Straight Men that have Sex with Men with Dr. Joe Kort

[@mkphilly]

Fascinating! As a gay man interested in str8 men, I always wondered what brought them to the sex. Most don't think about it but accept it without impact. Most of my gay friends, of course, think it's the door to being gay and just not accepting it. I just accept the men at their word.

[@jamescarrington5521]

Yep, I see it the same way; no labels are needed; it just IS, and that's just fine with me. Many of my straight friends have actually come on to me more times than I can remember; sometimes we act on it, sometimes not. It's all good.

[@earlr2992]

Men who are having sex with other men because they want to have sex with other men are either gay and denying it or bisexual and denying that as well. There is no way they are straight. if you are straight you do not want sex with a same sex person. They just do not want to admit it to themselves or anyone else because they are afraid of being rejected by society or family members.

[@peterblatz4675]

I found this very illuminating. Glad this is being talked about. We need more discussions like this so we can all be educated.

[@RawOlympia]

My friend Roz died of AIDs from a man like that - women die of AIDs from men like his but we only hear about poor gay men getting AIDs.

[@EliW95]

I had same sex attraction at a young age and as a male i always had the assumption that women can be fluid in their sexuality but men must be either gay or straight. I was also homophobic in middle school because of my insecurity, but i got over it in highschool. I liked to lift weights, do athletic training, practi8ce how to fight, and i played a physically aggressive style fighting for rebounds and post scores under the basket as a basketballball player. I knew i had same sex attraction but i knew i was interested in women, the most confusing part was not knowing whether it was just a sexual attraction or a sexual attraction with a potential romantic attraction, and it was also confusing because i would watch bi male content creators and every single one i came across was feminine,, so i assumed a man cannot be bisexual without being feminine and i knew that i liked being masculine. the other thing is is that there were the 'flamer'; type gay guys at my school that i didn't want hitting on me/flirting with me because i knew i was only attracted to masculine males, so i acted weirded out by male-,male sexuality so that they would be discouraged. i've also struggled with being bipolar and i know that hiding my sexuality has worsened my mental health over the years

[@justhere420]

Thanks for your comment I was curious if you ever "tried" or not ?

[@ew5153]

So all gay and bisexual men are feminine? And men who have sex with men regularly aren’t gay or bi? If they have sex with men but are masculine as long as they say that they are “straight” they are “straight” and have to be taken at their word? Ok. “Straight” guys but plays with penises. This is very confusing.

[@EliW95]

@@justhere420 no, because the only relationship I’ve ever had were minor ones in middle school and highschool, I’m 28 and I’ve never had a romantic and I’m a virgin, which I’m glad for because I want to share intimacy with romantic partners only, but if I had my way in my early 20’s I would have f*cked every hot man and women I say probably at the Same time if I had my way, so I’m glad I didn’t Thanks for your comment, it’s really appreciated

[@robertbird3754]

Hey man…. You’re not the only one. Once I acted on my feelings…. I realized I love sex with m and f but can’t be in love with a female. I recently had sex with a Female 2 male. Was wonderful. A vagina but none of the other female stuff.

[@pauljack7170]

like everybody in our societies your education had layers of perbenism of what is right or wrong what is bad or good “ a model of how a male should be " your reality was crying jailed inside you, under that coating and created mental conflict we all experienced that .. and sometimes it takes one life to be yourself or u act and lie to yourself a whole life ! accept your drives and act, because they are the reality as they are your life ..act as u please and avoid to mess up or if u want to-come out assume it as an adult man !

[@IAMMysticaStar]

im the wife of a husband who has sex with men. can you please put out another video on this topic!! I feel like this video was just scratching the surface. I want to hear more. thank you

[@ModernIntimacy]

Are the any questions in particular you’d like us to address?

[@jl_nwestie]

I hope you're OK. ❤️

[@IAMMysticaStar]

discussions and examples of what's going on for couples and the experiences they are having.

[@scarred10]

So your married to a gay man who is screwing around.

[@anthonybewlz388]

@@ModernIntimacy As a hetero-romantic pansexual with ‘versatile’ needs/desires, I’d ask that you help flush out the “journey” and possible paths and subs😢equent possible outcomes for monogamy-centric women whom find themselves (struggling) in a romantic relationship with men like me. Causing pain is never the intention of us men, but it easily becomes painful and heartbreaking.

[@IAMMysticaStar]

"He might want a more intense experience"...I'm trying to wrap my thoughts around why my bf wouldn't want an just as an intense experience with me as with a man? My head and heart are about explode about all this. just makes me sob :(

[@vincentprice4076]

Regardless of the blather, no straight man would let another man puts his dick in him

[@LandonStrauss-hc1sc]

Maybe monogamy isn't for you two.

[@pauljack7170]

maybe u are not good in love making or u r not a man .. and a man is what your boyfriends looks for

[@donfontana8282]

Monogamy is the way the world is supposed to be. I know we've introduced this opposing idea as acceptable but it is not. ​@@LandonStrauss-hc1sc

[@ns-ds4sp]

Become desireable🤷‍♂️

[@wotan10950]

Fascinating. I was married to a woman for ten years, we had three children, and then she decided to leave after committing a lot of financial fraud. After that years-long trauma, I just wasn’t interested in dating and going through all that horses__t again. I quickly found a man in a similar situation (although he remained married), and we hit it off, both as friends and sex partners. I’m a little artsy-fartsy, so no one would be too shocked that I’m in a homosexual relationship. But he’s an apex kind of guy - sports, fast cars, you know the type), and people would drop down dead if they knew. We’ve been “together” for 20+ years. I never had the slightest expectation that he’d leave his wife for us to set up shop selling beads on the beach! It was just easy sex, along with outside activities like golf, wine tasting, movies. To this day, he insists he’s completely straight and that it doesn’t hurt his wife. I’m sure she’d feel differently if she knew (sometimes I think she does know, but doesn’t wasn’t to rock the boat). The funniest thing is that he’s the bottom! I know his wife and adult children very well, and I’d never say a word; but I do laugh inside with the knowledge that “if they only knew……” It’s all very simple, yet kinda complicated.

[@juliancoulden1753]

You story is fascinating. But I suspect not unique! Sad in a way you aren’t free to go shopping in IKEA looking for a sofa! It sounds as if you love this man.

[@jl_nwestie]

That poor woman. I hope she's fucking behind his back as well. Fair's, fair! The same situation happened to my friend at 23 years old. She found out her boyfriend of 5 years was mucking about with a man. She loved him so much as he was her safe space from a terrible abusive childhood. He loved her, but he also loved sex. So she found out, and it pushed her over the edge. She committed suicide. With your self-worth being low and being finially happy, and then suddenly the rug is swiped from underneath you, it would make the strongest of people give up. It's also that men and women look at sex differently, and that's the issue as well. But for men to still know that some things may destroy our soul and trust in not only men, but anyone from that moment on and any future relationships is a cruel thing to do. I would have to say to him that anyone that he gets to fuck I then get to fuck them after him. That would be a better deal, and it's not cheating, apparently so...

[@JessicaHillenbeck]

You're disgusting!! I hope karma takes you out.

[@Magyarleanzo]

That’s fucked up

[@Jimjam482]

You need to find Jesus! That’s just so much deceiving fraud just horrendous and I’m not even religious but that’s so wrong

[@fredjackson8408]

I would call myself bisexual. I have only dated women, i dont feel romantic attraction to men... however when i am single like right now, i typically will only seek out male to male interactions. As a top its a power thing, its a taboo thing. Taboo both societally and within the self.

[@jl_nwestie]

Has the women in your life ever found out? If so, how did they react?

[@Aroundhere185]

I been same way. I've dated some women that were ok with it and ones who I could tell would not be ok with it. The best sex came from the women who wanted to engage in the lifestyle but, I've had some really good relationships where sometimes just the memories bothered me.

[@Aroundhere185]

​@@jl_nwestiethey usually don't care as long as you're only interested in them.

[@Grimenoughtomaketherobotcry]

It's called, "shame", Fred.

[@jl_nwestie]

God, I've just lost trust in all men. The few ruin it for the many, I'm afraid. I wish men who liked men just stayed away from women. We are not an experiment or a sheild for stigma and especially an incubator. These women in love will end up putting up with their crap because they love these guys. Guys need to turn off porn and live in the real world. They need to be honest and not use or string women along. This weirdo is making excuses and making money off of it all. A woman on a subreddit caught her bisexual husband when she was 6 months pregnant and came off working nightshift. She woke up with a taxi door closing and saw a man from grindr coming in the door and then heard whispering. She then heard them fucking. He fucked this guy and she was frozen upstairs afraid to confront him. He came up and went to have a shower and found her having a melt down. She flung him out even though he was sobbing and begging for another chance. He was phoning her and pleading with her that he would change. She was considering it, but then 10 days later, her father called him from the hospital because she lost the baby due to stress. He tried to commit suicide but not very well as it was just a last attempt to get her attention. It was too late now as she was just over him. He made her vomit. She was 44, and he took away her last chance of having a child. Another woman was looking for advice because she was thinking about having a sex change to stop her man fucking men. My heart broke for her. We protect ourselves by taking away the risks. But how do we really know when selfish men just deceive us anyway? It's too scary. A lot of people have attraction to other people and just use some self-control. They just are adults and don't want to potentially hurt women as they have a conciounce. I wish I didn't, but I'm beginning to hate men. There's no trust at all now. I know women aren't angels, but that's not my fight. Men get too greedy and just expect sex to be given anyway they wish with whoever they wish. Everything gets pushed to the extreme with men like this.

[@arielb5317]

This was a fantastic discussion! New fan here Dr Balestrieri!

[@juliancoulden1753]

Men and women are on a spectrum. Some are most definitely at one end or the other. Many people are actually moving on the spectrum, moving along it one way or the other. What stops the journey are societal norms. Men and women have hang ups about where they want to be on the spectrum because of what they understand as normal or acceptable.

[@jerrysimler8110]

I'm 100% gay, and yet I have had many, MANY sexual experiences with men who are straight; for their part, I really do understand them and I believe them when they say they're not gay; I KNOW they're not gay, they're just in it to get off, have fun, maybe experiment with another guy and live out some fantasies, and I get it entirely. For the last 4 years, I've been playing around with a friend of mine I have known for 15 years who has kids, loves women, etc., and we always watch straight porn, which is also fine with me, since I'm not put off by women and female genitalia. He, like all the other straight guys I've played with, just really likes the physical pleasure and the release, and it's all ok. The really beautiful thing about guys is that we can have sex with each other and it's not complicated, it's just like two buddies helping each other out, no strings. I'm glad that the subject of "side sex" was discussed here; most of the sexual contact that I have with straight guys is all oral sex. Men also just tend to be on a different page than their female partners/wives/girlfriends are with regard to the FREQUENCY of sexual activity; I can also no longer keep count of the number of married/female partnered straight guys who tell me, "as soon as she had the number of kids she always wanted, the sex just STOPPED," and that's really sad to me; why do women just seem to lose all interest in sex at a certain point? It doesn't have to be this way, unless these women truly don't care if their guy is having sex with other guys, like it's just one less chore they have to do? I don't know, but most men really love and NEED sex, and on a regular basis. The guys I hook up with in adult bookstores and public cruising areas probably wouldn't even be there looking for no strings sex....if their wives and girlfriends would just have more sex with them!! I'm not complaining, though; I'm more than happy to take care of their sexual needs and pick up the sexual slack in their relationships with women, it's all good.

[@ew5153]

That’s why “you are always having sex with women because gay guys like you are always eating vagina and “men that are totally 100% straight are always looking for penises to play with”. I wonder what kind of mental gymnastics you do to make sense of such absurd things. Those men are as “straight” as I’m a unicorn. “Straight guys play with penises then homosexual men must play with vaginas”. Or I could be wrong maybe those “straight men” have sex with you because you yourself have a vagina. Haha 😛

[@pauljack7170]

hat' off to you u r a lucky man to have that friend i had some similar experiences ... and u understand exactly how sex is seen by males side and woman' side nature made us as such , our culture is corseting us in a wrong way of life for many become a norm others skip it for fun

[@raschidmalik464]

According to this theory, it would mean that there is a heterosexual gene and a homosexual gene. That's rubbish. Most men don't want to live out their homosexuality. They want to adapt to heteronormative society. These ridiculous terms like hetero and homo are nothing scientific. We are all men and are attracted to men. This attraction between men and women doesn't have to be written into our DNA, but is culturally and educationally influenced.

[@lauraescayg7516]

After women have children, their bodies change and also, their priorities change, meaning, for a time you are completely taken up with the responsibility of caring for these little humans who are completely dependent on you. You are always exhausted, etc. Anyway, it doesn't negate the responsibility we have to engaging aexuallly with our male partners, but it can be complicated.

[@harmonyvaneaton4101]

Unless you talk to the wives, you won't know their reasons. In my experience, and observation of many married female friends, men start to treat women worse and worse (becoming abusive, often even physical) until there is no attraction left at all, and then still expect and demand sex. Invariably they find out years later that the husband was cheating from the beginning of the relationship and the abuse was to keep her from noticing. I've asked SO many straight men why they don't just ask for an open relationship, and every single man has answered that they want unprotected sex with lots of women, but they want ALL the women to be 100% faithful and in love with them. And they feel entitled to try to get it. So that's been my experience and observation from the straight cis female side.

[@harmonyvaneaton4101]

It's not cheating if your partner is fully informed and involved. But unfortunately a lot of people are very selfish sexually and they want total unprotected freedom for themselves and total fidelity and control over their spouse. It's a common problem. Selfishness and abuse are very common.

[@g.elliott4789]

Re :childhood sexual abuse. I wonder if you are under stating female perpetrators. We know this perversion is grossly under reported.

[@Thatgirlsince00]

Whether you are a female or a male, if you think about the same sex in a sexual manner, you are either gay, lesbian, or bisexual. I would let people pass, who have thoughts but never act on it, and never would act on it. But this is a pretty black and white topic and I don’t know why anybody’s trying to blur the lines instead of trying to educate people and say just because a man has sex with a male does it mean he’s gay or bi? how about you educate people and tell them that it’s OK to be bisexual because there actually is a lot of men out here that are bisexual? Trying to blur the lines of this is like trying to blur the lines of consensual, sex, and unconsensual sex. A straight man is the man that is only attracted to women.

[@RICHDAVIES-o5y]

You clearly didn't listen to the explanation. "a straight man is the man that is only attracted to women" you say, that's the only part of your comment that's is correct. I am straight, live with and love a woman, but I have have sex with a man mant times, Did I enjoy it? Yes. Did I fancy the guy? No, have I ever fancied any man? No. I'm not attracted to men, but I do prefer receiving anal sex than I do giving piv sex, that was a struggle with an ex partner, but now me and my wife play with different dynamics and enjoy pegging, she dresses like a sexy goddess of woman...and I don't need to have sex with men anymore, I need the act not the person. And your right it is black and white, attraction is ones orientation, nothing more nothing less

[@jamescarrington5521]

Well, you're obviously just one of those people who have to put a label on everything, but that's often not reality. Most people are fluid in their sexuality, whether they realize it or not. Also, sex between men is just easier, more casual and relaxed with no strings, no wine and dine hassles, either.

[@nguyennghiathuong8889]

Any animal gets excited when you pet it

[@GooglePlusPages]

Disagree. Disregards what my gay friends say is being a “decadent heterosexual.” When asked, one of them said the difference between being gay or bi and just being decadent is the idea of being able to have a relationship with someone of your own gender and not about the sex exclusively.

[@earlr2992]

I completely agree. These people are trying to make excuses for men or women who want to be known as straight because society in general does not look favorably on gay people. Men who are having sex with other men because they want to have sex with other men are either gay and denying it or bisexual and denying that as well. There is no way they are straight. if you are straight you do not want sex with a same sex person. They just do not want to admit it to themselves or anyone else because they are afraid of being rejected by society or family members. The same goes for women. This stuff these psychologists are trying to pass is a bunch of BS.

[@Vivacious_Chaos]

No this is ludarcrious. Just because "some" considered those women straight it doesnt necessarily mean they are. There is such a thing in exploring your sexual orientation. But you do have an orientation. Straight men can enjoy sex with toys and other back door acts and this doesnt mean they are gay. Vice versa gay men can still be attracted to men but not enjoy ceratin acts. Hell straight women, dont even enjoy sex with men sometimes or most of the time and this doesnt make them lesbains. Simialry, people who do have sex are automatically asexual. There is some nuance but not that much. If you have sex with food thats a kink. If you have sex wirh only women then their lesbians. Similarly if she discovers later she is interested in men then she may then be bisexual. Simple.

[@kevinshank4222]

Why are they ashamed of it if they are not gay or bisexual because everyone that does it thinks that it's gay why ?

[@anthonybewlz388]

Can you provide a Spanish caption for this and all future videos on the topic 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@reidellis1988]

I know straight guys who do it because they dont get attention at home and feel its less like cheating than with a different woman, plus its way less complicated. Most don't even care about names.

[@colvillemarshall-qc5pt]

I dont know, call me old fashioned or what , bt this talk about free for all sex that I see appearing all over the place now rather bothers me. Being gay and in a monogamous relationship for 30 years, I cannot imagine either one of us living such a life, without suffering huge consequences. If your partner cant fulfil your needs, and you cannot live with that, then move along to someone who can. A licience to cheat indescriminally is I think is a recipe for disaster for all involved, not to mention health risks and the improperness of it. We dont have to act on every desire that enters our head. If everyone did that, I would hate to see the world we would be living in. Maybe give these thoughts a second look and do the right thing. Just sayin.

[@pauljack7170]

u have your vision of life that fulfill your personality mine is the opposite to yours, i lived a while as u but i prefer mine .. accept difference in str8 lives and gay lives u think “ integrist ”

[@wotan10950]

“A licience to cheat indiscriminally” I know you don’t mean to be funny, but this is great comedy.

[@harmonyvaneaton4101]

As a wife who had my health destroyed by abuse and multiple STDS, I deeply appreciate your comment. This has ruined my life, so it's hard to hear so many people acting like it's all perfectly fine and positive.

[@revoraniciete9403]

I believe the same with the mouth, doesn't have a sexual orientation, it doesn't know wether it's straight gay or bi

[@justhere420]

Has your mouth had any experience?🤔 if you don't mind me asking ?😊

[@revoraniciete9403]

@@justhere420 yes 😂

[@nemomarcus5784]

Excellent presentation of a very complex subject. I would love to see you two explore this much deeper. Personally, I prefer sex play more than actual sex. My eroticism is more in the mind than the physical act. I really enjoyed listening to this..

[@RawOlympia]

Exploring deeper? My friend was killed by a man who didn't tell her he had AIDs from his down lows on the side. Hows that for male anal fun?

[@marti7343]

I think if you have to put a label on it, what is being described is bisexuality. A person may be sexually interested in men differently than they are sexually interested in woman. If they desire sex with men and women, IMO they are bisexual. I am MtoF trans. As I explored my gender, I became more interested in sexual relationships with men. Now since starting my transitioning I am exclusively interested in being with men. Regardless of whom I am with, the most important thing is to make an emotional connection and share love.

[@michaelvandenheuvel317]

Ok I will listen only for study purposes. Not to demonstrate any personal interests or intentions on my part.

[@RegisterRedVoteBlue]

Lol interesting announcement

[@coreyh4097]

Just for warning straight people this happens all the time…

[@philippesaint-pierre8716]

Great information. Why did you say you didn't say you I tried your G spot?

[@JimmiAlli]

This is extremely confusing.

[@DaRyteJuan]

It’s pretty funny the guys who eroticize getting paid for sex. These guys obviously have low self esteem. Anyone with high self esteem wouldn’t think this way.

[@wotan10950]

Why are you even here? I see a lot of negative pontificating when you’re absolutely clueless. You’d be happier watching cat videos.

[@adenalss5503]

LOL GET YOUR FREAK ON

[@30husky30]

Gender politics prevents a lot of heterosexual couples from even being honest with one another. Men sexuality is unfairly perceived to be simpler than female sexuality. As a gay men, I am aware that some men I had sex with only had intense fetishes they could not realize with women, such as anonymous sex, anal play, power play, etc.

[@brionhannan1204]

Very interesting! Within the last couple years I began thinking I was bi. I have been watching porn since I was 11. In my early 20's I had seen "Bi" porn with my then GF, roomate (Female) I was surprised I felt the same as watching other porn. Flash forward years, I start enjoying more gay porn, porn with trans MTF actresses, I enjoy anal toys...I start wondering "Am I bi?". So, I start reading articles, and think, "Maybe I'm bi". Recently, I asked the question "Do straight guys have sex with other guys/straight guys?" NUMEROUS articles come up. So now I wonder if I just fell into the "Bi" idea becsuse I had not fully vet all my thoughts and ideas. I do not plan on leaving my wife to be with a man, we have GREAT sex! I just like to fantasize about being with a man, or T girl. I will keep learning about myself, and having fun at the same time.

[@viderethevaccinatorfromhol7536]

Sounds healthy to me

[@KeithPugh-z2y]

Feel the same way

[@KeithPugh-z2y]

I'm married but I get really turned on by looking at Men's equipment and fantasizing have sex having sex with them

[@tima9472]

If u feel attracted to a guy yes u are bi sexual use to have a guy I worked with so wanted to go down on him so bad wasn't the only time this happened they was nice looking use to have fantasies about them and yes did go down once but we were both lit hate I done it but it was proof I was bisexual was into it and he was to

[@Jack-u7h5j]

I started looking and reading articles in magazines years ago. I went from straight to lesbian to interracial. I have since had sex with older big black men and love it . I play the female role even though you would look at me and never think about me like that. I'm in shape and don't act anyway but straight because it's just sex. I never have liked man on man videos. And I like looking at women. And I only fantasize about black men or have had sex with black men. It's so taboo.

[@pauljack7170]

st8 men etc .. are flexibles can switch and enjoy life as well and freely than with a woman try once if u do not dit it already , u will be amazed !

[@Jimjam482]

This is terribly sad cheating is just lying cowards behaviour! Serious porn addiction is also a path down this road as the brain is getting desentised and needs more and more sees things that past men never saw. It’s not healthy emotionally to the soul

[@cliftonbowers6376]

I had a boy friend once that I meet his new wife and was okay with it..latter on many of their wives interduced me to them..😮

[@laurataylor3159]

I think it a disgust factor because of how gay men have sex. This so confusing

[@teena8504]

Found this channel after searching for answers. My partner has been watching Gay Porn and even searched gay bars in my area. He revealed he was sexually abused by his older brother (who passed ). He said his brother and there was an older male who abused him and he thinks he abused his brother too. He said they wouldn engage when the mom would leave him alone with his older brother to run errands ir work. He says hes not gay. I'm trying to be understanding and wrap my head around this situation. However, I'm very concerned and considering leaving the relationship.

[@sh-tz2xs]

Leave why u should be with a closeted dude who watches g*y corn ?

[@momog5615]

Please leave my heart goes out to you

[@Jimjam482]

Just leave he’s gay and doesn’t desire you. Respect your boundaries and leave

[@anniewoodfin77]

Stop. The. Cap.

[@carolmoore]

I think you both need to explore if gay and bisexual men who were abused as children are more likely to have gone in that direction because of the abuse. for example, they were introduced to the pleasures of anal sex as might NOT have been if not abused and discovered that - or we not intimidated by exploring that interest - because of their experiences. In such cases it may or may not be as compulsive as with straight guys. I know a bi guy like that - who seems pretty compulsive to me - but he won't admit that cause he thinks he just likes it. Something to think about. Thanks.

[@mjbaz1]

I have had an inkling that I was gay from when I was 4-1/2 yrs old. I have no idea what these very sexual experiences were, but I have no doubt they were sexual and I have been hard wired that way since I was very young. The very strong fantasy was sexual play with another boy. Also, I knew I had no real sexual attraction to girls. Also, I was not effeminate. Sometime when I was around 11yrs., my brother had a Penthouse or Hustler magazine. It had photography of a very beautiful woman and two very attractive men. They were all early 20's. I was surprised I responded very strongly to the sight of the two guys. It had never happened before. I had more than my share of problems with self-esteem and being socially awkward and a scapegoat. I had no social skills and very low self-esteem. That didn't make me gay. My orientation was hard wired probably from birth in my estimation. By the way, despite my orientation, I wasn't effeminate or overtly gay. I find it hard to consider myself politically gay. I am just me. I hope my story is enlightening to someone out there. Always, Michael

[@DaRyteJuan]

Maybe you should go back to college and get you degree in human sexuality. Then you could espouse your viewpoint with a certain amount of credibility because it says, “Ph D” after your name.

[@pauljack7170]

abuse might open the door if u are already by your ADN willing to accept bisexuality anal does not please everybody some can just be top or bottom some like switching do not standardize sexuality

[@janx8695]

@@mjbaz1 Sexual orientation is not something we are socialised into. Sexual orientation refers to sexual attraction to women, men, or both sexes. Attraction is the most accurate representation of a person’s true orientation because identity and behavior can be context-dependent. For example, someone may be attracted to the same sex, and therefore be gay, but still be engaging in sex with the opposite sex because they are not yet out of the closet. In other cases, an individual may have sex with someone as a proxy for their preferred choice of partner. The most obvious illustration of this is in prison, where there is lots of same-sex sex going on, but the inmates taking part in it aren’t necessarily gay. Biology, not society, dictates whether we are gender-typical or atypical, the extent to which we identify as the sex we were born as, and the partners we are sexually attracted to. When sperm fertilizes an egg at conception, the baby will be either female or male. This biology will influence hormonal exposure in the womb, as well as the child’s resulting gender identity. At about seven weeks, if the embryo is male, the testes will begin to secrete testosterone, masculinizing the brain. If the embryo is female, this process does not occur. before the brain has finished developing in utero.leading to differences between the sexes. There are thousands of studies showing the effects of prenatal testosterone on the developing brain. this exposure to testosterone has a powerful effect on the ways in which male and female brains grow. testosterone exposure alters the programming of neural stem cells responsible for brain growth, leading to differences between the sexes. Gay men have had a lower exposer, hence why they have similarities in the brain to heterosexual women and lesbians have had higher exposer leading to similarities to heterosexual men. lesbian women have typically more masculine traits and more male typical than the average woman and gay men typically have more feminem traits than your average men. Researchers across a a variety of animal models (including rats, mice, and ferrets, since it’s not ethical for us to use human fetuses as test subjects), changing the amount of testosterone that an animal is exposed to changes whether they are sexually interested in same-sex or opposite-sex mates. Studies involving girls with congenital adrenal hyperplasia are exposed to higher than usual levels of testosterone in the womb. Roughly 3 percent of girls with CAH will grow up to identify as male,10 and of those who don’t, a large proportion will identify as lesbian. The opposite is also true; children whose mothers took anti-androgenic medication (which lowers their testosterone levels) during pregnancy tend to prefer female-typical toys. Rough-and-tumble play, which is behavior typically seen in little boys, is less common in gay men and more common in lesbian women, due to lesser and greater masculinization of the brain, respectively. Sexual orientation influences gender , but gender is not synonymous with one’s sexuality. Research has shown that people who are gender-atypical (who look and behave more like the opposite sex than people who share their sex) are more likely to be gay. In the study, mothers who had gay sons-particularly those with gay sons with older brothers-had higher levels of antibodies against NLGN4Y (a protein involved in brain development in males) than did mothers who had heterosexual sons or no male offspring. This led to differences in the way the baby’s brain is masculinized in the womb. This immune response is likely only one factor among many that affect male sexual orientation, since not every gay man has older brothers, and not every man who has many older brothers is gay. But these findings fit in with the larger scientific consensus, including neuroscientific studies, showing that sexual orientation is based in biology . The research showing that gay brains are different from straight ones showed differences in brain structure associated with being gay. Biological Studies, found that a tiny part of the hypothalamus (called the third interstitial nucleus of the anterior hypothalamus or “INAH-3”) was more than twice as large in straight men as in gay men; in gay men, it was closer in size to that of straight women.3 The hypothalamus is responsible for the four F’s: feeding, fighting, fleeing, and fornicating. these finding suggested that gay men’s brains were partially feminized, and also, that the foundation of sexual orientation is established by biology. Socialization theories, which were dominant in the 1900s, favored the idea that children were born "undifferentiated" and were socialized into gender roles and sexual orientation. This led to medical experiments in which newborn and infant boys were surgically reassigned into girls after accidents such as botched circumcisions. These males were then reared and raised as females without telling the boys, which, contrary to expectations, did not make them feminine nor attracted to men. All published cases providing sexual orientation grew up to be strongly attracted to women. The failure of these experiments demonstrate that socialization effects do not induce feminine type behavior in males, nor make them attracted to men, and that the organizational effects of hormones on the fetal brain prior to birth have permanent effects. These are indicative of 'nature', not nurture, at least with regards to male sexual orientation. There was a recent interview with a woman by the name of Sophie Ottaway who wasn't one of these published cases but was also born male and the doctors changed her gender after being botched. She is sexually attracted to women only. There is an entire body of sexual orientation studies showing associated differences in brain function. For example, functional MRI has shown differences in patterns of brain activation between gay and straight men when viewing gay and straight pornography. The network of brain regions that are activated when gay men look at gay porn is the same network activated when straight men look at straight porn, in regions like the thalamus, which regulates sexual behavior, and the anterior cingulate, which regulates emotion. Men typically display significantly greater physiological responses to sexual stimuli depicting members of their preferred gender category and stated sexual orientation. Multiple study have shown that men's genital arousal is dependent upon stimulus features specific to their sexual interests. Stimulus features necessary to evoke genital arousal are much less specific in women than in men. heterosexual men are more aroused by female than by male sexual stimuli, whereas homosexual men show the opposite pattern. . Regarding bisexual people, a recent study compared the activation patterns of gay, straight, and bisexual men. Unlike gay and straight men, who displayed activation patterns indicative of sexual arousal when looking at images and videos of men or women, respectively, bisexual men showed similar patterns when looking at both sexes. Most people(especially men who's purpose is to seek out a female to impregnate) are heterosexual. An organism exists to propagate its genetic material, and this is the sole “meaning” of its existence. Science has some great theories on why some men are homosexual that has to do with survival of the species because as we survive in packs an uncle can help provide for a families offspring. Another theory is while the more dominant heterosexual men(hareem holders) would go out to hunt then they would leave the women and children in the care of a homosexual male who would not mate with the females and be more trusted. If they were bisexual then this could have been a false assumption and that's a way the gay gene could have been passed on. Another theory is that a gene only has the effect that it does in the right environment. So it could be that a gene that has the effect of causing a male to be homosexual. A a possible example would be what if bottle feeding, as it were, brings out the effect of that gene. For example lets say a breastfed boy, who has this gene, is heterosexual but a bottle fed boy, who has this gene, is homosexual. In the days before bottles were invented that gene would not have expressed itself as homosexuality. So now what we may be looking at is a different expression of the same gene. I'm not wedded to that particular idea at all, I find it a good example to get across the point that the effect of a gene is not inevitably tied to it, but depends upon the environment in which the individual is brought up. Errors are thus expected to occur everywhere, and indeed they do. This is why important genes get mutated, developmental processes get disrupted, and the results are newborns with very low fitness. That's why people are born with intersex conditions.

[@davelane4055]

Like it or not as long as someone is not hurt

[@Paula-sh7zn]

My ex would gas livht me take off mia come bavk and start tellinh me i was eitherotting his murder or start attacking me for sbit i didnt do have anyjnh involved with his acuations it was like he was blamesbifting almost like a cofeeesion or just before he would go with another male he text megonna get meablowbabyttyl then comehomeanddrunkas hewould stsrt yelling hewas goiny tokill me this wenton for sux yerss sinvehe picked up booze anddtugs after 14yr siber but he always hashad gay men wanting swx with him he tells mei know onewas stocking him onewouldnt stopasking him forsex he had many men come on to him for sex then he the one tellng me this and swears he never cheated with a woman but i knowhedoint something sexual with someonecaus he rejects mesexually for intercourse say to much like work what busband would tell hisife tbis he swears on fod he never cheated with me with a woman always tellung .enot with another woman but hedoes something togoto the extremes he soes togo mia andcomes homeall messed up

[@timothyyetter7830]

The should look up the definition of “straight”, oh and also “oxymoron”.

[@KoalaBeer.]

Hey fellas holla if you wanna try 😂 .

[@michaelvandenheuvel317]

Ok that’s enough.

[@fruitfulsoul]

Nope men are either straight, gay or bi..what even is this....???

[@Mephiticola]

"Straight Men that have Sex with Men" that's a very long-winded way of just saying "gay men"

[@byte_me_xd-hk5zt]

so glad i went to college for economics and work in finance. i couldnt imagine being like these people who focus on these topics all day that have absolutely no benefit to society. its actually really perverted that people are this hyperfocused on sexuality all the time now.

[@dadcelo]

You should talk to a therapist why you feel this way

[@marlenaneedham3818]

how does human sexuality, trauma reenactment for sexually abused boys, and the why's of people do what they do have absolutely no benefit to society?

[@higgaroc]

HAHHA!!! You’re are absolutely hilarious.

[@BramptonAnglican]

You’ve been taught it is a bad thing. It is not. Embrace yourself. Love you.

[@jl_nwestie]

It is so hard now adays to pick out a straight male. You never know now as lots of them, in all shapes and sizes seem to have a secret past. I could never share my man with someone who gave him something that I could never. If i don't fulfil his needs completely and he can't reign his shit in, then we're not meant to be and he can go and live that life, whilst i find someone who has what i need. I feel men are getting hornier. I wonder if porn has a factor in this? Be honest from the get go guys. Don't have her waste the best years of ber life on you when you know she may not be happy down the line.

[@RawOlympia]

it is so dangerous. my best co worker friend died from a lying man who was going out with men and gave her AIDs. She died alone, no women get any help for AIDs. It's gay man attention time!!! Porn has hurt too, women have anal cancer now and they never did before. it killed Farah Fawcett.

[@wotan10950]

You’ll be single for a long time if you’re seeking your idea of perfection. Everyone has skeletons in their closet.

[@alanblissett9834]

Why try to understand it some men are just randy

[@67psych]

Some men just want to empty there balls and it doesn't matter who helps them ! The difference is gay men have a romantic attraction to the same sex and want love ❤ , the straight guys just want sexual relief. Nothing wrong with either . We only live once , so enjoy your life , as long as your not hurting anyone else .

[@phoebusapollo4677]

Lies, lies and more lies.

[@amc3964]

Not straight then.

[@D..S..]

They're bi lmao

[@DaRyteJuan]

I couldn’t imagine trolling for sex like these guys. It seems like you’re setting yourself up to get Jeffrey Dahmered. And while it’s happening, you’d have been feeling such shame, you’d almost believe this was God punishing you for it.

[@fredjackson8408]

You sound like a woman bruh

[@amc3964]

Not straight. Period.

[@joanhastings]

UR SO SICK

[@BramptonAnglican]

For me I’ve always been attracted to straight men.

[@joanhastings]

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