Te Socialization (INTP)

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[@Mztbtc]

as an entj i've always felt socially awkward in most groups. I can come across as Charismatic and my ex infj gf used to think Im very good at playing the social game but i dont have a long social "battrey" inside its draining and exhausting unless its something im passionate about or working towards an end goal with the group. I can talk for hours with my intp or istj friend, but they know me very well and we have a lot in common. these topics typically range from: geopolitics, technology, philosophy, study of people and their nature etc...

[@gandadorf7886]

This helped I always confused my social skills with having Fe since I have always been able to adapt in social situations. Never understood why some primarily Fi users called me cold when I have always been mannered and stayed proactive in our friendships with activities and such. Just could not understand technically how I was being a bad friend or what reason they had for shutting me out but now I do. It was so out of my mind to even consider that as the reason because I was always comparing my efforts to theirs in our friendships and I always concluded that I had done more so what reason could they have for not liking me? It is like a literal blind spot that you have on a car (not reffering to the 7th function) that just is not covered and if you forget to check it there is going to be a crash. This issue was bugging me for a full year and I am not sure when I would ever realize it so thanks. The more I learn about my true type the more I dislike it.

[@Skimmerlit]

Same. I sincerely dislike INTPs. We can use this awareness to (try to) be different.

[@Bobby_101]

Yes. Early on I thought that Te over Fi types were the ones who made the most social blunders, but after observing them better I noticed that actually Fi over Te types seem to be more oblivious to social... anything. Te clearly is similar to Fe, and both extroverted judging functions are people (empathy) functions in their own way.

[@Bobby_101]

​@@sylviaowega3839 Yes, Fe inferiors as well as Fe aux can be the most awkward types, that is because it takes a higher level of Fe to feel awkwardness, while at the same time it being in 4th or 2nd position Fe which is not action taking like 1,3. We sorta just sit back and watch it all burn sometimes.

[@oo-ru5lt]

I love people who don't stop talking about one topic or another. Speaking myself can be draining as an INFJ.

[@wwizer]

I don’t like socialize unless I can learn something (goal) from them. I typically would be interested in people who have careers with higher pay, which correlates to higher complexity. All I think about is money and as a very loose general rule of thumb, I don’t take financial advice from someone who makes less than me. Since I Have Se in my stack. I can “vibe” out with other people without having a goal as long as we are experiencing something.. such as a new restaurant, concert, hiking trail, movie, etc. typically will become friends with people with similar (Fi) interests -entj

[@Anu-jh1ue]

What you said is true for me ? I Also Talk nicely to people if i need to learn or get benefitted from it. And when my friend asked about that why you're so introverted and yet extroverted when you are getting benefitted. And he said that i Was very selfish and arrogant by that. That's Why Way or the highway. -entj

[@Anu-jh1ue]

@@Daniooo What's your mbti ?

[@Matt-jv7fg]

In my experience as an Fi type, when I say things without the correct affect behind it, most of the time I mean exactly what I'm saying, but cannot summon the correct nonverbal cues to back it. It might seem inauthentic to an Fe type, but it's the words that match what I'm actually feeling, not my face or voice. Usually the goal of an interaction is just to interact. Very rarely would I be trying to "get something out of it."

[@deviedorillo3689]

Te types are actually some of the best communicators if they're required to. I know an ESTJ that is not even similar to the stereotypes. She's pretty popular where she is yet she's really strict and gets fiesty when someone breaks "the rules". Really healthy Fi and a decent Te-Ne cooperation. Despite her fiery attire, she's the most responsible and dependable out of all her colleagues. Sometimes even burns out of too much responsibility. I'd say having a healthy, good looking Fi is really important while talking about Fi users. They may not view it as an act of "doing the right thing". In this case I'd say she views it more as "it is what it has to be done and I don't care what others think about it. But I'd be happy if they notice and learn". Also there are a few NTJs I know that are really smooth talkers. Good manipulators I'd say. They sometimes give this idea to their target that "you can also feel assure, confident and things-go-your-merry-way if you listwn to what I have to say." They can use Te as a means to speak something in a way that even a toddler can understand-but of course as you said, it's based on what they want rather than what actually is beneficial to the individual. Comparing to NFJs, NFJs are usually concerned about people they consule in a kind of "egotestic" way; it's like their self worth depends on it. When they fail, they feel responsible for misguiding them. Fe here tries to learn how to influence an individual by applying a certain gesture. Simply, TJs know how to speak facts and benefits and learn to say it in a way that affects the individual, while FJs try to appease the individual to follow what they "think" the individual should do to feel a certain way. FJs can be malicious(not in a selfish Fi way but their false sense of "what is right" can lead to misguidance) and TJs can be geniune and helpful (ofc if their Te and Fi allign in that way.) As a Te type myself, I'd look at these connections as a give and take kind of thing; I give them something (usually I consult them and gain their trust) and they give me what I want(a connection that can benefit me later on and is not of an emotional kind). I won't depend on them nor I'd waste my energy on something that doesn't benefit me. But when I want to find a more geniune, closer connection, I'd have a more genuine approach (ofc). Hope this helped.

[@LittleMew133]

For people on Te-Fi axis, I prefer Te higher than Fi. At least Te has some kind of logic (like they pretend to be sociable to get you to like them) and not just "whatever I feel like in the moment" vs. when you ask Fi prove things, they cannot prove sheet. Even though Te is still a b*tch to authority, and don't actually think and judge freely the way Ti does. But at least they making sense, somewhat.

[@avibcci1297]

It's been ig one year since I have followed you, please make a video on infj as well. I can't relate with the kind stuffs of general infj videos, ig I have passed that phase.

[@torgo_]

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[@upstartfenix]

I'm an ENTJ and better than you.

[@TrashBagAria]

Well I’m an ENTJ, and I think you’re being immature. That’s absolutely rude, you know? Just to go on here and say that you’re better than everyone else? Cause you’re not better than everyone else, no one is. It’s something I had to learn, so do you, so maybe think about what you just posted on here and shut up. No hate, but you’re just immature, that better be a joke.

[@Skimmerlit]

Cases both in point.

[@upstartfenix]

@@sylviaowega3839 estj’s are low grade narcissists tho.