DANGEROUS TRUTH Of ARROGANCE And Toxic Family Dynamics

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Sometimes nosy people can also be arrogant. Many of the behaviors discussed on the channel go hand in hand. To see my video on nosy people, click here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/lZnHXnl-jNWJns0si=_jtSevhZYfTYs5gv.

[@justinkevish]

Arrogant people seem to minimize everyone's experiences besides their own.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

That is true. It is sometimes a defense mechanism to avoid their own life and insecurity.

[@Lore788]

They are resistant to any feedback, hearing criticism or suggestions for improvement. 🙄

[@slimdusty6328]

yes especially if they feel superior .In such situations, one shouldn't dare to share any intuition. Or at least do so with extreme care. Otherwise, be prepared to watch out for acts of revenge

[@Maryannski]

I've been accused of being arrogant for showing confidence around insecure people. It took a long time for me to gain that confidence in the areas I've mastered. I don't say things like I'm better than. It's almost like I'm not allowed to be self-assured around certain people.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Totally get that. This is a good point. Insecure people or those who are jealous will you will not "permit" to be proud of yourself because it automatically says something about them. That's not your problem as long as you are not boastful and disregarding of others. You are allowed to be confidant and proud of you.

[@xinn3]

@Maryannski I have the same problem in my area. At first, I thought I had to check myself. Like,

[@BlackBoyKingTV]

Its because they are insecure

[@ay-tj7pj]

Yeah just because you know-it-all doesn't mean you're arrogant

[@rubberbiscuit99]

It's disturbing how arrogance and associated behaviors are like a manifestation of a virus, repeating and repeating. Like this virus causes specific distorted false beliefs, and dysfunctional behavior patterns. Very destructive, like a virus is.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

This is an excellent way to put this. I agree.

[@ppll7020]

I was born into the narc ness. They all are arrogant. People on my narc mom are beautiful, really beautiful so they can't stop bragging about it and look down on others. Im ok looking. Im not as beautiful as they r and im the Empath. So they mocked me, belittled me daily. I know they r jealous and envious of my personality, kind, caring and courageous!!

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

"I'm not as beautiful as they are" is a statement I have heard before. YOU are beautiful because you understand the depths of character and you understand something they don't...humility is better.

[@ppll7020]

@TherapistTamaraHill much appreciated!! People who know me keep telling me I'm beautiful inside out!! Actually I don't see my outer beauty due to childhood traumas. But people who care about me see it. But I know I'm kind and caring and brave! I'm grateful for these quality. Thank u again.

[@Dmitrij-nl3sc]

It's a coping strategy for those who were badly humiliated by others and punished for their mistakes instead of being helped or offered compassion.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Well, not in every situation but in some. As you already know, everyone responds to challenges differently and for some people, arrogance may not be a protective mechanism but rather a constellation of symptoms of a disorder, a defense mechanism to cover narcissism, etc.

[@JNYC212]

You hit it spot on.... so exhausting and they are delusional. They never want to hear the truth...let alone, accept it.

[@alimccreery755]

I met a guy who had this exact personality and after I listened to him I had anxieties for a week. Now I’m apprehensive about going back to that restaurant because he lives in an apartment upstairs 😳

[@BAsed_AFro]

Delusions of infallibly and superiority

[@seameology]

I had a friend who was arrogant because she just obtained a Masters degree. She was very arrogant about it because I just had a two year degree. And she had a 4.0. But, she avoided math and science courses because they were "too hard". My education is strictly math and science. Pretty sure that got under her skin. Competitive. The operative word here is HAD. We got into a discussion about science and of course she knew everything. I'd already moved away so all I needed to do was block her.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Such a waste of time in the end. Sometimes moving on and releasing that person is key to your own survival.

[@BlackBoyKingTV]

Is she employed

[@DAJ-y3l]

9:34 it actually sounds like the way my family & most relatives looked down on me I feel because I refuse to be manipulated and controlled by the narcissistic Brothers I was a free spirit and I fought back and I will always fight back 💯💯💯🔥🔥🐝🐐🐝🐐

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

totally understand that!

[@sumedw]

‘arrogance is a smokescreen’ YYYYYESSS YYYYESSSSS YES !!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@CamGoesCamping]

You are way too nice with all these videos lately! Thank you for taking time out of your day for us!

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thanks so much!! And you're welcome. I try my best to make it as digestible as possible 😉and to offer different perspectives from videos and live chats as much as I can. Thank you for watching!

[@truth4utoda]

I agree. Thank you lovely.

[@truth4utoda]

Arrogant people are tiring😢. I'm with you. It is not attractive at all. My hubby was so humble which is why we're together. 😅 otherwise, no way. It can be embarrassing too. Like when my Arrogant father made a fool out of himself when he would get drunk and angry.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

They most certainly are tirning. I agree. Some people may not even know how to behave because they've been arrogant for so long. Once this personality traits is triggered, it isn't always easy to help the person see themselves. So they can go around draining a lot of people!

[@GrandAirTrineAstro]

I’ve been called grandiose by someone who belittles all my achievements in education, competitive sport and some specific systems I mastered with diligent long term study. I’m neurodivergent and only comment on things I feel I’m an expert in. I had my ideas taken throughout my life and I was never benefiting. So now I keep to myself. I was very naive, trusting and open with sharing my knowledge. Learned the hard way.

[@Lore788]

They are resistant to any feedback, hearing criticism, or suggestions for improvement.🙄

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

very true. It's sad to say that many individuals like this believe arrogance is acceptable.

[@Lore788]

@@TherapistTamaraHill Unbelievable.🙄

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

It is! Agree.

[@Emptyvessel876]

Very informative 😊

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

That's great! 😊 Thank you.

[@NjJohannsen-uq6xe]

Also, when people are baggers and only talk about themselves, it is a dead giveaway. Stay away from these people.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Yes, and it's draining. Life doesn't revolved around this one person. Sadly, they don't understand that.

[@stephaniemillsaps3626]

LOVE 🙏 🙏 🙏

[@JKDVIPER]

We gonna watch again. 🤙🏻💯

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

🙌

[@truth4utoda]

😂😂😂😂me too

[@JKDVIPER]

@@TherapistTamaraHill we loved the ideas in the show. Particularly the parts about the narcissism look, feel, and consequences.” ☺️💯🙏

[@YoutubeisAdtube]

Does permissive parenting fall under this? Some I belive do. Arrogant parents who let their children act disrespectful/annoying are the worst style of parent in conjunction with the abusive or neglectful style of parenting i think. I get kids play loud, but boys who yell and girls who scream make me wonder..it is an extension if homelife and or unmet needs as they grow. A cry for help of bratty spoiled kids with arrogant selfish parents that cannot be bothered with understanding or teaching thier child manners or emotional regulation by example; neither which I believe the parents of such children fathom or possess. Tired of the statement: "They"re just kids playing" uh, yeah to a point yes i get, but lax parenting produces bratty kids for the most part i think.

[@YoutubeisAdtube]

Stupid people raise stupid kids.

[@tdesq.2463]

Interesting point. Thx. Some parents belittle their kids for a variety of invalid reasons. Some, seeing their kids as reflections or extensions of themselves, polish 'em up like little trophies to impress all audiences, especially other parents who may or may not be aware of the competition they're in. These kids can certainly grow up with warped impression of their pace in Society. But You hit on a real good one: No one else in the world matters. The kids pick up on snd absorb that. Excellent contribution! Thx! 🎼TD

[@Jam-m7m]

Good words. Thank you 😊

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome! 🙏Thank you.

[@halfthebattleknowingis4862]

I feel like everybody "knows" everything now-a-days. Its a lot of information out there now. The amount of information consumed could definitely bring forth arrogant personality traits; the know it all personality. Everybody's a star. The ability to control perhaps these developing personality traits is important. Confidence, however, is often frowned upon and mischaracterized as arrogance. To differentiate between the two is a great skill.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

That's an interesting perspective for sure. With Google and now AI, that doesn't surprise me at all. And differentiation is major. We do have to be able to see (and help others see) the difference between confidence and arrogance. I think naturally, as intuitive humans, we just know!

[@slimdusty6328]

I have trouble with over sharing, alongside of poor judgement of character. Evidently those can be some symptom of PTSD . Ive even messed up with this, a number of times too, even within family which was the hardest learning curve of all to accept. Even when just sharing an opinion of my own, openly. This practice can backfire. Even family may attempt to run you in, and attempt to do you over?. For a sense revenge, or for whatever else it is that rocks their boat. I find it hard to understand why

[@curtistinemiller4646]

I'm new to your content,loving your clear and precise content,the toxic videos, and this one,You have informative information on these personalities ,IM going to keep watching..🙏❤️

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I appreciate that! Thank you😊 And welcome to the channel. Glad to have you!

[@susansourby5234]

Thank you for the clarification of arrrogance vs narcissism. Wonderful presentation.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thanks so much!! And You're welcome! I'm glad it was helpful.

[@nadiaconseillant8616]

Glad you said that. I have been accused of such nonsense. I have never been arrogant in my life. But I feel sorry for others who down someone because they can't lasso them down. If someone is waiting for me to oblige that will never happen Get rid of the jealousy trait

[@rookkun8205]

Love your eloquence and take, so glad I found your channel!

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I appreciate that! ❤️ Thank you. Glad to have you on the channel!!

[@helensmith4126]

Thank you, I loved listening to this video

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thanks for listening! And you're welcome!

[@tragedy-and-comedy]

Thank you ❤

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome 😊

[@wirelessunday9897]

Just tuning the in... 👋 hello all😊

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Hi there! 👋

[@ElizzzaB]

Yes.....found them lacking. A front? Yes they are similar to each other. Thought it waa a trait of Narcissism.

[@Stubor-z6c]

I whish you would do podcast on Corporate Work Environment and how that affects you as a human being. You need to talk about the toxicity of the workplace -----especially corporate America. It's like they all read the same books...."The 48 Rules of Power" (for example)....and they strut around with their well crafted Machinations.....to self promote. It is sickening to watch. The same shit heads carry that Corporate Cock attitude into their private lives. At parties, they will never speak openly and freely or ungraded; with every word, every sentence being crafted / calculated to compete with everyone in the room. Even the young turds just showing up in the industry soon adopt this Dog-eat-Dog mentality.

[@HabitualLover]

I usually run over here because i want to learn how to deal with others who have negative personalities and psychological states. But I ran to this one because I am the arrogant one, to the T. I've never bothered to address it because I know I had nothing else to defend my soft parts with, so I decided the arrogance was the lesser evil I could live with. The irony of using such a tool because of being surrounded by unapologetic narcissists and arrogants, and just trying to survive- emotionally and psychologically. Meh.

[@halfthebattleknowingis4862]

@HabitualLover So you classify your arrogance as a defense mechanism. That's interesting. Do you see it as a problem for yourself??

[@HabitualLover]

@@halfthebattleknowingis4862 I see it as a problem when it keeps me from fitting in when I'd rather fit in. But I'm slowly learning that the defense mechanism really is a good defense- the people that can't get through the defense keep turning out to be the exact people I don't want to be around 😂. I'm way too trusting and Pollyanna. I think I still need my defense to keep myself safe. Times aren't getting any nicer in society. Gross understatement.

[@schoolneverteach]

Thank u for letting me know some people better😅

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

you're welcome 🤭

[@CherrysJubileeJoyfully]

TAM-FAM

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You guys are great!!

[@YoutubeisAdtube]

Isn't cherry jubilee a dessert dish? It looks good if i think it is.. 😋

[@coloradotrue]

Yes, I could see arrogance if your talking to others about facts but if your talking opinions it's a fine line between advocating your opinion over others opinions vs others insecurities and the value your/their opinion may hold from trust.

[@jefecerebro8711]

What happens when confidence is confused with arrogance? people do what they can to break the confident person would even steal everything they could would even keep them from eating to bring them to their level lol speaking from experience

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Oh yes, great question!! I think it's quite clear when someone is being arrogant (haughty, disregarding, uncaring, cruel, insensitive, and self-centered) vs. being confident (i.e., positive about one's abilites, kind, helpful to others, caring, optimistic, hopeful, and self-assured). There is a bad "feeling" that you can get when you are around an arrogant person who boasts rather than just someone who is confident and self-assured. The confident person never wants to harm anyone else in any way. Their goal is to GET BETTER within themselves and not to GET OVER on other people.

[@jefecerebro8711]

@TherapistTamaraHill Idk I think people sometimes can see someone practicing SELF-preservation and confuse it for self centered behavior... Or we see people in certain professions and they may feel like they're the best at what they do and should.. . kind of like hip-hop when it first started that was the culture to strive to be, and feel like you're the best, but now you have a whole new train of thought that invaded that space with an all inclusive attitude if that makes sense. For example DJs used to hide their records so nobody would use the same break in a record... Now if you don't show someone YOUR process (aka IP, TRADE SECRETS) your a hater or you're "gatekeeping" . But hey idk anything but I do feel that the world is way too sensitive and insecure at the same time... People are being exiled because people won't let others use them or mistreat them... It's a really bad Psy-Op

[@halfthebattleknowingis4862]

@@jefecerebro8711 I got Roberta Flack on vinyl.

[@halfthebattleknowingis4862]

@@jefecerebro8711 Nina Simone too.

[@xinn3]

​@@jefecerebro8711 Thank you for opening up to that. I thought it was just me. I had a group come at me out of nowhere with this.

[@boujimobbin9530]

Do you have any videos of a person with defiant personality disorder? My step dad and his daughter have it. Yes they think they know it all but they have to go against every single thing you say no matter what it is. he’s the kind of the negative thinking but it’s not just that it has to do with every topic ! Would love to know more about this!

[@Smartbeautifulawesome]

Right it’s dark

[@susansourby5234]

I weighed 69 Lbs and was 5'3" when I was 12 years old. I was literally attempting to vanish. Everyone seemed happy, except me- I wished I could be a ghost rather than being visible.

[@keebler32ify]

Insecurities 💯👍🏾

[@DivyaRajan-l3h]

I think it's a lot of projection. My elderly mother in law who never worked a single day her entire life obsessively worried about other people's jobs Complete failure of perspective!

[@S.G.W.Verbeek]

Be like Jesus, humble and serving others. Mark 9:34-35

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Amen 🙏 😊 Thank you for saying this.

[@Classybrown27]

Really makes me cringe for ppl like this I just let them be them too! Far away…

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

very much agree and feel the same way.

[@wirelessunday9897]

Very 😑 annoying 💯‼️

[@danitajminer3279]

❤😊

[@monikaleszko5343]

I wonder if these people are just insecure!!!! Lol

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

In a very simplified definition of the word, yes. But the mechanisms are complicated, especially when you pull it apart. No on is "just insecure" or "just arrogant." There is a process to this and cause. Just like that sound in your car engine you hear on a really cold day before it breaks down, there is a cause and effect.

[@monikaleszko5343]

@ thank you !

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Welcome!

[@Hiddenoddity26]

I'd say sadism is the worst personality trait.

[@0oo00]

Lots of degrees listed there.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

So true!

[@tdesq.2463]

Actually, Doctor, there is scientific evidence that proves that the Universe does, in fact, revolve around ME. There's even a term for it: Egpcentrism Excellent Presentation, Doc! ... in my humble opinion, that is. Much appreciated! 🎼TD

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

🙈🙉🙊🤦‍♀️

[@glennhosick1514]

Winston Churchill. Some people's idea of free speech! Is that are free to opinionate.&.say Within whichever they like! Though the minute! You??? You make a stand! Tis outrageous! You're either arrogant.difficult..or crazy!!! ....

[@slimdusty6328]

self censorship is rising evidently. Due to bullies. Arrogant people perhaps. Google, Self-Censorship is Rising, @SabineHossenfelder if you'd like to see what she said about it. I'm not one bit surprised. People have become so toxic they cannot stand to see someone hold a different opinion. Even at political rally's they'll need to get angry and throw the dollies out of the pram like children, and toss someone outside, rather than to calm down, listen to each other even if they disagree, so as to act more like adults