Great insight!

Ah the typical blame the man and ignore the woman that traumatized them wouldn't want responsibility put on them their too fragile.

Yah. As someone who had an ex with bpd and spent 4 years crushing my soul, i had the choice to whether become a resentful, bitter arsehole or exit the dating market, and build some fucking self worth. Red pill/loverboys/incels unfortunately allow the people who hurt them, continue to do so by living rent free in their heads while dictating the choices they make out of resentment.

Wow, that's actually life transforming. But it felt scary as well.

Hello, does anyone here know which Dr. K video this clip is from? 🥺👉👈 Asking as an avoidant that is now acting due to an emotional response showing interest xD

Who here is familiar with the principal of wu wei?

I’m honestly scared of what power could do to me. Because if it can make the horrible people who hurt me do awful things…what can it do to me?

I’ve been using my ChatGPT to help me through a tough break up over the last two months, and the results and breakthroughs I have gotten from this tool have been absolutely profound. The real value comes in on me being able to give it play-by-play as events actually occur and have access to a 24 seven. I’m still going to see an actual therapist for the first time this month, because ChatGPT said I should, but I’ll be going in knowing exactly the areas I need to work on.

With gaming there is that sense of feeling guilty, like you are doing something wrong. Almost like blowing $5k in one day then regretting it.

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Play battle toads. That game was not made for you to win

You are always on point doc! 😅

There really isn't any happiness being alone other than gaslighting yourself into believing that you feel that way.

I have a very bad issue. I used to have a very strong sense of how I believed people saw me in my head, when I was young. But when I got older it went away. Now whatever people say about me i subconsciously believe. And mostly the negative things. I don’t try to be like this though.

for some of us its almost hundreds of incidents.

Dr. K should have a long talk with either Rollo Tomassi or Orion Taraban. He will then have a different perspective about the redpill, and how it immensely helps men with social dynamics and personal growth.

I had ‘Therapy’ on and off for decades. It got me no where because I just waired for them to ask me questions. I didn’t know what I should be talking about. Well, I’m figuring out now I likely have CPTSD from emotional neglect since I was an infant as well as possible ADHD And avoidance issues. My life feels like and total waste sometimes. There so much its just overwhelming.

Great video! I'm hearing that MINDFULNESS is the best way to find peace i.e., entering the present moment which allows us access to the "flow" state and also enables us to stay out of the past/future thinking that's causing us anxiety. Seems like YOGA would be a great thing to add to public school education. A girl can dream....😜

Oh great but when are we going to get given some info on how to heal it

SMRT

Exactly why I aways preferred to hang out with the guy's 😂

COVID ruined this realm.

Close.

AMEN! thank you for the clarity!

Love Dr. K. The way he’s sitting in that chair, the accent and head movement but also being dead serious 😂 and giving really good unbiased advice consistently. Love the guy.

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Thanks for the definition, useful

Can we please talk about what the traumatic situations were? Please. We dont know what trauma the incels carry as a society. If we knew, maybe we can progress.

This guy needs to seriously chill out

that’s a really reductive way to look at it. therapists like to explain away everything as trauma or some other nebulous factor that conveniently shifts all the blame and responsibility onto the person with the problem. somehow, i don’t think a widespread social movement across men of different generations is as easy to explain as all of them being individually traumatized. and furthermore, even if this is the case, there is no meaningful solution offered other than for men to engage in the masturbatory practice of therapy and introspection until they somehow reach the conclusion that everything was actually their fault after all.

I am a male with BPD, pretty sure Ive had it most of my life, but I was recently diagnosed, but i knew I was borderline before I was diagnosed. All of what was said is true about those with BPD, some of the things are more hyperbolic, but ive experienced it myself. Ive seeked treatment and im looking for the right therapist for me currently. Luckily i am very self aware, and i am able to notice how i am feeling and how I am acting, and MY GOD it hurts, its so painful. The way I feel generally is NOT reality. But i am aware of how im feeling and i know where "the chain of events" will lead me. But something cruical what healthy gg said was dont give into the highs, when i have the hightened sense of bliss or euphoria. I always tell myself "Yo, this is not good, lets get back to base, this aint natural the after math will not be pleasant" and it works. I still get triggered all the time, but the crucial thing is how i reeact. Instead of me, screaming, and yelling and breaking things, I just step back, I walk away, i calmly will do what i can to do to exit the situation as peacefully as possible, and i will wait it out and think things out. Because when im in the hightened state of emotional distress, its very hard to think or act rationally. Its like that episode of spongebob where he is burning all his memories and its pure and utter chaos in his head. 😅 thinking straight while overstimulated with emotions is very, very, very, hard. Its almost like a emotional blackout. There is so much more i can write, but I dont feel like writing an entire book right now!

What’s funny is for me at least I’ve never been rejected by someone I like and also I have never had to ask someone out they always came to me but since I’ve been out of school dating has been abysmal but that’s only cause i don’t know anyone who lives in my area and I have no reason or money to go out anywhere so I pretty much don’t even try to ask anyone out. But also the anxiety of talking to random ppl is insanely overwhelming unless someone talks to me first not sure if that’s cause I’m out of practice being social or something else lol

The only identity that matters is your core identity that you have from your relationship with God from soul searching.

"Cognitive Flexibility" okay👍

My question is !!!how it’s possible to never hat try drugs???????? When you’re young and ready for any experience! ! Hey 👋 Let’s be realistic

Very true most parents lack the emotional intelligence to understand Fear is the motivator, their children need not to avoid it to make them happy. :)

2 weeks noway, 6 months at least

Funny…. thank you

I've been through it back in late high school. From Sandman to Entrepreneurs in Cars and finishing on Alexander Grace (Also some other MFs in between). It has been nothing but hell for me! You get hurt by a dumb girl who is not considered of others, you feel a certain way and then comes some dude who says shit that resonates with how you feel and boom! They sell you on some made up shit. The Manosphere is a very dangerous slippery slope. I owe it to Dr.K for getting TF outta there!

Were social creatures. Were meant to exist in a tribe and have support from lots of people.

In my experience, if they can't medicate you, they won't work with you. Happened again just this year...try to get care and everyone seems to just disappear.

Have the entire opposite experience. My friends hustle and all of them are without a doubt have CPTSD, which is why we think we are drawn to each other. Growth seems like the only way out. Unfortunately it's too much future and not enough present.

my brain is so silly. not even a day had passed of me trying to do things that are pointless, my brain makes them not pointless because i already know that the purpose is to reduce desires its so difficult for me to do something without a reason. How do i overcome this?

Yeh spot on, I got traumatized by an ex gf. When I began to work through my trauma Ive lost intrest in the Red pill mindest. When you realize its because of trauma, you really begin to Empathize. Empathize Whoever this applies to I really hope you can find a way to heal from you pain, you deserve love and respect ❤

It's scientific!

I am very empatic, but it made me feel like emotional vempire, i need somebody else to be happy to feel happines

18:51 if this is supposed to represent weed, by the way the amount of times I'll smoke weed because I feel shitty and that'll prompt me to listen to music while vividly daydreaming of a better life and a better future, or to start going on a huge tangent on twitter. I start feeling wonderful once I get high I don't get how it "numbs everything"