Sunday Chats: PhD Dilemma: I need your advice PLEASE! Should I leave or should I stay?

[@12389theglads]

Since you are not always in the flat and you are paying for an extra room and bathroom you don’t even use. Paying over $6900 for 3 months and you aint even there is a lot. I think you should down size to a studio. Makes more sense. You will spend more time outside and use the library more like you said. Studio all the way.

[@shashavengesayi6055]

I agree. Great advice

[@nanayaaayim2286]

I agree. go for the studio

[@drveekativhu]

Thanks so much for your input bestie!! 😊 I totally get where you're coming from. Downsizing to a studio does seem more practical, especially since I'm not using the extra space. Plus, I love the idea of spending more time outside and in the library! Your advice is super helpful, and I appreciate you taking the time to share it with me. Studio life might just be the way to go! 🏠✨

[@shashavengesayi6055]

The fact that you already toured a studio apartment & liked what u saw is a good enough reason to move into a studio. U can put yourself on the waitlist for a 1 bd if u want, and you’ll still get to save $800 during the summer whilst you’re in the UK.

[@drveekativhu]

Hey bestie, you make a really good point about the studio! Touring it and liking what I saw is definitely a strong reason to move. Being on the waitlist for a one-bedroom is a smart idea too. Saving $800 during the summer while I’m in the UK is a nice bonus!!! I won't even lie about that lool xx

[@shashavengesayi6055]

@@drveekativhu Handiti ka

[@Wati752]

Hey Vee, I think you should get a studio not only because it saves you a bit of money but also due to the fact that it will give peace of mind when you are traveling that you aren't "misusing or wasting" money on an apartment; which can take a lot of your headspace unnecessarily. On top of that, with the money that you do save by getting a studio you can look for a nice apartment that suits your needs in the uk for when you go back.

[@Wati752]

May take a bit of adjusting, but I am confident you will make it work. All the best Vee❤️

[@drveekativhu]

That’s such a great perspective! Saving money with a studio will definitely give me peace of mind while traveling. Plus, it’s true that not worrying about "wasting" money on an unused space can really free up mental headspace. Using the saved money to find a nice place in the UK when I go back is a brilliant idea too. Thanks so much for your advice! 😊✨

[@KaelynGraceApple]

Your intuition seems to be leaning towards a studio and I think that's a good option!

[@drveekativhu]

Omg I was just watching yourrrr vid hahaha! Congrats on the new job!!💛💛💛

[@KaelynGraceApple]

@@drveekativhu Thank you friend!

[@cathycreates]

Old person here-move to a smaller apartment and either pay difference into a pension or invest. Your older self will thank you. (But I am not a financial advisor ! 😉)

[@drveekativhu]

Moving to a smaller apartment and investing the difference into a pension or other investments is such a smart idea. My future self will definitely thank me for making those financially savvy decisions now. And don’t worry bestie, I know you’re not a financial advisor, but this is still great advice. I appreciate it!! 😊

[@Anushka94]

Hi Vee, I watched your videos for sometime but never commented until now. I personally recommend you staying in the two bedroom apartment. The reasons being: 1) Doing a PhD is very stressful. On top of that you are also working on other parts of your business at the same time. It’s worthwhile to come back to a place that’s spacious and homely. In a studio, you would be confined to a limited space and it would make you turn away from “home” to spend time in the library/outside in general 2) Cost is a big factor to you as you mentioned in the video. But you work very hard to put yourself in the financial position to be able to afford the apartment in the first place. Your career and earning potential will only increase as you progress through life, so it could be worth spending more now to have a nice place to live especially if you’re financially capable of doing so. 3) it’s also only for one more year so you should enjoy yourself in California with a homely place before moving back to the UK.

[@drveekativhu]

Heyyy bestie!! Thank you for looking at it this way! I hadn’t fully considered how the extra space might help reduce stress and make it feel more like home, especially during my PhD journey. And you’re right, investing in a comfortable place now could be worth it. It’s a tough decision, but your perspective is super helpful. P.S thanks for the support and for watching my videos! 💖

[@kimstadtherr]

You need to decide on your priorities to make the best choice and understand the realistic outcomes of each option. A studio could be a great choice if you want to save money. Think about how you’ll use those savings. Is it worth sacrificing a bit of space? Can you see yourself being comfortable enough in your new space? If you stay in the two-bedroom, consider if the higher cost is manageable. If it is, what benefits do you get from staying? Do you enjoy the extra space and comfort? Ultimately, how will each option impact your lifestyle and well-being? 😊

[@drveekativhu]

Hey bestie! 🌟 You're absolutely right deciding on priorities is key. A studio could save me money, and it’s worth thinking about how I will use those savings. If I stick with the two-bedroom, I need to consider if the cost is manageable and what benefits I will get from the extra space. Ultimately, I need to think about how each option will impact my current lifestyle and well-being as a PhD student. Thanks for the thoughtful advice! 😊

[@gaiamorgosi7181]

My grandma used to say that we are needed where we feel fulfilled and where we feel the satisfaction, that's where our purpose lies. We all know you can do this if you want, but if you don't want that, it doesn't make you less valuable in any way. Also, I want to take the opportunity to thank you because I'm planning a podcast of my own and it is thanks to you if I'm doing it and if I'm daring to start such a project, so thank you.❤

[@drveekativhu]

Heyyy bestie!! Your grandma's wisdom is so beautiful and resonates deeply with me. Feeling fulfilled and finding satisfaction in what we do is truly where our purpose lies. And you're absolutely right choosing a different path doesn’t make us any less valuable. I'm so touched that I could inspire you to start your own podcast. That’s amazing! I'm excited for you and thank you so much for sharing this and for your kind words! 💖 Best of luck with your podcast journey! 🎙✨

[@gaiamorgosi7181]

@@drveekativhu Thank you!✨

[@Mila_Schmiles]

Hii Vee, here’s what I think would be kind of strategic: If you’re not going to be in the US for a while, sell what needs to be sold and put whatever is left in a storage unit for the 3 months. Then when you’re back, you can get a one bed room and not a studio (for your mental health I don’t think you should cook and sleep at the same place 😅). Hopefully you’ll be coming back with a family member who can help you move. Or have a moving party and invite friends to help you move to your new place. This is also all relative how much you'll spend on a storage unit vs rent, and how much you'll save between a studio vs one bedroom. Hope this helps ❤️

[@drveekativhu]

Selling what I don't need and storing the rest sounds like a great plan. I totally get what you mean about not cooking and sleeping in the same space - definitely important for mental health. A moving party with friends sounds like so much fun! I'll definitely weigh the costs of storage vs. rent and see what makes the most sense. Thanks for your thoughtful input bestie! 💖

[@drawingsimpleton4827]

Do what your guts tell you. You already know. The hustle of moving sucks, but a great new space could give you a boost of energy and a refreshing restart.

[@drveekativhu]

I totally get it, sometimes you just have to trust your gut for sure. Moving can be a hassle, but a fresh new space is sometimes needed!

[@12carla4]

I love the Sundays catch ups idea!! And for the living situation, I think the studio is the best option for now, it just makes sense.

[@drveekativhu]

I'm so glad you love the Sunday catch-ups idea! 💖 And for the living situation, the studio really does make the most sense right now. It’ll save money and help you stay focused :) x

[@FlorLinarez27]

Hi! I personally think that, IF YOU CAN, and have the privilege/opportunity of choosing something more comfortable... why not? I understand your reasoning 100%, I love how real and relatable you are, so I see why you would think that. But slowly life showed me that choosing your comfort is okay. Also, idk how is it in the US, but in Sweden/Denmark the PhD "students" are WORKERS! So their lives are more comfortable, more mature, and more relatable to the age and time in their lives. As you say, you are 26, you do not have to keep sharing an apartment with random strangers, or cook and stink everything in a studio. I would choose to stay, you have a bunch on your shoulders to add a MOVE for ONLY one year. I understand it is a lot of money, and I would be questioning it myself... but if your lifestyle was affordable paying that rent.... maybe just FOR ONCE, treat yourself and stay. It is a waste to not use a toilet or a room, YES, but it is mental health for you. Of course, YOU know what is best for yourself, and you will make the best decision, think with your heart and not with your pocket. If this is a struggle financially, or you prefer using that money for something more needed, please go to the studio... wish you all the best! and can't wait to see more!

[@poliscigirl]

I agree with this one! I think this is actually the case in most of Europe (except the UK unfortunately) that PhD students are treated as paid workers

[@drveekativhu]

I agree with you bestie. I think its okay to prioritise what makes you happy and comfortable in life as long as you can afford to. And haha yeah the idea of sharing with a stranger doesn't sit well with me at all. This is great advice thank you so much for taking the time out to leave a comment. I have a lot to think about haha

[@FlorLinarez27]

@@drveekativhu I can imagine!! Sending love! I am sure you will take the right decision, whatever ends up being!!

[@happyowl08]

Two thoughts not mentioned in the video (feel free to ignore if not helpful) 1. Do you want to consider a 1-bedroom apartment outside of the current apartment complex? 2. Can you sublet during the summer to save money?

[@drveekativhu]

I have already signed a contract😭 so they’ll only let me transfer within this building

[@faithfulnyaku8868]

1. Moving is a 1 week thing. So I'll suck for one week and youll be fine. 2. If youre tryijg to integrate, then put yourself in a position that will allow you to integrate. Wither you move to a smaller apartment so that you go outside. Or stayvin the 2 bed and host more friends. But since you dont want people in your home and space, then option 1 is better. There's also an argument about what will happen when the time comes to leave America. Moving to a smaller apartment will help you jump start on getting rid of stuff that'll make the transatlantic move difficult. I love soft life personally, so i understand why its hard to leave a 2 bed apartment. But, now its upto you and your relationship with money and savings. Soft life is also in putting money aside if that's something you're interested in.

[@drveekativhu]

Such amazing advice!!! Thank you so much and lool I suppose yes, living a two bed apartment is giving soft life for sure but like you said soft life is also putting money aside, future me will be happy and proud of that :)

[@Olaoluwa.0]

Hey, I definitely think studio is a great idea. Just checked out some studio apartment layouts and they are really cute too!

[@drveekativhu]

Hey bestie!! thank you for your input and I totally agree they're soooo cute right!! xx

[@federicacasilli6846]

You can either stay in the 2-bedroom apartment and try and find a roommate to help split the rent in half. Or if you really are leaning towards a studio apartment then go for it! If you aren't convinced of the separation of different spaces in a studio, you can also try looking for a studio that has a mezzanine (half second floor), so then you can have your like bedroom up there in the mezzanine and then your living space downstairs. Of course this depends on what is available near your location.

[@HeidiAusDenBergen-]

My advice: 1. Less rent (even for a year) can save you loads of money. Current 2300 (old rent)-1500 (approx. new rent)= 9000+ saved money a year. 2. Before noticing the landowner, check out larger studios, go and make view-visits. Being there, try to imagine a dedicated spacious corner or area for filming and digital creation. Once you found something suitable (even if it costs more than 1500 or so, it’s still less than the current apartment) you can quit the current apartment. Don’t rush it in, just wait for a bigger/spacious studio to go sure you’ll be fine. 3. If you get the feeling it overwhelms you, cancel plans and stay focused for the PhD. With love from Germany❤

[@drveekativhu]

Those are some great points! Saving $9,000 a year is a huge bonus, and I love the idea of scouting for larger studios to ensure there's space for filming and creativity/my job. Taking the time to find the perfect spot sounds like a solid plan, and staying focused on my PhD is key. Thanks for the advice and support from Germany! 💖 Sending love back! 😊

[@annikasophie6504]

From how you were speaking and in my opinion a studio sounds like a good idea! I totally get your hesitation, but like you mentioned, the one you visited wasn’t that small. I lived in a studio for two years and didn’t mind it, it kind of went around the corner, so my bedroom felt separated for the kitchen, maybe you can find a similar layout? Otherwise, if the room is big enough, potentially you can get a cheap room divider?

[@Wati752]

I agree it would give the sense of a separate space.❤

[@drveekativhu]

I hadn't thought about that the idea of getting a room divider! Thank you for the suggestion

[@Retrured]

Sometimes subletting is a good option for the summer if that’s allowed where you stay. If you can find someone clean/trustworthy and it might give you time to wait until after summer/when you’re back to get a 1 bedroom. Personally I wasn’t a big fan of living in a studio but also it might be different if you’re single and there’s lots of sunlight.

[@drveekativhu]

It really is! I know this is something that is very popular in the UK and I agree I think it would be an ideal option for me if I could find someone that I can trust to look after the place while I am away xx

[@coffeewednesday553]

The rent is a bit expensive in my opinion, as a 2 bedroom is generally split between 2 people. So you should definitely go for a 1 bedroom but WAIT until one become available. Although you could also rent out your apartment to someone else while you are away. You are definitely wasting your money - and I did expect more people to visit you and stay in the extra bedroom. It's a tricky situation

[@drveekativhu]

Its is very expensive indeed hence why I am thinking to downsize. Fingers crossed a 1 bed becomes available soon, that would be a dream. And ahhh its because all my friends and family are based in the UK and due to distance and other commitments it has been difficult for them to visit.

[@kyndranicholle]

Hey Vee! I think you should stay in the 2 bedroom. That’s a tough situation, and it seems like you’re learning toward the studio… but as a PhD student having the extra space will be nice. And you kept mentioning cooking and knowing your bed is close to you. I think after awhile that’ll get old (me personally). Make that second bedroom your own personal library! I’m 25, turning 26 this fall and I loved I got a 2 bedroom. Yes I’m married and live with my husband, but we turned that extra bedroom into my own office because we almost got a one bedroom and I have no regrets! I’m getting my master’s and I too spend a lot of time on campus and at my apartment complex’s study rooms, but it’s so nice knowing I have the extra space if I need it, like if I’m sick and need to stay home etc, and still be separate from my bedroom, kitchen, etc because i do believe you need to have separate spaces when studying and relaxing. You mentioned money, but it sounds like that’s not the issue. You can afford your place and you work hard enough to stay there. I say stay in the two bedroom! I think in the longevity of things, and in your late 20s, 2 bedroom is the answer! You’ll make the right choice that comes to you though, regardless of what we all say : )

[@drveekativhu]

Heyyy bestie, I really appreciate your perspective, especially since you're also a student. The idea of turning the second bedroom into a personal library sounds amazing! I do love the extra space and the separation it provides for different activities. Your experience with having an office space is super helpful. It's definitely something to think about for the long term. I'll definitely consider all these points before making a final decision. Thanks again for your advice! 😊

[@emiliembayi97]

Hey Vee, If you can’t move in July, sublet your apartment for the months you’re away or get a roommate to split the rent ($2.5K to ~$1.3K). Subletting is pretty common among students, especially in Germany, but check if this fits the US as well. This gives you more time to switch and perhaps find a student apartment that suits you better, without rushing or compromising. If moving to a studio, sell valuable items first to cover costs. Decide based on your capacity. Much love from Berlin Germany❤

[@drveekativhu]

Some of you have suggested subletting, I will find out if my accommodation would allow me to do this because I do not want to potentially getting into trouble lol and that is so true to allows some time plus I would be getting money from someone staying there. Thank you for the love and support

[@abbysmith7877]

Not sure if this is something you'd be comfortable with or consider, but it's really common in a lot of college towns to sublet your apartment! Normally you see it if a person is going abroad for a semester/going home for an extended period of time for winter or summer breaks (like you are). It's nice because you don't have to shoulder the rent for those few months, and someone else is able to have transitional housing if they're waiting to move in for their own lease, will be only in a city for a given period, etc. The demand for subletting definitely differs city to city, but its an option if you're interested and can't otherwise find a one-bedroom/studio apt to move into (and even then, subletting for 2-3 months wouldn't be a bad idea to cover the rent for an otherwise empty apt).

[@drveekativhu]

Hmmm this is not a bad bad idea at all! I do like it but I am not sure if I would do this. I would then need to consider making sure the home is empty or in a state that they can come and make it a home for themselves while I am away. At that point it would make sense for me to move out completely and downsize. But I do still think what you have suggested is a smart idea x

[@ChrisHuxleys]

I’d say go for the studio, since you seem to be leaning towards that option. The alternative could be renting/subletting out the second bedroom in your apartment to another graduate student. That way you will have someone to consistently socialize with, and you’d still get that personal space separation from the main kitchen/living room area, + you’d pay less!

[@drveekativhu]

I think I would much rather downsize bestie, having a room mate is great but I would really need to know the person because we would be in each other's space for 1 year and although that is not a long time it will feel like a long time if we end up not getting along :( xx

[@shaaayxp6278]

You can put your stuff in storage for the 3 months you are in the UK, there are some that include packing, pick up and delivery to a new address! If the studio is big enough you can create little areas/sections so it doesn't feel like you are doing everything in one place! Start your new lease for when you get back or put yourself on the waiting list for a 1-bed 😊 you spend a lot of time traveling or studying elsewhere so I think in any case you'll be fine in a study. When you cook, put on the extraction fan, open a window down and get one of those odor absorbers, and a bed refresher spray type thing!

[@drveekativhu]

By putting myself in storage tbf I would be saving money. I am getting some really good advice so far from all of you and it is really helpful so thank you

[@fairy_stanning8226]

Hi Vee! I think studio room is a good option because it is going to allow you to make the most of the give space as opposed to not knowing how to use the empty room in your current room. When you move into a space where you are going to utilize every bit of the resource, it will make you more appreciative and grateful for it. Best of luck, Vee!!!

[@drveekativhu]

That is so true!!! I totally agree. Thank you xx

[@MunirahAlfayez]

I would delay your flight that is in July and deal with the moving situation so you have enough time and the process is not stressful

[@genevieveguille1289]

You could also consider moving out completely, putting your stuff in storage and starting a new lease when you're back from the UK 😊 could save you even more money long term!

[@drveekativhu]

I agree!! but I guess it is just the process of moving everything out and prior to going back to the UK I have a lot of exams so theres that too! Time wise I am limited but i totally get what you are saying :)

[@seldie9569]

Someone mentioned getting a roommate and I think it’s a great idea! Having studied abroad, I enjoyed having roommates over the years to share my daily life with. And I am a shy introvert! So I think it’s mostly about finding someone that fits your vibe. Ideally close to your age and who has a similar lifestyle (like another grad student for example or a young professional). It would allow you to keep your space and have your own bathroom while also having a separate living room and kitchen, and to enjoy meal together once in a while. If I remember correctly the rooms are separated by the living space so that’s ideal to having your bubble in the evenings and at night. Anyway! I think you’d feel less crammed than in a studio, but a studio is a great option too. 😊

[@seldie9569]

+ you’d pay less than for a studio but have more space :)

[@drveekativhu]

I think what scares me about getting a room mate is defo the fear of the unknown. Like you said it has to be someone I vibe with, how will I know if we will vibe just from meeting them a few times or even once? Living with someone else would be a huge move for me. I think I would be more comfortable downsizing. That is not to shut your idea down, I think it 100% is a great idea if you can trust that you will vibe with the person xx

[@essmay83]

Definitely move to a one bedroom! Or even studio - there are spacious studios. It’ll help you feel more cozy and also save! BUT ALSO for the summer: SUBLET SUBLET SUBLET. No need to waste 6k+ I’ve been a student in the US for 7 years, and the trick is subletting in the summer. Post your apartment online (uni Facebook groups/grad housing groups) and you can have the rent paid for while you’re traveling.

[@drveekativhu]

I agree with you bestie!! You are all making sense with all of your suggestion. I really appreciate it and I will look into all of the options that I hadn't considered. Thank you

[@zohalarbabzada9654]

I live in on campus studio and they are surprisingly spacious. You can still have a decent bathroom, enough space for cooking & enough walk space so you aren't crashing into anything plus storage space plus study desk space too. Less effort required to keep it tidy too plus more disposable income

[@drveekativhu]

Ooouuu bestie, don't tempt with a good time! This sounds ideal and perfect for me :)

[@_highlytransplanted]

Regardless of what you decide- DECLUTTER FIRST. I’m a part time student living in California as well for the past 4 years and decluttering before making the decision has helped me be able to live in micro (studio) apartments, airbnbs, whatever the case. A studio wouldn’t be a bad choice at all given you are traveling a lot. Just make sure you declutter first if you can/have time in your schedule.

[@drveekativhu]

Hey bestie, I agree .. I think that it isn't a bad idea at all. And I will definitely look into decluttering it will be beneficial for when I am moving out in a year x

[@sirainilawal]

Yep! Glad you mentioned your age in all these. It was my first thought when you first started watching the video.

[@chloejackson7073]

I am late on the comment train but I will say i moved after my first year in the PhD from a one bedroom to a spacious studio and I certainly felt the difference. It did, though, encourage me to study outside the apartment and to engage more with my cohort and just be out more which I think is a positive. If you know you're only going to be in America for one more year and then will have fellowship to do dissertative work in the UK I would say it is probably manageable. I would just really evaluate while you're at home how much stuff you have and what out of it all you're willing to part with. Also research storage solutions whilst you're preparing for a potential move so you know all your stuff fits. All that to say a studio sounds right but think through the implications of it !

[@drveekativhu]

I agree I think in my circumstances it would be manageable as I would not be around all of the time due to work commitments. I have a lot to think about lol. Thank you for the advice bestie

[@brittanycourtneyroberts375]

absolutely the studio!! even with the smaller space it gives you chance to get creative to make it work :)

[@drveekativhu]

I agree with you!

[@gizemozturk5196]

I agree with the comments saying you should definitely move. Also, I don’t think that you will feel trapped as you said, but rather feel even more free because less furniture and less stuff is easier to handle and your place will feel more spacious and free. I too live in a small 1 bd apartment and it’s more than enough for me while I’m in uni cause I’m spending all of my time in the library anyways. Also you shouldn’t feel like you have to stay home just cause the rent is so high. Don’t trap yourself inside and I’m sure that you will make the right decision, like you always do 💛

[@drveekativhu]

I totally agree with you all and also I would only need to be there for a year and I will also be saving money which is a win win!! xx

[@cecilioguarron7062]

Hey Vee, have you considered looking for a roommate and staying both at the two bed place? That would be the best of both worlds in your case: you'll pay half the rent you're paying now, while still be having your own space. Plus, I'm sure that living with a bestie of yours would make your day to day life much more exciting! Just a suggestion that I would consider worth keeping in mind. Keep it going and take care! ❤

[@drveekativhu]

This is so true!!!! It might be better if I just lived with someone then that way I also get to have lots of space! I just get really shy and never had a roommate before ahhh. This is so difficult

[@cecilioguarron7062]

Babe it is you who inspires us to not be scared to try new things, to step out of our comfort zone! I get that it might be difficult to make a change like that in your life, but I can assure you that a new era like that, living with someone else, would enrich both of you very much! Either way, don't put too much pressure on yourself, this decision is not that big of a deal, so whatever you decide would be a nice one! Just reflect on it, give it some time and stay hydrated!

[@hazelm3002]

@@drveekativhuif you go for the roommate route, make sure you get someone who clears up after themselves and is clean in general. And who also respects your filming days.

[@ctclaunch]

I think the studio is a good option.. based on your use of your current apartment, the studio sounds like a better value, and could open up space for you in other ways such as financially, spending time outside etc. I know downsizing can be an emotional adjustment, but as you said you are drawn to this idea. Personally, I downsized to a smaller space so I could consistently attend dance classes and it's been totally worth it! If you did decide to move, it could be an opportunity to invest in something you want to experience more of and/or save :) Also: do you know the ventilation is like for cooking?

[@drveekativhu]

The studio does sound like a better value for sure! I really do see that. And I wouldn't struggle too much with downgrading because it is not a long term situation. I would only have 1 year left in Cali and to be honest studio apartments are super cute!! I am not mad at them at all lol

[@magalingounoubita2203]

Hi Vee I think you should take the studio. Leaving in a studio for year is not bad plus you are saving money. Have a safe trip

[@drveekativhu]

I agree with you bestie!

[@Jaybirdforever55]

Save money. Sunday catch up.❤ Love your energy. Life is short. I have a one bedroom and glad I chose it over a larger place. The older I get, the more I realize less is more.

[@drveekativhu]

Awww thank you so much bestie!! Age really does come with wisdom for sure!! I do not disagree with you on that haha

[@Mwarihelp]

You could put your stuff in storage wihile you look for a 1 bed flat

[@drveekativhu]

100%!! This would make sense

[@sally3318]

Like so many have said, I think the studio sounds like it is the way to go! I get moving is a complete faff but really you will be 'moving' for 3 maybe 4 days and you could be sorted and settled in a new flat within a week. I know it can be truly hellish (especially on your own) but for the amount of money you will save (!!) a few days of faff is nothing. In a few months you will look back and it will all be done and you will be saving quite literally thousands of dollars. I would also think, what else could I/would I like to use that money for? It might add another dimension to consider. At the end of the day, you know what is right for you and you will make the best decision, there is no right or wrong! Good luck with you exams and trust your gut with whatever choice you make! Much love xo ps Thank you for being so candid about $$

[@drveekativhu]

Thank you for your advice bestie!! I totally get where you are coming from here and I am at that point in my life where saving is something that I am really taking seriously! So it will be beneficial for me to downsize. I know I will make the right decision for me in the end. Thank you for the support

[@ahappyfrenchtoast2669]

Girl I'm so exhausted today that I thought you said you were leaving your PhD and has to make a decision in 2 days. My brain is cooked lol

[@drveekativhu]

Haha, I totally get that feeling bestie! We all have those days sometimes. Don’t worry, I’m definitely not leaving my PhD, just figuring out the best living situation. Thanks for the laugh lool and hope you get some well-deserved rest! 😊

[@user-jn3zm4lz6k]

I kinda agree with most of the comments, studio is a good option and much better than a 2 bedroom apartment. The current apartment is gorgeous but TBH it's wasting your money since you don't fully use it. If you're afraid that you will regret moving remember that it's just one year you don't have to live in the studio forever! 😂

[@drveekativhu]

Same here, I can see where everyone is coming from and tbf I only have a year left in Cali so getting a studio is not a bad shout lol

[@noxible]

Awwww I'm late, I trust you made the right decision. Also, health journey results are showing- you look great!!

[@drveekativhu]

Its okay bestie!! you are still on time. Thank you soooo much!!

[@kgdskb]

Hiya, Vee! ☺️ What's up? How are you doing? Hope you had a nice and safe flight to America, to California! 🥰 1:50 Yeah, that's a great idea, Vee! Let's give it a try! 👍🏼💕 10:43 I think the studio is a great choice! Studio is more economical! And since you're more comfortable with the studio, I think the same way too, that the best option is the studio! However, trust your intuition, Vee! I believe in you that you can handle this! You got this, Vee! 😊 I'll see you on Wednesday, Vee! Take care of yourself and your health! See ya~🤗💕

[@drveekativhu]

I am well thank you, hope you are too? thank you for the well wishes. I appreciate it. And I totally agree with what you have said here, thank you for your advice and thoughts xx

[@kgdskb]

@@drveekativhu Yes! Of course Vee! You're always welcome! I know that you'll make the right choice! Much love, Vee! Take care~ 💕

[@Jacob33FilmGuy]

I think the studio is the way to go it's a good option Vee have a safe flight back to Los Angeles love you Vee

[@drveekativhu]

Everyone keeps saying this! Thank you bestie xx

[@Jacob33FilmGuy]

@veekativhu_ your welcome you cute and beautiful girl love you Vee

[@sarahreviewsinasmr]

I live in a studio apartment as a master of laws student in a country far from home and i cant help but think i made the right choice.

[@drveekativhu]

Studio apartments are very popular in the comments section .. so maybe you did make the right choice! go you!!

[@koritsi2142]

I agree with the comments I've seen so far that you should get a studio! However, I was also wondering why you aren't subletting your flat when you're in the UK for several months - are you not allowed to or do you just prefer not to? No hate, just genuinely curious :)

[@drveekativhu]

I’m going to ask them today if I’m allowed to sublet and I’m to go and get all the info!

[@gemijeez8616]

I’m starting my phd in the LA area this fall and I think I will be doing the studio option!

[@drveekativhu]

Judging from the comment section, I think this would be a great idea!! At least then if you do decide to upgrade to a bigger space you'd do it knowing that there is a need for it. Rather than doing it the way that I did it lol

[@manguian8984]

This apt is not your forever place. And, since you do travel a lot and spend more time on campus studying, a studio apartment sounds more realistic. Plus, you'd save loads of money! You😅 go through the moving and downsizing now so that when you are close to completing you will have far less stress and will have more time to focus on competing your dissertation. When it's time for you to move once you've graduated, it will be much easier to pick up and go. 😊

[@drveekativhu]

That is a great point! Saving money is always a positive. I will definitely consider downsizing as it makes sense x

[@manguian8984]

@@drveekativhu ❤️

[@goldribbons8738]

I suggest moving into a studio, bonus points if you can find a spacious one!

[@drveekativhu]

I agree, if it has space that will be a win win for me xx

[@Bourne-fu8bz]

Why does a student and single tenant need a big apartment? You need a bachelor pad. But rent is expensive in the USA anyway

[@kayc2934]

Listen to your intuition it rarely ever wrong. A studio is not only more affordable but you can put the extra money towards investment or a new hobby. I like the Sunday catch up. Called it catch with V or Sunday catch with V. Good luck.

[@moniecaroline]

first 5 minutes are more drama than bridgerton. Love you Vee

[@drveekativhu]

Hahahah this made me laugh!!! Love you too bestie

[@silvialogan9226]

Vee, since you are just one person living alone and you do not use the other two rooms. I would suggest that a Studio apartment would be best. Vee, you do not have to do it. It was just a suggestion.

[@drveekativhu]

I agree with you bestie!!

[@shaaayxp6278]

I like the idea off the Sunday catch up, especially if you do it as and when you feel like you have something to say

[@drveekativhu]

Yaay! I am glad you like the idea xx

[@amkmq-studios]

Deffo go with your intuition!

[@drveekativhu]

I will do bestie

[@toedlicherlusthase]

Concerning the ginger shot, I use them as a skill for when my tension is too high (I have Borderline Personality Disorder, and need to use skills to get that level down...). I can only speak for myself though. :) I don't know whether the next exists in the US, but there are sometimes classifieds published by people over here who want to move into e. g. a bigger appartment, and swap with another person who's living in their dream appt, and the other person basically moves into the smaller one. I don't know how to call it in English, as English is not my mothertongue. You of course would have to inform the landlord about the swap.

[@drveekativhu]

The ginger shot has definitely caused some discussions in the comments section lol. Thank you for sharing and I am not sure bestie I would have to look into this

[@bolter2203]

I think if you rewatch this video yourself you already have the answer! You have a sticky thought. If you do not do something about it, will it go away or is it so adhesive that you will spend 1 year thinking about it until you move out and think "damn i really should have moved". Best wishes for your decision!

[@drveekativhu]

Yeahh my mind is still 50/50, I find it hard to make these type of decisions sometimes and I defo do not want to live with regrets so I will do what my heart wants when I know what that is. Thank you xx

[@jaclyn_jaycee]

Hey Vee, well considering that you are left with just a year I would suggest a studio and selling some items off. It would also make financial sense. You could consider maybe getting a bigger studio so your bed is not too close to your kitchen area. Hope this helps.

[@drveekativhu]

Yesssss if I can find a big studio apartment I think this would be great! and I agree with what you are all saying in regards to selling stuff and saving. It makes sense.

[@jaclyn_jaycee]

@@drveekativhu Best wishes🌻💮

[@gabriellakaremire]

To be honest, I feel like you have the answer.. you seem more drawn to the studio apartment and for the hustles of moving, it’s short term.. by the end of July, you’d have settled in! And studio is way cheaper than the two bedroomed

[@florencenyadare]

Sunday thoughts yes 4:14 4:16

[@drveekativhu]

Yaaay!!

[@AGiftedJourneyx]

If money wasn't an issue, I feel the extra space could be utilised well. I live in a studio apartment at 29 years old and due to there being no clear division between rest, work and relaxation, and my brain no longer being able to distinguish between night and day, I couldn't continue my education. I fall asleep at the worst of times, including when sipping coffee. I know I may be an exception due to health and disability but I do believe not having that clear division between rest, work and relaxation has implications for your health and productivity. However, in the current climate we have to consider the financial implications so I recommend looking at your finances. Also, you cannot get more real than a video sharing your current thoughts, uploaded on the same day. I would be interested to watch and I know many will x

[@drveekativhu]

Hmmm this is a good point, a studio restricts you from separating your way of living which wouldn't be good for me as university has its moments when its stressful and I will need a zen place to relax. Maybe I could consider a one bed not a studio. Thank you for sharing bestie xx

[@raneembelbeisi]

finish what you started, all worth it!

[@drveekativhu]

Amen to that!

[@venusvlogger]

Miss Vee, I don’t think you’d like a studio once it’s like a full time thing, I’d say go for the 1 bed if you can 😊

[@drveekativhu]

I can’t they are sold outttt 😫🥺 and I signed a contract so I have to stay within this complex !

[@SATutorAcademy-gy1kz]

Sorry this is from my super random account but move into the studio!! Literally not even just saving over the summer, but over a full year you'll save around $10k and you're just not using all the space in the 2bd now anyway. It probably won't always be the most fun but with all the other spaces you have to study and work, with all the travelling, I think you'll be fine with the situation for just a year. Not worth it at all to stay in the 2bd and cooking mostly with an airfryer anyway makes it so much better because I do fully understanding just hating like the thought of cooking up whatever in a pan or oven and the oil splatter or oven steam is so close to your bed lol. but fr, maybe sometimes you'll miss living in a bigger space but its not even for a full year and makes 100x more financial sense.

[@drveekativhu]

Decisions, decisions bestie!! I totally get all of the advice that you are all giving me! Thank you!! and I agree, I think I will be fine for sure. It is only for a year after all

[@MarciaB_Love]

The way you drank the ginger shot made me seriously laugh out loud. 🤭LOL!!! It get's easier as you drink them more often. I actually enjoy them now.

[@drveekativhu]

Loool I wasn't expecting that .. and I hope so because I know the health benefits

[@GodsChosen46]

I think you should move to the studio although the 2bedroom space is nice. It seems like you really want to move to the studio. And I know it's hard cause packing moving and getting rid of the clutter is a tedious process.

[@drveekativhu]

I agree I think its clear that I am done with the two bed space for sure!! I guess it's time to move on

[@JhadaImani]

Is it possible to join a waitlist for the next available 1 bedroom apt?

[@drveekativhu]

I’m already on the waitlist 😭 and its not movinggggg

[@BasicStuff95]

Studio all the way!

[@drveekativhu]

Studio is winning in the comments section

[@sunnydayXDXD]

Is it possible to sublease your other room for another person? You can keep the 2 bed situation while splitting rent

[@drveekativhu]

I would HATE HATE HATE to live with someone hahahahaah!!! I wish they had one bedroom man. So badly

[@sunnydayXDXD]

@veekativhu_ Haha understandable!! If not, I would go with the studio.

[@matsobanemalebatja3036]

Sounds like you really want the studio apartment, but ... I can't help but to think "roommate" especially when you mentioned the two bathrooms. Sounds like something that could work out. Unless your landlord wouldn't allow that or you prefer living alone. Just a thought. Otherwise sounds like you're gravitating more towards a studio apartment PLUS you've seen it so you know exactly what you're getting into.

[@drveekativhu]

Hey bestie, I agree .. I like the idea of having a studio apartment and having a room mate wouldn't be a bad shout!! I have a lot to think about. Thank you!!

[@Sarah_Rayan]

Go for the studio apartment for the year. Your pros are greater than the cons.

[@drveekativhu]

I am considering it bestie :)

[@victoriaagyepongskillsdev9253]

The low expectation for the ginger to shock you was so funny. Anyways my two-sense: are you able to rent out the second bedroom or will that invade your privacy in a way that will affect your productivity?

[@drveekativhu]

Lool I wasn't expecting it!! and hmm I hadn't thought of this side of things! I think I would prefer having my own space so a studio might be the best option x

[@victoriaagyepongskillsdev9253]

@@drveekativhu great choice. looking forward to all the gr8 things you will be up to

[@sinqobilentuli8117]

Studio apartment, it’s only for a year

[@drveekativhu]

and a year will fly by right!!

[@Godwin_Dzangare]

If no one visits, you are hardly ever around, traveling for work, and using the library. I actually think it's better if you can get a single room on campus.

[@drveekativhu]

I agree with you bestie!!

[@MotherMuse]

It's spicy because ginger, love.. have you ever tried raw ginger or candied ginger?

[@drveekativhu]

Hey bestie, oppsss lol and no I have never tried it! might give it a try

[@sinqobilentuli8117]

Studio apartment for the win

[@drveekativhu]

It's very popular!!!

[@Melissa-zf6sw]

Do what's best for you !

[@drveekativhu]

[@alalyaalsabah2466]

Get a one bedroom apartment, not a studio. Good luck Dr. Vee

[@drveekativhu]

They don’t have anymore left 😭😭😭😭😭

[@hazelm3002]

@@drveekativhucheck out other places. Or maybe get a friend to check some places for you if they have time and for them to video call you, while you’re in the uk

[@alalyaalsabah2466]

@@drveekativhuthat sucks :/ but find somewhere else. A studio can be claustrophobic especially with the kitchen next to the bedroom/living room.

[@coffeewednesday553]

Ginger shots are delicious, such an over-reaction

[@drveekativhu]

I wound't say its an overreaction we all have different taste buds lol. Totally normal.

[@noahreichel5297]

How about getting a flatmate? :)

[@drveekativhu]

I don’t want to!!😭😭😭

[@Aviewer005]

you look snatched girl

[@drveekativhu]

Awww thank youuu!! xxx

[@lacelessparasite]

Yeah move to the studio, it’s only a year and you already go to the library. Definitely move.

[@drveekativhu]

I totally agree with you there bestie

[@Fabulous_Flo]

Go for the studio apartment Vee. Makes no sense paying for all that space you are not using.

[@drveekativhu]

It makes sense logistically bestie!! xx

[@lissieabigail3219]

Be brave! ❤

[@drveekativhu]

[@ARseventy16]

5:23 your face is priceless 😂😂😂 so funny

[@sirainilawal]

Get a 1 bedroom instead in a different location not a studio cos the point you raised for your clothes is important considering you travel a lot for speaking engagements

[@kxrimgh]

studio!!

[@drveekativhu]

[@nastasiabuckley4103]

Hi. Get a roommate or move complexes. Studios do get uncomfortable after a while.

[@drveekativhu]

I cannot decide this is so hard!! I think I kind of have an idea of what I want to do xx

[@DeiB154]

Switch complexes and get a 1br. Studios get annoying after a while.

[@drveekativhu]

That is why I am 50/50 .. This is so hard!!

[@Cici-w8m]

That's a lot of plastic for one "meal".

[@agatasimackova2080]

grll just take the studio

[@drveekativhu]

I might just do it!!

[@bigthangz5489]

stay

[@drveekativhu]

you think so bestie!!!

[@seerpou]

babe rent out the other room

[@drveekativhu]

Hmmm this wouldn't be a bad idea!!

[@Scipio0404]

Get a studio

[@drveekativhu]

I am tempted!!!! You guys are right x

[@Zel3984]

Declutter and move into a studio.

[@drveekativhu]

This is what I am thinking bestie!