been rejected hundreds of times. And because I had these doubts and insecurities, I began to slip into this pattern of constantly trying to analyze the past and how my life could have been different if I would have just lived differently. I went as far as to think that if I would have made stupid decisions, would have partied and got drunk, then perhaps my dating life would have been better but that is such an illusional way of thinking. Long story short, I was only second guessing the outcome of my life just so I could have place to belong with people. I didn’t want people to see the real me and my flaws. So I went around and began asking so many random girls for their numbers just so I could show that I wasn’t afraid to approach them. Hell this got exhausting really quick and it made me feel worse. The bottom line is take my story for example. A lot of the issues that I delt with came from me feeling the need to impress others when the truth is I am who I am for a reason and that is to make a difference in the lives of people like you. So please don’t be afraid to be who you are in front of people because I guarantee you if you do that, you will discover who is truly there for you and who isn’t. Don’t be afraid to have people walk away from you cause in the end it’s their loss and not yours. I hope you all have a blessed night and that God blesses you according to what he has in store for you.

[@Cmyztry]

Very genuine. I agreed 100%! Carpe diem. I also think that's what is wrong with fads. Everyone conforming to the same thing and if they don't they are the outsider. Group Think. I was never one to do what everyone else does. Be unique, and do you!

[@i_oca95]

Cole you're a cool guy im glad i found your channel!

[@ayafresh]

So yes, the way jealousy works, it's actually better NOT to fit in, but when no one will go to lunch with you because of jealous gossip/lies, even though you're really nice, pretty, and smart, it gets old, for as long as you allow it to matter. Just flip the switch, go out there, and chase life (God willing)! Yay!