Q & gAy (all things lgbt, questioning my gender, bi tiktok trends & more)

[@pepethefrog9693]

Who else loves her voice sm it’s just so fitting

[@ramonamorris]

do you like they also kinda sound like miley cyrus? or just me....

[@ckylatan]

@@ramonamorris yes! that’s what i thought!

[@Thatfashiongirl03]

you're a huge reason I have become so comfortably open w being bi so thank u

[@trinityyyskyyy]

Me as well! She’s really helped me, I love her. 💖 Happy pride month! 💖💜💙

[@valentinalabarca3891]

"even if I'm attracted to someone of the opposite sex, I still do it in a queer way" YESSSSSS that made so much sense to me. love u

[@feliciajuls6575]

anybody realised that this video is exactly 11:11 long🦦

[@giudittaservalli9630]

I did omg

[@agentsmith2800]

a lot of their recent videos are

[@milicaristicevic]

I'm straight and in great relationship for 3 years now and I may not understand how you feel and what is this process like for you, but I'm so happy to see you thrive ❤️

[@tabeag.5032]

Same 🙈

[@pepethefrog9693]

“It’s really a personal preference... YES” Lmao

[@taliawillson6687]

ahahahah i was just about to comment that

[@charlliemm8115]

such a stark difference to when she was auditioning for the vs show but its good they feel happy

[@emmy.222]

Thank youuuu so much for sharing tati

[@angelajoywaugh__]

Same x

[@rac7773]

Very very sad that so many young people are going through this now. I am so grateful that none of my four daughters had these issues.

[@KristinaMaione]

So proud of you for being exactly who you are babe

[@benthevaessen9685]

you: “let’s get straight into the video!” me: .... no gay

[@teresapanisello1228]

there is something that makes me feel so safe and understood about the fact that we came out around the same time and the experience being pretty similar, just thank you so much for making everyone feel so seen and valid

[@stratus1380]

just wanna say thank u, ive been following you for about 2 years now and you have not only helped me accept my body but also my queerness, i truly thank you for that tatchi youre an amazing person

[@lenkasustackova4560]

Honestly I stopped using labels bc I "could fit" into many and it felt overwhelming and also bc of personal stuff that happend to me back when I started exploring LGBT community. I also learned about differece between gender expression and gender identity. Right now I'm just..vibing and living my life 😅😄 and finally I'm slowly starting to love myself more.

[@COMPFUNK2]

THIS. 👏🏾

[@whiltierna5971]

i feel like she's gonna make me feel safe and hella nervous at the same time.

[@brookelarson8363]

the BEAUTY. we support you no matter what. 🤍🤍🤍

[@hehehaha4]

thank u tatchi for being a safe space for me while I figure out my gender and stuff (also u make me feel so safe and valid so yea that's nice :D)

[@lisaholtman7016]

does anyone noticed that her latest videos are 11:11 and 12:12 idk if she did that on purpose but the Universe is with her 🦋✨🧚🏼

[@sofiamendes1311]

sweater weather and the neighborhood in general is like my favorite along with girl in red but i’m “straight” and lemme tell you that confuses EVERYONE

[@juanitasegura4235]

Same,why is sweater weather a "bi song"? The lyrics doesn't say anything about that

[@katelynbelanger4511]

i’m straight but still clicked 💜🤷‍♀️

[@hollyken3]

“Everything that I do is queer” 👏🏼 I feel like I needed to hear that especially when feeling anxiety about being in a heteronormative relationship

[@janinaa1970]

7:50 I LOVE HOW YOU ANSWERED IT

[@estrellasjournal]

*i love that it’s called q & gay lmao*

[@shilasimpson8118]

you are generally the only reason i have stopped pushing down my questioning recently. stg. i love you

[@hehehaha4]

i literally can't put my excitement into words

[@Karolina-dr8du]

This video makes me feel safe, accepted and so okay🤍

[@hanarose9338]

7:52 "iiit's a personal preference.. like you couldn't te- YES." HAHAHAHA

[@sassy2293]

Hahaha she's sooo cute

[@whatandeverr1161]

I love how articulate you are ❤️🌈

[@idlawilopez2282]

I love youuuu, you have no idea how inspiring you are and how much you've helped me to accept myself

[@Melissa-yk6xx]

The way sweater weather was my favorite song before I found out I was bi lmao

[@SuperToocool4skool]

I dont think black bisexual people are listening to sweater weather by the neighborhood 😂😂

[@sahiansantoyo]

your soul is so beautiful...thanks for being such a light Tati

[@taliawillson6687]

this made me feel so comfortable. you embody so many traits that I have and want to have

[@baileywilson2007]

“Everybody loves cake” I really felt that

[@gwynethnierman3905]

they literally do not have one mean comment

[@natalieredfield-gale8773]

This video makes me smile so much, I just feel so understood

[@makydenparreira5170]

I’m straight & I’m just here to support 🥰

[@laurenweeks3945]

Watching this just made me feel so extremely comfortable, thank you so much for being vulnerable w us💕

[@LOLO63515]

You give me hardcore Miley Cyrus vibes with that hair and I live for it

[@maritvandenhurk7847]

Same omg yesss

[@annifischer3451]

I`m a bit confused. Why isn`t it possible to just let the stereotypes of being a woman and a men behind us? Why do you have to bei feminine and sweet, wearing dresses to be a woman? And on the other hand being a man shouldn`t mean wearing dark oversized stuff. Isnt it possible to just be a woman and not fullfill the stereotypes of it without label yorself as a non binary person?

[@mariafot1908]

That is exactly what I am thinking about

[@Victoria-pm4lz]

THAT’S WHAT I THINK!! If you don’t fit what society call “woman” so what? If you feel like a woman, then what’s the matter? I feel like a lot of non binary people is just “I don’t wear dresses so I’m they”

[@mariafot1908]

I have come to understand that the non binary people feel they don't relate with any gender,relate with both or fluctuate in between. It's not because of the stereotypes.

[@mariafot1908]

I just relate to the struggle caused by society's influence in the way we women should represent ourselves

[@deniserobalo8737]

that’s so true, but then it’s like what even makes you a gender? wouldn’t everyone just be non-binary with their own personal traits if we got rid of gender stereotypes completely ...

[@pureheartbadass]

the way you describe your gender really resonates with me. at the moment i've landed on the term 'genderqueer woman/womxn' to describe myself, i feel like that kind of fits, but i really like the idea of everything being in a state of constant flux. it's how we grow

[@carlie4964]

I'm bi and I recently changed my pronouns to she/they (I'm AFAB btw). The way you described your gender identity and your bisexuality resonated with me so damn much. I felt like I was wrong for changing my pronouns because I don't have a clear label yet and I still very much identify with being a woman and I don't want to be a man but using ONLY she/her just makes me feel uncomfortable and I've always loved tapping into my masculine side but recently I decided changing my pronouns makes me feel more comfortable with myself. All I did was change them in my Instagram bio and tell a couple close friends, I haven't told my family yet and idk if I ever will tell them (at least not my parents) cuz they just don't seem to understand anymore than just LGBT.

[@ari3732]

Wait- I think you just described exactly how I've been feeling lately about my gender. I'm AFAB that identifies as non-binary and goes by they/them, but I like 'she/her' pronouns, and I'm starting to like being called 'he/him', but I feel/want to be a female and I don't want to be a man but I don't feel "fully female" (if that makes sense💀) I've really loved going between being feminine and masculine but idk with this whole issue if genderfluid/nonbinary people can be a lesbian (since I'm a lesbian)

[@mirianmorales4607]

I still haven’t came out as bi but you have inspired me to not be afraid

[@MrsFortnitegamer]

I too have not come out yet but tatchi gave me the power to come out.

[@libbylester534]

you are that person for so many people. i've been a bit confused on gender lately, and this actually helps a lot so thank you:)))

[@COMPFUNK2]

I like women but I don’t like labels (for myself). I’m 40 years old and although I knew something was different about myself when I was 11, I didn’t feel comfortable saying anything publicly until I was 39.

[@SarahBarela]

I love how every time I see you I automatically think of drinking water lol

[@prettywildnights]

Whoa I haven’t watched you in a bit and you’ve gone thru like a Miley transformation 🙀

[@carolinesandholdt1894]

man i wish this was an hour long! definitely would love more videos like this

[@estrellasjournal]

*how did you know i literally spent the entire day questioning my **_gender_*

[@gracelily2358]

relatable content 🤝

[@Jake-tc3zl]

Me lmao

[@zhannabasharova7217]

Oh, thank you! The part with non-binary really helped me to feel more confident, because I didn't really thought about it before (after identifying orientation) . Love your energy, it's amazing!

[@marisagill123]

so proud of youuu

[@elyseroush4804]

you posted this at the right time thank you💝

[@heyitsheidijay]

Every time I see the mullet I internally scream it's SUCH a great look for you tf 😩😍💛

[@izzydasgupta1546]

I love how this video is 11:11 long

[@aisha3999]

my little gay heart screamed when I saw this vid notification

[@ciaraceli8759]

lol I performed sweater weather in a big church when I was 14 and didn’t know about this back then. Love that it’s so symbolic

[@alexaur3747]

it's not like it's an official anthem of bi people lol u can sing it wherever u want

[@ciaraceli8759]

@@alexaur3747 I‘m aware... I just said I love that it carried this symbolism/ meaning and I didn’t even know back then :)

[@ioa8456]

@@ciaraceli8759 because it wasnt a thing back then lol

[@ultimateshrekvlogger]

me being strait and still loving the song sweater weather :/

[@lenkasustackova4560]

Nothing wrong with that :)

[@sedonnabrittany]

Same lol

[@sedonnabrittany]

I am straight but love the song

[@emmawoolley9021]

bi ally!!!

[@carmenmunoz4]

*pauses video to listen to sweater weather even though I’ve been out for like 4 yrs* 😭

[@Shan-bl2nk]

This is giving so much Shane from l word vibes and I love itttttttt

[@edenrose6882]

Wish her videos were longer, they are so relaxing and I just love watching ❤️❤️

[@bruh-yp7pf]

the vibes are so much like miley cyrussssss

[@MrsRadcliffe1994]

You are such an inspiration 🤍

[@Naomi-of9qm]

This is so so true- I think it took me until I was 19 to accept that I was bi because before then I had never seen any gay/bi representation that I resonated with! Lots of love xxxxxx

[@danielaaa6079]

I love those vids, good for you girl💗

[@camilaarguelles1354]

i love u so fucking much. this is the first time i’ve watch a yt video of u and i totally love u. tysm for helping and telling ur story and being such a role model

[@lafillelotta2192]

u radiate big miley cyrus energy

[@ulrikeklein1787]

Thanks for making this video. It is great to see other bisexuals out there.

[@anab5106]

You look like Lisa Rinna

[@Iguax]

omg yes

[@Iguax]

we love lisa

[@Cherrylumo28]

Today I came out as bigender!

[@selahk6510]

congratulations!!! proud of u!!

[@arantxamartin8019]

Hi Tatty! Sincerely I follow you since the beginning and I have to say I love your mindset,your style and your values, Im 31 years old and im not bisexual but I agree wit you coz I think the most important in the life is to show how you are coz another thing it doesnt matter ,take care xoxoxo

[@Anushka-e5l]

tatchi please come back to youtube we miss u

[@hbk2377]

I’m obsessed

[@N1C0991]

I'm just a genderfluid mess with the love for boys and girls, even though i love my bf. Finally, i can live like i want to

[@luiseberaldin4844]

I just freaking love you so much

[@lanairene9792]

literally found your channel and i relate to you way too much anyways ✌️

[@margaritamendez9004]

I absolutely LOVE your look! you are such a beautiful human. Thank you for talking about these "taboo" topics.

[@faithfranklyn5687]

I love you tati EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU 🥰

[@eupsychics8167]

what a legend

[@hollyken3]

I related to so much in this!! Love the video! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💖

[@gk_kleinmeyer]

LOVE YOU SM

[@valeriayanezbarros4640]

Looooveee you Tatiiii

[@sassy2293]

Now I know "Sweater weather" 😉

[@gabriellamorali2600]

i saw this on my subscription updates and immediately clicked

[@nootherlikemyownskin3818]

What is a LGBT+ with Deaf Community, Blind Community, and Deaf-Blind Community meaning to you?

[@lavenderraiyn]

I never thought I’d be here one day and I gotta be honest, it’s kinda scary...

[@nadiabarmasse5294]

It was really helpful, thank you so much ♥️♥️♥️

[@yutsiyutischi8889]

She has this Miley Cyrus vibe

[@lanairene9792]

3:13 LITERALLY SAME BYE

[@Lola-om7ll]

U are inspiration🧚‍♀️🌈

[@mariavasquez-ic2jc]

I’m like in love with

[@kaytiemyers2698]

I see went through a Shane from the L word phase and I love it lol.

[@erindelgrosso3769]

you introduced me to tiktok and made me want to come out to my parents :)) so thank you- for both hahah

[@elisaeicker6279]

Does anybody have a good book or blog recommendation about understanding and identifying your own gender and sexuality? I am very new to this world and i don’t fully understand all the terms yet. Lots of love x

[@abbiknox9446]

The painting in the back is beautiful, did you make it?? also love you sm

[@norao4856]

don't you think cis women should also be freed of society's expectation and standards for women? I am SO happy so many people finally feel comfortable to come out as nonbinary or gender fluid, but when the reason is that they don't want to be perceived through society's lense of what a woman should be it confuses me because i don't think cis women should have to be also

[@norao4856]

I am so so sorry if this comes off as problematic! I'm just wondering since I see so many nonbinary folks say they don't want to have to uphold society's expectations for women

[@everuby1438]

From my understanding, nonbinary and genderfluid people aren't necessarily JUST against the societal standards for women - it's more than that. For example, I'm a lesbian feminist who wants to challenge the traditional roles that women are expected to fulfill in society, but I'm still a cisgender woman. It's more about how each individual feels most comfortable in their gender identity, which for some people is embracing themselves as nonbinary, so they exist outside of the gender binary altogether 🌈

[@norao4856]

@@everuby1438 Good point. Thanks!

[@ColdplayDirection]

I get what you mean. I think it's weird and wrong to say that cis women do want to be perceived through society's lens of womanhood because I don't think any woman really likes society's expectations of them. a lot of those expectations are really sexist. in my experience as a cis woman and from talking to other cis women, most of us don't like those expectations, even though we're still cis women. it makes sense to me that people might want to escape those expectations by calling themselves nonbinary. that's the way I see it

[@sophiesattler]

Yes more representation is so important!

[@helenfordyce414]

I love you tatchi!!!! from a pan princess to a bicon

[@natsinternetdiary]

this is such a good video wow

[@courtneymerrick1930]

ur mullet is so amazing

[@lavenderraiyn]

Wait sweater weather is about bisexuality??

[@juanitasegura4235]

I don't understand either,please someone explain:)

[@alannahchambers9367]

No its not about bisexuality but you know how people started asking “do u listen to girl in red” for lesbians and then someone said that “do you listen to sweater weather” fits to the bisexual vibe. And it caught on :)

[@Nat-cz9yv]

Your voice has definitely changed suddenly 🌚 I’ve been following you for years..