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In 2020, Reynhard Sinaga was sentenced for life for 159 counts of rape and other sexual offences, against 48 men. But police found evidence relating to more than 200 victims, many of whom remain unidentified.
One of Sinaga’s victims, Daniel, speaks for the first time to break the silence that surrounds male rape. His powerful testimony contributes to an important national conversation in the UK, where sexual violence against men remains one of the most underreported crimes.
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[@simshill295]

As a human being it is hurtful. My deepest respect for you sharing your story.

[@wanlingtain5262]

🙂🙂🙂🙂 always support you, Daniel, you are not alone 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@rayssamonroy]

Stay strong, my friend. You're not alone. Never alone.

[@gajahmada4847]

From this video we know he is not virgin anymore

[@SmilingArcticWolf-qe3yw]

He made you feel like a girl

[@aloiskneissl2639]

It was a hard story and no one has the right to rape an other Person. Its nice to see that he got support from his father. Stay strong and look in your future, make the best thing of it🙏

[@klientproby]

And it's not just within the gay community. Straight men are also victimised. Very under-reported, and it's a big disservice to male victims whose voices are often not heard or drowned out. More needs to be addressed about abuse and sexual violence against men and boys

[@catheadoff]

Exactly

[@kellibarnhouse6591]

Rape and sexual assault of Men and women happen our Jails and prisons everyday! This is should never be allowed to happen! Our prison guards and police departments need to Stop this from happening! Males get raped at home, school, in their neighborhoods! 1 parent should be able to stay home and supervise their children after school! This guy is so brave to come forward and bring this to the World's attention! Be aware that this can happen to you or a child at anytime! Most sexual predators are males, a few can be women! Be careful out and about, the world is a dangerous place!

[@adonaiyah2196]

Reynard sinaga being the primary example

[@hadassa-j8b]

@@adonaiyah2196 Reynhard Sinaga is a rapist, not a victim.

[@foultarnished0101]

100% It sickens me when people turn round and say "men can't be raped because they enjoy it" Like what planet are these on? What ANY person enjoys being raped? Straight men are also victim's of rape from women.

[@wisedude666]

Daniel, if you're reading this: You are not alone, you are very brave, a beautiful soul and your folks must be so proud to have raised such a couragous individual, hang in there man!

[@smairead8283]

Incredibly brave, So glad he has a supportive family behind him to help deal with this horrific event.

[@michellelightlovereiki838]

You were the voice for all those other victims and you stopped him from continuing. You fine sweet gentleman who deserves praise instead of shame. Your lovely father.... baier hugs!!!

[@ianclarke2562]

That is one of the most powerful things I’ve ever seen - what you did was amazing and will surely help many many more men.

[@lynncarter7038]

Heartbreaking to hear what happened. So brave to come forward and share. I hope this helps others too.

[@dinaprimbetova2408]

Rape is equally traumatic for men and women. My support and respect to all survivors

[@redscope1248]

I got sexual abused as a man I hated my hole life for it but now I'm fithing back and destroying his life for what he did but not like torture or anything just telling everybody and showing the videos even to his wife.

[@redscope1248]

@Noluvuyo Gqamane i made the report to the police like 3 month ago, but there still on it. But no he didnt get arrestet, yet.

[@mantop6750]

U hate your hole???? 😨

[@glennweeks7176]

​@@redscope1248 just be careful and don't set yourself up to get hurt even more...you don't have to forgive him but try to forgive yourself and try and let go of all the anger...it will destroy you if you let it! I am so sorry for all your pain.

[@floraflora3955]

Respect for this brave man and his supportive family.

[@Jumpyman_thegamerYT]

You aren’t alone brother, stay strong!

[@Gloria00082]

What a strong bold courageous man. Im so sorry this happened to you. You are amazing and loved. I most loved when I heard mom and dad are thier for you. There is nothing more then a parents love and support. You deserve all the happiness and great things in the world.

[@chun-chunmaru]

*strong bald

[@mermaidmoon2254]

You're so strong!!! Thank you for telling your story. I wish you healing, darling!

[@aega7580]

I wish him all the best. May he recover from this horrible experience.

[@glennweeks7176]

I was a 9 year old victim of rape by an older male cousin. He thought it was just fun and games and didn't feel bad at all. I was afraid to tell anyone because I thought it was my fault. It took years for me to be able to forgive myself. As an older man now I still struggle with intimacy and can't talk about it. I have attempted suicide 2 times and still think about suicide a lot. My cousin is a successful man in my community and is viewed as a tough macho man while I am made fun of for being gay. It is really not fair but I know that ultimately God will be the one to sort it out. I see these videos and I feel so sorry for these men because I can feel their pain because I have it too. Be strong if you have been a victim and don't blame yourself. Its not your fault you were just a child.

[@adita6572]

You too my man

[@leej-wp9ft]

We all stand with you Daniel. Thanks for having the courage to speak out. Be proud of yourself.

[@catheadoff]

Totally under-reported! And it's unfair... They need to put the abusers in jail!

[@Greenpoloboy3]

It's something you don't imagine would ever happen to you. You seem to think no one would do this to another human.

[@Stedemn]

Well done buddy hope you are healing. What a great dad you have.

[@kurtzipagan6704]

Hope everyone have a wonderful day, stay safe always and God bless!

[@kendallbald]

Brave man for speaking out ❤️

[@skeliskellington5233]

Absolute brave soul 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@sindyad]

Deepest Condolences. Wishing you a full recovery. You never walk alone❤️

[@syifathree16]

Stay strong brother....

[@Homemadebutterr]

This is so sad. Made me cry!

[@armzbrah6371]

Glad that monster is behind bars for many years and to that young fella that was also the last victim that gave him a good old beat down, good job lad!

[@Rebecca_Bailey]

It’s wild he got arrested though when he was the victim

[@ChristineInNornia]

Daniel I am sending you so much love and support, and I hope doing this interview helps brings you some peace♥️🕊

[@nobodyofknowhere973]

As an indonesian im so sorry for what he did to you. Im sure the people of the world would want to ask some questions

[@orsolyaritter7292]

I am really sorry you had to go through this. Respect for speaking out.......you saved other people from going through this terrible trauma.

[@iriswilliams2266]

YOU ARE A STRONG SURVIVOR AND WISE, FULL OF GOOD COURAGE..YOU ARE A MAN!!! AND NO ONE CAN TAKE THAT FROM YOU. I BELIEVE THIS VIDEO WILL HELP OTHER MEN AND BOYS WHO HAS BEEN VICTIMS TOO, TO COME OUT AND GET HELP AND WILL HEAL FROM SUCH EVIL...THANK YOU..

[@skybluegirl878]

You are so brave to share your story

[@PH_1964]

Thank you for telling your story. I really admire you for helping others. I understand completely. You've found your voice. God bless 🙏 🤗

[@pamelamagdanz7132]

A very brave man.

[@infantrygrunt44]

I wish I could give you a hug there buddy. How vulnerable you mustve felt but I hope time will help you to heal, brother.

[@hamzaker829]

I have a huge respect for you bro for sharing your story, my support 🙏

[@morgenmuffel5747]

Thank you kind sir for your resolve and strength to share this. Your dad has every reason to be proud

[@nellwoo5277]

Thank you so much for sharing... love and peace be with you X

[@jamesdenning1080]

As a survivor I say he is incredibly brave

[@pandorapinebox7817]

So heartbreaking. I have been a victim too but unfortunately no evidence to prove. You pick yourself up and move on. Love to you ❤

[@ashleykristina2964]

I actually had evidence. But the police did nothing, other than laugh in my face. It still boggles my mind the way it was handled. It caused me to lose hope, and I gave up on looking for help from the police. Then I too chose to pick myself up, and move forward! ❤ Love to you as well!

[@ninamasfina]

That's such a powerful story..

[@rhentertainment3941]

Here in America, we would have given him minimum 99 years. You guys need to give longer sentences. People like this should never see the light of day again!

[@frankieperson1275]

Is this a joke?

[@Akutukananu]

I would like to know what state this is in. I have not heard of a life sentence for rape at all in the states and I stay in Louisiana.

[@frankieperson1275]

@@Akutukananu Not any hate to america but didnt they let someone out for sexual assault and let him out after like a few month to then he did it again? no wait thats way too unspecific thats happened on multiple occasions.

[@marvelousmarven7248]

I've heard of life imprisonment been handed to just a few months ago in USA to a man who rape a little girl, the mom caught him and he took the child and left the house before the cop came, when to a gas station bathroom and use bleach to try and get rid of evidence.

[@bm8292]

You are right. The British and Europe are just being naive. Look at the grooming gangs of great Britain and the response of the authorities. Just insane.

[@scrapbookingmuchmore9884]

Good for you no one should be treated meanly no matter who you are!

[@neutonrenda2303]

Seeing you with your dad and hearing him brought tears to my eyes. You are very brave and I'm privileged to have seen your video. Thank you so much for sharing this difficult experience and I truly hope that you are well. ❤️

[@limkelly6003]

Please stay strong, you are not alone

[@Maya_Pinion]

YOU,my dear fellow human being,have nothing to be ashamed of.....❤️

[@OscarBroman]

Daniel u have a heart of gold

[@PsilentThunderer]

Thats a good papa hes got.

[@schemostarminger]

Thank you for not being feel alone. Thank u for sharing youre story.

[@venumadhavyelugam]

Courage that's what it takes to show yourself and be proud mate you've done your part help enlightening the society

[@JeremyWade-z8d]

be strong my man......dont destroy your life

[@katherinemcconnell1531]

….🙏🏻I Think You’re So Brave And Have Helped So Many ~ Thanks For Your Kind Heart And Many Blessings To You🙏🏻….

[@bouncereightyone9337]

Thank you so much for sharing this horrible abuse what happend to you. I feel gratefull for the support you offer for others who might encounter the same. The strenght you have to share this, is admirable. Please give yourself the chance to feel this about yourself too. All my respect, honour and love to you ❤

[@haydenhilton-bruce2333]

Like your father. I am proud that you were brave enough to share your story. I am just one person but I know others would share my thoughts. You being open, honesty and so strong will help others, immensely. Thank you for being so brave to share. Tou are truly a remarkable person.

[@rog3833]

The Voice gives it away.

[@dannybyrne5135]

You brave brave brave amazing human, thank you so much for sharing your story!

[@dean9235]

How can someone convicted of over 140 rapes only be given 40 years? (Originally 30) You can be jailed for life for one rape and yet here is this serial sex offender with a chance of release in forty years when he will be in his seventies! It makes no sense. It is literally 3 months for each rape!

[@Shajogajob]

Same as how the people who did the 44 days in hell crime only got 20. 1 is even out now.

[@wabbitnred3609]

Nothing to be sorry about, ever!

[@ljre3397]

Wow this guy is brave. Just amazing.

[@michellelightlovereiki838]

I want to hug you so bad. You did nothing wrong. I am a victim too. Baier hugs would love to give you a energy healing session.

[@truthking95]

I’m so sorry 😞

[@keyshyia1598]

God be with you for being so strong. As a woman, I agree that assaults on men are not taken serious enough. I’m so thankful for your courage, and giving a insight to the world that it is different for a man than it is for a woman. Man is seen as a persona of strength, courage, and protection. The idea of a man being overpowered by another is act of dominance, but Ray did what he did in cowardice way. I do not believe what happened to Daniel diminishes his manhood at all, but someone taking advantage of someone else unconscious or not is a level of low that no human being should be subjected to.

[@emilysamundarain1044]

que hombre tan valiente , espero de corazón que logre superar esto y sea muy feliz

[@Pie86]

Poor fella, stay strong brother.

[@missplumtree958]

I am sorry for what happened to you.

[@michellelightlovereiki838]

This is awesome. Ty for speaking out. Woman feel the same.

[@luism93g]

you are very strong, i hope you overcome this soon

[@sajedhasan7379]

ive been SA'ed by an elder of my community... i didnt even know what sex was at that time.. and as i get know about it.. i started to blame myself for everything... cuz he even had a family... he youngest son was like my own little brother.... i remember telling him about it... now he also got the trauma.. he doesnt even talk to me anymore like he used to do.. (note: i was 12 and his son was 9 at that time)

[@Rebecutzaaa]

very much respect for this person for speaking up 🙌🏽 !

[@I_Am_Transcendentem]

-Does report sexual assault (labeled as weak and told to man up) -Does not report sexual assault, acts strong (labeled as toxically masculine and told to be more emotionally connected)

[@lindakaiser9042]

U r v precious n courageous thanku sendin lov

[@dawnkavanagh3643]

You are so brave xx

[@vousettebelle9000]

Stay strong and life must go on Brother..God Bless You..😢💪

[@Darknesssss0123]

Hi, I'm Doni, from Indonesia I really don't know what to say, I just want to say: please don't be prejudiced against my country, I know this is wrong, I'm also glad he's being punished for an act that disappointed us so much. I really don't know what to say, please don't judge our country just because of one crazy person😔 ...Dear all

[@erenjinchuriki]

It would be well within his rights if he wanted to be prejudiced against our country. The fact is the rapist *is* from our country. Specifically from Sumatera, the Batak tribe, the Sinaga clan. It’s a disgusting habit for people of our country to sweep things under the rug, play the “no true scotsman” fallacy, and then let evils go unchecked. When all is going well, we’ll gladly claim credit, “oh putra adat...” but whenever shit happens we’ll say, “oh bukan bagian adat kami”. Then without anyone realizing it, there’s a mountain of victims already piled. Do I (or anyone, really) think that every Indonesian/Batak man is like the rapist Sinaga? No. So let’s not make it about us. We are not the victims, we are not the ones who are suffering. Who cares about us losing face or “bikin malu” that I see everywhere. Our so-called shame is NOTHING compared to the pain and suffering of these ACTUAL victims. Why not extend our hearts to the victims instead of making it about us. If we bother mentioning our country, it should be in addressing the issues we have in out society. What enabled people like Sinaga to feel so entitled that he felt he could violate another human being’s rights?

[@zingbliz7085]

Asian gays are cowards , and most of them behaved this way , seen many desperate Filipinos and indo gay guys. They didn't have the balls to tell their families that they are gays.

[@BeckiRogers-r1x]

I think that you are incredible. ❤

[@Kallyn3g1v]

I have been sexually harassed/assaulted by my own relatives many times when I was a kid 😢 I’m in late 20s but still it haunts me they are married settled but my life is ruined I have spent many sleepless nights crying 😢 self harm was normal was me cut my fingers arms with blades and broken glasses then met someone and he turned into an animal had to stay with this monster for 3 years he made my life hell I will just say please keep an eye on your kids talk to them make them feel safe nobody has done that for me I’m even crying now 😢 my life is over but I just wants to say keep your kids safe do not trust anyone i don’t have energy to write anything else it’s just 10% of what happened to me 😢 can’t even talk about the rest 90% I just can’t

[@biancagalvan7570]

We all stand with you brother don’t worry as a man you are still a man and you are so strong fell no shame brother walk free I understand your pain and I’m here with you

[@MistyLarasati]

You are a strong man 🤍

[@bm8292]

Why is that culprit face not being shown, to give him protection, not the victims?

[@deathbunny8322]

Why does it matter.......... this is about the survivor.

[@drrd4127]

He was on the news with CTV footage.

[@AmeliaCC22]

His face is literally everywhere. Just look up Reynard Sinaga.

[@ElizabethHurtado-py8ur]

Don't feel shame, shame is the devil's tool.

[@cathykinn4516]

This Man's Father is Proud of his Son whereas sinaga's father is Ashamed of his son. These People prove Rape affects many Lives, not just the person whose body has been Invaded by a pervert to achieve sexual gratification. I wonder why those who suffer this particular Crime feel shame? For instance, no one subjected to the Crime of robbery feels ashamed. I would tell these Men that they have Every Right to feel Angry & that there is No shame in being rendered helpless & having your Liberty taken away by drugs or someone's superior strength. The Sinaga is a Criminal who had to be stopped. Those he Attacked should not feel ashamed. What happened to them was a Crime. And as Bowie says in 'Heroes' The Shame Is On The Other Side.

[@dorsa2972]

It must have taken a huge load of courage_ which words cannot express_for him to talk and review all those horrible feelings 😞... as a woman I deeply respect your strong mentality and am really sorry for the unfair and inhumane face of violence you've coped with. I wish for you and all victims of hidden or overt abuse all over the world to get recovered from the pressure and inequality you've been through sooner, Stay strong and brave please 🙏🤍

[@trashpandajay69]

I'm glad somewhere has men coming out about this cause this stuff is important to be aware of, but as he said its something that men can't come out with, even if this guy is gay, it still happens in all communities and people need to be aware

[@raymondkymsuttle]

I don’t know why you’d tell people that something so awful when they could go through life never knowing & not having to deal with the trauma. I get that he’d benefit from getting tested for STDs but otherwise, what’s the benefit to the victim?

[@m2kaay]

What pisses me off is Reynhard's internalized racism and self hatred for being gay. He only targeted 'straight' white men says a lot about his psychology. To hate yourself that much?? He'll suffer forever, not just for his crimes but living in his own skin he hates.

[@hadassa-j8b]

Nothing to do with it man, him just going after white people was a matter of his taste, he was only attracted to white men, there's nothing "racism" about it.

[@m2kaay]

@@hadassa-j8b that's racist

[@m2kaay]

Duh

[@hadassa-j8b]

@@m2kaay No, it's a matter of taste, preference. And exactly because he is attracted to white men that you would surely fall victim to him easily.

[@drrd4127]

What are you talking about the rapist was not a white man, he was Asian.

[@mariaoenly2683]

God heal and restorate you🙏🤍🙏

[@pcskeng3607]

Does annoys realise he’s talking about reynhard singha

[@kuitaranheatmorus9932]

Very sad,but gald he spoke up about it,cause it's such a tragic experience that no on should have to go threw.

[@medintasadafebe4341]

Full link please? I cant access bbc in my country

[@TempleovVenusGenetrix]

I got sexually assaulted at a festival where I was praying for peace. I was drugged and raped so bad I got bacterial meningitis and lost my teeth. Then I came to this city where I got assaulted at a concert and at work and went to emergency room and was cuffed to a bed and molested and punched and terrorized by the staff and then sent to a mental hospital to clean up their abuse and then after the bruises were gone my husnand was allowed to see me and I went back to work only to be assaulted by transgenders at work and quit. They don't respect women in this country or kids. The police terrorize women for turning people in to police and scream at them and they need to lose their badge. How do I get staff at hospital and military rapists and predators arrested?

[@chrisc.9627]

🏆 Great Price Of The Bravest Man Of The World 🎖 That he's lived Was HORRIBLE but have the guts to publicly witness, it takes huge big balls. ⚽️⚽️. Regards

[@donnablackman3954]

You are strong it doesnt matter what sex you are rape is rape take care of you ♥️

[@kennetharrington2787]

Stop the music. Overkill

[@Allpachinovich]

I hope Reynhard Sinaga becomes the belle of the ball in prison.

[@Rebecca_Bailey]

Oh Daniel you’re incredible brave for speaking out, I’m glad you have a supportive family and community with you to get you through this 🩷

[@justaguywithoutaprofilepicture]

This video may not get taken down but mama max video gets taken down in minutes

[@anthonysimonnorton7847]

Surely you can’t call this catching a predator because of Chris Hansons show in America? Oh sorry my bad though Boris had given away every right we had in this country. On a serious note this is awful and I’m so sorry, but as a gay man, thank you for spreading awareness xx

[@yourecool2719]

No one is talking about this KZbin is full of stories always showing women being sexually assaulted, but not men no matter what sentence you type.

[@alexanderrenz7923]

😢

[@Assistavideos]

The victims have to take courage and report this damn thing, I think it's incredible, it's rubbish, which claims to be from a Christian family, this is rubbish that was imported to England.