Strawberry Letter - Subject: My Wife Is Living Like She’s Single

Dear Steve and Shirley,
I have been married to my childhood sweetheart for 8 years and we have two wonderful children. Early on, we had problems in our marriage and we were separated for a short period, but we worked things out and I thought we were back on track. My wife admitted that during our separation, she had flings with two other guys. She compared me to the guys she had the flings with and bragged about the money and nice things they had. I am an educated guy and I have a great full-time job and a part time job for extra money, but it’s not enough for my wife. She told me that I need to be making six figures to keep her happy. She has a demanding full-time job so she doesn’t do much around the house. I cook, clean, take the kids to and from school, wash clothes, help the kids with homework, and maintain the lawn. She neglects my sexual needs, too, because she goes out most days after work, to unwind and when she comes home, she says she’s exhausted. A few days after Christmas, she told me that I need to find a nice woman that will appreciate me and the little bit that I have to offer, because she needs more. She told me that after I found her texting one of her old flings. I asked her to see the text and she showed it to me. The guy was asking her for sex again and he said that their chemistry is unmatched. I am trying to stick out for my kids, but I cannot be her doormat in the process. She doesn't respect me as the man of this house. I am not sure how we got to this point, but she is very disrespectful. Do you think I should try to stay for the sake of my kids or make her wishes come true and leave?
The Strawberry Letter can be heard every morning on The Steve Harvey Morning Show.

[@Mack-bc9mh]

The marriage been over...he just don't wanna accept it.

[@tamathawilson7312]

I agree

[@theville3643]

Facts

[@mjgee5540]

Right 💯

[@quatishajames42]

He is a doormat, cause the wife is walking all over him. He should change his name to "Welcome".

[@freddieshelton1644]

Sometimes we fail to see the signs

[@peterrabbit4]

I’ll take Shirley’s voice over Siri’s any day

[@A_Well_Traveled_Man]

Just getting Android stop simping ! and getting an iPhone because women want you to it's a form of control

[@wardatkins1320]

Just for the record " don't kiss her in the mouth " friendly advice .

[@starrx_6653]

🤭

[@zee_lolaj7382]

👌🏿👌🏿

[@blackninjakev479]

Aman

[@levidiaz3074]

😕

[@WhitneyStylez]

That wife is savage AF! However, she told her husband exactly how she felt so I hope he took her advice and moved out and on.

[@DaOneDeeMoney]

His wife doesn’t want him anymore she has no respect for him and is trying to push him away out of the picture

[@HB-pg9sc]

Staying for the sake of the kids usually only prolongs the misery. You can love & support your kids without the other person.

[@zee_lolaj7382]

True

[@Xannyphantom905]

Fuck all that broken household nonsense. Most of the time, folks will break up over someone looking for greener grass. People need to stop having kids with people they aren't sure they can build a family with.

[@theREALESTrealistUNPOPULAR]

Staying for the kids is totally acceptable as long as the other party isn't toxic or abusive mentally emotionally physically or financially. If you leave just bc you tired of the person then you're selfish and that's dumb AF. Why split the home when those kids gonna blend with step parents that don't even want them. But Im cases like I said before you MUST break the home bc y'all together will ruin them kids

[@dreamland2022]

⁠@@theREALESTrealistUNPOPULAR believe it or not if you’re miserable and you are unhappy with the person you’re with that will likely affect the kids anyways. And in the scenario of cheating it IS emotional/mental and physical abuse so you absolutely should leave if experiencing cheating

[@MrBeautiful2908]

I can definitely concur with that

[@rachelhatim2112]

Once they finish using her up.. She will be BEGGING to COME home!!

[@Sight2Behold]

Yep and not to mention, she values her worth like Oscar values a trash can, sad to say

[@peachesandpoets]

Nope. She asked him to find someone more compatible and leave. I don't see what she has done wrong. 🙄HE refuses to leave

[@DeiHarper9361]

@@peachesandpoets Then why don't she just leave? She's values herself on material things. Once the joy ride is over and the luxury is no longer available..you end up with what you had before. It never fails. And he's going to be a fool and take her back "for the kids"

[@TheNachralBeauty]

@@Sight2Behold Oscar LOVES his trash can. Don't insult him like that

[@LeeLivinLife]

This is how you treat your CHILDHOOD sweetheart!

[@laurenramsey95]

Pack her stuff change locks. Dont talk to her unless it about the kids

[@sierramilan7410]

She don't care about those precious kids

[@jefferycherry1966]

Exactly

[@ashleyking5052]

Y’all killing me with the comments about how Shirley sounds vs how she looks! She has been in radio for over 20 years she sounds exactly the same! Of course she is going to age if you thought she wasn’t 🤷🏽‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I love Shirley and her voice... so Iconic I have been listening forever! 🥰

[@TheNachralBeauty]

I've been listening to Shirley since she was Shirley Clark on 92.3 The Beat with John London. At least since 1992.

[@dreamland2022]

@@TheNachralBeauty wow so u knew her before she was called Shirley Strawberry that’s amazing I didn’t know that was the last name she got after a marriage I assumed Strawberry was her maiden name

[@sheikproductions257]

I love Shirley’s Voice❤️

[@kelamo7067]

ShekaBell Bell me too!!!

[@thegameshowguy1]

And her laugh is contagious!

[@deezydoss3268]

Ok me too, I had to come on here to see How she look, from the Radio

[@Caesarz2010]

Smh

[@mitchelldouglass9412]

Me too

[@rimasingleinny1871]

she's the type thats gonna leave and then in a year when he is settled in happy with a new woman that the kids like and she's been passed around,gonna want him back

[@jsmith8112]

Totally agree!

[@rlg826]

Husband, get you a backbone, let the wife go and demand the high alimony from her demanding job so that you can quit your second job..

[@steveharrington8705]

How about quit being a simp and listening to Steve Harvey. Grow a brain and quit seeking advice from this simp. Basic common sense.

[@mrcjr]

He trippin, should have been left.

[@ahlyfemurphy3.168]

he is a smartdum lmao..

[@icemanx5085]

These mugs raise they voice i am putting that ass out, bet not tell me to get somebody else 🤣🤣🤣

[@maryterry1980]

He should put her out and take custody of the children, and he should have all the evidence he needs to do that.😟

[@LaRondaStuckman]

Some woman don't know how to appreciate a good man. Smh

[@rodcooper7532]

Big facts

[@terrywest5417]

Most blk women dont

[@LaRondaStuckman]

@@terrywest5417 you sound ignorant 🙄

[@terrywest5417]

That's why Becky's are winning,because yall angry 24hrs a day, and dont have compassion.

[@rodcooper7532]

@@terrywest5417 them dog smelling bitches arent any better chill out

[@sammycoleman6101]

She sounds so much younger over the radio like shes in her 30's!

[@marskeins]

She's the type that thinks the grass is greener on the other side. But then she gets on that side and realizes the water bill is high as hell and wants to come back. Don't let her!!!

[@teresawhitaker5485]

Sitting in an Urgent Care Center on da flo listening to Steve's take on this letter !!!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@kdevonraine]

I love the fact that you guys added the strawberry letter to youtube cause I always miss them. You guys are hilarious.

[@DeiHarper9361]

Same it always comes on by the time I get to work. Lol.

[@creoleDJ]

She sounds like the type of person who'll bypass the good men and get with the bad boys...and look for sympathy afterwards

[@raisinbrand3663]

Oh I can’t wait till she calls up Kevin samuels later on after her walls been used up by Nighas and she will claim she’s a great woman

[@Xannyphantom905]

Fuck Kevin Samuels, but shorty trifling.

[@YoungunaI3]

@@raisinbrand3663 damn, Kevin 🙏🏾💜

[@creoleDJ]

@@raisinbrand3663 Her: “I’m the catch!” Kevin: “Then why have you been thrown back so much?” 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@b4light202]

They young 27 high school sweethearts thought it was cute to get married at 20. She sowing late oats. Move on you are young before it becomes a worse situation.

[@lolarhanes1951]

I couldn’t agree more! It’s not the best idea to get married so young because things like this happen! Smfh hopefully he’s moved on by now

[@coco_kitty91]

That's exactly what it is! Couldn't have said it better myself! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@derrick5369]

So it’s better to get your heart and body destroyed for years and hopefully not catch a disease then get married later after you’ve hardened your heart?

[@Blackthorne369]

@Bobby Brown Nephew Squadie When you know what you want, with age and experience, yes. Being safe and adventurous, let us say romantically speaking, is not mutually exclusive. You cannot know what you are, what you will and will not tolerate, what actually satisfies you rather than just bringing you temporary pleasure, until you have experiences. Life and your decisions give you bumps and bruises as you go, so you learn “Whew, that hurt! Let me not do that again!” Right out of high school, you are so young you don’t even know you’re young. Take time; find, know, and love yourself before adding a permanent partner to the equation.

[@curtistinemiller4646]

The wife is straight rachet, he should have been "Left" her she's disrespectful and arrogant ,Some decent woman would appreciate this man....

[@poetvincentpayne437]

I would be a single dad and she would be a ghost if she was my girl

[@pressurewashingwithkoolfel9738]

😂🤣😂😂

[@dreday4836]

Amen

[@allthingschrisee9350]

I've never seen shirley strawberry face until now. This is incredible

[@terriekurney6548]

Covid helping people figure it out in situations.

[@nickigaines3261]

Steve is so darn funny. My ribs hurt from laughing so hard. I love listening to all these letters. I'm rolling on the floor. LOL

[@arabelliajohnson8916]

This is the number one reason why it is hard for a good woman to find a good man like this man.And this is the main reason why it is hard for a good man to find a good woman.

[@MsJonesy007]

Shirley’s face and body language got me dying. We only hear her most of the time but seeing her and her actions be everything

[@sharonwagner2157]

What a great guy! The wife is trifling! Them men wouldn't want her all the time that's why they spoil her for those few hours. Lol

[@jeffreystewart4293]

Hi boo

[@monarchmontgomery9831]

I would like an update on this situation!!!

[@uniqueEnergy83]

He sounds like the women in the relationship 😂😂😂

[@ahlyfemurphy3.168]

faaaacts lmao.but when you get a idiot thats how you treat them..she aint doing nothing wrong..he love that treatment.aint sorry for a clown.

[@glenntammons9838]

Sound like a Good man. When Men do what it's deemed what women do, people say he sounds like a woman in the relationship. No he's the adult in the relationship

[@bewise25]

@@glenntammons9838 thank you. How is this funny? It’s always funny when it’s the man. Now if he goes crazy, it’s wow how could he treat her like that?

[@stuffbydre554]

@@bewise25 society doesn’t care about men. We can never win.

[@TA-ht4jo]

@@glenntammons9838 he’s a good man but he's also a beta male. There is no reason why he should be working 2 jobs and cooking and cleaning!

[@TYB1970]

If she gets with the other guy or guys, they are not going to be doing all the things he does. And he knows what he needs to do.

[@WLOUIS1024]

He will not need the second job once he starts getting the Spousal and child support 😁

[@unomileyjr4087]

You would have no chance to clown me like this I’d leave you in a heart beat and not look back

[@blackchickiedee7]

Dude is no longer a husband, sounds like he is her bulter. Poor guy

[@wardatkins1320]

Respect " how you love someone who don't respect you at all " yo people taught you better .

[@DADUO2]

I never seen her before...but her voice is long lasting

[@DeiHarper9361]

Yeah, I actually thought she was a lot younger. I enjoy her voice and hate I can't catch the strawberry letter before work.

[@everetteduncan9410]

Shirley got a very beautiful attractive sounding voice

[@celestesharp6120]

He actually has three jobs. Two full time: Taking care of the whole property, cooking, cleaning, all other chores; so he actually has two or three full time jobs and a part time job.

[@jazznorelletv]

Just like mothers that work have two jobs...home & work...and there's no sympathy its just expected.

[@camille1872]

Auntie Shirley should do some voice overs lol. Love Love Love her voice! Always have! She should be the knew voice of Google Maps lol

[@tynetragreene9905]

Who is this man 👀 he doing all that for someone who don’t care...he will be an excellent husband to a great woman

[@jeffreystewart4293]

Hi boo

[@charlieave2315]

Just let her go and find somebody great once you get into a better space in life.

[@TheRenard10]

The husband should call his divorce lawyer. There was NO love between those 2.

[@stephenprice3357]

Yup and he has proof of infidelity.

[@justred5164]

Hell, from what I know, she’s fortunate she’s alive to talk about it....

[@claypearson8380]

Exactly

[@muahmuah]

She got a new man

[@prezbige]

Your pubic hair is showing

[@TA-ht4jo]

Facts!

[@sharioden5853]

I haven't listen to a strawberry letter in a minute that Wife Is TRASH YOU ME TRASH ...

[@darksidedemond2bean825]

That dude sound like he married my ex. And I'm not kidding my ex was the same way. People ask me where is your wife today I just simply say the Escape. Meaning I just let her go do her own damn thing she went back to Connecticut where she's from I'm from Montgomery Alabama so I don't give a damn now

[@smokeyj9]

There's a whole lot missing to this story. I don't know anyone with a "demanding job" who got the energy to out 3 times a week, every week. She ain't got a demanding job...she got a demanding man and it aint her so called husband .

[@RoRo-gm7ee]

I disagree. I have a demanding job and went out to HH with coworkers multiple times a week before Corona but I’m not married.

[@starrjohnson1327]

Exactly because I be too tired during the week. And she got kids?! No she is neglecting those kids

[@i_c_e_555]

This is my 1st time seeing Shirley

[@Babanla420]

Tolerance of the 1st disrespect just leaves the door open for many more to come. You can’t allow ur wife to lead the relationship!!

[@YellowPaint100]

High school sweethearts huh? Sounds like she was just curious & liked it. But the disrespect is really uncalled for! She could've handled that better than she did!

[@alansjf33]

This a tough situation. I have been there in some ways unfortunately. She is taking advantage of him and now she wants to force him to leave. This is hard for men who want a family and kids but you got to get out of there. She will inevitably blame you for leaving and rely on stereotypes of black men to discredit your parenting and relationship skills just so she can seem like the victim but you have to just deal with it and get out of there because the disrespect will get nothing but worse with time. Get an apartment and a lawyer. This will workout but it’s going to hurt and it will get worse before it gets better. Good luck whoever you are.

[@TheNachralBeauty]

When ur right ur right.

[@lump37njames]

I thought she was younger older and 'll slim and tall..her voice sells...literally. First time ever seeing her

[@thomaswest204]

Can you imagine if a man would have treated his wife like this?

[@bewise25]

Exactly! It would be constant reports, nobody laughing and hellfire

[@krosskountry2278]

Bye Felicia I'll get a divorce

[@angeleyes3396]

“I’ll be damn” 😂

[@lbwilliamson4381]

Real life, these folks have already answered their own questions.

[@randyanderson4360]

I be damn!!! Sounds like my Ol wife ! She wanted out and I let her go. She ended up with a man old enough to be her father. She ended up unhappy after he gave her WORMS.😳😂😂😂😂

[@setapartaay925]

I haven’t heard that in a long time!! Old men give you worms....😂😂

[@MzMeshaj]

😳😳😳

[@kengraham2367]

Sounds like my ex, Taking care of her wasn’t enough. She decided she wanted a bad boy. And did she get it 😂😂😂😂

[@randyanderson4360]

@@kengraham2367 did he spank dat azz?

[@kiaracouch9315]

😂🤣😂😭🤣😂😭

[@tyronewilliams2007]

I have never in my life done the break up, get back together thing he should have been gone.

[@tamathawilson7312]

Love Strawberry Letter Show

[@simone8866]

Clearly this man puts his kids as his main priority. And this is a very courageous choice!!! It is horrible to make fun of his situation, compare him to a woman and make money out of all this big disrespect...shame on them!!!!

[@TheNachralBeauty]

Ummm...HE wrote to them looking for advice. Shame on HIM for staying with that trifling woman. And shame on HER for being trifling.

[@UnixBro]

She is not living like she is single. Boy, SHE IS SINGLE...

[@josephgreen1557]

Who else got a crush on Miss Scrawberries Voice (alone)

[@nashantastanley3261]

Yeah streets got her

[@arabelliajohnson8916]

Y'all remember that song where the lyrics go"your nothing but a liar,a cheater,deceiver,heart breaker.And he says"Im taking the house,the kids,and the dog...I want it all"lmaooo

[@gloriashipmon9666]

Get out of that marriage. Someone is going to get hurt. The grass might look greener on the other side but the water bill is higher.

[@brittanyneubia2206]

Can I have him?

[@tynetragreene9905]

Brittany Neubia okay?!!! Girl I was like huh?! She messing up

[@316EMPIRE]

Lmao wordd

[@user-mp4eb5md1p]

Brittany Neubia If he likes big girls

[@uniqueEnergy83]

AssSalad67 😂😂😂😂😂😂 I’m sorry , laughing was mean

[@blessed8351]

Okaaaaaaayyyyy......my thoughts exactly!!!!

[@lovemusic3500]

I look forward to Steve H show in the morning on my way home from work. I love Roscoe too!!!

[@sharpgirlsSerious]

Know Your Value ! 😶 He is the P R I Z E ! He just don't Know It ! Get, Scurry, Step On ! Know Your Worth ! 😶

[@Tavayneparkins]

I haven't listened to this yet but it just judging of the comments it's not as easy as get out and leave especially when you built a life with that person. That being said being through the situation my self it's for the best the guy separate himself form the situation because she is not gonna change shes just going to become more disrespectful. It might suck at first but he'll feel better about it and it might improve his life

[@ELRENTIE]

I love her this my first time seeing her , Legend

[@Blackandwhiteivorys]

I hope this brother left... Don’t be a damn fool! You can take care of your kids without this headache!!!

[@keitho.2223]

Shirley has dat hi pitched voice lik Gina on da Martin show!! It surely gets ur ATTENTION plus those glasses make her look like a nerd!! I love dat voice & little girl look!! U GO GIRL👧 👨‍👧 LOL 😆 😂 🤣

[@RestlessNoMore]

The husband is doing what most women do for their family and most men take it all for granted. Children and house chores is a lot to handle.

[@oneinamillion8037]

He gave her a chance to have fun on their break and she still has the nerve to come back and be disrespectful!!?? He needs to let her go see the grass isn't greener on the other side. It's time to move on. There are plenty of women who would love and appreciate him. They really should have gone to counseling when they decided to get back together, now it's gotten out of hand. She obviously didn't get dating out of her system.

[@TYB1970]

He should have changed the locks and told her to stay where she was at.

[@leslieannfitness7379]

Raise your hand if this is your first time seeing Shirley Strawberry 🍓 👀. She looks nothing like I envisioned 🤨

[@Dolobih813]

😂😂😂

[@brianingram6214]

He can always go the O.J. route

[@antonioarmstead5237]

Perfect voice.

[@DontTrip41]

She has a great personality

[@MrBeautiful2908]

He need to fully understand and fully accept that this marriage is completely over and he needs move on with his life, and to keep moving forward. Don’t look back.

[@Price8903]

You can’t stay for your kids. Once a woman has no respect for you the relationship is over. Separation never means sleep with other parties, you’re still married.

[@winternightsky6945]

Dang he sound like me ex/his ex-wife. Last time i will get into a relationship with a broken/hurt man. I tried to be there for him/lift him up but he thought i was out to hurt him too/he was hardened because of the hurt his ex causes. However, hurt or not i won't let anyone talk to me/treat me any kind of way because someone else hurt you. If you can't learn to let that shit go and move on in life then you will be single.

[@kiaracouch9315]

He young and thought he found the ❤️ of his life .....I just hope when he find his value he doesn't cause affliction on his new lady because of someone else actions....when we stop being with people because of attraction (looks,money,sex) our relationships will last because we chose them by their character (conscious,looks,money,sex) if they have a conscious you might be alright.#weallplaythefoolsometimes

[@bernadeangreene2917]

The husband is a good guy and he needs to get away from her ASAP! Exactly, kids or no kids, don't take nothing off nobody.

[@SheniceSays214]

Children would rather be from a broken home then to live in one

[@ryanroad1646]

Huuuck, huuuck, huuuck, huuuck. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@myword8406]

Steve crazy!!

[@mauricerogers5721]

the sad part about this is if he does leave she gets custody of the children and there goes child support and alimony

[@starrjohnson1327]

Not if she makes more than him. Also depends on the state

[@TYB1970]

He should tell HER to leave. If she's unhappy and playing around then SHE should be the one to leave.

[@garythomas8319]

He steve and crew I been married to my wife chelly for 20 yrs she is my all she makes sure I take my medicine she feeds me make sure I go to my doctors appointment she is my light and she is very beautiful I love her with all my heart iam so thankfully to god for sending my queen in my life

[@nathanmyers227]

The minute she came back and compared you to the other guys she slept with should have told you to walk. Self respect is worth more than anything you can get from someone

[@MPLaws-en6pi]

This guy had to have ridden the short bus to school

[@Jay-nj2gk]

😄Don't say that. He's in love and trying to make it work for the kids. He do need to call it quits though because she doesn't respect him. She wants to get ran through a few more times.😄😄😄

[@venicesmith4525]

He know she already dun asked for a divorce, he's delusional 😂😂😂😂😬

[@MrBeautiful2908]

This just breaks my heart

[@patdavis6003]

The guy is doing way too much and obviously the more he does the more she doesn't appreciate my advice find someone who will appreciate you for the man you are

[@robertmarion4457]

Best voice

[@tamudefoe7115]

🗣hmmmm FABULOUS advice if one job ain't working why get another 1 of them 🗣time to get a hustle/business💎

[@3xbadboy264]

[6:42] Help the kids with thier homework... ...'everybody flunking'! 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Remember when your parents use to help you with your homework. You go to school the next day and it's all wrong!🙄 How was your homework? It was f#cked up!😠🤬 - Robin Harris

[@tamathawilson7312]

This man should leaves her and move on, because she wants to be single but down the line she will regret it,move on love isn't there anymore

[@shllewis9]

The separation is what got her to that point, she got to the point where she was being spoiled by those men, but them men was buying sex they wasn't treating her like the woman she is, but her real man trying to be her man is getting walked on, take her advice hit the deuces and be out

[@nikkilove5285]

One thing about it. He knew who she was before Marriage and kids.