Clothes in recovery

[@nellijune]

Buying bigger clothes is awful but inevitable.🙄 I don't throw my old clothes away, I give them to my friends and relatives. It was really a chock when I realized that my 10 year old niece wears those clothes I wore just under an year ago! 😳That made me realize that it is time to adjust to my 34 year old, adult, feminine body ❤

[@kristinamiretinska3132]

💪💪💪💪🙌🙌🙌🙌

[@victoria9663]

Haha what timing! I just decided last night it was time to tackle my fear of clothes shopping in a bigger body 💪

[@juliefairbanks7029]

Only you could have a feral cat that friendly & adorable, Tabitha 😻

[@saragill87]

Clothes are such a trigger! I freak out when they feel tight and relapse 😢

[@MariekeNoortje8104]

Same. Always.

[@beckymarsella4950]

That’s my same trigger and also my struggles to start recovery because I know as soon as it starts I stop trying to nourish myself. I have noticed that my metabolism has slowed down so much and that’s one of the motivators that I am using to start on my recovery journey… again 😔😔

[@emilyw6561]

Thanks again Tabitha.. makes sense to me x

[@cassandra.a]

Hi Tabitha, I have been in recovery for about a year and a half now. I have stretches of completely accepting my body, stretches where I worry about my weight gain, etc. Although lately I have had this blind rage at my body for not being the size I want it to be. I am so mad at it. I know it is healing, I know it is fixing things but I want to have that bell shaped curve of set point weight that so many people have. Having a hard time accepting this might be it.

[@sarahbartlett9870]

I feel exactly the same. Do you think you are in overshoot weight ?

[@cassandra.a]

@@sarahbartlett9870 hi Sarah, idk if it is overshoot. I think Tabitha would tell us "who the hell cares if it is overshoot do the rewiring" but I avoid this emotion of hate at my body and if i can start from that honest truth hopefully i can rewire from there. I want what stephanie buttermore had or kayla rose had. I want the down slope of the weight. I don't weigh myself or measure. Still eating whenever and whatever. I do feel less swollen or bloated but not rehabilitated...did that even help? 🙃

[@sarahbartlett9870]

@@cassandra.a Yes, Knowing about Stephanie Buttermore and Kaylas journey is what keeps me going , although I’m not sure how authentic Stephanies downward journey is. I’m accepting where I am now as temporary. I’ve not done the rewiring ( obviously). I live in hope. Did you have extreme hunger and if so how ling did it last?

[@cassandra.a]

@@sarahbartlett9870 had an ed for 20 years. Recovery started December 2019. Went "all in" late January 2020. Extreme hunger would go to bed so full I could still feel food in my esophagus. It has slowly started to go down since October of 2020. What I really notice is how untriggered I am by food. Like I used to have thoughts of "I have to eat it because who knows when I will have it again" now if there is cake or cookies it is more "meh" If I am not hungry. That is still shocking to me. Or Abbey Sharpe put a question about "what were your no go foods" on her community board. I literally had to think about it for like 10 minutes because nothing is a trigger food now. Where are you at in the journey?

[@sarahbartlett9870]

@@cassandra.a That’s great to hear. Sounds like it’s working for you. I’ve had ED/ disordered eating for most my adult life. Developed anorexia a few years ago. Weight gain started summer 2019 when I started to binge. Tried everything to stop binging but without any weight gain. Started recovery March 2020 but despite gaining more weight it was more of a quasi recovery. The weight plateaued but then I got inpatient to lose the overshoot so I had a short relapse which brought back the binging. Anyway went All in so to speak May this year at my highest weight . Regained the small amount of weight I lost plus more ( never doing that again….the relapse). I wouldn’t say I have extreme hunger but I’m still very hungry a lot. Snacks are like small meals. Unusually I have little appetite and it only feels like I’m eating to take the hunger away as it gives me little pleasure. The hunger is just so exhausting and wearing me down. I’m hoping that some of this weight is overshoot weight. Im 48 which doesn’t help . I notice you say the hunger is “slowly” going down. Do you think you still eat more than “normal”.

[@MabelRD08]

Interesting topic. I always wondered that also when wearing skinny jeans like I'd get so confused about how I should look on them and if the Sizing was right for me.Ive always worn them ever since I can remember but I feel like maybe with recovery it's a bit Tricky sometimes in my brain with the size and the numbers. Im definitely not that worried as I was years ago though which is a huge accomplishment. Thanks for this Tabs. Greetings from the Dominican Republic.

[@sophiebryant4574]

I’m dealing with so much bloating right now and it’s so uncomfortable none of my leggings are fitting on my stomach right

[@eleonoreconstant]

Should we make recovery easier by wearing clothes that hide our bodies or should we wear the clothes we want/need to wear even if they make us feel more conscious about our bigger bodies as a way to train our brain that it's okay to wear those clothes? I have to wear compression leggings to help with chronic pain but they make me feel more conscious about my body getting bigger so I have moments where I freak out and want to remove them. I wonder if it's best to just remove the leggings to reduce my anxiety (but feel more physical pain) or to just surf those anxiety waves I get from feeling tighter in my body.... i m not sure there s a right answer, i try to ride the wave but I wonder if i am making things harder for myself.

[@soniaperez9269]

Did Dave ever come back???

[@BloomingLisa]

Hey Tabs. Thanks for yet another great video. Just wanted to ask a question I’ve been thinking about a lot.. Do you think it’s imperative to challenge ones attachment to virtuosity in recovery? For instance virtue-signaling via veganism/ethical eating and lifestyle, giving away money/belongings, being overly compliant, spending minimally, living extremely conservatively etc. In your opinion can one recover fully whilst still trying to be overly ethical, ‘pure’ and righteous? In light of veganism, even if one can fulfil nutritional needs wouldn’t it still be strengthening that internal martyr mentality in most cases? I feel like in some respects recognition of our place in nature and the vulgarity that goes along with that is somewhat important to finding peace (…we are really just creatures that need to be a bit selfish sometimes to survive). Ps. Ofc good ethics and being caring/kind is one thing but surely it’s unhealthy when it becomes obsessive? Thanks in advance (and no worries if you don’t get around to answering this - I know it’s a bit wordy and ‘deep’). 😜💗🦋 Ps. Hugs to Teddy!

[@girlalmighty9255]

I just wore them for a small amount of time at first and like just around the house and then built up to wearing them longer/outside the house

[@susanruby3239]

I just bought some pants and didn't quibble about the size since it's just an arbitrary number anyhow. I get some muffin top, with pants now and it's hard for me. I keep telling myself that it's just skin and that normal folks have some degree of muffin top unless they are wearing baggy ass pants.