Swedish Death Cleaning and Organizing for Dying

If you have sorted through the belongings of a loved one who passed away, first of all, I'm very sorry for your loss. Secondly, you know what an overwhelming task it can be.
But it doesn't have to be that way for your loved ones when you pass away.
Swedish Death Cleaning is a gift you give your loved ones who will sort through your belongings after you die. The idea is... YOU sort through your things BEFORE you die so your loved ones don't experience the same overwhelm. I'll do a video on Swedish Death Cleaning in more detail so watch for that.
The other gift you give your loved ones is ‪@thenokbox‬. As written in their KZbin description...
"A Nokbox is simple: it’s an organizational system that helps your Next of Kin (NOK) avoid a scavenger hunt through your files, phone, home, possessions, computer, and paperwork once you have passed away."
I was surprised how easy it was to set up. They really thought of everything!
As I mentioned, I'm posting an affiliate link to the Nokbox.
www.thenokbox.com/GWEN65043
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Hi friends,
I'm Gwen Rutz, married to my high school sweetheart Troy and we have 2 married sons and 8 grandkids. I love being a wife, mom, and Nina (my grandma name - it's the current thing right?) 😉
This channel is devoted to helping women over 50 reset their lives and find purpose in this amazing season.
I served as Lead Pastor for 12 years before retiring from pastoral ministry. I speak at churches, women's meetings, and outdoor archery events using every opportunity to share the love of Jesus.
Thank you for getting this far in the description! 🙌🏼 I love you for it! 😁

[@denisebrown3834]

Sounds good. My father had an exercise book where he had everything thing listed that we needed to know, including phone numbers to ring to cancel things, etc. It had his plan for his funeral with all details included. He had been a list maker all his life and this book made winding up his affairs so much easier.

[@resetyourlifewithgwen]

What a blessing! I assume he kept it updated then? That is sometimes the issue. A plan is made but not updated. Your father left you a true gift.

[@MsArtistwannabe]

I had to take care of my mother’s stuff after she passed. Twenty years before she passed she showed me her little strong box and all the papers that were important. She never updated it. Nightmare. She was a hoarder.

[@resetyourlifewithgwen]

@@MsArtistwannabe oh that does sound difficult.

[@mountaingarden8823]

That is exactly what I am dealing with right now. My mom died last month, was very vocal about how she wanted things to happen after her death but didn’t put anything in place to help us make it happen. So now I’m heartbroken with piles of things to go through. 😢

[@resetyourlifewithgwen]

@@mountaingarden8823 I am so sorry for your loss and the struggle of handling her possessions as you grieve. I am hearing more and more stories just like yours. It is heartbreaking in so many ways. My condolences to you.

[@Iinfiniteknowing]

Clearing out my parents home of 60 yrs took me 2 yrs.after 40 hr weeks at a stressful job plus,2 vacation times(took no vacation for two yrs). EXHAUSTED

[@resetyourlifewithgwen]

Wow. I can imagine what a big job 60 years worth was. I have no doubt that was very exhausting.

[@lisamonalisahikes]

I have cleared out loved ones items and that alone has made me more diligent in decluttering my own space so others don’t have that struggle.

[@resetyourlifewithgwen]

@@lisamonalisahikes my parents sorted through their parents’ things and it motivated them to sort through their own so we wouldn’t have the struggle some day. Aside from doing it for our kids, we just prefer to have less stuff to manage.

[@allisonspeer649]

Really good video, we all should prepare so we are not a royal pain to our children when we pass. I have not heard of this specifically but will check into it.

[@resetyourlifewithgwen]

Thank you for watching and for your kind words! I appreciate you!

[@ycannon100]

I am in my 50’s as well and it’s nice to know that I am not the only person who thinks this way. I have been going through my stuff like crazy because I don’t want my children to have to deal with any of that after I am gone. It hurt me so deeply to go through my parents stuff and they passed away one month apart and to this day I am still struggling with it.

[@resetyourlifewithgwen]

That would be terribly difficult. Your being proactive about your belongings is a gift to your children.

[@Iinfiniteknowing]

I became a Minimalist and put my bank accounts in trust for my son.he can do whatever with my remaining stuff which isn't much.money is best for him

[@resetyourlifewithgwen]

I have moved to minimalism as well. Your being intentional is a blessing to your son.

[@sevenschmidts]

Our homeschool forum had a great discussion about the Nokbox, and then your youtube showed up in my side bar! Thank you for explaining the contents so well!

[@resetyourlifewithgwen]

@@sevenschmidts you’re welcome! Thank you for watching! I’m glad the video showed up! It’s an incredibly detailed system and easy to use!

[@Laurel-h6c]

Weare just moving to a retirement community and the idea of a NOK box is very helpful. Thank you

[@resetyourlifewithgwen]

I'm so glad it helps. I appreciate your comment!

[@user-kk9lt2ws6n]

So true! I helped a friend empty her house after two years because she couldn’t cope with the process

[@resetyourlifewithgwen]

It can be daunting. You're a good friend to lend a hand. 😊

[@jolenepulse1949]

Such a great idea!

[@resetyourlifewithgwen]

And it's not complicated. Just take it one step at a time. 😊

[@dianah.2684]

Most helpful. Thanks so so much.

[@resetyourlifewithgwen]

@@dianah.2684 I’m glad it helps. Thank you for letting me know! 😊

[@carmenbryan5174]

Good morning I just found your video and I have subscribed because I like your work have a great week I’m looking forward to more content 👍🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧❤️❤️❤️

[@resetyourlifewithgwen]

Thank you! I'm glad you like it. I appreciate you!

[@ruthhinnenkamp6754]

Hi Gwen - your channel just popped up. Probably because I love love love decluttering channels. The NOK box looks great. I already have a file cabinet that I have made folders like those. But I like the fact that the NOK has the description papers! I'll have to check that out. So - it's really fire proof? Because it doesn't look like a metal type of box. Fire proof is what I need. Or a safe - hahaha. I have gotten rid of a lot of my possessions. But paper is my nemesis. Ugh. If there is a flat surface.....it just attracts clutter. Happy 4th of July.

[@resetyourlifewithgwen]

Thank you so much for watching! The website says it's fireproof. It's a soft-side box that has a coating on it. I believe that's what makes it fireproof. I looked at other options online but the ones I looked at didn't have the metal rack. The rack enables the hanging folders to move easily. The description papers make the system GOLD in my opinion. Paper is my nemesis, as well. I talk about that in one of my other videos. I have to be super intentional with papers. Lol. I hope you're having a festive 4th! I appreciate your comment! Thank you!

[@mahlemade]

I’m in the process of creating “My Death” notebook with all the information of my life- banking, assets, passwords, the will, etc. After dealing with parents deaths and no guidelines from them I swear not to do this to my kids!

[@resetyourlifewithgwen]

@@mahlemade my mama said the same thing after dealing with her parents’ things. Good for you for taking care of this for your kids!

[@Lifeinthewyldewest]

I’m going to work on this and prepare my NOK box! Great video Gwen❤

[@resetyourlifewithgwen]

Awesome! I'm glad it was helpful! Thank you!

[@resetyourlifewithgwen]

Guess what I did?! I first posted the unedited version of this video. It was awful! And I didn't even realize it till after 50 people had watched it! I was mortified!!! 🤦🏻‍♀ I consider it failing forward. 😂

[@Lifeinthewyldewest]

@@resetyourlifewithgwen I’ve done something similar! I thought it was private and it was not! Now I double triple check on uploads! I kind of wish I had seen the unedited!😝

[@resetyourlifewithgwen]

@@Lifeinthewyldewest okay so here’s a question. I set it to private thinking no one can see it unless I send them a link (but why would I?) but I can keep the view count. Is that right? Every view is precious! 😁

[@resetyourlifewithgwen]

@@Lifeinthewyldewest I knew something was off when I heard the beep of my watch. I looked back at notes (which I don’t normally do), I started over without pausing. It was a train wreck without editing. 😂😂😂

[@Iinfiniteknowing]

My mom left no instructions for her burial but,I remembered her saying cremation.im dealing with 6 siblings

[@resetyourlifewithgwen]

My heart goes to you.

[@toocooltobeold]

I have the NOK Box it is sitting on the floor of my closet untouched. It is going to be so helpful 😂

[@resetyourlifewithgwen]

@@toocooltobeold Well… you got step one. 😁 Btw, you have the coolest name. 😁🙌🏼

[@joannsalas]

Hi Gwen! New subscriber! I found you through Beautiful Life Sage! First, I haven’t even finished your video yet but your personality drew me right from the start! I have experience unfortunately in having to clean out a home and belongings of a loved one. It was my mom and it was extremely difficult. Because of that experience, I’ve been more conscious about what I have or collect so my children will not have to experience this additional type of grief. Awesome topic, difficult but important. Thank you for sharing! Now, I will continue watching 😂

[@resetyourlifewithgwen]

@joannsalas your comment made my day! Your words are so kind and encouraging!😊You made me smile! Thank you so much for checking out my channel! I look forward to checking out yours, as well! I remember seeing your name on Jen's Livestream. I haven't had a chance to go through all the channels she posted yet. Lol. I'm sure there are a lot of great ones! I imagine going through your mom's things was extremely difficult. My parents went through it with theirs and they didn't want us to have to do the same so they were intentional about going through their things. We are doing the same for our children. You're right... it's a tough topic but it has become a part of my mission to talk about the importance of it. Thank you so much for watching! I'm going to check out your channel! 💖

[@resetyourlifewithgwen]

I haven't thought about posting links to my other social media accounts till now but here is my Facebook if you would like to check that out. It's more personal everyday thoughts and events. 😊. facebook.com/profile.php?id=1210390524

[@joannsalas]

@@resetyourlifewithgwen You’re very welcome! Excellent topic and so important to think about. And yes, I’m still going through Jen’s list too! Thank you and very nice to meet you!

[@resetyourlifewithgwen]

@@joannsalas nice to meet you, too!

[@Iinfiniteknowing]

The house deed

[@CayBFuller]

I didn’t see link for nok box

[@resetyourlifewithgwen]

@@CayBFuller the link is down in the description. Here’s the link. I love mine! www.thenokbox.com/GWEN65043 Thank you for watching. 😊

[@TodaysBibleTruth]

Don't put your passwords in there.

[@resetyourlifewithgwen]

@@TodaysBibleTruth That’s a good reminder. One of the box options has a lock on it so it can be kept secure. Thank you for watching. 😊

[@NdnUrbanCat]

@TodaysBibleTruth Interesting name.