Stop Worrying About FOMO

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[@HealthyGamerGG]

Full video - kzbin.info/www/bejne/oIvbgIdod8-Nrs0

[@kassie5779]

But we don't need to watch it now because you gave us the juiciest bit

[@borealis1255]

​@@kassie5779 still gonna watch the entire vod tho 💪🗣️📢‼️‼️

[@meaenti]

I see what u did there

[@bradley8614]

You can only live one life to the fullest, if that makes sense

[@user-ku9xx1gw3v]

That really makes, thank you, I needed to hear it

[@cassu6]

Good way to look at it!

[@superwormhalz2607]

That sounds greedy to me, I guess, fullest in what? And what if you have more than one life to live, maybe the belief in one life causes fomo and concentrates your perception on scarcity.

[@kani-licious]

you live multiple lives in one though

[@heavenlyrhyme2539]

​@@superwormhalz2607 interesting perspective on his take. I see living your life to the fullest as not worrying about FOMO. Not being caught up in whether or not you've missed all these great things, and focusing on enjoying the present moment you're experiencing. If you do that, then IMO you're living life to the fullest, and you don't really have time to worry about the FOMO

[@bobbywhite5319]

I nullify FOMO by doubling down on all decisions with spite

[@shiv_ring]

can you elaborate on that with an example? :D

[@JimsyFlimsy]

​@@shiv_ringlemme get uhh mcdubble, no bic mac, nahhh mcdooble

[@Sergote12]

"I should get a mcgirdle and a big mac so I won't miss out? F*k U, I won't buy anything now I'm missing out on all of them" Something like this?

[@15futo]

mi idolo

[@bobbywhite5319]

@@shiv_ring Yeah, so I actually take a different approach depending on the time frame. Present decision: I let myself agonize for 10-30 secs, mentally bounce between a lotta choices, before doing a mental "1,2,3" countdown where I kind of mentally relax/freefall and see where I land. Basically I become the randomizer of my own life. Ex: I'm reading a menu and I see 3 items I like. I'll read their little food descriptions and then bounce around as the waiter is standing at the table. Just before an awkard amount of time passes, I just stop cycling and land on an option. Past decisions: This is more about facing regrets I guess than actual FOMO, but I basically let myself wonder about the possibilities for a little bit, but then I ground myself by acknowledging that nothing would change or that I didn't have the requisite knowledge. Then I proclaim it spitefully to the hypothetical reality (can be out loud, though I do it mentally with some facial expressions) Ex: Thinking about the past and being sad about how my life/personal maturation was delayed by my adverse life experiences. Get caught up in the idea of how much more successful and healthier I'd be if those things hadn't happened. Feel the sense of loss but reject it, by acknowledging that I'd probably be much more naive, clueless, and dumber. Basically I will affirm/proclaim that it's okay for my damaged self to exist. This does require a degree of acceptance/integration of your experiences into your sense of identity. Afterword: I know that this doesn't really line up with Dr. K's advice for indecisiveness, because he said something about how some people will overanalyze a situation until they make a logical choice. He kind of implied that was not ideal and not indicative of true decisiveness, which is fine. I think he said that real decisiveness came from being all chill and detached on the inside. That wasn't really for me though. Rather than curb that behavior completely, I just let it share the spotlight with other behaviors to kind of even it out. These little rituals are probably not for everyone, but they really work for me. So most times I kind of cycle through all the stages of agonizing and staving off those behaviors.

[@andybenitez7412]

The food analogy. Cemented this in my head forever. Remember when you talk to people: use weird anecdotes and sayings that break the monotony of what dumb people like me call textbook speak.

[@vazazell5967]

DAE eats everythin in one meal not to miss out?

[@Damaxyz]

You're not dumb for not understanding textbook speak, not everyone learns or understands a concept the same way. With that said, great analogies are often very good at getting a point across in a simplified format.

[@keeshuunedited5678]

"Ha, FOMO. I conquered that a while ago" *This video pops up while I have literally 100+ tabs open* "Oh... Perhaps I may not have completely conquered FOMO"

[@amalkrishnas1696]

exactly what happened to me

[@adhagozali]

It’s better to become something then to be potentially anything. So it boils down to taking a decision. Thanks for the reminder doc!

[@Lsir]

Me: having 100+ tabs

[@justacoginthefkery]

yep. Life gets ultimately easier when you stop living life dictated by fear & living life purposefully.

[@chickenmonger123]

I remember realizing this. As a, person with a broad range of interests. Some creativity at least. And ok intelligence. Who grew up poor. You have to get ok with missing out on whatever. Because you are always missing out on something. Unfortunately you can choose maladaptive ways of dealing with that, or positive adaptive ways of dealing with it. The only thing that worked for me was… Proper orientation. As in proper context for where I’m going, and what I’m avoiding. And how.

[@kiba26521]

Ngl I laughed when I saw the thumbnail xD Conquering FOMO is one of the greatest freedom that a person could attain.

[@rayukk]

Naa conquering fear of being disliked is

[@slushy3943]

@@rayukk I dont think one or the other is worse. Both suck ass

[@garmzai]

"Give up" lmao

[@user-ku9xx1gw3v]

Fomo was ironically the thing that ruined my life most

[@FigurkizPlasteliny]

the same

[@mattpassos5689]

Get busted for someone else’s drugs at a party?

[@Lianpe98]

where's the ironic part?

[@goodvybe679]

​@@Lianpe98 I think he means the stress of him "missing out" made him miss out on having a better life

[@user-ku9xx1gw3v]

@@goodvybe679 yes, that's what I mean

[@searcher93]

As I write this comment, I have 17 tabs open, 8 of which are wikipedia pages, 1 google translate, 3 youtube videos, 1 is a quoteinvestigator search, 3 are read articles from 2 hours ago, and a cambridge dictionary search I did a bit ago before finding this vid. the Doc. here's talking about streaming, and it probably has nothing to do with my reply, but I feel that multi-tabbing in ridiculous proportions has something to do with erratic attention spans, though in keeping the tabs open there is a 'Oh I'll finish reading it after THIS new cool thing' which has to do with unwillingness to miss something. Imo.

[@confusedturtle183]

'Oh I'll finish reading it after THIS new cool thing' very very relatable. Thank you. It's time to go to sleep for me and you provided a moment of clarity (can't count the number of tabs open)

[@blueleaftuber]

Typically when i keep tabs open, it's just to help me not forget certain things, i don't feel like it's related to fomo. Like I'll have some kind of background music ready, some task I'm procrastinating, messenger, and maybe one thing I'm actually looking at

[@grimlok3487]

Saaaaame and none of my tabs are streams either Usually helpful or relevant info I want to keep on hand to reference, that I haven't fully committed to memory yet

[@hereandnow3156]

I feel like I convince myself that I will come back to stuff as a way of making an excuse to not follow through with a thought. Like I _know_ I won't actually come back to the thirty tabs I have open at any point so if I can convince myself that I will then I don't have to worry about stressing to figure out a thought or to engage with something that I find frustrating or something like that if that makes sense.

[@searcher93]

since writing that comment I started doing this: -if it's a term i don't understand i look it up, read it's meaning and close the new tab -if it's a whole new cool thing I open the tab, delay reading it and finish what I was previously reading, take notes if necessary, then close and move on to the new cool thing, Seems to help, dunno tho, I ain't no doc.

[@uh-ooooh]

it's so weird because he's right re that it's easy. When you're in the fomo state, it's hard to get out. But when you do decide to just stop for just 1 moment, it's surprisingly very easy. A weird loop of easy and difficult at the same time.

[@joelcoll4034]

you just have to close all the tabs and clear history

[@baronobeefdip8075]

Psychological inertia

[@charleschristianson2730]

15 tabs is nothin'. It feels like an accomplishment when I can manage to keep it under 100.

[@alansun697]

someone get this guy in security!

[@Xanderj89]

Yeah that’s the adhd not the fomo, that’s knowing you’ll forget about them the moment you close them lol

[@kassie5779]

Same. If the browser isn't at risk of crashing, you're not doing it right.

[@charleschristianson2730]

@@Xanderj89 It's both.

[@nd4856]

The only time I’ll have 15 tabs open is specifically when doing a long research paper and I don’t want to lose a source before I’m done using it and have it fully cited

[@racheline_nya]

the reason i have 183 tabs open is that exciting things i wanna learn pop up faster than i can learn them (and this is mainly because of school and work taking up 90% of my awake time)

[@ontheline3421]

I usually have 15 tabs open lol. Not for that reason tho. I like yo open all youtube videos from houtubers I like the moment I come from work to just watch them one by one. Then I have some language materials, drawing poses shit that is always opened. And if I start art project I have 20 refference pages lol cuz I compose one portrait from one pose, 2 hair photos, some flowers, some effects, etc.

[@latteARCH]

That’s intentional and purposeful usage, then. Not FOMO.

[@kiiturii]

yeah that's different from what he's talking about, I also always have like 20 tabs that I never close, some tabs for youtube, email, some learning platforms, socials and other very specific things I use regularly

[@nektulosnewbie]

GK Chesterton criticized the mindset that choice was to do with freedom when in his experience it was the exact opposite. It was of making choices and having them limit him by their very nature as choices, but experiencing life fully as a result.

[@Karzakus]

meanwhile me I just be sitting here only watching highlight clips from my favorite streamers so I don't need to watch the eh moments of the stream LMAO

[@seyproductions]

I always ponder what else I could have eaten instead of the meal I chose for my lunch. That's probably why I'm obese today; I sometimes choose to eat them all in one meal.

[@valen5188]

me with 8 chrome windows open all with 10+ tabs each

[@fulltimeonfire8536]

I have 15 tabs open because I wanted to find out where I could get a personalised dog collar and now I'm on the 4 millionth page of Wikipedia reading about minnows!

[@Doxxxxi]

Am I the only one who's not afraid of missing out? I learned from being physically disabled from a young age that I was going to miss out on a lot. So I guess personally I got used to it. I just don't think about it much at all.

[@mikehess4494]

Prioritize what's most important 1st in your life

[@soccom8341576]

We aren't greedy. We are unhappy that our executive functioning is overwhelmed. We cannot get the highest priority thing. We are unhappy that we aren't being treated as well as we think we should be. We are unhappy because there are false expectations created by marketing, social media, society.

[@LacedWithOreos]

'every single meal you eat, you're missing out on all of the other food, fomo is a state of life'....But wait, there are people that keep 15 tabs open of different streams?!!! What????

[@julianbrelsford]

"fomo is the state of life" What he means is that Missing Out is the state of life. Everything we do/experience involves missing out on a billion other things. You can be fearfully missing out or fearlessly missing out but either way you're missing out

[@mark9294]

15 tabs? That’s nothing

[@phamton919]

Right, those are rookie numbers gotta pump those up I'm at 86 on one browser, about 50 on another one XD

[@battomon5554]

Dang this one hits home. I 100% have FOMO. Here's the thing about the point you brought up though, every meal I eat, I do get FOMO about every meal I couldn't have eaten in that place. It just sucks. Also that's why losing weight seems futile at times.

[@ticklord]

A lot of it is just trying to ground yourself, you have to learn to appreciate the experiences you ARE having, live in the now.

[@battomon5554]

@@ticklord yeah, it's a struggle sometimes. Most of the time I'm fine though.

[@sheolcodemonkey4027]

It's only FOMO when the prospect of it enters your periphery, other than that it's just stuff you're not looking at. I felt so much better once I got the Unhook KZbin extension for Chrome, so I was no longer being bombarded with all these other videos I could be watching. Finally I could watch one video and then, I shit you not... CLOSE KZbin

[@DanielPlok]

„F.O.M.O. is a state of life“ is an amazing quote, I will have to hang that up on my door

[@ebenolivier7085]

This is probably one of the best perspectives I could've heard today.

[@Tivvv3]

True!

[@mohamedaityoussef9965]

That food example just did it for me

[@juhel5531]

Efficiency is good though. FOMO is only bad when the very FOMO you get causes you actually miss out. The farther back in time you go, the more we actually missed out. People couldn't read. People couldn't travel. There used to be a time where you spent almost all of your life in your quiet country side OR went to the city and lived a super fast life full of risk and choices. There used to be a time where only a select few merchants routinely traveled and made a ton of money at huge risk to life and limb(travellers diarrhea used to be deadly).

[@kiiturii]

and all that is perfectly fine. Saying that the fear of missing out is only bad when you end up missing out sounds a lot like you have big time FOMO

[@juhel5531]

@@kiiturii you only live once(I mean technically we don't know that for sure) so we need to extract every ounce of experience during our limited time. Sleep with as many women as you can until you hit diminishing marginal returns, use techniques to obfuscate the experience and subjectively make the experience feel special, both focus on the objective truth AND lean into your irrational subjective tastes, etc. Take everything you can and enjoy it as much as possible.

[@kiiturii]

@@juhel5531 that's just letting fomo control your life..

[@JustAScarecrow1]

Just because it can be better doesn't mean we should ignore the good that's already there.

[@Lara-xu3yc]

I used to be fucking addicted to collecting allll the things in a game called Sky, now I no longer give a shit. The game really feeds on players sense of FOMO. I've become ok with missing out.

[@kinkajuu1]

I am Fomophobic. I am afraid of my fear of missing out.

[@ezlomacks6533]

that analogy at the end is super strong

[@dz.audiovisual]

i'm on the IOMO spectrum. "Its Ok to Miss Out"

[@quantum_sleep]

You are liberated when you start to realize that none of it matters. Commit to what you're interested in or passionate about, and understand that there will always be opportunity cost to everything. Love the message, love the analogy. Don't get too caught up in FOMO, it's not a great place to be in.

[@cynicalafflictional1725]

FOMO is a mindset. .. desperation is a mindset.

[@tekiero]

damn. that a nice way of viewing of taht tabs

[@steggopotamus]

I've finally started to stop having so much fomo for in game items. It's really fomo exhaustion because games are always trying to drag me in with the stuff I can get, I'm finally too overwhelmed to care.

[@HRDSalami654]

For me personally it's about showing support for a streamer I like but don't necessarily want to watch more than the current stream.

[@slayersentience666]

Don't watch streams, but god I always end up with 50+ tabs each time I do research on a topic 😂. Yes, my PC hates me

[@Brokenwings20]

me watching this with my 15 tabs open:

[@pedrosso0]

"fomo is a state of life" Yeah. My life. I never make decisions I like because I know I'm missing out on everything

[@BucketPls]

As someone that used to struggle with FOMO; it is really not as hard as you think! For me it was just realizing that FOMO was ruining so many things, as it sucks a lot of energy away from you and often the hype is not even nearly worth it. Go enjoy your thing! Almost everything will be there waiting for you in neatly clipped fashion on other sites or would be cheaper during a sale (if case of games that is)

[@VideogameFrames]

I can’t stand watch streams, I just watch the clips afterwards

[@-Retired-]

This is the best take on FOMO I've ever heard.

[@kani-licious]

me when multitasking

[@Ser-Vex131]

Does this apply to youtube videos? I more cue them up to watch after my current video

[@douwe4254]

It's like watching one stream almost isn't worth their time anymore. It's almost more efficient to play yourself. 34 years old, never watched any gaming stream for longer than 5 minutes.

[@mbaxter22]

FOMO has probably messed up my life more than I want to admit.

[@jjno]

man. hes right

[@Whoiskimb]

Miz summoned the Indian parent inside Dr. K😂😂

[@pyeclam]

I never considered this is why I have so many tabs open.

[@noni9399]

LOMO- love of missing out

[@eddebrock]

**Closes tab to watch the next one**

[@disappear1234]

That's why I try to watch a lot of KZbin now I'm slowing down

[@fujoshiotaku5832]

I have fomo but them I remember what's meant to happen will happen and me going or not won't change what's meant to happen. But them I still have fomo

[@HawkeyeVoid]

It’s interesting how games use battle passes and other systems to get everyone stuck on FOMO and playing their games now. Must be pretty common.

[@kiiturii]

genshin is FOMO simulator and that game is huuuge

[@John-uw2je]

I may or may not have 30 tabs open for KZbin, which I make an effort of culling every few months.

[@dfquartzidn6151]

Me, who’s already following a bajillion KZbinrs and Twitch streamers whose timezones are the complete opposite from mine: Screw this, I’m going to sleep!

[@the1stmetalhead]

I have FOMO in regard to hookups and casual sex. I see all these men and women having so much casual sex during their younger years and I feel as though I'll never be able to enjoy that or live up to that standard.

[@chickentendies5144]

Statistically sex has declined so for every person you see casually having sex theres a bunch of people sitting at home watching anime haha so don't worry cause that isn't the standard. I'm recently past my point of "young adult" years and I can tell you I felt the same at first. Eventually I was casually hooking up with people and for me it just wasn't great. Doesn't matter if they or I were great at sex, it just felt soulless most of the time like a minimum wage job, i.e putting in work for a small reward (speaking as a male). Making strong emotional connections with a partner has been much more rewarding. Also I just have to mention STD's... I wasn't surprised because I'm from a family of doctors and nurses and was constantly reminded to get checked regularly but a lot of people simply do not get checked. Anyway thats just my experience. You might enjoy it one day or maybe the FOMO will pass and you won't give a fuck anymore. If you do eventually get into casual hook ups then for do yourself a favor and get checked for STDs

[@dreambrush7251]

dr k pls stop calling me out

[@jagervonweebs610]

I only have 15 streams open because im farming rewards for videogames lol

[@cogginsnuff]

okay but I get sad every time I have to eat the same thing, and I'm autistic so I'm like sad a lot

[@gumfun2]

i have been keeping 15 tabs open in my mind for my life because of FOMO

[@artemefimov8215]

I love fumos!

[@pepelechad536]

I 100% thought he was talking about porn at the start

[@pavlova717]

866 tabs open and thousands others saved. Oh no.

[@Matronix94]

welp (I have probably 200+ tabs over 8 separate windows lmaooo)

[@PanDiaxik]

It depends what kind of streams you're watching, sometimes there isn't enough going on in a stream to be entertaining by itself. Two of them on two monitor though...

[@yasminberrytic6157]

I’m like that with reading mangas hhh

[@Vextipher]

No FOMO bro

[@Kaiju3301]

I have 15 tabs open as reminders .

[@bitsbard]

This surely is enlightening. A parallel-topic book could be your next enlightenment. "A Life Unplugged: Reclaiming Reality in a Digital Age" by Theodore Blaze

[@nekokna]

dunno i kinda have lots of tutorials and no time to play those and have the free time to look at the images actually

[@kentuckyfriedegg3409]

I know I'm not the only one that immediately thought of 15 tabs for something else 😐

[@DJAlphaOmega]

What about people that just want to bring up a tab to help someone's viewership?

[@James-is7wf]

then you're not suffering from fomo. this is for ppl who do suffer and haven't conquered it

[@ZhekaTrololo]

15? I have several hundreds tabs open in my browser!

[@GoofballPaul]

ahahahah, 15 tabs, if only.

[@fletchersouza8734]

I believe he can detect everything all at once through his eyebrows

[@PokeWhalee]

Damn

[@bronsondiamond2025]

um, excuse me, I only have 13 tabs open..... I closed 2 or 5 when I came home though

[@Josuegurrola]

Now I want to eat 10 million times more.

[@AndreJNick]

The only thing I get FOMO about is porn. I have 600 tabs open and I will never ever close them. Also I'll never go back and watch them because there's new porn coming out every day so why waste time looking at the past

[@orthodoxNPC]

the 10 million percent is just marketing

[@wanderingrandomer]

Can't you just watch the VOD later, though?

[@kiiturii]

yes but then they missed out on it live so it's not the same, they 'weren't there'

[@wanderingrandomer]

@@kiiturii I guess. I always found live chat overrated, it's all zoomers spouting dank memes.

[@kiiturii]

@@wanderingrandomer I don't take part in live chat either but I feel like you only have experience with the 1% of the 1% of streamers where the chat is nearly unreadable. Often a live chat can be a great community to be a part of

[@wanderingrandomer]

@@kiiturii I guess. I've personally never gotten anything of value from a live stram chat. I'd rather just watch

[@kurosan0079]

Me with like 103 tabs open...

[@tyrsia]

Have you heard of JOMO? Its the joy of missing out.

[@mythmakroxymore1670]

I’m kinda the opposite. I will starve myself waiting for funny or epic clips. It’s the same with money, i hate signing checks and cashing them, but i love doing the nasty work of taking the trash out.

[@Bioniclema90]

What is fomo?

[@uzr69]

fear of missing out

[@MrDarkbluewater]

FOMO = Fear Of Missing Out

[@inkarnator7717]

15 tabs? Are you even trying at that point?

[@hamtier]

thats why i just watch highlight clips. idgaf about seeing things live because I'm still going to see it, what does it matter when, to talk with people about it? what with the guys in chat? lol

[@Wanooknox]

Well, crap, now I just wanna eat all the foods at once at every meal. Great.😂

[@misuterinaso]

I have like 500 corn website tabs open