Back in the day when I was dating (60s) the first date was a kind of formal restaurant dinner. He wore suit and tie and I had a very short dress......Second date ended up being a walk with his mother's dog and we talked and talked and kissed kissed kissed....kissed kissed....finally the dog walked us home Third date we decided to be together forever! That was 54 years ago and yes, we are still together.
@JustaBritAbroad3 жыл бұрын
Wow! What a story - three steps to a lifelong partnership, I'm impressed!!🤩 interesting also to hear how the dating culture has changed. I mean, you dont hear of that many Swedes going on a first date to a formal restaurant these days! interesting. Perhaps its got less formal as time has gone on?
@Strasstass3 жыл бұрын
@@JustaBritAbroad oh yes! Nowadays it is not at all as it was when I was young! But the 60s brought a big culture change to all teenagers all over the world, I think. Thanks to British pop music/art/fashion/film.....Rolling Stones, Beatles, Mersey sound.....but as for dating we were still rather conservative/formal. Of course, as always, it was a difference between countryside and cities.
@jensrbuddrich32202 жыл бұрын
Hi how are you doing today it's nice to meet you, if you don't mind I hope we can have a private conversation❤️🌹
@jensrbuddrich32202 жыл бұрын
Can we talk privately? It's nice to meet you
@maja62062 жыл бұрын
That's so sweet!
@rasmuswi3 жыл бұрын
A very classic Swedish "date" is the one where you're at a party and become incredibly drunk, then end up in bed with someone equally drunk. I had a colleague who had woken up in bed with a girl the morning after a party, and neither he nor she remembered anything about how they had ended up there. They had been together for four years when he told the story.
@familyupgrade3 жыл бұрын
That was my thought to. You go out, get drunk-ish, find a sexual interest, follow them home, get laid, go home. Sometimes you stay, but mostly you dont.
@cynic70493 жыл бұрын
That is not a date that happens before the first date. It varies quite a lot but this is the probably the most common development of a Swedish relationship. 1-Have drunk sex 2-Date 3-Move in together Optional: get children, get married You can have both, none or either of the optional in any order.
@johanhalvarsson21483 жыл бұрын
@@cynic7049 while technically true for the most part, when I was young (some 20 years ago) noone ever dated per se. One just made sure to get to a get together with the person you fancied and tried to talk to them and hope it would escalate from there. Liquid confidence often helps 😬
@Mrs_xixi2 жыл бұрын
😂😂
@bosse19983 жыл бұрын
Dating in Sweden and UK is a huge difference! In Sweden no courtship. In England a lot of courtship.
@magkliarn3 жыл бұрын
My American friend came up with the "Swedish woman theorem" in which he concluded that since Swedish women tend to be open and inviting to new people, it is impossible to know from the first few interactions whether they are romantically interested in you. Therefore the concept of dating can be daunting and quite exhausting. Is this something you have encountered?
@JohannesYtterstrom3 жыл бұрын
It is very true that Swedes in general take "kissing" as much more personal experience. Not something you do with just anyone or try after an average date. It might an advantage coming from a country where that is a more natural step. Swedes can be quite clueless about these things. I remember chatting with a girl for a long time. Really get to know her the "internet-way". Chat everyday and on some levels knowning her on a deeper level. Which can get very weird when I'd never even talked to her. Chatting someone and meeting them can be very different. I suggest talking on the phone or having videoconversations a few times first for younger who might read this. Anyway. I remember seeing her in the subway and wanting to hug her as a welcome but she was quite shy and didn't want it. I saw that of a sign that she wasn't very interested. The rest of the date was horrible. I am not sure how big difference a hug in the beginning would have made but it did make me feel strange not to. I think Swedes in general would feel better if we were a bit more "close". Many might like that famous "know your distance"-thinking but not everyone. I know I am quite sick of it. Getting a compliment, more hugs and such would brighten my day... For sure!
@zumzume2 ай бұрын
Its way too complicated. I lost hope for dating apps. Anybody can give an advice where serious people can meet outside their phones/computers(Jkp)?
@attesmatte3 жыл бұрын
Yup, dog walks/long walks and fika have been my favorite first/second date activities. Third/fourth dates usually involved cooking at home or pizza and a whole lot of talking... And other stuff... 😜 (If the mood was right. 😁) Now I'm ten years into the best relationship ever, so I frankly hope I never have to date ever again. ❤️
@JustaBritAbroad3 жыл бұрын
aww how sweet Sara! and to think, it all starts with a dog walk🤩 clearly your approach to dating is tried and tested!! 10 years later, it worked for you at least😅
@attesmatte3 жыл бұрын
@@JustaBritAbroad Lol, right!? 😂 Just follow my example, and it will turn out awesome. 😜 😂
@JustaBritAbroad3 жыл бұрын
@@attesmatte now I know where to come for all of my life advice needs😆
@attesmatte3 жыл бұрын
@@JustaBritAbroad 😂 😂
@jensrbuddrich32202 жыл бұрын
Hi sara how are you doing today it's nice to meet you, if you don't mind I hope we can have a private conversation❤️🌹
@Oldcarsandstuffsweden76453 жыл бұрын
A tip, marchmallow o pankakes on an open bonnfire its NOT a Swedish thing to do. I suggest just looking into the fire and open up a bit about yourself. And try to listen and no bragging. Ds
@michaelmay54533 жыл бұрын
You people are weird.... Back in my day we just woke up together and had no idea how that happened.
@Jony51733 жыл бұрын
I took the whole bill on a dinner date recently and the guy (he’s Swedish) was noticeably uncomfortable with this. He swished me back immediately. So there’s still some stigma about women paying, even here. :)
@hannayoung96573 жыл бұрын
Nah some people dont like having other people pay for them. I try to pay for my friends dinner and they refuse too.
@Jony51733 жыл бұрын
@@hannayoung9657 yeah, and I totally get that :)
@JustaBritAbroad3 жыл бұрын
oh really? interesting! did he swish for the whole thiing or just his half?
@deaodaggi3 жыл бұрын
But he paid only half back? Not the whole sum... or?
@JustaBritAbroad3 жыл бұрын
@@hannayoung9657 yeah good point, some people feel more comfortable paying for themselves, which is fair enough really!
@sandwichmaker85503 жыл бұрын
when you meet someone for the first time always handshake except if you're insanely drunk. But it's alright to give a hug when you say goodbye after the first meeting. But read the mood
@jensrbuddrich32202 жыл бұрын
Hi sweet how are you doing today it's nice to meet you, if you don't mind I hope we can have a private conversation❤️🌹
@sandwichmaker85502 жыл бұрын
@@jensrbuddrich3220 hello I'm great, hbu? Though no I don't want s private conversation
@lindaallgen76513 жыл бұрын
As a Swedish single mom new to the dating world after being in a relationship for 12 years I appreciate when he takes the bill, but I always make the gesture of pulling up my wallet and offer to pay for my part of it. From my experience it's probably easier to pick someone up at the bar or as we swedes call it krogen. I have found it hard to make connections though since I became single and all the dating apps that you have these days aren't making it easier either the opposite in my experience. But I prefer dates that are in a public place so that you can get to know the person and feel each other out if there might be any chemistry.
@wasimmumtaz97313 жыл бұрын
Please can i asked one question
@animelplanet44342 жыл бұрын
😊
@jonahhex96202 жыл бұрын
Hope your dating experiences improve
@Rory695 Жыл бұрын
single mom after 12 years? wtf are u doing? go back to your man and bring your family back together, the grass isnt any greener on the other side
@kanaler59245 ай бұрын
I appreciate when you tell your boss to give your payrise to a man so he can pay for women on first dates.
@annicaselberg31583 жыл бұрын
If you split the bill you are not dating in my opinion, just eating like mates. It's like being invited to a dinner at someones home and then expects to pay half.
@JustaBritAbroad3 жыл бұрын
haha interesting comparison!
@smalm863 жыл бұрын
Guess me and my (now) husband never went on a real date then haha.
@annicaselberg31583 жыл бұрын
@@smalm86 Then whats the different between a date and other persons you happen to eat with? None. So why call some meals dating? I don't get it.
@smalm863 жыл бұрын
@@annicaselberg3158 the romantic interest? Like, with my husband it was a date because we named it a date. Because we liked eachother more than as just friends.
@annicaselberg31583 жыл бұрын
@@smalm86 Yes I guess for me a date is more of a concept than an intention :) Have a great life with your guy!
@kerstingrundstrom92452 жыл бұрын
Never been kayak or skiing, skating on a first date. But it's a way to check if you have an interest in common....
@herkcollins42633 жыл бұрын
So.... this is about round 5, maybe 6 or 7 of how my Swedish boyfriend is not very Swede-like. I've lost count hahaha. My Per, though a natural born Swede, hates the outdoors LOL. On a date, Per would prefer to get sushi as takeout and go back to the apartment to eat it and watch a movie. While a walk would be acceptable for him, it would only be as an excuse to hold hands on the way to the restaurant. Otherwise, he would rather take the car. However, he does like the beach in summer now since he conquered his fear of the water, but goes often to the car to be inside for a bit as well. No hiking, camping, or strolling through the woods for Per, that's just not his cup of tea , tea being operative because of course you remember that Per hates coffee. The perfect date for Per would be for us to stay home and I cook, then snog and cuddle while watching tv.
@draug79663 жыл бұрын
I think this thing about swedes being so outdoorsy is a bit exaggerated, i would say most swedes are up for a walk but more advanced hiking, camping and stuff like that is not necessarily super common here. But idk about other countries, maybe we are more outdoorsy on average than many other nationalities. The pandemic has certainly made more people going hiking it seems.
@karinelfwing90953 жыл бұрын
@@draug7966 Maybe a stereotype but I feel our neigbors in Norway are more outdoorsy stuff like "hiking" and so on. Of course the "friluftsmänniskorna" in Sweden love too. It could just be that most of the swedish friends and acquiantances that this brit abroad has happen to be "friluftsmänniskor".
@herkcollins42633 жыл бұрын
@@draug7966 Yeah, I can see that. It's funny though because we have this running kind of joke here on the channel that my boyfriend isn't very Swedish because of the stereotypes of all Swedish people loving coffee and that king of thing hahaha. If it's something you hear that Swedish people like or do, you can bet that he doesn't LOL. At least it was good for those who do like to be out in nature that they weren't all told they had to stay inside almost all the time like America did. I'm inside a lot anyway though, so it's just another thing Per and I share hahahaha
@zumzume2 ай бұрын
He sounds lazy and boring
@fernandobautista3200 Жыл бұрын
very good insights, massive thanks bro.
@EterPuralis3 жыл бұрын
We're not all on board with the outdoors, you just won't meet us because we're inside.
@Ikajo3 жыл бұрын
Yep. I'm not an outdoor person at all. It just tires me out.
@carltoncuff52663 жыл бұрын
Swedish woman are very direct I went out with one for 2 years but I live in London and she lived in malmo so we used to travel to London and malmo I know Sweden very well she wanted to stay in Sweden and I have a very good job in London so I could not leave so we broke up we are in contact again I we both love each other so I am thinking about moving to Sweden
@amiquigonzales79172 жыл бұрын
Sooooo useful, thank you!!!
@zumzume2 ай бұрын
Swedes like to question you like on a job interview…the best question that killed me twice was “is that all you gonna be or are you gonna aim for more with your specialty”. Im saving lives and Im fluffin happy.
@patriciamartin67562 жыл бұрын
MySwedish man is very laid back until he gets road rage and shouts in flawless English what the other driver can do to himself while he flips them the bird
@sh49695 ай бұрын
I've always liked it simple when it comes to a date no pressure, plus I hate spending money unless I have too.
@Daniel.Axelsson2 жыл бұрын
I'm Swedish and live in Värmland, and yeah you're pretty much spot on, though the outdoorsy part might be a bit exaggerated it's still a good point. And actually I've never dated in Sweden either cause I have a habit of only falling for women living in other continents LOL I don't know what I would do without the existence of internet 😂
@Tropicalbreeze002 жыл бұрын
Haha how has it been going so far budd? Also whats your favorite country to meet potential mates? I've also come to the point on putting the brakes on American girls and trying other cultures like Sweden for example.
@Daniel.Axelsson2 жыл бұрын
@@Tropicalbreeze00 haha happy you asked and I think there are many wonderful women in all cultures and countries, however I do agree with you and personally, since you asked, I'm getting lots of attention both on the web and IRL, even though I haven't entered any new relationship since I don't feel ready for it quite yet (quite recently divorced) and I haven't been active on any dating site for a year cause I'm now in a situation where I need less options, not more LOL I'm so much into Asian women in general and Filipinas in particular so I always end up falling for one of them no matter what site I tried haha Regarding Swedish women... I'm always happy to hear people from far away showing interest in my own country and culture, however my point of view in this case is not the same as yours so you would probably get a more accurate answer from another American man like yourself. But here are my 5 cents... Swedish women are in general used to often getting their way in society as a whole and in the social life. Sometimes it can be too much even for me as a Swedish man who grew up here. But of course not all Swedish women are like bossy bullies and yeah some men like and even prefer strong women with attitude (I can be somewhat submissive towards women so I like that a little LOL). Oh and I often hear Swedish women are so beautiful and I guess they are but I'm so used to seeing them and I'm mostly attracted to unfamiliar and "exotic" cultures, especially when it comes to food and women haha I hear we Swedish men are handsome too so I guess it's maybe due the cold air up here in the North (joking) Take care out there and good luck with everything 😄
@Daniel.Axelsson2 жыл бұрын
Oh and I should add, since it's quite relevant information, that my exwife is not Swedish, she is Egyptian.
@sofiakatelyn Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing. I'm thinking about perhaps moving to Sweden this summer and I'm a but unsure about social life there
@Daniel.Axelsson Жыл бұрын
@@sofiakatelyn you're welcome. And welcome to Sweden in advance if you will move here :) the 99% of the country that doesn't feature in the global news is a peaceful and serene place, there are many advantages that I probably take more or less for granted but that I'm grateful for. Social life in Sweden can be a turn off for some, but with so many people from other nationalities, you would sure find social people among them and among the fairly large group of Swedes who are more social than the average :)
@jokervienna64333 жыл бұрын
Sidenote: even before Swish it was common for women to pay for themselves (I am born -70). Equal society. Otherwise, fika, a small picnic or a walk are great as a start. If she is interested, she will keep in touch (be aware of the friend zone though). If she is really interested, she might take the initiative - might be important for folks from other countries to know. Equal society again.
@Itzawilly3 жыл бұрын
Well, even the vikings had a kinda gender -"fair" society, atleast for it's time. Even if we kinda had a "darkage" on that matter when we'd became christian I guess. But now we are one of the most atheist countries in the world
@cynic70493 жыл бұрын
@W W Well, not equal but more than most. The wife was always no 2 after her husband. But if you are running a large estate with a few hundreds of staff, to be second in command isn't a bad deal. And excavating graves had shown that unlike in many other parts of the World Scandinavian females during the Viking age were only malnourished when the males also where.
@Nightraven26 Жыл бұрын
Do Swedish have "friends with benefits" or is that more of an American thing?
@jokervienna6433 Жыл бұрын
@@Nightraven26 it definitely exists in Sweden, but I guess it is more a question of generation? Still perhaps not? I guess there are young folks everywhere that want to live a very traditional life and others that are more open.
@lindatisue7333 жыл бұрын
I do not think men should "have to pay" but "Pay for your own..." not so great when there is an large income discrepancy or you don't want to spend money on an activity. Not dating but my inlaws don't think twice about spending 1,000 SEK per person at a restaurant. Just bought an apartment, have lots of things to buy. I just don't think it is worth it so when we travel with them it is either not go or spend a lot more than I fell comfortable with. In S. Korea the one who invites pays, then a guest never has to say "I can't afford it"
@bleachedout8052 жыл бұрын
Just don't go to places you can't afford. Simple. I pay for my own meals even if a guy invites me out because I don't like that most men see that as an investment into earning sexual favors in the US.
@jensrbuddrich32202 жыл бұрын
Hi sweet how are you doing today it's nice to meet you, if you don't mind I hope we can have a private conversation❤️🌹
@Medietos2 жыл бұрын
@@bleachedout805 Oh, do the men see it as investing for sexual contact later? Not to value and celebrate the woman? Maybe it differs. Hopefully.
@bobanderson66562 жыл бұрын
@@bleachedout805 You're painting with an awfully broad brush. That was never my attitude, nor any of my friends. We all had terrific gfs when single and are all in 20+ year marriages now. I guess I ran with a crowd that knew how to treat women.
@kanaler59245 ай бұрын
@@Medietosvalue and celebrate women? 😂 are you going to pay for and celebrate and value men?
@nylonpython2 жыл бұрын
The strangest thing you've said in this entire video is that Swedes roast Pancakes on a Camp Fire. That sounds like a really good way to ruin your pancakes.
@melisacai19922 жыл бұрын
I'm glad I wasn't the only one thinking that. 😂
@Droglakahn2 жыл бұрын
We invented them so...never.
@Chisszaru3 жыл бұрын
I'm single and as a Swedish 22 year old, somewhat overweight guy with the weirdest sense of humor, it's not easy dating or finding love. I weigh around 116-120 kg, so i'm not a small guy, and i can be a bit loud. I can be a bit rude too, but that's only on social media and on KZbin. Most people who've talked to me in person says i'm a really darn nice guy with lots of brain, meaning i'm way smarter than i look. I see myself as the bad guy in most cases, but my friends and family might disagree. I gotta admit, i'm not really into dating or wanting love really. I honestly only want to be in a relationship where there's an understanding and mutual respect. I don't really know what i want in a relationship to be honest. The longest relationship i've been in lasted around one year and i was in a relationship with the same person twice. Still don't know what i want in a relationship though. Still. Life isn't that bad as i thought it would be, but as i'm a communal worker in southern Sweden, i don't earn much. How i'm even able to pay my taxes at all is beyond me, so i don't excpect many to find me as a good partner. I don't care if i'm in a relationship with a woman or another man, as long as they're my age. No one wants me anyway. I wouldn't count on it. That's just me being too hurt too many times
@iamlola2 жыл бұрын
Feeling pain is part of growing up and becoming your best version. If you don't like your weight, do some activities and maybe that will give you some confidence. There's always someone out there for us. I had different partners and only recently I found the right one for me. Give yourself time to heal and know yourself a bit better. Find some hobbies, travel outside of Sweden, get some certificates to find other jobs... become the guy that you dream to be. Girls love a confident man, some us don't run after money or body image. So, heal, take care of yourself and love yourself because you don't nobody will do it for you. Hugging you 🫂
@marcelia6577 Жыл бұрын
Hej... U are beautiful what u are darling ❤
@jojo5107 Жыл бұрын
I went out with a Swedish guy here in the US, he always paid for the meals and he gave the best massages ☺️ I think I'd prefer dating English speaking natives as their values and mindset is more gentlemen and chivalrous which is romantic and beautiful. I'd also prefer German guys as they are honest, direct and trustworthy.
@transfemme5749 Жыл бұрын
“Massages”?
@kanaler59245 ай бұрын
And you want men to get higher salaries then women right
@nayamarievelazco87699 ай бұрын
Can’t wait ❤
@matreyiaАй бұрын
Thank you for clarifying, "...not dated yourself"... I started a panic attack then you clarified.
@tobiasandersson91583 жыл бұрын
you heard "cup of tea" when you go home and only have sex.
@aslsahin60633 жыл бұрын
Video I have been waiting for!
@JustaBritAbroad3 жыл бұрын
hehe yaaaay! I hope it didn't disappoint Asli!
@patriciamartin67562 жыл бұрын
There even funnier when they get really drunk and their J's turn into Y's
@preciouskalista27713 жыл бұрын
OMG!! Am loving Sweden each and everyday and I always wish to move there... how can I get a Swedish boyfriend??
@Landofsensi3 жыл бұрын
Step one, move to Sweden, step 2, join social groups, step 3, collect the attention, step 4 chose.
@bleachedout8052 жыл бұрын
@@Landofsensi 🤣🤣🤣
@animelplanet44342 жыл бұрын
Hi😊
@periswairimu71452 жыл бұрын
Hi I need a Sweden boyfriend will I get one??
@pelejobe62412 жыл бұрын
am available
@stiglarsson84053 жыл бұрын
You have juste touhched a very importante part about dating in sweden! But I can only refer to that as a male!! And it goes like this.. if one got a date, its only becuse she want to know you, se if there are some comon thaugts that could be explored. And another difficult part as a male on dating, its to take the whole bill after a date! I dont know, but I have some thoghts about it, and it goes like this.. your not gonna make any expression on them, becuse they are equal and can pay for there own dating expenditures! Its more like, seperat bills or cut the bill in two.. and its about equalty and independens. At first, you alredy know a bit of swedish independancy thing.. everyone pay to be independant.. its this, they dont own you nothing. And that goes for dating altso, we split the bill, and if one ask fore another date, we still split the bill, till we get a couple, then we split the rent and other things, like the rent and household dutyes!
@malinandtom3 жыл бұрын
Perfect date for a Swede? Trip to Ikea, a biltemakorv, and Lindahls on the way home for a weinerbröd. Thank me later!
@Droglakahn2 жыл бұрын
Its Biltemakörv.
@finianlacy8827 Жыл бұрын
EQUAL SOCIETY ???? GIMME A BREAK !! THAT'S MORE TO DO WITH ISLAMIC IMMIGRATION
@williamburns42472 жыл бұрын
The best line to me personally from a young Swedish woman date was "do you want to have sex or not"
@Medietos2 жыл бұрын
What a sad line and how sad you found it good
@itsDjjayyArt2 жыл бұрын
Wow there that open 😺😺😺
@flingan75122 жыл бұрын
I love your Chanel:)
@JustaBritAbroad2 жыл бұрын
Thanks Malin!!
@angelosliotscos84052 жыл бұрын
Why are all the Swedish females dating black men in this video ? Just asking.
@TheFolcred Жыл бұрын
Barely any swedish women dates black people, it's just when you look at social media you see it. Quiet pathetic really
@niclasjohansson433310 ай бұрын
Because Swedish women are taught from childhood that they are to good for Swedish men, and that they themself and black men are superiour to everybody else!
@johnharkness23422 ай бұрын
I remember back in 1990 during the World Cup I saw a 6 foot Swedish girl with an African in Glasgow and everybody was pointing and sniggering at them the girl was very uncomfortable
@bosse19983 жыл бұрын
What do you prefer? English or Swedish girls?
@alexnordh2 жыл бұрын
I dont date and thanks for reminding me why.
@swededude19923 жыл бұрын
In Sweden you can date forever and not get anything for/from it.
@zahrahroa15503 жыл бұрын
Sounds good lmao
@Medietos2 жыл бұрын
Man måste vara genomtänkt vem man är, vad man kan bidra med i en relation,och vad man söker /behöver hos den andre för att trivas. Göra obduktion på siina tidoigare relationer. Inte slarva och förhasta sig. Månge beter sig som om lovet vore oändligt, har ingen (själv)disciplin och visioner, söker på måfå. Föga chans att finna den rätte då.Och det svåra är att vi måste förberda oss, bygga upp oss så att vi kan attrahera och matcha, passa med en som vi vill ha och tillbringa livet med och som vill ha och älska oss..
@Medietos2 жыл бұрын
What do you think one ought to get from it? Weren't they nice? And did they themselves give anything? Many want to get without giving.
@GabyArgentina2 жыл бұрын
Swedish men are 🔥🔥🔥
@Droglakahn2 жыл бұрын
So you have seen me? ;)
@charlottenilsson3820 Жыл бұрын
In Sweden we prefer getting to the message directly. Cut the beginning
@wendajones90403 жыл бұрын
A question for you! Growing up in the UK we never had kissing on both cheeks, only on one cheek. When did the kissing on both cheeks start?
@linusfotograf3 жыл бұрын
He said Italians and the French do that, no? And that Brits do it on one cheek.
@wendajones90403 жыл бұрын
@@linusfotograf I’ve noticed on recent British tv shows and films that the 2 cheek kisses have made their entrance! (I’ll listen again to what he said!)
@wendajones90403 жыл бұрын
@@linusfotograf Yes, you're right. He did say that Brits only kiss on one cheek which is what I've experienced growing up in the UK. However, like I said there is a lot of 2 cheek kissing in British TV shows now. Maybe a class thing! (Jag bor i Sverige sen många år tillbaka.)
@linusfotograf3 жыл бұрын
@@wendajones9040 Jag har bara upplevt en enda gång att någon har kysst mig på kinderna. Det var i Tjeckien!
@johnnycage83278 ай бұрын
Kissing cheeks is very common around the world. It's more common than not. Northern europeans are the odd ones in almost everythig related to social codes and gestures.
@jneill3 жыл бұрын
I hope we never go back to hugging as a default greeting post-pandemic.
@soulextracter3 жыл бұрын
Right! I can't even tell you how many awkward hugs I've had with people..
@espnoberg61303 жыл бұрын
Hugging is my favourite greeting and I’m looking forward to start hugging people again… It signals that we are comfortable with each other and eases the tension a bit. Though if I don’t want to hug someone I’ll just not go to close in the beginning, staying at least 1,5 metres away.
@soulextracter3 жыл бұрын
@@espnoberg6130 It's not the actual hug that is bad for me, it's the awkwardness when one of us goes in for a hug and the other one goes in for a handshake. I stopped hugging my girlfriend's dad because of that. Now I just stand as far away from everyone as possible when we say hello or goodbye.
@PowerSpirit503 жыл бұрын
Hugs are a big contributor for my better-than-it-could've-been mental health.
@soulextracter3 жыл бұрын
@@PowerSpirit50 In that case you should keep doing it. Another tip is to take walks among trees. That is also good for your mental state.
@Mangotheman-u5x7 ай бұрын
When you see Swedish movies in Netflix for example you dont get the impression that all Swedes are "stereotypical". They brake laws, cheat, booze up, and get into fights. Maybe all those movies are just wishful thinking of a lifesyle they would prefer. My son dates a Swedish girl and she was loud and feisty.
@nickschalin65943 жыл бұрын
Dating in Sweden back in the 80s and 90s was much easier. Chinese buffet and a stor stark or white wine. Just saying.😁
@Medietos2 жыл бұрын
NIck Schalin: Did you invite her out?
@nickschalin65942 жыл бұрын
@@Medietos it was common to go dutch, but depending on the situation how you met, sue i would invite sometimes.
@Medietos2 жыл бұрын
@@nickschalin6594 -Go dutch, meaning?Never headrrif the term.
@nickschalin65942 жыл бұрын
@@Medietos split the bill from dinner.
@TrotzenfeldtАй бұрын
Well, if a Swedish woman goes on a date with a non-Swedish guy, him opening the door is considered exotic and welcome.
@janedexter2869 Жыл бұрын
Maybe I am talking about the old days but I remember when the man would be very attentive during a meal and start almost.feeding one like child. Non swedes reported this also which made them feel incomfortable.
@johannesne8254 Жыл бұрын
in my opinion all sounds good only point one which i find not so good. I think i copy it to the dates in Germany now.
@faithgitau7802 жыл бұрын
Interested to date a swedish
@MusicByAllonaMayost3 жыл бұрын
When would Swedes find it appropriate to kiss on a date?
@JustaBritAbroad3 жыл бұрын
interesting question! I guess its best I leave this one for a Swedish viewer to answer, but my thoughts would be that its completely individual. I'm sure there would be some Swedes who would be comfortable doing it from date 1, and others who maybe want to wait until the 2nd or 3rd. So I guess its just a case of feeling the room - seeing how the other person is responding and using that as a guide! Swedish viewers, what do you guys think?!
@attesmatte3 жыл бұрын
That's an impossible question to answer really. 😜 "When it feels right" is probably the best answer I can come up with. 😁
@Jony51733 жыл бұрын
In my opinion and experience Swedes are not very prude (quite the opposite) but are not very comfortable with talking about feelings. So to kiss or even shag on a first date is fairly normal but to discuss how we feel and really open up to someone can take months! (I generalise and I don’t speak for all Swedes, of course!!)
@JustaBritAbroad3 жыл бұрын
@@attesmatte glad I wasn't the only one that reached this conclusion Sara haha
@JustaBritAbroad3 жыл бұрын
@@Jony5173 interesting observation Johanna! I'd never thought about that before!
@kentandersson2048 Жыл бұрын
Wow
@mrm.57873 жыл бұрын
This was ways in Sweden in the 70’s and 80’s as well.
@flyfly5172 Жыл бұрын
Splitting the bill would be the point for me to not date a swede. It may sounds entitled but if you are invited and than you have to pay sounds rude to me. It's also an act of manner.
@lisso71 Жыл бұрын
What do you mean with "invited"? To me a date would be that both agree on doing something or going somewhere. Not that one is "inviting" the other...
@bleachedout8052 жыл бұрын
If I like them than I will hug them but if I don't I won't. I only hug men I plan on sleeping with. I don't even hug my brothers.
@Medietos2 жыл бұрын
I hug those I feel human connection with or sympathy for, or have fun with. I don't want to hug instead of having contact, the hug is the expression of contact.
@stephensav2728 Жыл бұрын
Gee I don't know about dating in Sweden all the outdoors stuff loses me at once . I could not stand it ohhh ...hmm it's a very strange dating culture that's for sure .I think it would be just to hard.