Strawberry Letter - Subject: Thanks For Having A Child For My Man

Dear Steve and Shirley,
Let’s get right to it. Here's my dilemma… I’m a 38-year-old woman and I've never wanted to have children. Five years ago, I was in a great relationship and we were talking about getting married, but he wanted children and I did not. So we mutually decided to end our relationship. We could not deny that we were still in love with each other. So two years after we broke up, we reconnected and have been seeing each other off and on since then. While we’ve been spending time together, he started a relationship with a new woman and they had a child together and he couldn’t be happier. He has told me that he wants to marry the woman so that his child will have the kind of upbringing he had, with both parents present. I truly believe now that he has the son he wanted.He and I can get back together and get married. He tells me everyday that he loves me, so why wouldn’t he want to marry me instead of her? If I were an evil woman, I could end it all between him and this woman, by telling her that I’ve been with him the entire time they’ve been together. I have lots of damaging proof that would definitely break them up. Even though I did not want to have children, I can help him raise his son. What do you think I should do? Don’t I deserve to be happy too?
The Strawberry Letter can be heard every morning on The Steve Harvey Morning Show.

[@ladyruler9585]

She doesn't want children of her own but has no problem helping raising his?! This chick is desperate and delusional.

[@RacieRain]

Thar sums it up

[@sherryhillman9197]

She needs to be with a man who doesn’t want children. Or a man that already has kids that are practically grown.

[@uniqueEnergy83]

I know shirley made all A’s in her college speech class 😂😂

[@teliciasmith3552]

Lol...I love seeing her mouth do a lot while she speaks. She speaks well and she's pretty

[@lillianwalton6466]

Right very well spoken

[@rc6307]

He's looking for a family, and your not ENOUGH.

[@fat2x]

Shirley has the same voice since I was in middle school bruh a cool 13 yrs

[@latashawalker49]

Some of these letters be right down ridiculous...common sense is rare these days

[@lindacoleman2315]

He told her he want to create the family he grew up with, his mother and father.

[@loveystar78cloud46]

She needs to move on with her life and leave this man alone. She obviously ain't the one.

[@whocanitbeifitaintme]

*This woman needs to find her own man with about 4 kids. They're out there.*

[@vaultclassics1516]

That doesn't make sense when she doesn't want kids.

[@bernitapennick4685]

She needs to find someone that don’t want kids

[@audreyevans8055]

He may very well still be in love with the other woman, but she blew he wants a family, he may love you more but I believe you your relationship is finish

[@thegameshowguy1]

Why can’t we see Steve address the letter on camera? I just want to see the expressions on his face. Damn.

[@MsJP]

Alexander James-Palmer He's not there n the Studio

[@robertcanty5802]

. @@MsJP

[@jonathanmthomas2728]

Yeah I miss seeing Steve in the studio but the show moved to LA so Shirley, Nephew and them are in LA and Steve is in Atlanta

[@karasays01]

I love it Shirley "Looks like you're done"

[@kimberlyhopson593]

"We get over women with other women." Lesson taught.

[@peachesandpoets]

Yet women who get over men with other men are called hoes and sluts and stuff

[@PeachGirl46]

My ex did

[@mrs.atkins3930]

Getting over a woman with another women explains why people so jacked up and relationships don't work. This mindset isn't healthy nor effective. Most people don't heal themselves by addressing the pain and the issues before moving on. This statement is self serving and narcissistic in itself.

[@J.letsTalk]

Someone then told her all the wrong rules to life.

[@pleasurepartytennine8677]

I KNEW THAT ABOUT MEN ,THANKS FOR BEING HONEST..... STEVE , A MAN GETS OVER A WOMAN BY BEING WITH ANOTHER MAN.

[@shaylawashington3639]

Love the Strawberry Letters

[@heylele]

“We don’t go to the mountains to see ourselves”😂😂

[@petersonanson4300]

Omg she is selfish. She want her cake and eat it too but don't want to make the cake. Im a man and all I need to hear 'we are done and I don't want kids". Ok then where is my soul mate then.

[@love_reka_8877]

Did Tommy say “go back to chapter 2 verse 18” 😭😭

[@feliciasanders2066]

He's so silly. I can't stand him.🤣😂🤣😂🤣

[@shelocsher2396]

This is why ppl need to respect their relationship or get out. His creeping gave the LW the power to destroy his family. They’re both selfish, but she’s insane. She’s not interested in kids, but thinks helping him raise his will be joyful? Girl, bye!

[@karimaechols6116]

I approve this message she need to move on

[@rimasingleinny1871]

Just move on, you just don't want anybody else to have him

[@jazrerunt6868]

Wait...why aren’t we judging this man? Is this man not self-serving? He says he wants to marry this other woman...commit to this other woman-the mother his child but he’s still seeing his ex... 🤔

[@waltergoodwin8683]

Bcuz it is about a self serving woman who wants what she wants even after the cards have been laid out to see. Quite simple.

[@Mrrockbucketman]

He is just pimpin the game!

[@Dvyoso]

Its not his letter 👀

[@HollyG95]

Seems like the man has been honest to her tho.

[@peachesandpoets]

Bc people always blame the woman. Always.

[@erikasmith8010]

I just love the steve Harvey show I listen to them every morning. An I admire them because they are great people and give great advice. I wish they could help me my problem.

[@gretchenjackson789]

You should write into the show for the advice you are seeking. Good luck!

[@jeanniesmith4757]

she needs to move on she made her choice

[@sharonpope3945]

I always have a good laugh from you guys

[@mwright0428]

Not chapter 2 verse 18 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@marieanderson5989]

7:49 I wish I could have found a man who did not want kids. I don't know about this lady's situation, but I never wanted kids due to the physical/emotional/verbal abuse by my mother. I decided at the age of 17 to never have kids because I never wanted to treat another human being the way she treated me. I'm 60 now and even though having no kids hurts, I still know I made the right decision.

[@876finest]

My heart goes out to you. I do understand where your coming from. It hard breaking through that trauma. Any trauma for that matter. And the fact that you chose to not have kids out of fear of passing on that trauma, I wish other people would share the same mentality. If you havent heal, you stand the chance of creating more broken individuals in society. I hope you heal one day ❤

[@reggae756]

MARIE ANDERSON , you should of had your kid and provide the love and treatment you never got the chance of receiving, that’s what I did and never regret it, I break the cycle

[@peachesandpoets]

I hate how we are called selfish for not having kids while abusive ppl have kids every day

[@PeachGirl46]

Your mom did the best she could. Unfortunately it made you not want children. Maybe, get a puppy.

[@coryjoseph2902]

Who wants Steve’s advice my lord

[@samsungtab6166]

I can't 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@RacieRain]

She's foolish. She has already lost.

[@reggae756]

She just want to man, but she’s willing to compromise to get the man she will accept the child, she could have her own child if that’s the case, since wants to keep him, since in order to keep him then she could have a child then. Why let someone else have the child, she probably cannot have kids that’s why she says all that, that she don’t want no kids. She lying all up on that letter, women be fronting

[@RacieRain]

Women get over men with men.. same. No shock. Women ain't doing all that either.

[@marytaylor905]

If she sand picture 's he will be done with her

[@b4light202]

Sorry this is utterly trifling. Both self serving. Both narcissism. And a toxic relationship. Nothing but drama all day everyday. Too exhausting just reading it. Use this energy to help your community or something productive.

[@kaula300]

That looks like a Richard Mille watch Steve has on in this photo.

[@tamariapatterson3000]

True

[@4ksUpDvls]

A self-made side piece!

[@freereign911]

It’s some pathetic women in the world

[@angeladoss8128]

🤣😂🤣

[@notavailable9113]

Sounds like my bf he had a baby on me while we together he asked me to be there for him took me to the damn hospital when chic was in labor when i tried to leave him he put me in the back seat on child lock basically kidnapped me stalks me when i leave him always beg me to come home i dont get it

[@dommonieautry2978]

Damn girl he was crazy

[@axesaw5081]

Nah, he's Crazy in Live with you. Bask in it but ,be careful.

[@notavailable9113]

@@axesaw5081 lol im in my bedroom and hes on the couch in the living room currently ,, i dont get him i wonder why he is stillnwith me and not with that woman and the child at thier house its so confusing

[@axesaw5081]

@@notavailable9113 its where he wants to be.

[@itinavarait]

@@notavailable9113 question is...why are you still with him?? Are you afraid to leave?

[@rareflower72]

You became the side piece.

[@scrorpionqueen4548]

she.s crazy

[@Mrrockbucketman]

I'll soak in the tub, with another chick!

[@samsungtab6166]

🙄

[@donaldcoeii869]

Dumb ich

[@Forgotaboutthisaccount]

Just like the president? Weren't you two just hanging out?

[@obridget01]

No, they weren't JUST hanging out. That was over two years ago. Let someone keep bringing up your past. Wonder how that would turn out for them.🤔 🙄😒

[@un4gettable7777]

Little girl bye..what you doing other than being a bitter troll?

[@karimaechols6116]

I think you should mind your business