Story of Sharjeena and Mustafa | Kabhi main kabhi tum | Drama review |

[@BibiZainabb]

Drama is an oppertunity to talk about our social and cultural bias against women. How easily we notice female characters being toxic yet ignore the male counterpart.

[@afifaahmed7394]

I would respectfully disagree with making incompetence as an excuse. I have been saying this since beginning that Mustafa may have adult adhd. The way kept his room, how he struggled with studies, his struggle with communication, his rejection sensitivity disguised as being dheet. He wanted to prove himself more than providing his wife or kid, but he did not make his incompetence his excuse he was actually struggling with expression of his fears.

[@SadafNasreen-q6c]

Atif, being a man understanding how ego ruins the true meaning of masculinity , is just amazing!!!!!!!

[@TAR-t7d]

Ye dekhain aap bhi bare minimum ki tareef kar rahi hai. Atif aik achay insaan hain aur saray achay insaano ko ye samajhna chahye

[@MOMKAST]

You got the point 👍

[@BibiZainabb]

​@@TAR-t7d You made my day! This is exactly what we highlighted.

[@SadafNasreen-q6c]

@@TAR-t7d I have seen husband's belittling their wives if the wife wants the husband to keep his arm around her shoulder for pics. And then taunting k ' class fellows k saath chipak k tasweer banatey hain'. So, the bare minimum is even barely seen these days.

[@SadafNasreen-q6c]

@@TAR-t7d also, biwi k saath achai na society teach karti hai na parenting, in most cases.

[@afifaahmed7394]

For me Mustafa was the hero when he said ye hath kaam karne k liye nhi bane in mei pencil, books laptop Acha lagta hai.❤️

[@AskSirAtif]

Hero needs to walk the talk. Left sharjeena alone in his mother's house as well as his own house.

[@BibiZainabb]

Sirf aik jumla keh k mujhe bhi hero banna hai🙈

[@MOMKAST]

🤣

[@shabih2008]

​@AskSirAtif he did walk the talked ultimately, but sharjeena didn't liked it and jab sharjeena pregnant thi he would not allow her do any physical work

[@AskSirAtif]

@shabih2008 he was not home dude and he did not make sure that she is taken care of. No maid. Nothing. He abandoned her ! The least he could have done is to let sharjeena live with her family. He knew that the only reason sharjeena did not live with her parents is because of his empty ego. Sharjeena k ghar say aya hwa khana us say brdasht nahi hota tha. Mustafa did not do any work on himself. One more failure would just toss him into a tailspin.

[@mohammadzafar1177]

In literature the concept of ‘ willing suspension of disbelief’ is common. Therefore ‘ in fiction , if we apply the rules of logic then things fall apart.

[@CoachSadaf]

Thankyou much for giving another perspective to the whole situation, which is actually so true. I was amazed I didnt realized it until you both point it out and I said oh yes that's so true. Please keep doing these kind of videos. JazakumAllah khair.

[@MOMKAST]

Glad you enjoyed it! Keep those thoughts coming!

[@engineering-madness-dev]

And my last comment on this channel, Sharjeena was the real mvp of the series and there are lot of people on this train. Farhat Ishtiaq herself has and other reviewers have also discussed on adult daughter syndrome and that has been explored in many scenes such as when adeel leaves her she appears strong in front of her family but cries in private same when she has a fight with Mustafa. Interesting aside the script was actually finalized in 2023 itself including the ending as per Farhat Ishtiaq. There were lots of people who were Team Sharjeena when Mustafa was shutting her off. Bushra Ansari character was grey and Many reviewers pointed that out as well. She did treat Sharjeena unfairly at multiple occasions not just with bad words but by overworking her to cook fancy meals for adeel and rubab after she used to come home from work. She was also part of a bad relationship with Jawed Sheikh's character yet people simple did not empathize with her because she herself was so bad with Sharjeena. Sharjeena's mother was a little non existant throughout the series but it was actually a very good character at the end, how she took care of Sharjeena during the miscarriage was beautiful for me. The fathers character was very weak and sad. Coming to Mustafa, people are flawed thats the point of Mustafa, and people learn from their mistakes and improve themselves as he did. He went from Mustafa 1.0 to Mustafa 2.0 to Mustafa 3.0 (which is shown at the very end via the sticky notes). I like how you cherry pick Mustafa's scenes while ignoring scenes like when he stayed up all night to help with Sharjeena's assignment or when he did repairs on the house, then brought groceries and then cooked as well. Its revealed a little abrubtly but quite importantly that Mustafa did feel wrong about what he had done he just was torn between his emotions and traumas as people do and he was trying to be better at communication. Thank god I watched the drama before this video and finally quoting Sharjeena - bhaad mein jao tum aur bhaad mein jaye tumhara hi hello. Indians are happy to support this drama 😎

[@ady6837]

Finally someone sensible👏👏👏

[@AsBi1]

agreed

[@AsBi1]

in fact I find your analysis more accurate than this podcaster.

[@shabih2008]

Yeah bro this discussion was based on actually cherry picking from the whole serial.

[@ZaraKhan-fi5tr]

Myje yh problematic laga k end per koi month month nai tha sherjena ka k wo sab chor chaar gher mai beth k mustafa k wait ker rahi thi... Why were she not going to her job .. To her msc or mba classes ... Why were she not socializing... Thek hai workaholic ho k mustafa ma due care n time na dena is not justifeid but why n when she turned into n coach potatao... Ur life should be something without anyone else let alone your husband.... No ones life should revolve around anyones else life for existence or happiness ... Aur Dosra jub ap her situation mai understanding hotey ho compromise kerety ho agley ko space n validation detey ho tu ap kp kuch time k baad forgranted lia jata hi... Sherjeena never complained to mustafa she always made sure k oski emotional needs pori hun ose validation miley ose encouragement miley ose motivation miley ose support miley not once she communicated k muje b yh sab chahye n i can mis understand you i can need words to validate my emotions.... Esi liye mustafa left n even mentions k mene socha yh larki muje samjti hai she will understand...

[@mohammadzafar1177]

This discussion seemed like a keynote speaker in a conference. Remember in literature there are two schools of thought Art for the sake of art and art for the sake of life Probably the reviewers wanted both schools of thought together

[@shifa6874]

شرجینہ اینڈ مصطفی اینالسز اٹس لائیک میرے پیرنٹس کی پوری لائف میری آنکھوں کے سامنے گھوم گئی اور میں آج تک سوچتی رہی کہ وائے آئی ہیو سچ کامپلیکس ٹراماز 😮

[@MOMKAST]

May Allah make it easy for you. ❤️

[@mohammadzafar1177]

Agreed Javed .Sh made wrong decisions but Bushra was judgemental and indulged in emotional blackmail.

[@engineering-madness-dev]

Achche father ke example hein Zard patton ke bunn mein dikhaya hein by Tanveer Syed sahab

[@itismath6886]

very interesting discussion.

[@BibiZainabb]

Which point stood out to you the most.

[@MOMKAST]

Thanks

[@LighttakeonMovies]

Thanks to kmkt. i came to know this channel. loved all the discussion.

[@MOMKAST]

Thanks for watching! Glad you enjoyed it!

[@binishhussain_soundachievers]

Yup! The man is the leader and head. He was a weak father. Iftikhar sahab was like a dead body being dragged throughout the drama. Men are responsible for the dynamics in their household. When the leader is weak, someone will take over for them. That's what the mother did without having any choice. You guys are ON POINT. Tore up the whole drama. The makers should see this review.

[@MOMKAST]

Glad that you feel this way.

[@SameerHasan-jz9qe]

35 lakhs wali story ku drama end py clear ni hoi

[@quratulainkhatri]

singapore k job jb chali gai waha appp na mustafa k bht acha developer design kr k batya tha app na yeah choti bt nh thi us k forn bg pakistan k software house mai easily job mil jati hai

[@ZaraKhan-fi5tr]

Really bagair degree k n reference k CV dustbin Mai jati hai...

[@quratulainkhatri]

sharjeena k job bht achi thi us k koi tarkeei nh hui

[@hinasiddiqui6011]

The podcast girl probably didnt watched all episodes with bated breath like us ! She just watched last episode for podcast otherwise she would have known that writing letter scene has already been there 3 episodes back in which he just writing something on paper and throw it , went back to work and then in last episode they just put it fast and with voice over to tell what was in the letter he wrote that time but he throwed and also watch Farhat ishtiaq and Badar interview they didnt change anything Hania was not even in country for last 3 months!

[@BibiZainabb]

The voice over was longer for that peice of paper and voice over can happen even if the person is not present. And this girl has made previous videos on mustafa's character, understanding his traumas and coping mechanisms while the drama was just a few episodes along🤗 You will find the video on the channel.

[@quratulain4726]

Yes you are right

[@agul5758]

I agree boys would feel uplifting hopeful after seeing Mustafa I don't agree girls would like to b like Surjeena Surjeena was ambitious bold stromg in start she saw real meaning of life rain tea samosa pakora in dhabas without thinking about hygiene she learnt life more thn reading books getting higher education high profile she fell in love with Mustafa she lost practicality she claimed big words claims fimli lines she herself proved her big claim wasted she left Mustafa ya loosing baby is big tbing its painful but accising Mustafa misunderstood Mustafa misjudged Mustafa wrong Surjeena was educated she ignored her well being she bought expired vegetables she ignored Doctor 's advice she was ful of ego n complains she didnot get proud of Mustafa she never said she proud of Mustafa in last episode she demaded old Mustafa back Did she ever think her own parents never liked Mustafa her parents never liked their flat neighbourhood mother said she had pain in knees she could not visit Surjeena Surjeena herself sulking cursing but never planed to change her rotine she stoped reading books cooking walls job shopping she could ask her younger sister to come to kill her loneliness n monotonous. So big no girls cannot learm any positive lessons from Surjeena 's character.

[@quratulainkhatri]

singapore k job mai kabi paisa bank account mai nh ata aur tracker hota hai aur woo aik bht bara software house hai us k km usi k server pr hota laiken aisa nh kia

[@MOMKAST]

Yaani game k baray mai research bhi theek se nahi ki inho ne. Can you share more details?

[@TAR-t7d]

Superb analysis, dil ki baat keh di, aap dono kamal hain. Allah humesha abad rakhay aur buri nazar se mehfooz rakhay ❤

[@MOMKAST]

Ameen and thanks for appreciating

[@salmakhalid2629]

Love this analysis ❤ We need more content like this

[@Haroon-ex-hindu]

*Pakistani drama best ❤*

[@quratulainkhatri]

data entery wala km hee nh ata

[@usamashakeel229]

It was fun as well as thought refining discussion, i never realized that Fahad mustafa remained a loser till end ..

[@MOMKAST]

Thanks 😊

[@billikash2591]

YES MEDIA HAS BIG INFLUENCE ON PEOPLE. WE DESPERATELY NEED HALAL MEDIA❤🇵🇰

[@AsBi1]

I love kkabi me kabi tum ❤❤❤

[@monkeye8658]

keep it up

[@MOMKAST]

Thanks

[@ZaraKhan-fi5tr]

Sherjeena k father ko bash kia hai Hasan n Amina ne always in weekly drama review...

[@adnansiddiqui7177]

آپ لوگ مصطفی کو سمجھ ہی نہیں سکے ۔۔۔ یہ مسئلہ ان لوگوں کے ساتھ عام ہے جو کسی ایک نظریہ میں اتنا پختہ ہو جائیں کہ دوسرے کی نفسیات کو سمجھنے میں معذور ہو جائیں اور مجھے آپ دونوں اشخاص اس معاملے میں معذور دکھائی دیے ۔۔ مختلف لوگوں کے thought process کو ان کے ماضی و معروض میں سمجھنے کی کوشش کیجئے ۔۔۔ہر ایک اپنے یکطرفہ زاویہ سے دیکھنا چھوڑ دیں

[@shabih2008]

Mujhe lagta hai ki aap in dono characters se perfection ki umeed kar rhe hain. Yeh, dono imperfect characters hai in their own way. Aur unki, yeh imperfections hi unhe complete karti hain. Mujhe nahi lagta hai that there was anything left for mustafa to be apologetic. First of all mustafa shuru se keh rha tha aap apne parents ke saath reh lo, waqt badlega hum saath ho jayengey. Doosri baat yeh baat mustapha ne bhi kaha usi waqt ki haan nahi chahiye baccha, lekin jab sharjeena chali gyi toh usne apne man main bola ki kaise keh diya ki mujhe nahi chahiye baccha woh baccha mere jigar ka tukda hai bas uski Insecurity yeh thi ki jo life usne dekhi hai looser waali woh life uska baccha nahi dekhe aur usko abhi bhi confident nahi tha ki woh life apne bacche ko de sake. Aur mujhe samaj nahi aata ki sharjeena ke miscarriage main mustapha ki kya ghalati, agreed usne phone nahi uthaya lekin phone uske maa baap ne bhi uthaya. Isme sharjeena ki bhi koi ghalati nahi thi. Aur yehi dikhaya gya hai ki mustapha expressive nahi hai, yehi baat hai koi woh apni feelings words main bayaan nahi kar sakta man woh bayaan ho rha hai lekin words main nahi, isi wajeh se sharjeena aur mustapha ke beech communication gap ho gya. Yehi last scene main bhi depict huwa. Main personally mustafa ke character se bohot relate kar sakta hun kyun main aur bohot saare ladke ko difficulty hoti hai apne feelings ko words main express karna. No it's not all about mustapha, i agree story ka hero mustapha hai lekin story ki heroine sharjeena hi thi and it was traumatic experience for all audience agar sharjeena ka character mar jaata. Personally agar last episode main mustapha mar jaata toh disappointing hota lekin traumatic nahi hota, lekin agar sharjeena mar jaati toh bhai serial wahin khatam aur yeh ek traumatic experience hota. Mujhe ek baat samaj main nahi aa rhi hai agreed ko woh ghair zimmedaar tha lekin usne hamesha feedback lia aur improve kia hai aur jab woh zimmedar bana toh ab aapko problem hai. Mustapha ne hamesha sharjeena ka saath diya uska khyaan rakha pregnancy main bhi khayaal rakha, it is just is incident ke 2 3 mahiney woh super busy ho gya. Baaqi woh har samaj sharjeena ka khyaan rakh rha tha. Arey woh uske van ke wait karta tha just imagine kaun karta aaj aisey. Usne bas 2 3 mahiney busy ho gya sirf is liye ke woh sharjina aur bacche ko acchi zindagi de de, uske liye aap usey bitter bol rhi ho?? The only difference between adeel and mustapha is that mustapha evolved from his toxicity by listening to his wife and adeel do not and haan mujhe bhi lagta hai ki last episode main adeel ko bhi maaf kar dena chahiye

[@MOMKAST]

Character se umeed nahi balkay in kirdaro k zariye kuch zaroori baato ki nishandahi karnay ki koshish ki hai.

[@shabih2008]

​@@bakewithfatima4387yahan sharjina pe nahi mustafa pe taras khaya ja rha hai

[@AsBi1]

Sorry to say but i think this lady is more than feminist. She seems to be very much offended by mustafa. Although its just a drama but she talks like if that same has happened with her in real. Sorry its just my opinion pls dont kill me for this ❤

[@BibiZainabb]

Dont you think the guy with this lady is a bigger feminist? Baatain dekho iski, mustafa k ziada peechay toh yeh banda para hai.

[@AsBi1]

@BibiZainabb yeah

[@BibiZainabb]

​@@AsBi1i wonder if something happened to him too like you said about the lady.

[@NayyeraKhan]

​@@BibiZainabb me reading these comments laughing that the same "lady" is reply to the comment and the person might not know you hehe 😅

[@BibiZainabb]

🤫​@@NayyeraKhan

[@SabaAhsan-y5j]

Good 👍

[@MOMKAST]

Thanks

[@mohammadzafar1177]

Javed.Sh was utterly selfish because he tolerated everything as his medical needs were taken care of.

[@uswazahid-ne1fj]

I to watch🎉

[@Rana.....D01]

Thank God mana ya drama nahi dekha ........❤

[@MOMKAST]

Per apnay ye review dekha? Apka kia feedback hai?

[@Rana.....D01]

@MOMKAST Kuch sakna ko tu milta because of regular viewer 💝 99.99% agree Good explanation= dark side of this drama Lekin petta nahi ya Pakistani es drama ma Kya dekh raha tha Mana tu hania amir ki waj sa nahi dekha...

[@BibiZainabb]

🙋‍♀️

[@MOMKAST]

🫡

[@quratulainkhatri]

jhoot hai drama 470 rs k sazi laya tha woo 200 k bi nh thi

[@quratulainkhatri]

sb jhoot hai proof dai raha hoooo mujha koi aik real game k nam bta dai jo pakistan mai bni hui hoooo

[@quratulainkhatri]

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[@zubair610]

In your mind all Mard Hazrat are just evil (for example Every time Sharjina father want to do something her mother stops him and you don’t even try to mention that her mother also done some wrong instead you just mentioned how evil the father is he cannot stand for his daughter) A daughter listens to your podcasts what image you are making in their mind about her father or future husband instead they try to understand about stress of a Pakistan men who have to provide everything in any case and bear all the stress deep in her mind after listening to your Podcasts she will say (Mard hazrat to hota h asa ha) I am not saying that all males are great but according to you majority is evil which is not true.

[@AskSirAtif]

A daughter will realize the extra pressures that society has put on women in a bid to glorify them and reduced men to being just ATMs. If you are just earning for your family and are not present emotionally, you are under performing as head of the family. You need to provide not just money, but care, empathy, emotional support and your presence. The hardest part of being a husband is not to earn but it is actually striking the right work life balance

[@zubair610]

My point is men’s are not such big evils these days as you tried to portrait them in your podcast on this channel. Don’t insult them by calling them only ATM. They support their family in every aspect of their life. Issues you highlighted are present in our society may be 30 year back but not much anymore. It is good to educate but try to use balance approach.

[@AskSirAtif]

@@zubair610 Unfortunately it is not balanced anymore. Men have reduced men to being just ATMs because having a unilateral life like Mustafa is convenient. How many of them are emotionally available for their wives and kids? Take a look ! The majority of men are slacking. Start from the generation of our fathers and then move on to the friends and family men. Nobody says men are evil. We are saying that we have reduced the potential of men of just being breadwinners. There is much more to them ! The life of our Prophet SAW shows us the way.

[@bakewithfatima4387]

​@@zubair610​see the rate of physical abuse in pakistan in our mothers generation and these men are learning from there so they don't feel anything is wrong in this setup... most of them becomes the same as their fathers because they think if you're earning you have the right to be bitter

[@UmerFarooq-hb1hb]

Under which qualification or set of rules you think you are authorised to speak on every other topic and think that only you guys are expert on this? Just buy a camera, microphone, audio controller setup a podcast room and think you guys are genious or expert?

[@MOMKAST]

If you are really this interested send us an email, we will let you know all the credibility these two and our platform have. We research, study and work hard and then produce a piece of content. By the way what triggered you so much to ask this question,we would like to know.

[@MOMKAST]

Also there is only one set of rule and only one principle and that is Islam.

[@BibiZainabb]

You are wrong, we dont have an audio controller setup.

[@bakewithfatima4387]

the shoe fitted 😂 har status ap k lye nhi hta agr ap ko asa lagta ha to ap ko bhe pta k wo chez apme ha