Tailgating with Chinaco and Some Words on Fear

This video is about teaching your horse to pick you up. Also, Pat talks a little bit about fear, what might cause it and what to do about it. For more information, visit our website www.thedisciplinedride.com . And please Subscribe to our channel and don't forget to hit the Like button! Thank you for watching...

[@H.pylori]

This is really sound advice. Parelli and Clinton put on a great show, but Pat gives you practical lessons and advice. His vast experience shines through every time. If you really want to know about horses, subscribe and like.

[@payntpot7623]

Over the years I have found, one of the best ways to get over any apprehensions you have with a horse, is to do a day's work on it. Even 1/2 a day/ If you have a job to do, and other people are relying on you to muster your side of the block or whatever it is you are doing; then you quickly forget about being afraid of how your horse may react and you knuckle down and do the job. Funnily enough, mostly the horse will knuckle down and do the job with you. The start of teamwork between the 2 of you. Next time you ride, you know you have been in a pressure situation and succeeded, so you trust the horse a whole lot more. If you just ride the horse for the sake of riding, it leaves too much to your imagination and you begin to think of all the scenarios that could happen/go wrong. With a job, you are too busy concentrating on what the stock are doing to worry about what the horse might do.

[@mitchwiebell2785]

Pat, Deb! I can't get enough. Please keep it coming. Thank you very much.

[@liamrooney5133]

What a great video! There's a lot of things in this short talk that I needed to hear. I got banged up pretty good when a horse fell with me last summer (ER, overnight in the hospital, physical therapy). I hadn't been on a horse until last weekend. I really hate to admit to the fear, but it's there. I certainly didn't admit to it in my really stupid years (teens and twenties). But after watching this I see how facing it is the only way to overcome it. What I take from this video is that being honest with yourself is the safest way to confront your fears. A good philosophy for dealing with a lot life's challenges. Thank you Pat and Deb!

[@brucethomas3274]

Possibly the best segment I've watched on you tube about horsemanship. Sir you are a pleasure to watch and learn from. You make me feel right at home with your logic and the way you convey it!

[@practice965]

Pat and Deb genuinely care about people and horses and it comes through with humility and wisdom. Undying thanks for your efforts at helping us all become better humans.

[@sylvanshalosky7166]

Thank you for talking about fear and trust.These are two things I really need to work on with my horse.

[@StuckInNy]

I got my first horse when I was 15 years old. I'm 57 now. I laugh as I look back. I ask myself, was I really brave back then, or just really stupid? I like to think I'm smarter now. 👀 I try to be safe, and avoid the poor choices,that could end in a wreck. So to that end, I do fear getting hurt now. I love how this video encouraged alot of comments!👍

[@travisvandriesten1881]

Pat and Deb your videos are amazing, all the lessons (horse/life) you guys put on here are simple, relatable and are always good for a laugh.

[@rosegarden9575]

I've watch many, many of your videos but this by far is my favorite. Thank you so much.

[@stephenqueen6211]

Another great video! I wanted to add my $0.02 worth. If I feel myself starting to get apprehensive I try to get back to the reality of the situation. I ask myself if the issue is that I am imagining what could go wrong, or is something really going wrong. I look at the horse and see if it is getting as worried as I am. Usually not. Sometimes like with the situation described with 2 bulls fighting, there really is a reason to get scared. It has always amazed me how much faster a horse recovers from fear than I do. Another thing I do is belly breathing. Try this any time you start feeling bothered not just when riding. If you're driving a car and and start getting angry about traffic this is a good exercise. Breath in through your nose so that your belly expands, not your chest, then exhale slowly through your mouth. It's surprising how much better you'll feel in just a matter of seconds. I also do this while waiting for the nurse to take my blood pressure at the doctors office.

[@kurtisnimmert7555]

Tailgate party with your horse. Best tailgate party ever

[@jamietownsend3677]

This is the best lesson I’ve ever found on getting a horse to stand at a mounting aid. Thanks!

[@malboyce3468]

Great video. After an emergency dismount it took 2 rides [2 weeks] to overcome my fear. It took that long to find out what had gone wrong, or more accurately what I had did wrong. I found the answer from people who I dont know, likely will never meet and most certainly will never ride with. I found the answer from youtubers, no it wasn't Pat and Deb but folk equally passionate and experienced. The problem I had was ask and release, or apply pressure then release or whatever it is called, and yeah I asked but I never released. A horse that is being asked to stop and go at the same time is just a confused horse with a stupid rider. I do not ride western but I love Pat and Debs' videos for their raw, no bull, real as it gets information ... great advice, take small steps, surround yourself with positive people and be prepared to spend time.

[@karenwilson6961]

Might get a chuckle out of this. I had seen Pat on the back of a tailgate in a previous video and thought that was a dandy idea. I was so engrossed with what I was doing I walked right off the side of the tailgate! My grandpa had a saying I heard more than I care to admit growing up " When your dump you have to be tough" :)

[@StuckInNy]

Karen, your comment made me laugh! Have a great day!

[@MorganJServices]

Thanks loads. Could not have been better timing in my life to have watched this lesson as I still struggle with fear. I get ridiculed by others (who send there horses out for training) for going in small increments with my horse but I figure a small success is better than any level of failure. I keep praying for someone outside the "dink" range to come along and go riding with me & the mare. I tend to watch videos at work when I catch a moment alone to take a break. People hear me laugh at what you say or talk back to the screen. They know I am listening to another video by Pat & Deb Puckett.

[@valeriehudson7276]

You are great, I learned that right away, ride with those who respect each person . . . Thank you V

[@PersonalTriumph2022]

I haven’t dealt with my fear. Instead I go long periods without riding my horse, which makes the fear even worse. I also think ‘I can’t afford to get hurt.’ I will watch this video many times, thank you !

[@adriennemiller1642]

“Don’t ride with dink’s” 👍

[@lewerim]

I'm excited about more videos on how I can improve.I realized a long time ago that I can't always control the horse, the dog, the family, or the coworker, etc... But I CAN control myself. And if I can keep that consistent and moving towards a better place, the rest kind of works itself out. Thanks again for sharing. You're doing a good work. --Phoenix, AZ

[@josiekendall]

Yet another video by you that seems to speak directly too me. I, like so many others, got in a wreck and am still bouncing back mentally. It's nice to hear from a professional that I don't have to keep up with the "dinks" I worry myself into a lather wondering what they are going to think of me when I have to slow down, or get off, or take an extra second to reassure myself or feel safe in my situation. I'm a total fan, I appreciate your methods and words of wisdom!!

[@karenwilson6961]

Thank you, Pat! I have had to face the fact that at 61 and with a body "broken" I just can't do what I used to do. I use to be able to jump on and go off bareback and work that horse. Well, as Pat would say "get over it"! So now I have decided to just accept the fact that I'm not 20 and leave the training of horses that act like "Larry" to someone else. A very smart woman said to me that there are plenty of good horses out there!!!! You might know her Pat. :) Pat you are a joy to watch and I always learn something from you. Thank you. Hey, do more history. I love hearing about vaquero.

[@lewerim]

Agreed, your history lessons are always appreciated...

[@susanpalavos3237]

I want to thank you for addressing the fear factor. I have noticed that as I get older there is a fear that seems to come from no where. Just a fear of getting hurt that riding all my life I’ve never had. I’ve decided that to quit the thing that brings me the most joy for a nameless fear is worse than what I’m afraid, happening. I’m 67 and don’t move as quick as I once did. But if I take my time and as you said, take it in increments, I can push past fear. Having a good horse that you put the time in helps too. I quit riding thoroughbreds and started to ride a horse that I bought for my granddaughter. He’s turned out to be just the guy I can trust. But you are right. You have to address that fear or it will eat you up. If I’m afraid to do the thing I love the most then I’m dead already.... So I ride. Thank you for your excellent videos. I continue to learn Everytime I watch you. Susan

[@PatnDebPuckett]

Thank you for this wonderful comment. May I use your comment anonymously on our Facebook page and possibly in an upcoming video?

[@pinkiesurfer1]

Exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you so much

[@jamietownsend3677]

I appreciate these words. I got a horse 3 years ago, and I was so scared of her I didn’t even really ride her for the first year...just got to know her very slowly. I still battle fear every time I ride, but we have developed enough of a trust to ride trails together now, and so far so good! The worst thing is when we encounter cows. She’s absolutely terrified of them...she’s scared to death of donkeys too, but cows are the worst. She does fine with traffic, dogs, sheep, goats, lamas, cats, ponies. She gets used to the cows if she rides by them regularly, but whenever new cows get put in a field, she starts all over. If they’re near the fence & if they’re moving around, I’ll actually get off (when she stands still enough) and lead her by. She blows & dances & tries to bolt, and her heart rate accelerates to where you can feel it racing even through the saddle. Redmond, Oregon

[@momzahmcdonald7627]

Yes fear !! In my younger years fear dissolved much quicker, and as I am aging I asked myself why do I fear more now ? Wisdom, a great byproduct of aging. I ride a mule and for years mule bliss , then it changed, long story short saddle issues, sadly as he aged I did not understand what was changing or I would have corrected it sooner. No bad wrecks but many rides full of fear as he was trying to tell me. Currently much better fitting saddle new outlook on a much happier mule. I work on my fear each and every time I mount and it started with just placing my foot in the stirrup. You are correct the videos have come full circle and I love it !! Keep them coming !!

[@justincrosley6854]

Thanks for all of your videos, I really enjoy watching you and learning more of the Californio and great basin tradition. I would like to share a story from when I was a little kid of about five. I remember we had a pony that was first my brother's then mine. And I hated that pony it seemed like I was always getting bucked off, but with my family being a ranching, farming family we had to ride it really wasn't an option not to at the time. I was always worried and scared of falling off until one time on a trail ride someone had a wreck and my pony reared up and I actually stayed on and that moment changed things for me and gave me confidents and from then horses became more fun. I guess my point is be smart but sometimes you have to ride through it at some point and learn you can make it. Also people mostly adults I think need to learn to have fun with their horses don't worry about correctness and relax. I think horses feel it and relax as well. If we ride like kids meaning just have fun we would all have kid broke horses( maybe)

[@mikeb330]

You just hit the nail on the head for me with the fear problem. But I'm workin' on it! Thanks so much for the great videos. This is Mike in Santa Cruz Ca.

[@manuelalvarado7786]

Very honest and true, even about the dink’s I’ve seen people hang out with certain groups because they feel there cooler and know their stuff but then they get made fun of and it’s basically like seeing a elementary kid go back to school and get bullied until they stop hanging around with them. There is a lot of good messages on this segment. Greetings from San Antonio.

[@myanimaljourney6019]

Thank you for making videos like this

[@tomenglezos6985]

Great comments Pat. Tom in Pilot Hill, CA. Muchas!

[@kengamble8595]

Some mighty fine logic that will get you to the top of your mountain........ and home again ! I DO KNOW about it ! Thanks for sharing and take care. 👍 👍 👍

[@andreasbaumann9834]

Thanx for sharing this sir. I was kinda fearless around horses all my adult life but after breaking my collar and 5 ribs in a freak accident last june I know how hard it is to regain self-confidence - even as a grown up guy. And of course it is not helpful to have jerks telling you to „cowboy up“ in this situation. Actually this kinda people are the ones that enjoy to see you fail - so just get rid of them ... - I´m from Franconia/Germany by the way.

[@PatnDebPuckett]

Thank you for commenting. You’re absolutely correct about some people wanting to see other people fail.

[@bernhardpflug7924]

It is so true what you are telling! I've been working for years with people and horses in Germany and fear was always the biggest problem....doesn't matter on which Side...

[@alwentzel4776]

Good thoughts about fear. Thanks.

[@esrahansenoutdoorsandselfr563]

thank you so much this really spoke to me just before Christmas i made the call to get back into horses for the first time in over ten years i kinda dove in at the deep end getting an ex trotter race horse hes only just 6 and still pretty green and he was very underfed so im doing alot of work with him but i am loving it and it is going well but i have had a bit of fear about working on the ground with him in the saddle im pretty brave but on the ground i struggle so that rope spinning is really gonna help me so thank you for that tip also i realized that the people close by with horses are definatly what you class as dinks so i will be looking for a good riding partner or just riding alone thnk you again for a great video

[@nicolecourt7829]

Thank you ! You touch here something deep in my heart... why do i need to be with my horse even when the fear is present ? Some days more than others... overcoming the fear ...trust your horse he will do his best for you.

[@albert_turk]

I'm working my way through all these videos (from Benson, AZ), I love listening to Pat tell his stories. I have a new fear issue to work through as I just got tossed by a green colt and broke three ribs. Hoping to be back in the saddle soon.

[@Meanfidler]

Great lesson, Thank You Sir.

[@stevemccoy8138]

Hi Folks, Really enjoyed the video. I'm Purty sure that there's a lot of people that appreciate your information and instructions. Thanks.

[@whittsendranch]

"Well, that's profound." 😂👌❤

[@garyklutts5268]

Thanks for the great information. I enjoy the videos and the way you get down to it. Greetings from S.E. Oklahoma near Poteau

[@rs-bi8yf]

A true fact your fear will hurt you ! Thank you Mr. Puckett !

[@katrinagauld7340]

Thank, you for saying when ever i hear those stories i walk away...I have told so many people that dont listen to those stories just walk away....Thank you thank you

[@judithgerdsen8938]

Thanx for sharing so much knowledge and greetings from northern Germany.

[@brianroth5754]

"Don't ride with Dinks" Amen Pat! Brian in Phoenix, AZ

[@TightwadTodd]

I agree...Its a common problem,with many of my clients.I hear the stories and i tell them the same..

[@MorganJServices]

Wouldn't that be a great slogan for shirts, hats or stickers?!

[@brianroth5754]

Hahaha! Already on it Lisa!

[@andreasbaumann9834]

could make the title for a great new country song too ;-)

[@HomerEscobar1]

@@brianroth5754 yessir, when he said "dont sit on your spurs...well that's profound" i wanted to make a sign for the barn wall

[@pinkserendipity1]

Thank you for this video. Your videos have given me more understanding and confidence than any other videos I watch. Simple, funny and educated.

[@diannahoda2589]

Mr Pat, always so excited to see a new video from you and Deb when I get home!!! Thank you for addressing fear that so many of us still have at one time or another. I do ride with the best...my husband who always makes me a more confident rider. And, he LOVES watching and learning from you!! We have progressed greatly with our colts using your discipline and so glad we found you! Best to you and Deb from way down south in Mississippi 😀

[@sarahkoch4682]

This is really helpful!! Thanks.

[@krfcustomknivesandgear9797]

Sound advice.

[@lisajignoffo9442]

Thank you for another excellent video!!

[@BillZaspel]

This is an excellent basic lesson that I've seen many trainers address as a critical tool in their tool box for new mounts. Thank you for another valuable lesson for riders of every level.

[@dannonya8783]

Thank you so much. Needed to hear what you said today. God bless you Sir

[@lauramoy9940]

Thank you , thank you, thank you!!! There have been times when I had to quit riding ahile because I felt afraid & took a break from it. One time I did get off the horse(not mine) but now I know what to do if it happens again. i can lead the horse but keep his eye out of site.

[@chryslertechnician3439]

Great advice

[@jeffdunn9865]

Great advice as always Pat. I would add a third fear and that is the fear of not doing the right thing with your horse to bring them along correctly. This especially applies to colts as the foundation is so critical. Your advice is Most helpful👍

[@danemoore9277]

Good video thanks Pat and Deb!!!

[@ridendurance]

Wish I was close enough to ride with you and Deb but your videos make me feel pretty close. Thanks for another great one!

[@randysmith5802]

Now THAT was some damn good advice right there.

[@ssampson572]

Awesome

[@rtcooper7991]

We have a lot of dinks here in Ohio I ride with a small group and all for one and one for all mind set equals a great time and builds confidence has helped us all . Thank you for being a straight shooter

[@willryon]

Thank you Pat and Deb for all you do. I'm so glad I found(stumbled on to) your channel. I really appreciate and laugh at your comments on dinks, I try to avoid them but it's difficult, I guess I'm to nice. This is a nice beginning to my day.

[@whip460]

Good story, fear cripples more people than anything else I know of. I can't see why anyone would want to be controlled by anything as repulsive as fear. Whip from Pennsylvania

[@silky2204]

Good video.

[@UCTJ]

Pat I enjoy all of your videos, I enjoy your style of teaching and how you tell it like it is. This video is really good because you're 100% correct, a friend has your best interest in mind, if they're trying to help you or vice versa get better then maybe ya need new friends or perhaps be a better friend yourself. Red from Stockdale Texas.

[@ruckermb]

Thank you so much for your great videos! We’re keeping an eye out for when you are in AZ. Our horsemanship “professor” here is James Weatherford who speaks highly of you. Fear was the first thing he addressed with me. Your video’s reinforce exactly the same thing he teaches us on the ground. Keep up these great video’s and I look forward to meeting you some day in AZ!

[@edwarnock4534]

Well said Pat.

[@edwarnock4534]

From Sonora, CA.

[@scottdunn6308]

That was good 👍 thank U Sr.

[@jackkrag]

Thanks

[@bobbettepierce5756]

Great

[@redshorse]

Wise words pilgrim.

[@comesahorseman]

👍👍

[@janboogaerts1616]

I wouldn't call it fear that I developed over the years, but more of a cautiousness. I been so banged up over the years that I know how much it can hurt and I got a lot more cautious. I feel very few creatures are more honest than a horse. If they feel they need to get rid of you for whatever reason, they'll signal that 1st before actually breaking in 2. I can prepare myself and deal with it in that case. The stock I'm getting to ride nowadays is so athletic and so feely and when they're still in the early stages of training and they get spooked while I'm riding, that's what gets me in trouble lately (and kept me crippled up and on pain killers for 3 weeks about 2 months ago). Age is realy slowing me down litterally. My biggest actual fear is not being consequent and true to my horse, and therefor betray it and basicly screw up.

[@susannegele4241]

I have dealt with fear. Mostly of failure. crackerarab mare is very reactive and i have much to learn. The terrorist horse at a clinic is reminisint of her. Thank you. God bless. From florida

[@hughbishop7456]

Fear is a powerful force that can and will be transferred to your horse with the touch of your hand. The horse knows when you know, and they know when you don't know. (Cowboy up).

[@brandymax971]

I start riding horse about a year ago. Bought a standard bred and she wasn't fast enough to race. Instead of selling her to the amish I decided I would get her trained under saddle, figured at least then she would be more then a field ornament or a buggy/plow horse. What I didn't see was me being the one that would be sitting in the saddle. Green horse , green rider they say isn't a good combo. I had a lot of fear, Pat hit the nail on the head when he said " oh I don't want to get hurt" really made me laugh :). My key to my fear is hours and hours of ground work, to me it built my trust in her. She can be trotting around the round pen off the lead rope and I only need to breath out and she stops dead. Being young she spooked many time on the trail this summer but she always stop for me. I been following Pat and deb for a while now , bought the ground work DVD and ordered the missing link. We might not ever rope a cow, but we both will be disciplined and gosh darn we are going to side pass those logs...lol I still have some fear or maybe its respect for what these beautiful animals can do, I just wish I started this journey 40 years ago! I also have to thank my friend Frieda for having faith in me and my horse, she has taught us well. Robert >>> Ballston Spa NY

[@StuckInNy]

Hi Neighbor 👋

[@brandymax971]

Hello there..... terrible we all feel we are stuck here. I don't think these videos with the beautiful weather help any :(

[@AndyTheCornbread]

Does anybody else hit like first as soon as you see a new Pat horse video and then watch it after hitting like because you know it will be good before you even watch it? I probably shouldn't do it that way but I do. Anyone else do this same thing?

[@dustydude2522]

I think I have, haven’t seen one I didn’t like

[@diannahoda2589]

AndyTheCornbread He just inspires that ‘natural reflex’ in us😂😉

[@sigridbrannan1530]

Walk away from peoples' horror stories. (and quit telling my own, btw!). get off when you need to. walk your horse to calm both him and you. Such practical advice. Also, no dinks!

[@hughbishop7456]

Oh yeah, I am in RAYMOND, Ca .

[@SamboJo87]

I make a trade with my horse. When i get on the fence he comes over so i can scrub his back w my boots and i then hop on , seems like a fair trade to me 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@crllon8906]

Wow...great intel. Yes, dont ride with dinks....thank you! And get off your horse when things get hairy. Wimberley Texas

[@johnhead9148]

I thinking I am getting a little chatty with the comment section. My comment regarding fear is I am still afraid of rattlesnakes and there is not a shovel handle long enough for me to kill one. I had a horse hit in the head twice grazing with snakes around. He got over it, did not hold a grudge so I guess I shouldn't either. I don't "cowboy up" " I just suck it up" and work around them. I have never met a rattlesnake that was a dink.

[@markcaiman]

Thanks