RV Living will expose personal issues...

When we decided to jump into full-time RV living we knew it would come with some challenges but it really does bring up personal issues to grow through. #RVLife can be very rewarding with everything that can be experienced but our relationship is what really is growing as each day goes by. Fear, anxiety, control are just a few things that will cause discomfort but in the long run, the joy felt is worth it. Thank you to everyone that has been helping us along the way.
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[@andycommonsincanada]

Wow Todd & Sheila, this video is totally off the scale. We absolutely love how you come across as such a loving genuine couple who have a beautiful relationship. Actually you are just like us in a lot of ways. As my wife of 36 years tells me every day “ I am still in training “ to become the perfect husband.

[@andreatruelove9693]

My advice is to slow down. Breathe. Take it all in. Y’all are a great pair cuz each of you challenge each other. But this is not a race it’s a lifestyle. There’s no trophy at the end. Build each other in adventure and life experiences. Don’t be afraid to peek around the next corner. There is always a place to park a rig and things to do, but the most important thing is to love each other through every adventure. Switch it up means if there is an unknown that don’t happen as planned then so be it. Turn right. (Or left) the adventure is in the getting there. Be safe and keep it up. Y’all are doing fine.

[@SwitchItUpLife]

Thanks for the advice Andrea - for us right now it feels like a race because it can't be our lifestyle yet. We hope that we can at least do one full year but we are not sure so we are trying to see as much as possible before we have to go back to KC and jobs - thanks for being a part of our journey

[@yrpb81499]

Slow down, you may never pass this way again. Sounds like your still in vacation mode. Enjoy life a day at a time and follow the good weather. Most places let you stay 2 weeks, so stay, plan some down time, plan ahead but be flexible. If you make it into work then you might as well go back to sticks and bricks , 9/5 , rat race. You have an opportunity of a lifetime, so make the most of it. Thats my 2 cents and I am looking forward to my RV life later this year after 40 years at the same job. Living life on our own terms, not for the corporation.

[@debbigifford3630]

Your transparency is why people love you!

[@dalebarnard2726]

Life is about doing and being aware of what you have done together.Anyone can stand still,but the brave move always forward.It is never easy but the reward is great and full of wonder and great memories.Does it not most always work out to the good.Relax it is all good.You are not alone in how you fill we all think that way at times.What a wonderful adventure together and blessings yet to uncover.

[@broncoblue399]

Thanks for the open conversation of the difficulties in the close quarters relationship.

[@shellbobaround]

I think every couple has the same anxiety issues you guys face. Driving is stressful trying to maneuver the road and scheduling is stressful as you need some sort of plan... love watching your videos ..Glad we are part of your “CREW” ..Stay Safe and Have Fun!

[@HomeOnTheHitch]

Great video guys. Probably our favorite yet. And so true. Lol. Love it !

[@susanbrandon4103]

Forty one years and we are still working through communication issues. Covid hasn't helped because we've been together 24/7 for over a year. I married him for richer or poorer, through sickness and health but no one said anything about pandemic and house arrest. We have a motor home that I'd love to go out in for extended periods of time but I'm rethinking that. The only good thing is that we wouldn't be in this house....which we built and I love...but seriously!! The interesting thing is that I can see both sides. I love plans...but I also like to just go and do!! But I do love and really appreciate the honesty!!!

[@thefilersjourney]

I stumbled upon your videos last week. Thank you for being real about everything. My husband and I are working on downsizing and finding an RV with the goal of full-time living. I’m the one with anxiety issues. So much of what you shared is what I too experience daily. I do experience brain overload trying to process choices, options, questions, etc it gets to be too much and I shut down. I admit that has had me concerned along with traffic, road and travel anxieties... knowing I’m not alone in this and it’s possible to live this life in spite of my anxiety helps.

[@mikalanorris8206]

Yes Sheila! My husband not getting out of bed by the time we said we’d go do something is the WORST for me!

[@SwitchItUpLife]

Yes! You get it! So glad I'm not the only one!

[@greghanson5864]

I’m coming to this video a little late but none the less it was great. Mrs. H and I are working through some of these same issues and we have been together for almost 40 years! 40 Years and we are just figuring out ours brains don’t work the same! It’s just that I am the spreadsheet guy with anxiety issues! What a combo! Keep up the good work guys!

[@timaz1066]

I’ve been full-time for 3 1/2 years and I like to stay on the spontaneous side. I Boondock the vast majority of the time and just enjoy finding out things as they happen. I only have a general idea of an area I like to be maybe a month in advance but that is not a hard schedule. Just relax and enjoy life because nobody gets out alive. L O L

[@markreynolds9570]

I'm like her. Project manager type. Yes, spread sheets! Todd, way too many drinks in the truck. 9am, I'm 5 am. Another great video. Thanks again.

[@PokyPops]

We really enjoy you guys. We're originally from KC (Olathe) and moved to Texas a few years ago. We feel connected to you through that. Oh, and my wife is right there with you on the Excel thing, Sheila! Keep communicating and know that we're all in it with you!

[@jeffbrodsky9752]

Your comment on being together, 24x7, exacerbates any existing issues is so true. I thank you two for being real, and working thru it. It's important! If you get to Tucson, don't forget to take a motorcycle ride thru Saugaro (east) National Park. The loop there is really great!

[@carolynridlon3988]

I am so like Shelia, I was an accountant clerk for years!. I love planing for the same reasons (need those holidays planned ahead - they fill up fast) but I've been learning to be flexible to meet hubby's needs (planning one month or two weeks stays to let him rest & relax) We have had to cancel some scheduled plans when we needed our rv fridge repaired two yrs ago. Now I'm getting to get back to those I missed places this year! This life is great & we would not trade it for anything 😍

[@rvlifewiththemuirs]

WOW Todd, you and I are birds of a feather! I do the exact same things to my wife. VERY much appreciate your openness and sincerity with your struggles. I am glad I am not alone!!!!

[@bernardstevens3613]

Don't let your worry worm steal your Adventure! Keep your head up, and Switch It Up! (Keep Smiling, and Have Fun!

[@SwitchItUpLife]

Always!

[@meliberg1957]

Oh Sheila..Sheila...Sheila....just know you are not alone. My brain works the exact same way yours does. Works a timeline backwards....and oh...my excel spreadsheets..Love! Love! Love! I just get so much joy from the two of you. I always watch right before I go to bed so that I always end my day with a laugh and a smile. God Bless!

[@c.victoriaritchie3466]

Your issues make great relatable videos 😊 safe travels 🙏🤗😊

[@jackieridder9880]

You both are our favorite RV couple on KZbin, you are so real and we love that. Your issues are our same issues, we are also working on the fact that we process things differently.

[@toddnewberry2264]

Oohhhh, that cave and enclosed spaces makes me panic. Bless you for sharing. Shannan

[@tommyg5346]

You guys are really good at touching on things we are all experiencing. This channel has really been great at making me think. Every day I’ll check my notifications to see if a new episode is posted.....hoping for an episode in between your edit/post days. Great video. Even with the somewhat seriousness of the topic, I found myself relating and laughing.

[@salidacyclones8639]

Thank you for sharing. You truly have hit the nail on the head. That’s exactly how it is for me as well.

[@SwitchItUpLife]

Thanks for watching!

[@irishinusa1615]

Confident you both opening up on such things, will help many. Doing a great job. We are enjoying your channel very much. 👊👍💚

[@SwitchItUpLife]

Thanks so much!

[@tammyscully879]

SPOT ON! You probably already know you're not alone. Many of us have or are going through the same discovery. Great video!!!

[@1okeyesten1]

You guys rock! The wife and I really enjoy your content. We love the authenticity!

[@jrgerhardt3467]

I share Todd’s feelings of anxiety to a T and my husband always has to go just one more step father with any adventure! Wow 😂 watching you guys is like mirroring us. We absolutely love being a part of the “Crew”. BTW, we’re in Vegas (just sayin’)

[@SwitchItUpLife]

Ha! Thanks for being a part of the crew - we will be in Vegas at the Thousand Trails park in a couple weeks :-)

[@geodumas]

Looking forward to the next video.

[@ter784]

Todd and Sheila you both are doing great. First thing as soon as your mind is woken up seek GOD and pray ask HIM to help you both with your day. Enjoy your daily journey. Safe travels.

[@mattcaylor5111]

Comment (For KZbin). We literally refresh all day on the day your videos drop! First thing I looked for this morning when I woke up. Coffee and "Switch It Up".

[@tommyg5346]

Me too!!!!! I see the others and figure I’ll get to them eventually. Kinda waiting for some Todd and Sheila. Honestly I don’t recall the names of people in the others. After the first video, I connected. I know, sounds creepy probably. But I can relate to every single video. I love to laugh, so this is an awesome channel!!!!

[@SwitchItUpLife]

@@tommyg5346 Thanks Tommy for the awesome words of encouragement! Appreciate you following our journey.

[@SwitchItUpLife]

Matt! Love this!! Thanks

[@jerryandruth]

Thanks for the laugh! I am looking forward to the Tuesday videos. We have just now moved into our RV!

[@SwitchItUpLife]

That is awesome! Congrats

[@kimvandertill8928]

You guys are extremely generous to share the relational/personality struggles that you’ve been experiencing and kind of preparing those of us that aren’t full time yet of what we might also be looking at. It’s obvious you love each other and you’re in it for the “long haul”! Having Christ in your marriage is a great foundation. We absolutely love your videos and enjoy being your peeps!😂 Hope to run in to you when you’re in Michigan. Hoping your thinking meet up. 😊👍

[@kristiwilson4248]

My husband said he could definitely identify with Todd's feeling of pulling the rig through cities and in heavy traffic. We're married 48 years and have lived together 24/7 the last 15 years. It takes patience, humor and prayer. We're still learning, RVing gives us a new arena to learn to work together in the set up and break down of the 5th wheel. Enjoy the journey!

[@fabulouspinkmk10]

Todd you explaining your anxieties is helpful, because my husband does the same thing. I will suggest a thing (even he at times ) to do or a place to go and he will stay thinking about it. He begins to wonder if he will be cold, what shoes to wear, how long will it take, ect...then he will say let's go tomorrow or stay home and do something here. Either I walk him through it or I get frustrated and give in. No beno It's good to talk about these subjects for yourselves and for us who can relate with either one of you. I can also relate to the tidiness to a fault and we even named as a sickness🤕 lol "cleanatidis "...which I have been delivered from. I drove my family nuts. But I realized it in me and took the time to figure out what was behind it besides being clean and tidy. What a bondage...all my sisters had the same issue. I can make fun at myself now. Balance is key. Thanks for sharing these issues that are so common and relatable to many of us. Communication is Key. Great video

[@leeabel5948]

Sometimes you just have to roll with it, life always throws you curve balls that a given so you just roll with it and make the best out of every situation. If your not sure stop and take a breath and reevaluate

[@TilFurtherNotice]

I need to have my guy watch this! Helps us feel not so alone in this full time rv lifestyle! He’s got a lot of anxiety around towing our big rig which in turn gives me anxiety lol. Anyway, appreciate you two and always look forward to these videos!

[@latishafranklin2753]

Now that's what I call " keeping it REAL"!! I deal with anxiety as well and it's just ME, myself and I! I can't imagine dealing with the rv lifestyle with someone else who is not mature enough to communicate the differences in opinions and opposite personalities. We ALL have to do the work. No way around this. So happy to see that you two love one another and are willing to work it out while sweetly reminding everyone else to proceed with the full blown rv lifestyle with EXTREME caution!! LOL😄 I also like to plan. But, going with the flow has a lot of perks too! Love this video. More videos like this one will help more people than you know! 😉 Thanks for not sugar coating your experiences. Safe travels. God bless!! Prayer works!🙏

[@kellygosman193]

My husband and I have been watching for a while now and it is amazing how similar we are. I am Todd and he is Sheila.

[@estherrodriguez9724]

Do not grow weary in well doing. Keep going!!! Fuel up and keep going! Thank you for all you do. In setting free you help us set free! We love you guys!

[@SwitchItUpLife]

I appreciate that

[@sherbertandjc]

Living precariously through your videos. I could never go down in that cave. I really have issues with claustrophobia. I wish I didnt. Love watching you two. You're an awesome couple. I understand your anxiety, I experience it a lot too. You know you compliment each other with each of your strong suits. Thank you both for talking about it to help others. ❤

[@sherrylauretani9996]

You guys are awesome 👍 Iam the next level neat freak too! I am always cleaning and tidying up. Way to go Sheila! 👍❤️

[@ricklane9081]

I just love you guys. You make me laugh watching every video. We have a 43’ Saber 5th wheel. We’ve been on a few trips and I would like to go full time RVing but we’re still working on the plan. Maybe someday I hope. I love your story and my fear is life will pass us by and we will never get to experience all that America has to offer. My wife of 40 wonderful years likes a big sticks and bricks house that we work ourselves to death taking care of and I really don’t care about a big house but I do care about Mary. It just feels like we will never get to full time RV. But at least I can live the RV life through you and other full timers. My favorite video is the crabs in the trees attaching Tod while you were kayaking. Please keep posting videos. Thanks

[@SwitchItUpLife]

Rick - congrats on 40 years that's amazing! Thanks for following along

[@Tom.and.Missy.Northam]

You guys are awesome. Love you sharing all the little details. Keep up the great work, stay safe!!

[@brooksrose7881]

Thank you so much for your willing to be vulnerable and real and talk about uncomfortable things. It sparked a really meaningful conversation with my wife.

[@BuckleBunny]

Both of you have anxiety. One controls to keep it from happening and the other freaks out when it does from what I see. I do both. Over controlling a situation is a way to keep a situation from creating anxiety and processing too much information especially when your mind just needs a mental break causes anxiety. I don’t experience both forms at the same time, but I can relate with both of you. I’m in my ‘Todd’ season. You guys are doing great, communication of what you need is perfect! Thank you so much for sharing. Many can benefit from your self counseling session.

[@sharilsall208]

We love how you tackled a tough subject. We also like how you focused on communication, which is key. We agree.

[@georgiarocker3]

We love watching you guys. We have been researching and planning for over a year now and hope to hit the road in the near future full time. We are so similar to you two that your videos make us excited to get on the road and have our own adventures. Thank you for your honesty, the laughter and emotions that we can relate to.

[@susanhudson7554]

Sheila we are 2 of the same, I love to plan and love a spreadsheet lol

[@marycloutier9950]

Hang in there...you two help us all. My wife and I have similar issues because we do operate differently. Thanks for your truthfulness.

[@thebarbmiller]

Great advice!! I'm embarking on my journey alone with my dog. I feel like I'll still learn a lot about myself as I go even if I'm doing it without another human! :)

[@debbieplueger6199]

My husband has Todd's personality related to anxieties and I have Sheila's. I totally related to this video.

[@dianashelton1371]

Sheila has great KC Tee Shirts/Hoodies. ABSOLUTELY, 24/7 and traveling does magnify areas which could use additional attention. I have watched several Carlsbad Cavern videos and really want to go but didn’t think we could due to my husband’s knees. Thank you for letting us know there are elevators available.

[@SwitchItUpLife]

Yes - take the elevator down the 750 feet and then the Big Room tour is pretty flat and then back up the elevator - worth it. If needed there is even wheelchair access

[@mike_adams]

The only good thing about the pandemic was my work forced us remote. In planning for retirement over the past few years, both the wife and my concerns, were centered around how my being home every day 24x7 would infringe in her time/space. It wasn’t as difficult as we thought and transitioned fairly easy to being around each other all day. The pandemic forced us to work through our “communication style” issues and we’re better for it. 61 this Jan 11th past, retiring end of March, bought a f350 dually, just ordered a Northpoint 377 which will be here early June. We’re off to see the great USA and go to all those places on our list. Great channel and content guys, we enjoy following y’all!

[@SwitchItUpLife]

Congrats Michael! That is so exciting - so much to see and maybe we will see you out here....thanks for following along!

[@traceeterranova7801]

Quote...Expectations are premedatated resentments. You guys as a couple are very much like my husband and I. Me planner, my husband stressful to have so many plans. 🙃

[@ricktrudell2978]

My wife and I are looking for an adventure and a Meet and Greet would be fantastic. Let us know where and when, we’ll try to make it happen. Love the videos. We’re glad to be part of the “Crew”! Safe travels....

[@SwitchItUpLife]

Sounds great!

[@ad886710]

thanks for sharing and keeping it real. My wife and I half time in our Reflection and interestingly enough, we have experienced the same issues as you all only the roles are switched between us. We don't experience quite the "magnification" as y'all because we do have that old world to go back to for half the year, but its still real. Very much like your vids because you strike a good balance between showcasing the awesomeness and just plain fun of RV'ng around this amazing land while also showing that it isn't all rainbows and unicorns. Life still happens and sometimes it's not fun. Stay strong and looking forward to your next episode (btw, pretty ambitious release schedule so you might think of rolling that back to once or twice a week so you don't burn out). I know you gotta build the channel, but there's only so much content....just a thought

[@dianestevenson2630]

I love your video's you two are so fun. I have seen a few other KZbinr's video's on Carlsbad Caverns, and you are the first to say that it took a hour to walk down. Such simple but helpful information. My husband has bad knees, he can do most things but an hour of switchbacks would not be good. Thank you for that tip!!

[@sylviahartman2229]

We all have our own issues. We watched, then we discussed our issues. Lol. We really love your videos. Keep it up. We all need counseling. Haha.

[@bobelder6794]

43 years here, same issues. More my fault than hers. Communications has always been something worth working on. We have found that when I hold her hand, that communicates volumes. Even if we are not talking a lot. We love your videos because you remind us of ourselves. We love to make each other laugh and that is worth a lot for us. Thx for this video. 👍

[@laurietopp9953]

You are not alone. Keep being yourself. Working together helps each other be their best self xoxo

[@kathyzehner9660]

My hubby and I are a pair like you, but opposite. We’ll start semi full-time in June, and I hope to go full-time eventually. Neither of us have reservations about the 24/7 aspect, but I get overwhelmed with the planning we’ve started for September.

[@davidhendrickson9446]

I've been in the Oregon caves. The Carlsbad Caverans look beautiful! Here's a thought. Remember the old travel agents? Someone should start a rv travel planning service.

[@SwitchItUpLife]

Hi David - Todd and I were just talking about that the other day wondering if anyone was offering a service like that. Thanks for checking in on this Sunday evening! Talk to you on Tuesday :-)

[@michaelforget1823]

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[@mike_adams]

I’m retiring at the end of this month, got the f350 dually, ordering a Northpoint this week. Not going full time, but definitely many trips on the horizon. To your point and for example, we want to do a 3 or 4 week trip out west. So from New Orleans (where we live) we want to see San Antonio and The Alamo, want to see Carlsbad Caverns, and want to see the Grand Canyon. But how do I make that a 4 week trip? What is there to see in the middle and where are the best places to stay? Yep, there’s some opportunity out there some type travel planning service.

[@michaelforget1823]

Hi Michael get you a Rand McNally Road Atlas yes it is old school. But there is a lot of info in them.all your interstate will have the miles across the state. Give you an idea I 10 across TX.is round 800 miles. The way I do it is figure you miles Say from your home to the grand canyon An it comes out to 2400 that is 600 miles a day. 4 days to get there an 4 days to get back home.here is a route I would take from your state take I 10 west to San Antonio then take I 35 north To Fort Worth still on I 35 to Denton pick up I think 286 to Amarillo then take I 40 west to Flagstaff AZ.an you are in gun shot of the Grand Canyon. To fine campgrounds I use an app that is called RV Park & campgrounds , Good Sam An a truck stop app.a lot of you big truck stop have parking for RV.an I use rest Stop too. That routing I put I would check it .That is where the atlas comes in.be safe in your travels.

[@mike_adams]

@@michaelforget1823 thanks for the ideas

[@krampusklaus1968]

Excellent vid guys.. my wife and I work through pretty much the same scenario. However, we're the opposite of you two.. its so much give and take with a dash of compromise. We're together 25 yrs. Wouldn't trade her for the world

[@Lifenarmy]

You are inspiring us! To Sheila I would just encourage her, it is the space between the notes that make the music so beautiful. Enjoy the journey

[@rogerrash5080]

Thank you for the insightful and honest conversation. My wife and I own a 37' toy-hauler (with two HD bikes) and we have towed it from Colorado to both the east and west coasts. We love traveling with our rv and have experienced many of your discussed issues. Fuel stops are always a concern, especially in small busy fuel stations. I solved this by purchasing a 70 gal fuel cell with above tool box to go in the bed behind the cab. I am blessed to have some cutting and welding skills and was able to cut 2' out of the tool box so it would clear the 5th wheel. Having the extra fuel capacity allows for me to pick my fuel stop when the trailer is parked. Also I have anxiety with running out of fuel in the middle of nowhere. We have had several close calls with other rv's (Class C motor-home with very unpredictable fuel mileage). My wife is very spontaneous and some of the places she wants to go are very challenging to say the it kindly. During one of our trip to California she decided to change up our plans. We were leaving Modesto heading north towards Grants Pass Oregon and she decided to reroute us to cross the Golden Gate Bridge. You can imagine the anxiety level towing a 37' 13"-3 high toy-hauler through downtown San Fransisco. Overhead clearances are always a concern as well. Needless to say we managed with out damage and I get to tell the story over and over. If there is one mantra we go by during travel is "lower our exceptions and raise our acceptance" God is great and he has always provide safe passage for both of us. Someday we hope to enjoy full time travel. If you ever come through Montrose Colorado please look us and we have some great places to explore . I am currently a Montrose County Commissioner and you can find my info at www.montrosecounty.net/ .

[@dsmith288]

You guys are doing a great job and love watching you.

[@BenjaminMedlock]

I definitely agree with Todd about pulling the big camper anxiety, with fuel stops, construction traffic, and “quick” stops to go do things. This was great and the length of the video was also great.

[@Kat-es4xb]

You two are like me. I have anxiety so I research and plan, if I don't have any info my anxiety goes way up. I can only handle so much stress before my brakes come on. The difference is I do the planning and the driving. I would never be ok with someone saying, just drive. I wouldn't do that to anyone else. Maybe driving and planning should be shared. Oh and from what I discovered having a strict schedule the first 4 wks of RVing (I'm 5wks in today) I get stuck in planning mode. Last week I cancelled that schedule and found a river to park next to for a week and I got a fishing license. I let myself relax and have fun. I'm finally having real fun.

[@Meandnev]

Commenting just 'cause!

[@white7051]

Don’t worry so much about filming different places. I’m more curious about experiences about RV living. This video was great. You hit on a sensitive issue as my husband and I are contemplating purchasing an RV. Thanks for sharing

[@SwitchItUpLife]

Hi Joanne - Thanks for watching - the goal of our channel will be sharing the sites around for those that can't or won't travel as well as those that are looking for ideas on what to see or avoid LOL We hope by providing both we can help others :-)

[@waltaldridge2315]

OMG!!!! I'm looking at myself Todd!!!!!!

[@DeeDeeDIY]

So if you make plans for Yellowstone plan on at least 10 days to have time see it all, do the hikes, drive every road. We spent 5 days and saw the Teton and drove to Cody in those 5 days. That was not enough time. The week after labor day was great with warm days and cool to cold nights, it snowed 9 days later.

[@leeroberts2255]

Comment for KZbin..... Love you guys!!!

[@judisides828]

We sold our last travel trailer when we moved but we hope to have another one soon. Just watching this video will help me be more conscious of our travels, I think. We've been married 37 years. I am a lot like Sheila in that I am organized, I like things clean, detailed oriented, schedule driven but I am like Todd in that I am a happy person and love to laugh all the time. My husband is very laid back. A man of few words. He does all the financial things and once a destination is set, he just wants to get there. I can see the scenario of us having a plan to see something on our road trip but my husband is known for his response, "wellllll, maybe next time." , as we drive past the exit and continue down the road. I just laugh. He is the type to take pics of attractions from the car window. So we have missed out on a lot of things. I think he sees it as, time wasted if we stop and money wasted on admissions if we stop. He just wants to get to the next stop. I just clam up and don't say anything (you know, pick your battles, right?) I guess maybe things will change when he retires (for the 2nd time) and we can finally get on the road. I hope so anyway. Lord help. Lol

[@janaspencer6008]

Difference makes life exciting to a point. I understand the anxiety you feel, Todd. And I understand wanting to experience new and exciting things, Sheila. I'm a planner, too. I get it. Just communicate. Love each other. Switch It Up!!

[@paullamoureux2730]

Love this video! My family and I are going FT in July so we'll be experiencing much of this too! I love your mantra - feel the fear and then just do it anyways! I think the worst we can ever do is NOT live an adventurous life because we too scared. Live large, we only get one chance!

[@kiwirose4196]

ROFL oh the excel spread sheet - I am so with you - love the planning

[@Luv2Bhitched]

Same anxiety issues here. My anxiety kicks in, then I get cranky and short, not on purpose, just because I'm trying to work through issues in my own head.

[@brucewilkerson6017]

Todd and Sheila, you two are truly an inspiration. Thanks for being brave enough to address issues that most would probably want to gloss over or even avoid altogether. Keep up the great work/fun (and always remember to forgive as we have been forgiven!!). By the way did you get to see the bats fly out of the Cavern?

[@SwitchItUpLife]

Hey Bruce - thanks for the encouragement - and unfortunately no - all things that "gather" people together are not happening so no bat watch or tours...we all had to go in at different times to keep the social distancing.

[@djrbignell]

I watched this episode and FORCED my husband to watch, as we're considering 'hitting the road' and I am a little worried (even after +35 years together) about relationship stress. Half way through he turned it off... WHAT??? I *FORCED* him to finish it... and now we're hooked! 😂

[@janebray9392]

Hubby and me have been married for 21 years...happily married for 2!!!🤣😂🤣😂 after our mega 33 State trip thru the USA..in a 12ft travel trailer...the best 12,000 miles of our life!!!! We are gonna do it again..our peeps want us back😍😍🇨🇦❤👫🔥👍🇨🇦‼️ (tip: never leave too late in the day, don't drive too long in a day, keep hubby fed and watered🤣🤪👽🙈🙉🙊💋)we travelled to meet our church family as our church is JGLM.

[@elizabethtwombly3266]

You guys are so dang cute! I too have the anxiety just like you Todd! Why is it always like fear factor! And Shelia and her spread sheets my husband can sit in front of a spread sheet all day, or until every box is full! We have been together 50 + years ! Stay safe and enjoy yourselves !

[@SwitchItUpLife]

50 years?! That is amazing - Congrats on that and thanks for watching!

[@Mike.O.Johnson]

Great that you both are comfortable to share. My wife and I are very similar as you two.

[@SwitchItUpLife]

Sounds like a winning team :-).

[@smokingfacepeltoutdoors6636]

Hola from up north in Albuquerque!

[@donnaschneider2395]

You two keep it so real! Me and my husband plan on traveling once he retires about 3yrs give or take. We both enjoy your channel keep em coming.

[@jaysonmene7092]

I have anxiety too! I know what it’s like.

[@anntempleton8431]

We went to Carlsbad Cavern a few years ago. I could not enjoy it because of not enjoying being under ground. It is amazing, though. Enjoy the journey. Todd, I also have anxieties. Lol

[@denacampbell1201]

You guys are awesome!

[@stevekrewson9502]

Been watching and enjoying your vids for a few weeks now. The Carlsbad caverns are really cool. Been there 4 or 5 times as a little kid and once again in 2012. Still looks the same! You mentioned backing up. We went through a flood a few years ago and bought a camper to live in for a year. This year, we will finally be able to enjoy our camper to camp in. I, deep down, am having some anxiety about backing a 40 foot travel trailer into a small spot. I've backed trailers up before, but where my issue is...is doing while everyone is watching me. That freaks me out!

[@SwitchItUpLife]

It is not fun when everyone comes out to watch - totally agree and then when 5 of them try to help at once and all have different ideas ugh. Not helpful at all. I do know it's getting easier - and Sheila has been looking for more pull throughs lol

[@Mike.O.Johnson]

Being off work for a year from an injury, and home all the time, is tough. I can’t imagine what it’s like in an RV and little space. We are still in a house and I walk away, outside when things get heated. It has been a great learning curve because we’ve learned how to fix the issue then and there. Our church has also helped me to overcome my own anxieties because my wife is also a planner. So great for you to share.

[@SwitchItUpLife]

Thanks for sharing and for following along on this crazy journey.

[@sheilawestmoreland2461]

From my experience with anxiety, when the level goes up; the talking and questions need to quieten and slow down. Kudos to you two on recognizing what is happening and working to make it better. Sidenote, those caverns are amazing.

[@nickiebennett2015]

GREAT video! Thanks for being so open. Sheila please share your excel spreadsheet secrets 🙏🏻

[@SwitchItUpLife]

Ok - will do :-)

[@nickiebennett2015]

Thank you!! 😊😊

[@muchlove6173]

Great video!! #muchlove

[@1RodeoMom]

We've been FT since Dec. 30th. Thankfully we have always been great communicators we figured that part our early in our marriage. We have been together for 39 yrs married for 37 of those this July. I'm glad you push though to do the activity to see what is on the other side. My Lord is always in control so with my anxiety I know that what happens is in his control and that is all part of our journey and our YT name. We told ourselves we had to be "fluid" roll with the tides of fulltiming. I threw us into the unknown when I up and sold our RV. We are still in Bradenton in a tiny crappy 70's trailer they had for the month of March....then our homeless selves with $ in the bank are back to Texas our future is unknown as we wait for our coach to finish being built. How's that for anxiety?? 😊

[@SwitchItUpLife]

Wow - how long till that coach is done?? Thanks for following along!

[@1RodeoMom]

@@SwitchItUpLife The 1st estimated date was March 23rd the ice storm delayed it to March 30th now but then it will go back to dealer for their PDI do we might not have it until middle of April.. You two should stay FT for longer than you had planned as you keep it real and fun!

[@gainingmomentum5392]

Thanx for your honesty. You two MUST visit Moab and book a jeep outfitter to tour HELLS REVENGE at Slickrock. You can camp there as well. Sheila will love it.

[@SwitchItUpLife]

Added to the Spreadsheet! Thanks so much!

[@AnnapolisAgent]

Shelia....Do the planning video. Do the planning video. PLEASE, do the planning video next!! I am you...I need a plan. I need a schedule. We are newbies, waiting for the house to settle before we take off full time. We have no destination in mind until settlemwnt and we know what the weather is going to be. So, I am playing with fake routes and it is overwhelming. Thanks!!

[@tmbrealestatephotography2328]

Very good discussion. Made me laugh.

[@nichollerockwell5100]

Sometimes opposites make the best couples!

[@thepaintedhuckleberry356]

What a great episode!! So many of us are hesitant to let ourselves be vulnerable, talk about our anxieties and such! Thank YOU!

[@dawngusky4730]

You guys are truly a blessing! Your video today was life changing for us. My Husband and I truly appreciate your honesty and how you always keep it real. Thank you!