29 June - Binge eating/Extreme hunger .. EATING is the answer!

[@chantalramirez5837]

Tabitha, could you do a video on your stages of recovery? I think that would be quite helpful as you always give us the best advice. It would be quite helpful to hear more of your own story because you haven’t really ever talked about the stages of recovery for you. Much love❤️

[@pianophase7060]

Tabitha, I cannot tell you how much you have helped me listen to my body’s desire for food. It’s ok to eat! As much as I want and need-my body is smarter than my eating disorder. I so appreciate your videos about how those in recovery do not have BED (as I have thought numerous, numerous times). Thank you so much for being my recovery coach!

[@sarahbartlett9870]

The fact that doctors set a target weight for people, and even offer to disclose it is absolutely absurd. What happens if you go over it. Are you then advised to restrict? What factors do they use to set this target weight?it still really disappoints me the way medical professionals treat ED. By the way I am a medical professional with ED

[@saarki4903]

Hi Sarah, I have had some experience in IP-facilities in my home country where, once a BMI of 19 had been reached, girls were put onto a maintenance diet (most of the time, this meant their mealplan was reduced).There was no room whatsoever for a body to just to its thing (regardless of the BMI that would mean) and we were all terrified of letting our weight go over this BMI 19 as this was portrayed as the only 'good' weight that, once it had been reached, should be maintained.

[@sarahbartlett9870]

Saar Ki Thats terrible. I wonder what their success rate is ?

[@melworsfold9935]

I am currently in the biggest struggle ever! I am no longer underweight, in fact I am a very BMI healthy weight but BMI as we know doesn’t mean a thing and even if it did the fear still needs tackling if record is ever possible. I am in a binge/restrict cycle and binging more frequently than restricting now because I literally cannot stop eating even when I am trying not to eat much at all. I actually give up! If I am going to end up in a large body then so be it now, I hate my body so when I inevitably gain more weight I will be even more miserable than I am now but at least it will end, I know that because I did it once before and it stopped at a weight that was a little above what I wanted but nothing like I imagined. Being hungry is a miserable feeling, being hungry after eating lots of food because you still restrict at times is even more miserable and then as humans we have other things to worry about in life. Not all related to our eating disorders either, I lost my sister last year to cancer, I already have panic disorder, I had a ruptured brain aneurysm in April and could easily have died but was so lucky to have successful endovascular coiling, I still have memory loss and trauma though and in all of this shit I am going to gain more weight if I keep eating which is torture but it’s nothing compared to starving oneself in the middle of this shit show I am trying to survive. Keep fighting everyone x

[@anonymousperson1063]

wow why is this coming right at the time i am struggling with this? i think you’re an angel sent from heaven 😂🙏

[@Margarita_mom]

Great info as always. You lost me for a few minutes when Stinky and Dave were playing though-so adorable 😍

[@ev9617]

So happy to see you making videos again, your content is so reassuring and have taught me to respond to my own doubts about recovery. Your no-bullshit attitude has really helped me trust my body, and approach doubts with the same "just fucking eat it, and then eat some more because clearly you're scared of it which means you gotta do it" mindset in recovery. Wrote a question I haven't been able to find the answer to in your last community thread about shoplifting that I'm hoping you've got some thoughts about, though. Hope your arm sorts itsef out soon! xx

[@shannonb2569]

I’m a remedial massage therapist and the idea that muscles can change their firing pattern is completely real and SO similar to patterns with eating disorders. It’s called Neuroplasticity. ‘The cells that fire together , rewire together’

[@kiki-oh7hi]

Thank you! Would you do a video on "refeeding syndrome"? I think that concept can scare off some underweight people from weight gain.

[@carrierys7827]

I so love how straight forward you are! No bs! Thank you!!! Exactly what I need to hear! ♥️

[@mmaim881]

thank you 🙏🏼

[@sambarnes8429]

The cats🤣

[@eb5553]

What do you do if you think you have reached your unsuppressed body weight but you haven’t rewired because you found out about unrestricted eating too late? Is it ok to not want to become overweight?

[@saarki4903]

Hi Katie, your question is a logical consequence of what you said in the first: you haven't rewired fear of weight gain. The only way to do this, I think, is by eating unrestricted and trust your body to know what it's doing. If it doesn't need to gain more weight, it won't (or maybe at first it will because it's still scared that food will get scarce again, but after that, it will balance out) and if it does need to gain some more, it will. I'm going to 'pull a Tabitha' here: how do you know you have reached your unsuppressed body weight if you are still eating in a restricted way (whatever that looks like, restriction can take many forms and shapes)? Trust me, I know it's scary as hell, but I think the answer to your question and to your recovery is: eat. Give the unrestricted eating a chance and trust your body it knows what it's doing and it will do what it needs to make itself as healthy as possible.

[@marymarty]

I LOVE U!!!!!!

[@em0t33th7]

What can I do when my fear foods are really fatty but I’m a transman and fat increases hormone levels??

[@lifebehindethemask]

but what about you cant eat because your autistic?I become very overstimulated by eating lots of food,the smell,the texture,and so on,I tried to recovery but everytime i relapse because of my autism.