TEA TIME CHAT // Negativity bias & how I deal with negative comments

[@EricaConger]

I cannot imagine anyone EVER leaving you a negative comment. You are soooo good at this, such a makeup and fashion genius, so wonderful, so beautiful. It blows my mind that anyone wouldn’t praise you for all these things. ❤

[@natalia9259]

Yes, I totally agree with you!

[@sarabclark]

I agree as well! I get lots of inspiration from her looks, reviews, and general ideas about makeup.

[@gwendolyncampbell7932]

Same. I can't even think od anything to complain about here. There are trolls, they just go around and look for negative things to say to get a rise or hurt someone. It's something of a sport for them. That is all I can think of. This channel isn't drama filled at all.

[@greenelephant6539]

I'm here for everything you do and everything you are. Watching your videos is part of my nighttime routine. Thanks for all of the effort you put into this!

[@FloatinginDreams]

Aw I am so glad you made me part of your day.

[@karolala55]

Tbh I don’t think I have EVER found a creator too negative, more often I find some people too positive (or maybe they really just love everything, but I think that it's normal that people have preferences and they like some products more than others). But I'm Polish and I think that nothing is too negative for us, that's just how we communicate and what we are used to. But what really baffles me is how some viewers are offended when a creator doesn’t like a product that they like… I mean whyyy. It's just them not liking something (which is perfectly fine) and to me there's nothing personal about it.

[@karolala55]

And I actually really do appreciate that you have a job outside YT, because that makes your reviews more valuable to me - if a product still looks nice on you at the end of 8-hour-long work day, it's possible that it will look nice for me as well. And holy smokes, my nails sometimes look nice and sometimes they don’t, that's just life, why would I expect of someone to always look perfect? (and then there are complaints about pushing unrealistic expectations, it's like damned if you do, damned if you don’t situation)

[@FloatinginDreams]

What baffles me is that there are people who seem to expect everyone with an online presence to get professional blowouts and nail sets just to be deserving of that presence. Like everyone online is a potential celebrity with the budget of a Kardashian.

[@sarabclark]

Your reviews are thoughtful, thorough, and helpful. I really enjoy them. I am so glad I found your channel because we both share a love of makeup, especially eyeshadow! I appreciate your thoughtful analysis on how/ why some people leave negative comments- sometimes what they say verses what they actually mean gets lost in translation. Sometimes, they’re just trolling.. or being nasty for nasty’s sake- not worth engaging. Sometimes the absurdity of it all can be amusing.. Regardless, I think you’re lovely and amazing. Your content is fun and engaging, and thank you for sharing your joy w/ us!!! Sara

[@FloatinginDreams]

Thanks for being here!

[@juliewells4282]

I can’t believe people have left such awful comments! I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with that. I feel you should block whomever you feel is too negative or hurtful-there is nothing wrong with blocking people. You’re much braver than I am, I could never put myself out there like you do. Great discussion. I like your point that if you don’t like someone’s content you don’t leave a comment telling them why you don’t like it, you just stop watching their content. I wish more people did that.

[@FloatinginDreams]

Well at the end of the day it is all engagement so I don't mind the thumbs down and comments. But what people don't seem to realize is the fact that they take time to leave comments and interact with the content they so obviously dislike means they are more likely to get more of the same. That's how the algorithm works.

[@falnakashio]

I love the down to earth and honest Dutch mentality. I am here for that. Also happy to have found you here on youtube and learn on how and where you get the oversees makeup! So, thank you for you being you :D

[@anti-vibes]

Unfortunately there is a lot of people who are bad and jealous and have a lot of problems and search someone to express their bad mood and negativity.You are very sweet,i enjoy your videos so much and i totally understand what you mean because I used to get a lot of hate comments,too but now i don't care anymore.I understood that this is the problem of the person who is commenting these certain things.I do what i like and enjoy and whoever likes it,i am happy.If noy,there is no problem ❤I love your videos and you are calming me and i get a lot of ideas for trying new products, too.Thank you ❤

[@FloatinginDreams]

That's how I feel as well: they obviously had a bad day.

[@EricaConger]

Such a great point!!! People have absolutely no idea what’s going on behind the scenes. We have lives outside of our channels. And we don’t always have the time nor the opportunity to do all the things. We’re doing our best. And that’s all we can do!

[@FloatinginDreams]

Exactly. I don't understand that need that perfection that some people seem to have. Live and let live is all I can say to that.

[@EricaConger]

If you wouldn’t say something to someone’s face, why say it in a comment? I just don’t get that behavior at all.

[@natalia9259]

You are such a nice person and I value your opinion on makeup products as well as your approach of using what you already have ❤ Usually I don't comment videos neither, but by finding your channel, I started to do that. Your channel size is at the sweet point where you don't think like "Meh, it's so big, that creator doesn't even read comments" (that what I think about channels with a huge amount of subscribers 😅). Here I know that my thoughts or questions will be heard. Thank you for creating nice content and a great community!

[@FloatinginDreams]

Oh trust me I read them all and respond to most. Esp in the first 24 hours after a video has gone live.

[@natalia9259]

@@FloatinginDreams That's what we appreciate here ❤

[@kateaye3506]

Maaike, I am very content with what you offer us. I am assured you give well balanced, consistently considered reviews on products. You don't play into politics, you give pros and cons and you put up with my basic comments. 😂 I love that you are real, lived in and relatable. I don't have beautiful nails, I am so very mediocre at makeup application and let's not discuss my menopaused ravaged hair and wrinkly face! I don't want to watch a 20-something face telling me to buy the latest product. I definitely earn my money with hard earned effort and I want a YT creator who respects that. That is what you mean to me, Maaike. These chats are my jam. 😎

[@clairebanks1462]

Well said 😊

[@FloatinginDreams]

Thanks so much for your kind words.

[@bertiesark]

I get tired of all the nastiness on youtube but really do enjoy watching many different makeup channels as I had gone away from makeup for over twenty years so it is all new again to this old gal lol keep going young lady

[@FloatinginDreams]

Welcome back to makeup!

[@bertiesark]

@@FloatinginDreams just trying to learn due to how much it has all changed lol

[@marnasorensen988]

Isn't it lucky that we don't have to judge anyone...especially if we haven't walked in their shoes.

[@FloatinginDreams]

Exactly!

[@bellahnemetona5924]

I love seeing real people doing real things....that's why i am here. And people are............🤣you know what i mean.

[@FloatinginDreams]

Thanks for sticking around!

[@canta_toca_2023]

I guess some people are lonely and dissatisfied with their own lives. That's why they leave nasty comments. But also the fact that the videos come "for free" can lead to a mindset of entitlement in the viewer. You want the creator to do the content that's right for YOU or else the creator is daft... 🤦‍♀😆

[@FloatinginDreams]

Yes! This exactly. You don't have to watch and I am not asking you to pay a fee to watch. Just be happy with what you are getting.

[@Pamelita22]

You are my favorite makeup KZbinr, I always watch your channel ♥️

[@FloatinginDreams]

Thanks for the support!

[@EricaConger]

I loved this!!! So well done. You’ve always been one of my biggest inspirations here. You make this platform so classy and so fun! I appreciate all your hard work and dedication. I just adore you!🥰🥰

[@kateaye3506]

That is it. Maaike is class, considered and consistent.

[@rosangelameschi2162]

I think people are all different and sometimes they have such a bad day that spilling some mean words eases them up a little. Personally I would not, but this is how I have been raised. It's hurtful but they are much more hurt than we think.

[@sarabclark]

I agree- traumatized, or people who have been hurt tend to lash out at others. When they become conscious of it, many times they stop,❤

[@FloatinginDreams]

For sure, I feel that some people lash out because they are dealing with things themselves.

[@CampMom2012]

Haters gonna hate. I think you're terrific Maaike!

[@FloatinginDreams]

Thank you!

[@EricaConger]

You are so beautiful, by the way! You look stunning!!!!

[@elizabethsmith583]

People are negative ninjas when they’re safe at home in front of a keyboard. You are gorgeous. ❤❤❤

[@FloatinginDreams]

Thanks! And indeed, if you dislike it so much why not pick up a camera yourself and make content.

[@cirimpufka]

Wow. I do not enjoy it when other people don't do well, I never watch reality TV, I don't even have a TV set at the moment, haha (I gave it to my relative last week because hers broke down and I don't use mine). I do like drama of rich a-holes (such as JS), but I don't enjoy humiliating people in general. But there is something else: I don't have anything in common with most beauty creators. I unfollowed them all because I found them superficial and shallow, and sometimes even dangerous. I can't buy an expensive lipstick if it has been recommended by someone who watches horror B movies and the Kardashians (and talks about them heatedly on KZbin for 45 minutes), I can't even listen to what they have to say any more. I used to follow at least fifteen beauty KZbinrs, and now I'm down to you and Theresa Is Dead. I listened to Dianne Etex (a Scientology youtuber) who said she will "eviskerate" us if we keep on insulting her, I'm still laughing, but I understand it can be hurtful. Don't take us too seriously. We are just a bunch of a-holes with too much time on our hands. :) And we love your videos!

[@FloatinginDreams]

Lolz I will bear that in mind. Thanks

[@EricaConger]

I’m so here for this!!! I’ve been hoping you’d do this. ❤❤❤

[@Brilliantnash]

I'm here for you being you, for you keeping it real, your opinions and not over editing or pushing products through our throats. I appreciate all the time and effort you put out for us to enjoy free of charge. Do I like all content as much? No I don't, but I still try tobe as supportive as I can to show my appreciation for all the work you put into your channels. I hate drama and prefer to leave positive feedback over negative comments, but if I feel somebody overstepping, I will call them out on being rude. There is no reason for being rude, if you don't like content, don't watch it. It's as simple as that. But I realise that there are people out they that feed on making other people feel miserable. I also look forward to reading nice comments from other people following you. So a huge thank you to you and your community who all make this a place I like to visit on my commute to work.❤

[@FloatinginDreams]

Thanks for that! Yes, I feel the online beauty community became obsessed with aesthetics at some point. As if how beautifully something is presented makes any difference in how it performs. And so many creators play into it. The minute I see overexposed images, ringlight enhanced sparkles or a creator who never shows a single thing in natural lighting, I usually unfollow and tap out so quickly.

[@lorainemcgillivray77]

Hi Maaike unfortunately there is a subset of viewers who are only ever going to leave negative comments aka “trolls”. It’s truly not personal and a reflection upon them rather than the content creators. I’m truly amazed how rude people can be online. I try to not say anything that I would not say face to face. I’m not interested in drama or reality tv (apart from true crime as I enjoy understanding how someone was caught). I’m from the older days of youtube where everything was less professional and just people talking about their love of beauty products. Here is where I found others who shared this interest. I’m still someone who is not that interested in the really big channels for that reason. I try not to get into the mentality that I have to have everything I see I like the look of and have a smaller “collection” for that reason. I also stick to my budget and save up for the things I buy. One opinion is just that and I try to get multiple opinions prior to buying something for the sake of balance eg a mature skin, a dry skin and then a similar skintone/undertone for a balanced review to suit my needs. I don’t watch videos I don’t enjoy and have unsubscribed from channels where the content really declined. I don’t leave negative comments and just click off too. It’s unfortunate that social media has led to an acceptance of bad behaviour in some ways and leaves us all a little more negative perhaps. Best wishes xx

[@FloatinginDreams]

Negativity sells that's for sure, but that's not what I'm going for at all.

[@emilyrogers3271]

Some people just aren't happy and they try to make themselves feel better by criticizing others or they want to make others miserable, too. It's really sad. I think if people don't like a channel or a creator, they should move to another channel. There are plenty of other channels to watch. There is no simply no reason to be rude and mean. I am sorry some people are ugly to you. I enjoy your channel! Tfs makeup. I, too, love eyeshadow!

[@FloatinginDreams]

Exactly! I am not the only creator on here. I had someone comment once I should review more products for deeper skin tones. How do you imagine that would work out?

[@kimwells549]

I appreciate when you say 'you don't need this, you already have it' during new releases. Packaging sometimes makes me want things. I agree wirh if you can't say something nice... Also we don't know what is happening behind the scenes & negative comments can have an impact on people's mental health.

[@FloatinginDreams]

We don't need any of it. That is the truth because makeup is a luxury item that makes no difference between life and death. It's fun, it's frivolous and it's might lovely to feel your best, but a necessity in life it is not. But that's just my pov.

[@71mjl]

❤ love your content despite the fact that i tend to go goth with it. I truly enjoy how you present yourself and reviews, the love for makeup will prevail 😅❤❤

[@FloatinginDreams]

I love a bit of Goth. Never felt brave enough to go for it though I admire anyone who does.

[@ering7530]

Alas, schadenfreude is a real thing. You are a really great content creator, and the negativity doesn't belong on your channel.

[@FloatinginDreams]

Thanks!

[@allisonbrooks9795]

I love the fact that you are real. And realistic about makeup. Thank you! 😊

[@FloatinginDreams]

You are so welcome!

[@celestialys]

It is sad how some people are just plain mean (often times they are not happy in their life or have a lot of anger and find someone on who to vent, to make someone else feel bad as they do (misery loves company), want to see a reaction (best to not even argue and simply block) or are jealous, you have 11k subscribers and people like your videos 🤷‍♀. Or are just bad but then we don't need these people, you can live your life without them), they can not like what you do etc but then you do what you want, but yes they can still suggest some ideas or have different opinions. Also i wanted to add, it is irrelevant here, you can sanitize your makeup with isopropyl alcohol 70° (can get them in pharmacy) because i know that you sometimes want to give a lipstick or other makeups, makeup artists (or even tattoo artists (i don't have tattoos)) do (they SHOULD / HAVE TO do that at least) that between clients or to prolonge the shelf life of your makeup (once a month or 2 months would be good for personal use, better every month because even if the product contain preservatives, bacterias still can grow on top) and to wash your brushes weekly to not contaminate too much your makeup (i only wash the toe of the bristle in lukewarm water with shampoo but i do in warm water ^^' and put some biocide (like isopropyl alcohol or another one, hansaplast do some for exemple, on a tissue, no need for a spray there on the handle (not on the bristle, it may degrade it). And if you use liquid foundation, best to wash after each use, a blender will be easier than a brush for that or a puff (i don't really wear foundation, but a compact powder that is mattifying, it is a bit like a foundation and i do prefer to use puffs). If you have too much lipsticks or have bought one that you don't like on yourself, you can wipe a bit (no need to do that if it is for personal use) with a tissue then spray 70° isopropyl alcohol (only this one is used on makeup, it won't affect the product) and let it dry (no need to wipe after), don't forget to desinfect on the outer packaging (with the same alcohol or another biocide) and then you can give it to someone even if it was used a bit, if it was expensive or recently bought maybe sell it for less (it will still be money and the other person will be happy). For the liquids and really creams (like moisturizers texture, powders that are a bit creamy can be sanitize) makeup, you cannot do much and they do expire really fast. My tips will be to not use mascara's after the period precised on the packaging, no need to risk your eyes (best to throw after 3 months)

[@FloatinginDreams]

Thanks for the information.

[@celestialys]

@@FloatinginDreams forgot to add, some pharmacy only have denatured alchol (must be 70° also) (can use on the outer packaging but if you use on the product itself, it may affect the makeup (texture or appearance). It is isopropyl alcohol 70° (another names for the same thing : Isopropanol, Diméthylcarbinol, IPA, rubbing alcohol)

[@celestialys]

@@FloatinginDreams I wanted to be sure about it, in reality makeup artists do have altered pigments after using isopropyl alcohol (but it is really with intense use) and makeup industries can really say that their products will be good after 6 months (you can maybe then use it on your makeup products after this period of time), I know that some of your palette are expensive so throwing them is a bit too much (you have a lot of products). You can use a spray bottle and don't spray too much alcohol on your palettes etc. Or to wash your brushes every 2 to 3 days, so the alcohol can be used less on your products (like once every year)

[@carahdupper2939]

❤

[@elizabethreeves6663]

Do people really tell you your nails look terrible? Why would someone 1) notice 2) be bothered by anyone else's nails 3) be bothered enough to leave a horrible message. I don't understand why people spend time watching videos and being negative when they could just click on one of the other million/billion other videos and watch that and be happy. I'm sorry you get stuff like this. Ignore them and just delete? The comments section is there for people engaging (properly) with you.

[@elizabethreeves6663]

Just heard some of the other stuff you have had said to you and that's just horrible. I'm sorry you get that from people.

[@FloatinginDreams]

It happens from time to time. They are always anonymous and never leave more than one comment usually. The joys of anonymity.